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Hello, my muslim brothers. I would love to visit a mosque in a time of prayer, but I don't know what to expect. How should I dress, where should I go and what shoud I do. It's easy in a church where you just sit on a bench, but idk about a mosque

As Salam Alykum, My husband and I have been married for couple years and my mother in law has abused me so much, including my sister in law and FIL (who is divorced but still jumps in everything and try to defend her ex wife’s behaviour). I was still seeing her until we announced my pregnancy and she texted my husband that why would you have kid with her, you need to end this and call me (without letting me know) so she can tell how to get rid of my unborn child. I am not going to her house since then. I let her see my kid when he was born, but she keep insisting or forcing my husband to bring my baby to her and she doesn’t want my permission to see him. I am scared. And i do not feel comfortable. I do not ask my husband to cut ties, i told him you can go whenever he wants but me or my kids can’t as i do not feel safe and have panic attacks. But he still keep forcing me to see them. His dad also pushes me to see them, he took me inside the room to discuss all of it and my husband didn’t bother to come along, i felt disrespected and did not feel comfortable doing that either. My Father in law still hangout with her even though he is married now, and they keep pressuring my husband. And my husband keep blaming everything on me. She called me ugly, she kept criticising me, i am tired and mentally abused for all these years. They also dont care about eating halal or haram, so i cant let my kid see all of it or think its normal. Dont know what should i do. But i feel deeply hurt and stressed all the time. I feel scared eating anything at their house. And on top his mom touches my husband all the time, strokes his shoulders, thights. I do not feel comfortable! Please help! JazakAllah!

Hello there i am ashamed to turn muslims due to some weird ideologies i hold about god and cant seem to get help from muslims in my country. I would like to become muslim but need help to overcome some intrusive ideologies. Please send me a chat or Dm .

For context, it’s a small office there’s 5 of us here right now. I have ONE restriction and that’s pork. It’s an office use panini press so I can’t eat anything made from it because of the bacon grease. I don’t mind eating from a pan that has cooked non halal meat (turkey, chicken, etc) or even a microwave that has warmed up pork. This is supposed to be for employee appreciation too. am I right to be upset?

Like 20 minutes ago. Can I keep his pictures since keeping pictures of the deceased is generally prohibited? (Dont talk if you dont have knowledge)

Can anyone help me learn Arabic? I would like to start learning the language and understand the Quran with better comprehension. JazakAllah Khair in advance

this was my previous post (you can view it from my profile)

i just wanted to share my experience here on how Allah does answer you. A couple days ago i lost 200 dollars for my sister's tuition. I work at the place also and typically just pay her tuition upfront. Weird thing is my sister even remembered me getting the money from the car and me saying "can't forget about this!" which I put in my pocket. I even remember it. Once the day was ending I felt my pocket was empty. And my heart sunkkkk. Its alot of money and I know my parents would be upset. My sister was like "How did you lose it?" I went home and knew i had to ask my friends to double-check for me which they did and there still was nothing. i also went back to double check still nothing. I also informed my supervisor and she was going to check the cameras the following day. I then posted on here for duas. I tried everything on my part and still there was no luck.

From that day i actually watched a lecture from a brother who mentioned the benefits of saying istaghfar. (Not allowed to link but the title: The five miracles of istaghfar by rhyad ). I began waking up for tahajjud again AFTER a while of not praying the prayer and added istaghfar throughout the day. Next day i found 200 dollars laying on the edge of the stairs. Which i thought was for something else so i ignored it. my mom then told me she found these laying on the kitchen table and said i left it there. How did it appear out of no where? I couldn't believe it so i double check to make sure because I tend to fold money differently from my family members so the money can fit my pocket. And guess what the money was folded the same way. IT WAS THE 200. From this, i learned we do have to do our part. If i didnt loose the money i would've still not performed tahajjud and wouldn't be starting out my istaghfar journey. I wouldn't try to better myself and try to connect to Allah even more. Especially with this year my faith has been going up and down but from this experience, I feel like my life has improved immensely in such a short period. I am nowhere perfect and still do try to better myself. There's immediate results so long as you believe allah is there for you. For those who did make dua for me may Allah reward you and put barakah in your life.

