I'm guessing normal people can jump into relationships or sex quickly so they don't stress. But as the day months and eventually years go by, you can't but help feel concerned that is your new normal and your mortal life is wasting away being fa..

If we could all get love after a certain period we could manage, but it's hard when the feeling is the same and life accelerates quickly.

Or who are your favorite FA characters?

I'm tired of living like this and want it to end. I'm a very depressed person, w/ Dysthymia since 12, so I gain little-to-no joy from the things that make up my life. I carry out a 9-to-5, exercise most week days, and if I've even 'motivation' left I try to do things in my spare time, but I gain no relief from any of it. Having exercise provide zero relief is particularly aggravating, it really seems to help others, yet not at all for me.

I've been depressed for all of my life's recollection, and so why am I alive, at 27, still persisting? No matter what I think or how I try to frame things, it's unequivocally the case that I AM still alive solely to keep entertaining the chance of a relationship. I am genuinely kept here for nothing else, not family, not community, none of it makes me want to stay. So I'm only persisting with a state of being that makes me miserable most of the time just because of the ever-diminishing possibility that I'll ever be shown love. I go out to groups and talk clubs, really push myself to interact w/ people, but I never enjoy it and it's never brought much hope, just enough willpower and permission to maintain that surface-level connection where one might just as well not be there. A year and half of psychotherapy has articulated my issues better, but that's all it seems to verifiably achieve. I believe psychotherapy takes a lot of undue credit for positive life changes that would have occured irrespective of the person also undergoing psychotherapy, but that's my biased contention.

Daddy was very absent, and mummy was severely depressed. The absent father is perhaps even the lesser challenge, yet studying into the ramifications of childhood neglect, just how damningly fucked one seems to be when crying as a baby didn't bring you immediate attention and dotage, the details and neurological "repercussions" are honestly despair-inducing. And to be left w/ a mother who now says "I never cried as a child" and "you never wanted to be breastfed", and I lack all memory whatsoever to give any differing account. It feels hopeless. It doesn't feel like "growth", it just seems like all the more reason to give up on this person that I never chose to be.

If it were somehow, genuinely and solidly, confirmed to me that I would never have a relationship, that nobody would ever show me love, then I would be gone. I also don't know who else, realistically and in the current society that surrounds me, wouldn't also want to depart a life for which that had been, hypothetically, 'confirmed'. It means little to be told that "the other aspects" hold just as much if not more meaning by people who, surprise surprise, have never had to live without a meaningful relationship for a substantive period of time, let alone for their entire current life. And the degree to which I "need" it seems it'll only remain a barrier, a source of disgust that gives "the ick" and "bad vibes". The diminution of what people exhibit when emotionally struggling into "icks" and "vibes" I find to be an insultingly egregious denigration of today's struggling lonely. And at the end of it all, all I've achieved is to get better at moaning. Moaning moaning moaning. I want this bullshit to end and I hate it here.

For context, I have not been able to start a relationship for the past several years. However, I was supposed to meet with a girl today for coffee, but due to some late night work, I did not wake up until an hour after we were supposed to meet. I have apologized profusely for not showing up and for wasting her time, and have suggested another date so I can try to make up for the inconvenience I have caused her. However, after this, I feel extremely demoralized and unmotivated, as I had a date with a gorgeous girl that was interested in me and I absolutely blew it by not waking up. How should I best move forward? Or, should I just call it quits, that maybe dating isn’t for me, that I’m not gonna work out for anyone? Any advice is most appreciated.

i dont expect you normal people to understand because why would you? it all comes so simple to you, making friends, getting romantic partners, it all comes so easy.

if you walked in my shoes you'd never wanna walk again.

I often get caught in this loop where for some amount of time I feel like I come to terms with the fact that I'm a loser and will just be alone for the rest of my life until out of nowhere the acceptance just disappears. I get this urge to try and date to put myself out there fully knowing what's going to happen (or rather not happen), and I have to fight that so hard to pull back and go through the entire process to try and again find acceptance, only for the cycle to start again later.

