I really hope you’re just as picky as me. Otherwise why are we here?

I’ve been here before, off and on, and I’m looking for someone who feels like they simply don’t fit in here. I know I feel out of place. Ideally I’d love to meet someone at the gym or Trader Joe’s, but I’m not willing to risk it in person so this is where I’m at.

A little about me. I’m married (obvz) and I’ve been in safe but boring/vanilla marriage for the last 6 years. Everything seems perfect from the outside, fantastic job, great home, I’m charismatic (I may not seem it here lol), but I’m lacking in one department.

I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t interested in the flirting and being all over eachother, either online or in person, but I’m wanting to establish a connection first. Makes everything way more worthwhile.

A little about me. I’m 31, white (if that matters), 6’4”, athletic/in shape (outside of cardio or going up two flights of stairs), brown hair, blue eyes and I’d consider myself attractive, and haven’t been turned down much on here. I have so many hobbies that you’ll just have to ask me about.

What I’m looking for. I’ll keep it so easy, please be under 38, charismatic, in shape, and attractive. I feel like I offer the same back so it’s fair of me to ask for those things.

Anyways hopefully I don’t come off as a tool, I just had to be straight forward to save us both time lol

Hi out there.

Timing is everything, especially out here. Did I miss your post? Did you get 8000 DM's and I got lost in the shuffle? Well, let's change that.

Just your average nice guy looking for a connection with a side of naughty. Isn't that why most of us are here???

I'm really into true crime documentaries, horror movies, sports, and working out. Not clingy but I want someone who does have a bit of time.

I'm also going to be upfront. Attraction is really important as well so we should establish that early on.

If that's you, send a request, I'd like to hear from you and see where this goes.

Have a fantastic rest of your evening!

Looking for someone to pass the time with! Maybe you're married (or taken) as well and things are just lacking that spark?

Interested in cheating, creampies, breeding, JOI / orgasm control, and lingerie

I work from home so plenty of free time and privacy. I’m usually up around 5am daily so anywhere in the US works

Hey there,

I’m looking for someone open-minded and non-judgmental to share some fun, intimate, and engaging conversations. Maybe we’ll spark something playful like a game of truth or dare, or maybe we’ll dive into deep, unfiltered talks about life, passions, and even desires.

I want to create a vibe that’s relaxed yet charged, where we can let our guards down, explore our curiosities, and see where the conversation takes us. From casual chats to intimate confessions, I’m here for it all—and I’d love to connect with someone who’s just as intrigued by the unknown.

Whether this turns into a one-time escape, a regular indulgence, or something that evolves naturally, I’m open to it. If you’re someone who craves connection, is curious by nature, and isn’t afraid to share what’s on your mind, let’s make this happen.

Looking forward to hearing from you…

Best, clean and discreet in-home gloryhole for Str8/Married/DL/College dudes. Send pics and stats for quicker respond.

Hey! I am 44 years-old, East Asian dad hoping to find a long-term AP. I am married but in a DB and I miss intimacy. I'm not looking to change my relationship status nor yours. A friendship more akin to FWB where we can hang out at boba🧋cafes, grab ramen 🍜 for lunch, and be a sounding board when life gets frustrating. We can enjoy our short moments together without the emotional baggage.

Female colleagues have described me as cute + handsome, and how young I look. I am 6 ft tall and slim like a basketball player 🏀. I have dark brown eyes and hair. I have great hygiene. I am university educated, have a witty sense of humor, own a successful career, and live in the Bay Area. My mbti is INTJ. I enjoy Netflix, k-dramas, anime (Dandadan), The Weeknd, Zedd, Blackpink.

This works best with a married mom, 40+ yrs old but not a hard filter. My preference is for a petite slender body type. Be willing to trade pics early. Physical attraction matters to me.

Our secret will take work to keep so I expect top OpSec. We both need to feel safe in all our interactions. Out of town business travelers or stewardess welcome to msg me.

