I'm spending alone, but at least my family wished me a happy birthday. The last time my birthday was celebrated was when I was 13, no friends though. Every year since then it's been a normal day for me. 18-20 I've spent my birthday working. I was supposed to meet with a former friend but it seems like she's too busy. I'm so lonely and isolated that it feels like I borderline don't exist

Its Friday, the weekend is practically already here. Don't forget to love yourself and remember you matter. There's no point to feel alone in a community where people are just like you going through the same things. Even if you think no one understands there are people that do. Start your weekend by doing something nice for you and when Sunday comes end it weekend the way you started it. If your going through a rough time remember you got this!

Having a romantic partner is such an advantage over singles in many ways , handing life together .Dual income, easier to get better apartments and houses unless you're really doing well financially yourself. If you're sick have someone who cares for you . Cooking together and having meals together. spending holidays with each other's family and on romantic nights. Someone to wait for you when you both get home from a hard day at work. Etc.

When you're fa you're playing life in solo mode and it can get much tougher. And before someone says friends and family, they don't scratch the same itch. You're building a new life together with a romantic partner.

I wanted to discuss this concept that friendships are actually good for health and being alone can be bad for health. I am sure this is a controversial idea and will generate a lot of debate. So please contribute, I want to hear from you.

I'm not sure if this is entirely related to FA or vice versa...
But I catch myself not caring about anything anymore. If someone held me at knifepoint to take my phone, I’d probably just fight (in a sense that I do not care about my life)
I don’t intend to spread negativity in real life, so I’m venting here. But it’s just something I’ve noticed about myself.
Especially when living with a roommate who is doing way better in every aspect, the contrast becomes even more apparent.
When people make remarks about homeless drug addicts and say things like 'Anyone could seek help; they’re doing this to themselves,' I silently relate. Not caring to the point where you just shut down, I genuinely understand that mindset. I really do relate to the homeless.

I'm pretty sure everyone is familiar with the story of an old guy who lived alone in a shack and was secretly a multi-millionaire and left everything he had to some cause or another. This will likely be me in 50 years. Have you all given any thought to what will happen to your worldly possessions, having no descendants? My current considerations include buying and donating park land, burying a chest full of gold coins with a treasure map protected by a series of riddles and booby traps, and taking out a mountain of cash and burning it Joker-style.

Ive had a girl ask me out, but after talking to her for a day or to at school I cut her off (Even I have standards). Other than that, Im to embarrased to ask a girl out at my school. How about yall? Ladies, yall can use this too 😆

You’ve put on a few pounds and suddenly, you start to comment on my social media posts?

You’ve got a few more wrinkles and now when you see me at the function, you’re curious about how I’m doing?

You’re a few years older, and it’s starting to show, and now you want to get to know me better?

In the past, I couldn’t get your attention. In the past, you would barely respond to a single question. In the past, a mumble and a nod might be my only greeting. Now, you’re wondering why we never got to know each other better.

It could be maturity, but I’ve got my doubts.

I grew up poor with an irresponsible father my entire life. Ever since I was young, I’ve been giving him my money because he would waste it on himself or things he didn’t need. He never taught me how to be a man or take care of myself, so I feel like I’m behind in life. I avoided asking any girl out because of family issues, many flaws I have and my appearance

I'm 20 years old and don’t drive or have a car because my dad doesn’t let me save up any money. The little money I was able to hide for myself as a teenager, I used to buy Christmas or birthday presents for myself. I’m currently working on fixing issues with my face and body, but it won’t be long before he asks for that money too. I don’t earn much, which makes me question if any girl would be interested in me when I can’t afford to take her out on dates. I’m not good-looking, below average in height, and uninteresting, which doesn’t help my situation either.

It wouldn’t even be worth initiating with a girl, even if she shows “signs,” (which have never been genuine, but I still hope that they are) because, even from the course of casual interactions, they would throw me away immediately after realizing I wouldn’t be fun to play with.

There are more interesting guys. There are more interesting friends. The mountains of difference between us two. I would only have Her, while She has the world. All the interesting things revolve around each other.

I am nothing.

I guess that's one good thing being FA, 0 sexual partners 0 STDs, perfectly eligible.

Been feeling worthless and treated like a nobody. I was rejected and failed so many times and still never had a girlfriend in real life. At least my blood has some value and might save someone.

I stayed at the refreshments area for a while afterwards hoping to meet someone nice, but only a group of priviledged people and some old people.

When you haven't ever been shown love haven't ever experienced shit to make you feel mature and make you an adult. I'm like a 29 year old in a teenage brain can't face the cold world feeling like this. I look at people Instagram and see all these teenagers/20's having time of their life they will have something to look back on and it develops them into healthy individuals. I will never be like that. Not to mention I have resentment towards women that I can't stop so I am fucked. hope I won't wake up tomorrow. Only good thing that will happen in my pathetic existence.

