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Anyone deal with the fear of completing tasks that are *specifically* going to change your life for the better or are extremely important?

I started noticing that this now happens more after I went on generic (for both Vyvanse and Wellbutrin) for 1.5 months and I'm back to brand now--Just meaning it feels like I wasn't even medicated for 1.5 months--and this wasn't something I really dealt with before. I have 0 idea how to overcome this or why it's happening maybe. Delving into the psyche is probably a job for therapists but if anyone has coping-insight let me know!

Basically, I can work on everyday menial tasks with some effort as usual but overall less mental in-fighting--vacuum, make the bed, feed cat, etc.--but specifically the higher-level tasks in terms of how important these tasks are to improving and making my life better significantly are almost impossible to accomplish. I just get very anxious and Idk maybe feel like I can't do it or I just keep avoiding them without another thought, like my MA application or finally restarting therapy. I never used to be this bad post-medication earlier this year, Idk what this feeling is, how can one deal with it?

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2024/12/05
03:20 UTC

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How would I go about getting an ADHD prescription if I’m on benzos and need them?

Hi yall. M18 here. Been self medicating brain fog, low energy and low motivation. Tried 12 antidepressants and am stuck on Venlafaxine 225mg for depression and klonopin 1 mg (0.5 twice a day) for anxiety. Im addicted to nicotine and am trying to quit. Used to have 16 energy drinks a day from 10-16 but got too much chest pain so I use only 200 mg of caffeine a day instead of up to 3000mg. I got 30 mg of Ritalin from my mom and feel normal and cognitively able to control my thoughts attention and focus for once.

I failed an ADHD test a year ago Even tho my symptoms were deemed as mild-severe. I sip lean occasionally to help me relax and slow down my mind but this feels a lot more natural than an antidepressant or a rec drug obviously. I feel like I could stop doing them if I got on an ADHD med. any suggestions here? The benzos haven’t made my focus worse, but they help me sleep and not get 6 panic attacks a day lol. I’d love to replace Effexor with a low dose of a long acting stimulant bc of how I metabolize things fast.

Sorry if it’s a lot of text, but I just am so happy to not feel a craving for drugs, spending money, or any impulses. Like the antidepressant makes me half numb, this makes me feel like myself.

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2024/12/05
03:17 UTC

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19M I Took ADHD Meds for the first time today (Vyvanse)

I thought that I would bust out all my schoolwork tonight with these meds, but instead I decided to pour all my time into long term goals. I am doing in depth research in possible career paths that I could enjoy and am pondering life’s biggest questions. Did anyone else experience this?

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2024/12/05
03:11 UTC

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No one willingly talks to me

Yesterday I was at a lunch event and we did a tour of the site. I was the only female associate there so I didn’t have someone as my go to person to be with during this so I was just following the female senior associate. I didn’t really talk much at all unless I was being spoken to. During lunch, I wasn’t really talking while everyone else was. Only time I was talked to was when they asked me if I wanted the utensil or anything else I needed. The would only talk to me when it’s to ask me something. Otherwise, no one would make a normal conversation with me.

I am probably the issue that no one ever tries to talk to me. Maybe it’s my face? I don’t know. But I’m generally a nice person to talk to but I realized I can’t make any deep or meaningful comments or contributions to anything. It’s because I either don’t have enough knowledge on a topic to elaborate or my brain can’t think of events or things to expand on the topic. I makes me feel unintelligent, especially when around others. When I’m alone, I’m able to think and be logical. But around others and in public places, my brain seems to shut off almost.

What do you think the problem is?

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2024/12/05
03:11 UTC

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upcoming neurologist appt advice pls !!!