I'm married but missing something; it's a dead bedroom/roommate situation. I'm charismatic, funny, ambitious, and a tad kinky sometimes. Physically, I'm 6' tall, 210lbs, brown hair, blue eyes,

I'm here because I'm lacking intimacy and excitement in my marriage. I am not afraid to get emotions involved, but not looking to change our situations. I would love to find someone that can enhance our lives in all the ways. I love chatting about anything/everything and want to be your best friend and confidant that you feel comfortable enough to share everything with! A best friend with some benefits, if you will. I'm open to exchanging pics early on because I do think physical attraction is important for this to work, especially long term and online.

About me:

• father of 2 human children and 2 fur kids
• 6'0 tall
• Brown hair, blue eyes
• athletic build, with muscular arms and legs, but I still try to pretend to be a runner even though my knees hate me for it.
• graduate degree holder.
• Funny & charismatic
• Ambitious & a dreamer
• outdoors lover/adventurer
• DIY lover
• Flirty with a dirty mind, but reserved enough to wait til the time is right.
• Located in NoCo

A little about you:

• don't be a scammer
• Be a woman
• active and adventurous
• 27-41 preferably with kiddos, but not required
• at least somewhat familiar with the concept of discretion
• Dog lover (you can be a cat lover, but I might judge you just a smidge)
• Confident in your own skin
• Flirty and enjoys exchanging pics/memes
• a bit of a dark side (you're already here... so check!)

I have time to give to you, and I expect the same in return. I'd like for us to chat throughout the day and into the evenings and weekends. I don't expect you to prioritize me higher than your home obligations, but a relationship cannot thrive on just a couple messages a day. Message me and try to catch my attention. Tell me your age, time zone, and a few interesting facts about yourself!

I’m a normal fit married man. Educated and in the corporate world. Big arms. Flat stomach. Great smile. I travel to Chicago a lot. Also other Midwest cities.

Long story short, I have a near dead bedroom and looking for a friend and woman I can be dirty with. I think I’m a good combination of a nice thoughtful guy who likes good rough sex.

Looking for regular chatting not sexual and non. I’m pretty active and have lots of interested and hobbies. I take care of myself through diet and exercise and looking for a woman who does the same.

Heyo. This isn’t your typical M4F post….

Okay I’m kidding, it probably is. But hear me out anyway… I’ve posted here before without much luck. And I’ll probably post again.. unless you wanna change that? ;)

Let me get the usual stuff out of the way:

6ft, Brown skin, Graduate degree, successful, professional, respectful, multilingual, pretty active and fit, attractive - as per Indian standards, love animals, spend most of my weekend outdoors climbing or volunteering.

But what sets me apart? I don’t know. I could say it’s my quirky taste in music. But not everyone appreciates that. I could say it’s the fact that I speak 6 languages. But who cares? I could say it’s the fact that I used to be in an abusive relationship.. but that just creates sympathy and I don’t want that. Maybe it’s the fact that I’m actually respectful of your time and energy? Yeah let’s go with that for now :)

What am I looking for?

Honestly… I wish I could answer that as well as half the other people on this sub. But to start with, I’m looking for someone to have fun with. What’s fun you ask? Well it’s whatever we make it to be :) ideally nsfw. It can either be online or in person. However I’m not gonna jump to meet you before we establish some trust and a good connection online.

As always, I’m happy to verify and also talk more in DMs. But for now, if this interests you, do DM me?

I’m traveling to Vegas for an AWS event… maybe you are too?? I’m handsome, highly educated and take decent care of myself. 6’3 blond hair blue eyes, bearded with a dad bod.

I miss conversations with attractive and interesting women who I look forward to speaking with again. Hopefully that chatting turns into something more interesting.

Ideally you are slim to fit, under 40 and conventionally attractive. Being educated is also a must — I find witty banter to be excellent foreplay. Staying at TI. Hope to hear from you!!

I’ve been married for seven years and things aren’t going great. I’m looking for a married or attached woman in a similar situation who clicks with me on an emotional and sexual level. Age isn’t super important, though I generally connect best with women around my age.

A bit about me: I’m 31 and live in Central Jersey. 5’10”, 175 pounds, muscular and in shape (gym time is important to me). Green-blue eyes, shorter brown hair, trimmed beard, nice smile, good looking, great hygiene.

