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Hi guys, if someone has really toxic and abusive parents, can they minimize their contact with them? Or even cut ties? I think the Islam community is not well-educated enough when it comes to people having personality disorders such as narcissism or borderline and don’t know how harmful such people are to others. How they suck out the life energy of others. If I say abusive I mean parents who would beat their children mercilessly and keep killing them mentally. I don’t think the scholars talk enough about such topics and always suggest having good ties with them and be forgiving.

Today I did not pray, I was so upset and angry. Analyzing the way I feel i noticed that part of me is a bit upset and I feel God is not answering my prayers.

I know I should not feel like this, I know that Allah is the best of planners. Yet I am struggling

How do I manage my feelings ?

So I am a muslim diagnosed with moderate level ADHD. I have always struggled with tasks and executive dysfunction ever since I was a child.

And that includes Salah/prayer. I love Salah. But it feels so heavy and burdening. It is not hard for me physically but mentally. I am sure my fellow muslim ADHDers can relate.

I was wondering if there is a fatwah that considers people like us. For me, praying while sitting makes it somewhat easier. And makes me more likely to pray. Are there sheikhs that can read and research ADHD and consult professional psychologists and psychiatrists and reach a fatwah for us?

I see a lot of discussion on whether Jesus AS was crucified and died or not on this subreddit, but not much about the resurrection tbh.

Is there any proper islamic perspective on the resurrection specifically? Have been looking into this lately and wanted yalls thoughts

Something I’ve noticed and can’t understand how this makes perfect sense to a lot of Muslims is the absurd restrictions that they like to enforce on everyone simply to stop everyone from falling into Zina. The mainstream/traditional Muslims believe that the opposite genders can’t be just friends, gender segregation is necessary, and a women needs a wali to get married. When I look at all of these absurd restrictions I think to myself so according to their logic the most practical way to get married is an arranged marriage which I don’t think is appealing to most people. Another thing is I’ve noticed is that they sometimes will encourage people to get married young bc u know when ur young ur more likely to fall into Zina so u should get married to stop that from happening, and I think that is such horrible idea. Also don’t even get me started on the absurd restrictions they enforce only on women. They say women need to be covered head to toe some even go as far as saying niqab is fard, and some have the audacity to say women should only leave their houses for dire needs wtv tf that means. One of the most absurd restrictions some of them try to enforce is saying that women shouldn’t beautify their voices in front of men they take it to the extent that they say women shouldn’t, sing, recite Quran, or even laugh in front of men. I just don’t understand who actually believes that women are that much of a big temptation to men lol. Also anyone with critical thinking skills can see how problematic that is bc it just puts out this notion that men are these animals with no self-control, and it extremely over-sexualizes women. I think all of these restrictions causes more harm than good and it should be the other way around bc it feels more healthy and natural. And I just wonder if these people see how problematic these things actually are. I think people fall into zina simple bc they wanted to do it not bc of free-mixing, women not wearing hijab, and being friends with the opposite gender. All these restrictions to stop people from falling into zina and people still fall into zina ain’t that some shit. It’s easier to fall into shirk a person can fall into shirk just by their tongue which is actually so scary. But these people like to hyper-focus on a far less grave sin which requires a lot of steps to fall into.

Edit: Also I don’t believe that there is a strong basis in Islam for all of those absurd restrictions.

So like I (a woman) got piercings on the ear but just not on the earlobes. I got 3 helix and one industrial and another one on the upper earlobe. My mom says it’s haram, but my dad is ngl pretty chill about it and I’m not sure if it is or not because my mom seemed pretty mad. Sorry if this question was posted and answered by a previous op. I couldn’t find it if that’s the case:) my mom said it’s because it’s like I’m imitating another religion but like my intention is purely because I think it’s pretty

I'm a new revert and adjusting to the habit of 5 daily prayers. Is there a gamifies app that helps you make this a habit? Like, "you performed Fajr for 7 days" streak or whatever.

Pornographic Male Sexual Dominance (PMSD)

PMSD is a concept I developed from my paper analyzing the ethics of AI sex robots. From there, I applied the PMSD framework to an incident in the Seerah as narrated by Ibn Ishaq to demonstrate how PMSD operates as a transhistorical logic that oppresses women.

Features of PMSD

PMSD has three defining features: 1. Sexual violence 2. The pursuit of fantasy 3. The outcome of social death or anomie

Social death or anomie occurs when an individual is so consumed by manosphere ideas that they lose the ability to relate to others—men or women—as human beings. People are viewed solely as tools, and relationships are commodified, valued only for their utility. This mindset eradicates the ability to do good for the sake of Allah (SWT); instead, actions are performed as transactional exchanges.

PMSD’s Impact on Worldview

PMSD warps the worldview, rendering the oppression of women as erotic. This is reflected in mainstream pornography and mirrored in manosphere ideologies. It enforces a masculinist conception of sex, where women are seen as code to be manipulated—inputting the “right thing” to extract sex. This view fundamentally prevents men from forming genuine, human connections and leads to the erasure of women’s resistance, reducing their struggles to insignificance or outright denial.

For example, domestic violence—primarily affecting women—is rendered incomprehensible under this framework. Women’s pain and suffering are dismissed as irrelevant or exaggerated.

Colonial Roots and Manosphere Stereotypes

PMSD also draws on colonial roots in its fetishization of Muslim women. Stereotypes created by the manosphere reinforce these colonial tropes, leading some Muslim men to affirm these narratives. This reduces Muslim women to tools for da’wah targeted at manosphere men, rather than recognizing their full humanity and agency.

