I'm currently a sahm struggling so much not only financially but mentally. I want to have a career that I absolutely love and something that gives back to the people, animals, or nature. My boyfriend works but it's still not enough. I mentally can not handle another job focused on meeting quotas and damaging my mental health. I am a high-school graduate but I feel like any job that actually does good in this world requires a college degree): are there any jobs I can look into that help make some type of difference in this world that don't require a degree? I wanted to start making jewelry but right now I don't even have money to meet my families needs right now, let alone material.

I went back to a company where I was laid off. I only lasted a few days, let me explain. I had some personal family needs to take care of out of state. I thought that starting back at a company I loved working at would help lift my spirits up, instead, I found that I was welcomed back professionally but not personally. I took a demotion, which is fine with me, however, not to others. I had to experience being laughed at while working and someone telling me if they were me they’d end their life. I was already feeling both excited and anxious to come back. I miss the days where I was working here and feeling like a winner. For these days I was back, I felt like a major loser and I decided to leave. I left even more of a loser for quitting and not working my way up. I love the company and have some close friends there but I’m not sure where I should go at this point. Since then, I’ve been working a remote job in order to travel and see family while working. I’ve ran into some ex coworkers and they want to know if I’m okay or what’s going on with me. A part of me wants to try and go back again but I feel like I disappointed the recruiting team by leaving suddenly. I opened up to my recruiter about some coworkers telling me awful things and I regret letting it affect me while I needed to focus on other things. I told them I’m ready to come back with a better mindset. Am I being desperate here? I know this is just a job at the end of the day. I may be overthinking but I feel as though I ruined my reputation at the company and I’ll never be accepted by my peers there for not being myself lately. Am I overthinking? Should I even consider going back after how I’ve been treated? Please help me get into the right mindset again, I can’t wait for the day I’m settled in and love what I do for work again.

So I have BS in Computer Science and Applied Math (dual degrees), worked as a software dev for 4 years spread across 2 different companies.

Thanks to a God awful education (didn't do any programming after my freshman year of college) and my unwillingness to study coding after 8 hours of trying to code, I am a shit programmer. I get stuck, I get frustrated, I get depressed and burnt out, then I get fired. This happened at both of my software dev jobs.

I lost the last one in March 2024. With the tech industry in shambles, I haven't been able to get a new software job. Couldn't even get a helpdesk job. I'm currently working front desk at a condo to put food on the table.

So currently my options are to either self-study programming and hope I can whip myself back into shape or jump fields entirely. I'm considering law school (could never litigate but could handle non-litigious law I think), going for MS in Project Management or accounting but if you all have other ideas I am open to considering it.

PS. Sorry for the repost but nobody responded :(

I (20M) live in the uk, i work in retail and I'm currently struggling on deciding what to do from here and how to go about doing it.

The highest qualification I have is a HNC (higher national certificate) in animal management/care. And my next step education wise would be to get the HND (higher national diploma) however I've always struggled with staying on top of my work and focusing during lessons/lectures. My tutors and GP believe the cause is ADD, I'm in the process of being tested but I've been warned I might not hear anything for another year or two and I don't really want to go back into education if I'm not going to be able to do my best.

This leaves me with career choices with what I have, none of which pay great and I don't have the money to learn something else as student finance won't cover anything other than the HND as its a top up to my current degree.

I would love to work in a zoo, but there are none close by, i don't have a car or license yet as money is abit tight but I should I have my license by the end of next year if everything goes well.

I'm unqualified to work as a vet I've worked in pet shops temporarily, i enjoyed it but the pay wasn't as good as my current job.

I'm just not sure whether I've wasted my education on a career that's just no viable for me based on where i live or I'm just looking in the wrong places. Any advice would be appreciated and I'll be happy to elaborate on things if I need to.

Thanks in advance :)

Just turned 24, getting my MA in what is essentially fancy Japanese studies. I love my field, I'm having a great deal of fun pursuing it. I graduated from my BA with honors, and I've already done a very satisfying merchandise-related internship; while it's not the field I'm aiming for, it allowed me some great networking opportunities. I've done international exchange programs - on my second one right now - I've done mentorship programs, I feel like I've really given it everything. Even beyond my education, I'm fluent in three languages and advanced in another, and I know I care a lot about the quality of my work and that I'm a fast learner.

