Sometimes if you're being left on read, there's a chance that the person just clicked on the notification and thought it was AP2's message. Turns out it was yours but really have not interest in replying at the moment of so they just close the app.

Long story short. I’m a married women in my 30’s, 2 children, dog and beautiful home. 2 years ago a gorgeous man started at work who is 10 years younger. Fancied him from afar and flirted on nights out. 6 months after he started a summer party ended with just the 2 of us. We chatted for hours and then eventually had a kiss. I felt awful but just couldn’t shake the feeling he had given me.

Fast forward 18 months and we have been in a full blown affair since that kiss. The sex, the fun, the adventure. I have never experienced anything like it. But he hasn’t in anyway suggested I leave my husband and be with him. Is he just having his cake and eating it? Am I doing the same? I’ve kept up the double life for so long now but it’s exhausting. I’m at a point where maybe I should be getting a divorce. Even if nothing progresses with my AP. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Even if its to tell me what an awful person I am.

We’ve been together for several years. We talk about our future quite often. He continues to tell me he’s leaving his wife. Says they’ve spoken about it. But I am not sure I believe him.

I met my AP over a year ago, and we’ve talked every day since. We meet in person at least once a month, and he’s shown me the beauty of a slow-burn love—something I never experienced before, where love bombing was all I knew.

We’ve discussed leaving our partners to be together once our kids are grown, but we’re also realistic—life can change. For now, we focus on enjoying the present with each other, while holding onto hope for the future.

I can’t help but wonder: can a fairytale ending happen when you’ve built a strong foundation over the years? Or am I just getting lost in a dream? I’d love to hear personal stories or ones you know of where it actually worked out.

I decided 8 months ago I needed to be happy. I didn’t want to leave my husband or my young kids, but after many years of unhappiness, I wanted to love & be loved.

I met many men on Reddit but one stood out, the chemistry was there, he was handsome, a dad, everything I wanted in a partner. About 6 weeks in, he got distant, I longed for his attention just like I do at home, and I didn’t know I deserved any better. I dealt with it for 3 months until he ghosted me.

Days after he ghosted me, I came to this page for support. I was new to affairs and sad. I got many messages, but one stood out- A true friend that just wanted to talk.

Fast forward 6 months to now and this friend is one of the best men I’ve ever known. I told him I gave up, I didn’t want to affair again. He understood, he was just a friend. I started to like him, he started to like me. We started to share more & more. He became my best friend and I his. He puts so much effort in every single day, we live states & hours away & we plan work trips together. We’ve met irl (which I never thought I’d do starting this), he was a gentleman. We talk about work, our kids, our entire lives, we make time for each other. We trust each other & have shared more than I ever imagined sharing. We tell each other we love each other every day. I’ve never, ever felt uneasy or worried with him like I did with my first AP. It is the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in.

I don’t expect him to leave his wife & I don’t know if I’ll ever leave my husband but he’s made me feel alive. He’s made me feel loved & I’ve shared more with him than I’ve ever shared with anybody and that judgement free love means more to me than I could ever express in words to him.

It is possible to find a great match in this. I unexpectedly met one of the best men of my entire life. So to the women wondering if you deserve more, I wondered that too, and I can’t even describe the feeling of knowing the “more” and the happiness it brings. If you’re wondering if you deserve more, you do, & please go find it ♥️

To add: my first AP did come back with huge apologies & that he loved me, but I couldn’t reconcile. I know the more I deserve now, the bar is set high for me and I won’t accept less.

How to find a MM weakness

I've been talking to a guy who's married, he is 7 years younger than his wife. He says that they're not officially in an open relationship yet but even his wife talk about sex etc with her male friends.

I've never seen anything like this before. In my opinion there has to be something that they're not satisfied with. How should I find out what's making him unhappy ?

