Hi!

I’m a 30M who would love to find someone who likes to go on cute dates and cafe hopping. Hopefully we could spend some nice quality and genuine time time together to get to know each other.

About me: East Asian and around 6 feet tall. I like watching movies, puzzles, board games, socializing with friends, and travelling.

We could talk online for a while until we are both comfortable meeting in person. Not looking for long distance, sorry!

Thanks for reading.

Hello!

It's been a couple of years since I have been with someone :P
I'm not picky about height, weight, looks or anything like that and I'm open to FTM as well!
Ideally I am looking for someone kind and funny who would want to meet once a week or once every two weeks for some fun.

About me:
I am a 30 yro Chinese male, tatted, 163cm tall, heavy (186lbs), uncut.
I live in Scarborough and I am a pretty nerdy/weeby person that enjoys spending his time working on his hobbies

I am going to cut it short because I would prefer to get to know you as we chat!
Hope to hear from you!

Hi, I’m ideally trying to find a girlfriend or something that can lead to a long term relationship. I’ve been on dating apps, but am tired of the ghosting and girls being flaky. I just want someone who means it when they say they won’t ghost or can keep their word after planning a date. Also intentions are a bit hard to read sometime, so I just figure that it’d be easier to be straight forward on Reddit. Would prefer to have a friendship where we can message each other throughout the week, have occasional dates, or possible fun together.

A little about me is that I’m around 5’8 and of average weight for my height. I value honesty and communication, and will most likely match your energy. If I can see you reciprocating and showing interest, I will likely open up more to you. I also find that physical attraction has to be there, so please be open to send a picture. I’m open to any age range as long as the age gap is reasonable (more flexible on younger than being older). Please say something other than hi in your first message, so that I can have more to go off of.

If you’re open to talk and get to know each other, please send a dm.

Hello! I'm a passionate and adventurous soul with an insatiable curiosity for the world. I thrive on new experiences, whether it's exploring distant lands, indulging in diverse cuisines, or simply enjoying a cozy movie night at home. Life, to me, is a series of wonderful adventures, each one a chance to learn, grow, and share with those around me.

Interests

• Travel Enthusiast: I have a deep love for travel and have been fortunate enough to do a bit. I can’t wait to go on my next adventure.

• Movie Buff: Films are a window into other worlds and perspectives. There's nothing quite like getting lost in a good movie and then discussing it in-depth with someone who shares the same passion.

• Social Butterfly: I believe that life is best lived in good company. I cherish my friendships and love meeting new people. Whether it's a casual coffee date or a relaxed evening with friends, I'm always up for socializing and making new connections.

• Food Explorer: Trying new foods is one of my greatest joys. I have a curious palate and love trying new food. From street food vendors to fine dining restaurants, I enjoy the full spectrum of culinary experiences.

• Board Game Aficionado: There's something magical about gathering around a table with friends or family for a board game night. I enjoy a wide variety of games, from strategic games to cooperative adventures. It's a fantastic way to challenge the mind and foster camaraderie.

What I’m Looking For

I'm searching for someone who shares my zest for life and is ready to embark on new adventures together. A genuine, kind-hearted, and open-minded person who values honesty and communication. Someone who appreciates both the thrill of spontaneous travel and the comfort of a quiet movie night in. If you love to laugh, have a positive outlook on life, and are excited to explore new horizons, I'd love to get to know you.

Life is an incredible journey, and I'm eager to find a partner who is as excited as I am to experience it all. Let's create memories, discover new passions, and enjoy every moment together. If this sounds like you, don't hesitate to reach out. I can't wait to meet you! 😊

Hey there, 36 years old, 5’9, transfeminine Black Tgirl. Looking for guys that would like to connect, get serviced, and have some clean safe fun. Age and body type are not important. Just be ready to chill and have a good time. I don’t charge and I can host in Los Angeles.

Open minded, STI Negative and into safe play. I have more pics too. Hit me up :)

This is AMXF but also open to all ethnicities as well to hang out and meet new people. I am helping a friend mod this new server, so it would be great if you all could spread the word!

https://discord.gg/NqxPYPAU

Hello,

I am tired of dating apps so I thought I’d try my luck here.