Just wondering if anyone else have run into the same thing and what you did about it.

(Sorry for run-on sentences)

I was talking to someone on reddit and after getting help to find out why I couldn’t see their account I was told I am possibly blocked by them. Now I just don’t want to be on reddit anymore or any where really, so I am leaving. Goodbye everyone I hope you all have far greater success than I did in finding love and that you find happiness at the end of the day.

It’s not just that I don’t have a boyfriend. It’s that I can’t even have a normal conversation without feeling like I’m invisible. I don’t know what it is about how I look maybe it’s the way I carry myself, maybe it’s my blonde hair or how quiet I am but it’s like I’m a ghost to people. The worst part is how limited I feel in my day-to-day life. I watch people, attractive people, just existing and being effortlessly validated. They can walk into a coffee shop, strike up a conversation with a stranger, and everyone’s all smiles. They can joke around, get attention, and just... live. Like they're entitled to those simple moments, the ones that make you feel human. I can’t even go for a walk without feeling the eyes on me. People either avoid me or treat me like I’m a threat, just because I don't have that "certain look." I’ll walk down the street, trying to get some fresh air after a long shift, and I’ll see someone with their dog. They’ll smile, chat with a passerby, and everything just flows. If I try to say something, I can see the awkwardness in their eyes, the way they hurry past me like I’m going to hurt them, like I don’t deserve a moment of their time. It’s hard to explain, but it feels like I’m constantly being told I don’t have the right to exist. People look at me like I’m doing something wrong for just being there, for just wanting to connect. And don’t get me started on the attention people get based on looks. Guys who have done horrible things get flirted with, admired. Meanwhile, I’m here, struggling to even have a real conversation, just looking for someone who’ll treat me like I matter. No one should have to fight so hard for the simplest things just being seen, being heard, being real. I guess that’s what really hurts. I’m trying my best. I’m a decent person, I have a big heart. I care, I work hard, I enjoy the simple things, but it feels like no one ever notices. I feel like I’m stuck in this place where the world just doesn’t have room for me. And it's exhausting. I see people get validation for just being pretty or outgoing, and sometimes I wonder if life would be different if I had that. Would I be able to just walk into a room and have a place? Would I be able to be free—free to smile, free to talk, free to just... exist? Or am I doomed to keep fighting, just for the chance to feel like I belong? Some days, it really feels like I’m stuck in a hell on earth.

I am currently feeling guilty about trying something to fill in the void for not having a GF. I have never been in a relationship before and the loneliness is eating me alive. I subscribed to a patreon page that does ASMR which costed me $12. It was good listening to one of the audios but afterwards I ended up feeling super bad and guilty realizing that I seriously spent 12 dollars just to try and hear a recorded audio of someone giving love and realizing I failed as a man and a son. Idfk what to do anymore. Whatever you do, please do not repeat the same mistake as me. You will regret it and your loneliness will only worsen.

Recently took the train home and overheard two women talk to each other. One of them said "Did you see this guy earlier, he was so attractive" and the other woman replied: "No he wasn't, his eyebrows were unkempt". And then the first woman just agreed with her.

What even is this timeline, I am sure I could only dream of looking like this guy and he still was not good enough. Modern dating is complete hell, please get me out of this world man why am I even trying. I guess looks really dont matter after all. Almost all men are equally ignored, gotta love being a male in todays society!