I'm not /really/ scared of not finding a job, at least not in the long term. I don't need my career to be related to my degree, but even then, I have a few options I'd love to pursue. Localization is an obvious one. I'm also currently applying for an internship at a publishing house, aiming for international literature. And of course, academia - I love the idea of doing research and teaching. I already teach as an occasional part-time job and I love it to bits, and the strongest career envy I've ever felt was when my prof. told me he'd spent two weeks cataloguing every sign in an airport. I realize it sounds ridiculous, but I'd do that for free, let alone if I got paid for it. Even a museum or tourism-related job sounds great, because I'd get to teach people about stuff I'm passionate about.

What I'm scared of is that everyone is right, and I won't be able to find a job that I like AND pays well, and I'll be miserable forever. Localization is a dying field; publishers are struggling. Academia is notoriously hard to get into and toxic to be in, and it doesn't seem to pay well at all. I am far from a high-needs person, I just want to have a roof over my head, food, and the money to occasionally buy a game or travel somewhere, and afford therapy if I need it (other healthcare is free in my country) - but what if everyone is right and I'll grow bitter and struggle to make ends meet? Even more, how do I deal with the idea that I will never live up to everyone's big expectations of me?

I keep thinking about what else I could've done, but short of studying medicine like my family pressured me to (which I believe would've been genuinely devastating for me) I can't think of another good option. I like CS well enough, but we are just seeing the effects of oversaturation in the market. My mom works in psychology and warned me against it for the same reasons. Journalism is just not a viable field. Teaching? My own high school teacher warned me that I'd waste my talent and passion if I tried to get into it, in my country (Italy) it pays starvation wages. I'm just struggling a lot with the idea that even if I do get into a field I like, people will be right, I will never get a career worthy of the name, and I'll have worked hard only to struggle financially and be unhappy. At the same time, it feels like every person I see who chose a job because it pays well, without liking it, is utterly miserable no matter how much money they have, so I can't see a solution. I wish I could be one of those people who is passionate about economics or engineering or something, but I'm not.

I guess this is more of a mindset/young person panic problem, but I'd genuinely appreciate any advice on this. Unfortunately, my university doesn't offer individual career advice, and all the group sessions I've seen advertised have been ridiculous - encouraging us to pursue retail careers level of ridiculous.

TL;DR: struggling with the idea that careers in fields I'm interested in will disappoint everyone's expectations on me + the fear that people are right and I'll be miserable if not in a well-paying corporate job. On the other hand, I'm also worried that I'll be miserable if I pursue one of said well-paying corporate jobs.

Looking for some real talk and perspective because I'm in my head too much about this right now and family just tells me what I want to hear.

I'm 35 & burnt out on fashion design (current career). I also moved away from NYC during the pandemic and had found a unicorn remote job that I was laid off from due to company finances.

Want to switch to art therapy/counseling. I'm introspective, a good listener, and connect with folks easily. With my arts background it feels like a natural transition and there are a few jobs I can see in NJ where I live.

However: I have a baby and I'm worried about providing for her. There are more lucrative degrees I could get (example: Sonography or nursing) that aren't as suited to my skills or personality type necessarily (not that I can't learn).

Either way, it probably means going back to school, and spending most of my life savings on another degree. I'm ok doing it, working part-time while getting my masters, but I'm afraid of doing it all and then not finding a job.

TLDR: I want to be an art therapist but worried about providing for my kid if it turns out there are no jobs. I feel like I'm going to be a broke art therapist who is great at their job or a comfortable sonographer who doesn't really gel with the job.

I read that this is the maximum i can work if im self-employed to keep my disability ssi, 2 to 3 hours a day would be perfect for me but i'm not sure what the best path to self-employment is for that? i don't really care about pay too much, i'd like a job that would allow me to get started doing it with little to no skill preperation. Preferably no education past high school, ive tried college a few times, it just doesn't work out.

I'm at a bit of a loss as I've realized that I tend to give up on myself and my dreams before I can really go after them. I have a History BA with a minor in English, meant to go to grad school after undergrad but took a year off to recover from burnout. Graduated in May 2019, so you can guess how that turned out. Have spent the time since in two jobs that I enjoy but are in a field I'm not super enthusiastic about (sales with a side of customer service).

Always wanted to go back to graduate school or get into something more mentally stimulating and was actually considering making the plunge to do a new pre-med bachelor's this year before stress from work made me have to call it quits before the semester. Would not be opposed to working in a certification or a Master's if I can find a way to juggle it with work. Not willing to sacrifice job/stability in personal life for it.

My partner is planning on moving to a city in the Northeast beginning of next year to pursue her dream job. I'm incredibly proud, and planning to move up there with her once she's found her feet/knows she wants to stay there. My current job is remote, so that shouldn't be a problem. However, I'd still like to do something more with my life and latch onto something with career prospects. I'm 27 and feel like time is slipping away from me and I want to be more reliable and stable for the people I love.

