It's hard having your SO in the military. The unreliableness of army planning, the moving, deployments, constant red tape for the smallest shit.

How do you guys not let this choice of career affect you and your relationship? I'm really struggling because I feel like I've given up a lot of my own goals and wants to meet his career choices that affect both our lives significantly. Need some advice from veteran milspouses please

Just a little fun for your eardrums! Stationed with Stories is a podcast I started as a #milspouse last month. If you want recommendations on good reads, commiseration, and a hefty use of "y'all," check it out! www.stationedwithstories.com <-- Podcast website here! Episode 4 sneak peak below!

Sneak Peak of Episode 4

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Soo, I did a thing and started a podcast yesterday about life as a new milspouse & writer! Check it out if you're looking for a good laugh, commiseration, the repeated usage of "y'all" and good reads! www.stationedwithstories.com

You can find it on Apple Podcasts and Spotify, too!

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I have an interview in a couple weeks with CA EDD and am stressing on whether they will deny me since the move is overseas. I know I meet all their other requirements, it’s just the overseas component I’m concerned about.

Hello, I am conducting a research project for my University and it involves a survey meant to be taken by American Air Force spouses. It is IRB approved and it would help contribute to a larger project in the future. There is less research on Air Force marriages than most people might think and I hope to help change that. All responses would be anonymous even to me. Thank you! https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/7B28JQ7

I have a question about the va loan. Last year we purchased a house with the Va loan, we were approved for $130,000. My question is would our approval rate change if we moved somewhere else? My husband wants to stay here for a few more years which is probably wise financially so we don’t lose money on the house. We would like to go to Colorado or Washington next but those are very expensive states. I’m just wondering if the Va loan approval amount will go up if we went somewhere like that? Or would it be about the same because of our current incomes?

My husband is in the Air Force, about 6-7 years away from retirement. I plan on applying to law school next year but have no idea where we will live in the next few years. Has anyone gotten into a great law school or college and their military spouse been able to PCS to that location because of your school? We have 3 kids so living separately for the duration is not an option.

Did anyone listen to the NPR podcast Rough Translation miniseries home/front? (Three episodes, the first is here: https://www.npr.org/2021/06/01/1002246591/home-front-battle-rattle). Does anyone know of any resources or groups particularly for spouses of veterans?

Hello, a spot finally opened up at one of the CDCs in our location. Does anyone’s toddler/child go to Dam Neck CDC in VB? And if so, how do you like it? I’m a bit worried because my daughter is thriving in her current daycare but obviously prefer if we can save on childcare. TIA!

Hello!

My boyfriend and I are PCS-ing from Fort Bragg to San Diego. It will be our first time doing it together as I finally got a job that will let me go with him!!

Unfortunately, since we are unmarried the army is not offering to transport my car as well. Does anyone have a shipping company they really liked for such a long move that's affordable?

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Thanks all!

Has anyone’s spouse joined the Army Ranger regiment as an officer? Just wondering what the experience of the officer and the spouse of the officer was like. Even if the situation was not an officer I still would like to hear everyone’s experience!

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Hello all,

Husband is leaving for Army training. Before he is set to leave I am just trying to get everything set. For example, moving to a place that will be better for our family + pets, since he will be gone and it will be just me. Canceling/Pausing some things only he uses for example Hulu, Phone, extra data plans... while doing all of this we realized some places offered military discounts and offered to sign us up. Since he already has all his paperwork and everything, its been a fairly simple process to do.

The problem: Husband got mad and raised his voice because while figuring out what data services we need to pause (husband has separate plans for his ipad and phone because he wanted higher speeds, etc), we were told that as a family, we could qualify for military plan and it would also extend to our family. I thought that was great! Husband immediately just lost it and said wait, stop, no.

To clarify: we didn't ask about the military discount. Phone Representative asked the reason for changing our services and my husband said he was leaving for Army training. Representative was the one to bring up the discount. Husband then told the Rep that he was going into the reserves not active duty. He really wanted to clarify that fact since he thought that being in the reserves meant he would not qualify for any discounts anywhere. The Rep told him no, they also do military discounts for those in the reserves.

