I work at a fast food place for $14 an hour. It is my first job, I am 18 and just graduated high school. I graduated with A's and B's, and I was always the student who everyone looked to for help on English assignments. But I keep on messing up at this job, which does require too much skill. I have ADHD which makes it hard to focus sometimes, and high functioning Autism which makes me socially awkward. My Autism can make me speak rather bluntly, and for that reason, I am viewed as somewhat thoughtless. I work hard and do my best, but I sometimes make mistakes. Most of the managers are kind and understanding, but one is referring to me as "useless," and micromanaging me to bother me. I recently told him firmly and in no uncertain terms that he needs to stop with the rude behavior and let me work. I mess up when people are bothering me, and he is the most bothersome man on the fucking planet. In response to me standing up for myself, he wrote me up. I haven't talked with the store manager yet, but I don't think I want to work here anymore. Should I quit?

I work in the healthcare field and I wear dark scrubs. My top is loose fitting and I wear a dry wick shirt underneath that is fitting on my neck to always make sure there are no mishaps. I typically will at least wear a sports bra, but occasionally I don’t wear a bra and recently I was told I need to have one on. I live and work in Texas for reference.

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I have been working on this job for 6 months now. My very good friend very has been working there for 1,5 years, she suggested me for the job.

Everything is cool, co workers are good. There is only one co worker I actively work with in the same department, he has been there for over 6 years.

Long story short, when I am absent my friend sometimes discusses with the co worker I work with about me. Not in a bad or negative way, but she is asking him stuff like "is he doing well?", "is he ok?" etc. My co worker also tells her more stuff, how boss asks him everyday about me and asking for feedback, how even if I make a mistake he never tells the boss etc.

I know there is no harm in these conversations, but I feel weird how they only happen when I am gone, and I take it a bit personal because it's my friend so I feel like she shouldn't be bringing up such topics or even participate in such conversations, let alone when I am not present.

Obviously the co worker feels more comfortable to talk about me/this stuff when I am gone, but I don't like it, especially because that person he is talking to is my best friend. That's how I know these things, because she is telling me.

I can't help myself but feel annoyed that these conversations happen when I am absent. I am not sure if I am being dramatic/overreacting etc, but if you have an issue with me I would rather have you tell me face to face. Not that my co worker has, we have amazing chemistry, but if he feels I lack in something etc he would rather tell my friend and not me, probably so I don't get offended or something. Which doesn't help because I am left wondering if I am really doing something bad and if he prefers not to let me know about it. I want to improve and this has caused me some sort of work insecurity regarding my performance etc.

What are your thoughts on this? I generally hate chitchat when I am not present. And I only have this issue when it comes to work related stuff, if they talk about me how I went on holidays and this and that, I really don't care. I just don't see the need to discuss about a 3rd party and how they perform, especially when they are not present and you are also not the boss to care about it.

Maybe it's a me issue with caring too much about other people's opinions, or some sort of insecurity. I don't know.

Sorry for the long post.

This new girl who started 2 months ago is sitting next to me. She was hired to take some workload off from me but we now work on complete different things so we should not be collaborating in any way. She was at the beginning asking me a lot of questions, even though I had created a document for her with lots of information to help her. She didn’t take any notes and kept interrupting me to ask me confirmation for everything she was doing. I can tell she isn’t very autonomous and needs validation for everything she does which is annoying but oh well.. I tried to be patient. She’s now been at the company for 2.5 months. The questions are not as frequent which is good, but there still are things she hasn’t figured out yet which annoys me at times. The worst part is, she is really nice and sweet but now she keeps engaging with me and chitchatting all day long when I am trying to focus and do my jobs. It is very distracting and takes away all my attention. I am not sure how to address the situation without being too direct and harsh but at the same time I need the quiet and no interaction / interruption if I want to be efficient. Anyway, I am now reluctant in coming to the office and my motivation has dropped. I miss the time when I was all alone and productive. Anyone already experienced the same kind of issues? Not sure if I should tell my boss.

For context: i work at my local hospital in Guest Services. I have this one coworker who pretty much acts like she runs our entire department, but yet she barely does any actual work during the work day. Like we’ll be helping all the patients and she’ll be chatting with one person.

