I have quite a few friends whom I know I'm 'second choice' to. When their best friend or closest friend isn't around they come to me. When we come across eachother we chat until they come across their other friends or either of us reaches our destination. It's not this travesty make it out to be because you can't be everyones favourite person. You can only talk about so much, so a friend you see less is handy. I love the surprise of them calling me to go clubbing when someone from their party cancels, it's a good way to get me out of the house on occasion. I don't need deep connection with everyone.

It would be another story if they started asking a bunch of stuff of you, in which case you're not second choice but just being taken advantage off.

Everyone loves to say, "Kill bullies with kindness," or “make them your friend”, but the reality is, bullies don’t deserve your kindness. Trying to be nice to people who treat you badly often just lets them get away with their behavior. Standing up for yourself or even cutting ties can be way more empowering than pretending like their actions don’t affect you. Being kind to bullies doesn't teach them anything—it just teaches you to accept mistreatment. YOU DONT OWE ANYONE YOUR KINDNESS IF THEYRE TRYING TO MAKE YOUR LIFE WORSE

I seriously don’t get the hype for mashed potatoes. The texture of mashed potatoes are so weird and it doesn’t have that much depth of flavour either. I don’t get the hype for it honestly

I was permabanned from r/dexter today for asking a question. Basically, am I alone in wishing dexter would kill his wife, Rita. Rita was too-cutesy and quite annoying with all of her wishy-washy “Dexter, you aren’t being a very present husband” bullshit while she goes and kisses the damned neighbor hunk. I was halfway through season 4 when I posted this. 3/4 through when I was permanently banned from participating in the sub. It was the season finale when I learned that Rita was killed.

This was not how I wanted things to go down, but I’m glad she is dead. I AM HAPPY RITA IS DEAD YOU HEAR ME R/DEXTER?

hot dogs just taste terrible and are disgusting and soda is just downright terrible. idk maybe it's just the fizz that gets to me but any time I eat one if these foods I start to gag.

They're ugly as hell and I'm tired of pretending they're not. I genuinely think the 300 SL and the E-type are awful looking vehicles and they're horribly slow and unexciting. There's nothing to get hyped over a 5-speed manual with dull interiors.

I can't stand the trends of screens over physical buttons, and I miss aux inputs and CD players, but I can't stand this wave of "nostalgia" defending oversized old cars with massive engines that producer less horsepower than a decade-old 3-cylinder.

With Wicked in movie theaters, there was a whole debate of whether the audience should sing. I've never seen it and don't even know the story so if everyone was singing then that would detract from my experience. Similarly, I saw rocky horror in the early 2000s for the 1st time and everyone was singing and dancing and it was so annoying.

Nobody denies that he's a good rhythm guitarist, but lots of people say he's not a good vocalist. He snarls and he's raspy. But the thing is that thrash metal isn't supposed to sound pretty, it's supposed to sound gritty. The more I've gotten into metal the more I'm down with his vocals. Not a lot of range, not a lot of melody, but it's beautiful in its uglyness.

The old method of swiping credit cards is insecure. It is also easy for fraudsters to take stolen card numbers and put on new cards and use them at merchants. Combing this with fact that apple/google pay have additional data typically person using a phone face id or password it makes these methods significantly more secure. The risk for fraud is too high and at a minimum there should be an ID check when card is used. For credit gift cards ids should be recorded as well as those have their own abuse.

I absolutely HATE penalties for “taunting” and this debate about Michigan trying to plant the flag and The Ohio State team getting upset is ridiculous. To the victor, go the spoils, and that means you can celebrate any way you want.

If you want to be humble and gracious , that’s up to you. If you want to get confrontational and rub it in the loser’s face then that’s ok too. But if they retaliate the you asked for it and that’s also fine.

If the loser had done better they wouldn’t be in that position.

A genius growing up in a developing nation without the opportunity to learn may be more intelligent than an Ivy League college graduate who came from wealth and memorized a bunch of material to keep a high GPA. Almost anyone can be knowledgeable about a subject if they spend the time to learn and practice; anyone cannot become intelligent.

The structural integrity of the entire taco fails after one bite. While chewing, shards of razor sharp tortilla attack one’s mouth from every angle. Not only are soft shell far superior, they’re the only option for tacos.

Edit: The amount of people needing a soft shell to make their hard shell tolerable is telling

Revisionism is not a new thing. There's a long line of revisionist stories, going all the way back at least to the Greeks and probably pre-dating the written word.