Legitimation Strategies

Finally, PMSD relies on specific legitimation strategies and narrative structures to proliferate and establish itself as a rational worldview. These strategies ensure that PMSD’s logic remains dominant, normalizing its harmful effects on women and society.

I hope this framework is helpful, insha’Allah.

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I’m hoping to find some good content that’s about religion and spirituality but from people who are more aligned with this sub. Any recommendations?

Hello everyone I’ve watched omar suleiman’s podcast about Abu bakr and his life but I really need more books or resources on his life in detail The wars during his caliph cycle, what he collected of the Quran, etc. Please recommend anything

Hi everyone,

I’ve noticed that some people offering advice on this subreddit, sometimes quoting Quranic verses, are non-Muslims, not ex-Muslims, but practicing Christians, Jews, or even Atheists.

While I believe this subreddit is open to everyone, I’ve occasionally sought advice based on Islamic principles and received unexpected answers. When checking the redditor’s profile, I discovered they weren’t even Muslim.

I think it would be helpful if flairs clearly indicated when someone is non-Muslim so readers can take that into account. Most contributors mean well, but a small number may have ill intentions and try to misguide others while pretending to be Muslim.

As salamualaikum all, wanted to ask a question regarding the tafsir of Dr Khaled abou el Fadl and how to get into it. I can see on the Usuli YouTube channel that there is a playlist with ~200 videos but the ordering of the Surahs is rather strange (57, Al-Hadid at the beginning). Was there ever a statement as to why they were read in the order they were? Or is the playlist not entirely correct.

Also, are there any plans for the creation of a written tafsir? I couldn't find something with my brief research. Thank you all in advance.

I came across his website and read some of the articles. I have to say I'm quite impressed but wanted to know what others thought: https://nizami.co.uk/

I saw a video this girl made and….for the first time ever I actually didn’t have an answer and now i’m stressed.

she essentially said that going to heaven is essentially us getting lobotomised and our human emotions and empathy being taken away from us, otherwise how can we enjoy our life in heaven knowing that there are billions of people in hell burning and suffering, some of whom we may know and love. and that got me thinking… because she has a point ?

It doesn’t make sense to me that we will just forget everything and live happily in Jannah, surely we have to remember some things, surely we have to still have human emotion, because if all of this is taken away from us, then it’s not really “ us”. our memories and emotions are what makes us, us.

idek if i’m making any sense but i would love some insight please because for the first time ever, someone has made a good point that I as a muslim have no response to

Just making a post to greet everyone, I hope everyone is doing well, I lost my original account and I just got back on reddit, I miss this community.

Recently, I have been quite obsessed with revolutions, democracy and revolutions. I want read some books about reforming and modernizing the muslim community. And if someone could also name some muslim reform activists or some debates/talks on this matter then that would be much appreciated.

hello, I'm only posting this because I'm just genuinely curious because Islam doesn't like sex before marriage but I know that not having sex in a relationship before marriage would be damaging as sexual compatibility isn't known. I know we can discuss sexual preferences but discussing sex and having sex are two completely different things. I feel like sexual compatibility is really important for a healthy relationship and not having it and getting married without knowing about how you guys get along in the bedroom would be damaging. I'm just wondering what are people's opinions on this? I'm not looking to have sex at all I was just genuinely curious.

My husband and I are currently expecting a sweet little girl. We have had the unfortunate conversation of wills and if we die ect, he explained to me that I would get a share and our daughter and his siblings. I did research and don’t agree with this. How irresponsible would I be if I just kept all resources for my daughter? If my husband’s father died I dont think they would even think to give her her father’s share so. Even steven to me.

Asalamu alaykum brothers & sisters, I'm an American revert who has been Muslim for about 3 months now, and I'm about to do a lot of travelling for work and I'm worried about making salat. I love salat, but this is the first time I've had to tackle the logistics while traveling.

Are there places in the airport for prayer in private or like a meditation or chapel room where I won't disturb people?

What about at conferences? Any Muslims here been to american business conferences? Are there chapel or prayer areas set aside at all? It's probably a moonshot but I know my office has like, private rooms for that stuff I've just never had to look / use them before now (I am usually remote).

Any advice would be appreciated, may the blessings of Allah be on all of you.

İ heard that Mu'tazilla and Khawarij rejected Hadith but they're among the narrators of Bukhari and Muslim. Were there any group or any individual scholar in past who completely rejected Hadith, Sunnah and Ijma'??

Are any of you in interfaith relationships, or used to be in one? How was that overall? Did you end up marrying them? How did your family react to this? ( i would like to see when the female is Muslim and her partner is not, but both sides are welcomed)

I dreamed that I was in Makkah, but not in the part of the Ka'aba - it was a place with white floors, white walls, there were some "shops" selling things and with things written in Arabic (I don't know Arabic). At the beginning of the dream I put on a shirt of my team, which has a big white cross and a red maltese cross. This bothered me throughout the journey, not because of the people looking curious, but because I felt the need to change - I even left the prayer line to change. After I changed it I went to Ka'aba itself, then I woke up.

Nothing like this has ever happened. Dreaming of being in Makkah means what?

I don't know much about dreams or their meanings, I think it's a good time to learn :")

Sick and tired of people rejecting the quran when they ask a quran only questions.

Me: Allah says the quran is fully detailed, therefore it has all the details we need.

Them: But it doesn't have this! Or this! How is it detailed??

Me: Allah clearly didn't see it needed for your guidance.

Them: BUT BUT BUT!