My brother has been seeing a girl for the last 6 months. They are planning on marrying now she's been able to get a visa (Morocco to UK)

She eats pork, she drinks, she's marrying an athiest.

YET, she's saying they can't have sex before marrying, he can't meet her parents and can't go to her house (religious reasons)

He's already given her £1000

What seems strange to me, is with some things she's a strict Muslim, but its not consistent, especially with marrying a non-muslim.

Is my brother being scammed?

I'm not Muslim myself so I'd be very grateful if someone wouldn't mind giving their opinion.

Thankyou in advance 🙏

Some people (mostly non-Muslims) claim that things like Pokémon cards, Counter-Strike loot boxes, and similar items constitute gambling. I’m not sure if they’re being sarcastic, but when I discuss this with fellow Muslims, they almost always argue that since you always receive something in return—even if it’s not ultra-rare or highly resellable—it shouldn’t be considered gambling from an Islamic perspective. What are your thoughts on this?

I think i have many issues with some of these narratives said by some muslim people (including my mum) - like what about disabled children, terminally ill patients etc. It makes it hard to take a stance with how i feel as a muslim if i’m suppose to believe in these statements. Sometimes i question if maybe i’m a weak muslim if i can’t wholeheartedly accept these statements

Assalamu Alaikum, with Ramadan around the corner, the Muslim Student Association at UCLA needs help raising funds to hosting daily iftars for Muslim Bruins. With over 200 attendees at any given iftar, there are significant costs associated with the events, especially regarding dinner. InshAllah, any provided donations would be used to help organize these iftars and procure dinner and supplies for Muslim Bruins. This is a great opportunity for ajar and to help out the Muslim youth. Launchgood link is below:

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Assalamualaikum I've got a really important question that I'd like to know the answer to

If semen drops onto my finger, and under a tap I wash my hand with water to make that area pure (where the semen has dropped onto)

And the pure running water that's dropping onto my hand from the tap goes onto my wrist or some of my arm whilst I'm washing the impurity off does this spread the impurity making my wrist or arm impure?

I just need to vent because I guess he made a new account, so I can see his posts again. But this BasedBengali (old username used to be tahir farouq in case anyone is confused) dude is absolutely absurd. He runs around justifying child marriage, marital assault, and obsesses over some girl razkax because she doesn't wear a hijab (and truly, obsessive is an understatment). He beefs random creators for the most OBSCURE things and tries to make it about faith and condemning disbelievers. He even talked to a 15 year old. And once he's done all of this and has his entire account removed because he's spreading the most insane ideas and saying the most out of line stuff, he sees it as the "liberal agenda" attacking him (nobody is liberal, we just said children aren't ready for marriage). When in reality, nobody likes him and he actually just says horrible things that taint the image of Islam.

Imagine the amount of people this guy has given shubuhat to because of how abhorrent he is. Gosh I'm just so angry, his content is so disgusting, unproductive, and unbeneifical. It's just his outlet to release his frustrations, nothing is genuinely centered in informing others. Every stitch and every video he makes is rooted in his own feelings, it's always about someone he doesn't like or about something he doesn't agree with. And the fact that TikTok leaves up his account UGH. I don't blame people for the things they assume about us and our religion, if I heard those things I'd be shocked too!! And this kind of rhetoric has become mainstream on social media. These ppl are so radical that they infiltrate every space and convince them these things are 100% true.

Ever since I was younger, I loved my dad. I would always hug him and play with him; keep in mind I was under 5. He would take me everywhere, and I really thought he was a good person. But as I grew older, things changed. He became very restrictive and somewhat abusive.

When I was 8 years old, I remember stopping at Starbucks with him. I asked if I could come inside with him, and he said, “No, Starbucks is for males only.” I replied, saying I saw women there, and he told me, “Those aren’t women; they’re gay women going to hell.” Another time, when I was around 9, he forced a bowl of hot beans onto my face because I wasn’t taking “bigger” bites.

I think this behavior started when I went to school at 5 or 6. I used to cry seeing my brother go to school because I wanted to go too. When my mom let me go, I could see how mad my dad was at her for allowing it.