But the modern trend of writing stories designed to make you feel bad for the irredeemable villain from your favorite childhood fairy tale has gotten stale and overdone. This isn't just a rant about Wicked, but Wicked is absolutely the most notable recent example.

I like the Wizard of Oz. I read all of the books when I was a kid. They were interesting complex books (as far as kids books go) and I have deep love for those books. Having kids these days (yes I know how I sound) tell me that I should feel bad for the Wicked Witch of the West makes me roll my eyes. She's a tyrant who tried to kill Dorothy and her friends.

Similarly, I liked 101 Dalmations. Cruella is a great villain. She's terrifying and irredeemable. Her backstory doesn't really matter to me. Making her a punk rock fashion designer who was bullied for having unconventional hair is unnecessary and a waste of time.

Sleeping Beauty. Fantastic, classic fairy tale, peak Disney Golden Age. Maleficent puts a kingdom to sleep and turns into a terrifying dragon to try to kill a prince. Why do I need a story about how "no, actually she had a perfectly good reason for doing those things, and she helps Aurora in the end."

JUST LET ME HAVE A COOL VILLAIN THAT IS BAD FOR THE FUN OF BEING BAD.

idk if this is unpopular or not, but a lot of the lines are very funny - unfortunately the atmosphere of the multi-cam style makes it just so wildly unfunny

the show certainly has other flaws… idk maybe it could’ve been good in a different universe 🤷

It's awful. You can't go anywhere and get support from anyone these days without it turning into a toxic shit show. When somebody asks advice, opinions, etc., and then attacks you for giving your advice opinion or anything is completely unnecessary. I hate that society has turned parents against each.

Hi yall, I'm definitely in the minority with this one: I’ve never been a fan of the traditional green Christmas tree. To me, they’ve always felt... boring.

The last time my family really celebrated Christmas/had a tree was 18 years ago. I’m finally starting to get back into the Christmas spirit, and I’ve realized how much I love the look of non-green trees. I love blue, red, black, even rainbow (Though I’ll admit, white trees aren’t my personal favorite.) I’m excited to get a tree this year, but I can’t decide which color to go with.

Oh, and for the record, I’m firmly team fake tree. They’re less messy, more reusable, and you can find so many cool options.

I don't even know why it is considered a musical. It's a concert. There's not much theatre in this production. It's just singing. A literal concert. There's not even much of a cast. It's just 6 very talented women singing. In my opinion, there isn't much of a plot. Just the wives singing about their experiences. It's very mainstream in the theatre community, but it's more of an act than an actual play. It's a bit frustrating that great productions such as "Kimberly Akimbo" are getting overshadowed over a concert that disguises itself as theatre.

I was talking to a friend about how I wasn't feeling good and he suggested making soup. There are only two soups I have ever liked - black bean soup and tomato soup. To me, broth taste like August public pool water and I don't want all the food drowning in a murky, weird tasting liquid. My fiancé is an amazing cook and every soup, no matter how good it looks, would just be better as some kind of stir fry.

I get that it's good to have warm liquids when you're sick, but soup?! Absolutely not. It's like bad savory cereal with more water.

They are cheaply made. Before they came in style you could find them exact shoes but with better quality for 10 dollars at target. And they destroy your knees and back. They look cool but that’s about it. But if you got more than 1 minute walking time throughout your day they may not be the shoes for you.

I've been to New York, went to 5 different pizza places asking people which pizza is their favourite (cue people saying not my place dude!). I'm gonna breakdown why this pizza is worse than anything from Dominos.

1. Crust is a combination of extremely thin floppy cheap dough that act more of a sponge than a crunchy delight on the outside with a soft interior.

2. Sauce is the only saving grace to this fucking dumpster fire of a pizza. It's rich and tasty 10/10 sauce does all the lifting here.

3. Cheese is some weak cheap East Side Mario's ass Parmesan that fucking has a shit after taste.

4. There is a pizza pizza level grease on these things. It makes your stomach churn afterwards like you're eating KFC.

5. Maybe they add pepperoni but the New York style doesn't really get any toppings and I understand why because when I was a toddler I also didn't want anything added to my pizza.

The only thing New York Pizza has over Dominos is the sauce. That's why I think they're extremely overrated.

My wife and I recently completed a rewatch of How I Met Your Mother, a show she missed the first time around. As we neared the last episode, I fully expected her to hate the show's controversial final episode since she was getting frustrated with how much padding they had added to the series in the final seasons.