What makes it worse, during the work day, she’ll complain to my department that we’re not working hard enough… like WHAT. She’ll say “I’ve been running around all day working”, yet you were running around doing OTHER NON RELATED WORK STUFF.

Also, when someone tries to offer a suggestion to this person, she basically ignores it and does things herself without even consulting us at all. She’ll even say “so i decided to do this, this, and this” and like, it’s sometimes just so unnecessary.

I know i should complain to someone about it, but she has so much pull with our higher ups, it’ll just mean nothing at all.

So at this point, i feel like i either need to quit, or just keep suffering until she retires (which i doubt she EVER will).

have a colleague (i think early 30+yrs old; ideally should have a matured mindset) who i am working with for ~2 years and it is performance review season currently

• he has been highlighting small mistakes i make in our team's communication channel. he could easily have asked me to directly sort it out and i wud have done it in a jiffy or cud have sorted it out easily by himself w/o making a fuss.. he has not exhibited such a behavior to anyone in the team before but recently with only me...
• not giving due credits for the recent work related help I've done
• speculating/guessing that he is also bad mouthing about me/putting me in a bad light behind my back

this is despite me helping him during tough times at work (example: he suddenly goes on leave and then I was asked to take over his work and complete it within a tight deadline), helping him offload his work before his rotation happens by trying my best to clear the last minute work items before handing them over to him and giving him good feedback for his promotion in the past without expecting nothing in return etc

note: Never have i ever highlighted the trivial mistakes anyone does publicly, nor have I indulged myself in gossiping and bad mouthing about him.

he keeps complaining that his pay is too low (honestly seems ok to me and is higher than mine.. he thinks that his years of experience demands a higher compensation.. I think impact >> YOE.. there are ppl with almost similar YOE to his YOE, at a senior role in the same company and they have made significant impact tbh)

he seems to have some family issues (i believe everyone has their own battles tbh, and I've seen employees with a more tragic personal life exhibiting better work ethics and one should not link it with work life), always seems to compare with others, seems to easily get stressed out and is incredibly salty (tries to mask it with humor and i actually don't find it funny but rather creepy) ..

What have I been doing until now?

• minimizing my interactions with him and focusing on my work solely, but it has gotten to the point where I'm unable to avoid the interactions with him..
• tried empathizing him numerous times and helping him if needed despite his behavior..

ps: I'm scheduled to move to a different team in about 2 months and am scheduled for a promotion as well

Yo just a random question... All my experience so far has been 8 hours of work exluding rest, so I had to stay at work for 9 hours a day. With commuting, it adds up to 11 hours a day at work.

I can't even enjoy free time, because I am either sleepy, or thinking about unfinished work deadlines which are tomorrow at 10pm.

Something ain't right.

I’m helping my kids (18-21) to find a part-time job in fast food, retail, etc. They apply for a job online, go in and follow-up and they are told they will get to it if they applied online, and then most of time they get no call back. We then notice the hiring signs are removed from the windows, and then a couple months later they are back. I’m thinking that as long as positions are open online, they should reapply every two-three months because maybe they purge old applications and start with recent applications. Is this the right thinking?

For the past six years I have worked at a pharmaceutical packaging company as a packaging technician. Two weeks ago, I started a new job as an incoming quality inspector at a rival company (like a block away from the last one, no joke). This new job involves me and a small team inspecting samples of drug that comes in on the trucks. Once we've determined that it's good, we sign off on it and it goes into the warehouse to then be sent out onto the production floor when needed. If any problems arise, we report them to the customers who manufactured the drug. The job requires gowning up to enter the sampling room. I do not work on the floor like I did at my last job but I do have to go there if the drug is potent and requires wearing a bunny suit, but for whatever reason, that's rare for the QA team.

So now instead of packaging drug in a fast-paced environment, I'm doing paperwork and inspecting drug by myself (each person gets assigned to their own inspection) at a slower pace. I prefer sitting at a desk working at a computer (as long as Lumberg doesn't walk by).