Hey everyone I hope all of you are doing well.. I want to share something about how people today are often negative , some may feel like giving up or ignoring themselves bc they havent been able to buy a car or a house or they didnt get the job they wanted , It could also be bc they havent received what they hoped for

But I want to say that its not good to stay in this negative mindset instead we should strive to be positive and spread positivity. Allah says:

‎(أنا عند ظن عبدي بي، إن ظن بي خيراً فله، وإن ظن شراً فله)

Translation: "I am as My servant thinks of me. If he thinks good of Me , then it will be so, and if he thinks evil of me, then it will be so." This means that when you think positively and expect good from allah , He will treat you with mercy , success, guidance, care, and support..

If you think positively allah will bring positive things into your life this is a law , think positively and good things will come your way. I have seen many videos about the (Law of Attraction) which explains this idea and its something our religion also teaches Like seriously if you first believe in allah and believe in yourself and believe that you will get approval for that job or whatever you desire , it will go as you want… I hope everyone reads more about this and stays positive in life. I know life sometimes can feel boring or tough but the key is not to give up..

It all depends on the frequency of your thoughts.you will manifest what you focus on whether good or bad.. The universe or in our case, Allah, gives you what you think and feel.. Everything that happens to you , good or bad , is a result of your own thoughts and focus as the saying goes"Anything we focus our mind on , we can create."

My brother is mentally abusive towards me and my parents. My parents don’t kick him out just cuz they care of family respect and so on. My brother has threatened to break my legs and said I have not done anything in life. He called me disabled and swore at me for having an illness I have no control over. The last thing he told me was to never speak to him again.

He graduated the other day and I refused to go to his meal as I do not feel safe around him and we do not even talk with each other. Also why am I going to congratulate someone when I don’t genuinely mean it and that person has made my life miserable? He also never apologised for all these nasty things he said to me. Usually I’m the one being overly nice but this time I decided to set boundaries with the abuser.

My mother didn’t like this and instead of telling him to apologise she is trying to shift the blame on me! Saying it looks bad if you don’t congratulate him. I feel my parents don’t give a care about me. They are brainwashed with culture. They do not pray and do not practice Islam if I am being honest. They only use it when it benefits them for their own good, so I am ashamed to call them my parents in the first place.

They made me lie to family in Pakistan about what job I work and lie that I don’t have an illness. My mother once said I won’t get a decent marriage proposal because I left my old job for a new one that caters to my health condition. My dad said my new pay is poor and makes comments saying that imply I won’t find a good husband. They have ruined my self esteem and tried to bring me down. Enough is enough. I know Islam says you should love your parents and respect them. But the way I have been treated, I have no room in my heart for this anymore.

I have a big heart and always forgive them but they still continue with their behaviour and make me feel awful. So now I am giving the silent treatment to them. I have left my family group chat and only speaking with them when I need to. My parents have noticed this and probably think I am going to just talk with them normally again but I don’t think I ever will. Something has changed within me where I do not want to tolerate disrespect all the time when I am a good hearted person. I don’t want to have this distance within my family but I am left with no choice. They have gone too far with me. My mental health is suffering at this point. I pray to Allah (SWT) to make things easier for me. Am I being unreasonable?

My mother rages on how she expects me (22F) to do all the house chores and I get that, but that isn't the centre of my life simply put.

She is very nitpicky and hits us if we don't do it correctly.

She only insists women do those things and scowls at the fact I don't want to pick up after dad. I'm trying to teach him to clean up after himself only, and she interrups that.

She insists I stay home and even comments about how I only "work to afford nice things, and I actually don't care about the house and the state of it". I do them, but she is bothered by the fact I don't care about having a husband or want to stay at home all the time. Thing is, I love my house clean and organised, but I don't care THAT much.

I will clean the house top to bottom so I can get it crossed off and go out later. I love spending time with friends, going to activites and learning things about other cultures, people etc. I workout and would prefer to be at the gym, rather than at home. That is it. I don't enjoy it (staying at home to clean, cook and such) or actively seek out to be a stay-at-home- anything.

Unfortunatly, I have to share it with my parents right now, because my salary isn't enough to live a decent life.

After bills (which I pay majority), nothing is left for me to save, so I spend it to go out.

I hate being at home. I love going out and working. I am working on getting a second job so I can fill my time and save up for my deposit actually. I have no problem doing everyting, even typically male jobs. Anything but being at home.