Little context : I’ve been seeing my AP for about 2.5 years now. First year was bumpy and we took a few breaks but now for over a year we’ve been pretty consistently seeing each other almost weekly, talking most days and texting every day. We’re both married DB, I’m working on separating /divorce but taking forever due to finances. AP is husbands friend that stopped coming around long before we started hooking up. We’ve always been friends, and had a thing many years ago before we were all married but neither of us remembers why it really ended but it did and we both moved on and got married etc.
I’m nearing the point where I can afford to leave my marriage and wondering where it sits to ask AP if he wants to make this something real? We both have strong feelings, great sex obviously and a lot of things in common - have conversation about the what ifs etc often. We both see potential as we have 30+ years of friendship on top of everything else.. I feel like I want to say let’s take a break for 3-6m and make decisions and execute them and then reconnect when it’s done so it’s not a frowned upon connection.. anyone else go through this kind of thing? How did it go? Did you stay together? Was it worth it? I’m leaving my marriage regardless- so that part remains. He isn’t sure.. his is comfortable and happy enough.. just db.. like living with your sister he describes it.

Met on AM. Chatted via Telegram for a few days maybe a week or two. Met for coffee. A 3 hour long coffee. Eyes so deliciously brown I was swimming in pools of hot chocolate. I actually thought I could see his soul. Told him I wanted to kiss him. When we kissed I knew. I just fucking knew I was in big trouble. I wasn’t looking for THIS. I wanted some passion- yes. But OMG. That kiss. Then we met. The BEST sex of my life. I’m telling you. I was a puddle. I wanted him back in me immediately. This all happened in October. We’ve met probably every other week since then except for a trip of his and one other time when it was almost two weeks. I cannot stop thinking about him. I don’t and won’t leave my husband-too many years gone by and it’s not worth it. Although I feel like I’m married to my brother.
Okay, here’s the problem: when we are together time stops. I’m being serious. And it’s so exhilarating and wonderful. Then back to texting. In which I get 3 word texts. Good mornings. Sometimes a good night- not always. It’s infuriating. I want more. Is it one sided? Do I tell him I’m in love? Do I wait? I don’t want to give up the big D or his caressing hands and fiery eyes. But am I fucking crazy?? Oh those who are experienced APs help a girl out. I’m wilting without the attention I crave. I just want more. Am I too much??

Hi friends. I’m very much a newbie and would love your advice. Married in a DB but due to kids being young don’t want to leave the marriage at this stage. How do you find a decent AP in a similar situation? I’ve spoke to a few but they were creepy or were much older than they said. When do you swap names / photos usually? Hard to connect with someone without knowing what they look like. When do you meet up- I was thinking I should meet up early on to see if we have any irl chemistry and not waste each others time if we don’t, but I don’t think most want this. Lastly I’m not exactly sure what it is I want- I know what I’m missing and that I have so much to offer. But do guys just want the sex right away? Like would you have an ap that can start as a friend and have fun together (not actual sex) but be open minded to it and see where things go? From the posts I’ve seen I get a feeling that it’s often like sex as anything less than that is just not worth the risk factor involved like why risk getting caught for just a few drinks together. Im very much a person that needs to feel connected emotionally before I could share my body- is this the wrong world for someone like me?

I love my wife (40) and she is truly the best woman for me. But our new neighbors moved in about two months ago, and their age seems to align with ours. I used to walk my daughter just a few meters down the street to catch her school van, and this woman would often walk toward me as she dropped her son off at the opposite corner for his school van. I would walk close to her to just feel her warmth. I am damn sure that she is also attached towards me as yesterday she bumped on me knowingly and blushed, but we never talked a word. Everytime I go close to her, I want to kiss her till my last breath and die having sex with her. She isn't more beautiful than my wife nor she is fair, but I don't know why I am attracted to a 40 year old married woman. Should I go for it?

Is it after the 3rd meet? Is it a conversation and agreement? When he gives her his class ring?

Context: they answered essentially what was a hook up type ad on this platform looking for attention. We’ve met multiple times. The conversation and sex is good, there’s always discussion of the “next time” we get together, plenty of non-sexy banter between meets. When does it cross a line and it become considered a full fledged “affair” and being AP’s? Is there a discussion about exclusivity? Is there agreement to boundaries and rules? Or, is it best to let it happen organically, which seems to leave a lot of questions, confusion and uncertainty (at least for me).

What are your experiences and insights oh sages of this adulterous life choice?