Husband did not think he would be getting this discount. As he has now been told he could qualify for car insurance discounts, and many other things he just shut down. I guess he thought he would not qualify for any military discounts while being with the reserves. Now he just started yelling he shouldn't get anything at least until he returns from basic training in a few months. Or until he has been working for a few months after. Then the conversation ended there cuz he was yelling and I just cant talk to him when he is yelling.

I tried to talk to him. Right now for me, I did stop working due to the pandemic. He was an essential employee so his income has got us through all these months perfectly fine. But now he is leaving and I still haven't found a job. Plus with virtual school for the kids and we don't live near family, I just don't know how things are going to work out. I have saved up enough to last us through 2 months after he leaves so I have a bit more time to find a job. But it's just the uncertainty of it all that is making me stressed out.

I was grateful that they offered a discount. Phone and data plans alone are about $300 a month for us. Would it really be so wrong to accept the military discount now instead of 6 or 8 months from now? Or 6 yrs from now when he changes to active duty, which is apparently when he thought he would qualify for any sort of discounts.

He has been so proud of enlisting and right now he did go into the reserves because we dont want to be uprooting our family every few yrs because of children. But as soon as children are off to college, Husband plans to switch to Active Duty. I'm wondering if he just mentally told himself the reserves is not like active duty and he would not be getting any discounts or anything. And now he is being told car insurance, and many other places do have discounts for those in the reserves. I dont know if it was all too much for him to hear or what happened.

Also, Due to the pandemic his leaving date got pushed for months but now its all finalized and he will be leaving. I am trying to prepare but as I am trying to ask him to help me get everything settled but he is just resisting and putting it all off. I'm wondering if maybe it is all just hitting him now that he will be leaving.

Any advice would help or maybe just thoughts?

(PS I've tried to get him to help with looking for another place to move to. Asked him to set our dog with a vet plan just in case. no help. Asked him for help with looking for a new couch for new place. And these are all things that he himself brought up when he enlisted as things we should do before he leaves he is now just avoiding it all.) Maybe all of this is starting to get very real for me as well. A few years ago, husband was across the country when his job cut his hours drastically. I ended up being responsible for all our bills, and it happened so suddenly I had to charge credit cards and we got into some debt. It took a few years to pay it all off but we ended up alright. No more debt or anything. Now with our family growing and he is leaving again. I just dont want to have to worry about going through all that stress and worry again. And it was nice to see him going into a job he is proud to do but I didn't think him accepting military discounts would be such a huge negative thing for him. And it's not like 50% off or huge discounts. From what I was told most places offer 10% or something. For me, it may be small but I know those things can add up and help our family. Now I'm just wondering if I should just avoid saying anything about him leaving because car insurance gave him a $6 discount on our bill and that made him frown. We were just checking to make sure our second car had my name on it and while conversing with the rep my husband said he was leaving for training and they gave him the discount.

Hi everyone ! I’m new to all of this Reddit and being a potential milspo. I’m marrying my boyfriend in May and I was wondering if there is Wifi in the private housing on base at Camp Lejeune? Or do I have to call and get someone to install wifi for me?

It seems like military members and their spouses have the best wisdom on moving. Anyone want to share their tips here? On DIY moves, packing, getting settled in, picking a place, or the crazy Tetris game that is loading a moving van? :-)

Or even just crazy stories that might keep someone else from going through what you did.

My husband and I have gone through two moves, one long and one short. We're due for another short move in April (about a four hour drive.) Wanted to get on base because it's an expensive area (Hurlburt Field) but no luck yet. They say they'll only have openings starting in September. We've NEVER been able to live on base! I feel like I'm missing out on the military community!

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Our off-base lease ends July 1 and our landlord won't extend or go month to month because her grandson and his very pregnant wife are supposed to move in after us. They are currently staying with the wife's mother so it's not like they're out on the streets. Our original orders were for August, and my husband was supposed to do a month long TDY in July, so we were just going to make it work. But as of today our orders have been pushed to November and we will effectively be homeless when the lease ends. Can the SCRA apply in this situation to provide legal basis for us to push back with our landlord? Or is there some other legal basis we could leverage?

I just started a YT channel. Any other milso’s that have one as well? Dropping the link to my channel for those of you interested.

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I’m from Germany and I am moving to the states to be back with husband in a few months. Am I eligible to do the scholarship with a german high school diploma or do I have to attend adult high school to get the american one?