I recently went through a situation that really shook me emotionally. I met this girl who initially seemed incredibly sweet and caring. She would send me thoughtful messages, memes, and genuinely seemed excited to spend time with me. She made me feel like I was someone special to her.

But after we became intimate, her attitude changed drastically. She became distant, both physically and emotionally. Eventually, she told me she wasn’t attracted to me anymore and didn’t want to continue seeing me. What hurt the most wasn’t just her decision, but the way she delivered it. She said she wasn’t satisfied after our night together, and it felt like a direct blow to my confidence.

Even though she didn’t explicitly say it, I strongly suspect her dissatisfaction was due to the size of my penis, which has always been an insecurity of mine. For context, my length is 5.3-5.5 inches (13.5-14 cm), and my girth is 4.1-4.3 inches (10.5-11 cm). She never explained herself clearly or gave me a chance to understand what had changed.

What confuses me is how someone who seemed so kind and genuine at the start could act in a way that felt so hurtful and dismissive. It’s almost as if I had done something wrong, even though I tried to be respectful and understanding throughout.

Is it normal for someone to switch their behavior like that? To go from making you feel appreciated to leaving you feeling inadequate and confused? Or did I just misjudge her entirely?

Hello! Im 19yr old with a 5x4.3 inch tool And simply im done with life! I already suffer from mental issues and my tool size is just adding more weight. I want to live a normal life and maybe someday have a wife. But i feel like its impossible with my size because everywhere i look even in my friend group there are people with same size soft as im hard or even bigger Like literally 100% of my friends. So i find it very difficult to believe that someone would want me when theres so many other good options. Also doesnt help that im not that good looking either so im basically like nothing.

Yesterday, in the locker room at my gym, there was a guy who I know for sure has a small penis (because he always changes in a hidden corner). After his workout, he found his usual spot taken, so he had to stand in the center, right next to me, in a more visible area. I pretended not to notice, but he kept acting as if nothing was wrong. He wandered around the locker room in his bathrobe over his underwear, waiting for people to leave, but that didn’t happen. Eventually, he was forced to take off his underwear under the bathrobe before heading to the shower.

I felt terribly embarrassed watching that scene because it could have been me in the same situation.

It was a humiliating moment for both, him and me. 🙁

Do others really see us this way?

Should I be honest with this new girl I'm seeing about my small penis before hand or should I let her find out on her own?

I’m 23 years old I’ve been reliving the same trauma for 7 years now.

All through high school I never got into actual relationships because of my size. I dealt with PE and must have hyper sensitivity or something. I often didn’t and don’t make it past even making out. They are definitely related and cause one another.

I’ve never had a problem with attracting girls - I was always considered good looking and never had issues attracting girls. The issues always came whenever intimacy and sex came into play.

I’ve always had a fear of rejection or abandonment once a girl finds these things out. So many girls I have passed up relationships with, made up excuses not to hang out with, and pushed away, because I knows they wouldn’t last once they find these things out. And I continue to push girls away because of it.

Have had a number of girls talk behind my back, saying “it’s not what I expected” suggesting they’re disappointed. The last time which was 5-6 months ago now this girl and I tried to have sex. She was on the curvier side, and long story short it wouldn’t fit inside of her because it was too small. Never have felt so humiliated and insecure.

I got the word “alone” tattooed on me when I was 21. I’ve always known it was going to end with me by myself.

I’m so genuinely traumatized from all this. So damaged. Every day I try and run away from all these memories. With work, the gym, recently started smoking again. Can’t seem to heal it or escape it. I can’t have relationships with beautiful women who want me because I know my size won’t be enough for them. I still feel like my 8th grade self. Supposed to be a grown man at 23 able to take care of myself and others.

Has taken such a toll on my life my $100k business is slipping away. I go in and out of depression every day. Haven’t worked out at all this week. I’m big on social media for making social confidence videos and uplifting others, and I’ve just fully stopped posting. I have zero confidence besides my fitness but we all know having a good body is nowhere near enough. I can’t go even 24 hours without major depression and being bedridden. Find myself crying every other day.