I have a neurologist appt tmr morning and i'm super nervous. im wanting to talk about getting diagnosed with adhd and starting a stimulant. I was previously diagnosed when i was younger but my parents didn't want to put me on medication, but throughout high school and now in college ive been struggling EXTREMELY hard with focusing and other issues. i've also been diagnosed with anxiety and depression and am taking fluoxetine for it, but im wanting to take a stimulant for adhd and get off of fluoxetine since its supposed to help with anxiety and depression as well as adhd. I don't want the dr to think i'm just some college kid trying to get drugs lol but it's just getting so frustrating that i just cry bc i can't even focus on the test im reading/trying to take. does anyone have any advice for me pls! should i tell him about the fluoxetine and wanting to stop it with a stimulant? or just see what he says about my test for adhd first ?

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2024/12/05
03:06 UTC

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Noise Cancellation Headphones

Hi everyone,

I wanted to share my experience with noise cancellation headphones that has literally changed my life.

I’m 41, male with ADHD. Diagnosed 9 years ago.

I’ve been toying with the idea of buying noise cancellation headphones for a while having, never previously owned any.

I tried out various brands (Sony, Bose and Apple etc.) and settled on the AirPods Pro 2. I didn’t like the feel of the over the head, headphones.

Since having them I, have discovered how badly I have been affected by auditory overload, my entire life. I wear these AirPods most of the time now (regularly without music).

The world is so silent and for the first time I, can here myself breathe. I feel less anxious, can focus and concentrate better. Even in my apartment, everything is completely silent.

I have caught two flights this week and even walking through a busy airport with them on has been life changing. I was so emotional at one point, I could have cried. Purely because of the peace and complete calmness, having noise cancellation has bought to my life.

I no longer feel completely overwhelmed and i’m less stressed. Who knew, that it was silence that was missing from my life?

I wanted to share my experience to help others because noise cancellation has had such a positive impact on my life and ADHD, since I have had them.

Please be kind if you respond.

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2024/12/05
03:02 UTC

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cried during fiber neuropsych assessment

Typo in caption I can’t edit - shouldn’t say fiber

Long story short - I was diagnosed when I was 15ish, put on adderall and did alright rest of my life until now (I’m 30). I’m applying for testing accommodation for an upcoming exam and they require a neuropsych evaluation. Well, I think I did so horribly that they might actually think I’m faking. I was worried I would do TOO well, but turns out halfway thru I realized I could hardly do any of the tests right.

One is where they display 50 drawings in order and then at the end re-show random photos and you have to say if those were or were not in the original 50 photos. I literally got like 5 right out of 50, could not for the life of me remember what the hell photos I had just seen for the last 5 minutes.

The worst one was the Stroop test, and I broke down crying in frustration and embarrassment after I could hardly even finish the exercise.

Anyone else? Is my brain really that messed up? Feeling pretty shook up.

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2024/12/05
03:00 UTC

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Driving and ADHD

Hello, I'm a student who has a driving permit and want to drive really badly, but I'm scared of being a public hazard.

My dad has practiced with me before, but I've nearly crashed the car like.. twice.

im about to go to college, so I think this is something I really need to learn. But I just keep getting unfocused while driving. I feel really uncomfortable and I just want to throw out my adhd so badly.

This affects me in my other areas of life of course. And I really want to try a new type of medication because although the one I'm on now helps, my attention is still horrible. My psychiatrist has upped my Wellbutrin before, but it caused horrible side effects, yet it helped me concentrate. (Shakiness, twitchiness, having a hard time holding items or just sitting still.... well more than usual).

i told him i want to increase my concentration but I'm too shy of asking for new medication because A. I don't want to infer like medication can solve all problems and that im just reliant on them. B. I'm embarrassed with the amount of medication I have to take everyday, so even more makes me uncomfortable. I would totally love to get a therapist if my previous 2 weren't completely horrid.

The first one was suggested by my psychiatrist, and (oh my goodness my memory sucks so bad i know there is a lot more but i dont remember) he was untalkative and gave repetetive advice. Like he just tells me to "think before I speak" when i talk about my tendency to say everything that comes to mind. WOW i did not think of that. The other one.. doesnt feel like he cares about me at all.

