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Gay sex: what's hot, what's not, and how to do it better


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Fellow bottoms, have you gotten used to the top calling your hole your "pussy"

It was unsettling at first. Then the top I'm seeing would sext me about how my "pussy" is his and what he would do to it. Now I'm totally on board. He can call it whatever he likes, he knows I need him.

6 Comments
2025/02/01
06:58 UTC

2

Self suck

Anyone try to self suck and facial 😉?

4 Comments
2025/02/01
06:18 UTC

13

Tops: cum inside a bottom with a condom

A 25yo top here. Somehow I’ve never came inside anyone with a condom (I’m on prep) and it may happen soon. How different is it to cum inside a bottom with a condom compared to breeding someone raw in terms of pleasure?

9 Comments
2025/02/01
04:53 UTC

18

Tops & Bottoms: Have you ever been part of a gangbang where the bottom was tied up and used by everyone?

11 Comments
2025/02/01
03:46 UTC

2

Bottoms: What’s the biggest you’ve ever taken, and how did it feel?

12 Comments
2025/02/01
03:46 UTC

2

Tops & Bottoms: What’s the best aftercare experience you’ve had with a partner?

2 Comments
2025/02/01
03:40 UTC

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Bottoms, would you want a top with a high drive? Would you let him fuck you all the time?

As the title says, would you want a top that has a really high sex drive? One that wants to fuck and breed you daily?

Assuming the top lives with you, is decent in looks and height, solidly above average in size, a bit dominant/ passionate and is super attracted to you. He isn’t selfish, wants to turn you on, make you feel good, fuck and breed you, be passionate, and makes sure you cum every time.

Sometimes I read online dudes write that they want this as a bottom, some ridicule the very notion of daily sex. Some tops claim they have a bottom they fuck everyday. For me personally, it’s what I’ve been looking for as a top but it’s a hit or miss.

Would you legit want it daily from a good top? Any tops out there actually find a bottom that keeps up with their high drive? Curious to hear from all of you.

42 Comments
2025/02/01
00:41 UTC

11

I love to have a 3 some with 2 bottoms.

I love to have a 3 some with a couple of bottoms provide I could suck cock. Anyone else?

17 Comments
2025/01/31
21:19 UTC

66

Bottoms: are you turned on or annoyed when a top tells you he is gonna knock you up?

It’s one of my favorite things to tell a bottom. I’m gonna get you knocked up, my swimmers are going in you, gonna make your flat stomach bulge a bit with my seed, etc.

Are you okay with this kind of talk?

45 Comments
2025/01/31
21:18 UTC

4

Bottoms: have you ever hooked up, been FWB, or dated/married a hung top?

Was it what you expected? Did it feel amazing or over rated?

Those of you who are FWB/ in a relationship with a hung top, does his size dictate your frequency of sex?

Do you get excited / proud every time you see his big tool? Knowing it’s yours to take as much as you want?

13 Comments
2025/01/31
21:16 UTC

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I’m almost an exclusive bottom. How do I convince my brain that there’s nothing wrong with that?

I can’t get it to click in my brain and I’d like to. Like I was sort of made to take it in the butt. That’s who I am and that’s okay

19 Comments
2025/01/31
20:41 UTC

25

Bottoms: were you ever in a bad mood, having a bad day, being a jerk to your top / BF etc. and he fucked it out of you?

Were you ever being a bratty asshole, jerk, etc deliberately (or unknowingly ) and your top took you to bed and fucked it out of you?

Were you ever having a bad day or a bad mood and your top just knew what you needed, his dick inside you?

Was it exactly what you needed? How did you feel afterward if so?

I had a BF before that sometimes was very moody and upset. There were times that he was going off on me for some bullshit and I told him to shut up and go to bed and wait for me there. He did what he was told. I came in 10 minutes later, passionately took his clothes off and bred him, made him cum, only for him to tell me later “wow I really needed that and I didn’t even know, thank you.”

Anyone experience anything like this? Have you ever done this as a top?

10 Comments
2025/01/31
20:35 UTC

7

Your thoughts on rabbit fucking

I always wondered how many liked what is, I believe referred to as rabbit fucking. Fast strokes that don’t go all the way and hit. I personally never enjoyed it while topping and find it irritating(literally) as a bottom and not giving as much pleasure as any other way would. Having seen it in porn, on the regular made me wonder how many have a different opinion on it.

19 Comments
2025/01/31
19:35 UTC

2

I just want to buy a dildo so bad, but I'm worried my parents might find out. Do you have one? How do you keep it hidden?

10 Comments
2025/01/31
14:15 UTC

4

I want to know weather I'm top or bottom

10 Comments
2025/01/31
11:22 UTC

8

I'm limp

Hey Btm here, have a very tough time getting hard. Is that a plus for tops or something you don't really enjoy?

9 Comments
2025/01/31
11:02 UTC

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Confusing new feelings towards masculine alpha men and their... seed

I'm an ftm guy, 5'2 and found out I'm attracted to men 2 years ago. Only recently accepted that I'm 100% a bottom. My whole persona was being tough and into girls, leather jackets and shit. Now I look at dominant confident men (the men I wanted to be like) and I just feel tingly. The pleasure centers in my mind have already hooked up and it's a positive feedback loop. More submissive feelings towards men, more full body orgasms, repeat.

