I was at a female friend's party and only knew a few people. She was trying very hard to hook me up with some of her friends, one of which was gorgeous. I mostly forgot about my dick problems and things were going well, but there were other guys who she was giving attention to so I didn't get my hopes up.

I ended up sitting with this guy who she seemed pretty close with, and some other dude. They seemed chill but eventually started talking about condoms. They had obviously had similar talks before, and were bragging about needing bigger sizes, splitting the rubber and comparing brands. I felt a wave of insecurity partly due to my inferior size and partly because of my lack of experience.

I half jokingly brough it up to my friend who confirmed the claims, and even hinted that she had experienced it.

My confidence was gone, and couldn't find the energy or courage to pursue this girl anymore - and of fucking course they end up making out and (almost definitely) going home together.

I'd really like to believe size doesn't matter, but the confidence it would award you me would do 90% of the work.

you were so quick to block me man

if your post was true, your previous posts of doomerism wouldnt have been posted, lmao

I was going to comment on u/Commercial-Glove-673's post, but I decided to make my own about sex without a focus on PIV (penis in vagina) sex.

When I was 19, this 23-year-old woman started showing interest in me. A thicc girl with an impressive rack and a pleasant face. She’d slept with another guy from my apprentice school, and I’m guessing a few more men before us two. Someone I probably wouldn't take home to mum.

We chatted a few times at a mutual friend’s place, and then she rang me up and asked me to come over to my share house one Friday night. Friday night came around, and she turned up with 24 cans of beer and some takeaway food. A few beers in, we ended up in my single bed, and it was on. She was on her period, and I thought that was it for the night because I’d never received oral sex before. When she went down on me, I thought all my Christmases had come at once! With her on top, I also had my first go at tit-fucking a girl. Her ample bosom completely smothered me that night.

The next morning, she asked if I wanted to come over and spend some time at her empty share house, and I could hardly refuse. On the way there, she was driving on the freeway and rubbing my crotch at the same time. We spent the next day and a half lying on a camp mattress in the lounge room, fooling around and exploring each other’s bodies, and she spent a decent amount of time pleasuring me orally. I’d lost my virginity to my girlfriend a few years earlier in a dark room, but this was a profoundly different & enjoyable experience and the first time I’d been with a naked female in the daytime. We showered together and even took a bath. In the tub, she was propped up against the edge, and I reclined on her, using her boobs as a pillow while she gave me a reach-around.

The next Friday night, she came back over, and we skipped the food and drinks. This time, she climbed on top after rubbing her breasts all over my upper body and sat on my cock. Her vagina was incredibly wet. I mean, running-down-my-groin wet. I was all at sea with this experience. The PIV was warm and with little friction. It was still enjoyable, and I know she was turned on.

A few weeks later, she invited me to her new place, and as soon as her housemate went to bed, she was blowing me again. This woman was a trooper when it came to wanting to please me like she aimed to be an oral Olympic medalist and I was the training track. We ended up having PIV sex in her bedroom, and it was enjoyable, but nothing like what I’d go on to experience later, as women come in many shapes and sizes. I never returned her calls after that night and moved on to chasing other experiences.

Did I have a good time with her? It was divine.
Did I lean back with my hand on my hip and fuck her like a rock drill? Not a chance.
Was this experience something you’d watch while searching for online porn content? I highly doubt it.
Was the entire experience better than my best wank? You bet your sweet bippy it was.

The things you do now are the experiences you’ll reflect on in years to come. Would you rather think back on how many times you were able to say “gaslight” in a week, win a pointless argument on Reddit, or remember motorboating the hell out of a woman?

Don’t let a sub-4” penis hold you back from experiencing intimacy. This woman was an average horny suburban girl, and there are plenty of them out there.

Hello everyone, i am a straight guy with a 3.6 BP

Apologies for English writing, not my first language, thank you.

I enjoy listening to rap music and a trend I notice is them talking about having big dicks. Rap is a popular genre and alot of people listen, including girls, and them hearing these lyrics on the regular must impact their thoughts. I like listening to G eazy. I think he is good. But he has some songs that irritate me with the previously mentioned rap problem. His song Yeah thats alot, I know what hes talking about im not dumb, yeah thats alot. The song he goes if i hit it one time, its just about dicks man. I cant escape. I love rap and it frustrates me.