My mother seems to not understand that life is not about just being at home and having a family. She never goes out or has any desire to see anything outside of her own town. My father rules her with an iron fist and she loves being controlled like that.

Most women in my family are like that and I hate it. To them, I'm too "liberal". It makes me feel like there is something wrong with me.

Assalamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.

I live in Houston, Texas and I want to pursue a degree in Islamic Studies. The reason I would like to pursue this degree is mainly to grow my faith and my understanding of Islam. It would be nice to be able to apply this degree by working with an Islamic organization in town in some capacity; ultimately, I just want to expand my knowledge and praise Allah SWT as best I can.

As far as I know, there are no in-person universities in town that provide a comprehensive Islamic Studies education. However, there are two online programs based in Houston that I've come across that seem to be thorough.

There might be more, obviously, but these are the couple I've seen:

• Mishkah Islamic University of North America
• Guidance College

Here are the questions I have:

• Which of these two programs seems to be best and why? Are they any good at all?
• Are you aware of any other Islamic Studies programs that would be best? They don't necessarily need to be in Texas if they're online.
• What career paths would be available to me with a degree in Islamic Studies?

Jazakallah khair!

Assalamualaikum!

Is anyone here aware of or part of a Muslim male only group chat? Since I’m losing a lot of friends irl I thought it would only be wise to start looking for a strong Muslim community online. If y’all don’t know of any gc and if enough people reply, we can make our own, on discord or whatsapp or whatever. Lmk down below!

Jazakallah Khairan!

Me and my older siblings had a very strict parenting where physical punishment was severe and we also had many restrictions and prohibitions. It has caused a very traumatic effect in each one of us growing up.

With the younger ones, from 2006 onwards, they're permissive, not as harsh in punishment as the older ones, most of the time resulting in no punishment at all even though they commit serious offenses.

One of them has failed school three years in a row yet is allowed to have a phone and stay with it more than 8h a day. He's addicted to video games, does not pray, very poor hygiene. Another one is almost 18 and neither helps at home nor studies well. Again, unlimited phone usage. She doesn't even clean after herself if not forced to. Does not pray. Most of the time has no respect for our parents even tho they've spoiled her and let her do nothing.

They won't lift a finger even if the whole house is a mess or if my mother is sick. If she doesn't do anything then it's all on me. We have one bathroom only and if I don't clean it no one will. A public toilet is more clean than the one at my own house at times. Nobody does the cooking, cleaning and laundry except my mother and I.

it's a big family and the older ones have already their families so the one with the burden is me. My mother is severely depressed yet won't go visit a doctor because it's shameful.

I'm tired and sick of my mother going on rants about how nobody helps her at home and how little respect WE in GENERAL have for her and my father ( his only worry in this life is money and what ppl think of him).

Whenever I try to discipline my younger siblings, my mother tells me I have no right to do so, that I didn't give birth to them. If I do nothing to discipline them then I'm guilty for enabling their behaviour. No matter what I do I'm guilty.

I have to constantly every day listen to my mother complaining and complaining about how ungrateful and useless we are ( children) and it's dishearting because I've gone above and beyond to maintain a balance in this family. I've failed myself many many many times because I put them first and whenever I try to stand up for myself then I'm the bad one.

I have almost married a man only to use him and escape from this family. It has reached that point. Unfortunately I'm bound to stay unmarried for some more time.

How do I keep myself sane in this madness? I have tried to put boundaries and nobody respects them. I keep getting stepped on by my own family.

I'm not really looking for advice or anything, but would like some opinions, or someone to tell me I'm not insane. Maybe someone to reassure me that I'm not completely in the wrong here.

I strongly believe my mother is heavily influenced by Shaytan. Whether that means he controls her, or he is in her, I don't know. She has always been, ever since I can remember, "strict", but this strictness somewhere along the way became something more. There are "strict parents", "harsh parents", but what i'm describing here is, - and I hate to use this word - evil, and all evil comes from Shaytan.

I genuinely cannot remember the last time she was kind to me. Perhaps when I was a little child, say below 5? For context, I am in my late twenties. As long as I can remember, she's been physically abusive towards me, and for the last decade, she's been verbally abusive as well as physically abusive.

Constant name-calling, body shaming, spending hours upon hours telling me how I'm bad, useless, worthless, how I am a class A sinner, how Allah is perpetually upset with me. She claims I don't seek forgiveness, don't repent for my sins, that I don't love or fear Him.