When I asked my psychiatrist about driving with ADHD he just chuckled and said it shouldn't effect my driving ability and it's probably my anxiety. He says that the skill will go into my working memory, so it won't be a problem.

whats you're guys' experience with driving and ADHD? Tips with how to drive or perhaps advice with how to speak with the psychiatrist?

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2024/12/05
02:59 UTC

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Problems with hunger fue to concerta

People, I currently take 54 of concerta at about 10Am, and at 7pm I already start having one craving after another, voracious hunger. It's already unbearable and annoying, I don't know how to dampen it. Even if I eat a lot of food, after a while I have more cravings. I used to drink at 8am before but I decided to give it 2 hours later to delay the cravings. Does anyone have a tip? (During the day, hunger is suppressed)

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2024/12/05
02:58 UTC

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Is it the new normal?

My thoughts and opinion correct me if I am wrong, and if so please tell me what is the right information. I have a cousin who said that ADHD is overstated and becoming the new normal. And someone else said that everyone has ADHD. I do agree that everyone had ADHD because some of the symptoms is common. But I feel like what differentiate between a diagnosed ADHD and normal people who has ADHD. It is that people who are normal have few ADHD symptoms like procrastination and taking a lot so like 10 - 20% of ADHD. Buy someone who is diagnosed has 80-100% of the symptoms of ADHD, and it is constant like everyday where has the one who has 10-20% have it time to time or some of them all the time like constant procrastination with school and work. What do you think, am I wrong?

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2024/12/05
02:50 UTC

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Emotional disregulation- what does this look like?

TDLR: partner has ADHD and we are questioning Bi-Polar due to a few severe depressive episodes. Looking for advice on emotional disregulation and intensity of feelings

Hi all I hope it’s okay to post. I’m look for advice about emotional disregulation and intensity of feelings.

After a very difficult year as a couple (two major traumas/losses) my partner is really struggling. He has has a couple of similar episodes in the past where he is too anxious and overwhelmed to work consistently, go to the shop, drive etc

He is mostly anxious/panicky but also extremely depressed during these times. We have a lot of animals to look after but if it wasn’t for them, he’s openly admitted he wouldn’t have got out of bed for the past two months.

We have been trying everything to help - he’s got interim medication (Risperadone, Meltonin) and is seeing a Psychiatrist and mental health support worker.

I am trying to understand the intensity of his feelings better. He is essentially paralysed by depression and fear, so many racing thoughts all the time he can’t cope with anything pretty much.

Is this what it’s like for ADHD brains during difficult times? Or should we be looking at Bi Polar?

He’s a wonderful guy I hate to see him suffer like this ❤️

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2024/12/05
02:39 UTC

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Seeking ADHD Diagnosis - Klarity

I just had my first meeting with a psychiatrist through Klarity and I feel like I have been somewhat deceived.

I spoke to her later out all of my concerns, it seems that she hadn’t read my onboarding document that I spent about 2 hours filling out. After giving all my my reasons and asking a few questions from her she said that she cannot prescribe me anything without a neural psych evaluation.

This kind of confused me as I have just been reading peoples experiences on here talking about how they visited a psychiatrist and within a few visits, or just one they had been diagnosed and were being prescribed medication.

To be clear I understand that this is a process and I am not expecting it to be fast but had I known that I had to get a $5000 dollar psych evaluation I probably wouldn’t have paid for the $150 20 minute session just to be told that.

Is it universal that you have to have a psych evaluation before hand or is this just on a case by case basis depending on your psychiatrist.

Please go easy on me, I’m very new to all these procedures and I don’t really have anyone to ask these questions to so I really appreciate any advice you guys may have.

2 Comments
2024/12/05
02:23 UTC

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Hambre con metilfenidato (concerta)

Gente, actualmente tomo 54 de concerta a eso de las 10Am, y a las 7pm ya empiezo a tener un antojo tras otro, hambre voraz. Ya es insostenible y molesto, no sé cómo amortiguarlo. Aunque cene en cantidad, al rato ya tengo más ganas. Tomaba a las 8am antes pero decidí darle 2hs más tarde para atrasar los antojos. Alguien tiene un tip?