I’m well-educated and career-driven and I’m looking for someone who shares that drive. My friends would describe me as very outgoing and friendly - I have high energy and love to socialize. You’ll find that I’m easy to talk to and have a good sense of humor.

Please only reach out if you’re serious about having an AP. I have a few pics on my profile and I’m happy to share more. Send a chat if you’d like to talk! ☺️

Let's try things a little differently. I'm tired of the search, so here's what, I tell you I'm not and you come back to me if it works

I don't have...

1. Blue dreamy eyes - mine are brown and deep. You could get lost in them if you aren't careful.
2. Height >7' - I'm 6'. Taller is better but so are stronger men.. I can deadlift more than my 7 ft friends.
3. Head full of hair - I'm bald and it's a choice. I love it and I think it makes me look evil. I'm on here.. who am I trying to fool looking like a goody two shoes?! I'm all Slytherin MF.
4. ...
5. A Harem - I'm looking for exclusivity. Some might love being part of a harem. But I pride myself on giving you the attention you need. You are worth it. You get ignored enough in other avenues already.
6. Bad attitude - the subs here are littered with APs treating each other in the worst place possible. I just can't do it! I'm respectful and apologize for not being able an ahole to you.

What you are NOT..

1. EST - timezones matter. I would like someone local with the potential to meet.
2. Waiting for me to make a conversation always - with the right rapport, I can keep this going for ages, but I can't be doing all the heavy lifting. That's for the gym.
3. Guilt Queen - know what you want and come get it.

If you've read this and are still here. Send me a message with the intentional typos in here.

When I picture an affair, I imagine good morning/night texts, good communication, genuine friendship, and feelings developing organically. Maybe the occasional text or picture that makes you smile and lets you know someone is thinking of you.

I’m an optimist and believe we can have all that, while also respecting boundaries and having a mutual understanding that we won’t do anything to intentionally destroy each other’s lives. I’m not looking to rush feelings or get overly sexual right off the bat. Yes, I love sex and have an insatiable drive, but I value an emotional connection, more than I do a sexual one. In lamest terms, I don’t want us to get sexual unless there’s a strong connection or feelings.

As far as looks go, I’m 5’9”, fit, proportionate, dark hair, brown eyes, olive skin complexion, and am often told I’m attractive. I like to stay active and have started to workout at least 5 or 6 days a week. You don’t need to be a fitness model, but please be somewhat fit and confident in your looks. I’m very attracted to the soccer mom that nobody would suspect is on here, so please be at least 30+ if you’re going to respond. Emotionally, I’d describe myself as a sweet, affectionate, caring, romantic, passionate, and hilarious gentleman.

For fun I like to be outdoors, camping, kayaking, hiking, trail running, gardening, reading, cooking, and enjoying the occasional bourbon or scotch.

When you message me, please tell me about yourself and what you’re looking for.

What better time to make an affair post than right after a long holiday weekend when many of us are just...done?

Are you looking for a meaningful emotional and physical connection to escape with?

More about me: Fit/ athletic, professional, successful white male 6'0, 185; 43 years old with a young heart and mind.

I'm passionate about my kids, friends, health/fitness, cycling, self-growth, DIY projects, music, and helping others.

My best friend would describe me as witty, charming, and genuine with a well managed ego. I would add that I'm an excellent communicator with high emotional intelligence. I think that's important to highlight in this dynamic. I'm also a gentleman and will always hold the door for you but reserve the right to slap/tap you on the rear as you pass (privately of course).

Oh yeah, I should say a bit playful too....

I'm attracted to affectionate/sensual personalities, healthy female energy, open-mindedness, great communication, and that "cool girl to hang out with" vibe.

My travel schedule allows me A LOT of flexibility in terms of meeting and my OPSEC is extremely solid. I'm looking long term and in person so not interested in LD or online.

Low effort messages will be ignored.

Let me know if you caught the pass....

what’s the difference between a hippo and a zippo??

….Ones a little lighter!

General having a good mood. Let’s keep it going. Well aren’t we all searching for the same thing. A little fun and flirting. Some excitement and butterflies. Maybe even a dirty little secret on the side. However you want to say it , it all adds up to the same thing.