So, this kinda goes with multiple flairs but I’m in college rn so that one made most sense. Anyways, I’m a liberal arts in kinesiology major but I have no clue what to do career wise with that. I’ve always wanted to help people whether it was fire prevention or in the healthcare field, but I strayed away from being a firefighter or a nurse bc of the possible graphic situations. I’ve considered becoming a radiologist bc what I’m able to handle those images, but the only issue is idk the path or roadmap to take to get to that point. I feel like I’d have to start college all over again but don’t really want to restart since I’m three years in and I just don’t know what to do. Any advice or input is greatly appreciated. If you need more info from me to answer questions feel free to ask and I’ll answer. Thanks!

I’m 23 and just started working full time.

I studied engineering. I was very depressed the last year of college but pulled through, lost some friends. Fell out of contact with most people. Now working the past year. My company is very social and lots of activities. The work is mainly excel/boring. Pay is okay but not great. I talk with people a lot but just because we are colleagues. As a kid I’ve always been pessimistic, almost nihilistic to manage my anxiety. I got better but in 2023 had a really bad relapse and felt very hopeless. I never had a partner which I blame on covid and depression.

I’m feeling really doubtful about if life is worth it. it just seems like an endless cycle of struggling to pay the bills and stress about things, stare at computer/phone all day, get groceries, and the weekend flies by. I crave a purpose but I don’t know what it is and it feels like something that I’ll never find. The state of the world and economic future of my country seems poor.

Do you think I’m just depressed still or is life really like this like you have to work for so long, it’s so boring, I feel passion for nothing it’s like a nightmare. And aren’t hobbies just trying to distract yourself from the fact that life is so awful? I’m really looking for some encouragement or perspective.

I like to follow my heart, and that includes having to be realistic with my skillset.

I no longer want to push myself to do something because it seems like what I 'should' do.

I've always been interested in so many things- that I have unfortunately not had the skillset to get. In some ways this is a gift because I did not continue down paths that were not right- however, I find myself unable to find a DOable option for myself or a way to make my life something I like.

I do not have much charisma or confidence, and I'm not book smart enough to be good at some niche subject like IT- So I find my job options very limited.

I just spent the past 3 years in and out of university. Both majors were not for me. I am not willing to spend any more time on bachelor's degrees, especially during the prime of my life. Being a CNA is something that better matches my skillsets, and will likely help improve my people skills, but I'm extremely worried that the stress will break me- at a time when I'm already so emotionally exhausted from life. When I was in nursing school on placement, I was severely unprepared and unconfident which people picked up on, targeted me, & even blamed me for stuff I didn't do- Plus I beat myself up over it every day, feared being wrong and what others thought of me, I couldn't sleep at night and got paranoid that everyone was talking about me behind my back- then I got telogen effluvium hair loss and became scdal.

I realized the job security was not worth the stress, and I was not prepared, so I quit. Honestly, it was worth it. I see tons of experienced nursing complaining about the same things I went through- as a baby nursing student. It's not something I want to return to.

So I have 'settled' with being a CNA. I don't even mind the money, I just wan't to find something that is secure- I can feel good in and let's me live a life I want. I like the 4-day weekend, and it improves my people skills. But I don't want it to emotionally or physically break me.

My plan right now is to stay at my parents' home and work for 1 year. Then, I move, or go WWOOFing, then move.

Did I mention I also despise my parents, despise the city & country I live in, and have no friends??

There won't be anything good to come home to for the next year at least, nothing worth living for. I'll just be doing the exact thing I'm doing now- except the good thing is I won't be in school- the bad thing is I'll be working, a likely stressful job.

And I'm questioning if I move states, would my life be even much better? I think it would help getting away from toxicity and maybe a place with better weather- but what then? Most places in America have similar cities and people anyway.

This is why I'm interested in WWOOFing, we have family friends in a country I recently visited- I had a very good experience there. I like it much more than America- but I realize permanently moving there would be very difficult especially since I DONT know the language. But for the past week, I have had a 7-day Duolingo streak haha- which is a lot more consistency than other things I've put into besides video games and it's actually the only thing sparking excitement in me right now. I've also never been so consistent or so sure of what I like now, so I could see this has potential.

I guess my concerns are---- I'm worried this job will break me. I'm worried I'm not capable of any other job. Im also living in a place i hate, around people I despise, with no friends- nothing meaningful or enjoyable to come home to. Nothing worth it in life to work for. But I can't think of another option. I like learning a new language- and potentially getting more involved into that country one day- but that in itself is a difficult and long unclear road. I will say it's the only thing that sparks excitement in me, and I have spent the past many weeks just wishing I was born in a different country, in a different body, etc.