Lately I've felt a new desire. I see so many men in my gym, many twice my size and weight. The pure power, their deep grunts as the veins on their arms bulge. I ask one for help and he puts his hand on my back. And it's like my legs go weak. I blush and feel flustered and hope he doesn't notice. And, more than that, I see his big masculine body and feel a shifting in my stomach. Imagining my faint abs getting soft, disappearing and swelling. Realizing on a primal level I want to get pregnant with his babies. Embarrassingly I've actually rubbed myself in the bathroom to orgasm thinking of this. I never thought I'd get like this 😭

14 Comments
2025/01/31
09:33 UTC

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Recommendations for Ski Masks with mouth & nose holes

Hey guys, so starting next month I really want to get into sucking more dick and recording. But anon! And my thing is I need a suitable face covering that covers my head, mouth and nose (but obviously not my eyes).

I can’t find ones that would seem to work. My head is a little big and I need one that would fit comfortably and still keep both my mouth and nose open and breathable.

So real question is what are some recommendations you guys might have? Any links to a good mask that is suitable for all? Hopefully for cheap but don’t mind spending a lil more if it’s a great one.

Thanks ahead!!

0 Comments
2025/01/31
06:35 UTC

2

fem/sissy top are existed?

I dont think i ever met fem guys/sissy who also enjoy begin top.

i really want to meet one ;_;

8 Comments
2025/01/31
00:52 UTC

3

As a bottom virgin i have some questions?

Wish i could just meet up with some top to get fucked but, i just have trust issues, and afraid of could happen? Any advice how to overcome this type of stuff?

5 Comments
2025/01/30
23:41 UTC

46

When did you realize you are a pure bottom dude?

57 Comments
2025/01/30
23:11 UTC

7

Dominant bottoms

I love to try having sex with a Dom bottom. I love to try it. Whats the thoughts?

8 Comments
2025/01/30
22:20 UTC

14

How many poppers hits OK to take while bottoming?

23 Comments
2025/01/30
21:04 UTC

160

Is there any better feeling than pinning a boy to the bed and having him hold onto you for dear life as you pound him into submission?

Had a crazy good experience this morning before work and I just wanted to see if I’m the only one that feels this way

32 Comments
2025/01/30
20:18 UTC

7

Getting hard while bottoming

Hi there,

So, mildly embarrassing to ask this here, but I'm fairly inexperienced with anal penetration. Used my fingers a bunch in the past, recently got a dildo for myself.
After some preparation, I was able to use it a bit, and it was enjoyable albeit a bit painful. I imagine that'll get better over time tho.

However, I was kindof having trouble actually getting hard at that point, although there was a fair amount of precum from all the stimulation. Idk if it was just the time and prep I had to do, the bit of pain, or its just not super common to get hard while bottoming.

Is this common for you guys?
Or is this something that might get better/easier as I get used to it?

Edit: Thank you guys so much for the responses! This was very reassuring, so i appreciate it. Also some good advice, so thanks again!

25 Comments
2025/01/30
20:01 UTC

14

Why are my orgasms stronger with men?

I am looking for an explanation on my physiology, not advice. I wanted to ask both tops and bottoms on this matter. I am a bisexual male, but my orgasms are stronger with men and I am talking about not just receiving anal. A woman can provide the same effect and I have had a girl peg me before, but it's not that intense and you can't beat the real thing. Women though, I orgasm just once and I would say it's a decent amount of cum being released. Men? I can orgasm as much as three times depending on the day and these aren't slow oozes, these are quick release shots and I have good volume with each orgasm.

How is it attraction based? I have heard it indicates sexual orientation, but I see no evidence. Also with men I can stay erect for 20 minutes after I'm empty, sometimes I leak leftover cum... I don't with women, with women I am probably staying hard for 5 minutes before going soft.

8 Comments
2025/01/30
19:30 UTC

21

CHASTITY on or off

I love fucking bottoms and I love when there in chastity. But sometimes I love their cocks out and hard/limp. I just wonder what others think?

46 Comments
2025/01/30
19:17 UTC

3

How to top?

As a lifelong bottom in their 30’s, I’ve always thought that I could top, but I despite being very interested, I can’t seem to stay hard when penetrating. It’s almost like it’s an overwhelming feeling? I thought about trying to top with a plug in, but haven’t had the chance to try yet. I’ve topped by proxy with toys and the bottom had a great time, so did I, but it feels incomplete to me without being in them - a feeling I really love when I’m a bottom.

Any ideas or similar experiences folks?

4 Comments
2025/01/30
18:29 UTC

65

Tops and bottoms: what's a sexual experience that has stayed with you?

What's an experience that stayed with you either because it was sexy or memorable or any other reason.

47 Comments
2025/01/30
15:16 UTC

14

Tops and the cowboy position

Hey guys, so I'm a bottom (bear) and I LOVE riding, I would say it's my favourite position. The problem is most tops seem to hate it for some reason. Any tops here would like to further elaborate hahahaha. I'm all ears.

20 Comments
2025/01/30
12:23 UTC

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