We can say we met at the grocery store. You reached down for an item on the bottom self, I make the comment “Nice,Buns!” You quickly look back in surprise as I am holding the last bag of hamburger buns in my hand. We lock eyes and laugh. Do you have a better story?

So let me ask this. Why is it that even at 30 and over people still ghost? Can we not be adults and say it’s not a good fit or what?

Here is what you can expect from me: Daily messages. Random pics and selfies. Asking random questions. Witty banter. Flirting of course( if the attraction is there) not trying to change your situation or mine. Just looking to have fun and see what happens. Please know that even tho looks aren’t everything I would still like to swap selfies early on just to see if that physical attraction is there you know.

I am a Desi guy looking for a married woman to have an affair with. I am married and have a child. I am fit and athletic. My marriage is boring, and I am in a dead bedroom. I need some more spice in my life, and I want a woman in a similar situation for me. Your pic gets mine. Start a chat to learn more about me.

If you watched the show on Netflix, then you know the ridiculous chemistry between the two characters. You also know the way they look at each other before they kiss. It's as if all the noise around them didn't even exist and it was just the two of them in that busy intersection in LA.

I want that chemistry. I want that witty back and forth. I want those feels. I know the ratio here is tough on guys and it's hard to find that chemistry. But I'm patient. I wont settle for mediocre.

I'm Asian (east-asian) American with a lean/fit frame. Married. Kids. I stand out at gatherings. If you notice me, i'll notice you.

I prefer someone with amazing comedic timing, a great smile, and intellectual curiosity. Bonus points for someone who enjoys working out and in shape.

If any of this resonates with you, send me a reply to one of the following two questions:

At end of Inception, is Cobb dreaming or awake?

Does love really exist or just dopamine that fades with time?

28m, 5ft 8in, fit, Overland Park, and in a serious relationship. I’m looking for a fwb - a woman who is clean, attractive, and discrete. Whether you’re lonely in a relationship or single, it doesn’t matter. Not looking to change anyone’s situation. We can meet somewhere first before moving forward so we can see if we click. Please send ASL with your response and hopefully we can chat :)

Hey there,

I’ll be honest.. Life has felt a little routine lately.

My marriage has shifted into a comfortable friendship, but I miss the spark of deep connection, shared laughter, and that unshakable feeling of excitement when you truly click with someone.

A little about me: I’m 27, tall, have a beard, and I have a soft spot for all things tech, video games, and stories that pull me into other worlds (whether that’s through a good book or a late-night binge session). But I’m more than just my hobbies! I crave conversations that flow effortlessly, exploring new ideas, and those moments where time seems to stand still because the connection is just that good.

I’m looking for someone who’s warm, curious, and appreciates both quiet evenings and spontaneous adventures. If you love deep discussions, random jokes, and a little bit of nerdy fun, we might just vibe. I believe in taking things slow and seeing where it goes, but I’m also open to something meaningful, intimate, and lasting if we truly connect.

Basically I'm in a long term relationship which I don't presently wish to leave, but in which I'm not getting nearly enough sexual attention. Or attention in general, really, I'm kind of a needy motherfucker. Anyway, I'm white, 5'11, 185Ib, in relatively great shape, and kind of a nerd. Or at least I'm into nerdy interests.

Professionally I'm a chef and I would love to show off and talk about food. Sexually I would say I lean more dominant but I'm not a super experienced bdsm person. I feel I might be relatively vanilla... I think my biggest kink is probably the whole breeding thing? except i'm not trying to have kids. So maybe it's more of an extreme creampie fetish? idk. There are some other things I'm into but I would rather discuss while getting to know you ;b

I would also say that I am definitely looking for someone who is interested in something longer term, not just a one night stand. I'm a bit of an introvert so it's kind of a bit of emotional effort to get to know somebody in general, and I'm not looking to put a lot of effort into something that's just going to be one meet up... that being said, I might not be able to meet very often due to needing to be sneaky. It kinda depends too on your situation.

