I have done in the past. A job I was in 10 odd years the firm closed I keep in touch with them guys, we went out for dinner in the summer.

My current crop nope, in fact I wouldn't even tell them I was leaving I'd just go which I have done in a similar crappy job before this one.

I’ve been at this company for over a year as a casual, massive staff turnover. Casuals can’t handle the hours and work life, the old full timers are retiring.

I work in multiple sections and including qc before delivering the final products to the customers whom are some of the biggest beverage/alcohol suppliers in the world.

I spoke to management and they told me they require a shift of casuals spread evenly into 3 shifts to make it 4 shifts. So makes it 14 of us, during this 1 year I excelled, while 5-6 of them quitted. One of them came in under 6 months and got the full time gig before me, now this has really battled my morale and motivation to stay at this company. Was thinking how should I approach management or should I prepare to pack up and join their competition?

I’m a 23 yo female and I’ve been working fulltime for about 2.5 years. I’ve been in my current company for 1 year and have survived so far, despite having a challenging upper management. I work as a digital marketer and report to a male manager who is the Head of Marketing.

The owners of the company are involved in our operations and we often communicate to get their approvals. The owners are traditional and old-schooled, and they are women of the ages 70+ and 35+ (around there). However, the trouble is with their righthand female secretary who is around 40+, and she bootlicks them so hard. She is notorious in the firm for hounding on employees to catch their mistakes, and snitching them to the bosses. The mistakes are minor ones, but she makes it seem much greater than it actually is. Recently, my female colleague got into huge trouble because of that secretary lady, as she stirred up some huge drama to cause my colleague to get nearly fired. The bosses trust her so much that they will blindly listen to her, and become swayed easily. They are the type to get feelings involved with work, so it’s not easy to explain things logically either… once they hate you, it’s over.

My male manager was unable to keep that secretary in check because she has so much power, and he even told me many times to be careful of her because she likes to target younger workers, particularly women. I don’t know why she acts like this and purposely gets people in trouble. I can tell she dislikes me from the way she never greets me and her body language, and I heard she doesn’t like my other female colleagues either. We barely even talk and I’ve never caused any trouble. I’ve done my work perfectly and have been proactive as well.

Previously, she has tried to nitpick my performance and small issues, but I resolved them quickly and my manager managed to cover for me (because the issues weren’t my fault, it was my manager who didn’t onboard me well on those issues). I’m afraid that one day when I make a mistake, she will also blow it out of proportion and get in me into huge trouble, just because she doesn’t like the younger women in the office and want them to get into trouble. Has anyone experienced this kind of treatment before from older female colleagues? They are so harsh on us younger workers. How can I avoid being her target or getting into trouble? I’m afraid even my male manager won’t be able to keep her in check…

I hope to be able to get insights from those who have survived longer in the corporate world and have navigated through such office politics 🙏🏻 This is quite daunting to me. It’s like high school drama but with grown women in the office…

P.S I know this sounds mean, but me and my colleagues wonder why she’s so bitter and rude 🙄 Is this karen jealous of us? Does she not have anything better to do? Rather than focusing on her job, she goes around looking for people’s mistakes and kissing ass, just so she can be the bosses’ golden child. I even heard she goes to the bosses’ offices to carry their bags every time they are going home omg.

I work for what used to be a relatively small ISP. I also work remote at this point, but used to be in office. Lately my boss has been knit-picking everything, or attempting to find things to complain about and it's starting to become almost excessive.

I typically put more than 40 hours into work, but have had to drop one of my days (with HR's permission) due to doctor visits / checkups / in-home appointments for my wife who has Stage-4 Signet-Ring Colon Cancer.

Ever since, my boss has become increasingly aggravating, knit-picking, and more as stated above. On my day off, they typically have meetings for my specific team. I have asked repeatedly for meeting notes, but yet to receive any. When I ask my co-workers, I get random or no answers and they were essentially told that I need to request the information from my supervisor. When I go to HR about any of the issues I have, they tell me they will look into it but still seem to do nothing. And unfortunately, I get flack from going to HR about things as well.

