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Mexican (possible) girl here, sorry if my english it's imperfect. Well i got a couple of nights sleeping bad because that question keeps around my head.

Recently i broke one of my legs, and that gives me a lot of free time to think.

A part of my brain tells me that im just confused, and that it's just an strange phase.

But, i ocassionaly dressed like a girl since i was 15 years old (22 currently) and yesterday i wear one of my mom's dresses and i feeled amazing, i started smiling like crazy and wanted to cry a little. (Also i got a lot more of moments where i feel happy as a girl, but, the language barrier limitates me)

So, i dont know what yo think ¿How can i be sure of what i want?

Im not explicitly transitioning or anything but i was born a male and generally go as nonbinary and i still fw having my penis and all that but i wanna be cuter but basically my question is will hrt give me boobs? i wanna look more androgynous and that would be a bit counterintuitive. sorry for rambling just took my sleep medication im trying to get this out before i pass out bye lol

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Hi all! I am a fem enby in a loving long-term relationship with my girlfriend (mtf). I am looking for a specific sex toy to get her as a gift and am hoping for recommendations below!

My girlfriend has been on hrt for half a year now which has changed our sex life a bit. A new favorite combo of hers is the mini magic wand + stroker/piv. However, an issue comes up that sometimes where she wants the vibe on a spot that is in the stroker/me. I’m wondering if there are any vibrating strokers that are sworn by in this community that she would enjoy? Looking for something powerful. Obviously, I don’t think anything can be AS powerful as a wand but as high power as possible.

I fear that all vibrating strokers may just be a let down and aren’t worth their price, especially because I’m not sure if it’s possible to find one that can provide enough intensity.

Hey, so I'm making this post after a conversation with my mom that made me feel really shitty on the inside. Within the last 4-5 months of my life, I've realized that I might be trans and that I'm certainly (or almost) certainly non-binary. Regardless, I don't identify with my assigned gender at birth (AMAB), and sort of haven't for a while, I think.

But this is the hard part; when I'm not feeling euphoric, I feel like I have genuinely no idea how I actually feel. About anything. All the fucking time. And when its really bad, like this, I just don't feel like a real person at all (perhaps it's dysphoria). I feel like I'm not the person speaking, or in this case, the person typing. I feel like a robot and it is geniunely fucking terrible.

I try, or have tried, to convince myself that everything's okay and I'm normal and whatnot. Even when thinking about transitioning or doing hormones; that everything's okay and I'm normal and it's going to be okay. But I feel like I've been in my own personal hell after realizing that I'm not cis. Now I have this whole other frame of reference to work with. And that's really awesome, but now I also really notice the moments when I stop feeling like a real person -- and perhaps most notably, I notice the moments (few and far between) in which I do feel like a real person and I have this great, big existence that's been inside me all these years and is finally coming out. And it's absolutely amazing, it's the best feeling I've ever had about myself (except for when I've been on shrooms but lol that's a different topic).

I don't know, I guess right now I just feel disrespected? Or invalidated? I told my mom that I want to probably wait to do hormones (I was thinking about going on HRT and actually had started on a low-dose just to see how it felt), and she just seemed so relieved. She was telling me how proud she was of me for being thoughtful and "wise" etc etc, and meanwhile all I could feel was my humanity slowly slipping away.

I want to keep feeling things -- I don't want to just live a bleak existence. I don't know how much dysphoria I have, really, or the ways in which it manifests in my life, because it is hard to pick things apart. Sex has always been really uncomfortable for me and I've never really enjoyed having a p*nis. I used to freak out about my stomach as a kid when I thought I was getting "fat". As of recently I just feel a general ambivalence to my body and I have trouble looking at myself in the mirror and smiling (my chin just sort of bothers me I think). I used to not have much trouble looking in the mirror, but now sometimes I can hardly bear to. Nothing really made any sense at all until I started feeling euphoric about things.

I just feel like I'm lying to everyone I talk to? And I felt that way before I started thinking about my gender. I think I have some non-gender related issues regarding boundaries and communication that stem from some childhood stuff, and it's kind of hard to tell what's gender-related and what isn't.

I think I just needed to vent. I feel so damn hollow sometimes. Like there's nothing inside me. Like I'm worthless or that I don't really exist -- It's kind of hard to put into words. And I think to myself, has my life really been that difficult? Maybe I'm just making stuff up in my head. Maybe I'm just lost and confused. I hate how I feel like I have to explain myself to people; it's exhausting. Feelings of euphoria are so intense and eye-opening that it's impossible not to ignore, even if I don't remember exactly what it feels like until it happens again.