She enters the room in a warm gust of confidence and vanilla. I remind myself to breathe. Her dark eyes flash quickly and brilliantly within a frame of magic alabaster. Everywhere I look, …everywhere I imagine… she is there. I kiss her smiling checks and it is NOT like kissing sunlight… It is kissing sunlight. Desperation is forbidden. Love and laughter lead the way. She touches me and I exist.

Currently sitting in bed by myself in a swanky 5 star hotel. AP has gone through quite the trouble to book the room for me for the weekend. Because i needed a break. Left his card on file at the spa. He may or may not visit me some time tonight or in the wee hours of the morning. Depends on his schedule. Of.course id love to see him. He would as well. Yet every time i walk past the mirror I can't imagine why he wants me. I know I need to get out of my head. Yet he questions ME why i want HIM!!!!

Maybe you really can’t write when your heart is too heavy. Especially when your entire being is shutting down from everything you feel. It’s exhausting. So heavy that you can’t even put it into words.

It’s hard to find your balance when everything inside you is falling apart.

The search for an AP is a grueling task. This evening, the biggest wave of ick hit me like a ton of bricks. I spent days chatting with this man who seemed decent at first. Average looking at best, not dynamic or witty. I equate it to chatting with a low functioning AI program. I thought I would give it a chance and go out of my way to engage with him and make everything fun.

It then hit me. He thinks of women as objects to his game, describing us as used books and sometimes taking the one that isn’t what he wants but it’s will do. Then he said he is happy he walked into my bookstore. Ick.

Then he went on about how his wife is older and in pain and not a participant in his marriage. This poor woman. He’s out fucking a bunch of random women while his wife is at home in pain and not good enough for him.

I wish we could stop these losers in their tracks. They use the same formula over and over to lock women in. They are narcissists. The worst kind. This man gave me predator vibes and a bad feeling.

Be careful out there ladies… he is lurking here on Reddit and there’s something not right about him.

If someone sent you a lighthearted Valentine, would it be clear to you that they're interested? Too forward, or plausible deniabiltity?

My MM purchased me a nice gift certificate for Christmas. I got him absolutely nothing.. so Valentine’s Day is approaching. What is the OW supposed to gift her MM? How do the gifts not get noticed by the spouse?

I see ads from pAPs and exAPs and I wish I could respond to them and let prospective shoppers know that what they are saying is bullshit! There really needs to be a ratemyAP app or some kind of google review for users 🤣

Is it because this January has been the longest year, ever?

Y’all be wildin’ out there, and I can’t lie: I’m here for the entertainment! Keep wondering if your co-worker is into you or how to blow your family up by fucking family friends. I also strongly endorse phone calls from your personal cell, and straight texting with no app.

I believe in y’all…you got this!

This post is sponsored by the ever-increasing amount of head shaking I’ve been doing over some of these posts lately 😆

Lots of details go in to this. She seems to be quietly pursuing me as well, and I think we’re at the phase of someone needs to make the first move. I’m not someone who shy’s away from asking a little spark to life here and there, and I’ve fantasized about cheating on my wife for different reasons. But of course it’s gotta be her best friend that’s playing this cat and mouse game. I try ignoring her, but that almost makes it worse. All I want if for her to say something or text me. But I am also afraid of every interaction tempting me in a situation where I don’t end up playing it very well. And as much as I want to tell her, very possible the feeling isn’t mutual. I keep trying to convince myself of this, and then she appears again, almost as if she knows I need her to ignore me too but wants to keep me on the hook.

I want to tell her but I want to be able to say it in a way that’s not intrusive or expectant, but just stating it. Hoping that would not prompt her to make a life changing decision to tell our spouses. It’s all so selfish, I’m aware. But the mind wanders. And it’s wandered quite a lot about her.

...and are you brave enough to share said name with her?

(Can't wait to see the flair this one gets;)

Long time reader, past adulterer.

I had an amazing affair prior to the pandemic. We tried to keep things up, but everything got emotionally difficult, and physically distanced during that time. We let it go and things gradually faded.

Used that time to re connect with my spouse more often....and here we are nearly 5 years later. Things are looking heavily like I might be called back to the office, and my spouse has a new job that keeps them out of the house.