He also talks about it and literally mentions it in his song if he says something I mean it, he means it. Drive me crazy man. That means he has a big dick, he wouldnt say it if he didnt mean it. And I am a fan, just wish he wouldnt say these things, I went to the G eazy album listening party bro.

and just a side note. My girl works at subway, and this is just a thought of mine, an insecurity. Tell me if I am crazy. But because she works at subway, and operates the 6 inch and footlong subs, it makes me feel inferior. Just more stuff I dont like. Apologies for the rant. Had to get this off my chest as this is my story on PAper.

Thank you and god bless.

Hello. I have posted in here before but deleted those posts due to insecurity.

I have a micropenis. Soft, it looks like someone sucked on a strawberry for too long, and then glued that to my pelvis.

Erect, it’s about as long as my middle finger, so about 3 inches, and about as thick as twice my thumb, so maybe a little less than 3 inches.

I am tired of caring what other people think of me. Any woman or even man that tries to make fun of me, must want to touch it, because apparently they think about my dick often.

I will have to endure a good bit of rejection and even some ridicule, but I am not alone. I will persevere.

I will find a woman who loves me. And I will love her.

She will enjoy my penis. We will make it work.

I cannot let fear win. I cannot let anxiety destroy my mind and body. There is too much to live for, and too much fun to be had.

It may take all my life, but god fucking damn it, I am not giving up.

Fuck everyone who puts us down.

There are gorgeous and sweet hearted women in this subreddit that are either with men who have small penises, or have had sex with men with small penises and fucking made it work.

I get the pain. I get the emotional distress.

People just suck sometimes. Most of the times. Because they cut you off on the highway. Because they park too close at Walmart so you can’t get back in. Because they demand the display model for a discount when you have plenty of boxed items in stock.

But then there’s too many people that smile and ask about your day. That give large tips because you have them extra bread. That take the extra second to wish you a good day and actually mean it.

There literally has to be plenty of women for me. For you. For all of us.

I don’t expect some of you to believe me. I don’t expect some of you to agree.

But I do expect you to take at least one fucking second to consider.

Someone is out there. I’ll find her.

Yup it’s a cruel existence no positivity exists if you have a dick that isn’t super hung. No matter what I do I can’t escape the reality that I’ll never be lusted after or wanted I’ll just be settled for while she cheats on me with a big dicked dude or dildo that’s 4x my size. Even started going to the gym and trying to socialize more but I still come home and have to face my reality. There’s no positivity for this issue ANYWHERE even on sub reddits like small dick positively it’s all just women who lie about size not mattering but if you check out their profiles you’ll see they don’t really feel that way. Im sick of the gaslighting from people saying dick size doesn’t matter if it didn’t matter then places like this wouldn’t exist. Think I’m going to bite the bullet and get an escort so for once I can actually feel wanted even though she really doesn’t want me it’s just a facade. Sorry for the rant it’s been rough recently.

17yrs and 4 inches. I went to a urologist and endocrinologist, the endocrinologist gave me a prescription to take Deposteron, my testosterone was very low. it's been 4 days since I got my first dose of testosterone. I hope it's not over for me yet. Wish me luck, guys 🙏🏻

I have a 3.5" NBP erect penis, so I know I have no hope of ever giving a woman an orgasm through my penis. Is there a way to get so good at oral sex that it feels like the same thing or even better or would it always be boring after awhile?

My penis is 3.5" - no women will ever want me. Period

Do any of you watch an ad for underwear that maybe features a ball hammock or contoured pouch meant to prevent your dick/balls from sticking to your thighs and you realize that’s literally never happened to you? It seems like such a “normal” thing for guys to experience but my dick is far too small for something like that to ever happen. Just yet another thing that makes me feel inadequate. I’m not beating myself up over it but just a realization.