I told my friend that he should drink with me, he said he knows that I take my shirt off when I get drunk. I said 'Wait until I start HRT then you'll be excited"

I’m pretty sure I’m trans (mtf) and had almost decided to transition and start HRT. But there’s a part of me that just doesn’t want to be trans, if that makes sense. It feels like maybe it’s internalized transphobia or just fear of losing everyone in my life. I’m scared of being hated or abandoned.

A few weeks ago, I actually decided to try living as a man. I thought maybe I could marry a woman, have kids, and live a "normal" life. I even got into books about masculinity and tried to embrace it, and, for a while, it really helped. My dysphoria seemed to fade, and I thought maybe I could be happy living as a man.

But now, all those feelings about wanting to be a woman are back, and I feel just as confused as ever. It’s exhausting, and I don’t know what to do. I’ve talked to two therapists, but neither of them has experience in gender care, and finding someone who does isn’t easy where I live.

I just feel stuck. Is transitioning the only way forward? Would really appreciate any advice.

Ok ladies. I am a 45 yr old trans woman and I am early in my journey. I have never been really hairy. I have hardly have any hair on my chest. It’s like a hair here and a hair there and my stomach has more hair but not thick or heavy. But every time I shave my chest and stomach I get major razor burn and little red dots all over and then they turn into little pimples. No matter what I do or what I try it never fails. Razor burns. I have followed all the recommendations about preventing razor burn and nothing seems to work. I was hoping any of you wonderful ladies have had better results combating razor burns. PLEASE HELP A TRANS GIRL OUT!!!!!!!!!

Whenever I look in the mirror there’s some weird disconnect between my face and body. I hate looking at myself not because I’m ugly but because my face doesn’t match my body. It also doesn’t reflect the way I see myself. It’s like somebody mix matched me. I feel one way and look a completely different way. The longer I think about it the more I realize how long I’ve been suppressing this. The problem is I don’t know how to fix it. I don’t hate my body but I don’t love it because it doesn’t feel like mine. I honestly don’t know if this is a trans thing but I see these people who’ve completed their transition and I desperately wish it was me.

I’ve been very slowly getting comfortable with myself, but every time I’m around my friends I always leave with this intense feeling of dissociation and uncertainty that lasts for days. It gets to the point where I start questioning my entire identity or think that it would be easier if I went back to identifying as female. I don’t know what causes this and my friends have been nothing but supportive. It’s frustrating and it’s strange because I like being a guy but I also get anxious when I’m called the name I asked to be called. Basically I’m just wondering if what I’m feeling is normal. I just wish I was comfortable with myself.

I have been in a low place the last couple of weeks. I'm nearing a year on hrt. I've come a long way, and I feel infinitly better about my appearance than I did before transition. Even so, I have this feeling that I don't pass. I've had most people on the internet say I do, and 2 of the people I'm closest to say I do, but I just don't believe it. It's very hard for me to figure it out, because in my day to day life, nobody reacts to me in any way. I don't get dirty looks or anything. I'm in a red state.

Last week, I went to go do early voting, and I just couldn't bring myself to get out of the car. I had a dress on, and felt like I looked pretty good. It was subtle with a cardigan and such. I just felt so intensly that everyone would be staring at me, and especially in a polarized place like that. I did eventually go back, with a less flashy outfit. And even though nothing technically went amiss, I feel like everyone was looking at me. Uggg Idk.

I find that I avoid going out much of the time because I just feel like people are looking at me like a joke. Recently, I got a compliment on my outfit from a woman while I was running errands. I just feel like she just saw a trans woman and gave me a pity compliment.

How am I supposed to resolve this? I've been trying to get a job for a while now, but my fears of being clocked are making the job search fill me with dread and slows my progress down.

Do I need to get FFS to make my brain see myself differently, or am I just not doing something right?

I'm "fully transitioned", as in I have my name legally changed and such. I will not ever be boymoding again.

I've identified as NB transmasc since April but only learned this week that it's offensive to not have a space when saying trans men and trans women. Also the recent post on AGAB language was very informative (for lack of a better word).

I had shared a post in a trans space that had a reference to puppyplay and transmascs and learned about the stereotypes associated with the two and dehumanizing language used towards transmascs. It really sucked accidentally offending people and them thinking it was intentional.

I don't know any other trans people irl, and I'm sure I'm not the only one this applies to. Is there a website that can be useful to avoid accidentally offending people w stereotypes or something along those lines?

Or what do you think new Trans people should know before/when interacting w the community?

