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For family research, I am looking for a relative who was in the Odd Fellow's Cemetery in Philadelphia when it was closed and the graves moved to two other cemeteries.

Today I was at an event and took a picture of a memorial bench. I found the person's grave on find a grave. The grave isn't in the same place. Should I upload the picture of the bench to his grave page and note the location in the description? Should I create a new memorial page specific for the bench?

I was browsing around on find a grave and I found a memorial that doesn't have a photo of the grave, but it does have a picture of the person. The person that uploaded the picture mislabeled the photo as a grave photo instead of as a person photo. As far as I can tell, there is not a way to suggest an edit for this. How should I go about asking for this to be fixed? Should I contact the user who uploaded the photo or the memorial manger perhaps? Thank you.

I was looking for one person's memorial when I came across another person of the same name. I was shocked to find this other person's memorial had photos of the decedent in a KKK type costume with burning crosses in the background. Is this allowed on findagrave? I couldn't find anything in support and before I contact them, I would like to know if maybe I'm the one out of line here. I mean, this guy was a grand wizard whose organization was involved in some very important historical acts of home grown terrorism. Any advice? TIA

I posted about creating a memorial for my daughter before burial because we were forced to wait on her remains due to a conflict with a man she was married to for a few months and filing for annulment. The funeral home ended up letting him take her remains despite us paying for everything.

Can I create a memorial anyway? There was no obituary (her dad declined to have one). It's obviously a sketchy funeral home anyway...

https://www.reddit.com/r/findagrave/s/4WWiWfniyu

I know this is kinda a last minute thing; but I wanted to send a quick reminder to all the American Findagrave Volunteers that Wreaths Across America is THIS WEEKEND!

I always find this event to work really well with anyone who's looking for some pictures at their local cemetery for Findagrave.

If you're interested in getting some good cemetery time as well as laying wreaths for veterans I implore you to register and volunteer at a burial space near you! Many groups are lacking vollenters and looking for anyone they can get! The link for the website has been attached if anyone is interested! Happy Hunting!

https://www.wreathsacrossamerica.org/

Is there a number you can go up to, then it locks you out?

Have you ever met another volunteer in a cemetery? This happened to me for the first time in my three years on the site today! I noticed an older woman in the cemetery with a camera and asked her if she was doing find a grave. And she was! It was nice to see that we're real outside of the online presence.

Just curious if anyone else has naturally met another volunteer like this and has a story to share !

Who is member 19? I assume it's a Find a Grave run page because the name is just "FG" but one of my memorials just disappeared to that user.

I had written an email to support because that same memorial had been approved as famous but never marked such. I just wanted to clarify 19 has something to do with this. Thanks in advance!

I found on the website Findagrave Memorials for video game characters Arthur Morgan and John Marston. They didn’t exist, and they have video game screenshots of the in-game graves. Is this a violation of TOS or no?

Does anyone else use the memorials they’ve created, to leave their own little slogans or catch phrases? Whether it’s at the top of their bio, in bold, or putting it under “inscription” or “Grave sight Details”, or editing newspaper clipping to put your name on it? Like, i feel like it’s enough credit that your name & link will ALWAYS be there attached to the profile, as the creator of said memorial/(s)? Like, I get if you want to add your name as a source to some sort of 1st hand acquired information, as a reference for viewers.. But i kinda feel like it’s turning all these people’s “memorials” (or what should somewhat be?) more into your own little memorial, about yourself? Or you’re really trying to like trademark graves?

Am i missing something? Is there another reason behind it? Or am i just getting pissy because one of these users is hoarding a descent amount of my relatives, and all i ever see is this same user’s slogan in bold italics plastered all over them?

A distant cousin died in 1900 and I would like to know what the symbol on his headstone means. Find a Grave Memorial ID: 241386162. Thank you. (I am not the photographer.)

When adding a memorial should I add the name and surname in its original language (with a different alphabet) or add it transliterated? And with bios is it better to add them in english, original language or both?

I had recently found an account who manages about six memorials, all but are listed as relative.

They have the memorials listed as relative, but some interesting ones are memorials listed as 'grandchild', when the person was born in 1848, as well as one in 1926, which obviously can't be possible.

They have made another memorial of a famous person who passed recently, and they've put 'burial details unknown', which is against findagrave rules, and also put down 'relative: child'. Their father is deceased, not the mother, the mother is born 1938. They've rejected the suggestions I made for the memorial.

I don't have actual information they are not related by child or grandchild, but listing as a relative for grandchild born in 1848 obviously isn't right, that would mean you were born in the 1790s or so.

And they haven't connected the famous person to their related family members. Just another member trying to take control of memorials.