The only reason I am still where I am though, is due to the company's owner and the changes to policies / agreements that he made with me before the employee numbers exploded / service area expanded greatly. Honestly, if it wasn't for the owner and his agreements between me, himself and human resources, I probably would have been gone a long time ago. They have worked with me quite a bit on needed time off, unlimited unpaid time off, the ability to take off at a moment's notice and more. In that sense, I am extremely lucky.

At this point, things are starting to affect my ability to do my job having to worry about stepping on "thin ice" in a sense. I cant afford to lose my job, but I also would love to say fuck off to my boss at the same time. I am the only bread winner in the house and barely making it as it stands.

I feel stuck, I have not been able to expand myself / my skills or move to other departments due to my limited availability from being a caretaker for my wife at this point, etc. I don't honestly know what else to do.

Just FYI I will be bringing this up with management either Thurs/Fri when I see them. I just want to be prepared ahead of time because I tend to get flustered bringing up issues.

My one year start date anniversary was March 31st of this year. No one even mentioned anything about it. I asked around and most of my coworkers said they've never received a pay increase on their yearly anniversary, let alone ever. Our management has been awful and doesn't treat us like humans. We recently received a new boss and it seems they've been attempting to try to make things better after we had a lot of people quit. One of my coworkers recently told me that they heard this new boss berating the other managers about their lack of incentives for employees - specifically not giving any pay increases and lack of bonuses.

Today I received a letter stating that I received a pay increase effective on my one year anniversary, March 31st. The letter specifically says the increase was "effective" on that date. First of all, it's really odd that I'm only just now receiving this letter over 7mos later. But I went through my paychecks and not a single one reflects a pay increase.

It's a 90cent increase so it comes to approx. an extra $50 per paycheck and approx. $750 I apparently should have been paid from March 31st until now. Right? Has this happened to anyone before? I have never experienced anything like this. Any job where I've received a pay increase was effective immediately and reflected by the next paycheck. How should I go about resolving this?

Hi everyone, I received a job offer, but HR wants to conduct a reference check with my last two managers from companies A and B. The issue is that I was laid off (or possibly fired—I'm honestly not sure) from company A after only three months. If HR contacts my manager from there, I’m worried it might cost me this opportunity.

I had a great experience with company B and maintain an excellent relationship with my manager there, so I feel confident about that reference. I’m just unsure how to approach this situation. Should I explain to HR that I left company A relatively early but can provide a strong reference from company A? I’m feeling really anxious and could use some advice on handling this. Thank you!

Edit : I provided all my references from Company B, but they were insistent on getting my manager's information from Company A, even after I explained that I left the company very early and there were some issues. After they asked twice, I gave them the information, but honestly, I don’t think I’ll get the offer now. I’m absolutely devastated. I should’ve just removed that experience from my resume. After three months of desperation, being jobless, and almost out of savings, I was so relieved to have this opportunity, but it feels like God has other plans. I’m feeling devastated and broke.

I work in an open floor plan office. One of the managers sits directly behind me, about 5 feet away. It’s a busy office, so I’ve learned to tune out most of the noise and focus on what I’m working on. But today, I was getting back from break and getting situated at my desk. This manager was doing a video interview and I heard him say “we’re changing the hours our employees work. Right now they work from 9am-5pm, but we’re changing it to 7am-3pm”. I had not heard anything before about my schedule being changed. Later in the day, I told my manager that I unintentionally overheard him say this and asked when that will be going into effect. I feel bad for “eavesdropping”, but I also feel like this is something that directly affects me and that I unintentionally overheard it. Am I wrong for speaking up?

ETA: I’m new at this job, I’ve only been here a couple weeks. So I didn’t know if the schedule change was somewhat common knowledge among my coworkers. Also, he isn’t my direct manager. I heard this comment, then asked my direct manager about the schedule change.