I know this is a lot, but no pressure to respond with a lot either. I'm just interested in what other people see, and will appreciate any advice or tips. Thank you for letting me share this

I don't want to ever have a job. All the people i know who work now seem miserable. Two of my friends, in well paying tech jobs, keep complaining about lack of free time. One copes by binge eating and shopping. The other by taking international trips a few times a year.

Its not that I just don't want to work, rather I don't know what to work for. Just to sustain my life? No I'm not interested in that. Having a family would require even greater financial commitments that I'm simply not up for. There is no cause I believe in, no values to really align myself by (other than being patient, kind and helpful, which I already try to be, but that is bare minimum), I think I'm just fucking bored.

I don't really have big ambitions or dreams. If I got a monthly allowance for free every month, I would just take the time to read more, make music, watch movies, do gardening, help at an animal shelter or take up some craftwork. I think it'll be enough to stay content enough for the rest of my life.

But there's no way I can live like that until I retire right? That is if I can even afford to, or don't die before I'm that old. I don't want to spend my life at a routine, repetitive job doing things I don't care about, talking to people I don't wanna talk to and being subservient to those I don't believe in. What does it take to be free?

I'm 17 years old and a highschool student. I get above average grades. I don't know what I want to do in the future. I have no hobbies (my hobbies are forbidden in my religion). I like to play video games but my father took my controllers. I don't have my own room so I sleep and study in the living room. I like to listen to music but that's also supposedly forbidden in my religion. I have been addicted to pornography from the age of 8 and masturbation (I'm trying to quit). I have suffered from physical and mental abuse and when I was a kid. I consider myself to be more towards the handsome side but I don't ever get asked out. I'm not allowed to date because its forbidden in my religion. My father is distant and unwilling to communicate. He's grumpy and talks in a rather rude tone to everyone in the family. I have no other family here but I do have a group of good friends at school. The only social life I have is in school and I dislike studying. It feels like I have nowhere to go. I have no driving license, no job, no bank account, no gym membership (my father says he'll get me one but he never does), and no vision in life. I have frequent negative and self-harm thoughts. Is there anything I can do to improve my life even a little??

I tend to overthink my decisions often and I am very hard on myself. I am very nitpicky about doing things. It’s hard to just not be this way, I wish I could just be chill about things like most people. Anyways, I would love to know if there are any careers that would fit more with who I am/how I think. I currently only have a Bachelor’s in Education but I could not do teaching due to this flaw.

Hi,
I'm earning my undergrad in MIS (management information systems) from a CSU at the end of this semester. I am very relieved to be done with school for the typical reasons, but mainly I've lost interest in my major starting my junior year in. I picked it 'cause 1. I like tech/coding enough, but didn't like CS 2. it is versatile; it has many fields and can be lucrative. I don't want to be chained down to a certain field (I also don't have a specialty I really like other than web design). I also didn't want to switch majors because of sunk cost fallacy lol.
I've struggled with my mental and physical health, and my disinterest in my major was a factor that led to my disillusionment. For my mental health, I started seeking therapy and found out what a LCSW (licensed clinical social worker) is. LCSWs have been my therapists/counselors which astounded me, as I thought only a psychologist/psychiatrist listened and helped those seeking help. I also have been referred to psychiatrists for meds. The procedures with them have been interesting too, but I am not becoming a doctor lol.
For my physical health, I ate healthier, worked out, did breathing exercises, etc. Working out, especially with others (classes and social gatherings) is fun. I think about how the instructors and other fitness staff, like nutritionists, got their positions. But I also have an eating disorder...if someone were to ask me how to lose weight, I don't think my advice would be sage.
From my experiences, I've deduced that I am interested in healthcare/recreation. I realized that I want a fulfilling career that improves people's health, especially mentally. I'm still going through my mental health recovery but truly appreciate the providers I've worked with. I understand the stress may be high at times and the pay may not be elite, but for an entry role, I'm okay with those factors.
In high school, I was in a Health and Medical pathway. For those 4 years, I had electives pertaining to typical medicine and they were cool, but not intensive/vigorous. I entered college as a pre-nursing major but quickly changed to pre-MIS after I had a panic attack studying for anatomy...I suppose I've had a predisposition for a healthcare job, but my personality and interests continously changed. I also don't like things like blood or trauma such as ER cases.
I had an IT assistant job for a school year and that was cool, but it was entry-level. I liked the office environment and didn't mind sitting at my computer the whole shift. I can't see myself working like that as a career though; it felt like merely a starter IT job to me.
What are your thoughts? I thought about exploring a master's in social work or counseling, but am open to all feedback. I am also open to veterinary suggestions as I love animals lol. Are there other IT healthcare crossovers I haven't heard of? Thank you.