Any success I have in life will all just be a cover up for a broken damaged traumatized and deeply insecure and hurt man.

I don’t know what to do at this point. It’s been 6 years now of the same sadness and depression. Can’t seem to move forward in life with all this burden. Just tired.

Not necessarily looking for advice but just letting you all know there are others who are hurting just like you. I’m in so much pain. This shit has ruined my life. I should be way ahead of where I am but I carry the weight of this reality and my past everywhere I go. And I can’t seem to move forward. I’m hurting my family. I’m hurting my future self. So much pain and genuine sadness. Don’t see myself making it past 25. Hurts to breathe. I pray not to wake up every day. One day my prayers will be answered and that’s all I look forward to.

Now Im by no means implying that these women "prefer" smaller penises or are into them , but they are trying their hardest to sympathise with our situations with volatile feelings involved. Its like if women ever had to face anatomical dealbreakers when it came to sex and relationships i would try my hardest to sympathise with them and understand their situation as well , even though I might not be directly interested in said women due to their conditions .

Id want to show up for them and be an ally to them as best as I could.

But some of the replies women get when they comment here are absolutely disgusting which perpetuates an even further negative stereotype about us guys . Some of the comments are straight up vile and misogynistic that don't have a place here. Women are not to blame for our anatomical and genetic shortcomings .

Women who lurk and comment here i extend my gratitude to you who care about our grievances and try your best to sympathise with us , and being good allies to us.

A lot of you don't know this but so many men skim through comments just to find one woman who would stand up for them in their tough times and would call out body shaming in men .

You guys motivate me to be better allies towards women in general and im happy you're here ✌️

Hi, im a 16 years old guy (17 in a few months) and im 3'5 not bone pressed, but on top of that I suffer from phimosis, can I hope for hormonal help by a doctor or im done for Life?

I'm starting to go to the YMCA to do group play activities with my toddlers and to exercise. I'm running into the problem that my dick sticks straight out 1.5" and is very noticable in my exercise pants. This is bad in the gym but especially bad doing "gym jam" in the presence of toddlers and parents. I'm pretty sure I caught the girl who runs the gym jam looking recently, and I'd rather not weird anyone out.

I'm looking for something that's going to either smooth and hide my bulge completely or make it look like a normal average flaccid penis.

I've seen "shields" to prevent camel toe when women wear yoga pants. Is there anything similar for men?

I asked ChatGPT and it recommended support briefs, but I've tried those and to me it just seems to make the problem more obvious.

Me and her have been talking for six months now. Been kinda flirty here and there but nothing serious. We got on the subject of exes and she told me her ex was horrible (the usual) and she would send him shrimp emojis randomly and would make fun of him and call him shrimp dick.

And while, I am in this subreddit for a reason and thought would she do the same to me?

Hi I’m 17. 5’8 and about 175lbs. I don’t really know how to measure anything but I’m around 1.5” soft and 2.8-3 hard. I’m so embarrassed of it and don’t know what to do. I have social anxiety so I’ve never had a relationship, I’ve barely talk to girls. I like this girl but I don’t want to be laughed at if we ever actually do get together and get to the sex stage or with any girl for that matter. I’ve never really experienced any puberty besides hair in most areas. Never had voice cracks, never had any growing pains, never noticed any growth to length or girth. I don’t really know if it will ever grow. I don’t know what to do. I’ve had multiple suicidal thoughts due to mental health reasons and physical appearance and how people usually treat me. I don’t know what to do. I hat everything about me. I look in the mirror and don’t anything to be happy about. I care about people and am very loyal but that dosent seem to matter because most people I’ve met (Girls) care about looks. I can never actually grow a connection with anyone because I can’t seem to speak to anyone I’m interested in and get to know them. If I ever can get a partner I’m worried that they will laugh and ghost me after seeing it. I seriously don’t know what to do. I’ve done therapy and it dosent help, been to a doctor and they only say I’m still going through puberty. Like I don’t know what to do. I just want to have a good relationship with a partner and them not judge me off the bat. Life seems so difficult for me I just need advice on what I should do. The amount of insecurity’s I have about myself and all the negative thoughts I have about being in a relationship with someone is taking a heavy hit on my mental health. I just want it to be different and actually find joy in life