Does the lonliness ever end? I don't know what it is about this cycle but it seems to come and go, and it's hard to say why. Maybe the thrill of meeting someone new and as neglected as you are is the driver. Maybe i'm selfish. Maybe we are all selfish.

Who knows. But I feel that yearning again.

We are LDAP. He has always said he doesn’t need anyone else, I’m the best. He doesn’t talk to other women, no time or desire. I saw he was actively on AM last night, I knew he still had a profile but I was surprised he had updated the pictures. I asked him about it this morning, he kept saying why does it matter. I told him it was because he had made the point to say many times he didn’t show interest in other women, why say what you don’t mean. I told him the profile made me feel like he thought I was a fool. If he wanted to continue to talk he would have to delete it, if he didn’t want to that’s fine I understand he wanted options since we are long distance but I wasn’t okay with that arrangement.

Am I being unreasonable?

I am always amazed how many attractive women there are at Target. Married and single, younger and older. Target management, whatever you’re doing, keep it up!

And for the ladies on here - what is it that draws you to Target like moths to a flame?!

So question to the group, and curious if I’m kind of in a unique situation….

My husband and I are at the beginning phase of opening our marriage, although he’s currently uninterested in pursuing things for himself. With that said, it seems easier for me to engage with married men and also almost a sort of “safe” space for people not looking to leave their partner/break up a marriage.

Is it just me or much harder to find interested men in this type of transparency? Seems most are immediately turned away. Am I just looking in the wrong places?

We'll start off this week with a "rerun" that a reader submitted, but I checked and I first posted it in August of 2023, so I think it's okay to repeat myself for anyone who hasn't been stuck here for that long:

43 [M4F] #Oklahoma/Arkansas - Seeking female friend who will let me see her pee, poop, and fart!

Hello! I am married, but seeking a discreet open minded woman interested in or curious about letting me watch her pee, poop, and fart. I know that this interest is unique and most women would not be interested in talking about or sharing with someone else these aspects of their life but it is something near and dear to my heart. It is a beautiful, natural human biological function and I find it stunning, beautiful and worthy of appreciation! It is art to me! I would love to find a woman who would either be open to letting me watch if local to Oklahoma or Arkansas, or even peeing on me and in my mouth, farting in my face, and pooping in my hand or on my chest, as often as we can. The friendship and intimacy of this is what I desire! Being such deep friends sharing with one another the most intimate acts possible. A female friend to give pleasure to and receive pleasure from. Releasing from you any embarassment or shame and worshipping this amazing aspect of your body. What turns you on? What can I do for you? I would love to make your pleasure and enjoyment my focus! A long term local or online female friend enthusiastic about this fetish is what I desire! If local to Oklahoma or Arkansas, I would love to connect and have fun with this together. If not local, but interested in developing an online friendship where you film yourself for my eyes only in a deep online intimate friendship, I would love that too! If open or curious, let's chat!

When he posted in 2023, he was 42, so the math checks out. Well, it's at least internally consistent, and I appreciate that.

38 M 4F #NY - oh this is getting the circus act still performing the same show.

The circus is still performing the same show. Here’s how it goes, you see my post, you send me a me a message appreciating my sincerity and humor. You ask to trade pictures, me being the gentleman send first and I get the “your very handsome but not my type”.

The show needs to change the clowns need to leave. When the clowns leave I’m hoping the last person in the circus is you and I.

You see me I’m 38, dark hair and eyes, fit, very handsome like all the clowns say, looking for something of substance. Not looking to change your situation and lead to your doom. Ideally a normal, communicative, great personality. No scammers, pic collectors, curious people, bad communicators, and British accent women for the love of god lol . Let’s burn this circus down and never return.

And also a repeat customer, but weirdly, not a copy/paste. Just more circus talk. Maybe he's got a thing for clowns?

#Kentucky 36 [m4f] for discreet potential fwb

Lonely and looking for someone that is feeling a similar way. Not looking to change either of our current situations

I DO NOT WANT YOU REACHING OUT IF YOU HAVE A DICK OR ARE TRYING TO RECRUIT ‘EARNINGS’ FOR YOUR OTHER ‘PAGES,’ ETC

. . Seriously you may be blocked. .