Fast forward to later years; my mom supported me in finishing my education, but there were moments she didn’t stand up for me. I remember getting curtain bangs because I wanted to feel pretty. My dad grabbed scissors, held me, and cut off the front part of my bangs while my mom watched and didn’t do anything. Another time, when I was about 11 or 12, my younger brother had an accident in the bathroom. My dad demanded I clean it up, including cleaning him. When I refused and asked for help, he dumped trash all over me, including liquid food. I went crying to my mom, and she said, “You deserved it.” Looking back, I feel I could have helped clean some of it since my mom was busy cooking, but it shouldn’t have escalated like that.

What hurts the most is how my mom just sits and watches when my dad hits me. I felt so depressed and restricted; my only happy place was school. When I got to high school, I wore baggy jeans and a little makeup, like lip gloss. It wasn’t much, but it made me feel good to express myself and have chill moments.

I had a friend group and pictures of us on my phone. There were two guys in the group, and one day I fell really sick and forgot to delete those pictures. My dad barged into my room, took my phone, searched through it, and saw the pictures. Keep in mind my dad doesn’t even believe in women showing their faces. He hit me so hard that day that I had purple bruises on my arm. He also hit my brother, the one who would take me to school, blaming him for “not watching me.” I feel so sad because my brother put in the effort to help me go to school despite everything.

After that incident, I became extremely depressed and mentally unwell. I even considered killing myself. I stopped eating, lost so much weight (I was already skinny), and became so weak it felt like someone could easily break my arm. I graduated high school, but my dad isn’t allowing me to go to college (I’m secretly doing online classes).

I had saved $1,000 from working during high school. Instead of eating lunch on my break, I would work. My dad took that money as punishment for working without his consent. I don’t want to live here anymore. Now he’s talking about moving back to our home country, which I hated when I visited at 16. There was barely any food, no internet, and I sometimes got abused. I barely even saw sunlight there.

I mentioned to my mom and brother about moving out, and my mom burst into anger. She said if I ever ran away, they would disown me. She started crying, saying she fought with my dad to get me through high school, only for me to run away. She also warned me that if I left, there would be no financial support, and I could end up in dangerous situations. She said my dad would kill me if he found me.

I feel so scared; what if I get kidnapped or become homeless? That would stop me from going to school anyway, and this time I’d have no roof over my head. I don’t have any friends anymore since I cut ties with them during high school to focus on my education. I don’t have savings, and I don’t know how to drive. I feel completely stuck and don’t know what to do anymore.

Ever since I was younger, I loved my dad. I would always hug him and play with him; keep in mind I was under 5. He would take me everywhere, and I really thought he was a good person. But as I grew older, things changed. He became very restrictive and somewhat abusive.

When I was 8 years old, I remember stopping at Starbucks with him. I asked if I could come inside with him, and he said, “No, Starbucks is for males only.” I replied, saying I saw women there, and he told me, “Those aren’t women; they’re gay women going to hell.” Another time, when I was around 9, he forced a bowl of hot beans onto my face because I wasn’t taking “bigger” bites.

I think this behavior started when I went to school at 5 or 6. I used to cry seeing my brother go to school because I wanted to go too. When my mom let me go, I could see how mad my dad was at her for allowing it.

Fast forward to later years; my mom supported me in finishing my education, but there were moments she didn’t stand up for me. I remember getting curtain bangs because I wanted to feel pretty. My dad grabbed scissors, held me, and cut off the front part of my bangs while my mom watched and didn’t do anything. Another time, when I was about 11 or 12, my younger brother had an accident in the bathroom. My dad demanded I clean it up, including cleaning him. When I refused and asked for help, he dumped trash all over me, including liquid food. I went crying to my mom, and she said, “You deserved it.” Looking back, I feel I could have helped clean some of it since my mom was busy cooking, but it shouldn’t have escalated like that.

What hurts the most is how my mom just sits and watches when my dad hits me. I felt so depressed and restricted; my only happy place was school. When I got to high school, I wore baggy jeans and a little makeup, like lip gloss. It wasn’t much, but it made me feel good to express myself and have chill moments.

I had a friend group and pictures of us on my phone. There were two guys in the group, and one day I fell really sick and forgot to delete those pictures. My dad barged into my room, took my phone, searched through it, and saw the pictures. Keep in mind my dad doesn’t even believe in women showing their faces. He hit me so hard that day that I had purple bruises on my arm. He also hit my brother, the one who would take me to school, blaming him for “not watching me.” I feel so sad because my brother put in the effort to help me go to school despite everything.

