My specific relationship dynamic is DDLG, but for the sake of those outside of the community who may not understand what that means, it is under the umbrella term of BDSM.

I don't want to talk about why I'm not feeling well. Feel free to ask but you won't get an answer

Hi! My city is outside of the USA but has a population >2.5 million.

I started last summer at new, high volume resto-bar / nightclub shortly after opening. Based on volume and social media buzz we were considered to be the most popular nightlife spot in my city all summer. I consistently sell between 4-6k on weekend nights, occasionally more. I’m also a student trying to save for the rest of uni lol

AMA!

I had always had a pretty poor relationship with my body since I hit puberty. When I got to college, I gained 3 lbs and it was like a light switch. I developed an eating disorder very fast and within a year I was diagnosed with Anorexia. I am in recovery now but I still have a lot of issues due to my eating disorder.

Going about 55mph, the sun got into my eyes and I smacked right into the back of a Chevrolet Avalanche (a beefy truck) who was at a complete stop. I was in a Chevrolet Equinox and completely totaled my car. I wasn’t hurt though, only stubbed my thumb. If i was going much faster, I would’ve died.

Doing this mainly out of boredom lol but for some background, I was raised in a very small town of only about 2,000 people in Southeast Missouri in The Ozarks.

The most common passions and recreations you are going to hear about people doing here is fishing, hunting, working on their trucks, drinking beer and guns and there are slim to no public communities for any activities

The clothes mostly consist of boots (lace ups or cowboy pull ons), flannels, camouflage, ball caps and work wear like carhartt, ariat and dickies.

Political beliefs are mostly conservative. Trump is very popular around these parts, Joe Biden hate is second nature, god is still big (dwindling with the younger generations though as I’m seeing), 2nd amendment and guns are serious and, while I will definitely not say everyone is this way here, it’s still not uncommon to hear legitimately racist and homophobic rhetoric thrown around on a serious level

Jobs mostly consist of blue collar work like farmers, sawmill workers, quarry workers but also people who work at the restaurants and gas stations in town. Jobs are very few here and you will probably have to drive at least an hour to get to work a lot of the time in one of the bigger surrounding towns

With all that being said, I am a 24 year old metal head guy who plays music, usually wears all black, crazy band t shirts, used to have long hair who is an atheist and who’s political beliefs lean towards being center left and supports certain things like gay marriage and separation of church and state. I’m just myself unapologetically.

Ask me anything!

CSA survivor not sure about recent feelings

I (56 m) am trying to make sense of the things that happened when i was much younger. From the age of 9-12 my best friend and I were "taught" about sexual acts by his older brother. He was 15 at the start and although he never touched us in anyway. He had us do things to him and later a couple of his friends. I had put it out of my mind for several decades but recently had a trigger that brought it all back. Now Im not sure what to think or how to deal with the realization that I have done those things. At the time I had no idea what we were doing was considered wrong or taboo. It was the 70s and nothing like that was talked about. Now i look back and wonder how it may have impacted me without me knowing. If it was once or twice I could probably overlook it but it was almost daily and lasted a few years. I tried to talk to my wife about it but she sort of blamed me saying you must have liked it because you did it all the time and never put a stop to it. I don't know what to think or if it matters at all. AMA I will try to answer and maybe get some advice.

Like the title says. AMA about anything.

To clarify: I wanted to be an astronaut lol. I’m 35, white male, personal trainer since I was 18, awkward sense of humor that I’ve come to understand really disarms the nerves out of people in this particular space, and I have a pretty unbelievable job that pays me very well and just generally lifts so much anxiety off of me that I see so many struggling with these days. Just for information’s sake, I am very fortunate genetically. 6’4”, 250 lbs, light brown hair and blue eyes. Generally men want to fight me in bars and clubs until we have a 10 second conversation and they realize that I don’t have a confrontational bone in my body. I’ve been humbled a dozen times lol.

Anyways, in college I played football and waited tables at a steakhouse. Ended up at my crew’s favorite after work bar one night when a huge lifestyle (SWINGERS LOL) group was visiting town. I had zero information on this culture, but I got handed a hotel room card by a ridiculously tan older gentleman in an Affliction shirt (actually a very nice guy it’s just funny looking back at it), and he had me lean down so he could tell me in my ear “It’s my wife’s birthday. This is to her birthday room, and you’re her present.” Man I laughed out loud til I realized he was serious. Then he pointed out his wife, and all reservations dissolved like Thanos snapped them away. Smoking hot blonde, clearly built by the best doctors lol but I was 19 and hot blooded: I was in. From that night on, LS couples have consistently kept in touch with me. Not for nothing, but these are some of the kindest human beings I’ve ever met they just don’t push anything or pressure me in any way but they usually ask to share my contact info with their friends that live wherever I’m going. Not once have I ever felt mislead. So here I am, on the road, making a very comfortable living, having romps with beautiful women that want nothing more from me than I want from them, and it’s just awesome lol. I’m in North Carolina for the next couple months, and there’s an unbelievable community of LS folks here. Like I said, I wanted to be an astronaut lol but I guess I took a left when I should’ve taken a right and now I’m Deuce Bigalow. AMA

Note: Auditory-olfactory synesthesia is when you can smell sounds

Whether you want to know how it is or want an advice.

I will answer anything as honestly as I can (apart from IDing myself)

Just very happy about it all and want to share about it

Enjoyed all of it it was lovely ;) Ask me anything, NSFW for wilder ques

Like she was so entitled and made it seem like it’s a privilege for me . And I just felt owned by her the entire trip.

Some quick context :

I do stripping and exotic dancing . And from time to time I get hired on cruises and trips.

I perform twice a day usually . And the cruise took 8 days in total .

Second day there , she approached me after a performance to tip me , she was tipsy , and very touchy and flirty . I heard of her name before but never really cared or knew what she did . But she was flirty and kinda bragging and showing off . And didn’t leave me alone until we ended up in her room and hooked up.

The power struggle was very evidence . Like she made me feel i wasn’t equal to her and that i was lucky that she approached me . She was so entitled and it was like she expected me to always say yes .

I guess I never knew why I didn’t stop it or why I didn’t refuse , maybe her status and I guess I thought it could’ve helped me or something . But I ended up regretting it cause for the rest of the cruise she just acted like she owned me , like I was her girlfriend . And she wasn’t subtle about it at all . And as someone who hates confrontation, I let it happen specially cause I was getting tipped nicely after each performance .

Funny enough, once I looked her up after all that , and she’s not the most liked online, and now I can see why lol

For context im Spanish/American and have been moving countries my whole life. So far I've lived in Israel, Mexico, Bolivia, USA, Portugal, Spain, and Ecuador, though I'm moving in a year or so to a diff country, idk which one yet. As of now I've been living in Ecuador for the past 2 years. It's been kinda difficult but I can't imagine I would be able to live my life any other way :D

One moment, I see my fellow humans, and think "yay, other humans", and feel an extreme love towards them and all other humans, and the next moment, I see humans acting like animals, and I start seeing myself and other humans as filthy animals, and am disgusted. Sometimes, I see humans as animals, but love them the same way one would love a cat or a dog.

I am kinda bored, send questions and I'll try answer as many as I can.

I used to be completely and utterly obsessed with men. Men my age, older, much older.
Didn't hit me until much later that I just wanted them to be obsessed with me, I would kind of just dump them as soon as they gave into what I wanted, I would be hardcore infatuated with them beforehand.

The ones that didn't want me immediately were like games, the more they didn't want me - but played into the game (people like me) - the more it would hurt my feelings but make me more infatuated with them.