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For context I am talking about 50yr+ men trying to pick up 20yr old girls.

I know there's been a kind of wababaz epidemic, where early 20s chicks are in some kind arrangement with older men that mostly involves money. And whenever people talk about these dynamics they almost always blame the girl or call her names.

The other day while I was waiting for my manz in a restaurant huko westi, and older dude came to sit across from me unsolicited even though I kept insisting I am waiting for someone. He was talking about how his marriage is terrible and how he just wants to feel alive again. While flexing his financial status. Honestly this guy was pretty charming and I realized why girls are roped in. But I couldn't help but notice the judgemental stares I would get from other women.

And I was wondering, why are we so quick to judge the younger girls. Don't people know that the men are the ones grooming them? Mbona a man is so comfortable flirting with these girls? Why is it never the man's fault?

Alafu, where is the audacity coming from? Yaani ukona pete na bado uta approach dem? I don't understand how comfortable these wababaz are. Ata kwa club, it's assured the first person to hit on you is a man older than your father. It's sickening to think that these men probably have daughters the same age.

This isn't the first time something like that has happened. Kwa mat on my way to town, a significantly older dude paid for my fare without asking and so I felt obligated to talk to him the whole time. Kwa mat🤦. It's insane.

What happened to shame? Or even discretion?

Alafu, ata wewe just be real, mtu akuje akuambie they will pay your rent and send you money monthly if you agree to be in an arrangement with them. How many of you would say no? Expecially kama umetoka TU campus na Bado huna job and going back home is not an option. I mean I get the motivation on the girls part. But I don't understand from the men's perspective. Coz this girl is a child. In most ways that matter. Already ukona watoto why would you want more. It's sick

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I know ni asubuhi but nimeamka late kinda. I wanted to go for the first mass but before nijitayarishe and all, I’ll be ten times late so let me make this post that has been on my mind then I do some work before second Mass

So, you probably know Tileh or you dont. You probably saw his post or you didnt. Him and his ex Wife Martina, now the baby mama broke up one year ago and since they paraded their lives on social media, everyone knew their business. Now, when they broke up, everyone assumed it was the man who cheated. Coz we women are so perfect, we cant cheat yada yada yada.

He made a post yesterday to clear his name and state that he’s been going through it. He has been loosing brand deals coz people cant trust a cheating spouce (society smh). Anyway he came clean and said that he has had to carry a burden thats not his for years na amechoka.

He went ahead to say he has never cheated (maybe true maybe false coz men yoh), he said his ex wife participated in ex marital affairs and not to just one man but mutiple men.

Now, I decided to check the comments coz I thought they’d sympathize with him. Oh Lo and behold💔 everyone crucifying him for speaking up after one year, oh youve seen that your ex wife is doing great now you want to destroy her. Why didnt you think about your kid. You are victim blaming. She is the mother of your kids and a whole lot of nonesense.

Knowing influencers, that post might have been to attract publicity to Martina and the business she just launched but that aside. Society has failed men. Yes I know men are not good people and so are we women. If the post came from the lady, people would have been so quick to cancel Tileh but now that its the woman at fault people are looking for a reason to turn things around.

SIO FITI! EVERYONE SHOULD CARRY THEIR CROSS!!

Poleni sikudhani itakua refu hivi💔

My phone's first homepage with my most used apps. Who am I? What did I have for dinner? With whom? Did I get an expensive education or I went to the local DEB school? Am I even Kenyan? Did I get good grades? Do I work? Go :-)

I honestly think there's a good chance we're living ina simulation. Try reading about the double slit experiment, also called the observer's effect. Good chance our reality is rendered as we go. Your gf in the next room does not exist (not rendered yet) untill you call her, she coughs or you walk to the room. Crazy stuff...

What is a "life well lived?"

I am sure we have encountered such kinds of people in our lives.