I just don’t know how to feel positive about this. I constantly see how being small is bad, from media, people around me, and people I date. How do I not hate it, or my body when society shows it’s something to hate. And then we’ll get made fun of for being insecure. There’s a difference between insecurity and correctly reading how society feels about your body. Clearly it’s something worthy of being insecure about.

I haven’t been able to bounce back from my latest rejection and honestly I think I’m just realizing that a relationship isn’t going to happen, not that I blame anyone other than myself for that. I really wanted to have the opportunity to have a family and I’m just not good enough.

I think death is probably the only option for me, I’m just not strong enough to live in this world. I’m amazed by the people that can move past this and still live life, I wish I had the strength.

Update: I don’t know if anyone wants an update or if it really matters, but I am still alive

Virgin at 37 with a deep insecurity for my size (4.5 inches hard). No matter how much I try something always makes me realize that idk how many women will genuinely like my size or be pleased by it. Also the years of holding this in have brought me to a point where I don’t feel like trying simply because it seems like an insurmountable obstacle. I know this is starting with my mindset but I don’t fully believe women will be so happy to be with someone my size there especially when they have been with bigger. Any others in a similar situation? Or am I being silly and wasting time and potential opportunities?

Am I too young for this?

I am 17 and my penis is 3.8'( 9.5 cm), 4 inches on a good day.

Will I get bigger or am I fucking stuck with this shit for the rest of my life, I feel trapped in this fucking body, I wish death would come upon me sooner and be free of this problem.

Am I deserving of love?

Am I still sane? I don't know. But I sure as hell know, I'm fucking trapped in this body.

I don't fault girls that they want bigger ones, but don't punish me for not being your preference...

I hope for a faster death.

A question primarily for those in relationships or that have had several -

Do you reveal your size before becoming intimate or do you just drop the robe in front of them for the reveal?

I feel really apprehensive about physical contact, and I don't know if I should just tell her that I'm short (4") so as to avoid shock in person or if I should wait until we are both naked, and we are both feeling insecure and try to play it cool?

I know everyone is different but would like to know the general consensus - which of the two is the lesser evil so to speak?

So as the title suggest, i am new here and especially in sex life so idk what's the minimum - average size (length and girth) of a penis for a guy. I would put my measurements but im scared that i will be ridiculed and judged of how big/small my dick size/girth is. So i would appreciate if you guys could share with me your size or what size/girth of the average to not be called as small dick.

Tq!

Anyone else had it insinuated in a "friend" group (group of people who tolerate you after you insist on hanging with them/want you for your money) that you have a small penis? Whenever this happens I always have difficulty lying it away or playing it off (I never lie about anything so I have no practice). And then these "friends" start making fun of me even more relentlessly for my small penis and making little dick jokes.

It's like everyone knows I have a tiny dick innately - like they were born with this knowledge. It makes me want to kill myself and forces me to avoid all social situations and encounters. I just want to disappear

3.5" NBP BTW

First of all I'm not in a good mental state right now to correct my grammar and english is not my main language but I wanted to vent so bear with it

My gf and I had a dirty talk last night that leads to me asking her a hypothetical question "what if my penis is small?"