After that incident, I became extremely depressed and mentally unwell. I even considered killing myself. I stopped eating, lost so much weight (I was already skinny), and became so weak it felt like someone could easily break my arm. I graduated high school, but my dad isn’t allowing me to go to college (I’m secretly doing online classes).

I had saved $1,000 from working during high school. Instead of eating lunch on my break, I would work. My dad took that money as punishment for working without his consent. I don’t want to live here anymore. Now he’s talking about moving back to our home country, which I hated when I visited at 16. There was barely any food, no internet, and I sometimes got abused. I barely even saw sunlight there.

I mentioned to my mom and brother about moving out, and my mom burst into anger. She said if I ever ran away, they would disown me. She started crying, saying she fought with my dad to get me through high school, only for me to run away. She also warned me that if I left, there would be no financial support, and I could end up in dangerous situations. She said my dad would kill me if he found me.

I feel so scared; what if I get kidnapped or become homeless? That would stop me from going to school anyway, and this time I’d have no roof over my head. I don’t have any friends anymore since I cut ties with them during high school to focus on my education. I don’t have savings, and I don’t know how to drive. I feel completely stuck and don’t know what to do anymore

4:97:

When the angels seize the souls of those who have wronged themselves —scolding them, “What was wrong with you?” they will reply, “We were oppressed in the land.” The angels will respond, “Was Allah's earth not spacious enough for you to emigrate?” It is they who will have Hell as their home—what an evil destination!

I know some tafseers say something about rulers having to care about refugees but I also read that it means if you are oppressed you have to move.

What does the woulds who have wronged themselves mean?

Example: Muslim living in the West, he doesn't have an easy way to pray when outside of his home due to stigma etc. For example some places in Eastern Europe where it could be potentially dangerous in public or if done at work they will be disciplined. Does he have to move?

This is pretty random, but I've always wondered why muslims aren't opposed to Harry Potter and Pokemon, unlike Fundie Christians. Of course, there are definitely muslims who oppose Harry Potter, but they're not nearly as common. Both religions condemn magic/sihr, and both don't exactly endorse evolution. However, there's a much stronger reaction to Harry Potter from Christians than from Muslims. Some schools in America have even banned Harry Potter because of "magic" and "satanism". However, I've gone to Islamic schools, and none of them have ever banned Harry Potter.

I'll see muslims condemn music and drawing, but not Harry Potter, Percy Jackson, or Pokemon. In fact, I'd never heard of Harry Potter being an issue until I went on the Internet.

What do you guys think?

I’m a 31 year old single mother to two young boys, their father is not in the picture and does not give me child support. I take care of all my chidren’s expenses. However, being that we live in NYC, I cannot afford to move out on my own with the kids, so we live with my parents. My parents also help with the kids which I’m very grateful for.

Here is where the issue is.

I met this amazing convert 5 months ago through the Salams app, he lives about 30 minutes from me. We’ve met several times, he’s met my family already and he’s such a great person. Very kind, generous, fully accepts my children, just an overall great man. I was previously married to someone with narcissistic tendencies so I had my guard up this time around, however I have no red flags about this person.

He’s the only convert in his family, his father’s side are Christian and his mother’s side are Hindu. He converted to Islam 8 years ago and gave up many things like drinking, smoking, clubbing, wearing gold jewelry, etc. He prays, fasts, attends Jummah, fasts the optional fasts, gives in charity.

I really feel this person would be an amazing husband and stepfather to my kids, and he’s ready to take on this role. However, my family, specifically my parents and siblings do not like him at all, and want me to break things off with him.

They have no issues with his character, but they have a big issue with the fact that he only graduated from technical school, and did not pursue a bachelor’s degree. This does not bother me, as he’s very intelligent, both academically and socially.

Another issue that they have is that they feel he does not make a lot of money. Personally, again his earnings don’t bother me, as we both earn the same salary, it’s a decent amount. He’s financial independent and he lives on his own, though the place he’s renting is not big enough to accommodate me and my children, we’d have to get a bigger place. We do live in a very high cost of living area, which means we would have to split finances, but I’m totally fine with this arrangement. My parents on the other hand, want me to be taken care of 100%. I don’t think this is realistic, again being that we live in NYC. All of my friends split finances, I see nothing wrong with this.