So... I work in a car wiring factory, I have been trough all kind of sections, did all kind of stuff, splicing wires on a moving band, taking materials to quality check, preparing wires, etc. Now the section I am currently in I gotta put wires in bags, carefully arranging them while also having to do it fast, and it is easy, at least it would've been if my coworkers weren't toxic, like last week I worked night shift for the first time, despite on the contract I signed to work only durring day shifts, and I had to work with an old woman that is really annoying, like I were finnishing my part right, and I waited for her to finnish her part so I can pick up the wiring to roll it into a big bag, and everytime I was waiting for her to finnish her part she was like "you just stare and do nothing, cause you're lazy", and that is not the worst, on a table that is close enough by the table where I work at it is a guy with seriously mentall issues, and where I work, if wires won't come at your table you gotta go and help others, well that crazy guy come right at the table where I work at and he always yells at me "GO FASTER, WHT TAKES YOU SO LONG? YOU'RE SO LAZY" despite I am doin my best, he expects me to move as fast as sonic the hedgehog despite I am already moving as fast as I can, and I am too afraid to do or say anything cause that guy have some muscles, and the worst part? The boss of the section where I work doesn't do anything to him, and he doesn't yell at me, he yells at everyone, even at the boss and she doesn't do anything about him, and from what I understood that guy is in the factory for 7 years, how? How a guy with serious mentall issues was allowed to work in that factory for 7 years? How? How? HOW? I honestly wanna quit but... I know nobody will gonna come and save me, so I either quit and starve again or I gotta keep it up having to work with a psychopath and with what amercans would call "a Karen" ubtill I loose my whole sanity, and I tryed to find other jobs, I applied to so many jobs and I got one phone call just to get to the interview and be lied when they told me they'll call me, BUT THEY FUCKIN DIDN'T.... and when I asked my boss why she doesn't do anything about that guy she said "it is easy to do harm to others", excuse me? So it doesn't matter if that guy does harm to others? Oh and that old woman? I gotta work with her this week as well, I asked the boss of the section if she can somehow put me with other coworkers, and all she said it was "I won't split groups now, you gitta work with her and that's it", I honestly don't know what to do anymore... I am not paid enough to just m tolerate so much toxicity but I either have to get trough or starve again, I have no other options since applying to other jobs would just result in my time being wasted cause even before finding this job I applied to so many jobs desperately just to be called at interviews, be told they will give me a phone call just for them to not do it, so this job is all I have and there is nothin I can do than wonder how is that boss stupid and how she allows a psychopath to yell at everyone including at her without doing anything about it, also I am so sorry if this post is not related with this subreddit but I have no one to talk about it and I just... I dunno... I just wanna cry and get a hug but... I have nobody and I will never have anyone, so all I can do is to just sit in my bed as soon as I arrive at home and cry, cause who ever is in charge of my life just decided to make it as shitty and as misserable as possible

Its the combo of growing up autistic AND black in white dominated spaces in the Netherlands while "acting white". Keep in mind I'm a nerd. This isn't really fitting the black stereotypes either. Keep in mind I have basically lived as a "straight guy" all my life until a few years ago when I started questioning my gender and voice training. I was never seen as a "gay" kid or anything.

The autisms consequences then made me severely mentally ill as well, scaring off any potential people. You see, its a numbers game. Autism already fucks you up, just look at the stats. But supposedly , I am not ugly. Thats not me being naive, Ive had some confirmations. I assumed that meant there was just inherently something else wrong with me. This hit on self esteem alone was bad, but being black seemed to be tied to this self esteem issue.

All my autistic friends and other main people in my life had at least something irl by now, I'm the exception (I'm 28). But there is a pro white bias and an anti black bias here, and people tend to date their own race. This seems to reduce my numbers game. Because racism here isn't as overt anymore and white people are all I know, I'm often blind to how its effecting me. I once met another black person and they shared so many experiences which opened my eyes to how its definitely still a thing even if you won't tun into much outright hate.

Even people who genuinely cared for me I mean best friend since childhood whos almost family letting me cry on their shoulders telling me to not kill myself level close, still subconsciously "othered" me and made shitty cliche jokes regarding my race. Its hard to prove but I can just tell. We subconsciously internalize certain conditioning. Including me.

I recently checked out an autistic dating site for my country and I couldn't find a single black person there. Just like how when I went to my special school for autistic people I only knew 1 black person. They were also 99% boys back then as barely any boys got a diagnosis. The school already had few people and like 10 girls accross all classes. Most of the girls i knew were because of drawing or singing classes or friends of a friend who threw a party and knew a buncha people.

Despite growing up in a multicultural city, even at the two normal schools I went to, I was the only black kid in my class. There was usually like 1 other black kid i knew in the school and a few other minorities. But the overwhelming majority were white. My parents said they basically sent me to a "white" school.