I (24 F) graduated college 3 years ago with a bachelors in environmental science. I honestly just got the degree to appease my parents and they told me I had to go to college so I did. I didnt know what kind of job I wanted going into it and I still havent figured it out. I guess I chose that degree because I want to make the world a better place for future generations and science is interesting to me. I did a few internships with my degree at a non profit but didnt really enjoy them. Now its been 3 years later, and what do I have to show for it? Not much. I've been a server since I was 17. I have a good amount of money saved up, I was able to buy a newish car, have a nice apartment and can afford to buy things I want. I just feel like I should have a career by now? I like serving, but I dont really want to do that forever. I made 50k last year just serving, so I don't really feel motivated to find something else. Im not super sure what to do or where to go from here. I enjoy making jewelry, but can I turn that into a career? Im very creative and initially wanted to go to school for art, but my parents wouldnt allow that. I honestly just am starting to feel like a failure. I cant stop comparing myself to others and obsessing over my shortcomings. Help ?

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My sister was in a radiologic technology program but was struggling in math and likely has dyscalculia. She can't do math. But she isn't very customer-service oriented either. Not a people person. She's still in college, just not in this program anymore. It is her first year of college.

Are there any decent-paying, stable jobs that are more solitary but not math-focused? My sister is great at art and decent at writing.

>29M, just started as a teacher in rural NC, living at home with parents. I make 3.5k per month.

>Never been very independent except when teaching English abroad, which was a 2 year deal that I came home from 6 months ago. I'm not going back abroad because I could hardly make ends meet. I did love it, though.

>I have 5k saved up, but I normally spend 2 to 3k per month on expenses, managing to save 1k per month.

>Looking at local used cars I see some used Hondas for about 4k that I could see myself getting in another few months.

>My friends are elsewhere in the US and world, they say my family dynamic is dysfunctional and I should get out of here ASAP.

>My parents are loving and generally supportive, but my dad will sometimes do things like keep my mom up all night screaming at her about how he thinks she doesn't love him anymore, or more often just be moody and snappy all day.

>Dad's always been a difficult person, but it's only been the past few years he's really gone off the rails and most of it's due to debilitating chronic pain.

>I spend most of my money buying groceries and gas for them, I want to financially support them, but again, I've managed to save up 5K.

>Current plan is to save up a few thousand more, buy a car, get an apartment somewhere within a reasonable distance from my job and my home so that I can still help my parents with stuff and spend time with them, but not have to be there all the time.

>I feel like my parents will see this as so odd and like a huge adjustment, as I've always been here with them and more or less done as they've expected despite their issues.

>The idea of getting on with people around here who would be my roommates sounds like a stretch, as I've never really fit in too well here. I can say that I've always gotten along with my redneck coworkers at various jobs just because I keep things lighthearted, but living with these kinds of people just seems like a whole nother story to me.

>Assuming much of my day isn't necessarily dedicated to helping my parents with various things, I don't know what exactly I'll do, and having this independence sounds weirdly daunting to me. Sure, I lived on my own while abroad, but outside of work, I'd either sleep or hang out with friends. I don't have close friends I see around here.

What are your thoughts on all of this?

Is the demand for IT folks dying or is the market fluctuated? constantly seeing IT folks finding it hard to land jobs that have been laid off previously?

Which industry is stable.. finance? Insurance? (Apart from blue collar jobs)

This year has been the worst year of my life. It started with me being laid off from my dream job and losing my long time boyfriend. I now work remote for my parents company and I’m not feeling fulfilled with the job. I’ve lost my friends because I made the mistake of ranting about my feelings rather than seeking a therapist for some direction. I now have a family member that is severely sick. I’m not sure what to focus on right now, if I should be looking for new jobs, looking to move to a new city and start over, or what will make me the happiest. I am seeking a good everyday routine again, I want to be excited to live and work every day. Please advise.