Lastly, they have an issue with the fact that he doesn’t know Arabic too well, despite being a revert for 8 years. He knows how to pray, he memorized surahs on his own, and he attained Islamic knowledge all on his own. My family feels he should already be fluent in Arabic, which I find absurd considering we are not even Arabs. The person I’m talking to and I are from the same country, we’re Indo-Caribbeans so there’s no cultural differences either. My parents also don’t feel he is ‘religious enough’. His beard isn’t long enough to their liking apparently.

This man and I were going to sit my parents down and talk to them about getting engaged, as we wanted to take this to the next step. Last week, my parents sat me down and listed all the reasons why he’s not good for me and want me to break things off with him. I was stunned, but I told them I cannot do that. They said fine, but if I decide to marry him, they will have to keep their distance from me.

I just want to know if I made the right decision to keep this man. I really want a future with him, but it stresses me out knowing that my family doesn’t like him.

Like most of the time, Christians are gentle and respectful in their preaching (pretend evangelicals don't exist) and they're always happy and grateful. They put their full trust in God, when most Salafis don't even if they say they do. The Christians I come across take their prophets as great role-models, but don't idolise them (except Jesus AS). They say this life is a journey to a greater destination, but it's important all the same and that we should enjoy it (unlike Salafis who think that enjoyment is one of the biggest crimes to date). You can genuinely tell that their belief in God is one full of love and compassion and trust and healthy fear, whereas most mainstream Muslims' is full of fear and bitterness. Strangely, all of these qualities are those that our Prophet SAWS *endorsed*, yet these ''scholars'' don't act upon. I think that this approach is really beautiful, as opposed to a culture full of hatred and criticism. Also, thank you for taking the time to read this post!! Don't forget that you are an awesome person, and that I believe in you!

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Hi everyone,

I've been having a tough time with my faith lately—not in God, as my faith in Him remains strong, but in connecting with other Muslims around me. I live in Germany, and it feels like every Muslim I meet is either deeply entrenched in Salafism or a staunch supporter of the Iranian regime.

As a Shia Muslim, I’ve been trying to find a community that aligns with my beliefs, but it’s been a struggle. It’s disheartening to see so many people turn a blind eye to injustice or compromise their integrity for the sake of political or ideological loyalty. The Quran reminds us not to blindly follow our forefathers, but sometimes it feels like I'm the only one trying to embody that principle.

Imam Ali once said that we should follow the truth, not the majority. He also emphasized the importance of studying our faith rather than simply inheriting it. Sometimes, though, it feels like I’m one of the few actually trying to live by that advice. Islam isn't just about halal and haram. Reducing our faith to senseless dogma destroys its soul. Islam encompasses the Quran, Hadith, Fiqh, history, and Aqidah. Ibn Malik even said you can't separate Fiqh from Tasawwuf, yet many people today seem to ignore that.

I’m hoping to connect with a few like-minded people here. I’ve tried in the past, but I’m giving it another shot. Have any of you felt this way before? How do you handle the feeling of being disconnected from your community while still holding onto your faith?

Thanks for reading, and I’d love to hear your thoughts.

He told me Palestinians are not the first inhabitants and he claimed that it is Hamas that attacked on 7 October that created the whole dispute and is responsible for killing people so many 1200 and even the death of their own people. I want to know a neutral perspective

I refuse to debate or argue but I will ask questions if I think they're relevant to your responses. This is all meant in good faith.

Basically the Quran is a series of claims about the origin of the universe, humanity, God, 25 prophets specifically & potentially more, sin & goodness, etc. One thing I don't understand about Quran-only Muslims that I genuinely want to is: what evidence do you look to in order to prove/demonstrate the validity of the Quran? Typically Imams I've spoken to use a combination of Hadiths + outside historical evidence but I'd figure it's a bit more difficult for Quran-only Muslims I feel like because not only do they as a whole get very critical of Hadith, Tafsir, etc. but also many of them I've interacted with have rejected any notion of the need for evidence of the Quran because it says "it is a clear and complete book." Unfortunately, that's a statement from the Quran which can't be used as evidence for the Quran because it's literally a claim in the Quran.

The kind of thing I'd be looking for would be similar to the following example:

Bob claims he was at the doctors office at 5 last Friday. As evidence, video footage of Bobs car with Bobs license plate pulling up to a doctors office at 4:50, his signature clearly in his handwriting on a sign-in sheet for Friday at that same doctors office, the oral testimony of the receptionist and Bobs personal doctor and video footage of a man who looks like Bob walking back to the car from earlier at 5:45. If Bob was accused of not showing up to work or committing a crime any time around 4:50 & 5:45 on that given Friday there would clearly be enough evidence for him to be proven innocent of any wrongdoing.