My question is, where can I go from here in this industry? I'll stay at this job for a while, but I want to move up. I've worked in production and now I'm behind the scenes. Ideally, I'd prefer to be in a cubicle or office instead of in a small cramped office in the warehouse (I'm not a warehouse employee but I do work in the warehouse; the entire staff driving forklifts and doing heavy lifting is 60+ year-old men with VERY aggressive attitudes and the managers are the same).

I miss my friends from my last job but this job is much better.

"I work a shift system that starts on a specific day (for example, Saturday), and includes alternating between three types of shifts: morning shift from 6 am to 2 pm, evening shift from 2 pm to 10 pm, and night shift from 10 pm to 6 am.

My week starts on a specific day (for example, Saturday), and I follow this schedule: two days morning shift, two days evening shift, and two days night shift. After finishing the second night shift on Friday morning at 6 am, I have completed the cycle.

My question is about rest days: do I consider Friday and Saturday as full rest days? Actually, Friday is not a full rest day because I finish my last shift at 6 am.

Also, is this system healthy in the long term? And how can I best adapt to it to maintain health and activity?

I would welcome any advice or similar experiences about organizing similar shifts, as well as any clarifications regarding the rest days due."

"This post was helped summarized by ChatGPT. I work in a factory and follow a rotating shift system."

Edit: Okay, I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s definitely not a good idea to go to HR, because he is my manager and he does a great job, so it would just make things awkward. Plus that was never my first choice. It was a stupid drunken question and I’d rather not escalate it. If he brings it up/apologises, then we’ll have that conversation, and if not, I’m choosing to let it go and continue being a good employee. At the end of the day I want him to continue to be my boss because we could’ve gotten someone awful as a manager, but he is just a person who made a mistake. Not a big deal in the grand scheme. Also no more drinking with coworkers, lol.

Thank you to everyone for all your different perspectives!

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Sorry if this is a bit of a rant.

I (f22) work for a large company with a small team of people. We all have gotten to know each other fairly well because of our close working quarters. A couple months ago, the manager from a different department took over ours because the old one had “left the team.”

New manager (m40s?) is great - he knows so much about how to fix the machines we use, is very communicative and always easy to find when we have a problem, and he is the opposite of a micromanager. He knows we’re just there to do our job and get paid, and he’s in the same boat, so respect came fairly easily.

Yesterday, a decent chunk of my team, our two team leads, and manager and his wife, all went out after work for arcade games and drinks. He seemed to already be sloshed by the time we all arrived, but I didn’t really care because he can do what he wants - it’s not a work event, he had said multiple times. OK.

At the end of the night, we were all moseying outside the venue and getting ready to go our separate ways (some of us quietly sharing the location to an after party, we didn’t really want our boss to be joining us). As we were all outside saying our nice long midwestern goodbyes, my boss asked me “Hey exgxrx, I’ve seen you holding your stomach for the past few months - are you pregnant?” in front of several of my coworkers and one of the team leads. I was shocked, and just told him I’m gonna pretend he didn’t say that while giving him a very disappointed look and walked to my car. Of course, he yelled after me “I’m sorry! I’m jokingggg!” in a truly sloshed white man fashion. I’ve never been asked that before and was not expecting that from him at all, someone I respect a ton and know has my back.

I am not pregnant, and likely cannot be. I won’t know for sure until a couple months since I’m just finding this out, but he was not aware of that. I had planned to talk to him and HR about that next week because I’d need a couple hours off for doc appointments.

I was halfway to the after party when I realized I didn’t want to go anymore because I felt gross and wanted to do a thousand sit-ups and crunches. I lost a lot of respect for him immediately, even though we were all repeatedly told that this wasn’t work related, we aren’t coworkers tonight, etc. I find it hard to just sever that connection for a few hours and go back to him being my boss; he was still my boss when he offered his tree pen to me and bought me a beer.

I feel very conflicted by what he said last night, and I’m not sure where to go from here. I don’t necessarily want to talk to HR about this, because we both obviously know things about each other that could affect our jobs, plus he is the one who got me a spot training to be a lead - something I am very grateful for because he knows I want to work my way up the ladder and sees my potential.

