I’m getting married in July, and I can’t figure out if I should go with a tux or a suit. I don’t know if one is more traditional than the other. What is your opinion? I’m European so it might be different from country to country.

My boyfriend is the best man to his best friends wedding and all of the groomsmen want to get the groom a gift. They did suggest getting him a really nice fish tank since he loves fish but he still lives with his parents and his fiancé with no plans of leaving anytime soon. His current fish tank is in his small room so i didn’t think it would be a great idea. Any suggestions as to a good gift they could get him as a group?

Hi everyone!

So my wedding is in a few weeks (!!!) and I've spent most of today working on my speech.

For context, my father-in-law has made it clear that he's not a confident public speaker. He will make a speech, however it will be very short and sweet - pretty much thanking everyone for coming and that'll be it. He's a fantastic person who has been like a second dad to me, so I know he is being honest when he says it's all he will manage, and it means the world to me just that he's willing to stand up and speak, regardless of how many words he says.

I also have a best woman who will be delivering a short speech, she's not one for public speaking either and has said her speech is unlikely to last more than 90 seconds. Again this is fine by me, I'm not the kind of guy who would appreciate the typical speech telling embarrassing stories about me in front of mine and my wife's family.

As a bridal party, we're all in agreement that we do not want the speeches to last too long, as we'll be making them before we sit down to dinner and don't want our guests to become restless or bored.

The issue is that unlike my father-in-law or best woman, I'm excited to deliver my speech. I've timed myself and I'm currently coming in at about 6½ minutes, which I understand is acceptable for a normal wedding. However, I'm concerned that this will drag out in comparison to the speeches coming either side of it.

I want to make sure I thank the guests for coming, acknowledge those who couldn't be there, thank my wife's parents, mention the bridesmaid and best woman, mention my parents and finally talk about my wife. I'm not sure how to cut more out of my speech without it being overly vague or impersonal, or whether I should stick to my guns, do a few more redrafts of what I have and stick to a 6+ minute speech.

Does anyone have any suggestions? All advice is much appreciated!

I am so nervous about standing up and giving the speech at my wedding. Im terrified of talking infront of people and then theres the pressure of trying to make it funny blah blah blah. Can i just not do it? The worry is actually going to ruin the day for me.

Hi, I'd like to get some advice on affordable options to purchase a three-piece suit for my destination wedding. The ceremony will be in a Catholic church at noon and the reception in a garden right afterwards. The wedding will be in December in a country in South America, with a normal temperature around 60-80F.

I found some rental places, but they expect you to return the suit right after the event, and in our case, we will be gone for ~6 weeks.

So, I think it's better if we purchase. I went to Nordstrom and Macy's and found just suit jackets around $425. Where can I find something more affordable? I would like to spend less than $500 in my complete attire (three-piece suit, shirt, tie or bowtie, cufflinks).

If it helps, I'm located in Central Ohio.

Hello!

I am a writing intern at Northeast Ohio Weddings Magazine and I am looking for a groom that has chosen a non-traditional wedding band (wood, resin, themed) for a short interview. If you're interested, let me know!

Thanks in advance!

So we are getting married June 5th 21 and I was wondering what y’all’s thoughts on having the groom and best man in one style of suit and the groomsmen in a different style? Let me know what the thoughts on that are lol. And if it sounds stupid or is gonna look weird let me know that too haha

Some background info, my girlfriend and I already set a date. I plan on proposing in a memorable fashion to her. Any suggestions or ideas for the proposal? Also do I just straight up ask her what her ring size is or do I find out by her mom?

One month until the big day, got my outfit, the ring, gifts for groomsmen and bride, booked honeymoon, we are getting the marriage certificate next week and I still need to write my vows... what more should be on my radar?

Men, have any of you all had anyone throw a groom shower? If so, what kind of food would you want to have served? brides will have a shower or sometimes even a bridal tea. What would you want at a groom shower/tea?

Ok so this is my first time posting here and I was curious about what to get my groomsmen as a functional gift for being in the wedding.

So far we found these cool labels for a Smirnoff Ice Bottles that asks them to be in the wedding...figured it would be funny to ice them at the same time.

I bought these boxes about the size of shoe boxes where I was going to put the Smirnoff ice bottles and I want to get them something else that they would like.

So far I have thought of;

1. Small bottle of booze with a custom shot glass
2. Flask

If anyone has any experience or an idea it would be great

In the process of buying a ring. What are some things you wish you knew before buying? Any tips?