I’m seeking a genuine relationship with someone who values honesty, great communication, open mindedness, being genuine, and of course, cute dates. Not looking for something casual, seeking someone who is genuinely interested in something long-term.

About me: East Asian (born here) who enjoys travelling (would be nice to find a travel partner), having deep conversations, trying new food or good food, social activities with friends, movies, games of all kinds, and making time for my special someone.

Send me a message if you are in florida. Korean guy here!

If you’re interested in making friends relationships or meeting up join us here:

https://discord.gg/UeN2s9EZ

Is it wrong for me to fantasize too much about every asian guy I see on the street ? I am 18 years old

https://www.bylinebyline.com/articles/has-dac-biet-lemongrass-love

Hello,

I am tired of dating apps so I thought I’d try my luck here.

I’m seeking a genuine relationship with someone who values honesty, great communication, open mindedness, being genuine, and of course, cute dates. Not looking for something casual, but someone who is genuinely interested in something long-term.

About me: East Asian (born here) who enjoys travelling (would be nice to find a travel partner), having deep conversations, trying new food or good food, social activities with friends, movies, games of all kinds, and making time for my special someone.

Our brand new server is AMBW focused, and we want to welcome members that are preferably looking for authentic or genuine relationships. Men, women, and nonbinary individuals over 18 years of age are welcome.

Link to server below:

https://discord.gg/mPzDzTw2

Hello,

I am tired of dating apps so I thought I’d try my luck here.

I’m seeking a genuine relationship with someone who values honesty, great communication, open mindedness, being genuine, and of course, cute dates. Not looking for something casual, but someone who is genuinely interested in something long-term.

About me: East Asian (born here) who enjoys travelling (would be nice to find a travel partner), having deep conversations, trying new food or good food, social activities with friends, movies, games of all kinds, and making time for my special someone.

Hey all!~

New to this subreddit... Hi!

I'm 23, curvy/midsize, 5'4" (164 cm), looking for an Asian guy to sweep me off my feet. Bonus points if you speak Japanese (I'm learning!! 🙏) but would love chats from anyone!

I love animanga, hoyoverse games (cringe ik) and digital art! My favorite music right now consists of music from a Japanese multimedia project called Paradox Live, I'm totally normal about it (its my biggest hyperfixation)

What did you dress up as for Halloween? I got pics of me in my costume if you wanna exchange! Hit me up! 😋✌️

DISCLAIMER: not looking for fwb, hookups, nsfw exchange. i am demisexual 🤝

I’m a 41 year old Latina living in San Diego. Never married and no kids. I have a very successful career and my biggest loves is music of all kinds (not into country or top 40). I can talk about music for hours and I collect vinyls. I dress nicely and can be the life of the party but I also like being laid-back and just listening/being observant too. I’m 5ft 3 and looking for someone 5ft 10 or taller. I think inside jokes should be considered a love language. 🥰

Ambw server seriously for friends love marriage, we have game nights movie nights if you do join l hope you enjoy your stay! ❤️🤍

https://discord.gg/js4jvXhS

Asian-American M who lives in the Eastern Time Zone (USA) and is just looking to chat with the possibility of friendship.

DM at your convenience and I look forward to chatting with you.

Hello,

I am tired of dating apps so I thought I’d try my luck here.

I’m seeking a genuine relationship with someone who values honesty, great communication, open mindedness, being genuine, and of course, cute dates. Not looking for something casual, but someone who is genuinely interested in something long-term.

About me: East Asian (born here) who enjoys travelling (would be nice to find a travel partner), having deep conversations, trying new food or good food, social activities with friends, movies, games of all kinds, and making time for my special someone.

https://youtu.be/Sagi-UawbVI?si=2VM3jRIILNu9W1dT

Hi!

I’m a 30M who would love to find someone who likes to go on cute dates and cafe hopping. Hopefully we could spend some nice quality and genuine time time together to get to know each other.