I’d like to talk to him when I go to work on Wednesday, but I’m not sure if it’s a good idea since he didn’t say it at a work related event. He was beyond drunk when he said it, but that’s just an explanation not an excuse. Plus his lack of accountability by calling it a joke left a really sad taste in my mouth. And I also feel fat when I know I’m not, but that’s because I hide my stomach with my arm. Hence why he thought I was pregnant, I guess.

Should I talk to him when I go into work, or is this something to put aside? I don’t even know what I’d say. Maybe I should just focus my mixed emotions into working out so I don’t get asked that again.

Also, I won’t be going to any more of those events. I know everyone will tell me that those are stupid and will cause issues just like this. You’re all right, I know. Hindsight and all that.

Thanks for listening and offering your advice.

Hey fellow Reditors,

I know there are probably a thousand post like this one, but I need a fresh take. I understand this will lead to some « only you can answer that question », but getting advice can sometimes help see things more clearly or differently (especially when someone went through the same thing).

So here we go : I have been working for twenty years in software engineering, never really enjoyed much of the work despite trying truly different industries. I don't hate programming, but after twenty years in the field I feel like it always come back down to the same problems but dressed in different technologies. There is a big movement toward AI and security, and I'm not at all interested in any of them. Thing is, it's a cushy job, with great benefits and incredible work-life balance, but I still have like 20 years ahead of me and some day I can't see myself doing this for the rest of my life and I dread spending another hour in front of a screen (I know work does not define who we are, but the though this is who I am for 8 to 5 even made me depressed for a while).

When I was younger, I wanted to be a LEO (and this idea always stayed in the back of my mind). I felt like this was a job I would be proud of, and one where I can find challenges and feel like I do a difference in this world. I'm fascinated by police work and I always really respected the profession (I know it's a hard job both physically and mentally). Today, I have the opportunity to make this move, I went through the hiring process and got a job offer with a PD (conditional for me to go back to school and then police academy). The only caveat, and it's a big one, is that I have to go away from family for a while and then, I won't probably get a job near home, it will most likely be a few hours away drive at least from my hometown (the family moving is out the question for now, girlfriend worked hard to get the job she likes and I don't want my move to have an impact on her). I also have kids, and they're at an age where starting over in a new town would be difficult (leaving friends and their sports teams behind).

So this is my dilemma, stay in that cushy job that is good for family but a bit of a wrecking ball sometimes on my mental health or go pursue that old dream despite the impact it will have on the family (me being away and the money getting a bit tight for a while). Thanks for your help!

Hi there. As the title says, I somewhat regret my two week notice. Only for the financial aspect. The job itself is soul sucking but it pays the bills. I do have a second job but I realized I'm not going to get many hours there. I put in my two weeks because my manager at my second job promised me full time, and then suddenly went back on his word. Yay. I am seeking other employment. If anything, is there a way to reverse the two week notice or give me more time? A part of me wants to take it like a champ and accept the fact that I might have messed up, even if I did carefully think it over and asked others if this was a good idea. Either way, I feel weird about it. I've been with the company for about a year and a half now. (15 months) It just feels surreal.

I'm talking about a professional position that requires a degree and years of experience, and even with that, it will take a new hire 3 months to do anything productive, and you've already seen interviews span 6 weeks per candidate, and no candidate is ever a perfect fit, so it takes 3-6 months to fill on open position.

Your employer does not need 2 week notice to replace you. They just want that time to punish you for leaving.

Agree?

are you guys getting holiday pay on monday? in my state it’s a paid holiday which i’m thankful for because i called out yesterday😭

I've been with the company 3 years. New coworker joined the team almost 8mo ago.

He's the type that delegates all the work and uses buzz words that sound good, but amounts to doing nothing. He takes all the credit and you get all the blame. I've been at the company longer but he's been in the industry longer.

My boss made it clear we need to work together on a project. He's not pulling his weight (4+ mo now). I don't want to make it look like I can't work with people (not a problem with anyone else), but I cannot make him do the work.

At this point he needs to know what's going on. I thought about setting up a 1hr meeting with our boss to ask for advice on what to do and include a brief written summary of the issues. I want him to be aware, but want to stress I'm trying to be a team player.

Is this the right approach? What happened when you reported a coworker?

