Today at school (I'm F 16) my friend (F 16) made a horrible comment. I did not and do not have an eating disorder, but I do struggle with disordered eating sometimes, ie skipping two meals, not eating enough on purpose sometimes. She was asking for my food and I said "No I need to eat that today." and she said "Just starve." She does not know that I have disordered eating. It did trigger me slightly, and I have felt more anxious and upset the whole day. Was she in the wrong, or should I move on?

basically what the title says cause i am constantly fixated on my food timings and cannot eat intuitively at all

Hi everyone. I've been in therapy for about 2 years and although I've noticed improvements with bulimia, my psychologist and I decided to start a pharmacological therapy with a psychiatrist. I have 3 exams left to graduate and I necessarily need support, because I've noticed that it's precisely during that period that I binge eat particularly. My psychiatrist prescribed me Fluoxetine 20 mg, 1 tablet a day, I've been taking it for 2 days, I know it takes about 1 month to take effect but I wanted to ask anyway how was your experience with it? Have you noticed any improvements? I'm scared because I know this drug suppresses appetite but I tend to binge when I'm not hungry so I don’t know if it can help me.

Thx in advance for your replies🙏🏻

Hi! I‘m a teenager and I’ve had quite a complicated relationship with food ever since I was young. Fortunately, I’ve gotten a lot better over the past few years. However, recently I’ve noticed that I’m c o n s t a n t l y hungry and no matter how much I eat Im hungry within three hours (im still at an age where I can grow, but I’ve remained at the same height.) I feel like I’m eating a lot more than I should, and I’m not sure if this is my disorder resurfacing, or if I should actually contact a dietician. Should you always eat when you’re starving? (sorry if this doesn’t fit guidelines! I never use reddit, but I tried to be very vague 😭)

basically as the title reads. my mom is 63, i’m 23, she has switched from bulimia to anorexia. now she is obsessed with chewing and spitting her food, even at resturaunts. i’ve had my own eating disorder but recovered when i was 19. my moms different, she won’t hear what any of us have to say, she has never wanted to change, she only cares about how she looks. i feel like i’m watching her destroy her health and i don’t know how to help her at this point. i’ve never met anyone else who has had their mom be the one with the eating disorder but it is so normalized in my family and so difficult to witness, as someone who has recovered.

How do I recover from BED if i live in a dorm where i dont have personal space and therefore any desire to cook? Im also not in the best relationships with my roommates and am socially awkward. Due to undersleeping i compensate energy with food. Also a lot of stress and overstimulation hits hard. I am tired and have no power to think or do something right...

NSFW tag for mentions of bullying and attempts (only brief). Little bit of context here: I am 15f, and my little sister is 12f. She has been teased since she started school at 4 (she’s a March baby and we’re in Australia), and her weight has always been a subject to come up. Keep in mind that she was a really active kid and wasn’t ever overweight. Our parents let us do two sports a year, and she did swimming for about four years and Judo up until last. The bullying this year got worse (this kid and his friends would call her a ‘fat pig’ on the daily and make fun of her for eating at school. she didn’t tell us this until it was too late and she attempted.) she’s also diagnosed with autism type two, anxiety, and we are in the process of getting a diagnosis for ADHD. I say this because I have 0 experience at all with EDs and I’m not sure if this is all relevant? She has a hyperfixation on cats, if that could maybe help us?

She was diagnosed with anorexia this year (she keeps denying that she has it but it has been professionally diagnosed and she’s seeing a dietitian each week. She also has a paediatrician, a psychologist and a family therapist and I think a few other doctors she sees regularly, but those three are the main ones.) We’ve been trying to help her eat, but she won’t eat at all during the day, especially at school, consciously checks carbs on everything we give her and eats loads smaller portions than she normally would. Like, she’d typically have two maybe three bowls of pasta and now can barely finish her first. We’ve been making her breakfast (usually none of us eat breakfast) and she’s been appointed with her favourite teacher to watch her eat at lunch times. I just genuinely do not know how to help her. I really need advice because it’s breaking my heart and I’m so scared to lose her.

Please, please, I really need advice if anybody has been in my position or my sisters. Do I encourage her to eat? Do I let her slowly starve herself? I really need help.