But to my pleasant surprise, my wife loved the ending because it made complete sense for every single character and for the story that had just been told over the previous nine seasons. Her only real question was why people found it so controversial in the first place when the outcome was plain as day to any longtime viewer.

The ending perfectly captured the running themes of the series.

HIMYM consistently hammered two ideas: Things rarely, if ever go as planned; and people never really change all that much. And when people experience a major life change, they go back to their default state of being. The show even named this phenomenon as Revertigo, and every one of the main characters experienced it at least once during the show's run.

Additionally...

The show is NOT about the Mother.

There is no bigger misconception of HIMYM than the idea that the show is about Tracy, the titular mother who does not even show her face until the very end of Season 8. The show is about Ted and his friends and their navigation of life in New York starting in their mid-twenties. While there are several references to Tracy sprinkled throughout (including the reveal of her name very early on), the vast majority of these stories had absolutely nothing to do with her. They were about Ted and his friends, with a particular emphasis on his love for Robin.

This is not my analysis. It is spelled out by Ted's daughter at the very end of the episode.

Additionally, the references to Tracy also made it quite clear to longtime viewers of her ultimate fate. They were hinting that she had passed away as early as Season 3, and Ted's in-his-mind speech to Tracy's then-boyfriend at their apartment (where he said he would do anything for an additional month with Tracy) is about as clear a confirmation as there can be.

And I get it: Tracy was a terrific character and a perfect match for Ted and the friends group. The highlights they sprinkled throughout the final season made it clear that Ted and Tracy had a wonderful life together. But that does not change the fact that this story was not about her, and her death was not something that was suddenly sprung on the audience.

Everyone's relationship outcomes make perfect sense for that character.

Marshall and Lily's ending is mostly without controversy: Marshall, realizing that Lily had given up so much for his career, gives up his chance to be a judge so they can move to Italy for a year to pursue Lily's dream.

The main criticism here is that all of Barney's prior character development from the final two seasons was seemingly undone by the finale. Quite frankly, that gives Barney way too much credit for character development. His marriage to Robin showed that Barney was capable of committing to one woman...but we already knew that from his first time dating Robin (and to a lesser extent, his time with Quinn). It did not change the fact that Barney was still constantly lying and deceiving pretty much everyone around him, including Robin. He even states that their entire rekindling was rooted in lying and deception.

Add in Barney's abandonment issues and Robin's constant travel for work, and their divorce makes perfect sense. The show made it clear that their relationship was a rollercoaster that could go off the tracks at any moment. It is equally unsurprising that Barney went back to using his tricks and deception to get women to sleep with him, and his having a love child was an inevitability. His ability to commit was then transferred to his newborn daughter, in probably the single best moment of the finale.

As for Ted and Robin:

Everyone ridicules Ted for an inability to fully let go of Robin, but nobody talks about Robin's inability to fully let go of Ted.

Ted Mosby has basically become a punching bag for guys who are unable to move on from a relationship. But where is this ridicule for Robin's inability to get over Ted? Robin goes back to Ted almost as often as Ted goes to Robin. The main difference is that Ted is the POV character where we regularly hear his inner monologue and Robin is a woman notoriously detached from showing emotion.

But here's the thing: Ted and Robin were also incredibly close friends who genuinely wanted what was best for each other. Both of them were very supportive of each other's subsequent relationships, most notably Ted giving Barney permission to date Robin the first time. With one notable exception (Ted and Victoria, part 1, which happened before Ted and Robin actually started dating), the two of them were not constantly sabotaging each other's chances for love; they may have been the reason that relationships ended (See: Ted and Victoria, part 2), but it was not because of anything either of them were actually doing.

The two of them were not actually wrong for each other: the timing just never lined up. Which brings me to my final point:

It is NOT a happily-ever-after ending.

HIMYM ends with Ted, having just received his kids' blessing to pursue Robin again, standing outside Robin's window and holding up the eponymous blue french horn. A lot of people collectively rolled their eyes at the idea of Ted and Robin living happily ever after.

But here's the thing: that is not what this ending is saying at all.

The only thing we can gather for sure from this ending is that Ted and Robin are going to try again. Maybe it will work this time now that previous roadblocks are out of the way. More likely, it will not based on past history. But the final message isn't happily-ever-after, but here-we-go-again.

So why is it a great series finale but a terrible season finale?

Simple: the entire final season was centered around the 48-hour leadup to Barney and Robin's wedding... only to immediately undo it in the final episode. This is hardly the first time the show has pulled the rug out from under us in a season finale, but it is hard to avoid the sense of the audience wasting their time with the heavily-padded final season if the main event ultimately did not matter that much.