Long/weird/shitty story somewhat-short

I(F/32) started working at a hardware store late 2023. 7 months in total. It's locally owned, the owner(F/70ish) and 2 managers(both M/late 40's) are a mother and her 2 sons. It's a very successful and well-loved hardware store in the local community which is a quite prominent town in this area with a pretty big population.

Again, long story short - within my first days, the man who does the repairs on the chainsaws and all other equipment customers purchase(M/40ish), gave me the absolute creeps. He works in a house directly behind the building and is always in and out of the main store, walking back and forth to grab parts and what not. He was extremely "friendly" and would talk to me any chance he got, he would also put his hands on me in various ways that to others may seem harmless but I was always uncomfortable with. Things like briefly back-rubbing, hugging, etc. He also has genuinely horrible body odor, you can smell when he enters the store and even minutes after he's left. That's not necessarily relevant to the assault I'm about to explain or the previous ones but it also plays into the family's whole excuse that he's "different" or "not all there" etc. Like he can't take care of himself or something. Even though I'll admit he is a bit off, potentially aspergers but it's not an excuse. He knows exactly what he's doing.

About 1 month into working there, I'm in my SUV in the side parking lot and I had my window down, I saw him outside and I remember saying something like "Hey do you see something hanging off of my car? I hear something dragging" I can't exactly remember. He said something like "No you're good!" And I said "OK thanks" and then he came up to my window, reached inside and grabbed my upper body and starts to put his face into mine to kiss me. I can't move my torso at this point, I just start moving my head as far as I can away from his face while saying "No" "stop" over and over and trying my hardest to get out of his grip. After maybe 5 seconds of this, he let go of me and says something like "Oh sorry." Also, he's definitely around 250lbs, and very strong. I'm 5'3 120lbs and not very strong at all.

Anyways, I told the owner about it the same day and she just said like "yeah sorry about that, you can't give him any attention or he'll take it and run with it. he's not "all there". I was honestly in shock and embarrassed at the same time and just tried to be understanding. I shouldn't have. In that same conversation(she is whispering all of this by the way), she says "He did something like this to a girl who worked here recently and she was only 16. She told her parents and she quit."

So he's assaulted or at minimum sexually harassed a minor, a CHILD, as well. And they still didn't fire him. I also learned from a new friend, a customer as well, that when she was communicating with him via text about a chainsaw repair, he took every opportunity to make a sexual remark in "joking" ways and she literally has texts that say along the lines of "please stop making sexual jokes it's making me uncomfortable". Also, in his texts, he's very articulate. Very smart.

He also knows to never approach women in front of the mother and her 2 sons. I also found out a couple days ago that he used to touch the cashier as well, an older female who has worked there for many years. One day one of the brothers finally told him to stop. They had "a talk" with him. That's what they did when he did what he did to me.

I honestly got quote close with the owner and the other coworkers and I was in a vulnerable position with my boyfriend just having been killed a drunk driver and needing to find a job that would allow me the exact hours I needed to work, which were only the hours that my son is in school. Even though I was getting paid $11/hr and other coworkers would tell me to get out while I could because the family just takes advantage of their employees.

They do not fire this man simply because he has worked for them for almost 10 years and he does it for very cheap. He's a huge asset to them, no one else has his position. These people are incredibly wealthy, and it was hard for me to admit this because we had a bit of a friendship but they are also incredibly selfish. They are prioritizing profit over the safety of their employees, one of them even being a child - which he should have been fired when that incident happened at the very least.

The way this store works is it's a co-op type of situation, and each owner gets to run their business exactly as they want. But I know this has to violate some kind of corporate policy. They also don't involve any paperwork whatsoever when being hired, no official training practices, and they do not give you any kind of policy handbook or information.

I know I should have pressed charges, and I should have left when that happened. But I didn't. I don't know why. It doesn't change how awful it was. I had to hide in the closet at work so many times to avoid him. I would literally run down aisles sometimes if I knew he saw me because he would always approach me when I was alone. He knows to do these things when he's not being watched by the family.