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Hi ! I started working about a month ago at a fast food place and it’s my first job ever,i’m 19 and out of college right now so i was looking for anything to make money. I was also looking for a way to make friends, as im out of school meeting new people isn’t the easiest and i was excited to start working to socialise but unfortunately its not as i expected at all, most of my coworkers are very hypocritical within a month ive been told they were talking badly of me behind my back at least 4-5 times, it just feels like they always have something to say (and it’s always “regular” employees, most managers are genuinely nice and rlly positive) I’ve thought about confronting the people in question but as dumb as it sounds i don’t want to seem “ghetto”, being one of the only POCs that’ll only give them more to criticise and talk about, idk if im paying too much attention to what they’re saying?should i just ignore and go on with my life ?

So I’m a general manager of a store in the mall, holiday season hires are something else. My newest hire, she’s interesting. She’s young, but insertive and aggressive. She’s worked for me for 4 days and has been questioning everything we’ve trained her on. This is just to get the idea of the kind of person she is. Young, argent typical kid. But today, while my assistant was processing shipment he was popping the packing material (my boxes come with large air-pouches to cushion our product and we have to break them down to go into the dumpster. She starts freaking out saying “are you sure you are supposed to do that?! Who told you to do that?! I didn’t tell you to pop those!” Again, this is an associate who has worked for me for less than 24 hrs total, talking to my ASM. He calmly says, yes. I’m sure. Why? And she starts saying things like “that’s not American air! That air isn’t safe! That’s how covid started! You can’t pop those that air isn’t from America!” He told me this as I was processing my freight in the back room, and I was awestruck. This is going to be an interesting season.

I am a senior manager, but due to my chronic people pleasing habit, I face issues of not being taken seriously/taken for granted, despite being super supportive to my subordinates. I feel that they don't respect me , like they connect with other team mates/managers. Would really appreciate if you have any advice for me, to stop people pleasing and be more assertive and confident.

Hey! So I have been working at a resting for a couple months now, and recently I found out I couldn’t make it to a shift I am scheduled for later this week. My boss gets upset when we call out after the schedule is posted, but I did not find out until a couple days later. I texted the minute I found out, which was a week before the scheduled shift. It has been four days, and I sent a follow up text. What do I do?

Also, this is not the first time we have had communication issues like this. It’s a reoccurring issue, but I am the only one they won’t answer. Any advice or similar experiences shared are appreciated!

I think I'm being bullied at work, I could feel it happening and because of how subtle the signs are, it's hard for me to even call out on their behaviour.

Background: I previously helped my father with his business but later joined a law firm when a family friend, a senior partner, informed me about a new branch opening nearby with openings for junior lawyers and paralegals. Although I had a law degree, I hadn’t worked at a law firm before, so I thought it would be a good start. The office, however, was managed by Bobby, the supervisor and junior partner of the firm.

My colleague Anita joined just two months before I did but often acts superior and is unfriendly, quickly shutting down any attempts at conversation. She is warm and friendly with superiors, and Bobby, our supervisor, has shown a clear preference for her, even recommending her for a promotion. Not forgetting that I did more lawyers work than Anita herself, and she even gets to pick and choose which court she attends (only attending to the court that is 5 minutes away from her home).

Current Situation: Within a year, the management (other senior partners) promoted instead of Anita and am now set to transfer to another team, so I won’t be reporting directly to Bobby or working closely with Anita. The senior partners were satisfied with my work and extended an opportunity to me.

Since my promotion, though, Bobby has become distant, and I’ve noticed that in social settings, both he and Anita ignore me when I speak, unless another supervisor, Lina, responds first. Lina does her best to include me in conversations, which I appreciate.

I am not alone though, I also noticed that Bobby frequently speaks negatively about another junior Lawyer, Kiki, from the other office branch, possibly because the senior partner favor her. He takes any opportunity to criticize her, and when she's not around, his comments are often directed at her appearance rather than anything work-related. In contrast, he consistently overlooks mistakes made by Anita. So I know I'm not exactly alone but Kiki doesn't have to deal with this bullshit like I do since she's not working in our office. Bobby has never directly criticized me at office, but on different occasions calling me weird instead of criticising my looks (because I happen to be an attractive woman).

Concerns: I believe this behavior may be linked to my recent promotion. If it’s a form of subtle bullying, it would be the third time I’ve experienced bullying for the third time in my life (first 2 times at highschool), which has me wondering if it's the way that I carry myself that might contribute to this pattern.