What are the "secret" signs you're dealing with a narcissist???

 i experienced a perfect date 2023 around March with a nice lady anaitwa Sydney . It was actually a blind date . we had been talking for a month before we met and we had agreed no pictures just calls and texts until day ya date . so the day came , nikaenda kummeet archives cos my dumb ass dont know nothing about town and i dont even care manze . She elezead how she was dressing and i did and there she was apa mbele ya mrP . and damn the Gojias babe was dressed so nice with a cute smile and nice perfume . tulikuwa tuende some restaurant nlikuwa nmeambililiwa na my friends who used to do this dating shit . kufika apo gai kumbe ilifungwa like a month ago . apparently Kilimanjaro was right around the corner.. didnt think shed fuck with the joint since these women are evil out here but i still suggested and she was like fuck yea lets do it . we went there . i picked a spot , and we sat . nlikuwa loaded kiasi nlikuwa adi nmekula chama so sikuwa niogopeshwe na bill apo . the conversation was heavenly . like damn i know am funny but this babe matched the energy , knew what to say when to say it when to shut up ,, eyy other guys were looking tukibomoa sinia yetu apo tukicheka , so the plan was after that we go get cocktails or something .. I had the guys wanifungie take away ju nlikuwa nataka kukuwa na one on one meeting na izo mifupa kwa nyumba . we left and got into a spot .. i didnt want to like overspend like a bomboclat .. the babe akasuggest instead of getting cocktails we just buy a half of gin .. hee hajui vile aliniokolea ju nlikuwa nahesabu izo 600 600 mpaka tulewe naona this aint it . we drank our kamnyueso , conversation still flowing manze , laughs all over ,, bits of holding hands .. it was honestly awesome . we left the spot around 8 and the plan was nimpeleke stage ya kwao ngong mimi nirudi babadogo sasa nikafanye mazematics .. and the shawrie was like lets go to your place . apparently she had clothes in her tiny bag .. ... kumbavu zangu .. we all know what that means .. we went home and to cut the story short we bomoad each other like nonsense she left the following morning coz she had church na her mom alikuwa anajua shell be there .. asubui adi nikambuyia sleepers za bafu na her own towels just in case shed like to come back and she left her lotion , hair gel and perfumes . Best 6000 i spoilt in a weekend to be honest .

AND HANDS DOWN BEST DATE IVE BEEN TO .

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I just had a random memory of boarding school, there was a clique of friends who were rearing snakes, kwa dorm.... looking back, that was way weird

20 M. My friend was like "Wewe weka afro nywele yako itakuwa sawa ivo", last week my mum told me to get a cut and did. My girlfriend saw it and said I looked better. My other friend was like "Wachana na uyo dem ako na mtu", my mum adviced me to shoot turned out "mtu" was her cousin and not as we assumed and now I'm with her. My friend was like "Heri upige tu guitar bila kuimba naeza kutafutia mtu anajua", my mum said I'm a good singer. I landed a gig in an Irish pub restaurant performing solos and covers. Man I love that woman. God bless her

One thing I picked up from Mickey and his team is that there's always time to grab a good meal. Now, show me a better pairing than this highschool combo... I'll wait.

Older than Gen Z guys, WTF is this recording videos or taking photos in clubs all about? Or am I the only one who actually hates it?

Who wants to go out tomorrow? For a daytime fun day? We brainstorm location. I've been in the house all day and I'm losing my mind. Location, within Nairobi. Guy or girl. Above 30

I really dislike getting a hotel and having to sleep there ,just the idea makes me want to die !These beds are so cold .They are so uncomfortable too,alafu some rough thing that is used to cover the mattress 😔pia I start imagining how many people have been to that same bed same pillows 😭 I saw a TikTok that spirits love places like airports and hotel rooms because everyone type of person walks in and so there is a variety of people to choose from. No matter how long the night is I'll make sure to go home and sleep in my bed

I used to earn a moderate-ish salary, but I quit that job around the pandemic. It's been a long journey but I make a decent six figure amount now from my business. What scares me about this is how high my standards have become- I can only use certain products for skin care, body care e.t.c, I have become a total perfume snob- It seems I can only use expensive niche perfumes now because most of everything else smells like cheap crap to me. I have a collection now. My taste in food, snacks, drinks, leisure activities, travel, furniture, decor e.t.c. has gone up & I can't stand to use public transport anymore. I know it sounds like I'm bragging, and I apologize for that, but I'm genuinely scared. With the way the economy is set up, and how unpredictable business is, I don't know if I could possibly go back to my previous life if things were to go wrong (I sure hope not). I also have ADHD and struggle with anxiety & imposter syndrome and I get overwhelmed quite often. All that compounded, I don't know if I could maintain the level of consistency, hard work and delusional self- confidence that it takes for me to make what I make and more- forever. That scares me.