But the the fact of the matter is, they know whenever they hire a new female to work for them, that this man is going to prey on them and that it's only a matter of time, and I guess they just "hope" he doesn't do it again? And it's literally all just for more money. They do not like this man. They do not have any care for him either. They actually use him(irrelevant to me, this is just details on how the family operates their business) he is paid incredibly low for what he does and has had 1 raise in 10 years.

A part of me wants to warn the community about this man(I'm fairly new here), and I would be able to do that in the local Facebook groups which I've gone "mini-viral" in several times for unrelated topics. But people are starting to know me and they do really listen. This would shatter the reputation of the store. And I could potentially be sued for defamation? Maybe? I could also possibly sue them for all of this but I'm beyond the statute of limitations for this kind of thing. I could still try. I don't know. I quit in May of this year just because the pay was $11/hr and I decided to start my own cleaning business instead.

I guess I'm looking for advice, opinions, info related to sexuall assault/harassment(he also never stopped making wildly inappropriate comments to me after the first major assault I described), maybe even first-hand knowledge from store owners, or others who have experienced this. If you've read this far, thank you.

If there's any questions you have please comment them

If a male worker consistently greets female coworkers with phrases like "hi darlin", or "hello beautiful", but it doesn't seem to bother those women, is it inappropriate?

NYC here; Been having a lot of issues with my companies HR and how they have been dismissing my complaints of other managers. Not to mention the disgusting lack of maintenance for our building cafe and overall experience. I’ve been trying to work and address these issues but all they seem to do is say it’s covered and forget the issue. Not sure what to do here anymore. I can give more dets but next to hostile environment and possible mold buildup I’m worried about my next steps and the lack of care we have for the bunch of people we have coming especially with the holidays coming up and the influx of people coming through.

For context: I have a PhD in a STEM field. I got an industry (non-academic) job right after graduation, but was laid off 8 months later due to financial constraints. My partner's temporary position ended a month after I got laid off. After several months of fruitless job hunting, we both took academic positions out of state to avoid eviction/moving back in with our parents. We moved to a very high COL area far from family with virtually no friends/contacts. (We didn't know how high COL was, it's not a city you'd expect)

Partner quit his position after a few months (animal research) and got a better-paying job. I am still in the academic position

The issue at hand: My boss and coworkers are genuinely lovely. Everyone has been very kind and patient with me, as I had a lot of medical issues upon starting this position. But I absolutely hate the work.

I do not do well in an academic environment and I am not earning enough money to make the work/life dysfunction worth it. I have been looking for other work, but I find myself in a position where I have to drop my job search for weeks/a month at a time to continue doing my current job at an acceptable level. I have interviewed a few times but have not heard anything back and have no real leads

I need to be upfront with my boss about my situation, because I will more than likely take the first opportunity I can get to leave this job. I was supposed to stay in this role for 2-3 years total, but I can't see that through and I don't want to leave my boss high-and-dry trying to fill my position

I have been extremely depressed for the year we've lived in this area (even after 9+ months of healthy eating, regular exercise, good sleep and psychiatric help) I cannot bear it anymore. I don't care if you think I'm soft, I have "the thought" every day. I cannot live like this.

My question: How honest should I be with my boss about my reasons for wanting to leave? I am not inclined to get personal, but should I acknowledge my mental state? I get the impression that I sound lazy or weak-willed when I explain this to people, but I really have tried EVERYTHING I can to make my time at this job tolerable. I have never in my life been so depressed for so long. But I want to do right by him because he has been a wonderful boss. I want to tell him I intend to leave my role early to give him time to look for another candidate, but I have never actually quit a job before (let alone discussed it with my current boss)

Any advice appreciated

I work for a small manufacturing company and recently i requested to work from home for a day to be met with denial from my supervisor. She stated that there is no working from home throughout the company in any departments. I was baffled because it has never been an issue for the years I've been here. There was no public announcement either. I would either have to take the day off with PTO or unpaid. I went to HR after learning some people were still being allowed to work from home.

HR told me that there is a no work from home policy but they will make accommodations based on situations. She said every departments rule on working from home is different. For my case, FMLA is an option she said. I questioned why FMLA was not offered to the other person first as for me or why was she not forced to use PTO ?

HR skated around the question. So I am not sure what to think. It should be one policy across the company with no exceptions. If someone is allowed to work from home, everyone should, right?