About me: East Asian and around 6 feet tall. I like watching movies, puzzles, board games, socializing with friends, and travelling.

We could talk online for a while until we are both comfortable meeting in person. Not looking for long distance, sorry!

Thanks for reading.

Hiya

Im 24 and Im about 5”11 on the scrawny side with shoulder length hair. My parents are from Taiwan but i’ve been here my whole life. I like to think I’m pretty cute but i’ll let you decide that 🙃. I have an industrial and navel piercing. I work a addiction treatment center (rehab). My favorite part of working there is meeting clients from all walks of life and (hopefully) being able to help then out. Im really into art, history, music, reading, traveling, and outdoorsy stuff. Im trying to go to school for journalism. People have described me as big-hearted, freewheeling, and easy to talk to. I suppose i’m really only traditional in terms of relationships/dating. Im really passionate about the environment and social issues and just making the world a better place.

You: I guess just around my age, we dont have to have a lot in common just that we are complimentary. I guess i’m attracted to alt/punk types and outspoken and smart women. Anything goes really just as long as you’re kind and considerate to people. Oh yeah if you can make me laugh im liable to fall in love on the spot. I dont mind LDRs, it’d be cool to meet up though. Okay thats all give it a shot if it doesnt work out ill refund your solitude ☺️

https://discord.gg/js4jvXhS

Started seeing this Chinese Canadian guy who lives in a building with a lot of fancy Asians and we’ve been getting a lot of stares because we’re AMXF. Although he’s Chinese he’s kind of a dumbass when it comes to social cues and so am I, but I’m a bit better at noticing when something is off even if I have no idea what to do.

I’m feeling pressure to wear makeup just for these randos that I don’t even know. My partner couldn’t care less if I come in sweatpants, but I hate that people are staring, and I don’t like the idea that I might be seen as an “ugly” XF if I don’t do my makeup and that my partner “settled” to get an XF. I’m hot I just don’t roll out of bed like I’m about to have a photo shoot there’s stages!

Last night an Asian couple physically got out of the elevators they were in and got into ours that goes to a totally different set of apartments just to overhear our conversation and I was appalled.

What the fuck do they think we are, entertainment? There’s nothing wrong with us. We’re just regular people like them. Ugh how do I wrap my head around this?

Okay I may sound audacious about the title but at least I got your attention. 😅 I'm looking for someone to chat with either as friends, pen pals, or minglers (I made up this word lol but you get the picture), and see where it goes.

This is just a "re-post" of my previous post but with little revisions since I often reflect on my previous one and I like to think of new and catchy post titles.

Again, I don’t want to waste anyone’s time both in the short-term and long-term so I made a short and long version about myself and who I’m looking for. While distance doesn't matter to me, I’m looking for a partner with whom I can chat with every once in a while, preferably for long-term, or a super awesome best friend to whom I can open myself and potentially grow with. Or just someone to talk to and see things from there. If things don’t work out, we can still be friends!

Please note that this post may contain some strong opinions so please bear with the long text ✌️. Sorry in advance!

Short version (2-3-minute read):