To make this as clear as possible, in the analogy the Quran is Bobs claim, the following evidence would be evidence for the validity of the Quran- so what is that evidence? Please be civil!

Title.

Edit: just wanted to show where I found this. https://seekersguidance.org/answers/children/rights-and-rulings-of-an-illegitimate-child/

Edit2: Guys!!! I found another fatwa that states that if a child is proven to be the child of the father by an Islamic court (for example, through DNA testing) then they have the same rights as their legitimate child, which means that maybe the reason for those older fatwas was the fact that it wasn't possible to know 100% who the father was?

Fatwa: https://www.islamweb.org/en/fatwa/362305/husband-forcing-wife-to-raise-his-illegitimate-child

I haven’t been praying for years. I do pray from time to time, for example during Ramadan and such, but i haven’t been consistent with my prayers at all for so long. And it’s something that weighs very heavy on me. For some reason, i just can’t seem to have the motivation/energy to pray. Sometimes i wish we could pray a simple prayer the way catholics do.. I don’t know if it’s bc of the physical ritual, or the fact that it’s 5 times a day, or because of my depression. I grew up in quite a conservative Muslim family and my parents used to always talk about the importance of prayer (they still do til this day). Somehow i felt like i always had to pray out of fear rather than out of love. I really want to pray, i feel like i’m barely a muslim at that point… I wanted to know what were your tricks to have motivation to pray, how to start praying again..how to be connected to the prayer without it being mechanical… Thanks a lot

Salam! I was just reading through some posts here and was wondering, what really constitutes a nikkah? i wasnt really searching for this, but i thought, do my partner and i have a bare minimum verbal nikkah? we have said many many times we have a clear intention to get married (we only arent legally married due to long distance and financial constraints), he buys me many gifts, dinners, etc., we have agreed on many stipulations of our marriage such as him providing for me, i want a cat (lol), etc etc. And many people are aware of our commitment as well as the fact that we intend to marry as soon as we can. Do all of these things constitute our relationship as technically a bare minimum nikkah? Or would these things have to be done in succession of each other as a sort of ceremony with an imam to be considered a nikkah?

Is it true that the Syrian rebels are actually backed by Israel? I dont really know the history of Syrian stuff and plus there seems to be too much misinformation spreading around. For example when i watched Middle East Eye video, the comments were against what the video was trying to say. So idk who's really right and wrong. Can't really trust MEE for Syrian related news. So what's the reality then?

1. Is Assad an Israeli agent and the Syrian fighters are fighting against him?

Or

2. Is Assad the good guy and Syrian fighters are backed by Israel and US?

https://quranaloneislam.org/animal-rights/

This is something that has dawned upon me recently. There is this one quote I’ve heard a few times that says if The Prophet and his companions were alive today they would be called extremist, and they would call us kuffars. However after I started doing more research on certain topics, and looking at Islam from a different perspective idk about all of that lol.

Lost my job as a Barista in an Egyptian cafe to some odd reason (had 2 average reviews from some white ladies lol), even went and prayed on Friday with the owner for 3 weeks after he gave me no hours... Like it was such a strange experience. I was helping this 22 year old owner with him & his family business, like legit sprinting down the street when he needed to help him out when needed.

I was confused to what was happening. This man was way more handsomer than me, shredded body wise, had a business. It's like he had fans from around the neighborhood while I had nobody. I've lost my faith big time too ngl. Not that I wanted what he had but just a tiny bit of being involved with the local Community. I'm a Pakistani man so I don't really speak Arabic but was always interested! Worst part is the my old neighbor & good old friend (we drifted part) who is Egyptian visited the Cafe too. While I just got diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder.

I've been feeling like crap ever since then, I unfollowed the Owner & his Cafe but I've seen it thrive constantly with so many people from the neighborhoods & College campuses all go crazy. I really wanted to be a part of it. I just keep questioning it all. Like why on Earth does this keep happening to me? My sincerest apologies for the rant I am fascinated by Sufism which is why I haven't entirely given up entirely. I just keep trying to breath every day but it's been so tough with my loneliness. Thank you for reading!