From my experiences in the past, the more a woman is aroused during sex the looser she becomes. During this time of looseness does your partner's dick feel more or less pleasurable? I only ask this because my logic is that if it is looser there is less contact/pressure therefore less sensation, similar to how for guys looser can still be felt and feel good but nowhere as intense as tighter.

I'm starting to become concerned about u/yellow4x4. He hasn't been active for over two months, and some people here have messaged him without a reply.

If anyone knows anything, or if you're reading this, yellow, please comment.

edit: I'm adding u/Drugs4Pugs to this list. She has not been active for a while as well. And I am asking this because they are mods here.

No real purpose for this post other than a quick rant.

I know a lot of people here would just be fine if they could have a normal sex life. For me it isn't even really about that. I honestly just want to have a family like normal people. It's painful knowing something so trivial and natural will never be in the cards for someone like me.

Do you all know that a professor (probably a feminist) two years ago wrote a study focusing on our sub? the title is:

Small dick problems: Masculine entitlement as rhetorical strategy

Unfortunately, only an abstract of this study is readable and the text is not available to read. What do you think she might have written?

P.s: The link takes you directly to the Tandfonline page, where hundreds of thousands (if not millions) of studies are contained for you to purchase and read. So it is SFW (Save for Work)

This is something I've done to overcome my insecurities.Learn to make peace with it.Even if size matters all that we can do is accept it and move on..there is no changing it.Learn to be better in bed in other ways and be a great person overall.Place yourself first and love yourself the most. Give up on dating if it doesn't suit you or try better.Dating is hard as it is you don't have to make it harder.

You can seek help if you are in a very dark place,trust me it will get better.Best of luck👍🔥.I am quitting the sub.

(27M) Been insecure about my Size since my teenage years. I am still a virgin and I know I will die a virgin. But now I have accepted the fact that it's better to give up on the whole idea of love and relationships than being ridiculed and humiliated. I deserve to be happy as other fellow human beings. Now I promise myself to be better in other areas of my life rather than being depressed about my size which I cannot change. Will live my life in full monk mode. It's better to give up on dating at least for me.

In the past I’ve used 41mm width condoms from TheyFit. Looks like TheyFit is now MyONE and the smallest size they do is 45mm. I can sort of get away with these but they’re not ideal. Does anyone know where 41mm ones can be found now?

qeti_qeti mentioned the 'usual gaslighters' turning up on a previous thread, and I would like to hear from him or anyone else who thinks I am. My intentions are good, and I don’t think I am being disingenuous. I'm going to divulge some intimate details of my life to explain why. It’s not a humblebrag, and usually, I don't like discussing such personal information out of respect for my partners.

This week alone, my wife has come home from work and spoiled me rotten. She brought home some fresh jumbo prawns to cook me something special, and then she cleaned my ears, trimmed my toenails, and exfoliated the dead skin from the toes. Afterwards, we had a good fuck. The next night, I was hugging her in bed, and she says with fake annoyance, "You just want your dick sucked." I genuinely wasn’t, and I said words to that effect. Not convinced, she gets up, ties her hair up, positions herself between my legs, and proceeds to give me a blowjob.

This woman has been with me for eight years, and we have been through a lot together. Her family is wealthier than mine, she is very pleasant to look at and financially supports me at present. Before me, she had slept with four other men. Go to dead bedrooms and see how many married couples are NOT having sex after 5-10 years of marriage, regardless of penis size.

My ex-wife had slept with four other men before me as well. I met her when she was a 22yo 4'11 blonde surfie chick with a radiant smile. Everyone loved her, men chased her, and she married me by choice. For years we fucked like rabbits. I was working night shifts, and she would go to the gym on Saturday mornings and then come home and wake me up by sucking my dick. I put her through hell, and she stuck by me, completely and utterly devoted, until she could not bear to see me self-destructing any longer.

So you see why I get pissed off when some men with zero to little life experience tell me that I am coping or gaslighting others when I tell them that they can have good sex, love and be loved.

I'm not what some of you call a 'simp' either. I've never remembered anniversaries, been much of a birthday present buyer, or big on being told what to do. What I do, though, is hug a lot and tell the women in my life that I love them. Randomly, and regularly.