I am in my 20s currently presenting as a gay male . I always knew I had underlying gender issues. I called myself a girl in my early childhood and got punished for it, I had feminine interests that I learned to hide to not get punished or humiliated by my parents. I was bullied for acting feminine at school. I inly hung out with girls cos I struggled to relate to boys. I used to excel academically but by age 12 , my ability to focus in school deteriorated slowly.

Luckily though we emigrated to Canada at age 13 where male femininity was less frowned upon but by this age I already learned to suppress it due to traumatic events, so my presentation at this age was “neutral masculine”, unmistakably male but not dominant. Began crossdressing at 17 privately although I remember when I was younger I would secretly sneak into my mother’s cabinet, try on a top or a bra then quickly take it off and put it back cos it gave me a rush like I was playing truth or dare internally with myself. I have been depressed since high school for some unknown reason I cannot pinpoint. I was just depressed which I suspect to be dysphoria.

This depression held me back by a lot. Had to take 2 gap years to upgrade and get adequate marks to get to university (although I didn’t fail high school, just not high enough to get to university). I am currently in my final year of university after stopping for a year because I failed due to depression.

My gender exploration got more intense this year when I started going to raves dressed like a “femboy” and feeling such a rush. Then I dialed it up by putting on hair extensions. I am petite with a small body frame and I look very much like my mother so with makeup, fem clothes and long hair i just look like a skinny girl with a flat chest. Women calling me a pretty girl and treating me as one of them and a guy asking for my number thinking I was a girl made me seriously question my gender identity . The affirmations from those girls and that guy felt good almost beyond the validation I get when I get compliments male presenting.

I just really want to find out so I can figure out my next steps. I am afraid of regretting things in either direction. I am afraid after I begin HRT I will realize I am not trans and my body has already been altered permanently or if I am trans and I don’t transition the dysphoria will get even worst that I will have to transition or go completely insane at age 50. But by then , the golden years of womanhood have already passed, years where I could have excelled my career as a woman, found a husband as a woman etc. I am depressed and already have failed university once despite showing signs of high intelligence in my childhood so I know I have underlying issues.

Am I trans or am I a feminine gay who was made to believe only women get to be feminine so I am fooling myself that I am trans so I can finally embrace my feminine side?

hi i’m planning on coming out on the fifth depending on the circumstances if ykwim and im wondering if anyone knows how to come out who your whole school only around five people know i’m trans and i really just don’t know how to address everyone should i start with people in my classes and just let word spread from there

I’m not asking for advice. Just curious how a patch with 0.1mg per week is equal to a 2mg pill 14 times per week.

I haven’t been able to find the answer online and I figured some of you folks might know.

Hello 😊 is there anyone here who can share anything about discovering you weren't all that cis all along after 40? I'm still trying to find out how deep this rabbit hole is, please be kind... I'm a 41yo who (after dealing with a ton of trauma) discovered being an at least decent woman was part of the mask. Looking back the signs were glaringly obvious, but you know what they say about hindsight, right? I'm still trying to wrap my head around what I'm feeling and I can't oversee how this sudden plot twist is gonna affect my life... It would be lovely if I could talk to someone who has been through where I am now. Taking on a more masculine expression has been such a relief and I find myself very resistant to going back. So far it's been equal parts liberation, panic and confusion. I don't really know where to turn. Any advice?

FYI, this is a burner account for closet reasons. My main is in this group though.

I'm a trans guy that has been using the Underworks Tri-top Chest Binder for at least 3 years now. Recently I feel that it hasn't been lasting as long as it used to.

Is there a different type or brand I should use instead?

For more information I typically buy the XL and own a L that is too small for me to fit into. There was a point were I lost a lot of weight and could fit in the L but actually could not move or breathe. Also since I've been binding for so long the skin on my chest is quite stretchy.

Any advice would be appreciated :)

Here are possible symptoms: -Hates wearing dresses/skirts (they make my skin crawl and give me anxiety) -Despite not minding feminine terms, I prefer masculine ones -Has planned to make a social media account where I am a boy -My main OC that shares a lot of my traits was male by default (it was a no brainer for me) -Purposely wears sports bras without padding to make my chest flat -A kid referred to me by he/him pronouns once; although a bit strange, I liked it and it motivated me to style my fashion and behaviour so that I could get mistaken for a boy in the future by adults and my peers -Has replicated masculine behaviours before -I hate seeing my gender listed as female on government documents -Although he/him pronouns catch me off guard I like them at least I think I do? Like it feels right but wrong at the same time -Sometimes I’m disappointed when people perceive me as a girl -I don’t idolize women the same way I do men -I just wanna be a silly lil guy -More invested in mLm relationships than any other kind of relationship -Is confused why AMAB people would transition from being male

However:

• I don’t mind she/her pronouns or feminine terms

-I feel like I’m faking it and living a lie and I feel guilty every time I consider the idea or ask people to try out masc terms in me -I’ve never really wanted HRT -I pick to play as girls in video games -I haven’t always thought like this -I’m happy with my body but it is a literal twig

I don’t know- it’s so difficult and it’s been really bugging me. I know I’m not cis, but I don’t know if I’m actually trans or just delusional? I mean, every girl wants to be a guy, right? It’s really scary. I don’t want to be faking this- maybe I’m just overexaggerating or being overdramatic and it’s nothing. Please help I’m so damn confused.