I should also probably say that while I don't necessarily have a particular type, I am not attracted to women who are overweight. I would say "anyone who describes themselves as a BBW," but I have met several women who would use that term but idk I think I have a different criteria than they do. Anyway, it's not like I have a size difference kink, but basically it's a turn off when I feel smaller than my partner. And I'm not really a small guy with my build. So. Idk. Not to seem shallow, but I felt I should mention this preference to avoid wasting anyone's time or hurting anyone's feelings!

That's a bit about me, if you have any questions feel free to ask.

If you message me, please at least tell me a little about yourself (age, where you're from, what makes you interested in responding) so I don't have to ask literally every person who responds those things, thank you <3

You think of the fast approaching winter and you need someone. Someone to liven up the chilly gray days ahead. Someone to give you that skip, that flutter when there's an incoming text. Someone warm and caring to hunker down with. Someone yours - your very own secret.

What's your story? Is it the void that’s forever gnawing bringing you here? Or is it a rebellious streak you can't tame?

About Me: Professional Married Dad. Well read, great listener and communicator with a beard hoping to meet my unicorn on here for some deep convos and bonding. Open to making it IRL if it goes that way.

Stay warm, folks.

I'm looking for one genuine, kink-friendly connection focused on the physical side of things. I’m in search of someone who’s confident, adventurous, and ready to dive into the thrill of a no-strings-attached relationship where we can let loose, explore, and have some unforgettable experiences together.

A little about me: I’m 5'7", fit, and active, with a playful side and an open mind when it comes to kinks. I’m comfortable in my own skin, and I enjoy the intensity that comes from a strong physical connection. If you’re into building up the tension and savoring every moment, I think we’ll get along just fine.

What I'm looking for:

Someone who knows what they want and isn’t shy about exploring their kinky side

Open to a respectful, discreet arrangement focused on enjoyment and trust

Comfortable meeting up for those spontaneous, intense moments without overthinking it

Cleanliness and mutual respect are non-negotiable—we keep it safe and exciting

I’m based on the far west side of San Antonio, with plenty of spots nearby to meet up or plan a quick escape. Let’s keep things straightforward, keep it fun, and enjoy exploring what excites us both.

If this sounds like the kind of connection you’re interested in, feel free to reach out and tell me a bit about yourself. Let’s see if we can create something memorable together.

Dark haired, blue eyed male with a streak of nerdiness, athleticism and adventure. Equally comfortable on a hike, at a sultry cocktail bar, sharing reading lists or cooking you an elaborate French dish while refilling your wine. Twin Cities based with flexibility to travel the region.

Also enjoy photography, woodworking, sun and humidity on skin, training for marathons, packing the perfect carryon for vacation, sprinkle donuts with coffee and that first big breath of air you inhale as you arrive to a new scenic landscape.

Likely an Epicurean with a smattering of Hedonist. Privileged to have traveled and eaten in many parts of the world with more to come.

Perhaps kinkier than the surface shows but think tact and not having it be my entire personality is healthy. Half Latino so let's argue about tamales and which panaderia is actually good.

Lots of photos to share from recent trips and adventures. Unabashedly searching for another adventure with someone special.

Let's get a coffee, flaky pastry or a meal and have a great conversation that makes our eyes light up.

I’m 6’ 220 lift weights, hike, and everything works without external assistance, but I do have a dadbod. I have a full head of gray and dark brown hair and a neatly trimmed gray beard. I can be fun in and out of the bedroom with interests ranging from movies/bingeworthy TV, trying out new restaurants, sampling adult beverages, walks in the park, dad jokes and, yes, even light bdsm.

As for you, please be a non-smoker with an attention to personal hygiene. Since I prefer older, that also means I'm not looking for a perfect body. I value confidence and enthusiasm over fitness level. I also prefer experience, meaning you've had previous successful affairs--this isn't a simple thing to pull off.

I’m mostly available weekend mornings and some evenings so, if that matches your availability, let’s chat. Also, while I’m a bit of an introvert, meeting up sooner rather than later will save us both time, right? Again, let’s talk.

Location: I’m in the East Brunswick area and would like to find someone no more than 30 minutes away so we can maximize opportunities when they arise. Of course, as with anything, this is negotiable.