She then replied,

"As long as you fingers and eat me then its fine but there's no more blowjob and sex"

"I'll still love you but I won't suck it if it's small"

"I just dont like to pleasure it because its small but i still love you"

"Its love and you should be grateful for me not leaving you despite you having a small one"

after that she made fun of guys for having small penis saying that their life is sad and miserable

She saw pictures of my dick already but haven't seen it on personal yet and it's quite bigger in picture than the actual one (barely 4inches in length if i try to push the ruler hard enough and around 3.5 in girth)

To think that I don't deserve any kind of pleasure just because I was born this way is so cruel and there's no way i can even change it. I fucking hate my life. To think that I'll be living with this body till i die is so unfair. Why me. Fuck this.

I just don't know what to do right now, what I feel right now is I just want to give up on relationships and be alone forever. I'm someone who don't deserves any kind of love just because of my penis

I do wish that what I'm writing right now is all made up but it all happened last night. i fucking hate my self. I fucking hate my penis. fuck this shit

Hello again, and good evening to you all.

I’m making this small post to discuss my experiences with the people I’ve come in contact with because of this sub. (And to make a more positive post.)

I’d like to publicly thank a majority of you for being so supportive and helpful. I’ve genuinely felt so much better about myself, and I’ve never been happier. A lot of people reached out to me via DMs and it’s truly amazing how supportive some of y’all are. A good few took the time to actually talk to me, listen to my thoughts, and give me feedback. To those people, thank you. I wish I could show my appreciation more.

However, I’ve also received some very negative DMs, and I’m just now realizing how truly negative some people can be. I’ve been called names, harassed, and even had to argue with some people. I don’t understand how a community that should be tightly nit, supportive, and all around caring, is somehow so rude and disrespectful. Life gave us a bad deck of cards, but that doesn’t mean you should unleash your anger onto random strangers online.

It’s truly incredible how one body part has completely transformed our lives and personalities. Some of us have accepted it, and try to live a successful life, while others don’t. Some actually have solid arguments and opinions, others don’t, and yet they won’t back down. At the end of the day, being positive is something that should be a top priority. I know it’s hard, and as someone who struggles with self hate, I understand how easy it is to spiral away from positivity. But, we need to at least try and be positive. The world may not get you, but the people on this sub do. Be supportive. Be kind. Be positive and show kindness. Day by day, life will get brighter. I promise.

That’s all from me, hopefully that all made sense lol. Take care everyone, and remember, love yourself!

Like when you know of a male celebrity who is tall, handsome, muscular, and smart/talented. And then somehow his nudes leak and it turns out he also has a huge dick?

I feel like most of the time, if I see a super attractive dude, I’m relieved he at least has an average or small dick. Or if I see a super hung dude, he doesn’t seem to have much else going for him.

But when I see a guy who has everything going for him. I’m just like.. why didn’t I get even a single ounce of that luck? I know, I know, stop comparing to these guys, but like, come on… wtf

the small dicks of society get very little to no love. in a world of oversized cocks we are a minority that seems to get ignored and unloved. We get treated like we aren't even human.

From the start of high-school I've known that I have a small penis and it hasn't really changed from then. I have just about 5 inches if not a wee bit smaller. I found out mine was small through friends. I started watching porn in high-school but always thought it's unrealistic to compare myself with those men because they were spacificly picked out because of their size so I thought it was a rare occurrence. But some of those sizes are more common than you would think. As a result all of my high-school I refrained from interaction with the opposite sex to mitigate humiliation. Then near the end of my high-school years, I was bombarded with "not the size of the boat" rhetoric. Which was encouraging, so I gave it a try, watched videos on how to make women orgasm and decided I had to try it out. Years passed with no one being attracted to me. I had finally had enough and posted an add on my towns personals saying I was willing to pay for sex. At this point it's totally out of wanting to know how I would do with a real woman. I had got some responses from women wanting to meet so I did just that I made arrangements to hookup with those women. Me, with my knew found knowledge of women not being as superficial as I thought they were, I gave it a go, we met up, we had sex, I did my thing, and I FAILED. I couldn't make her organism. All she said "I guess it's because you are too small", and my heart broke. She said I was "a good guy; funny, somewhat good looking, hight on the shorter end, nice, and patient." "But my penis is too small for her." I tried this two more times with the same result all saying they didn't cum "because I'm small". All participants had orgasmed before meeting me. All this to say I don't have any hope women will like me for the sex but maybe if I ever gain confidence and work on my social anxiety I'll get a girl that's in it for the company. Toys are also another option but I think I'm done with sex for now.