Hey all quick warning about Koru! They are not what they seem….. first off they take hours to search your belonging and will not not let you keep anything remotely “plush” or “stuffie” shaped. yes this includes slippers and pencil pouches. Koru preaches that they are a cooccuring facility for both substance and eating disorder treatment.. they are not they are two separate facilities niether of the two ever intertwining. Along with this, outings happen once a week including the cooking or grocery outings for php level only.. again not how it was advertised. also you are not allowed to go outside or use the pool! and dietary requests for medical reasons were not met even with documentation showing the need!!

I think I should be proud of myself?

I just saw someone I was in treatment with a few years ago make a post about this, but can’t find any news article about it. Has anyone else heard about this closure? Also wanted to offer a space for people to process this unconfirmed announcement as I know this specific Alsana location had some controversy but also help many as well.

I finally managed to verbalize it and told my therapist about my ED and that I want help with it. These past months I feel like my dismorphia has really worsened and I was so afraid and embarrased to tell him. I'm honestly proud of myself and I'll try and recover

My cousin has had an eating disorder for 4 years now - I think AN binge/purge subtype - and recently got kicked out of her house. Her parents are essentially devil spawn and I have watched them bully her into having this eating disorder since we were children. Obviously I immediately picked her up and told her she can live with us as long as she needs to, even forever if she wants.

I had always known about the ED and tried to talk to her and help, but its so much easier to do from afar. I have never lived with someone with an ED before, and it's been extremely difficult.

We are a pretty busy family of 5 and whoever cooks usually makes enough for everyone to eat and leaves it on the stove because scheduling means we don't sit down and eat together much. The fridge is always full of leftovers. Since my cousin has been here, I've been starving. By the time I want to eat, all the curry is gone, all the rice, the yoghurt, milk, sugar, snacks, airfryer food - in addition to her own groceries. She stays up all night watching TV and eating, leaves the shower on for ages to cover up the purging, and doesn't clean the toilet afterward either.

Our family is extremely frugal - if there's a way to budget something, we've done it. We're not in a financial place to afford groceries everyday, the electricity bill or the water bill. I don't want her to leave because going back to her parents' house will make her a million times worse and she can't afford any rent in our area as a student with a casual job.

All these things are so sensitive and it feels awful to bring it up to her because its so awkward and I know it's out of her control. I've been trying to organise a day to go to a psychologist with her, hopefully that will be some time this week, but I need to speak to her about all this too.

My parents love her so much but they're so tired and stressed and sick of not having anything to eat after a long day. They would never kick her out but they want to do something which would make her want to leave, like ask for a very high rent.

I've been super drained having her in our home but the ED is really very bad - her parents took her to hospital and when she refused treatment, the doctors warned that if/when she got sick again, it would be very hard to treat her. I'm so terrified that I'll lose her if she goes anywhere else. She's not the best socially so I am her only real friend - I cannot handle this, but I am the only one who can handle this.

So far, I've spoken to her about how I'm worried and getting help - she agreed and said she wanted help. I have endured her parents yelling and swearing at me asking me who I think I am. I have fought with my own parents to not let her parents take her away, I've trained them on how to speak to her and to not be overbearing. I've made an info pamphlet to give her parents (hopefully they won't rip it up), contacted a psychologist and am trying to find a day she feels up to going in. I listen to her for hours at a time, often as soon as I wake up and when I'm going to bed too.

It's coming up to a month now of her living with us. She's been telling me that not hearing her parents yelling at her every morning has helped a lot and she's been feeling way better, but all the food is still disappearing, so I have no clue if I'm helping her or if it's all in vain.

I'm losing so much sleep over this, I have no clue what I'm doing or how to handle this situation and I feel so alone in trying to help her. I would really appreciate any advice.

Hey, i was wondering could someone help me with my eating disorder. I cannot eat regularly because i am afraid eating in public and eating before i go in university. I had anorexia and bulimia, but I think now i have some type of bulimia because I don't eat enough throughout the week because i am afraid eating too much when I go somewhere (i know it's stupid), I have one little too big meal a day, and then one day in a week I binge a lot, then next day after a binge I don't eat anything, also i workout a lot ehrn i binge like running or on elliptical for 70min. What should i do to overcome that fear of eating when i go somewhere and to eat regularly to avoid that binge eating? Thankss

Yesterday I got admitted to the psycward (not for disordered eating, they don't know anything about that). And I can chose my meals online, but I can't find any information about the food on the website or on the packaging. Does anyone know why this is? It's a general hospital, I'd understand if I was at an ED clinic, but I'm not. I don't really calculate my calorie and nutrition intake that much but it's kinda freaking me out that I just don't have the ability to anymore. How tf do I know what I'm eating now?