3 Comments
2024/12/05
02:20 UTC

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Is it worth it to go to the doctor

I’m not here to debate about why I think I got it but I’ve been heavily considering going and getting tested. I don’t know why I’m worried about going to get checked out about it, but I’ve got concerns on it the medication. I guess in worried the medication and some jobs won’t allow it like the military but I don’t know. I’m probably just over thinking it but if anyone has advice that would be incredibly helpful I just don’t know what to do.

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2024/12/05
02:13 UTC

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Talking to yourself

Talking to yourself, also known as "self-talk," is a common behavior among people with ADHD, often used as a coping mechanism to stay focused, manage distractions, or guide themselves through tasks; however, it can sometimes manifest as negative self-criticism if not managed properly.

...however, it can sometimes manifest as negative self-criticism if not managed properly.

I feel sorry for any adults that we're recently diagnosed with ADHD or AuDHD because we most likely never learned how to manage the negative self-criticism properly.

3 Comments
2024/12/05
02:10 UTC

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School just isn't for me

I've been diagnosed with adhd since I was 6. I'm now a sophomore in high school with a 1.5 gpa which feels as bad as it sounds. Everyone just tells me to pay attention and do my work but they don't understand it isn't that simple for me. I really do try in school but I'm just not good at it. I truly do hate every second of school. All the dumb jocks, the douchebag teachers, and the system in general. It's too much for me sometimes.

3 Comments
2024/12/05
02:03 UTC

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New to Vyvanse

Hey Redditors!

I've been taking 30mh Vyvanse for just over a week now.

While I do have excess energy which allows to stay focused for longer, I am other wise underwhelmed on its effectiveness.

On the other hand, I'm sweating heaps, and I'm needing to chew gum all the time due to a dry mouth. Not to mention the jitterse.

So I guess my question is, is my body still adjusting, or is this it?

Thanks!

3 Comments
2024/12/05
01:53 UTC

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Q: how can you tell the ADHD medication is wearing off?

A: everyone everywhere suddenly gets your whole life story 🫣😭😂

Diagnosed at 43 (finally) and have been put on slow release stimulants. I feel so nice to be able to actually keep my mouth shut! And do you know how I can tell it is wearing off? Because suddenly when someone asks me a question, they got an entire novel in response. Anyone else a chronic over sharer? 😅

38 Comments
2024/12/05
01:44 UTC

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How can I get back on IR from XR?

I’ve been on 10mg IR and was switched to a new psych who wants me on XR. She started me on 20mg XR with a 10mg IR booster and I’ve never been so unproductive or unstable in my life. I started smoking again, can’t eat, can’t sleep, haven’t been able to get any work done and I might lose my job. It seems like she doesn’t want to prescribe the IR but I was on it for 3 years without issues and it finally fixed my life.

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2024/12/05
01:41 UTC

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Thinking of switching from Adderall to Vyvanse

I’ve been on Adderall for a while to manage my ADHD, but I’m not loving how it’s working for me anymore. The biggest issue is the ups and downs throughout the day. I find myself needing to take boosters just to avoid crashing, and even then, the irritability by the end of the day can be pretty bad. It’s starting to affect my mood and relationships, especially with my wife, and I’m really hoping for a smoother alternative.

I’ve heard a lot about Vyvanse being more steady and lasting longer throughout the day, and I’m considering making the switch. For those of you who’ve made the jump from Adderall to Vyvanse:

  • How was the transition?
  • Did it help with the "rollercoaster" effect of Adderall?
  • Any side effects or things I should keep in mind?

I know everyone’s experience is different, but I’d really appreciate hearing what worked or didn’t work for you. Thanks in advance for sharing!