• I am an ambivert who rarely talks but talks a lot when given the chance. The type of person who does get overshadowed by bigger talkers. 😔
• I may be a 26-year-old South East Asian but others have commented that I look much younger than that. 
• I may be disciplined and spoiled in my early years but I want to do things independently since I’m very adventurous and open minded. 
• My top love languages are Acts of Service, Quality Time, and Words of Affirmation. 
• My hobbies are traveling yearly to foreign countries (when I have enough vacation days), drawing digital art, poetic writing, photography, watching anime, documentaries, or KDrama, video gaming, and swimming.
• I’m a career-shifter and I have 2 bachelor’s degrees which are STEM related; Former biologist but now a web-developer developer. 🧑‍💻I’m open to any field actually!
• My likes are science, engineering, art, and comedy. I also like puns, dad-jokes, appropriate dark-humor, cartoons, sci-fi, and cheesy romance. I do love consent without coercion. 🤭
• Preferences: someone who is 20 to 27 and single. No heavy tattoos and piercings and no smokers/vapers (I myself am none of those). Prefers someone who’s kind, generous, and respectful (to themselves and others), ambitious but with realistic expectations, eager to vibe with long texts, appreciates both science and art, and knows to set their boundaries. 😏
• Things I don’t mind about you: distance, height and weight, high school, trade school, or college background, or still studying college, jobless (but I do expect this to change), girlboss, girlfailure, childless, child-free, or has children (I have no experience of being a father but I’m willing to step up). Don’t mind a non-zero body count or a widow (unless you have someone in the freezer). 🫠
• My quirks: I chat almost everyday when I’m not busy but I respect people’s boundaries of not replying. Sends memes, cute animations, and movie references sometimes to not be awkward. Bit of an airhead and had low EQ moments but is very apologetic in genuine ways. I sometimes write highly emotional, philosophical, or emotional texts and draw digital portraits of people I find interest in. I can go overboard with my ambitions so I want someone to rationally set my limits. I also like to do housework like cleaning and cooking while being an anti-consumer to save money, helping preserve nature, and trying to fix relationships. 
• Gripes/Dislikes: Personalities that revolve mostly on racism, cheating, pickpocketing, narcissism, sexism and sexual objectification, gaslighting, and bigotry. Refusing to use the rice cooker to cook rice. Also, those with condescending attitudes and those who blast terrible music in the morning and in short-format videos.

Long version (15-30-minute read):

My Personality and You: 

• I’m shy 🙈 when talking to people but I often fake my self-esteem when needed. 
• I’m open-minded and very considerate so I understand people have boundaries and limitations set by reality so it’s okay if you don’t reply immediately 🐌, especially for my long texts. People have their own problems to worry about and internal battles to conquer ⚔️. 
• I was raised with strict parents so I’m open to receiving constructive criticism to which I reflect often and be self-aware most of the time 🤔. I don’t like to cause inconvenience to strangers. That’s why I tend to follow public etiquette like leaving seats for certain people in public transportation, being quiet when most people are, not swearing and cursing in public and in front of kids, avoid staying in spots with high foot traffic, leaving restaurants quickly so other people can dine-in, and taking my time to sort my trash and stacking up leftovers and utensils on my table after eating in eateries.
• I’m nerdy about natural science 🍀, deep conversations 🔭, and programming 👩‍💻 but I’m an alien to politics 🗳️. From my experience, a lot of people approach me and ask for directions so I’m confident to say that I’m an approachable person. I think stuff logically most of the time with great attention to detail, preferring function over beauty (but I try my best to balance the best of both worlds; clever designs/engineering like science toys and kinetic sculptures mesmerize me). Moreover, as long as it is within my capabilities, I often plan proactively and take control of situations when things go out of hand instead of watching disasters unfold. You could think of me as that guy in some horror films who likes to take charge and jumps in front of someone to protect them.
• I don't know if this is informative about me but I am more into "dusk" vibes like Thursdays, October, Fall, 8PM, and sunsets.
• I like someone who knows what they want and how they want it. The more ambitious and based in sharing their thoughts, the better. More integrity and not being easily affected by peer pressure or social opinions is what I’m saying. I may be referring to tomboys (?) but I don't mind partnering with one. I also like smart and/or creative people with a tinge of seriousness; at the very least I prefer someone who has artistic or practical hobbies who can turn boredom into an art form. Empathy is also good to have since I don’t like the second-hand embarrassment of partners complaining to minimum wage workers and intruding people’s endeavors when they're not disturbing anyone.
• As for my music tastes, I like pop, upbeat, R&B, soul, and rock music. Think of me as someone who grew up listening to songs of the 2010s like My Chemical Romance, Black Eyed Peas, Lady Gaga, Owl City, Taylor Swift, Katy Perry, One Direction, Meghan Trainor, Ed Sheeran, Lenka, Maroon 5, Little Mix, Bruno Mars, Michael Buble, High School Musical 😫, The Script, Paramore, Jason Mraz, High Dive Heart, Fun, Nickelback, and Train. Classical music and show tunes (theatrical songs) are also my favorites and I'm open to songs that are non-English. I can share my Spotify playlist if you ask but it's an emotional roller coaster with all the music genres mixed up hehe.