Hi! I'm 17F, a high school Junior who's graudating this summer. I've had a very hard time figuring out what to do. After years of thought I was going to pursue in computer science but the recent years have turned that all on its head. Now I'm lost on a major and college as I didn't know what to do so just applied to as many as I could. My majors are zoology/animal science/wildlife biology, forensic science, and cybersecurity. I am interested in all of these things but not sure which would be more useful as a degree and have a better outlook in the future. I still have no idea which college I should go to but here are some I was accepted too: UAA UAF Eckerd College Hartwick College Norwich University Robert Morris University- Pennsylvania Plymouth State University Uni of Wyoming Uni of New Hampshire Truman State Uni Southeast Missouri State Uni Salem College Roger Williams Uni Northwest Missouri State Uni Maryville Uni Maine Maritime Academy Emporia State Uni Bellarmine Uni Uni of Missouri- St. Louis Uni of Evansville Uni of Central Missori Thomas More Uni Tiffan Uni Missouri Uni of Science and Technology Hesston College Baker College Southern Nazarene Uni

These are the colleges I was accepted into with an automatic scholarship. If anybody has any info on any of these it would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!

I was last in school about 4 years ago and was taking primarily business classes at my local community college. My plan was to transfer my credits over to the school I wanted to get my degree from so that I could save some money, but I ended up never going back after I planned a one semester break. I was planning to go to school for Music Business.

Since then, a lot has changed in my life and I am just not sure if that field is for me. I love the idea of it as live music is a huge part of my life, but I worry it just won’t offer a lifestyle that is best for my physical/mental health. With that being said, as much as I hate school as I struggle greatly retaining information in academic settings, studying, etc., I have been heavily considering going back.

About 2 years ago I started working with dogs at a boarding/day care facility and I fell in love with that line of work. After about a year and a half there, I left to take a position that would’ve allowed me to continue working with dogs in the behavioral aspect (training facility). Unfortunately, this was a new small business and things kind of crumbled and it put me in a really bad depressive episode that I am still trying to dig myself out of. I imagined my entire life around this job so it’s been a hard pill to swallow. I’m basically at a point where I have to decide if risking job security at this small business is worth it as the market is flooded in our area and who knows if they will be able to employ me a year from now. I have to decide if finding an alternative line of work is best for me so I don’t struggle more in life than I need to as I am 24 years old and trying to get my sh*t together.

I have been heavily considering social work as I liked how broad it was, but assuming there will be lots of financial cuts in the upcoming year/years (I live in the U.S) thus probably resulting in less jobs, I am not sure if this is a waste of time and money. Plus as I mentioned previously, most of my old credits are business related and not needed for social work IF that is the route I took. I have no interests, especially nothing in the medical field, but have no idea what direction I can take.

I know school is not the end all be all and there are certs and other options so I am all ears, I just figured if I have a bug up my ass now to go back to school, maybe I should take advantage of that. Any advice is appreciated!

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Hey guys, I’m coming as a 36 year old dad that is tired of basic retail work and helping my family “survive” instead of prosper. I want to go to college, I’ve only graduated high school and that’s about it.

My goal after doing research into interests/pay scale is med school. I know the path is long, but it’s worth it for my family and to be able to do a very respectable job helping others. My problem, is while in high school my parents never had interest in helping me go to college so I graduated and went straight into the retail workforce.

I want to eventually become a retail pharmacist or even hospital work, but my problem is I don’t know the path. Do you do online school or find a community college then do a 4 year after? I saw the fafsa which I assume I should do first but I’m a bit overwhelmed.

Thank you for any information!

“I don’t know what I want to do."

People usually conflate two different things with this statement:  

“I don’t know what I want to do to make money” and “I don’t know what my purpose is.” 

Be more precise and you can be more tactful. Conflating ‘making money’ and ‘purpose’ simultaneously makes it difficult to address. Instead, treat them as two separate things. 

“I don’t know what I want to do to make money.”

Instead of job titles, focus on job variables. Salary, type of work, size of company, job stability, in-person vs. remote, etc. – determine what you prioritize and are willing to compromise. You should be able to come up with job profiles you are willing to accept, at least temporarily. After all, jobs are not permanent. But what you don’t have to consider is whether the job will fulfill your purpose. 

Entrepreneurship? Absolutely, go for it. But that’s a completely different beast, I’ll reflect on that in another article.

“I don’t know what my purpose is.”

Purpose doesn’t come from jobs. Purpose comes from the thing that cements you in the present moment. It comes from exploring cultures, pursuing a dream, raising a family, manifesting art, empowering a movement, striving for excellence, achieving. Purpose itself is malleable, changing as the person changes. Purpose can be fleeting, and it can be durable. Purpose can even be found in wandering itself.

If you don’t currently have a purpose, go search for it, but not in your day job. 

Hey everyone,

I’m (25M) going through a rough time. I lost my bartending job, fell into depression, and now I’m being evicted. I’m a high school dropout with a GED and associate's degree, but I left university due to debt fears and academic struggles. My math skills and study habits need work since I’m mostly self-educated. I'll try to be concise as possible. Really need some job searching tips as well because indeed and others really suck.