I can't kill myself now, because my Mom would be very sad and she's really all I have, but I just feel done with the world. There's a huge chunk of just being human that I'll never experience, that I'm reminded of every damn day. All I do is get older. I feel like I'm just taking up space and the only thing I have to look forward to is watching my body, that l already fucking hate, decay further. That and watching my country go to absolute shit. Pills don't help, lifting doesn't help, "putting myself out there" doesn't fucking help. And god fucking forbid you try to find someone that might understand outside of here. I'm really just done with this shit.

I passed on on some chances that I got lately and I wonder to myself if I'm gonna get them back. I thought to myself well this wouldn't work and most people agreed with me when I told them about the circumstances that made me pass on these chances but now I wonder maybe i should have just settled. At this point I think I'm not gonna be getting any attention at all from anyone. I'm past 25, all that matters is looks and money and anything else that I have that could be interesting is purely superfluous. I might end up having money in the future but the looks I believe is a weak point in me. Not that I'm ugly but nowadays you have to be handsome otherwise you're screwed. I work and study a lot, like I'm super busy so gym to get attractive probably would only work out on weekends and I'm so stressed it's hard to keep a diet but at least I'm not overweight.

I'm 30M. Only people that have ever complimented me or even hinted at me being attractive were either 70+, extremely mentally ill or a drug addict. Obviously I've never dated or even had anyone like me seriously and I've accepted that's not going to change.

The issue is that as I get older, most people don't give a fuck about what you do for work or hobbies. Talk always goes to kids, spouses, etc. Activities for adults are all under the assumption you're gonna bring friends (which I don't have) or it's meant for couples so it's hard to even pick up hobbies.

Yes i mean we cause its me too

Hey guys, I hope this doesn't come across as insensitive, but I recently had a conversation with a friend who's been kind of slipping into being FA for some time and I want to settle a disagreement we had. Long story short, he said there was a huge correlation with being FA and being obese, but my intuition tells me that that's not necessarily the case.

If you don't mind me asking, how many of you would say that excess body weight plays an important part in you being FA? How about being too skinny or simply not athletic enough?

Thanks in advance and sorry if this is a shitty question to ask!

EDIT: Thank you for all your replies! I think my intuition was right and being overweight isn't the deciding factor or anything.

My days are tough, I struggle to survive. I want to turn suicidal and give up on life but it’s not happening. I miss being suicidal, I feel much better when I am because I get the sense that I could rest in eternal peace. Gn.

I don't know how to start as i have so many things to say and yet so little

For you to understand this whole situation I will have to say few things before starting I am a male 20 year old never had a girlfriend I lost all my friends nobody talks to me nor texts me unless I start the conversation am pretty sure that I have a depression and some form of anxiety I started working since 18 if your asking why it's because I have to support my mum and sisters I buy food I pay rend and everything else I don't go to pubs and If I buy anything it's after a whole day of me saying to myself "but what if something goes wrong and I'll need the money" and after buying it I feel like a piece of shit and my mum doesn't look like she even cares she buys that she buys that goes to pubs and I just found out that she's sleeping with our landlord and even though I told her not to do it "but why not" good question because she was in a toxic relationship that was very bad and I just don't want any problems and she still does what she wants I always told myself that I can't kill myself because it would make her very sad now I am thinking that I will kill myself and write that I was suffering because of her

I am a pussy so am not going to do it

I just want to get a woman have a family and live peacefully

Sorry for such a long post and if it is a bit all over the place

So this new girl started working at my job. I thought she was super cute. And the other awesome thing was that I got to train her! Pretty sweet deal. But as the days went by, it was obvious she wasn't interested in me like that. But she was very friendly in a co-worker sort of way. So, okay, whatever, I take my loss here. Can't say I'm surprised that I had no chance.

Well something I learned about her is that she works at her previous job still, but she does it per diem and remote on her laptop. So each day she uses her lunch break to work some more at her second job. She plans events, so she needs to correspond with vendors and customers and such. She was telling me wacky stories of stuff that happens at these events that she plans.

As the days get colder, she told me she got permission to use one of the spare offices to work her second job on her lunch break (as opposed to the hallway, which is not heated). She told me that I should join her in the spare office for lunch so I can listen to her wacky calls and she can blow some steam about her second job. I figure, why not? Seems harmless and entertaining enough. I've seen her during lunch in passing, and see her talking to her clients about odd stuff before. So I join her and...

It turns out, she actually spends the entire time on voice call with her boyfriend! She actually emails a lot of her clients/vendors with her second job, and only hops on a phone call occasionally.

Now, I'm not mad that she has a boyfriend. No. I'm annoyed that she sold the idea to hang out with her during lunch as listening to her interesting phone calls and talking about the funny stuff that happens with her customers at her second job.

But INSTEAD I'm getting to just listen to her talk to her boyfriend mostly. About 90% of her attention goes to him and she often ignores anything I say because she wants to talk to him. Every second of listening in to this couple who obviously have great chemistry and history just makes me want to end it all more and more. Thank goodness they don't act overly mushy, but they do express their love for eachother in different ways.