The only girl that seemed to show direct irl interest in me was black, at singing classes.

Everything I knew was always white. Its to the point that I eventually internalized white beauty standards. I think something that messed up my self esteem looking back was at a teenager where with my white friend we went on omegle. Two girls our aged giggled and flirted with him, but called me a monkey and bullied me. Ofc I was used to the site being terrible and racist, but that one just felt cruel, it felt genuine. At one school a girl said she wouldn't date black people. A guy told me black girls are unattractive. I never heard such things about white people. I knew 1 guy who preffered black women thats about it.

The media never portrayed our features as attractive. Even if black men get sexualized thats not really how it goes irl and the standards become rather strange. Black women get mascunalized by media. Both get tons of stereotypes. I noticed at the modeling contests they always just shaved that one black girls hair off asif its too much to bother with while everyone elses hair got a cool make over. On dating sites black women and asian men do more poor.

It can't be a coincidence. The autism makes it hard to meet people, connect and socialize. It gives disabilities considered unattractive. It meant i eventually went to a school with barely any girls. It meant my mental health got fucked. But the nail in the coffin is that the standards seem to be different if you're a minority surrounded by the majority. It can make or break your already low chances.

And nowadays I have so much mental health baggage people don't want to touch me with a 10 foot pole regardless of what I do. Which isn't fair because its from trauma and damage psychiatrys abuse inflicted on me as well as losing my retina and not knowing wherher I'll go blind.

Hello everyone,

I was sitting in class and classmates were having a conversation (thank god I wasn't part of it, it'd be a tad embarrassing if I were) about their exes etc. There was this girl who was extremely proud of cheating on all her exes, said something like she wants a man who has a big co**. (sorry her words)

It made me thinking about I'd rather stay alone even forever than ending up with a girl like that. Is it weird?

It was really a reality check. Am I that naive? I want a girl who will really love me, who will never cheat on me, who will be loyal. If most girls are like her, damn, it truly is over lmao. What would be the point of dating a girl like her seriously? Once I heard men talking about girls like her, they said that most girls are like her and that is pointless to date nowadays. I didn't really believe them until now. What do you think?

In theory not every girl is like her, but do you imagine you end up with a girl like that, you truly, deeply love her and she does that to you? She can break you mentally, psychologically.

Is it too much to ask to want to date a girl I find cute, who will love me, stay with me no matter what? Is unconditional love a made up thing?

I'd really appreciate your insight about it.

One thing that devastates me is seeing how many foreveralone men and women there are and noticing the incompatibility. It’s crazy to not even be a good fit for people who simply want to experience love at any level. With as many people out here that exist, you would expect one person to be able to appreciate me. If not even for myself than the attention or experience. But nope, not even a last resort. I see story after story about how they wish someone would see them, treat them a certain way, want them. But whenever I speak to any woman in life they just seem like they’re sick of being approached and just want nothing to do with men. It’s a confusing world. Nothing makes sense and there’s no one to romantically pursuit. They’re all either already locked in with the type of guys they want to date for the rest of life or have chosen that men don’t want them and choose to ignore the 100,000 men ready and willing to sacrifice everything in life just to feel something that even slightly resembles love even for a few seconds. It’s insane how much our priorities differ in love, how some of us can choose to just avoid anyone willing to give us love while some just want to be appreciated by someone in life without having them have to be physically disgusted by me or whatever keeps any of my friends or anyone from ever giving me a chance. I’m guessing I have a shit personality but I have no problems having a bunch of close friends. Just nothing deeper.

I’ve been going to therapy lately as I’ve kind of run out of options and not to his discredit but he recommended I be hospitalized or out patient processed due to my “high sucidiality” guess being FA does weird shit to you like this almost makes me feel special that I am recommended something this extreme.

Quote from the movie Marty (1955): "Ma, sooner or later, there comes a point in a man's life when he's gotta face some facts. And one fact I gotta face is that whatever it is that women like, I ain't got it."

