I'm considering starting T in the next year, but the only thing holding me back really is voice changes. I don't think I mind the idea of the loss of upper vocal range. But I do worry about the time it'll take to get used to my voice while my kid is so young? He's 4, almost 5. We love to sing songs together, it's a big way we play and spend time together.

I worry about T kind of changing that, at least for the first year or two before it settles. I don't want to lose my ability to sing songs with my kid during these early years. Idk I just keep circling around these worries not really knowing what to do with them. I don't even know if my worries have any real basis, I get confused when I try to research how T changes adult's voices. My brothers and dad are both baritones, but they are cis so I don't know if my voice would get that deep? I'm sort of a mezzo soprano range, but with effort I'm a contralto.

Did anyone else start T with a young child and have any advice about singing?

Hi everyone,

I’m 44 and newly transitioning—been on HRT for just a few weeks, so I’m not passing yet, but I’m hopeful!

I wanted to get some advice about dating as a trans woman. I’m bisexual but not really interested in dating cis women anymore—been down that road too many times. I love straight men and often find hookups on Grindr, but I’ve never been in a serious relationship with a man. I think I’d really love to experience that. I’m also curious about T4T relationships. I love femininity, and it seems like there would be a lot of comfort and understanding in dating someone who gets the journey I’m on.

I’ve heard that straight men often enjoy being with trans women but don’t want to commit. Is that true? It seems like there are so many single men out there who could be open-minded.

Dating has been rough so far—maybe because I don’t pass yet—but I’d love to hear any advice, insights, or stories you want to share.

Thanks for reading, and please keep it positive—negative or confrontational people will be blocked quick af!

My state passed a bathroom ban for all schools and colleges, and of course there's the nonsense going on in DC, so the owner wants to be sure if there was ever a full bathroom ban put in place, that no one can say anything about which restroom I use so they are changing the signs to gender neutral. The women's rooms are single occupancy anyway and it's just me and 1 cis woman here, the rest are cis men, but they are making sure I don't run into issues down the line. Everyone at work has been great to me since I came out about 9 months ago (I was out everywhere else for 2 years, but when I started here I applied as male to feel it out before coming out after a few weeks). Just another example of how lucky I've been since the start, I see so many bad experiences we have. I hid for so long because I thought coming out would destroy everything in my life, but everything got better and I've had so few run ins with vocal transphobes that I can count them in one hand in 2 years time. I lost 1 friend, by my choice, because even though he said he was accepting I could feel the judgement and a few comments he made about trans in general. A few relatives that I barely talked to got more distant, but that's about it with people I know. My last work my direct boss obviously had issues, but here everyone is great. Day to day life I get very rare reaction, you'd think people don't even notice, but I'm pretty obviously trans when you see me. Ifbi would've known, I would have done this so much sooner.

So how common is this feeling? I'm really early into my transition 2 months and counting and still not socially ready for social transition for a few key reasons.

Anyway so I keep like having these periods where I feel happy and girly and bubbly and euphoric and I feel like so much is happening and I see "her" peeking back at me in the mirror.

Only to be followed by feeling ugly and manly and not bubbly and quiet and feeling like nothing has changed, it usually happens in like cycles I guess, seems to have no distinct pattern but it's really discouraging to go out even in boy mode and despite feeling so feminine and cute the day before, the following I can be out at a store and feel the perception of myself being in boy mode like im wearing a sign that says IMPOSTER HERE.

I'm assuming we all experience this?

Sometimes it's very little but this past week it's been pretty dysphoric and noticeable.

Any tips? I know it's not my dosing schedule because sometimes when my E is on the lower side closer to my next injection I feel fine and days on injections I don't and vice versa so it doesn't seem to be hormonal based, but more self image and emotional.

No matter how many times my friend calls me cute in this dysphoric period it doesn't feel believable and then euphoric times I feel so hot and pretty and bubbly.

Lame isn't it? I'm also an impatient girl who wants to be at 2 years hrt on day number 61 😆

We had a day out together and then some chill time for self care. Bought some girly stuff like body wash and lotion as well as some lounge leggings. I typically wear leggings around the house a few days a week. She had said something about doing my hair and makeup yesterday and I told Her we could (seemed like a fun thing for her to do). Then today I brought it up and she said let’s do it today, but then we didn’t, so I brought it up in bed just now and she said “hunny are you trans”.

And do you know what I told her? “No ha.”

Then she said she just forgot about the hair and makeup thing.

Part of me is terrified and ashamed, but also relieved.

Truthfully I don’t even care about labels, trans, non-binary, male/female, I’m just existing (hope people can relate).

Where do I go from here? Had Some big emotions the last few weeks as I’ve accepted I want to appear more feminine than I do

Edit to add: she has been trying to part my long hair down the centre for a long time and I finally embraced it yesterday with a little ponytail too. She kept excitedly asking what changed, why now? But what freaks me out is her tone of slight apprehension and the pause before she asked if I was trans

Edit 2: shit is scary and I'm terrified. Why does this make me feel even worse??

For context I am a mostly closeted trans femme. I have only told my wife about my desire to be a woman. She was axcepting and we started experimenting with transitioning at home and it was to much of a change for her too fast and she became uncomfortable with it so I stopped pursuing it.

I still will wear my breast forms every once in a while to bed in which she is ok with. I swear I feel like I am missing something after I take them off. I love feeling the weight of them or the feeling of wearing a bra. I don't know why but it feels so comfortable having a bra on.

I wish I could try hrt just for a little bit and see how it feels but I just don't think my wife will be accepting and I don't want to risk our marriage.

Does anyone else relate? What ended happening in your situation? Did you transition or hold off in order to preserve relationships?

Should I transition?

Trans girls who had started transition after 30's how is been the process, I'm almost 35, and I been struggling with dysphoria, and therapist recommended to transition but I'm unsure about how effective the hormones will be

Additionally, I have no support network, and my family is really homophobic, for which i am afraid of coming out as trans, they know I'm bi since I was 17, but still being a complicated relationship, I even move from my home city to the other side of the country, and even I don't really have much contact with them is always hurtful listen hate comments

I (33) came out six week ago, and have been struggling really hard.. long story short, have lost my wife, have had to move out (away from my kids), and only have my brother (who is amazing) for social support.

Psychologist strongly suggested that I attend a gender inclusive group.. so I have found one that meets tonight.

I am normally a very extroverted and outgoing person, but this last couple of months have absolutely destroyed any semblance of the confidence I once had.

Kinda freaking about about what it will be like, and like.. what I should wear? 😅 in the early stages of mtf, but still very much boy mode.

Just posting here for accountability, and making sure I attend 😅 wish me luck!

I recently came out at work and plan to socially transition soon, but I'm not there yet. My colleagues have been super supportive and accepting, including my immediate boss.

The organisation I work for has a clear policy on diversity and inclusion including gender identity, but I suspect they have nothing detailed regarding transitioning at work because it's never come up yet.

I'd be interested to hear about experiences of others, with issues like access to washrooms, name changes etc.