My Physique and You:

• I’m probably a vampire 🧛 (though not as hot as ones like Dio, Edward Cullen, or Paul Rudd). Some people say I look too young to be 26 but that was probably a perk of being Asian, having lots of beauty sleep, and hiding away from the sun (I do like glow-in-the-dark things though). I’m a heavy mix of Asian races but ultimately, I look South East Asian and East Asian with black and wavy hair (prominent when it’s long enough but I keep by hair short every 3 months). Moreover, I have brown skin with monolid or “Asian” eyes. I can’t say I’m confident about my looks because of my 5’7” (170 cm) stature, acne scars, and overweight body but I’m trying to fix on the last one as long as I go out during the weekends. Despite my recent acne breakout, I’m a very hygienic person. I often wash my hands before eating and cooking, wear a face mask (primarily to hide my face 🙈), take pedicures occasionally, brush my teeth twice and floss once a day, immediately throw food wrappers after use, and frequently put the toilet seat up while doing my business and leaving it down for the next person.
• I prefer someone who is very natural and yet different from how I look. As long as you brush your teeth frequently and shower half or most of the week, I don’t mind about height and weight when the curves are in the right places (sorry if I sound shallow about the curves but the most beautiful curve is the smile!). Lighter skin, hair, or eyes are just bonuses for me. That’s mostly it, I think? Other than those, I’m not a fan of heavy smokers, vapers, tattoos, drugs, and non-ear piercings. I am none of them. I do tolerate some small vices/modifications though depending on personality. A sense of fashion is also a plus since I’m starting to see its value as I get older (I have a weakness for ladies with hats, glasses, turtlenecks, or ribbons in their hair 🤭). Additionally, I like ladies wearing oversize t-shirts more over lingerie or tight clothing. I can be supportive for vanity but not when it becomes too excessive with body modifications. You are loved just the way you are. 😎
• Also prefer someone 20-27. My eldest sister would find it awkward for me to be with someone older than her and my youngest brother would also feel the same way with someone around his age.

My career and You:

• I’m a career shifter. When I was a child, I wanted to become a doctor just like both of my parents and other relatives. I did finish my undergrad in biology for my pre-med but during med-school, I realized I was not cut out for it (and I don't want to be afraid of apples). So, I spent my remaining years of studying (intended for med) to attain another degree, IT. Right now, I’m working as a corporate web-developer and I like my job a lot 😊.
• As long as you finished high school, trade school, tech school, or college, we’re good. If you’re still studying, that’s good as well. Being jobless right now is okay because the job market is intense these days and interviews are hellish but choosing to be jobless is not what I want for my partner. I want to grow with someone who is passionate in chasing their dreams and I’m very supportive to those people who are serious in their craft regardless of the nature of their work (well so long as it’s not related criminal activities). 😅 I don’t really mind overachievers and underachievers at school, what’s important is doing your best like a girlboss and being modest like a girlfailure, no matter the outcome. Any outcome can be an achievement really and appreciating little achievements matters too!

My top love languages:

• Acts of service - With a partner’s consent and respect to her autonomy, I actually like to spoil someone just as how I’m spoiled by my family. I like to take responsibility when no one takes them and I would stand up for a partner when she doesn’t know what to do what she’s told to do. I also want to make things convenient for her like cooking, cleaning, laundering 🧺, taking out the trash, getting groceries 🛒, setting the bath 🛁 when she’s tired, giving her warm towels, feeding her in bed, picking up her feminine care, and planning on trips for the weekends. Of course, in an LDR scenario, I can be a playmate for online games like farming materials for her or be her support, send drawn portraits and compliments, and do online tasks like doing her homework, research, and taxes (probably, just kidding). When visiting my country 🏠, I’d like to host the trip and plan an itinerary. When I’m the one who's visiting ✈️, I’d still do house chores (despite being a guest) and attempt to cook my local specialties with foreign ingredients! I also sometimes carry some bandages with me just in case 🤕 and I don't mind carrying an umbrella with me every once in a while; it doesn't hurt my masculinity.
• Quality time - I want someone who appreciates doing things together with me no matter how enjoyable or boring the time is spent ⏱️. I like to be involved when doing tasks or hobbies like being in the kitchen, painting doodles, role-playing, binge-watching shows/movies on Discord, and playing video games together. The outcome really doesn’t matter as long as I get to share memories with someone special especially during her lowest of lows (cramps included). I'm also thinking of taking up more creative hobbies like crocheting, pottery making, blacksmithing, interior designing, gardening, beading, knotting, and doing resin arts as well so I also like to be with someone to learn new things with. I very rarely look at my phone when I'm physically out with someone but in an LDR scenario, chatting every day seems nice as well but I do understand if you can’t correspond immediately. I think I have the tendency to write positive letters everyday just like those wholesome sticky notes 🗒️found lying around. Writing this also reminded me of that time in college where very few of my colleagues volunteered making props with me for a school festivity. Though many weren’t as passionate as I am in crafting the props, I really did enjoy the company after class hours.
• Words of affirmation - Just as how much I love writing this post, I want share some of my positive energy for someone special 🥰. I know that compliments and flattery alone won’t take me anywhere but I want to help someone feel good despite her insecurities and self-doubts while validating her feelings. I know people are sensitive about certain topics, past-traumas, and gut-feelings, and I myself used to be treated differently in school (I got bullied a lot) so I want to be considerate for those people just so that they feel included and confident in speaking out loud. I like it when a partner excitedly talks about anything they're passionate about and I listen intently. I’m not really a love-bomber though because I don’t want toxic positivity ruining the mood, but when she’s feeling down 😞, I ask if she wants to be alone or raise her spirits, or just be there with her silently by her side. Consent and communication is important for me👏. Of course, I also want my partner to reciprocate this energy back to me when I’m feeling down as well 😥 I may be clingy at times but I’m low-maintenance mostly, I swear 🤞. I just don't want salt added to her or my wounds. Reality is harsh and chaotic as it is and a little solace is a constant that we should want.
• If you're into physical touch or receiving gifts, I can adjust! If you're into physical touch, I would like to migrate and become each other's pillows 🤗 or something more like giving massages, washing each other's hair, me giving you piggyback rides, and holding hands in public (audaciously 🫢). You can also be the melting butter over my warm pancake body (okay, that may sound strange but my imaginative writing habits come with the package). For receiving gifts, I for now can make digital art and send them over but eventually I could send international packages every once in a while (though I haven't done that before).

Hobbies:

