At the cemetery in my neighborhood in my hometown, apparently the volunteer who originally photographed many of the memorials and created the pages on findagrave has deactivated their account, so I have been claiming management of many of these, especially since many of them are relatives and family friends. It appears I was claiming them too quickly, and have been temporarily banned under suspicion of being a bot. Anyone know how long this temporary ban might last? Thanks!

I made memorials for my grandfather and his brother, called and got the plot information (they are together) and added that. This is for Mount Olivet in Queens, NY which is listed as having hundred of volunteers. It has not been that long--9 days, but I feel like I will pop until I see a picture (having just found him). I'm checking throughout the day. I would like to temper my expectations--what is a usual time frame? I read some requests are never fulfilled. Is this likely for a big cemetery? Any light anyone could shed on this would be appreciated.

I made a memorial about a person that died in 2012, I found them from an obituary but instead of copying just what the obituary said, I had done further research on her and found her parents, birth place, death place, etc. Would that be allowed on Find-A-Grave even though I did further research on her and attached her to the correct people?

When my grandmother passed away, our family did not have funds to afford a proper burial site and she was cremated instead. I would have gladly covered the costs, but I was too young and did not have a job.

Her ashes were scattered, and are one with the earth. Although people tell me "think of this as, she is all around you", it does not satiate my desire to visit her in a physical location so that I may grieve.

I find a sense of coping and relief from fulfilling requests from people who want to see the grave of their loved ones. I lead others to something I cannot have.

Some users really piss me off. Just had six suggested edits declined to memorials ran by another local - the edits were entries for each persons bio, which confirmed the place they died (particular villages, streets, hospital etc) as well as the Parish / Church they belonged to, and the manager has responded with “I don’t see the point in updating this information”…

It annoys me when there are several people with the same name in the same cemetery, where information such as which religion they are can help someone narrow down the correct grave they are looking for. Information is accurate also as it is confirmed on a spreadsheet from compiled by the cemetery itself…

I had great trouble finding my great great grandfather's headstone for a long time, but I finally found it. It is right next to my great great grandmother's headstone, but whoever carved out the name accidentally changed just one letter and misspelled it. Is there anything I can do about this? I'm trying to link the family together on find a grave so his wife and children will show up on his page. Thank you

Hello, I recently got Management of one of my Grandads Findagrave memorials which is a memorial bench. My grandad has two different memorial benches in two different states and cemeteries, I only have management of one of them as of this writing. Now the kicker is that my Grandad was cremated and ashes spread in a different state/cemetery from EITHER of the memorial benches. Therefore I want to see if I can merge both memorials and change the burial details to cremated.

I submitted a request to merge both memorials but was declined because one is marked as a Cenotaph (the one I manage) but the other memorial (which I don't manage) is not marked as a Cenotaph. I think I got declined because originally neither were marked as cenotaphs until I got management of one of them and marked it as such AFTER I sent the merge request.

This is the note I got back in my email after being declined:

"Cenotaphs are defined on our site as “a marker within a cemetery placed in honor of a person whose remains are buried elsewhere. It may also be the original marker for someone who has since been re-interred elsewhere.” If this is a cenotaph, please suggest an edit to designate the memorial as a cenotaph. If you are confident this is not a cenotaph, please resend the merge with a Note that you are sure this is a duplicate memorial and not a cenotaph."

I'm wondering if memorial benches of the same person but in different cemeteries are required to have their own Findagrave memorials or if I can merge both of them. Ultimately I wanted to consolidate my Grandads memorials into one spot, but now I'm wondering if that's possible at all. Anything helps, thanks.

Someone controls my great-grandaunt's memorial, for the sake of keeping him anonymous, I will call him "Will". Will has been controlling my great-grandaunt's memorial since 2020 before I had joined the platform, after a while, I had tried to edit the correct information into my family member (adding her first name and moving the previous first name to the middle name slot which is where it should be). I had waited a few days for Will to accept the edits but declined them, I had messaged him why he declined the edits since he hadn't given me any reasons why he had declined them and he responded with "I use the name that is on the gravestone and the obituary, as this is what the person used in life. If someone is looking for this person based of off their obituary or gravestone.". I had then sent him sources to where I found her first name but he simply refused and said it was too little information to prove that, I had told him that up until her marriage, she was referred to as her first name. Will would also go on to decline that reasoning so I got fed up and just decided to contact him if I could at least manage her memorial, Will did not respond and I tried again, still no response. I had contacted Find-a-Grave explaining that I wanted to manage her memorial since Will had no path to her, he only went to that cemetery and had the nerve to decline what an actual family member knew about her. Find-a-Grave responded to me and basically said that I don't need to control everyone in my tree, which I'm not trying to get everyone in my tree to me. It has been a couple months and it has disgusted me a little bit that he decided to manage a memorial but manage it in a horrible way, I have just recently gotten on this subreddit and decided to post this since I have not told anyone on here yet about it and decided I should.