NJ New Jersey CNJ

I am married but without any physical intimacy. Are you a lady in a similar situation? Are you a lady from the Indian subcontinent? Are you too shy to take any action and live without the passion? We can explore without disturbing our situation at home. We can chat, have occasional lunch, and build trust and connection. We can further meet discreetly at a hotel once in a while to fulfill our passionate desires. I love giving full body Aturvedic massage with warm oil, and love pleasing orally. I am shy but overcame that and putting this ad so I can meet you. Will you be my friend and can we be the lovers that fulfill each other's hearts and desires. Please DM me. I won't ask for pic, we chat and when we are comfortable, we meet discreetly face to face at a coffeeshop. I hope to hear from you.

I know this is a long shot but I’m hoping to find an affair partner. Someone to truly connect with and bring back passion into each others lives. I don’t want to change anyone’s life situation, but rather bring the flame back that went out long ago. I hope to hear from you. Even if you’re unsure.

So if you are curious here we go -

Why I am here - I am in a Dead Bedroom and looking for a FWB and more. I wanna have fun conversations, deep discussions, have fun and flirt and just live the life to fullest.

About me - I am respectful, gentleman and a well rounded human being. I am fit, well educated good looking 5’8 170 lbs. I like to manscape and brush, floss every night and have a night time routine (you can ask me about it if you want). I live in Michigan in suburbs of Detroit.

What I ask of you - I do need to be physically attracted so exchanging pictures will be on the cards. I have plenty to show. Be clean and STD free. I am a sucker for them curves , boobs and ass and some more boobs and ass. I like girls who like to take care of themselves and appreciate a man who also does the same.

I am very passionate and good with words. I am person who loves to shower his love through touch kisses since my love language is touch.

If you think you have been able to make this far so DM me and please tell me a little about yourself may be your age and location to begin with.

Looking for a lonely, neglected GF/wifey or a wife that wants to have some fun on the side. it's been a while and in need of a hungry, discreet and friendly wife to have fun with. Ideally this would be a long term thing, but short term would be ok as well. Arrangement can be simple... you can come to me or I drive to you? But open to whatever works best.

Me - 41yo Dom, 5'10, good looking (can share pics), friendly and extremely kinky. If curious feel free to dm me and ask. Dont be shy

Hello Hello

It's officially summer here and you wouldn't believe it but it's been miserable weather the whole damn time. I'm just another guy posting away lonely and hoping for some great company and comfort. I really don't mind where in the world you're from, I'm a night owl so can chat from about 7am New Zealand time until around Midnight fairly consistently.

I'm an arborist by day and volunteer firefighter by night, I'm fairly fit, around average intelligence and ADHD as fuck.

As you can probably tell I have no idea what to say here, but if I've caught your interest please feel free to message me.

<insert the obligatory "not looking to change my situation, yada yada blah blah">

Looking for a partner for some fun, excitement, and needed release in this regrettable situation we all find ourselves.

I'm 40, fit, fun, highly-educated, down to earth, sarcastic, a dad, clean, brown-haired, blue-eyed, other adjectives. Married and in a long term dead bedroom. I absolutely love to please, and I'm very good at it. I've had some success on here, but decided to step away for while. It has now gotten to the point that it has been too long since I've had someone cum on my tongue, and I need to experience it again. That's why I'm back.

Are you a neglected stay at home mom? A bad ass executive by day and struggling with a low libido husband by night? I'm looking for a willing partner who just wants to relax, let me take control, and bring her a much-needed release. If you want to lay back and be a pillow princess: awesome. If you want to be a little more active and ride my face: bring it on. Want me to bend you over the bed and eat it from the back: amazing. I'm also very patient, love to respond to the sound of your moans, and be down there for as long as it takes. Honestly, I love it, and I have had success providing some women with their very first oral orgasm, often times when they didn't think it was possible.

Bonus points if you like to have your ass eaten or if you can squirt :)

Nights and weekends are tough with kids and family, but I have a flexible work schedule and daytime meet ups are my jam. One time thing is great. If we click, I'd also be down for something recurring. Hope to hear from you.

Maryland, DC, MD, NOVA