Also, regarding the shortages of both Adderall and Vyvanse: For those of you currently on Vyvanse, how has the shortage affected you? Is it as bad as with Adderall?

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2024/12/05
01:37 UTC

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People who need to focus for 12ish hours - medication

My current life requires 9-6pm classes, and then after dinner I need to do around 3+ hours of extra work.

Vyvanse currently gives me an immense crash around 4pm, which makes me zombie plow through my evenings and I have to fight my brain trying to get through my evenings workload (studying+research so I need to actively use my brain but its near impossible)

it also makes me feel like im functioning with less brain capacity… aka brain fog, so Im definately feeling the need to switch

Changing my lifestyle isnt an option for a couple years, but I would like some advice on meds. Im thinking of switching to Ritalin, Concerta or Adderall, and Im aware I might need redosing midday.

Any advice from someone who does work for insane hours / is in a very academically rigorous setting ?

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2024/12/05
01:34 UTC

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Is it normal to feel a certain level of imposter syndrome after receiving an ADHD diagnosis?

Hey all. I recently went through the process of getting a diagnosis for ADHD, and after a week of speaking with the therapists and even taking a TOVA test, I was diagnosed with ADHD-C and Attention Dysregulation Disorder.

During the process, I was always second guessing myself and thinking "Do I really have ADHD, or am I using it as an excuse?" For context, I have always had lifelong disorganization and inattentiveness, but I was able to do well in school and college. However, once the structured environment of school fell apart, so did I to a certain extent. I could never hold on to a job for a year before feeling extremely depressed and my employment record is spotty as a result.

I thought the TOVA test would be the thing that actually exposed me as a fraud so to speak. Nope. Apparently my impulsivity, attention, and consistency were below the bottom one percentile of people who normally take it. It felt agonizing during the 40 minutes I took it, to the point where I was feeling anxious towards the end.

The diagnosis was confirmed today, and I had a level of relief knowing that it wasn't just me having a lack of discipline or laziness. But this feeling of imposter syndrome is still sitting within me. For whatever reason, it feels like somehow I successfully duped myself into believing I have ADHD.

Did anyone else here ever feel these thoughts when they were diagnosed? It all feels so strange to me. I am speaking with my PCP tomorrow to discuss stimulant medication as recommended by the psychologist (she only diagnoses).

Thank you for reading!

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2024/12/05
01:34 UTC

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Insurance no longer covering ADHD meds

I got the unfortunate news that my vyvanse will no longer be covered by my insurance. I checked coverage of other common meds and those are no longer covered by BCBS too.

I’m so nervous to go off my meds. I’m a new mom with a job that demands a high level of focus. I obvs can’t pay $465 a month out of pocket. What do I do??

Also while I’m at it, I’m going to use this opportunity to say fuck youuuuu blue cross blue shield!

39 Comments
2024/12/05
01:34 UTC

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Tips for writing a resume?

I can't believe I'm struggling so much with a resume. I have to submit and complete an error-free resume for my program to qualify for placement by next week (December 13th). I have to have it reviewed and looked over as well so I have to have a rough draft completed way before the deadline.

Not only am I dealing with ADHD, I'm in a huge depression slump and I'm barely dragging myself to the end of my college term.

Any advice? I'm open for words of encouragement as well. I'm just so overloaded and overwhelmed at the moment.

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2024/12/05
01:21 UTC

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Could a PhD have led to me realizing I have ADHD??!

Hi all,

26F here. Just finished a PhD in engineering. Midway through the PhD I experienced extreme difficulty focusing on tasks and getting things done, procrastination, and forgetfulness. Looking back, this started during my masters (I developed pure-OCD) at the time. I feel like crap because I feel like I'm being lazy and procrastinating even though I'm usually good at getting things done. I'm now post-degree and trying to do some extra work and my brain is refusing to cooperate. I refuse to believe that just forcing my brain to hammer through tasks is the right thing to do.

I'm not hyperactive at all but I do tend to fixate on thoughts from time to time. This isn't OCD related.