I’m looking for real. I’m real sick of edging and having to ultimately take care of this myself. . At times I like to take control in the bedroom. . Or wherever else you may want it. . Or we can make it happen. . 😉 . . . . There’s also a time for passion and intimacy. But very rarely having an outlet for either really bites after a while. That said I’m really not trying to catch anything (and truly mean zero disrespect to anyone that has-I know that can happen unexpectedly-hence my caution) but I would prefer to find one woman to build a fwb type relationship with. That’s my preference. I understand that may not be possible so I’m open to possibilities. . But I urge you to please be honest, as I will. Please be fair. We’re all here for one reason or another and none are better than the rest. . Until I hear from you 😉 . .

I don't think this guy "understands" how apostrophes "work". Also, ew.

43 [M4F] #TX/Online - Let's play out your smutty DILF daydreams

Pickup line playtime?

Fucking around at the park?

Target gropefest?

Grocery store parking lot head?

Play out your smut era with me.

Typical low-effort BS, but this guy's username was really the pièce de résistance. I'm not going to break my own policy and out them, so you'll need to go look in r/naughtyfromneglect yourself, sorry!

29 [M4F] - Lets get rough

I need a girl to bend over, go to town on, be rough, passionate, and make each other sweat. If that's you, let's chat. I'm into rough sex, degrading, face f*cking, anal, and more. I'm in town for work, can host at Resorts World.

I'm 29, fit, good looking, decently hung, and cum A LOT. Send a pic, where you're at, let's have fun

AND

28 [M4F] - Alone at work. Watch me cum?

Looking for women or trans women only.

Sometimes I get a moment free to myself at the office, and I love to share that moment! So come join me, let's have a bit of fun (; You can watch while I play, or get in on the action. Either way, let's chat!

AND

29 [M4F] - Watch me cum at work?

I've got a special talent that I love to share. I cum A LOT, and love to show it off. Bonus points if you like a bit of exhibition because I'm alone at the office today. If you want a show, hit me up! I'd love to give you one in exchange for you lending a hand (; I'm 29, fit, and decently hung. Message me and lets find out how we can have some fun.

Wow...starting off young, eh? And boy is this guy proLIFIC! (and also confused about his age, I guess). Also, a few days ago he switched it from "just be older than 21" to "looking for someone 25 or older"...so does that mean he's growing as a person?

33 [M4F] #Atlanta - Thick BWC that has never cum from just head/ no deepthroat as well

Well, as the title says, I have a thick BWC (8.5” and 6” in circumference) and I have never cum from just head. I also have never had anyone take it all the way.

I am a clean/ddf white male, blue eyes, lighter brown hair, handsome, educated and successful. Looking for a girl that can help me out. Would be interested in other activities/reciprocation depending.

Into some kinks, etc, if you wish to indulge or if you’re curious.

Ladies, you know where the line starts!

32 [M4F] #Gloucestershire #England looking for a woman who is into talking shit about each others spouses and you become my number 1 main woman in my life while my partner unbeknownst to her becomes number 2 to you.

Hey,

So, I already recognise that my request is a bit weird and I'll doubt I'll get many DMs or chats but I thought I may as well try my luck, right?

Basically, I'm looking for a woman who is into talking crap about our spouses and wants all my attention, who wants to become my main number 1 woman in my life. You get to seduce and control someone else's man and my partner will have no idea that she is number 2 to you.

I'm hoping this could be a long term thing and if you're intrigued or interested in getting to know more about this, don't hesitate to DM or send a chat.

I hope to hear from you soon.

Cheers.

Yuck Yuck Gloose

47 [M4F] Duck, duck, goose - #MA #Boston

I love women, so, so much. You were my favorite past-time until an unnerving OPSEC breach transpired months ago and I haven’t played with you since.

This prolonged abstinence, however, has left me unwell. I miss you desperately. Being within close proximity of you anywhere results in a knowing swelling. Glimpses of long hair, legs, and those cute outfits have driven me into a constate state of frustration and desperate yearning.

No one needs to be this primed in the vitamin aisle of Whole Foods. It’s embarrassing. I am properly miserable.