I want to understand why this is happening and what I can do about it.

Coworker calls out multiple tokens a week, and leaves me to do all the work by myself

So basically I work with kids after school from 3-6 every week day. It’s definitely not a job with the most hours but works for me as a college student who lives at home. I work with kindergarten and first grade which is the youngest group. There were two of us assigned to that group for a reason. Watching over 20+ kids that young should definitely be a two person job and it is. You need to watch them a lot harder than older groups.

My coworker calls out atleast 3/5 days a week. She either calls out a head of time or comes to me and tells me she’s leaving early because she’s tired from a field trip or just tired in general or isn’t feeling great. This isn’t even the extent of it, she works in the school all day as an aid, and since she what’s a break she doesn’t click in until 4:00 even on days she’s here. And about half of THOSE days she leaves around 5:30.

Her coming as infrequently as she does is actually more I harmful then her not working here at all. She confuses the kids by telling the opposite of what I told them (not letting them do stuff I have permission for or letting them do stuff I told them they can’t do). She even gets snappy with me and acts like she’s in charge of me when we she does bother to be here. Plus if she wasn’t here at all, they might hire someone who would be with me most days. Or even if she called out a week in advance like we’re supposed to they could get a sub who again would help me all day. I do appreciate how lenient the call out policies are at my job, but last time I called out sick one day my area manger asked for a doctors note. For ONE DAY.

How do others do it? Companies/employers say they will promote people with good attitudes. Its so hard. Im in and out of depression, either in suicidal thoughts one day or absolutly emotionally numb the others. Therapy is expensive and ive been to several and felt nothing channges. I feel stuck. I need more money. But i have to act fake to get promoted but it is so draining. Because then id have to keep up that act. I have no friends to talk to, and my parents are awful. How do people do it? How do others keep good work even if they want to kill themselves?

Ok, no solutions, as i realized. I guess im better off dead. Theres no hope in this fucking world.

I (50f) am very lucky to have had essentially two careers. One as a healthcare professional and now as an educator of other healthcare professionals. When my education career started 18 years ago I was 100% committed and I worked hard and got additional qualifications all while missing miles stones and time with my kids. I reconciled the time and effort I put in because I was driven and wanted to progress. Certainly for the first 8 years I did progress, then me and a large number of my colleagues were moved to a different organisation, due to restructuring and since then I have gone nowhere and it seems every effort I make to develop or progress is actively stopped.

When I joined the new company I was 2/3’s of my way through a PhD, but they would not support me with this, so I had to drop it. With young kids at home I could not carry on without their support. I have tried another three times to get the PhD off the ground again and every time there is no money/support. even though newer members of staff have had their funding agreed.

Ok, so maybe I can still get a promotion….no! I wasn’t even short listed…I have no PhD is the reason.

I am very experienced and I can do high level work, and I wrote a whole programme for the company and I successful ran it for 5 years, until I was bullied out of the role. I did take out a grievance and won it, but nothing happened to the bullies. Oh well that is not strictly true, the main bully got my job running the programme.

I have now been sidelined into running a tiny (in comparison) programme, which is way below my abilities and have been given significantly more teaching than anyone else, and no time to fit in holidays.

I can’t sit doing this until I retire and I can’t afford to leave or start again. How can I make this work now my career is dead in the water? I have so much more I want to do.

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My boss usually calls me (we work in different cities) when he takes a walk outside, and he often needs to look at a computer to understand what I'm talking about, which bothers me a bit. But what can you do? Today, he called me, and I heard a lot of buzzing in the background, making it hard for me to hear him clearly. I asked him if he was getting a haircut, and he said yes and continued as if this was normal.
WTF

Hi, a bit of a stupid question because I am at my wits end. The company that I am working at has been doing extremely poorly financially for as long as I have been here (and from what I hear even before). The only reason it's still on the market is because it's part of a corporate group and they see that the market will boom in the future so we are kept on 'life support'.

However for the last 3 years, for what feels like every half a year we are hit with mass layoffs. Every department is given a number and you have to make the cuts. I am in a relatively safe position as I work directly with management however I feel like I am slowly going insane from the stress of it.