Does anyone have experience wth them? They keep pushing pseudoscience on me saying it's "scientifically proven". Has anyone had experience with them and has it worked for you at all? Any recovery stories?

Hi everyone, I have been living with my eating disorders for over 15 years. Today I consider myself in remission and I’m learning to work with it.

Recently I’ve discovered that I feel anxious when I am alone and there’s any type food in sight, I think about it tirelessly, whether I want it or not, it just goes around in my head and stresses me out

If I want it, I eat it. But if I don't I have to take it out of the room, otherwise it's blocked in my head.

if anyone here is experiencing or has experienced something similar, I’m asking for your advices

I am trying to write an essay on how books like Hour of the Star, My year of R&R, the bell jar, etc. support this idea of a frail starved woman. does anyone agree with this?/have anything to add? during my ED I ate those types of books up, did anyone else do this? Please let me know ASAP my essay is due tomorrow.

My(18 gn for privacy) partner(17, gn for privacy) has acknowledged the fact that he has a problem with eating and we're trying to research different disorders to find ways to help him cope. (I'm writing for him because he doesn't speak English well enough to write a full post like this) myself have an ED (my diagnosis is unspecified and just says "eating disorder" put my experience lines up best with bulimia and a little with anorexia) but I obviously don't know everything there is. I know a little about orthorexia (sorry if I spelled it wrong) and AFRID but that's it.

Their experience with food is really complicated. They're mainly afraid to eat because they're scared that the food or the appliances are dirty. It's mainly their scared about the cleanliness of things. They don't avoid food because of thier body image at all and have said that it doesn't affect them. They grew up lower class and it wasn't always certain if they'd have food they could comfortably eat. They very heavily dislike meat and avoid eating it almost always, but their parents are really insistent that people eat meat, whenever they decline the food with meat that they offer their parents get very pushy and aggressive saying things like "why won't you eat it?" "You don't eat enough meat" "you need to eat meat" "just eat it already" and stuff like that. They feel everything their parents touch is dirty because they have habits like sneezing into a paper and wiping thr counter with the same paper, or cutting raw meat with a knife and only rinsing the knife with water and then putting it back,(for context: they hand wash all their dishes in their family) or washing dishes with just water and whatever soap is left in the sponge instead of just adding more soap. So usually all the "clean" dishes feel oily and dirty. They usually feel too tired to make anything because just making a simple meal means they would first have to wash everything thoroughly because they don't know what's genuinely clean and what was poorly cleaned, then make the food and there aren't alot of none meat options that they aren't sick of already because usually they only have 1 or 2 things they can eat, then having to wash everything again because they get yelled at if they don't. And usually their parents question why their eating what they are instead of the meat option one of their parents has cooked. If not that their parents will come in and leave their dishes for my partner and just say "wash this while you was yours will you?" And just walk away, so on top of all of the work to just make a simple meal for themselves, they have to either do their family's dishes for them or get nagged about what they eat. So they tend to simply avoid making food for themselves. Usually if I'm there they will work up the motivation to make food because they want me to eat, or I will tell them we need to eat and will help with the process. I'm also pescetarian so that's an excuse for him not to eat meat while I'm there.

They're also scared of fish no matter how much they're told there's no bones in it and will smash it to a paste practically to make sure there are no bones. They're scared of certain foods that are stored in certain cabinets in their home they've had a problem with a certain cabinet getting bugs in it so they're scared of that cabinet sometimes. They also feel like their fridge is dirty so if something is not stored right they will not eat it.