Current Situation:

• I live in Connecticut.
• I have some work (DoorDash, staffing agency) to stay afloat, but I’m struggling to find a part-time bartending/restaurant job for evenings.
• My short-term goal is to find stable part-time work while training for a real career.

About Me:

• Strengths: Hardworking, good with people, detail-oriented, handy, and I enjoy exciting, impactful work.
• Weaknesses: Struggle with focus, dislike busywork, need better math skills, and lose interest in unrewarding jobs.
• Motivated to prioritize training and open to learning new skills.

Career Interests:

1. Trades
   • Open to any trade with high pay potential and a high skill ceiling.
   • Prefer cool, large-scale projects but open to residential work.
   • Considering options like maritime, aircraft, railroad, lineman, municipal, nondestructive testing, or union jobs.
   • Struggling to find trade job opportunities online—any tips?
2. Sales
   • Strong social skills and interest in sales, but skeptical of high-turnover, low-value positions (e.g., solar or home improvement).
   • Looking for entry-level roles in sales that offer growth and fair products.
3. Military
   • A last resort, but I scored 70 on the ASVAB without studying.
   • Considering Air Force/Space Force or top-tier roles in other branches.
   • Concerns: Commitment, subservience, and fitness.

Goals:

• Prioritize training in a field with upward mobility, flexibility, and exciting opportunities.
• Eventually, start a business or move into sales if trades aren't the right fit.

I’d appreciate advice on career moves or steps to take from here. I tend to get overwhelmed by choices, so any suggestions or guidance would help. Thanks!

Hello all,

I felt it was important to post about this topic, as many have asked about it. In 2014, I began working as an energetic surgeon, and learned about the effect of attachments. At this time where we are feeling the need to release what does not serve, and to bring harmony and balance to ourselves and to our lives, energetic decording can help a lot. Although we have non-physical assistance, this process can be done by ourselves, and I find that it is empowering and healing on many levels. If you have any questions, please let me know, and I will be happy to help.

One of the largest contributors to physical, emotional, and psychological depletion is energetic cording. Whenever we have a relationship with another person, whether it is with a parent, spouse, partner, sibling, friend, coworker, or another, we create energetic cording between ourselves and the other party. Energetic cords look like tubes that are connected from one person to another, and sometimes from one person to an entire group (such as a family unit or ancestry). Cording can go from any part of the energy body to any part of another's, for example, I have viewed cording between someone's head and another's head (thought transmission involving mental manipulation and judgement) as well as many other configurations, such as from one person's throat to another's solar plexus (transmissions of disempowering energies and also siphoning of another's power). The combinations of cording attachments is infinite, but always created by thought transfer.

As thoughts are tangible structures, each contain a specific vibrational frequency and energetic charge. When you have a thought about someone, that thought goes to the person, it does not disappear. And, depending on the emotional charge of the thought (positive, negative, or neutral), the thought will go through the cording to that person and integrate within their field, or it will dissipate. Over time, repeated transmissions of thoughts can create structures within yourself or another person, called "thoughtforms," which are clusters of thought energy that can shape one's perceptions and impede health. That is why it is very important to be vigilant about the thoughts we transmit, and the vibration of them, as they create.

Cords are also created by our beliefs, and are attached to thoughforms anchored in the 4th dimension. These thoughtforms are conglomerations of thoughts of the same belief and vibration, transmitted by every human on the planet with the same perception. Thoughtforms exist for anything to which humans believe and fear, so if one recognizes a belief or fear that is causing suffering, one can also decord from that thoughtform as well. For example, if you have a fear of heights or of an animal, you can decord from that fear. And you can also decord from an illness or addiction, and this release can help you to heal.

Energetic cording transmits thought energy to others, and it can also siphon as well. If you are attached to someone who is codependent, they can be continually siphoning your life force via your shared cording, which can create a host of physical issues for yourself, most especially depletion within the solar plexus, which includes physical weakness, exhaustion, stomach, intestine, and colon issues, and many other manifestations. Siphoning can also create headaches, lack of focus, and various other conditions, depending on where the cording is attached.

Decording can make a world of difference in our existence, as afterward we can rebalance and get to know our authentic self, without interference from others' thoughts and perceptions, and also life force siphoning. We regain strength and sovereignty. The results can be permanent and create a lot of healing, if we are willing to also reevaluate our relationships and to not accept anyone into our life who will take energetic advantage. Creating strong boundaries is essential to maintaining health and vibrational integrity. The higher our vibration, the better our health and clearer our spiritual perception. It is also equally important that we evaluate our own programming and clear what is not supportive, so we do not attract others into our life that mirror our own issues. Working on clearing ourselves after decording is always helpful and highly recommended, because the patterning we carry within is what expresses itself in all aspects of our daily life and relationships.