I'm nearing 30, and at this point, I think I'm just done. I'm Asian and born in the USA. I feel like I am lesser-than because people don't see me as something that is generally attractive. I don't mind myself, but it's clear that whatever it is that girls want, I don't have it. I've dated people and been around people enough. Some people like me for my strength of character. But other than that, why bother? It just sucks to know that a girl is not with me because of how I look or how I sound. And at some point, she's going to say "I can do better."

I don't berate myself for being Asian, or 5'5, or the fact that my voice makes me sound like a teenager. But these things definitely don't help. From my perspective, it seems to deter. I've been with women who say they like deep voices, and I am just the opposite of that. I've hung out with co-workers and they say they like tall men. These are pretty universal. And unfortunately I can't make up for it.

In a world of endless selection, no one is going to pick me. Especially in this day and age where we get preferences from, not your local community, but the vast endless expanse of the internet.

Got ghosted by the girl I was chatting with after the first date. All the women on reddit seem to be the same 5 only fan girls which is honestly just impressive. All my friends seem to be ignoring me and the only thing I’ve done for the past two weeks is work and sleep. I’ll be drinking myself into a coma if I can manage that before I run out of beer.

I am a 23M and never had a gf before and still kissless. I am studying MBA and talking with several girls in my University but it doesn't go anywhere honestly and with most of them the conversation has been brief limited to just Hi and How are you and the girls don't even notice me until I say them Hi even if we talked a few times before. I had been very shy in my school days and only recently I started talking to them. It took me until 22-23 to start initiating conversations with girls and I regret doing it so late. Now I am literally in my 2nd year of MBA which is my final year as its a Masters Degree and our semester is ending soon with final exams starting from tomorrow. Next semester which is our final semester will be dissertation which is only project based and there won't be regular classes so I won't even go to campus very often and this makes me sad for not trying to overcome by shyness in 11th or 12th grade or in my undergrads or even at the most in 1st year of my MBA last year as it feels like I have less time now in 2nd year with the semester ending very soon and next semester is fully dissertation. It sucks how I have been bullied a lot in my school days and have been isolated most of my life and now I am trying to socialize but it feels quite late.

Yesterday I initiated conversation with some 2 new girls in our campus too as the familiar ones with whom I talk weren't in the campus and they were nice and friendly but idk when I will meet them again as I didn't ask their socials and exams are starting. Even with the ones whose socials I have, they don't have continuous chats and their replies are more sporadic and they go even days without even seeing my text and idk whether its their busy lives as MBA students. I am afraid that after this semester ends and the dissertation semester starts, I will completely lose these girls with whom I have created some rapport at least as some of them are also my juniors in their 1st year of MBA and they will remain in the campus next semester whereas I won't be in campus a lot due to project works and other stuffs. Idk whether they will meet up with me after the semester is done as I tried asking 3 of them separately to hang out with me for lunch 2 weeks ago but all 3 said they had class or assignment to complete so some other time.

I honestly can't even think of one reason I shouldn't end it

My life is so shit. I have really bad eye problems Double vision bad astigmatism, and recently something called visual snow syndrome that makes my life a living hell. I have ocd also. Because of these reasons I can't even go to school, work, play videogames, read, write, watch movies or ANYTHING. I sit in my room all day that's it. Even before the visual snow syndrome. I had never been on a date, never been hugged, never been kissed, never even had a chance to get with anyone even less so now because I have no hobbies anymore and can't leave the house. The only thing I get enjoyment out of is eating and masturbating. Fuck me fuck.

I thought I had a good thing going with this girl a few weeks ago. We talked every day, and I tried visiting at least once a week. And then, all of a sudden it stopped. I got ghosted again.

Tried to ignore it because I didn't want to look desperate. And now, a few weeks later, I can tell her attention is on someone else. She takes forever to reply to my mundane attempts of conversations on social media. I blew it.

Installed Tinder again. Zero likes, ran out of people in my area. Uninstalled it a day later.

I'm just so numb. I've never been good enough, and I never will be. I'm slowly losing my want for a relationship, if I haven't lost it completely at this point.