There are alot of other things but this is already getting super long so I'll try to be short with the rest. They can't accommodate their fears in their house because their parents are super weird and old fashioned about stuff so they have to deal with that. I try to help the best I can but I can't always be there or they here so yeah. The thing we feel like matches the most is AFRID but we have very limited knowledge so it would be nice to hear about other possibilities of what this could potentially be so we can do more research. They're currently seeing our school therapist/psychologist(there is a word for it in our language but not in English, but it's basically someone you go see to talk to about life but their aren't quite as qualified as a therapist and psychologist, usually they are employed in schools) in secret because their parents don't belive in therapy and mental health issues so they can't seek further treatment until they turn 18. We just want to find ways for them to cope until they can get into a better life situation and to help them eat. We've been thinking of getting them their own mini fridge and thar would definitely help but money is tight rn so we'll have to see.

So yeah main question is what should we look into and research? Does anything exist that lines up with their experiences? Thank you for reading this far if you did, and a massive thank you to anyone who replies! <3

I’m not like extremely overweight, but I’m the biggest out of my friends, and they point it out a lot, and (jokingly) make fun of it, as we are close like that, but it still makes me think. I’ve started only eating one meal a day, and even then, it’s not as much as I used to eat for that meal.

my main question is for anyone that’s south Asian, who’s had an eating disorder, because my father keeps reprimanding me for not eating, telling me I’m just gonna get fatter, and that because we’re south Asian it’s in our genetics, and I completely get that, but I don’t know, you know, so if you are South Asian, and have/had an eating disorder, I want to know what your experience was.

I did a one hour phone assessment with a treatment center and they recommended a PHP program. What is this program like? I still don't really think I need that level of help but maybe I do. I think working with a therapist would be a better option for me.

I’ve been struggling with binging for months and Im so lost, i developed my BED after losing weight. I’ve tried to recover by avoiding restriction, eatting protein, fiber & to eat regularly but no matter what i do i somehow always binge everyday. Another problem i have is food noise, It just doesn’t turn off at all and I constantly think about snacking or eating. I have brain fog as well which makes it harder for me to concentrate, can someone give any advice?

Opinions or thoughts?

Has anyone experienced low blood pressure from not eating enough? How do you get through your days ? My blood pressure dropped last Thursday and caused two panic attacks, now I feel dizzy, weird head pressure with blurred vision through out the day. I’m forcing myself to eat so my blood pressure can rise but does anyone else deal with this?

I think everything has just clicked for me. I’ve struggled with an ED my whole life. My romantic relationship is struggling and it’s always the same problem and I don’t know how to fix it. So if anyone has any tips it would be much appreciated.

Basically because I hate myself and I’m not confident, I never initiate any affection. I’m happy to receive it, but the fear of rejection is just so huge I won’t even initiate a hand hold. This obviously leads to my partner feeling unloved which isn’t the case. Im also so self conscious I hate being fully naked in fear of judgement even tho my partner would NEVER!!!! It’s all just in my head so deeply. Am I the only one????

I’m 18, I’ve had a restriction based Ed since i was 15. Not giving and details apart from the fact that it’s not body image related, but I’ve still lost loads of weight and am significantly underweight.

My periods have been on and off for a long time, years now. My last one was 4 months ago but (tmi) >! it was like powdery, it was really weird and quite scary actually, so idk if it even counts !< and before that it was ages ago. I’m scared that I’ve made myself infertile, is this possible?

Hi everybody! I don't know why I've never thought of joining a group like this where I'm able to read, resonate and learn from people going through the same struggles as I have. I'm a 26F and I've been on and off purging for 6 years. Let me give you a bit more background:

It started right after I graduated high school, and it's been a rollercoaster since the first day. My entire life, I've rarely felt happy/satisfied with how I look. Living in a Mexican household, it was very difficult to find any structure or know what food groups can cause you harm if eaten excessively. I would grow up hearing comments around by body from aunts, uncles, family friends and even parents. Any time I would gain weight, it was always pointed out in a negative way. If I seemed to have lost any, it would the greatest accomplishment I could ever have in my family's eyes. And this was all before the age of 15. It was around this time that I started getting closer to my best friend at the time, who was going through the same thing. She grew up a bit wider because of her parents genetics, and she had started getting very interested in tumblr threads on becoming anorexic, bulimia, and purging as she also had a fascination for losing as much weight as possible. She would often tell me about her experiences, and she even encouraged me to eat as little as possible to get results and even to purge (she had lost most of her weight our second term of Senior year) and I lost a significant amount by starving myself for 2-3 days at a time and surviving off of tuna cans on the days I felt too weak. Sometimes during lunch, we would share an apple and call it a day. We were in it together. At the time, I never participated as throwing up my food seemed like something so out of this world, so wrong. But the curiosity stayed in the back of my head.