What do you make of the situation?

Should I approach my supervisor again? Or just start looking for another job?

So I am a 25 yr old gay male. My male coworker has to at least be in his 50s and he is a straight male married with kids. He is not a very talkative person but still friendly and loves to joke a lot with people at work to the point where it is hard to tell if he is being serious or not. I’ve been starting to wonder if he secretly wants me because he always likes to be around me (which I guess is somewhat normal) because he works on my team and is normally around the other coworkers as well. But he likes to sit with me during lunch and sometimes if we are alone he’ll open up to me about how another person at work is annoying him and then recently he told me he wanted a massage at one of those massage places that does “happy endings”. Then one day I was talking to someone at work and said “Come with me I need to show you something” so he made a small joke by saying “Something small” which was clearly a joke about genital size. Then he quickly cleared up the joke by saying “Not in that way. I know how your mind is”. These kind of jokes do not bother me because I have a dirty mind myself and he clearly knows that. He is also very well aware that I am gay. I could be just looking way too deep into it but I’ve been feeling deep down that he is into me but clearly cannot really express that because it would be a very awkward situation. What do you guys think?

An elderly resident fell headfirst down a dozen stone stairs at an activity outside of the home. He was with the manager when it happened. We had a large group and only one vehicle, the manager had decided to continue the activity with the rest of the group, and left the injured resident with a new member of staff to wait for an ambulance. I must note it was also 8pm, we were outside (in the winter) and we were 2 hours away from the home.

I told the manager I did not want to the continue the activity because I felt anxious, and I would like to wait with the injured resident. I went to the resident, and talked to the first aiders at the venue. They recommended we take him to A&E now, as an ambulance could take all night. I agreed, the staff on site then helped me find my manager, and we both told my manager that we believe the best course of action is to take the resident to A&E, right now. I also said that I believe my manager should stay with the resident, not the new member of staff, as my manager only lived 20 minutes from the nearest hospital but the new member of staff lived over an hour away. As we were leaving, my manager complained about having to leave and said it’s not fair on everyone else, and that he wanted to stay. The other residents at the activity said they were happy to leave quote ‘their friend comes first’. My manager reluctantly took the resident into A&E when we arrived and I drove the rest of us home.

I had 4 days holiday booked after this. When I got back my co worker told me people had been gossiping about me leaving the event because I was anxious. The rumour was that I went back to the car during the event aka I was not present and was of no help. No one has even asked me how the event went. Obviously my manager threw me under the bus. What do you think I should do?

There is no evidence of what happened that night. The other member of staff accompanying us is always confused (I am not trying to be rude but he is on a lot of medication and has poor memory) and has no opinion on what happened so I have nobody to support me there.

My boss today gave me a sudden slap on the back then said “good job”, (I did really work hard that day) but the slap was sudden, and I didn’t know how to feel about it but it got me overthinking if it’s acceptable. Is that okay? Should I let it go?

Hello !

I have a great job, well paid, that can be done in freelance or corporations. As an autistic person, I tried to work mostly in freelance or really small businesses (4 peoples including me). I don't "seem autistic", I present as a nice normal goodlooking woman in her 30's, even if i'm a bit masculine in my choices of clothing. I'm also Arabic and christian.

Since Covid, i tried several bigger corporations (15 + people) in order to have partnership, support and advices from my peers. Also in my country being employed is nicer than freelance for renting or buying a house.

We have a big recruitment crisis in my profession, i have a lot of choices when i search and good offers (job + housing, job + housing + a brand new car....)

I've encountered the same scenario 3 times :

- my coworkers really like me, they like working with but also we have great interactions during breaks
- clients adore me (and insist a lot to work with me exclusively, won't come when i'm not there)
- boss and management like me because i've used my freelance experience to make suggestions (privately so they can say its their ideas later, i don't mind, i just want the work done quicker/easier or better for everyone).

Then it turns all to shit when I ask for something any coworkers in my position would ask. Somes examples :
- getting a replacement for my assistant who left (sickness) because i can't work without (nobody can).
- getting paid in time and not a month and a half later (illegal in my country)
- asking about a permanent position after a temporary contract (it was discussed when i accepted the job, not out of nowhere, and they have no other propositions and won't have any easily).