• Traveling 🧭 - I travel with my family to foreign countries almost on a yearly basis. So, I get to have a glimpse of many walks of life. Out of the Asian countries I visited, I like Japan and Singapore the most. Italy and Switzerland for Europe. The US I guess for North America, it’s the only one I visited so far. Planning to visit Canada, Australia, New Zealand, Finland, Spain, and Poland later on. I travel locally as well by driving and biking but sometimes traveling alone with either car or bike makes me anxious without someone to navigate for me or having my bike stolen. Additionally, I can speak English and Filipino (English primarily). I do understand some Spanish (since Spanish has a lot of influence in my language), a little bit of French (both Spanish and French were part of my classes), and a smidge on Japanese, Korean, and Chinese (due to anime, KDrama, and a quick class on Traditional Chinese). If it counts, I do understand a little bit of Greek and Latin because they're part of studying biology. 🥴
• Writing ✍️ - I organize my thoughts the most by writing texts and some of my texts are very imaginative (often containing puns, metaphors, and analogies as an attempt to make jokes). When we get to chat, I am most likely going to write one paragraph per send. I sometimes tend to write an essay-length's worth of text in one day but that that very rarely happens. You may ignore most of it but I do appreciate it if you read and understand what I’m saying. If you are geeky, I can also write Java, JavaScript, C#, Python, SQL, and TypeScript.
• Cooking 🍳 - I cook often but I sometimes hate doing it for the wrong reasons. I don’t like how some ingredients are gone to waste even though I tried to preserve them. They just spoil so fast especially when I'm just experimenting recipes.
• Video gaming 👾- I’m not obsessed with video games just as I used to but at most, I play for a max of 3 hours a day or else I’ll get bored or run out of content to play with. I play mostly single player games like Stardew Valley, Final Fantasy VII, Pokemon, Witcher 3, and Genshin Impact. I also would rather play pausable and cozy games over multiplayer games if you want my attention.
• Binge Watching 🍿- I like to binge watch some shows, like documentaries, tutorials, short-films, cartoons, and anime in Netflix, YouTube, Prime Video, and Disney+. Some channels I subscribe to are SciShow, Vsauce, Kurzgesagt, Fireship, MinuteEarth, minutephysics, MinuteFood, Vsauce, Zack D. Films, and other science related ones. I also subscribe to entertainment or podcast channels like WatchMojo, Incognito Mode, Internet Historian, Pop Culture Crisis, Omeleto, Luke's Goldies, Alter, and others. If you’re a westerner, do you know you can watch a lot of newly released anime for free in the YouTube channels Muse Asia and Ani-One Asia? You just need a VPN to see the channel.
• Swimming 🌊 - I think it’s a more fun aerobic exercise than sweating over gyms. My family has a personal pool because they think kids these days still like to swim - we were wrong 😑. They like video games more.
• Anti-Consuming and Recycling ♻️ - I’m a frugal person so I don’t like how like food and “broken” objects are thrown to waste immediately. I’m also a minimalist so I don’t buy much unnecessary things. As a person who wants to preserve nature for the future, I want to extend the life of many things by fixing, reusing, or repurposing them and I hesitate to find replacements. The same goes for relationships. I prefer fixing the relationship first with open communication and negotiations before ending them completely. In a world where it is tempting to easily ghost and then find a new partner, I’m one of those few people who want to overcome internal and external challenges with someone special.

Chastity and Innocence:

• As much as I don’t like to admit it, I’m still celibate and will probably become a wizard 🧙at 30 unless taken otherwise by someone special.
• I don’t mind my partner to have a non-zero body count as long as nobody went to the freezer or the morgue 💀. I get the stigma about it but everyone is curious about it and experiencing it is natural. Of course, some make a big deal about their chastity being taken away by the wrong person but everyone makes mistakes every once in a while. I don’t want to normalize cheating (since it disrespects a fully committed partner) but I want to normalize humanizing people who lost their celibacy for reasons not related to cheating. Those with serious relationship experience like widows are fine for me but for divorcees, they need to be transparent about it to me because I want to know the complications and prepare myself what’s yet to come.
• As for my thoughts on children 👶, that would greatly depend on my partner. If she doesn’t want kids, then it’s probably for the better when everything is inflated these days 📉 and the world is messed up as it is with climate change, politics, brain-rot content on YouTube, and AI writing homeworks. Pets can be an alternative. If she does want kids, I’ll oblige as long as it is planned and the kids are vaccinated. My parents can help with the medical needs 🧑‍⚕️. I also would like to keep children from devices for digital detox and spend a lot of quality time adventuring on weekends. We can adopt too if the pain would be too much to handle. If she already has kids, that’s also okay! My genes are probably not that great anyway 🤷. I’ve never been a dad before but I’ll happily step up and become a model parent for them 🥺. I'm open to have a house filled with children's giggles and sometimes I dreamt of becoming a teacher too 🧑‍🏫 just to hear children’s laughter, witnessing their innocently dirtied faces smile over the simple things, and answer their thought-provoking questions (I swear I love how they make me reassess my view and choices in life). I’m also eager to build some pillow forts and prepare some terrible dad jokes as well!

Gripes/Dislikes: I know relationships grounded only on mutual dislikes can’t be as stable as ones foundational on mutual interests but I like to be transparent about some things that disgust me or are straight up red flags. That’s why I mentioned my interests first before writing this as a section last.