I have a dead bedroom; substitutes have sufficed, for a while anyway. My own hands – perfectly capable of bringing me to orgasm, but it’s not quite the same now, is it? These self-induced ones are acute, crescendoing quickly and then dissipating, much like my sanity. They don’t quell and don't satisfy.

The orgasms I am chasing are all-encompassing and suspending. You know -- the ones where the waves of pleasure start and become so intense and unrelenting that all you can do is choke out moans and gasp for air. I want these.

These orgasms are the ones that can only be coaxed out by my being deep inside of you, bottoming out on your cervix.

So here I am, against better judgement, honoring my treasonous libido's desires.

Will you play with me?

**The nitty gritty:**

**Me**: 47 y/o, white, 5'10, hwp, married with kids -- a fine, upstanding suburban fellow to all outward appearances.

I want us to tease each other, to kiss deeply, tongue on tongue, until we are whimpering with desire.

**You**: 25-60 y/o, preference for long hair

**Reciprocal non-negotiables** – Please be married (like me) or at least attached. Exceptional OPSEC. Able to meet on workdays, during normal working hours. I cannot do nights or weekends. Willing to make me your only partner outside your marriage.

**We will have to get a day-use hotel or use AirBnBs**

Please reach out to me. If we vibe, I’d like to meet for a hello, a drink and some banter before proceeding.

I'm in a similar boat, so get it, but I don't think anyone wants to read an ad that contains the word "cervix". And I think we decided that using the word "play" was also a turn-off. Also, wow how fancy he buys his vitamins at Whole Foods.

41 [F4M] TN/Online… distractions are welcome

Married woman in the southeast, looking for a married male who enjoys talking and being a little playful. Reddit can be good for that sometimes. i’m not looking to be anybody’s mommy. I prefer a man to be a man. I have no other expectations than whatever happens, happens. I’m not a skinny girl. I am a short curvy woman. So if you have a preference for that, I’m your girl. If you’re interested, let me know your age and your general whereabouts and let’s see how we get along.

Is it just me, or is it just not as creepy when a woman uses "male"? Maybe it's just me.

50 Married Male [M4F] #North Carolina : I am male

I am a man.

I await your flood of chat requests.

Please be patient for your reply, as I sift and sort.

Oh, I'm guessing this guy doesn't find it creepy. Also, to quote Deadpool, "Maximum Effort".

41F4M #Boston - Seeking The Extraordinary: Is that You?

This may be the last ad you ever read.

Yes, my it is lengthy but it sufficiently articulates who I am, what I’m after, and not. It behooves you to read it if you plan to send a message.

I’m classy, well educated, and sophisticated. Confident but not arrogant. Witty, well travelled, sarcastic, and wildly fun. A polyglot. 

I am known to cause rapid heartbeat, confusion, inexplicable excitability, profuse sweating, fever and chills, dizziness, enlarged pupils, engorged appendages, and blurred vision. These side effects aren’t easily managed. Proceed with circumspect. 

I have a full-on life outside of an affair that always comes first. My time is just as valuable as yours, therefore I am in a position in life to prioritize and make time for the rare intriguing person who piques my interest. I'm looking for someone with this same outlook and capacity.

Adroitly stimulating my brain is a massive turn on. Keeping my attention is a challenge. I find superficiality tedious. Show me depth instead — or many layers, like an onion. Adeptly grabbing  and maintaining my attention, you could discover a whole new world. Shining, shimmering, splendid. A new fantastic point of view. Unbelievable sights. Indescribable sensations. A dazzling place you never knew. A hundred thousand things to explore… 

If you’re not within the Metrowest area of Boston, do not waste your time or mine.

If drinking, drugs, and smoking  are copiously enjoyed and a great part of your life, please give me a miss. I do not enjoy kissing someone who smokes. It doesn’t matter if you’ll stop smoking x hours before meeting me, will change your clothes, won’t smoke around me, etc. It is all irrelevant as the taste and smell of smoke permeates your mouth, skin, and hair. This includes vaping. 

I enjoy intelligent conversations, building connections and getting to know someone — show me your world, and I’ll share mine too; laid-back, easy going people, confidence, friendships, laughing and making others laugh, punctuality, decisiveness, concupiscence, never ending stamina, insatiability, adept conversationalists, those who can let loose and enjoy life full-on, and someone who values pleasure beyond their own.  