Shortly after graduating high school, I noticed that the lack of structure at school gave me enough time to relapse and start eating like crazy. I had no self control, and I would eat so much while not working out as I used to. It's safe to say that I gained everything back and more shortly after. I felt like a failure and so disgusted at myself for getting to that point. I remember the thing that triggered me to purge for the very first time was going on a blind date, and feeling so ashamed for my date to be repulsed by the girl he was going out with. And as soon as I did purge, I felt a huge relief. I felt that if I ended up eating bad again ever, all I have to do is throw up and the damage would be reversed. I have now been in a vicious cycle for 6 years, and I have been able to keep my weight off.

I got married 4 years ago, and I had to come clean to my boyfriend at the time as he heard me in the bathroom aggressively forcing myself to throw up after one of our first date nights. He obviously was very concerned for my health, and begged me to stop. I keep telling him no matter how much I try to set my mind to stop, it feels like a parasite or a monster taking control of my head and I become unresponsive to anything else but to rid the food before it starts to digest. I will say however, that I'm getting better with my relationship with food. Sometimes I'll have a "bad meal" (which I'm slowly starting to learn that no food is bad as long as it's in moderation), but I still end up purging about 2-3 times a week - mostly on the weekends (compared to every single day as when I first started). Every time it happens, I feel like I will never recover. I've been more consistent with my workouts so that I don't feel as bad when I don't stay on routine with my meals, I meal prep Monday through Friday and I try to eat mindfully during the weekends, and I journal constantly. But somehow, I always go back to that one meal that I love that I shouldn't love and I get it anyway knowing I can just throw it up right after. It gets me to a point where I just feel lost and like I'll never get better. My husband tries his best to understand, but no matter how many alternatives he tries to find for me or words of encouragement he gives me, nothing snaps me out of it. He doesn't understand the depth of it, and I feel to ashamed to share every dark thought that plays through my head during those episodes.

I'm not sure what I'm looking for - Maybe some words of advice, places or blogs where I can find real help that I can stick with and incorporate for the rest of my life, or hearing that someone has gone through something similar and has been able to overcome this monster of a disorder. Anything helps.

Lately, I've been craving things I never thought I would. I've been having too many moments of cravings that turn into binge episodes that feel uncontrollable. This has made me feel really uncomfortable with my body and with eating in general. I’m not sure if it's due to anxiety or what, but I’d like to know, how do you all manage these kinds of things? If this happens to you, of course.

On another note, it’s easy to swap salty snacks for healthier options, but what do I do if it's something sweet? I don’t know of any healthy alternatives for that, and it feels like it's going beyond what’s normal and is out of my control.

I also feel really bad thinking that other people are disgusted by how much I eat, even if they tell me otherwise. It’s impossible for me to think anything positive about this situation. Please, can someone help me?

So I 18f, have been struggling with disordered eating since the age of 11. And in this time, I have had periods of having somewhat healthy eating habits, but they never last long. I'm not considered overweight, but there's definitely room (in my eyes anyway) for improvement. In other words, I wish I was skinnier basically.

But anyway, when I'm having a non struggling time, when I'm eating 2 meals a day, I struggle to keep them down. I find my body quite literally rejects the food that I'm giving it. I'll eat and then say half an hour later, I'll be vomiting it back up.

I'm not trying to glamorize this at all. And majority of the time, it's healthy foods too. But my body just doesn't handle it.

Any advice or ideas on why this is happening the way it is.

I am on a ‘diet’ of sorts where I’m not eating with the intention of losing weight. For context, I am a healthy weight, the problem is just that I have been unhappy with my body for as long as I can remember. I definitely have disordered thoughts and disordered eating patterns, but it’s not a disorder. I have some days where I will eat more and be okay with it as long as I can justify to myself why I’m eating more (if I have a shift at work, if I’m hungover, if it’s an occasion etc), and I recently went home from university for a week where I ate completely normally the entire time and did no exercise and I was fine with that too.

To me it seems as though I’m fully in control of it and not eating is a conscious choice that I’m making. I just don’t know if this has the potential to turn into something more serious or if it’ll be okay?

Also is there really anything we can do like self-control?