I like compliments a lot 🤩 Don't know if it's insecurity 😂

I just have one question bana. Niaje mkiwa uku nje in these streets either ukona madem kadhaa or huna dem at all? I actually know a guy who was single for like 4 years but once he got a girlfriend all of a sudden akona roster nikamuuliza rada akanishow kila mtu na starehe yake

Should you forgive a cheating partner?

A certain lady I know who is a lot older was advising somebody to just forgive her partner for cheating. Problem is the dude was a serial cheater.

"Ni kawaida ya wanaume wanakuwanga ivyo"

Should you do it?should you forgive a cheater?

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I often see similar dilemmas posted here on career or business or life. I have been on a binge of materials on strategic thinking and propose an approach derived from the works of Roger Martin- one of the fore most thinkers on strategic thinking. It is not for everyone but can be helpful in clarifying" what, why and how" and giving ideas and thoughts structure. You still need to do the work and be accountable to yourself. Here goes _Personal/business strategizing:
a. What is my winning aspiration?

• What is my ultimate business/ career goal?
• What kind of impact do I want to have in my field?
• What does success look like for me in the long term?

b.Where will I play?

• In which industries, sectors, or organizations do I want to build my career?
• What roles or functions align with my skills and aspirations?
• What regions or markets are best suited for my growth?

c. How will I win where I have chosen to play?

• What unique value do I bring to the table?
• What strategies will help me stand out in my chosen field?
• How can I leverage my strengths to advance and make an impact?

d. What capabilities must be in place to win?

• What skills, knowledge, or expertise do I need to develop?
• What kind of professional network should I build?
• What experiences or credentials will enhance my career trajectory?

e. What management systems are required to ensure the capabilities are in place?

• How will I track my progress and adjust my strategy?
• What habits, routines, or learning systems will support my growth?
• How will I stay accountable and ensure continuous improvement?

It is simple to grasp but harder to put in practice and follow through on.

Owning a car is very vital but sometimes it can be a headache. What’s your story, that a car almost made you go to sayuni or made you have your mech on speed dial😂

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You all be soo fast to reply without even understanding the shit you read it's crazy.😂

All I talked about was women should put themselves first,take every measure to avoid pregnancy cause they are there and yes I talked about my cousin juu this is someone I do love.I was with her during the whole abortion process and see that pain she went through ,hell I'd not wish it on any girl and ik damn well she'll never want to be in the same position ever again.

The one asking if I told her whatever I wrote here,yes I did word for word and the next time she is active I'll make sure she gets the perfect contraceptives. She is traumatised ,in pain and looks soo weak na she might probably need therapy ,so no I would never want her to go through the same shit again.Stone me.

Mko defensive omg,like chill nobody is judging you and nobody said it's not a personal decision cause hell it is.All I'm saying is the pain that comes with it is avoidable .So if you can please do avoid it.

I am not talking about the times where people get pregnant juu a pill failed or the CD bursted.They did try to prevent it the first time so abortion comes as a second option.I am talking about the ones who just have sex with the idea of hata nikipata ball nita abort and yes you will,but what about your health then?what will happen if you have complications?like if it's an option let it be the last option not the first one.One of you even did an AI evaluation on me .I stan the effort ngl.

Some of you all you saw was" if you do abortion you will go to hell,women should not abort ,You will be judged if you marie stopped ,abortion is not a right,women don't have the free will to abort,I hate my cousin for aborting"!!! like who even wrote that shit cause damn well it wasn't me💀😂

And this might come as a shock but not every girl is okay with abortion,but it doesn't mean they go around judging and shaming everyone who is.At the end of the day you still have to respect people's choices.

Kama umewahi kula very cheap fries and was suspiciously tasty, jua you and Kplc fell with it.

There was this lady in Meru town who customers loved her chips and I was shocked she had no budget for cooking oil

Yep title is grim but who will you be accountable to being nice , fitting in society and what nots? Is it all worth it ? in the less than 100 years you'll be dead and forgotten. ? In 2099 well all be star dust. Do you rn. . . Nihilism is how to pass through these cracks ... That's my existential crisis rant for now . . .