No 2 months pass without 'reductions' being discussed and I have to be present in these discussions and keep my mouth shut for the next however long period of time, always wondering if the next one is going to be me.
(I have no say in the matter)

I then have to see these people every day, hear about their new house or new baby all the while forcing a smile and thinking 'oh, they are on the list...'.

I feel like I am just constantly on edge, this is happening over and over, it never ends, more and more workload is added with every wave as well... how do people cope with the constant threat of layoffs?

(I've tried finding another job but it's been quite hard, I rarely receive an answer back and if I do it's been rejection over rejection)

Have you ever done a huge mistake at work? A mistake that you were scared to admit to you boss, or the one that have kind of big consequences.

I'm 28M on the Autism spectrum. A few days ago I had a sensory attack so bad, it felt like a life threatening emergency, and was forced to call mom and text the crisis line. This is not the first time I succumbedtoan Autistic relapseor a sensory attack, but this one was excruciatingly painful..

I wanna spend more time with mother at certain events. One such event switched from May to September this year. Right when mother was forced to bid her vacation time. She is 60 and has been working as an RN at the local hospital for 5 years Would it be possible to have mother ask to reschedule her vacation time to September, so I can spend my time with her a bit more and bond a bit more?

Recently my managers been having discussions with me on how to improve certain areas, she knows that our team has a diverse way of communicating that we could improve on this more.

Today she nodded to have a look which I thought meant open the thing on my screen, which she told me not to log into the first place as we discussed why we shouldn't be in at the same time.

I did and I was mortified when she told me that is the very thing we discussed earlier and that I shouldn't have.

I'm feeling very awkward in my ways to communicate to her these days, because I'm on a stress risk assessment and she did make a comment that my work is great, but that some areas could improve not to fall down hill. I've been there a while now and that little things crop up now and again that she expressed in the nicest way that maybe it has changed her confidence in me a little.

I'm taking this to heart because I have work trauma from previous boss shouting and bullying me.

I've been carrying shame in my face all day and felt super nervous, I always go back and take a while to correct and put a plan in place to make sure this does not happen again.

The communication between me and my manager now is awkward, and she is more on the frustrated type of communication with me instead.

I do have poor mental health, I shouldn't let this take over me too much, everything I do now feels like I'm going to get pulled up on something or that I'm not great at what I do anymore. Losing lots of confidence which could have a bad effect?

For those that suffer with self confidence and mental health, how do you just get by your job in these instances?

So one of my managers has recently been sending me messages always ending in a string of dots.

Like hope you ok…….

Thanks for your help……..

I never really know how to interpret communications like this, does it have any meaning? Are they trying to say something?

TLDR; I work at a nonprofit and in a public work forum I brought up our funding sources as a thing to consider for our DEI plan (diversity equity inclusion), aligning with our mission and values. I was told this kind of difficult conversation is best between myself and my direct manager and not the org as a whole (15 people).

I was also told that I offended the fundraising director who took my feedback as being critical to her leadership.

I am near the bottom of the ladder here and a person of color, all leadership is white. (I am at the bottom because the people above have been in their positions for 7-15 years and do not leave; I am very qualified to move up, but no positions open and we are a small staff of 15. I will be moving on soon to look for Manager/Assistant Director level but was hoping one of the staff at this position would leave first because the benefits are extremely good (8 weeks paid vacation, the best insurance benefits, 401k matching, remote work etc).)

Am I super warped or is this unhealthy, controlling behavior from leadership? I had an honest question (because we accept money from sources counter to our mission).

It's relevant because in response to this dicussion 'creating adversary mindsets' the leadership are now going to be attending meetings that were previously for non-leadership staff only to discuss company culture. Which seems like, tightening the controlling grip because newer hires are questioning the status quo (plus our board is made up of a bunch of companies counter to our mission). Thanks in advance.

Edit: Leadership doesn't see a problem with asking to 'keep issues private' when in my opinion it shows they have something to hide if they can't talk it out in the open to get a resolution. Most of staff are upset at their actions and some people have quit, because when I brought up the issues other people were also wanting to ask the same questions I did and they saw how I got dragged for it. The Executive Director ended up ranting about how we have to be inclusive and that includes accepting racism and taking money from anywhere we can get it because 'we are a fundraising org foremost' and not an 'arbitrator of ethics'.