Then :
- clients still likes me this have never changed. sometimes they feel it coming and get nervous about me leaving

- management/boss start acting weird like i should never ever ever dare to ask anything, call me pretentious, egotistic, not team oriented. they say they are very disappointed, that they expected better, and want me gone ASAP. No comment of my work, when i ask about it, there is no problem with my work but with me.

- coworkers are supportive at the start because they don't understand whats happening (neither do I), then turns cold or agressive, one by one. I understand, i'm not the one paying them, and they won't risk their job for me. Once a i had an assistant telling me while crying i was really good at my work and i should never ever doubt about, whatever happens. Turns out she lied to get me fired and got a promotion and a raise.

Then I leave and everyone misses me, call me to work there again (no I won't, i am autistic not stupid).

I really have no clue about whats going on, now i just feel it happening earlier and move on quickly.

So WTF is going on ?

Should I get back to freelance where those problems didn't exist ?
Am i supposed to lay low and pretend i'm bad at my job or being less likable to clients ? This will impact my salary directly so it's a no.
Am i supposed to accept being discriminated (asked to work in conditions no other coworkers would accept, boss won't even try this shit with them) because i'm an arabic woman with a degree ?

I had men and women as n+1 and clients, coworkers are mostly women but it doesn't feel sex-related. It feels very me-related, like i'm the problem.

I'm not out as an autist at work, and I will never be (tried, didn't like it).

I think i really need advices about how to act at work....

And not the Next 2 weeks are my last 2 weeks

So I am fairly new to my job about 6 months and I am a 3rd party contractor who is on site(Engineering). This lady is also a 3rd party contractor who is on site(Janitor Service). So anyways she seemed really nice and we got along really well and during one of our conversations she had mentioned that her boyfriend wanted to do what I was doing and was either going to school or doing something like that. Anyways fast forward like 3-4 weeks and I haven’t really had a conversation with her other than like how are you doing. So I start a conversation with her and we’re talking and I remembered that we are currently hiring and asked how her and her bf were doing because I wanted to refer him and possibly get him a job. Well she didn’t seem to like that very much so I just shut the conversation down. A couple days later she was accusing me of putting something in her work area to sabotage her and then stealing stuff in her janitor closet. Then said that she was going to report me. The next day she say that I am purposefully getting in her way (I was literally just walking) and argued with me about it. So I contact my manager so he can go the correct path about it. So I just completely started avoiding this person because she just isn’t all there or something is going on. Fast forward another 2 months and as I’m doing my building inspection she starts walking towards me stating that she will not pass me and that she knows I reported her. As she is still arguing with me (I didn’t say a word btw) I continue on with my building inspection and go into my area to do some video trainings because I had just gotten back from vacation. She then comes into the cage demanding to have my managers number and to “Leave her alone”. I told her to contact hr to escalate and she said she would. I then had to contact my manager again and he had mentioned that this lady has had multiple problems with people before. Is there any way she can get fired for this? I mean all this girl wants is trouble.

5 8s, 10 4s, or 3 12s. And what hours. IMO 10 4s Monday-Thursday Morning or Midshift or 3 12s Morning Fri-Sun is my favorite. The reason is Monday-Thursday that’s when most of your friends are working anyways and you get to have the entire weekend off to do stuff and you get to watch football and have plenty of time when you get off to do something if need be. Fri-Sun because you just get your hours in and have the entire week to all your chores and run all the errands that you need to do without having to deal with any traffic because everyone is working.

I work with a guy who always says things need to be perfect or they were perfect. When they werent perfect at all.

I believe him to be arrogant but want to see what are the other signs.

He said the tests we did were perfect, when part of the equipment failed half way through and needed cleaned. And i know if i suggest we clean it before the test he will say the opposite.

When i was adjust the value by hand, he insisted i used a hammer. I was running the test, i wanted to use my hands as i could control it better. He then dramticaly grabbed the hammer and adjusted it, too much lol. He has emtional outbursts and insistes things are done his method.

Very rigid thinker. And is also very lazy.