Can any of yall help me transcribe the birthplace on this death certificate wanted to post this on genealogy sub but they don’t allow attachments on posts. Pretty sure it’s Ireland but just wanted someone else to verify thanks

So I'm looking at the memorial of Jane Doe who had three siblings. It has links to her parents. If you click on either parent, you see memorial links for all four children. Yet if I go back to Jane, I see no siblings. And the siblings' memorials show the other two siblings, but not Jane. Jane's memorial is not new, so it's not like it just needs to update. Never saw this issue before.

I didn't even think for one second that I could get a message like that on Find A Grave... Just putting it out there, these types of messages are always a scam, don't fall for them.

I found a distant relatives' grave on Find a Grave. Someone has added a photo of another grave in the same cemetery of a person with a very similar name (easy mistake to make). The account that added the photo is different from the grave manager. Should I contact the account that added the photo or the grave manager to request removing the photo?

Her parents are not on findagrave even though they are both dead, but she an has uncle who is. Is there any way to add his listing to her page? TIA.

So I've been experiencing issues on findagrave. It's no glitch, but it's a person. A while back when I started my findagrave account, I made a memorial for my great aunt. I then found her brothers (my grandfather)'s memorial, and suggested his middle name as it was supposed to be, which it was currently shortened to what the middle name started with (from grave picture) The guy managing it (named "Whitfield", what a stupid name)changed it to my suggestion for like a week or so but then for some reason changed it back, putting in the bio of the memorial "memorial name reflects marker". Since then, for some reason he has been intensely busy with my family's memorials, including my great aunt, which he made his own memorial for, and merged his and mine (but kept his information, meaning on the bottom it says he created it, so pretty much mine is deleted.) at least it kept my picture of her somehow but I ended up deleting the picture of her because at that point I knew he didn't deserve access to my great aunt's face. And frankly, the guy seems like a hoarder, nearly all of the memorials he put up for my family has no grave pictures and the only thing he has for proof is stupid pictures of memorials on newspapers. Come to just recently, I notice my other grandfather didn't have a memorial, so I decided to make his, including getting a picture of his grave from family, making up my own version of a paragraph memorial in the bio, kind of like the one you would see on newspapers. I made that for that grandfather December. This January (right now January) he made one for the same grandfather, with a newspaper memorial THAT MY GRANDMOTHER wrote for him by the way, and marriage dates for his two wives put on the bio. I'm not sure if he's copying my information exactly, or if he's getting it from some other source. Either way, it needs to be stopped. It's like he's TRYING to piss me off. It's stupid. I have already made a request to merge his with mine (apparently you can't just report it and sadly you can't have the other one deleted, you have to merge them), and i want it deleted. I will have a similar thing like this sent to findagrave, but I'm not sure if there's even a point. I saw another article in this community saying that the website doesn't care, which I'm starting to believe. The REALLY stupid part about this is he has his messages off, and whenever I do a "contact manager", he never responds. I hope this can be fixed, but if not I'll have to quit, and honestly this is making me reconsider my genealogy hobby as a whole.

Can I designate a picture of an urn as a grave photo for a cremated person?

Should I designate that someone has a religious cross on their grave marker? If so, what field should I put this information in?

Have any of you noticed they recently amped up their ad content. I have been using FG for years but now it’s changed a lot. There are pop up ads as well as ads between results when searching. It is really affecting my use of this site. Anything we can do?

Hello,

Hoping someone in Queens can help with a photo as Mount Olivet has no online records and is not on Find-A-Grave.

I am looking for my Great Uncle, Spiros Mitakis (his death certificate has his name as Sam Metikas so it could be under that name as weĺl). His dod is March 13, 1926. I know he is there. My grandfather might be too. His name is George Mitakis (misspelled often as both Mitakes and Metakis). His dod is Oct. 7, 1949. I would greatly appreciate any help to find them.

Ugh.

Not only does it take forever to get a response to an e-mail, but they're three weeks behind processing duplicates.

And, when they e-mail you and you respond? They NEVER follow up.

I honestly don't see why they even bother.

Anyone else excited to explore in the summer time to find ancestors graves or to help add photos on find a grave for people? I'm ready for summer to be here and for the journey of new adventures 🩷 winter time is so rather boring I feel like being inside alot. I just really miss tombstone cleaning as well on top of it all.