I had a friend of mine that I knew from high school who passed away a year and a half ago, and his plot was not to find a grave. Is it disrespectful if I created a memorial as someone who knows him from high school?

Hey everyone! Hope you're doing well.

Last week I found two relatively old photos at a thrift store with cursive on the back and I've been on a journey to figure out who the people are so I may attach the photos to an appropriate memorial. Been searching high and low for the names and still no luck. Throwing it out there for the possiblity of solving this mystery.

Photo One; ( One Male ) Art () Doma Cove, PFC, Guadalcanal, BSI

{I unfortunately cant read cursive very well and some of the wording is faded. I believe it's talking in context to Doma Cove of the British Solomon Islands}

Photo Two; ( Two F + Two M ) " This was taken Dec. 13 / 42 just after Betty became Mrs. Dick Catin. It's Betty, Dick, Ruthie and Jack McNalley. They were so cold or scared they look funny. Have the girls changed? I think they have & I see them every day."

Happy hunting! Any hints or direction would be much appreciated!

Photo 1 ( ART )

Photo Two ( Catin )

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Hi, I literally need help finding a lost grave. I've already tried on the actual website; target city or region is East Gwillimbury, Ontario, Canada. My 2x great grandmother (or great aunt if you think a 51 year old had a baby without issues in 1880) Phoebe Young drowned Aug 4 1895 in Lake Ontario aged 35. Her coroner inquiry states she was buried in E Gwill, and I've already contacted the local cemetery where her descendants and parents (although that is also in question) are buried, and there is no records for her. Also, the Town Hall burned down in the early 1900s, so no records there. I'm basically putting out a Hail Mary call for anyone who may be in the area if they see such a grave, as she has become the Holy Grail of a few searchers on our family. Her DOB is unknown, but late 1859/1860 is the estimate based on said report. Given she was a 'black sheep' and definite infamy around her death, I doubt a funeral or public service was done. Attached is a news article

Hi. I have kind of a silly question.. how do I find the”Tribute “ memorials.. it’s the little photos that come up on the page randomly.. I used to like to look at them when I was on the site.. Ive been trying to figure it out. Can anyone please help?

It's at St. Peter's Episcopal Church in Philadelphia. The graveyard is in a different location, across town from the church. Message me for details.

My daughter passed suddenly. She was separated and working on a divorce from a 6 month marriage. He has prevented us from burying her. We had a memorial anyway.

I need to put the family information on findagrave since no information was published (her dad my ex's choice). I have everything written and a lovely video. I want to be able to add burial information when we are allowed to do that (Feb 2025).

My attention span is like a gnat or id study it myself (why is it so hard?) I can get signed in and then I'm stuck.

Thank you for any help or advice

Hi everyone. I would usually post this on another account cause this one is for gaming, but I want to get notifications as this is kind of 'urgent' at the moment. As the title suggests, a family member's tenure has expired and I am not sure what to do. I don't know where else to post this, but r/findagrave is the closest I can think of regarding this situation.

I have been doing a family tree and going back to my great-great grandfather. He has his own findagrave memorial with photos of his gravestone, which had a sticker reminding of tenure expiry. The memorial still had his plot info, but I searched him up on SMCT's Deceased Search (he's in Springvale Botanical Cemetery), and it shows plot info as the wall he was buried in, but no plot information. I did further research and found it was cause his tenure expired so plot info was taken out. I also found out to quickly contact before he's taken out if he hasn't been already.

I have contacted SMCT and let them know and I'll give a sample of what the email said:

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Thank you for your enquiry about (great-great grandfather) and (great-great grandmother).

As the memorial have expired there are a few options to consider

1. Transfer to perpetuity (for all time), current price is $670.00 x 2.
2. Collect the ashes and plaques
3. Scatter the ashes within our grounds.

We have the Freemasons Homes as the current Holder of right. So this will need to be updated into another family members name.

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So I have been given the option to pay perpetuity so it's stored all time, scatter the ashes, or collect the ashes and plaques. At the moment I am considering collecting the ashes, but that would be wrong, wouldn't it? All of his children have passed so only remain his grandchildren, but I am only related by great-great grandchild, and his grandchildren are still alive (I don't know any other than my own great-auntys and uncles). I could contact my great-aunty about the ashes since she's doing a similar tree, and she could collect them maybe, but wouldn't that still be wrong or something? I don't know. His right of interment is listed as 'Freemasons homes' and they said to be transferred into another family member's name. I don't want them scattered within the grounds either, and I am not too sure about it. I also don't have the money to transfer all time for both of them.