She constantly and consistently gives me badduah, praying for my downfall, praying for my future children to hate me and treat me badly, telling me I'll never be successful in life, telling me no good person is going to marry me, telling me i'm not worthy of being loved by anyone, and that no one ever will.

She calls ME abusive, when it is her. I actually told her a few years ago, that she's abusive towards me. I had never used that word with her before nor explicitly said it to her. But ever since I did, she's latched on to that word and started to use it to describe me.

The way she describes me, it's an exact description of her own self. She claims I've disrupted the peace of our entire family, that I "abuse" everyone, including her. She victimizes herself so much even though she's hurt me for almost my whole life.

During covid, I was stuck at home with her because of lockdowns, and this is when I became suïcydal for the first time in my life, for a brief time. She had mentally tortured me so much that it had become unbearable to be around her. I kept having panic attacks, anxiety attacks, so much physical and verbal abuse. I had reached out to friends and family telling them what had been happening with the hope that someone could help me. They all reached out to her asking what was going on and she told them all i'm lying, and that no one should believe me or respond to me. They believed her.

I prayed so much, cried to Allah so much, and nothing was happening. Instead, she was becoming more and more successful in her schemes. Day in and day out, listening to her spew a constant stream of insults at me was really affecting me mentally.

I'm not saying I never spoke back to her, I did. With her always attacking me, and no one in my family standing up for me, I felt like I had to stand up for myself. I retorted, replied, said things I'm not proud of, but it was always as a defense. Not once did I ever initiate a fight or argument. That was always her. She'd just come out of nowhere when i'm minding my own business and start an argument, and start a fight. Most of the time, I'd try not to respond but when you're sitting in a room listening to someone go on and on about how you're fat and ugly and worthless and useless and hear them tell you how you'll never amount to anything in life, your blood boils. Hours pass by, and she's still going? Anyone would explode.

And she did that always. She'd push all my buttons and then sit and wait for the explosion, only to use it to "prove" that i'm a bad person.

On top of that, she'd constantly try and convince me i'm insane. Telling me I need to be institutionalized, that i'm mentally "crazy", and that everyone can see it. She would make up lies about my aunts and uncles, saying that they said bad things about me, or that they told her to punish me.

She constantly acts like she's so good and Islamic, constantly reading duas, reading Quran, preaching to others with this fake persona, but she seems to follow nothing from Quran or Sunnah. She sends me countless Islamic videos about the "status of mothers in Islam", and honestly, it feels as though she has put herself on some pedestal, where she is exempt from sinning, where she apparently can say and do whatever she wants without any consequences. Because she is a mother, she thinks she has a free pass to do and say whatever she wants to me, and Allah will only reward her, and punish me.

She constantly tells me to prepare myself for the Hellfire, because that's where i'm going, she says. She says over and over that Allah is displeased with me, that I have only punishment in my future and hereafter, because I am "bad" to her.

This had caused me to distance myself from Islam for a while. I was angry that Allah was constantly allowing her to succeed in her evil schemes and leaving me at her mercy.

I literally had to unlearn so much "fake Islam", and relearn it all on my own. Whatever she had taught me was infested with all sorts of bid'ah, so much misinformation, and Allah was painted as this vengeful God who just threw everyone in Hellfire for every little sin. She kept trying to convince me that i'm guaranteed to go to Hell for "how I treated her."

She is a pathological liar, always lying, twisting things, taking things out of context just to paint herself as a super victim and me as a supervillain. She has already slandered me to her entire family, as "revenge" for reaching out to them for help.

On top of that, she has a horrible controlling demeanor. If she says do something "right now", however unreasonable it is, she expects you to drop everything and do it. And if you don't, she throws a tantrum, and the aftereffects of that lasts days.

I actually have to read duas for protection from Nazar from her because I am so sure she has given me Nazar on many occasions. She has never been proud of me, never been kind to me, never made me feel loved, and always made me feel like a burden, or like dirt. I craved a mother's love all my life, and have for the most part, been envious of people who have loving, caring, and kind mothers.

She even badmouths me in front of my siblings, which causes them to say the same things she says to me, even though they are younger than me. They do not respect me, nor are they nice to me.