Due to current cultural norms people laugh when seeing immaculately sculpted marble figures from ancient Greece and Rome yet, often the small genitalia is brought up as a point of humor, ignoring the craftsmanship and beauty just to scoff at their size. The Romans believed smaller genitalia directly correlated with higher intellect, ancient Greece saw it as a virtue of self control. Why can’t we begin to slowly shift the culture subtly through educating ourselves and others on these topics and introducing new virtues less directly associated with the sexual act itself but the softer more romantic aspects of a relationship that women crave as has been the norm in previous civilizations.

Title tbh 3.5"

I was just wondering if guys would find me less attractive because of my smaller dick (I’m like 1 inch soft and 3 inches hard). I’ve only been with someone else one time, and he laughed when I pulled my pants down. I didn’t think my size mattered if I was a bottom, but maybe it does.

Hello everyone. This post might sound dumb or obvious to some so feel free not to comment if you don't like.

So, by now it is pretty much obvious, judging by real life experiences (especially if you ever went to college and similar) that most women (by most I mean at least 80%, so at least 8 out of 10 women) prefer average to slightly above average to big dicks; definitely not small dicks (from slightly below average to small to micro).

Also, in my terminology, small is everything below average, average is exactly 5.5 inches and big is everything above average. So when I say that, from my experience (and many people from this sub), most girls prefer bigger dicks I don't mean 12 INCH MEGA DICKS just above average.

But I never actually heard why is that so? Or even asked that question myself: why do women not prefer small dicks or prefer bigger dicks?

I can't really pinpoint a specific reason: is it because of human anatomy, more confidence with big guys, more pleasure, mental stimulus, social status bigger guys have, etc.?

When you think about logically - it doesn't make sense that women have dick size preference at all and yet most prefer bigger dicks hence why this sub exists.

So in your opinion what do you think the main reason is this sub exists and women prefer bigger dicks or not prefer smaller ones or care about size at all? Wouldn't it be logical that women shouldn't care about size at all?

I've been insecure about my small penis for a long time. It's gotten to the point where I would socially isolate and just be in constant agony over it. But I think as time goes on I am learning to accept myself more. I mean I still wish it was bigger but there is nothing I can do about it and there are millions of people with small penises around the world who are probably living fulfilling lives. I mean I might not get to live the life of debauchery that I really wish for but I'm sure that I can still live an okay life if I just let go of my feelings of inadequacy that don't really serve me. Yes I do have a small penis but I am not subhuman I am enough.

Anyone got any tips how to do a quick edit to make it look slightly bigger nothing crazy

I have a 2'' inch penis, but it seems people here do not deviate too much from the average. It seems that people here violate rule number 5. I really cannot penetrate, my penis don't get hard (I have spinal cord injury when I was 2 years old). I had a couple of erections, but nothing longer than 3 inches. So, I was never motivated to get any treatment. I am not so concerned with "finding someone" (I am heterosexual, male, 43), after all, women that date man can have relationship without a penis. Think of bisexual women as one example.

So I been talking to this girl (20 yo) and almost everything has been good. She started sending me nudes at some point which got me excited. Then she randomly sent me a picture of her holding a tex chocolate bar with the caption (chocolate length matters and a can of monster on the side for scale). For context, a tex cchocolate bar is 5.5 inches long and I'm 4.5 inches.

Now this got me nervous but I'm not too phased, I've had enough sex to know that younger, less experienced ladies tend to be under the impression size is everything. But it still sucked because a part of me wished I could send a picture showing her how I'm bigger than the chocolate bar (I'm not). Here is to hoping my skill will be enough to whoo her despite her expectations.