• Racism - I tolerate some degree of racism for non-bland jokes but I don’t like it when people interfere with the lives of interracial couples. Just leave them alone. Not everyone is a pure blood for a specific race and mixing races is actually beneficial for life. In agriculture, polycultures are more resilient than monocultures anyway. 🌻🌺🌹🌸💐
• Cheating - I don’t mind how open relationships work for some people. What I do mind is the dishonesty towards people who want to be monogamous. If the bond doesn’t work anymore, just leave before adding complications to the relationship like financial issues, unplanned kids, and STDs. The kids and the loyal partners are the victims here. 💔
• Pickpockets - I’ve been a victim before during my travels in Europe and it just sucks. I’ve been traumatized for being nice to strangers and don’t blame me if I’m putting up walls and refusing to talk more about my wealth. I do however still seek a partner and giving you my trust is the greatest gift I can give right now. In exchange, I’m a very secretive person and secrets between us will never be broadcasted, no matter how our relationships last or ended. 🤐
• Narcissism - Everyone deserves empathy but not everyone deserves respect. Respect is earned, not demanded. The very least you can do to me is remember my name and be genuinely apologetic. I don’t work well with narcissistic people especially when they have "elevator eyes" and don’t want to get their hands dirty. Just hearing them telling you to use your common sense in a condescending way makes my blood boil when their common sense isn’t very common. 😡 I do believe in meritocracy and make exceptions to those who earn their titles.
• Sexism and Sexual Objectification - I believe in gender equality and I despise misogynistic people. I also don’t to associate with people, especially boys, who casually and shamelessly post sexually suggestive comics or memes (like wtf, you’re not funny nor cool) and randomly insert comments that degrade and objectify women into normal conversations (why do you have the urge to do this) 🙄. I am creeped out and disgusted by people who are like this especially when they do it in Facebook on a regular basis just to get internet points from other creeps. I do admit that I like curves but I believe there's more to a person than just that. I tolerate dirty talk between consenting partners but there is a line drawn for being inappropriate to strangers or people's boundaries. If I do happen to notice some attempt or form of harassment or molestation in public, I’d honestly want to fish the victims out and ask them secretly if they want the police involve.  
• Gaslighting - What’s worse than someone lying to your face is forcing you to believe that your natural senses are deceiving you for that person’s benefit. 🐍It is dehumanizing and it can cause a person to be delusional. I know superstitions are entertaining to scare people from doing bad things and are partially scientific when the internet wasn’t around yet but disinformation disturbs me a lot when it distorts people’s view of reality 😵‍💫. I just want an honest person who is reliable and reassuring to what I feel even if the truth hurts.
• Bigotry - I believe this was mentioned before but I want to say it again - I believe in meritocracy. This applies regardless of any group and I find it shortsighted to oppress groups just because of the shallow reasoning of being born and raised differently. Everyone deserves a chance to be raised and treated equally until their choices and actions define their character. That and work ethic are only when prejudice holds value. ⚖️
• Other Minor Gripes: Refusing to use the rice cooker when cooking rice 🍚. People who blast terrible music in the morning and in short-format videos 📣. Non-disabled people parking on disabled parking spots. People who envy children for having better lives and want to make their lives terrible just to prove a point out of pettiness.

Well, that’s it about myself! It may be just the tip of the iceberg of my thoughts but I hope this is very informative. If you manage to read all the way through and scrutinize both short and long versions, I can’t thank you enough for taking your time for me 🥺. Despite all good and bad things mentioned in this post, if you’re still interested to be my friend or potentially more, just chat with me and I’ll accept the chat invite as soon as I’m not busy. Distance doesn't matter to me.

I’m patient so if you’re shy, you don’t have to send me a selfie; just don’t demand for my pic too, I’m also shy 🙈. If you do send me a pic, I’ll correspond as well, though I’m not much compared to the most handsome guys out there. A little intro can also go a long way!

My timezone is UTC +8 and I can reply beyond 12 midnight here, if you make reality better than my dreams that is 😉. Sorry being cheesy. I used to be a Tumblr user in my teens so I’m cringey sometimes. I loved every moment of writing and revising this essay for about a month or two and I was hesitant to post this until now. Again thank you for taking your time to read this!