It's been so hard dealing with all this, and I just cannot understand how a mother can be like this towards her own biological child, when my only crime is existing. She apparently wanted a daughter with a very specific personality, and mine doesn't match that, so therefore, I am given a lifetime of punishment.

I know she is a narcissist, I only realized a few years ago.

I neither love her nor like her. She has no redeeming qualities, and I cannot bring myself to care about someone who has made my life hell for almost all my life. She has never shown me any love or kindness, and she's constantly reminding me of all the favors she's done for me, how she took care of me as a baby, etc to make me feel guilty and make me feel like I owe her my whole life.

If there any religious scholars on here, I would really like to hear your opinion on this. What does Islam say about mothers like this? Will I be facing punishment for talking back to her, and she'll get off scot-free, with rewards like she claims?

Thanks for reading.

Salaam everyone,

Hope you're all doing well!

A question to the reverts Would you feel comfortable sharing your revert journey on a platform like Reddit? The goal is to use these stories (anonymously) to inspire and support other Muslims and reverts.

If not, could you suggest other platforms where you'd be more comfortable sharing?

JazakAllah Khair for your input, and may Allah (SWT) bless you endlessly. Ameen!

So basically these doubts started 5 months ago but first I started to get about the thought…Is there a creator then after researching a lot and reading the Quran I got so clear and my knowledge of Islam increased and I knew this happened for a good reason but after three months I started to get a new thought about why am I not seeing my Rabb but I know I will him Insha Allah in the day of judgement but I kept getting the same thought since I have ocd so I did is I found many answers for this thought and one main reason I discovered is that (correct me if I’m wrong pls) Allah created us humans to be tested so he doesn’t show himself to the mankind if he show himself then there will be no option and everyone will believe and has to believe…Since Allah doesn’t show himself to the mankind we have an option because Allah has sent his message to the mankind with clear evidence and proof saying to believe in there rabb.So we have a choice to hear Allah ‘s message and obey him and follow the truth or chase this worldly life. So when I get the doubt and start thinking like that everyday like every minute then after thinking too much this answer doesn’t satisfy me and I feel depressed so somebody pls help me Also pls pray for me that I will have a strong faith in Allah and I will always be a Muslim

Completely has put me off from giving to the homeless 😂 literally sitting in a coffee shop and this schmuck is just knocking on the window

One of my close friends works at a medical facility owned by a Hindu man. This friend is very committed to inviting him to Islam and has been doing his best to share the message of truth with him.

The situation with this man (the owner) has become very concerning. Despite having wealth, he’s deeply distressed in life. Things have reached a point where, just today, he took sleeping pills because he felt so overwhelmed. He was on the verge of breaking down completely.

Now, he genuinely wants me to say something meaningful to him, something that might make him understand that peace doesn’t lie in money but in following the path that Allah has prescribed for us.

I would really appreciate your advice on what I can say to him—something that will truly reach his heart and possibly bring him closer to deen.

Note: The man is highly intellectual, so whatever advice or suggestions you share, please consider that it needs to resonate with someone who thinks deeply and critically.

As salaam wa eilkoum

I am a 27-year-old woman, and I have struggled with prayer throughout my life. Growing up in an environment where my parents did not pray, I was still raised with strict teachings about what is haram and halal. I taught myself how to pray despite the challenges, but unfortunately, I’ve never seen my siblings pray, and this lack of example made it difficult for me to maintain my connection with the prayer.

I also grew up in an abusive household, which added to the emotional strain. Despite my desire to pray, I found myself drifting away from it over time. I cannot pinpoint exactly why I stopped, but I feel a deep sense of guilt and confusion about my relationship with prayer. I often struggle to find the courage to pray, and I feel isolated because none of my six siblings pray, either.

I want to reconnect with my faith and start praying again, but I feel as though something is holding me back. At times, I wonder if the evil eye has affected me, as I find it hard to remember the prayers and the verses. I’ve forgotten how to pray properly, and the thought of trying again feels overwhelming.

I know that prayer is important, and I want to find a way to overcome these struggles and rebuild my connection with Allah. But right now, I feel lost and in need of guidance and support.

Been feeling really down and struggling with some anxiety so i think a post like this and thinking about Jannah might brighten me up.