16, Mtf and im currently struggling with Intense Intense INTENSE. Overthinking, Ocd, and everythign else but I also have gender dysphoria, so will fixing the gender dysphoria part (Getting breasts done, long hair and bottom surgery) Fix my overthinking and give me peace in mind?

the thing is im not even sure I want the surgerys, but I do know I just need my head to quiet down somehow about trans stuff because it seems like my head has only fixated on trans stuff for the last 9 months

I am a CD and questioning if maybe I am more. I don’t see dressing as a fetish. More when I do it now I feel better. When I don’t get to dress or something simple as removing my nail polish I get upset or angry. Seems like I miss it and need more. Sometimes when I am dressed and don’t see my face I feel like a very feminine. Talking with my therapist has me thinking more about myself. My friend thinks maybe I am Trans lesbian. Any else have these types of feelings. Recently shaved and hoping / wishing had breasts. Sorry if this is just a ramble this is very different for me

I am so tired of comparing my life to other trans womens life because I compare myself to people like Eden the doll and Adea danielle and how there beautiful and live in california and newyork and have a bunch of money to get there body done and breasts and hair and Im this little boy in Missouri who dosent have as much money as them + has a ton of mental health problems!

Will I ever be successful? Will i ever even be anything I feel like this is the wrong way to be trans I was suppose to just not think at all and just grow my hair out and present as a woman

Hi, im 16 mtf and my self hate has recently gotten really worse to the point where I feel like I am going insane. When I feel ugly and not like my full self (which is 90% of the time because I have anxiety presenting as myself) I end up hating myself alot and then put it on other people espically Other women and then I start thinking like a man and hate everything Feminine and dont want to touch anything feminine

at this point am I even trans can someone just please help Im so tired or am I just in a crazy episode right now

As a little bit of context, I'm 18, she knows me since I'm 14. I'm transmasc, but I'm not really out, even though I'm 100% sure. Without being openly trans I already suffer from transphobia (for being androgynous), so I'm always insecure about coming out. She is a great teacher and person, who I trust, but we never really talked about lgbt topics. In classes, she's always saying if I do what she asks me to, it will sound very weird to me, and I won't like it, but in a recording I'll see how good it actually was. After some classes of her saying that, we actually did that. And I tried to explain to her that I just don't like my voice either way. Like, I have a complex with my voice and I don't like my speaking or my singing voice, recorded or not. Then she asked me what in particular I didn't like in it, if it was the tone, and I said yes. (Like, she might be getting it). And then she said if I thought my voice was too low. I made a weird expression and the conversation kinda ended there because I didn't even know what to say. She said that it something I have to learn to like in the future, because it is important. But how do I explain that probably that will not happen at all in a close future? And that neither I or her can do much about it?

I am mentally at my end and in need of advice. I want to state that what transwomen go through isn’t easy, I had no clue men and life as a TRANS- woman was going to be this hard.

My trans girl, I love you all. My biggest advice to my trans girl is to love yourself not the aspect of what comes with being a woman, truly love your soul. I have nobody to vent to and lately I feel like mentally im losing it. I am losing it from, not having any friends, to receiving zero love from a man b/c HE KNOWS I’m trans, overall where I am at in life.

I am at the point where I feel like I am going to be alone for the rest of my entire life. This isn’t fair to me, I am just a human being who crave for love and success. My entire life has been hard enough, where’s my happy ending. This isn’t fair and I know life’s not fair but I am seeking the bare minimum here. I don’t know if I need to stop transitioning because I feel like I’m doing it for nothing. I am physically and completely changing myself into something that will receive zero love for. It’s a waste of my time, someone please help me. I seek something beyond this world, this can’t be it.

Hello everyone! I truly hope you are all having a great day! I am a cis guy, and I have a question for you, if you are willing to answer it. As a bit of a preface, I do not know as much about trans issues as I would like. I have only been learning recently, and I am trying my hardest to better understand things. Also, I am autistic, and I have no intention of being rude or offensive. Please forgive my ignorance, and I wish to be corrected if I say something wrong.