I want nothing more right now than a spouse that loves me and cares for me.

That's it. That's all I want

Am i asking for too much ? Every single adult i know has a partner. When i go out to travel every touristic place i go to is full of couples. I wish I could share some love with someone too.

I mean, i'm 37M and sure i'm sad that I can't find any relationship, but it also seems like 90% of people who can are just downright miserable. Anytime I'm scrolling around the internet and I see something about relationships all the comments are people talking about how they've been destroyed by their ex-partners, with tons and tons of people saying they've been single for x years because it. With lots of others saying they are unhappy and trapped in their relationships, dead bedrooms, partners who do nothing.

Normal people wouldn't be constantly complaining if it wasn't truly a universal experience to just be unhappy with all their relationships. Divorce rates are one of the quantifiable results of this. My parents aren't divorced but their relationship is still something you wouldn't want, they've done nothing but bicker constantly daily for as long as I can remember.

I see a small small subset of people who have something good, like what most people idealize. How can I claim that I'm better than anyone else to the point that I would be one of these privileged people ?

I've started to become a little bit more content lately when realizing that being in a relationship that is actually enjoyable is an unlikely rarity, even more so by my age, that the idea of just living for myself and not getting exposed to any soulcrushing negative experience is probably the better path...

I am 24 and I already feel like a old man. I am cynical and bitter like one. I think most 24 year olds are out having fun still or putting families together and I am doing neither of those things. But at the same time when I see a 20 year old or something, they have more experience than me in every type of relationship. They are 4 years younger than me but would laugh if they knew I never had even been on a date or had my first kiss yet. It makes me feel like a child waiting for some crush or something and for everything to work out as it does for normal people. I would still get flustered if I only held someone’s hand but at the same time everyone far past that stage of life already feels like a kid to me. I wish I could be normal.

I like this group called Electric Youth & I came across their song for a movie soundtrack, it's called "The Seeker" & it's a really beautiful song for lack of a better way to put it. It affects me in a deep way, I really recommend anybody reading this to give it a shot.

By the way, seeing the posts on here, just wanted to say I empathize with everyone & remember don't lose hope because it's not that there are no answers it's that you're not looking for the answers in the right place, they DO exist & are there waiting to be found. There IS a path to feeling differently, it's just that as a species we're still in the dark, to varying degrees, about how all of this works. We don't have all that much awareness & true self-awareness. There's a logic to everything & we have to try to get to the deeper, full explanation of how things work & then things will change. That's why understanding psychology & biology & the physics of the universe is helpful, finding an explanation to what everything is & seeing how it works & thus the validity of it gives you relief & gets you to where you want to get. It's just a puzzle with an answer. Always try to remember this. I wish healing for all Innocent creatures who are a light in this world, it will come sooner or later

Man, it's really getting to me now.

Especially now that I'm in a class of 20, with 18 women and only one other guy besides me. I am constantly in contact with what just seems to be impossible for me to get.

It's good exposure therapy but it's also just extremely triggering, every day.

It's not even that I don't get looks, It's just that nothing ever happens besides that. I've even been putting myself out there both at school and outside of it but to no avail. One girl I had incredible chemistry with but I think I wasn't her type, and she has kind of disappeared from my life. That one still stings, it's scary how many things we had in common.

Another girl seemed to be interested but we didn't quite have chemistry, so things fizzled out. It's always this same story.

The luck you need is insane dude. Good chemistry + attraction to each other + both looking for something. I never get all 3. Just never.

There's been a couple I've had good chemistry with but some how some way they were never looking for a relationship. It still has me wondering 'what if...'

My self worth isn't even that bad anymore. I can confidently say I think I'm a catch and I'd be a really good boyfriend. But it's like they never see that.

I'm so fucking lonely and emotionally/sexually frustrated, if I didn't exercise so much I would go crazy. F this man, when is it my turn finally

I was thinking about people who can get into romantic and/or sexual relationships and how i think they might be touched by some holy spirit whose attention I was not deserving of. It's like they're built from fundamentally different materials. It's so strange that I look just like a person and can even follow along for quite a while with what one might say and think, but I just am missing some essential components. Of course there are many who do not handle the responsibility of this gift very well and cause a lot of pain and destruction with it.