• Drink from the rivers of wine

• Speak to every single Prophet

• Spawn a castle that ill live in

• gain every superpower ever and then fight spiderman, captain america and batman at once

• race in a real life mario kart course combined with f1 driving

• act out a medieval battle with me in it

• Speak with the angels and get their perspective of how our life was

-fly a fighter jet but like the ones you see in movies

I know it’s not a lot of time since I posted the last post. I took it over the phone and I am going to the mosque later today. I am so happy. Thank you for all of the kind comments and words Mashallah.

Alsalam alykum everyone. I’m really struggling as a Muslim, and please don’t be judgmental towards me because the main reason I’m having this religious crisis is because of our community. I’ve been introduced to Islam since I was 5/6 they would show me videos of people in the grave and snakes were around them torturing them and burning them when I was a child, ever since I have had severe fear of hell/ death anything related to sinning. I pray and do everything I can to be a better Muslim. But I have been forced to wear the hijab ever since I was 12, when I told them I can’t handle wearing it anymore they calmed a kafir and told me I will be disowned , my parent told me if I take it off I will kill them and I will be the reason of their suffering ( I’m still forced to wear it it’s been 7 years) im not saying this is the main reason but it’s effecting my life, I can’t wear the hijab without thinking about the stuff I have been through because of it. This year I had a severe religious OCD episode , I was terrified of being impure and my prayer not being accepted and going to hell, ( I couldn’t eat or leave my room) it was so severe and it went on for three months, this episode affected my iman a lot my iman is so so low to the point where I feel like it’s non existent. I also have ptsd and adhd (ptsd isn’t related to religion I got it from other stuff that happened) the reason why i mentioned my diagnosis is because i believe that they are making my life as a Muslim way harder than an average Muslim. Everyday i fight Myself to stay a Muslim I just find some people of our community extremely toxic. Second of all I force myself to do any religious activity including praying and doing dikr , words can’t describe how hard praying for me is, the things i described are nothing compared to the stuff i have been through, i find it quite hard to open up about religious topics because i know it will be triggering to some people because they might think I’m being judgmental to Islam . I’m not judging Islam nor am I saying anything mean about it, I’m just saying the way my community shown the religion to me is extremely wrong. All I know is fear and hell, I’m tried of constantly fearing hell and God,sometimes I can’t sleep because I’m scared of dying and going to hell. At the same time I’m thinking to myself what if I leave the religion and leave all of these thoughts behind me? Even tho I believe Allah exists 😭 does that even make any sense?? لا إله إلا الله I never thought I would think about leaving the religion but please help me and make dua for me.

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: I heard the Prophet (ﷺ) saying, "Man follows his friend's religion, you should be careful who you take for friends".

[Abu Dawud and At-Tirmidhi, who classified it as Hadith Hasan].

Riyad as-Salihin 367

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I am wanting to take my Shahada and have been wanting to for a while now. I feel maybe overwhelmed is the word. I want to be the best Muslim(ah) I can be and do not want to sin as a Muslim. I know we are not meant to be perfect but it makes me feel a certain way. All I can think about is my sins and it makes me feel slightly pressured. I don’t want to go to Hellfire. Is there any advice or anything that could help me on my journey please? Anything is appreciated:) thank you for reading.

Our dream is to ensure that everyone in the world has enough to eat and no one goes hungry ever again.

Simply because every single person deserves food. We’ve completed a small meal drive (30-40 meals) sourced from local food stands in Pakistan and now want to expand. We’re seeking advice on the following:

1. Should we start with a legal setup or stay informal?

2. Should we focus on social media to engage the community?

3. How can we recruit and manage volunteers?

4. How can we streamline operations and ensure efficiency?

Next month, we plan to provide hot meals for the winter, with a transparent fundraising approach (target fundraising tied to meal costs, no excess funds). We prefer anonymity but prioritize transparency. Ideas and suggestions for volunteer recruitment, operations, ensuring health and safety, and legal setup are welcome.

Excerpt from Ibrahim Dewla’s speeches and notes.

Prophets were sent to guide humanity to ensure their possessions would not foster arrogance or be used to oppress others. That their talents and abilities are not abused or wasted.

Allah has granted us talents and abilities. These are a ‘trust’.

To waste away one’s abilities is like burying a baby girl alive.

“and when baby girls, buried alive, are asked, for what crime they were put to death”
(81:8-9)

For what crime was the baby girl buried? There was no crime.  

Those who buried her questioned why she was even born.

Her fault is her existence.