Anyways, I have been talking with some trans people lately, and I've been learning about gender dysphoria. One guy said he doesn't really have it. Another man said he does. A woman I talked to a while back also said she does. I've learned a bit about what it's like, and my god does it sound horrifying. I have dealt with depression and pain myself, but hearing what you deal with sounds way worse and breaks my heart. Honestly, learning about it has been kind of depressing.

I know that there are ways of minimizing dysphoria. My question then, is: Does the dysphoria ever fully go away? Can it? I can't help but imagine millions of people dealing with dysphoria all at once. I guess I'm hoping that it can somehow get better.

In any case, thank you for reading, and thank you for answering if you choose to do so!

Also, if this means anything from a guy from Oklahoma (Where LGBTQIA+ rights aren't the best. I'm Bi myself and it honestly scares me a bit living in this state.), you are valid. No matter what happens in the near future, there are people who care about you. No matter what these fascists try to do, I love you all.

I hope we may all find peace.

.....or does the nonbinary identity come with just as many difficult societal standards as being a trans woman?

-signed, a disabled trans woman who saw a nonbinary comedian joke about men using 3-in-1 soap & women using a complicated skincare routine, who now feels unable to achieve womanhood and wonders if she shuld identify as nonbinary

It just hit me today that I maybe fooling myself. I have been on this thread as well as others pertaining to Trans issues. I have noticed that as long as I stay away from Trans material, I don't think about being Trans. However, within a week or so I find myself coming back and the feelings return all over. I have been dealing with this since 2020. It's getting to the point; I would like a decision one way or the other. Either male or Trans.

So I’ve been told that aside from boosting the effects of estrogen(like breast growth, smoother skin, increased emotions, etc) that it will completely destroy your sex drive by my hormone doctor but every personal account I’ve seen from other trans women say that it increases the sex drive

So I’m confused and conflicted about getting it sense I can’t get a clear answer-

(FtM) i don’t know if it’s genetics, me, or the testosterone.

so basically let me explain.

before i transitioned i was a fairly normal person sexually. like i seriously hated masterbating and sex was never a thing even when i was in a relationship. sexual thoughts or actions just were not my thing. its not gross or anything i just, dont really wanna partake in it. if we had to put it a certain way, i’d say sex twice a year and busting a nut once every 3-6 months was good for pre-transition me.

now come in testosterone. i’ve been on it for half a year now and it’s completely ruined me sexually. i have NEVER had the thoughts that spew out of my brain before, especially as fast and as much as it does now. i feel like im constantly living an episode of big mouth. i dont understand why i get so hard so often too or feel the need to have to let one out constantly. i have moments where its so bad, but i really dont wanna masterbate so i have to start doing push-ups or moving around really fast.

i have tried every method i could think of dude, because i dislike and find no joy in busting a nut or porn. i workout, i study, i literally have so many different hobbies, i distract myself etc etc. no matter what, the hormone monster is THERE and he’s in my ear at LEAST 6 hours of EVERY SINGLE DAY.

it wasnt like this at all before testosterone. also i’d like to say im still asexual because i am but it feels like my it (and by it i mean my peenits) doesnt allow it

my question stands, anyone else or…? and if youre similar to this or have felt this way, has ANYTHING helped you or do you just cope? does it stop or at least balance out, i cannot take this anymore.

I have a friend who’s been trying to access records of previous hospitalizations for a government related application. During these hospital stays, my friend had notified multiple people at the hospital that his information was incorrect, since the hospitals still had his dead name on their records. This was particularly important for insurance purposes, since these places had difficulties with billing the correct insurance since the names on file were different. For over the past year, my friend has even been receiving reimbursement checks from the hospital because of this, but the checks were still in his dead name which leads us to believe that they still haven’t fixed the issue.

My friend has repeatedly contacted the hospitals in hopes of rectifying this issue. After many phone conversations over a period of several weeks, he was ensured that the issue with the dead name was fixed, but to this day we’re still not sure.

The problem is that my friend asked the hospitals to send over all records of previous hospitalizations to the people in charge of the government related application. The application people said they only received records of more recent visits, but that they did not receive any records of older visits. My friend is pretty certain that the reason for this is that his dead name is still on the records for the older hospital visits. But at the same time, my friend was legally required to give his dead name when filling out the government related application, so they should already have his dead name and correct name.

My friend has repeatedly contacted these hospitals to figure out why they didn’t send over the records of older visits, but the hospitals have been very unhelpful. It’s gotten to the point where my friend is convinced that the records either vanished in thin air or the hospitals lost them.

Has anyone else had to deal with this? We’re really struggling for answers and this has been going on for quite a while.