But that is a problem for the individual season, not the series as a whole. As a series finale, it was just about perfect for the story that was told.

Tourists that go to places like India or China and dig in their heels to pay as little as possible for stuff because they find haggling fun is just so awful and pathetic. These tourists can absolutely afford to pay the original price and actually support these often-underprivileged sellers, rather than turning it into a little game for their minute of fun.

Edit: I mean if they're haggling for fun. it's different if the price is unfair or they're being ripped off or if there's no price to begin with.

I don't like the graphics in modern AAA video games. It seems that they strive for photorealism, but this is not suitable for games yet. First off, technology is not there yet to make it fully photorealistic, so the modern games are stuck in the uncanny valley. Especially, the characters. They remind me of failed 3d cartoons, when big studios experimented with style in the early era of 3d animation. Thankfully, animation studios realized that this is a dead end, and they now make a stylized look for the characters. Most game studios, for some reason, don't seem to get it. And I mean the most popular games, like God of War and others. I feel like I'm in the minority thinking that these characters look uncanny. If they were in a modern Pixar movie, we'd probably laugh at how they look.
Also, I don't think games need photorealism right now, in their current state. Interactions with the world are not detailed enough to support this level of realsim. The moment you run into some weird npc behavior, the immersion breaks. This problem is not so noticeable in stylized games, because your brain accepts that this is just a game and it doesn't try to copy reality.
There is a lot of stylized games and they look really good. I just don't understand why so many AAA games make this "realistic" style.

I've tried multiple times to get into the original cartoon, considering how popular it is and how much it's always raved about. I've only ever managed to make it through the first season. I do understand that most shows get more intricate/in-depth the further along they progress, but each time I tried to get into the show, it felt like it was mainly geared toward little kids. Even with all the crazy fight sequences. Yes, the main characters are all kids, and there are other cartoons where the main characters are kids that I've always enjoyed, but I've just never been able to get attached to Avatar. I did really enjoy The Legend of Korra, if that helps some of you understand better. Otherwise, I'm not really able to explain in more detail why I didn't like it. As for the Netflix show, the acting is amazing and the cgi is phenomenal. It's great at grabbing my attention and pulling me in. Definitely looking forward to more of it, if it doesn't end up getting canceled like so many other Netflix shows.

I just don't think it's necessary to tear down anyone that likes a song/singer/genre. It's really just not that serious. People forget that these famous people and their fans also have feelings, and for some reason, people think it's okay to just throw them death threats. Why, because their music is too popular and you want to be different? If you genuinely don't like a song, no one is forcing you to listen to it. Unless the song is offensive, or the artist did something wrong, music tastes really don't matter that much.

Self-compassion should be for people that were hurt or bullied, not for the people who were the bullies, abusers, toxic people. It's self-induldgence. It's problematic to promote self-compassion for toxic people to escape the harm they've done and sweeping everything under the rug and acting like their problematic behavior was okay.

I don't know if this is actually unpopular or just an old person stance I'm going against but here goes.

Wearing pajamas, especially pajama pants, in public shouldn't be looked down upon. Pajamas are also clothes and thus can be worn anywhere. They serve the exact same function as jeans or other casual wear. Just because they're worn more often to sleep doesn't mean it's suddenly "gross" or "trashy" to wear them out and about.

This applies to many situations, going to the store, seeing a movie, going to school (unless there is a dress code), going for a walk, and many other things. As long as you're properly covered and aren't violating a dress code or are being disrespectful (wedding or funeral) there's nothing wrong with it.

Coriander root is a wonderful thing, it has a better flavor and aroma than onions without stinging your eyes, you should try it with stir-fries, stews, steaks, and more.

It’s so dry and crumbly I don’t understand why people love it so much. It’s ok when you’re eating it with the filling of the pie, but the ends of the crust are harder to eat because the balance between the amount of crust and filling is skewed in a way that the crust is much more predominant. I’ve known people to say that it’s the best part of pie, they are crazy. How is the best part of pie the flavorless dry dough and not the filling with all of the seasoning and flavors? It’s absurd.

I'm tired of hearing it. From professional athletes winning it all and shouting it from the rooftops to Joe Blow getting lucky on a scratchy and yelling to themselves in their 04' Civic. Before you know it grandma is going to be saying "let's effin' go!" at bingo. So, for the love all that is good let's please come up with some other saying. We are better than this.