I was ill this this passed Sunday. I has a terrible sore throat and my head felt heavy. I took 2 days off to recover. Now it's the third day and I felt good enough to push through a working day. Although we have some dusty, high winds right now so I told my boss that I would be taken another day to not exacerbate any prior symptoms. He replied with telling me to bring a doctors note. Now, the weather is still bad outside. Do I have to go to Urgent Care to get a doctor's note?

TLDR; my colleague, who is not in my reporting line or department, keeps assigning work to my admin despite my repeated requests for colleague to consult me as admin's supervisor. When I set a firm boundary around this, colleague went to both chief executives, complaining I'm being uncooperative. How do I move forward with this person?

I work adjacent to a colleague, in separate departments, where we are both in middle management roles underneath chief executives. We each report directly to our chief executives, and have a high level administrative assistant that we supervise. Our offices are separate and operate in separate spheres, though obviously both serving the goals of the same company so theoretically we should be able to work collaboratively.

My colleague is the text-book definition of a toxic manager: micro-managing, creates unnecessary busywork, doesn't respond to emails and even critical questions then blames their supervisee when problems arise from their own lack of responsiveness, doesn't delegate or delegates partially but then forces their admin to sit in their office while they 'correct' their work and explains to them everything they have, in my colleague's eyes, done wrong, the list goes on. Their former admin quit because they found it so unbearable to work for my colleague.

Now that office has no administrative support. They asked our office to help manage some of that person's duties while they search for a replacement. I agreed, because I'm not one to say no for the sake of saying no; but they seemed to jump at the chance to install themselves as a secondary supervisor for my staff member, and just start assigning them work. I repeatedly explained that as their supervisor, it is my responsibility to manage their workload, knowing the priorities and initiatives of our office: that my colleague and I need to sit down together, define what tasks are appropriate for my admin to take on given her workload over the next two months, and agree on a balance that works for all parties. I even went ahead and preemptively put together a proposal of the 12 or so tasks that were discussed, and came up with several options of combinations of those tasks, that we could reasonably take on, on a temporary basis. Every one of these options had us taking on the vast majority of these tasks.

Initially my colleague refused to have this conversation at all, questioned my authority as admin's supervisor, and attempted to go over my head. Luckily my boss trusts me completely; my boss offered to get HR involved, I told HR I really didn't think it was necessary to drag everyone into a matter that should not rise to that level. That we should be able to sit down as colleagues and find a collaborative solution. My boss went to my colleagues supervisor, the other chief executive, and asked them gently to insist that my colleague sit down with me to have the requested conversation and come to a compromise. My colleague begrudgingly agreed after their chief executive did this, and I sent them the proposal I had prepared for the discussion with said list of tasks. They acknowledge receipt of said list, with no additional comment. We schedule a meeting for Tuesday morning. Interestingly, Monday morning comes and there's suddenly a temporary employee joining my colleague's office to help support his chief executive - never was it communicated to me they would be hiring full-time help when we were tapped to provide support "out of necessity." This already felt shady AF: you ask for help and fail to mention you're bringing on a FULL TIME TEMP?

Fast forward to the morning of the meeting: I unfortunately come down with COVID after a weekend wedding. I can't come into work. When they arrive in the morning, my admin assistant informed them of this and that we'd have to postpone the meeting for a day or two while I recover. Colleague insists they hold the meeting anyway, which my admin feels uncomfortable saying no to, and proceeds to use that meeting to assign admin additional tasks, tasks that were not included on the list I had previously sent nor were they communicated to me in any way. When I learn this, from my admin, I write my colleague an email (from bed, because I'm sick af with COVID) expressing my surprise that my colleague met with my admin in my absence and assigned my admin additional tasks without consulting me. I tell him that while I appreciate the time sensitivity of covering these duties, and it is our full intention to provide support, as my admin's supervisor I need to be present when these conversations are had, that admin does not have the information needed to make these kinds of agreements without consulting me, and that I would appreciate my colleague sending me an itemized list of the additional items that were discussed in the meeting during my absence for my own awareness. This email was firm, and drew a clear boundary - but never was it disrespectful or unprofessional, just stressed the importance of following reporting lines as I manage the workload of the office. I also BCC'd my chief executive on this email for transparency because I had a feeling my colleague wouldn't respond well.