And now I'm STUCK in this scenario to listen in on her and her boyfriend always talking together. Every second of listening in makes me so aware of how lonely and how much of a loser I am. BUT this girl is so friendly and she seems to like me as a coworker since we hit it off so well while I was training her. I can't exactly tell her "Hey I want to stop hanging out during lunch because listening to you and your boyfriend everyday makes me want to hang myself." If I knew this was going to be the case, I would have made up some excuse to just keep having lunch in my car. -,-

Well, I guess I just have to keep suffering through this until I get a new job, or her lunch schedule changes.

In this hypothetical scenario, you have the option to basically take Morpheus's blue pill and enter a permanent sleep where you'll experience a realistic, lifelong dream in which you are romantically and sexually successful. You won't have any other desires granted to you in this simulation, only your desire for love and sex so in this dream you'd still have to deal with problems you are prone to in the real world outside of finding partners such as dead-end jobs, mortgages, ill health etc. which varies per person.

It'll all just be a dream, none of it would actually be real but you won't know that. Your memory of ever agreeing to enter this permanent dream would be wiped and you would never know that you are living in a dream world. Ignorance is bliss. Also, you are not linked to some neural network like in the Matrix so you don't actually get to interact with other real people in the dream world, it's all in your own mind.

An android would replace you in the real world so your friends and family would never know you had left. That android will fulfil your duties in the real world.

Would you accept the offer or continue to endure reality?

I personally would not accept this, I'd rather than cope with reality than be delusional.

I would guess like maybe 1 in 10,000?

By FA I mean never been in a relationship or had intimate contact.

I’ve spent years self improving, improving looks, social skills, hobbies, so on. And guess what it’s yielded me? Absolutely fucking nothing. However, my good friend, let’s call him Derrick, has great popularity and has many women pursuing him hard, because he’s good looking and in great shape. He was also born with great genetics, and doesn’t even have to work out to be fitter than 90% of men. He’s had women obsessed with him and he doesn’t even know these girls names. He’s had women approach him, slip him their number, and beg him to just give them an ounce of attention. And he doesn’t have to put in an ounce of effort to get these women. Us on the other hand, have to perfect every area of our lives, and if we’re lucky, we can maybe match with a bot on tinder and still have 0 success. I’m fucking done.

Im autistic/adhd. Many of us struggle immensely with employment and dating/relationships.

After I have intense rumination sessions daily, thinking about how I will be a lonely virgin forever and stressing about learning social skills and flirting skills so that I can get a job and a gf, I realise that the vast majority of people never think about these things. It just happens for them. The vast majority of people are employed and have experience with at least making friends with the opposite gender and/or relationship experience. Its not a situation where more than half of all people are lonely depressed virgins whilst everyone else is happy like we make it seem to be. I feel.....happy for everyone/? Relief that the rest of my friends and family don't have to to through the horror of these thoughts and mental health problems, it all works out for them and as a person with generally a very sympathetic heart, I feel happy for them. Its weird. I should be angry and jealous but im not.

I feel like my autistic rumination is so deadly and intense for my mental health that realising that other people dont do this and are happy makes me relieved for them due to some primal urge to care for the pack/tribe or some sh*t. idk bruh being autistic gives you some really unique thoughts

Funny how my brain was able to make everything feel so real when i haven't experienced anything like that before. It was the best dream i've ever had and i felt so happy.

The setting made no sense since it was like some event in this gigantic house and people stayed for the night. I had befriended her few days before or something and was going to sleep myself. I was about to fall asleep when i saw her looking lost and like she couldn't find a place to sleep. I told her that if she wants she can come sleep next to me and i made some room.

She got under the blanket and came to sleep right next to me. I had my other arm around her and the other under the pillows where our heads rested. Even in the dream my heart started racing a little, but i soon calmed down. I felt the happiest i've ever been. I even got a little hot after a minute, but that passed too.

The dream really gave some perspective on how numb and unhappy i've felt all my life. The only thing that would've had made the dream better is if i wouldn't have woken up at all. What a nice way go it would've been. A reward at the end of all my suffering and pain. It would've been the best way to end this hell.

For years I’ve wanted nothing more than to have a partner but after being abused and raped the years have now gone by that i no longer want a partner and im starting to feel happier alone in a romantic capacity but my friends think this is weird and strange , is it really that strange to feel this way

I’ve always thought palpatine and his lightning hands was cool asf, so I’m going with that. Since I’m still an apprentice, I’m still not good at magic though, so that’s still at least 7 years of training away for me. The only spell I can cast right now is invisibility, but it only works on women for some reason

thoughts?

Does anyone ever lay awake in bed and night and think of this being your destiny forever and let your emotions out. There isn't a day I don't think about it. I dont usually cry but as I type this I have just cried my eyes out because what life has been like and how unwanted you have been really messed me up mentally.