I was granted just enough baseline programming that I can have a small superficial conversation, maybe at the bus stop with the pensioners or with a friend of my parents'. On a small number of occasions, nice people at school or university have gone up to me and started talking about whatever and I didn't mind. From this I have somewhere between 1 and 7 friends depending on how you define it: some I talk to rarely, some quite often. None of those friendships are particularly deep and I try keep myself ready to become excluded one day.

But that is as far with people as I can achieve. But to have an emotionally intimate connection, let alone a flirtatious, romantic or -at most- a sexual one? It is not just that I don't have the skills, I don't even have the bassline humanity to build off of - I don't believe my brain's firmware has the emotional or spiritual compatibility to process any of that. That I can just about have the odd superficial friendly moment with people, is merely basic tools thrown at me by having grown up in a certain society. It is less a filtration of something genuine, but more like a series of safe procedures to not unduly disturb people around me. I must not register at all on the spiritual plain of existence; if i cut into myself i think i might find merely bubblewrap and Amazon packaging filler.

But with all that being said, why was I also granted the sorrowful longing for these higher level social connections? Why do I feel bitter and jealous at stories or mere evidence of relationships? Why do I yearn to cry alone but cannot? This must point to a malignant narcissism at my core that begs to be loved without having any of it to offer back. I cannot fathom a more repulsive and hideous selfishness than this. The people around me have granted me many acts of kindness that I fear I cannot give back, those poor souls probably thought that my looking and sounding like a person meant I was one.

If I ever were to try and develop any of the small friendships I have (not that I have any idea how to), they would soon realise the rot at my core and feel rightfully betrayed. I think, at present, I am running off their goodwill - they probably think I am a good person it's just that they haven't seen it yet.

Much like a multinational corporation, I don't wish anyone any genuine ill will, it's just I have no capacity for true appreciation, thankfulness, admiration or compassion. I am just a black hole for people's energy and spirit; best I can offer is to polite while I'm at it.

Basically the title 😕, I’m average in looks (or I’d like to think so) and pretty much anything else which makes it way worse . I’ve tried talking to girls who enjoy those types of things as well but the problem is literally every other guy is too, so if nothing sets me apart from them what chance do I even have? It’s already rather niche for woman to like games or anime but nearly every guy likes stuff like that or similar to it so I’m basically competing with a thousand dueds for a single girl like a damn battle royal, to see who can get the gamer girl 😓. This really sucks honestly, because I just want someone with the same interest as me do I at least have something to talk about with them with seeing as I’m not very interesting, hell it’s already hard enough to get women to notice me anyways so I’m cooked on so many levels…. But honestly I just wish I didn’t like games or anime as a guy because this is hurting my chances severely on top of me just not being good enough, if I was into literally anything else I would have had a better chance…. Maybe?

Anyways tl;dr is it’s hard for me to find a partner who likes anime and games but doesn’t have a million dueds talking to her which overshadows my mediocrity. I just want a gamer girl 😭 (says every Dued ever) what does everyone think? Am I just crazy or what?

In Sweden there was recently a new report which indicated that 4 out of 10 young men (18-30) don't dare to ask a girl out and/or flirt with them (for example in bars, universities, nightclubs etc).

* It is published in Swedish and behind a pay-wall, but here's the link anyway: https://amelia.expressen.se/premium/svart-att-ragga-sa-blir-det-lattare/

Me personally who never have asked a girl out, or kissed before, and is around 25 yo can see why this is. We (many men) don't want to feel awkward and cringe. Also we don't want to make the girl uncomfortable and/or offended or just bother people in general, just to name a few reasons.

But what do you guys think? Is it the same where you live? Curious to know!

I watched some tiktok videos that said everyone goes to hostels to make friends and have romances and nothing is weird.

I'm too old but there's an idea for you.