Touching on the subject of 'gaslighting' again, it’s important to consider who’s bullshitting whom. Queti_qeti, the guy stirring up much of this anti-woman noise in the name of 'solidarity,' has a borderline-average penis— a fair bit bigger than yours and larger than mine. You recently expressed a valid opinion that the cutoff in SDP should be 4 inches. I respect your perspective because you’re proactive and suggest alternative solutions, like paying for sex. You’ve even mentioned professional hugging before.

Also, I want to apologise to 51bwastelander for losing my shit the other day and calling you a nobody burger. I should not have done that, because I have since read about your challenging childhood and thoughts of ending your life. It was wrong of me to lash out. You got my goat when talking about my ex, and maybe you can see why now. I was a total drug bag, messed up badly, and I don't hide that fact. My size in the relationship was never the issue. Keep lifting weights and going to work.

This world is cruel enough to us guys with a small dick, and we need to be nicer to each other, as this tiny corner of the internet is all that we have. Vent by all means, but don't be a total dickhead by forcing your own toxic opinion onto every post repeatedly.

I've never been an assertive person, so I find it difficult arguing on here till the cows come home, but I won't give up on telling men that they can enjoy a healthy relationship with zero 'gaslighting' on my behalf.

Peace.

Given that most of us here are "inexperienced" therefore cannot jump to conclusions, I took the time to listen to what extremely sexually active people had to say about this, swingers. Just as a warning, if you do decide to see what they have to say as well, just be prepared to feel miserable afterwards. From the hours of research, the answer to whether bigger was better was an overwhelming yes, not even a competition. Coming from the wives who are married to men with average/smaller sizes, bigger ones felt better for them (filled them up) and yielded more intense, multiple orgasms. And no, this isn't due to the psychological aspects of experiencing something "different". The same people who swap with couples where the other guy is smaller doesn't yield the same physical sensations. For the slightly above average sized husbands, they have observed the same. Their wives are a lot more vocal and appear to enjoy bigger sizes more than average/smaller swaps. Bigger sized guys in this lifestyle have said that it's sometimes a "problem" for them as it causes a lot of arguments within the couple they're swapping with. Countless reports of needing couples therapy afterwards (to cope) etc etc. Point of this post is to tell lurkers to stop gaslighting us into thinking our size could ever possibly be a preference or better than bigger sizes. I am NOT denying that smaller sizes can be enjoyable for women, they absolutely can, and that is what my research has told me. However, I am not going to leave out the fact that bigger is in fact better (PHYSICALLY SPEAKING) for women. I saw a lot of "at the end of the day, I love my husband for who he is and not his dick" from these posts meaning that a person is more than their dick size (copers love this statement) but me personally I cannot accept this. As a man, if I cannot be the best for my partner (even hypothetically speaking) then I would be happier alone. A lot of people here will agree with that statement. But unfortunately, as small dicked men this will never happen.

So as the title says I'm very obese and yes I plan on losing it it's very bad for my health but aside from that i don't really know if im really done with puberty or anything I don't have any facial hair at all and my arms or my legs aren't hairy but imma be the first to say that my penis right now is like 3 inches and when hard i barely grow, i guess my question is when i lose weight will my penis get bigger and will my facial hair start growing? and does being obese play a part in hormones? I AM 18 YEARS OLD

It’s so cringey. I just saw another guy who’s got like an 8” dick posting his pic with the title “my average little guy”. So clearly fishing for compliments. How is that supposed to make us genuinely small guys feel?

You think there is a way that we can successfully erased our attraction and need for romantic relationships with women?

Look, we all know here that they care and want a well endowed men. I don't want to feel any resentment, anger or shame for not being what they want. It's no one's fault. It's god's plan and he is probably having a good laugh right now.

I just want to move forward from this abyss.

28m. 4 inches erect tops. I feel like I'm finally coming to terms with it.

I've realised that spending my days ruminating on it and victimizing myself is actually blocking me from experiencing fulfillment in any other area of life. And I certainly don't want to become a miserable human being so I'm making an effort to stop it.