I'm 5'4", 135 lbs, curvy, brown eyes and hair. I'm not into men younger than me, bald men, out of shape men, dad bods, short men, or men with beards.

I’m not for everyone and everyone isn’t for me. I seek quality over quantity.

I like tangible things. I’m not into intangible forms of play from behind my phone screen or with strangers. This means I have zero interest in watching you watching you on video, sexting with strangers, exchanging NSFW photos, or having phone sex, etc. 

Those Who May Catch My Eye Are:

* Sophisticated, drama-free, uncomplicated, punctual, and broad-minded. Educated and globally-minded.

* Dependable and will hold others to the same high dependability expectation. I’m not one for cheap, empty words. Words that don’t match actions, fail to attract. 

* Effective, clear communicators. If you’re lazy in expressing and/or listening, I’ll assume you're equally lazy intimately. 

* Able to captivate me from your first message and sustain that intrigue with intelligent conversation, GSOH, genuine passion, and desire consistently. This doesn’t mean complimenting me on my  appearance. You should know I do have mirrors in spaces I spend time in daily. 

* Passionate kissers. If you can’t kiss with intensity, aching desire and hunger I’ll assume sex will be equally lacklustre. Kissing compatibility  is compulsory; it will either ignite our mutual desire or sends me running away from you expeditiously. 

* Looking for regular, broadening connections, not one-offs. Always NSA as I'm not changing my home life and neither should you be looking to. Connection is essential. 

* You'd know what you want without wavering. You'd not settle for just anyone. You'd prioritize a foundation of friendship, understanding, effective communication, and trust and not simply be seeking someone to thrash your body against. Of course affairs come with the need for body thrashing but to you understand it's a journey not a destination.

If you prioritize me alongside your busy life, but go on to show me I’m not a priority, or you’ve  relegated me to the back burner, I’ll remind you of what you’ve lost and won’t get back by stepping away indefinitely. This is distinctively different than an expectation of your life revolving around me, but should not become a challenge. If it is, we’re simply incompatible. 

Your personality matters. While physically attractive people can sometimes be unappealing, those who may not initially catch my eye can become über attractive with a great personality. This doesn’t mean I’m attracted to everyone—physical attraction is compulsory for me. I’m drawn to athletic men, not thin or obese ones; massive, manly thighs are my weakness. I take care of myself and expect you to do the same.

If your intrigue has been piqued, do send me a message. Show me you've read my ad, and give me a reason to reply to you as well.

Ok, that's a lot more effort, and certainly a lot of words. Yet OP feels the need to abbreviate "good sense of humor" (and I'll be honest, I had to look up GSOH because that was new to me). At least she used the correct spelling of "piqued", but then again I'd expect nothing less from someone who uses five-dollar words like "adroitly" and "concupiscence". Although it does bother me that she wrote "Indescribable sensations" when the original lyric is "Indescribable feeling". And there's a fine line between "confident" and "arrogant"...maybe it's this feeling of intimidation that's putting this ad on one particular side for me.

M4F-38M#NYC #NNJ #BergenCounty - Married highly educated "dad bod" 6 ft white science nerd seeking married mom(of any female demographic,no males/trans)who also loves science and classic scifi films from the 80s/90s-Seeking a teacher,professor,librarian seeking convo,sensual massages,release of...

Well Hello There,

I'm ecstatic that you have happenstance upon my post. If you are a male or a trans, while I mean absolutely no disrespect, I just am not interested. Sorry, it is not a matter of convincing, just a matter of one's preference.

Now, let me be clear in that I do adamantly love my wife. My situation will absolutely not change meeting you. If you think you can or will change my situation, you will be sadly mistaken. Let's be real, we're both mature adults, and hopefully in a similar situation, so let's just keep this discrete.

I am looking for a wife who has been neglected intellectually and sexually. And when I mean sexually, I don't just mean you performing sex on him. I mean actual real love, connection, that forceful sexual pleasure and energy, that arduous force between two bodies in space for a moment in time that feels like infinity. The heat of two bodies, the feel of skin to skin more than just on lips or on cheeks.