At the moment, I am in this dilemma and not sure what to do. I know I don't want to leave it as it might get scattered in burial grounds, but I also don't want to collect cause he's got close grandchildren still living. What should I do?

UPDATE:

Thanks for the comments and support. I was posting to note that I was looking like a pack donkey, but it was good to read the responses.

I'm not the only person working this cemetery, and together, the 250 requests have dropped to 150. There are 20 - 50 reasonable requests left, and then we have the large pauper's field. The last time I worked that area I went in with 45 requests and I found 3. I don't expect we will do much better this time.

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When I'm searching for a grave I prefer a minimalist approach. I carry a camera and my phone, with a list of names on my phone.

Of course, if I'm going to have to clear flat stones I have a - bright yellow - belt pouch holding brushes and a plastic trowel. It has to be bright yellow or I'll leave it behind at a gravesite.

And during the fall I clip a small whisk broom to the pouch, for moving leaves.

And if I'm chasing old stones, I have a powerful lamp, folding reflector, and shade that I carry in a backpack. Along with a higher definition camera.

And if there are many graves to be found, I usually print them out - in alphabetical order - include a printed map of the cemetery, and put everything in a clipboard that I refer to as I walk.

I am presently walking a large cemetery of 45,000 graves with 250 open requests. The cemetery has excellent maps that are detailed down to the plot numbers. But the maps are in a large format that does not display well on a phone. So I am carrying a laptop/tablet with all of the maps. and a laptop bag so I can put the laptop down and keep it dry while I take photographs. And the 250 names are in a spreadsheet on the laptop that I refer to as I walk.

So yesterday I found myself walking a cemetery path, wearing a belt pouch and laptop bag, holding a tablet in one hand and a phone with GPS in the other, not having much luck matching the cemetery map to the real-life terrain, flipping from map to spreadsheet to check spelling of the names . . . and I'm feeling a bit foolish and self-conscious as cars drive by.

It's a good thing I'm an intrepid explorer.

My dad (previous step dad but one to raise me) just passed. I was the one who stayed by his side until he passed (his biological children parted ways many many moons ago when he married my mother). I consider him my dad. He passed last Thursday and I just completed his death certificate with the funeral home. I am still in touch with my biological father who has helped me grieve during this time for my dad. I informed biological father that I will need his mothers maiden name for when his time comes and I am needed to fill out death certificate again. My biological father was adopted at birth, but within the last ten years, by a miracle, discovered who his biological parents were and even though they have passed he has created a close connection with his biological siblings. When he passes, should I put his adoptive mothers maiden name, his biological mothers name, or hyphenate both ( if both, which order?).

We are both wondering what the best way to go about that is. If someone were to search for him he has his birth name and adoptive name on his social media. Would it be hard to find his grave information or history of life if I was to only include one or the other? Does it matter?

I’d like to add a memorial for my grandmother but am not sure how to properly do so. She is listed on a headstone with my grandfather in one city but decided later in life she wanted to be cremated and her ashes spread with her parents in another city. We spread her ashes as she wished with a little at her headstone as well. Can someone provide guidance on how you would document this? Thank you so much for any guidance!

I'm not sure if this is the right place to ask but I was wondering if this is normal for cemeterys or not. My dad passed away a few weeks ago and I had to find a place to bury his ashes. I found a nice place that helped me go through the process of getting him a upright stone and helped me sort through his veteran paperwork to set all that up. Anyway, he is already buried and I returned to the site on his birthday, the day after the funeral and it got me wondering something.

So this cemetery have a military section and organizes it as one row only foot stones, the next row only headstones, then only foot stones, then headstones ect. They told me they do that to make it easier with grounds keeping. My question is, is that normal? Cause once the ground softens and my dad gets his official headstone in, won't it be blocking the view of the footstone in the row above? It makes me feel bad for the family who wants to visit there loved one in the footstone row because the headstone of the next row is literally 3 inches in front of it.

I’ve been looking for the death date, place, and burial for a father of this family I am working on. I think I may have found him buried with a couple of his children, but I’m not sure.

For example, I have section 31, lot 365 and then grave 1, 2, and 4 (I don’t know who is buried in lot 3). In grave 1 and 4 I know these are this man’s children. Lot 3 is very likely him, but I don’t know when or where he died and where he was buried.

Then there is section 31, lot 19. I have names for graves 3, 5, 6, and 7. Graves 3, 6, and 7 are this man’s sister, son and ex-wife. Grave 5 has possibly the grandfather, but again I don’t know any info around his death.

It really doesn’t help I’m working with the surname Frederick/Fredericks and they all have incredibly common first names. I honestly don’t know a lot about how cemetery plots are setup because I’ve never had to deal with it myself. Any help is appreciated.