I've decided to stop buying into the belief that I'm somehow a lesser being just because of the way I was born. So from today on, whether I end up involved in relationships in the future or not, I will keep choosing peace, acceptance and compassion instead of self-hate, because I deserve to be happy too and I owe this to myself.

I wish you all good luck on your journeys bros.

Please go through my profile, If you scroll a little bit (I'm sorry I can't pin that post) and you can check my post from r- badwomenautonomy sub. Post was locked now. It's more about how vagina sizes vary and play a role in sex.

Some people have perception like women gave birth to babies and they'll have no problem with big sizes. That's kinda false. Vaginas comes is different sizes, shapes and have different cervix placements. Some are ok with it and some aren't.

If you want to read more, you can search in Google too.

Theres just no hope for me anymore. I would be sad, but years of these feelings now just leaves me numb. I was in a car accident a year ago and it broke my pelvis, so now ever since then i’m in constant physical pain from the injuries, i have permanent nerve damage, permanent foot drop (I can no longer lift my left foot at all.) and i walk so god damn slow now. All this on top of being very fat and having a smaller dick doesn’t really help. I spend most of my days in my house playing my playstation and getting stoned off my ass, and jacking off because doing anything else takes so much effort and pain that I don’t even bother now. I’m always day dreaming of relationships i’ll never have, sex i’ll never have, even just possible friends and experiences i’m missing out on now. I might as well be dead at this point, wouldn’t make much difference. I look through every post on this sub all the time and i always see all the same ways of coping but those are all bs. No woman will ever go further than getting my pants down. I honestly don’t even know if i want to have sex now either, cuz there is just so many factors to consider when going in and it is just far too risky for me. I’d rather die a virgin than be dragged through the streets for having a small one.

The loneliness doesn't bother me as much anymore. In fact, I prefer being alone. The sexual frustation still gets me but I can live with it. Feeling like a cripple is the worst part. Everyone seems to have a much bigger dick than mine.

The national average in my country is about 6.30 inches. The study claimed it was bonepressed, but I have seen pictures from some other studies showing how they measured and they barely press the fat pad. This study didn't have any pictures though. If they barely pressed the fatpad, then 4 inches nbp is considered a micropenis.

This is one of the worst disabilities to have. I think only being quadriplegic and blind is worse than this.

Being gay with a small dick… damn. I know it’s bad for straight guys, but literally every sexual encounter I have is a direct comparison with another man, and I lose so fucking badly each time. I only bottom, obviously, and usually prefer to keep a jockstrap on. But just seeing how big every single guy is takes a toll on me. Even the average guys look impressive from my perspective. And when I do come across a truly hung guy (more often than you would think), it’s like I’m a hobbit living in the land of giants.

Every other guy but me gets to live the good life, being confident and desired. Deep down I would love to be a dominant top, whipping out a huge piece that even makes other tops want to bottom. But nope. The one and only life I have to live, and it’s just a complete waste of my time.

So I bought a self pleasuring toy because I want to quit porn for good because what really messed me up and killed my neurons was porn not necessarily the act of jerking off and I'd say I'm doing great I don't even have the urge to jerk off as much as much as i used to, but that's beside the point, I prompted it somewhere did my thing I was enjoying myself but then I wanted to put in different angles and man I had a god damn hard time to and that got me over thinking man if I struggle with a Fu**ing toy what would I do with a Woman and usually I was optimistic well as much as I can that things wouldn't go that bad but man, and I know shame for me for buying such a thing but being single for years hasn't been Pretty, would you blame me? And maybe I'm over thinking about this too much but idk man

Understandably being small is something hard to deal with and is an obstacle to obtaining good self esteem but I would want the sub to also focus on realistic practical changes that can be made like fitness or advice navigating the dating scene from guys who are small who made it successfully.

Subreddit is created

r-smallpeniswellness

Just replace the r- with r/ and you should be able to find sub. Or just click my profile it's the last post I created.

37 male virgin with a 4.5” hard length and I can’t get over my size. When I look at it or even masturbate I can’t imagine any woman enjoying my size and wonder why I should even try. Just frustrating and not sure how to get over my size insecurity