Similarly, when one’s talents and abilities are misused or squandered, it’s like the injustice and tragedy of burying a baby girl alive.

On the day of judgment, it will be questioned why this baby girl was buried alive.

Likewise, each person will be questioned on why they abused or wasted their abilities.

Hello lovelies 👋🏻

I am a revert of a couple of years. I have a B.S. Biology, and want to work in a lab, but all the lab jobs pay $15. So I want to go back to school for a Medical Laboratory Technology degree or an Exho Sonography degree. They are both competitive 2-year programs at technical college that pay really well in my state.

I am trying to avoid student loans because I want to avoid riba. I got my Bachelor’s paid for almost entirely with grant money, but now I no longer qualify for those grants because I have a bachelors 😢

So I am trying to look up any non-traditional scholarships or Muslim scholarships. But the Muslim scholarships aren’t for Americans, or if they are, they are for first year college students, or students of Islamic studies, or students of journalism, etc. I don’t fit the criteria for any of these.

Does anyone know just off the top of your head of a halal student loan, a halal personal loan, or a grant I could qualify for?

I feel a bit panicked and against a wall because my husband lost his job last month, and I work in water treatment and got exposed to chlorine gas last week and have been diagnosed with pneumonitis and still can’t breathe 😪 (management lied to me and said there was no leak when I called them saying I suspected a leak, then I found out later they’ve known about the leak for three months 😪 so I don’t feel safe at this job anymore knowing they would intentionally expose me to fatal chlorine gas like that.)

Thanks for your help 🫶🏻 JazakAllah khair / jazakillah khair 💖

And May you all be blessed with guidance, stability, support, and everything you need 💖

I have always been passionate about fighting. I didn't get into many fights, but I always felt great after it due to the feeling of adrenaline and thrill, even if I didn't particularly win - I'm not kratos. I would also look in the mirror and check for bruises or cuts and feel "proud" about them, which is honestly weird lol

Anyway, I want to get seriously into martial arts and professional fighting, but as a Muslim, is it a bad thing to do? I don't know if being a fighting maniac a good image for a Muslim man, but it's really what I want to do and I'm very passionate about it

What do you think?

8 yo uninterested in Quran/namaz

My 8 yo started praying regularly since his 8th birthday. We live in the US and both of us (parents) work so he goes to school and after school goes to afterschool/basketball practice on M-T until 6pm. After that he has his Quran lesson from 7-7:30pm with mandatory practice of his lesson from 6;30-7pm. He comes home earlier on Friday and we sometimes go to Jumma prayers in masjid.

When we are coming back home M-T, it’s like the Maghreb time is almost ending so I get into a rush where I am pushing him to do Wudu and perform Salaah. I have to pray too so sometimes I tell him to hurry and pray with me. He takes ages with wudu, procrastinates a lot and if left on his own, he eventually prays (takes 30 minutes to complete his wudu / gets distracted) and prays super duper fast. I am 200% sure he doesn’t say all the words properly praying that fast. The times I ask him to do imam, he does really well but it’s not always possible as I also have a toddler who needs attetion. But we have to constantly nag him to pray. It gets so frustrating he procrastinates so much and we get super frustrated and get angry at him.

During the Quran lessons he’s always yawning or talking too much. He’s learning and has improved a lot in reading though but he’s so disinterested. I feel like I’m constantly forcing him for Salaah and Quran and he himself has no interest in these. He is a smart kid otherwise and can play for hours on his Nintendo without getting tired which he only gets on weekends. Also he says that I can’t control him and can’t force him to do things. I tell him that’s only because I want all of us to be together in Jannah. It goes through his head.

How can I inculcate interest of Quran/Salaah in him? He also has trouble helping around the house. He doesn’t want to put too much effort into showing his best behavior at home. When I meet his teachers, they paint a different picture, they say he’s an exemplary student in behavior and academics but we are so frustrated with him at home.

Dizoclipine, PCP and ketamine are often used to experimentally induce schizophrenia, even in animals, they behave erratically and develop cognitive and social deficits.

This implies a physical substance can affect the brain such that a severe disease can arise such that it mimicks what is understood to happen by affliction from jinn.

How does one interpret this?

How does one tell from jinn versus, what is known to be a part of it, autoimmunity induced schizophrenia (due to M1 muscarinic ACh receptor or NMDA receptor autoantibodies)?