That's the sort of "sexual neglect" I mean. Two lovers should be, well, loving. I will not leave my wife. And you will not leave your husband. You love your husband as much as I love my wife. And you and I understand as leaders and educators that we are all human, and we do human things. But part of that is the need to be held, to be touched, by those who we can trust with our little idiosyncrasies and pleasures and pains.

I'm not looking for a soul mate or a home wrecker. I am looking for a fellow educator, who has happened to find themselves intellectually alone, who just wants to share in a few thoughts, and deep and hard physical connection.

I love to talk for hours over drinks, or even better, over 420. I am DDF (obviously other than 420), I am looking for you to be as well. Please be mature about this. I am not looking for the next happy forever after.

I am looking for an arrangement with someone where we can connect on an intellectual, and highly physical and sexual level. I have a high sex drive, I love to pleasure with my fingers and tongue, and I am quite open minded to trying new things (however, only slowly, and in progression).

Let's connect here. DM me. My ideal woman:

-As mentioned, a married but neglected/betrayed teacher, professor, or educator who is a mom.

-I am open minded about demographics and figure. However, the type of woman who really gets me going intellectually and sexually: apple shaped who weigh around 160lb - 200lbs who love to wear socks and who really loves to take it while laying down, grabbing my back, and lightly scratching it, trying to hold your moans in, but then ripping them out loud in a deep progression back and forth until finally letting it rip out loud.

-Live near/in Bergen County. Ideally be someone who can host while the kids are off to daycare/in another spot. That would be ideally an awesome time to chat and maybe watch some movies, and let the general flow of the room take us away.

-Be willing to actually have conversation. While I'm a highly touch and feel based kinda guy, i also love to chat back and forth. It's kinda the whole fun in, well, the touching :) I want to have a conversation. Get your thoughts about the universe. And then, make a physical connection that our parners have, for lack of a better word, led us to have a black hole in our sexual and intellectual lives.

-Be firm about the rule about our partners: you have no intention of leaving your husband. I have no intention of leaving my wife. Neither partner needs to know about the other. That simple.

-While not mandatory, I would love to be with someone who is willing to explore outside of hte box sexually. For example, anal, or threesome, just to name a few. I'm not saying this is what I'm looking for, but it would be cool to find an AP who thinks sexually outside of the box curiously, but responsibly so.

I look forward to receiving your DMs. Some of my (nudes) are scattered throughout my page. Feel free to send pics, but honestly, Im looking to chat first, and work up to that slowly. Thx:)

Well that was a trip. Plus his post history is all over the place between "in an open marriage" and "looking for a revenge affair" and "looking to be cucked". Makes me wish he wrote a little more adroitly ;)

...and I think I'm over my character limit for the week, so until next time, stay adulterous!

Why do men feel the need to send a picture of their dick to a random stranger? You don’t even know if I’m a real person or maybe even a child.

Do you ever consider the risks involved in sending something like that? Just think about it.

I know some of y’all are desperate to show off and want validation, but what do you think women would do when they see a dick from a random stranger? Like, 'Oh my god, I want it,' seriously? What are you even expecting? We can google this shit..

Just curious if anyone else has had this happen to them or had these thoughts. I am starting to look at new-to-me vehicles and have a criteria that my SO finds “out of the norm for me”. (Which in itself could be a red flag) I am looking for something that “blends in”, is unassuming and typical specifically because I don’t want someone to drive by an Air BnB and see it parked and instantly recognize that it could be mine. I’ve been considering Lexus RC’s and the type but realize that can “stand out” so more so considering a subtle Avalon, Accord or Camry even. Anyone else do that type of “analysis” of decisions in this world?

My exAP and I went through a terrible break up a while ago and I deleted my telegram account. I would like to get back on Telegram but would be devastated if they found me and sent me a message.

Do I have to use a new phone number? Should I move to signal?

Edit for those who reached out, thank you but I don’t want to talk about my situation.

Yet is avoiding the talk... He says his wife has a hunch as she's been talking about cheating for the past two weeks.

I am at a lost as I've already lost another AP this week.