I was so excited about my wedding day. I love my fiancé; we have been really aligned on wedding planning, and she has a group of long time best friends who have been happily helping out with planning, decor, and just generally generating excitement.

I have always prided myself on having friends from all levels of life - elementary school, my old neighborhood, high school.... even though I am in my late 30s, I have maintained these friendships. I moved to California ten years ago, but I return to NYC twice a year to see my folks and my friends. As my friends have moved further away from NYC (NJ, Massachusetts, etc.), I have made my trips back East longer, rented cars, and made sure to include people in my visit. I make it a point to visit my cousin and her kids on her schedule. I dragged my fiancé all over the Tri State Area this year to meet everyone, which she was happy to do. Everyone was all excited to hang out with us and talked about celebrating with us.

And now? I have been chasing down RSVPs well past the deadline, and I have one non-local friend who can make it, and out of my family, just my parents.

I know travel is expensive - that's why I offered the AirBnb apartment that a woman from my church kindly blocked off from us that weekend. I offered to help pay for flights. I urged people to book early when hotels and flights were cheap, and to talk to each other (most are friends or acquaintances with each other) about booking rooms together. People knew about this ten months ago, have decided to book at the last minute, and are balking because the tickets are either expensive or at inconvenient hours.

I am venting here because on an individual level, each person sounds like they have a good reason it's not working out. There has been a lot of "I'm so sorry; we'll celebrate when you come visit." But collectively, it hurts. This is not what I envisioned this day to be. My girlfriend asked me if I was having a bachelor party and I got super depressed. My current plan is to hang out with a few local friends and the one non-local groomsman and do a video game night.

My main worry is that my fiancé is going to tone down her fun because she feels bad about my situation, My other worry is that we are planning on starting a family and I feel like I need to build a whole new support network, because I don't feel like I can rely on the one that I had. Mostly, I'm trying to not let this spoil what should be the happiest day of my life, but it's feeling hard in this moment to do so.

I don’t have any father figure to turn to for advice. When should o start looking for my wedding attire? I’ve got my groomsmen figured out at least. But I don’t know what else I need to do. Any help or suggestions would be much appreciated.

Hi all

I want to take my wife to be on honeymoon to Santorini Greece.

I need recommendations for the following:

When should we visit “ Sept, oct, November”? Affordable romantic hotel for honeymoon? Best honeymoon restaurant? Best tour to take?

Guys and Girls,

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I am getting married in Siena, Italy next year during September. For our honeymoon we want to be near the coast, but preferably not in one of those upperclass resorts, for about 5 days.

We will probably just want to relax, sunbathe, swim, eat well and drink a shitload of beer and wine.

We are kind of clueless on where to go. Our plan was to go to Sicily but the travel to and from is a bit too ardious.

We will be flying back home (SA) from Rome.

So to summarise our requirements are:

1. We do not want to travel too far (<4 hours drive / train from Siena);
2. The ocean;
3. 5 days;
4. Guest House, Hotel or AirBnB;

I would really appreciate any and all responses, hints or tips.

PS: I will post this on r/travel

I want to talk about her, she was amazing. I would give up everything i own for her to be there so I need to say something.

Problem is everything just feels depressing, I don't wanna kill the mood. It's still pretty fresh so myself and family will most likely cry. Every time i write something it's always in past tense etc.

How can I speak about someone without sounding like a funeral ...

Hey y'all, posting for my FH. He wants to have the groomsmen wearing navy jackets and pants, white shirt, and suspenders. He is going to wear a 3-piece navy suit. He's had bad experiences with Joseph A Banks and Men's Warehouse....where else could we have 5 groomsmen get their suits and ensure they'd all match? Everybody lives in a different state.

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OK, so I need some advice. I have a friend who I consider my best mate, in fact he’s more like a brother to me than a friend as he’s helped me through loads stuff. I’ve asked him to be my best man but he’s not included me in his wedding in any way. It’s a bit of a story so I’ll try and keep it short.

He got engaged around new years eve in 2016 and beforehand I was the only person that knew he was planning on getting engaged, and for a few weeks either side of the engagement I’d joke with him how I would be his best man and what sort of things I’d include in my speech etc. etc., but in truth I was only joking around with him. Then it took him 8 months to finally decide who his best man was and he picked his brother, and he told me that he did this because family is important to him and because there were several friends he had that would feel put out if he picked 1 friend to be best man. I completely understood and agreed with him that his brother was the best choice to be best man if he knew it would offend friends out to only pick 1 friend.