1. Ancestor #1: Thomas Williams | Race: Black | Possible birthplaces: Virginia or the Northwest Territory (aka Ohio) | Birth range: Between 1767 and 1785 | Still alive in 1854? Yes. | His daughter: Eliza Williams | Resident of: Chillicothe, Ross County, Ohio | Death year: I don't know (Still researching) | My relationship to the deceased: His 6th great-grandson | Thomas' widow: Mary Calven (aka "Mary Williams") (Mary died in Ohio in 1815)
2. Ancestor #2: Eliza Williams | Race: Black | Birth year: Not sure, but circa 1806 | Death year: 1853 | Birthplace: Chillicothe, Ross County, Ohio | Death location: Pittsburgh, Allegheny County, PA | Ex: Warner Washington IV (1807, Virginia - 1874, Pittsburgh, PA - Warner's buried in Pittsburgh, PA) | Is Eliza buried in Allegheny County, PA? No. (She's not listed in Allegheny County's 1852-54 burial records) | Eliza's 2 sons: Daniel Washington (1836, Indiana - 1890, Virginia; Daniel's buried in Hampton National Cemetery, Hampton, VA) & son #2 is: John Alfred Washington (1842, Indiana - after November 1887), Daniel & John were incorrectly listed as their stepmother, Sarah Taylor's biological children | My relationship to the deceased: 5th great-grandson | Relationship to Thomas: His daughter & only child. | Mother: Mary Calven (she might be buried under "Mary Williams").

Would this information be helpful to locate Thomas & Eliza's gravesites?

I have searched Find A Grave using every possible feature and filter. There are three people who died between 1982 and 1998 and I can’t find anything anywhere that leads to their burial sites.

I do not know anything other than their names, spouse names, one maiden name, and dates of death within about a year. I do know they died and were buried in Los Angeles County along with the city two of them lived in.

It is only for personal knowledge, so I don’t have or use paid services for this.

What am I doing wrong? (Besides not paying for it.)

Who take photos of the graves.

It's so sad to see the people, specially kids, who don't have flowers or a photo in their memorial.

I appreciate the volunteers who fulfill my photo request.

Much love to you all. ❤️

Two brothers share a full-size upright granite family name headstone that has only the last name "Smith". I'm assuming this is called a headstone ? (also, it could possibly be the family name headstone for the whole family plot of 8 gravesites, I've seen that before where the Lot has one larger headstone then the 8 graves in the Lot are each marked by flat to the ground footstones)

Close to the family name headstone are two small granite blocks, one for each of them, like a cornerstone size but centered to each of their graves instead of on the corners, that has their initials only: "A. B. S." and C. D. S.". What is this type of marker called ?

At what I assume is called the footstone are regular size flat/flush to the ground granite footstone markers that show full name, birth date, and death date. I'm assuming this is called a footstone ?

This pic shows a piece of the "headstone", the full initials marker, and a piece of the "footstone" :

Big upright \"headstone\", the small initials only block, and the flat to ground \"footstone\"

I am trying to add my great grandmother to my great grandfather. They were the parents to my grandmother. On the site he is listed with his second wife. It’s been a couple of weeks. Normally these get updated quickly. I appreciate folks who add memorials. This person manages over 14,000. I really don’t mind if you manage that many, but at least be responsive. I could probably get the memorial transferred to me as a great grandson, but I never knew him and when I was born my great grandmother was married to her second husband and that’s who I knew as my great grandparents.

Updated: Memorial has been transferred and updates added. Thanks for all the comments.

While I don't live in Chicago, I have five million ancestors who are buried there, and I would love a picture of their graves. IS anyone there, or know of a service that does this?

I have a memorial manager for my ancestor who literally managers upwards of 29k memorial, but doesn't accept messages. He only allows contact manager, and he doesn't read my notes clearly asking for memorial manager access. What do i do?

I couldn’t find anything on Find a Grave about this, so any advice would be much appreciated! I manage a deceased family member’s memorial, and I’m not entirely sure what the protocol is in regard to her name.

She was born Carolina, but was always called Caroline, in-person and on official documents (excluding her birth records). Her gravestone is also Caroline. I currently have it as Carolina MiddleName “Caroline” LastName - would this be correct?

Hello, first post here and new to the F.G. world. I'd like to know, after requesting for memorial transfer using the suggest edits - contact manager button, while being within the relationship requirement, and the memorial is not transferred within that 21-day period, what is the proper procedure for having the transfer go through? Thank you very much.