This morning my colleague responded to me, claiming he never assigned my admin tasks, that there must have been a 'miscommunication' and he was simply clarifying his chief executives 'expectations' for coverage. I spoke with my admin - they have explicit notes from this meeting: no less than three additional tasks were assigned. I don't think my colleague is aware that they took these notes, so I'm sitting on those to see what happens next. He also walked into my bosses office and wrote both my boss and his boss that he found the "tone and content" of my email "surprising and concerning." The email was so tame you guys. He reiterated that he had assigned no tasks (false) and lied repeatedly about what we'd already discussed. I'm frankly flabbergasted he would loop TWO CHIEF EXECUTIVES into this nonsense and lied so blatantly.

My admin already works 40 hours on their assigned tasks. They HAVE a job, they cannot take on a whole other FT job without it being detrimental to the work of our own department, a situation which is completely avoidable with even a minor amount of coordination and compromise. NOT TO MENTION that my colleague hired a FT temp! Why can't this person pick up some of the slack, instead of bringing another department's work to a grinding halt?

My documentation is airtight: its obvious that I'm more than willing to provide the support his chief executive is requesting, and I have no problem unleashing the kraken in that regard: but my colleague seems committed to only agreeing if they can deputize themself as my admin's secondary supervisor and assign tasks at will, and that is non-negotiable to me; if for no other reason than my colleague has proven themselves incapable of doing so in a manner that is respectful of the needs of our own office. Where do we go from here? I will be attempting to sit down with my colleague YET AGAIN when we return to the office, but I don't expect it to be productive.

My manager is right; I'm good at my job and deliver above expectations, but I'm not as visible as my singing and dancing colleague, Rachel. My manager said to be more like Rachel. I'm feeling pretty demoralised by the recommendation. I've heard it throughout my life: "You don't show yourself off", "you're quiet", etc. Yes, I'm quiet, but that doesn't affect the quality of my work. I don't want to be like Rachel. I want to be recognised for the value I bring by being myself. Things between Rachel and I are tense and have been all summer because I started to push back against some of the things she's been doing, like stealing and sometimes deleting my work, acting like my manager, pulling me up and not following the process. I'm just upset that what I heard in my review was that my manager wants me to be more like her. My manager knows about the strained relationship but says it's a clash of personalities. I need a new job.

EDIT: Thank you for your comments and advice. It's been super helpful to read everything that everyone has said. It has given me things to think about, things to ask and hopefully, improvements that are within my gift to make. Thank you all so much.

How late for work do you have to be to get in serious trouble with management. I assume each place is different but only curious right now.

Hey all, I injured my back in August running my bulk cheese packing line. My gp had a certificate stating I could only lift up to 10kg, my employer decided that I should work cleaning outside which involved extended periods of pressure washing, I would have to pressure wash a tanker bay, footpaths etc. A couple hours into my shifts I would feel my back and shoulder burning, I had brought up to my bosses multiple times that there were roles I could be tasked with that would be more suitable to a smooth return though this seemed to fall on deaf ears. Is pressure washing as physically demanding as I find it to be or am I just being soft?

I’m not sure what flair to put on this, but I can’t drive. I’m currently trying to get over my fears of driving. Luckily my older sister work at the same place as I do so she takes me to work. However she recently changed her schedule so I end up having to go earlier than my start time arriving at around 5am. I don’t start until 6:30am. Now I’m wondering if it’s no problem to nap before work, but I feel a bit nervous and self-conscious since I might be seen in the car even if my seat pushed to lay back. Yesterday I slept just fine, but today it dawned on me that someone could report me. I guess it really depends on the employer and who cares enough to report me, there’s no straight answer to it. I know I have to learn how to drive soon or get an Uber if I want to avoid this.