Then a few weeks after this he came round to mine and he told me that he was considering asking me to be an usher. I said that I would be honoured to be one and that that was quite “neat” because I was planning on getting engaged in a few weeks and I was going to ask him to be my best man. He then stopped me mid-sentence and said “oh no, all I said was I’m considering having you as usher, not that I’ve decided”. I didn’t really know what to make of it, why tell someone that you’re considering them unless you’re 95% sure you’re going to pick them otherwise, if you don’t pick them, it would make it really awkward. I told him this, he agreed that actually it was a mistake to tell me this, but then said “don’t worry, you know I’ll pick you”.

Then, a few weeks after this we both got drunk and I told him how thankful I was that he had helped me through some depressive times and that he had been one of the main people there for me. He then told me that whilst he was happy about that, he had found it quite pressurised with me sharing my issues with him, and that in fact the main reason he didn’t pick me as best man was because I had had depression and he thought it would put too much pressure on him, and it had little to do with other friends feeling left out. I was completely shocked by this and we ended up having an argument. My main points were having depression is out of my control, it went completely against him promising me that he wouldn’t treat me different because of my depression and that I couldn’t understand how me being best man would in any way would mean I put more pressure on him.

Anyway, things move on and the argument was mostly forgotten and I asked him to be best man, which he accepted without hesitation. But now he’s told me that he wants his fiancé’s brother (who he doesn’t really like and doesn’t really get on with) to be an usher and his sisters husband to be the other usher. Now, I get that family often trumps friends in these instances, but the fiancé’s brother has been asked twice whether he wants to be an usher and he’s refused outright as he doesn’t want to do any work (he’s pretty selfish and a layabout) and now my mate is asking for my advice on how to convince this guy to accept.

Firstly, is it wrong of me to feel hurt for not being formally asked to be involved in his wedding when he basically said that I would be a few months ago? And is it childish of me to not want to have to listen to him moan about how his fiancés brother doesn’t want to do it and needs convincing? It seems like I consider him to be a much greater friend than he considers me, and that he’s putting his fiancé’s brother (who doesn’t want to do it and would be terrible at doing it) ahead of me even though I’d love to help out and would be good at it and I’ve made him my best man. Am I being too self-obsessed?

Hey guys - Just wanted to share that I got all my 6 groomsmen gifts courtesy of Etsy.com - if you do a search on there, you can select only 'customizable' items - and what I did is just dial in a theme for each of my bros - ones a musician so I got him a custom guitar capo with his initials - one's a fisherman so I got him a custom knife with his name - one's a baker so I got him a custom baking dish & custom cookie cutter in the shape of his face! lol - another is very diet-weary and is on a special diet where he needs to make everything from scratch, so I got him a custom cutting board

my point here is get creative - it doesn't cost much more, and I'm 1000% positive the dudes will appreciate the effort more than the standard bottle of liquor or flask

these are typically your bros, your oldest closest friends, and its not very often in life you get to get them a special gift - take advantage!

Hello Everyone, My wedding is like two months away. I'd like to have a TUX for my day. But before I buy (or stich one), I'd like to do a try-out...Is there any place in WA state (Near Seattle) where they'd allow to do so? Any help is appreciated.

My best man lives an hour and a half away from me (he's in Brooklyn, NY and I live in CT) He has an extremely hectic schedule working in Manhattan so I told him that I'd like him to plan the bachelor party for just the 6 of us, being him, me and the other 4 guys in my party. I told another of the groomsmen that he's going to be in charge of the stag but he can plan with other people who wanted to help plan it before i even told them i was having one.

The bachelor party is most likely going to be in Manhattan or maybe Atlantic City and I didn't want people to feel like they had to travel so far just for a night. I don't have any time to take off to make it a weekend trip.

It feels a little wrong to have both when my fiancee is only having her bachelorette party.

I'm getting married next year and obviously need to get groomsmen gifts. However, I don't want to do just a flask or shot glass like everyone does. I want something that's truly unique and won't make me poor. Any suggestions?

Gents,

How are you accessorizing your wedding suit / tux? Anyone wearing special pig bride and groom cufflinks?

I'm going to wear a pair of cufflinks my fw got me for my birthday the first year we were together along with my grandfather's wrist watch.

So I'm trying to figure out what to get my groomsmen. We've picked out a nice necklace for the groomsmaids, so I'd like to stick with something practical that the guys can where on the wedding day. I had originally thought about cufflinks, but we're all renting tuxes and FH I'd afraid somebody might accidentally return them with the rental or just not know which ones to wear.

What have been some good gifts you've received as a groomsman? We're also on a tight budget.