If you choose to decord yourself from another person, it is helpful that you intuit whether permission is first needed from their higher self, as we all contract our relationships with others at the "higher" levels. The physical person does not have to be asked, but you can make a request of their higher self, and then feel (or hear) a response. If you receive that the decording has been agreed upon, then go ahead with the process. If you feel any concern, then it may be best to wait until you feel a pull to ask again.

Sometimes decording can be done without asking for permission, for example if there is trauma involved and to stand in your power, you feel the need to immediately detach from another person. Also, permission is not needed to decord from mass consciousness belief and fear thoughtforms.

Please note that decording only removes energetic distortions, and the genuine love you may have in the relationship is not affected. So, if you intend the relationship to continue, decording can provide an opening for this love to be experienced and reflected more authentically.

Below is a statement that you can use to decord. You can use the statement alone, or if you would like, use it in addition to visualizing the release. By visualizing, see yourself and the other party attached, and then with holding a large pair of scissors, cut the cording from toe to head, while saying the statement. Either way is effective, either visualizing or not, so please do what intuitively resonates. I suggest you do this release in a quiet state, where there are no distractions, a state of peace and calm. And do it in a state of knowing, where you know all is cleared.

After the release, you may experience a clearing of the energies, either immediately or over time. If you feel emotional, tired, or anything different from how you usually feel, try to move through the feelings and observe them, instead of attaching to them, as this will prevent re-cording. Trusting and having confidence that all is released, is important.

"I now hereby permanently sever, cut, release, and remove all energetic cording, banding, attachments, and 4th dimensional thoughtforms connecting me to (a person, a belief, a fear, an addiction, or a past life)____________. I state that all vows, contracts, agreements, and karma are now null and void, and completed. I take back all power I have given to _________ and I take back all power __________ may have taken from me, and declare that now I regain and contain all power that is mine and inherent to me. I release and clear all energetic imprints, charges, and programming within my entire being I may have received from ________, and release and clear all programming within my mind and subconscious mind that __________may have transmitted to me, and declare I am now completely free and clear of any and all energetic distortions throughout my entire being, transmitted from ________ to me. I now state that I am free and sovereign, and am no longer attached to ________ in any way, shape or form. I am completely clear right now, and so it is.”

Font: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheStarPeople/comments/1guj1ip/energy_cord_cutting_ritual/

25M

Posting here to see if I can get outside comments.

I've never had one career interest. I switched majors in college, majored in a useful but broad degree, then worked one year as a general engineer and currently as a data analyst. I decided I was going to head toward the data science path about 6 months ago, but after coding on my own and self-learning, I realize I have minimal interest in it, just like I did in the past. I tried to consider other jobs that could be similar to what I do now, but I kind of came to terms that there may not be one career path that I would fully enjoy doing. When it comes down to what I can tolerate, it becomes what kind of job I could be good at, has good work life balance, and pays well.

While I technically could develop my skills down a technical path, I'm overall not enjoying it. I feel conflicted at work because I've been working on similar stuff for almost 2 years, and no path really seems appealing. I've been trying to create an online course or tutor to try to create something on the side. One hope is to do data analyst as part time and to sell online course or tutor for income.

Any comments/suggestions welcome. Thanks

Help! I’m 22 f and have 0 clue what I want to do. Like literally no clue. I want to go to school and get a well paying career doing something I enjoy but have no clue what that is. 😭

I'll (17F) preface this by saying that I don't want to focus on building a career. my main hopes in life is having enough money to have the fun I want: joining community or fancy choirs (forever a choir kid!), doing community theatre, gardening, volunteering, owning my own space (whether a home or apartment), and travelling. oh, and finding a cute guy and having kids.

college and my job will just be a means of living this life. i love working with people; I'm currently a part-time cashier and I love it! the customers tell me I'm sweet and to "never lose my smile".

i also love the arts. sculpting, singing, producing music, drawing, painting. thing is, jobs in the arts don't really pay well, unfortunately. at least, the jobs I know of.

science is one of my interests, too. i love biology and anatomy. i don't think I want to be a doctor, but I'll consider any other medical jobs. I'd prefer to not handle blood and guts, but if I must, I'll do it. things can always be worse.

i also want to move out asap. so, by the time I'm 25 (or possibly younger) I want to be established. please give me suggestions!