My executive functioning is trash. I can't for the life of me estimate how long a task will take in general.

Edit: I often get told that I miss out details on things that I am told to do. To be honest, unless im given specific instructions on what to do (ie a list of 1) 2) 3)), I can't remember what to do. Also, my younger brother is autistic (likely unrelated).

Any advice, thoughts, or people out there with similar experiences? I’m in an endless cycle of frustration with myself because I’m just angry all the time.

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2024/12/05
01:20 UTC

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Why do I sabotage my own joy?

Hey guys, don’t rly know what to say here I’m just kind of reaching out to people going through the same motions, from a young age I was taken from my single mother, dad having left home, put thru heaps of foster care and fed adhd medicine until I was in my teens I was taken off it, and since then it’s been a tornado trying to find who I am and why I’m here and how to be the best version of myself and sometimes start just feeling so lost, I feel like when I get into a position everything is going good I just need to ruin it like it’s gonna hurt me if I don’t, or if someone’s making me feel loved I need to do whatever I can do get away from them? Idk why I keep doing this it’s ruining so many relationships between people I love and I really need help understanding this any advice or anything at all to add would be greatly appreciated ❤️ thanks guys

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2024/12/05
01:16 UTC

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Waking up on time is the hardest challenge?

it’s as though, as long as i’m still in bed, any rational part of my brain that helps me work around ADHD in other cases hasn’t started up yet. the ADHD part of my brain wakes up at all the alarms, looks at them, and makes up a much later time it THINKS i could wake up at and still be reasonably on-schedule. it cancels all existing alarms and sets an alarm for the later time. i wake up at said later time, and the panic of being late finally gets me out of bed.

over the years, I’ve found somewhat successful ways to work around some other ADHD challenges, but waking up on time has been impossible for me for as long as i can remember. even with ten alarms before and around the time i need to wake up. going to bed early enough to get 12 hours of sleep sometimes works, but i can’t do that all the time

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2024/12/05
01:16 UTC

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Has Wellbutrin made your eating habits worse?

I’m 19(F) and I’m starting Wellbutrin tmrw at 150mg. I’m taking it for my adhd and depressive mood swings but I had a concern that I saw reading up about this medication online. I saw a lot of people took this medication to help with binge eating, apparently this medication has an appetite suppressant effect. Problem is I already have a very hard time eating and I already told my psychiatrist this too, I often either forget or my body just flat outs refuses to eat and I can’t get myself to do it until night time. I’m afraid that I will fall deeper in this not wanting to eat cycle and ofc I will talk to my doctor if that is the case, but curious to see if anyone has had this experience or not. :)

5 Comments
2024/12/05
01:13 UTC

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Perfect gift for a 3yo with ADHD?

My nephew is ADHD to the extreme. He is obsessed with dismantling and reconstructing anything with screws or bolts, he loves trucks and construction. The thing is that he has alllll the toys already. I’d like to give him something for Christmas that will really appeal to him. I thought about a reading tent or maybe something that’s not even a toy, like a bunch of post-its or boxes. Anyway if you have any non-toy ideas let me know because there’s nothing at the toy store I can buy that he will need!

5 Comments
2024/12/05
01:04 UTC

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Just a quick adhd rant

I hate that I’m not an emotionally reliable person, I hate that when my friends or boyfriend talks to me about issues or problems going on in there life that it immediately effects me. Of course I don’t blame them and I always encourage them to talk to me whenever they need too, i just have a problem with not feeling upset and bad for them when they do rant. It’s like whatever they tell me how they feel immediately I feel. I hate being so emotional and I hate that I take on others peoples emotions. I’m starting Wellbutrin tmrw at 150mg in hopes it will help out with my emotional disregulation and my depressive mood swings. This is just a rant and I’m not looking for pity or for people to feel bad for me, just wanted to type out this passing thought.

(Also i didn’t know what tag to put lol)

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2024/12/05
00:56 UTC

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