What was the sex life like? Do you always need a third person or one has to be the knight? Tops have you dated another top, do you always have to share a bottom or one of you have to power up and be the bottom? Sides, please not now.

Questions for tops. Do you prefer your bottoms hairy, shaved, or trimmed in the front? I always keep my balls and shaft smooth, and usually the top trimmed. With winter approaching I’ve been letting the top hair grow out. Is this gross to you guys or do you not care? The top I’m with likes me to be completely smooth, but I kind of like my natural body hair. What do you think?

Tops feel free to tell your experience on your bottoms as well

I use grindr and the various apps all the time (way way too much) but don't end up meeting anyone due to not being ready and just looking cause I'm in the mood. Like I go on when I'm at work or have a ton of stuff to do that day but I went on in the morning cause I'm in the mood. I can't go to bars or clubs because I'm an alcoholic and have to be up early.

It's silly but I'm really actually suffering here and need help not sure what to do. Screentime through the roof, riskier and riskier hookups. My sex drive is strong and I have some guys I hookup with already but not regular enough. I can masturbate but I don't think that's as good as actual sex. Maybe I just need to exchange numbers more? I can sense that I'm turning to the apps when I'm horny, so I just need to meet that craving.

I think this is a consequence of prioritizing health, I'm much more in shape but an early bird and a lot of the gay community here is nightlife based. Wondering if any of you have any advice or have resolved this?

So, i was away with my partner a few weeks ago (we are Poly), and it was a really lovely time. sex was great as always, everything was perfect. however, and this isn't a complaint, we are both bottoms. so we do switch it up a little. they are perfect, but they're definetly a soft top, it's great sex but it's also gentler and softer.

I have a hookup tomorrow, and i am exited because i know i can tell him to really get rough with me. I love the soft sex and the gentle topping. But soemtimes I really just need a good hard, rough fuck.

I miss it, i want to feel used, for me it is a stress releif. To have someone bigger and stronger grab me hard and use me. I like being out of breath, gagging and having marks left all over me. my hair pulled and my throat fucked hard.

That first breath after a rough blowjob is like heaven and i am chasing that feeling. sometimes he'll put on porn, ignore me and watch as i work on him, only sometimes standing to fuck my mouth or yanking my hair.

Yeah, as much as the sweet sex has been amazing, I also really need something a lot harder sometimes.

I no longer use my penis. I only masturbate with toys and have major orgasms from anal.

Am I weird for it?

I'm a bi brown bottom and pretty new to the states, currently looking for some regular fwbs and just had this above question in mind. Thanks!

I’m a very submissive Asian boy and have my little cock locked for almost half a year. It does not only fulfill my fantasy of being a cumdump who can only have orgasm from anal but also makes me horny everyday, craving for thick and hung cocks in my boy hole every day. Born to have a very sensitive body, being locked adds up to the point that I can cum and squirt handsfree from anal.

However, I wondered what tops think about locked boys and whether you think this is hot? Thanks a lot ;)

Ok, I know its sounds wired, but I do need some help here: I (28, Asian) think I’m a vers, I do love bottoming, but recent trying to be a top, but weird thing happened: I cant maintain the hard on. Usually I stay limp while I take cock, my election come and go quickly its fine. But now it is a problem when I need to use my own tool as a top. I think is it because I did too much handjob (I do it everyday) Or just I’m too nervous? Any vers experienced this before?

I really like it when a top used degradation language. It makes me so wet when I get even DMs here which are degrading 🙈

Do Bottoms become sissies ultimately.

I’m 5’4” and I’m not gonna act like my dick isn’t big. Why do so many people have an issue with someone short topping them? Is honestly a little upsetting having people indicate they’re interested, just to be constantly ghosted when they find out I don’t like bottoming.

Are short men honestly just expected to be submissive bottoms? I’d rather become a side tbh.

I’m relatively new to bottoming. My husband seems to be enjoying this new activity, and he’s quite good at topping me. But I end up with so much air pumped inside me I feel like a balloon. Is there a position or technique that doesn’t result in so much air being pushed up my ass?

If so is there a limit to how big?

In your hookups , do you prefer if the top is already hard and you have a hard cock to suck or fuck you or do you prefer to get them hard by sucking them ? I have seen some bottoms disappointed when they see me not hard because they can't yet figure out how big I am.

Have you seen the difference in the bedroom?

Hello everyone, I (21m) started exploring my sexuality this summer. I like to top men and seeing how it makes them loose all composure because of the pleasure it gives them, so seeing how much it seems fun, I have been wanting to try bottoming, which I did multiple times, but the result is always the same, it just hurts, or when it doesn't hurt, I just feel like my bladder gets roughly poked, which is not pleasant.

I tried with three times with different guys, the first two came in less than 2 minutes, but the third lasted enough to see that bottoming don't feel good to me. I also tried experimenting by myself with toys, but it's the same, just the feeling of having something stuck in my butt thrusting and hitting against my bladder.

I also feel like a burning sensation in my ass, I don't know if it's because of the condom, or the lube, because I also feel it when i do it alone. I use water base lube.

Anyone has a similar experience ? Did you find a way to enjoy bottoming and how ? Is it just that some people's bodies are made in a way that prevent them from taking pleasure in bottoming ?

In the end, I really like topping, so it's not a really big problem, it's just that I feel like i'm missing something fun, eventually I will try again to see when I'll find a boyfriend or a really good friend. Sorry for the eventual flaws in the text, english is not my first language

Especially for my new partner. I’ve always struggled to bottom. My entire life. I’m tight, it’s painful, I struggle to get it in without wanting to tap out.

My boyfriend says he’d like to see me tomorrow and he wants us to do the deed. I’ve known him for about 3 months and this will be our first time doing it. He’s strictly top and extremely sexual.

I just want to make him happy but I’m scared of disappointing him with my cowardly behaviour when it comes to bottoming ☹️

Me: I’m gonna be 33 soon, on the tall side and have a really high sex drive. Since I was 15, I’ve always had this burning desire to get someone pregnant whenever sex came to mind. This deep, biological, burning need to procreate and pass on my seed into someone else, having them carry my kids and absorb a part of me. Heck, even thoughts of “you’re mine now, I claimed you by knocking you up.”

I discovered gay sex at 16 and have long been attracted to dudes since then as a total top.

I know biologically it’s impossible to get another dude pregnant, but fuck, I always get the overwhelming desire to try whenever I have sex. My brain understands it’ll never happen, but my sex drive, cock, balls just override any common sense related to this and just keep pushing me to keep trying. It’s fucked up thinking, I know, but I’ve failed so many times to get myself to think rationally about it that I stopped fighting it.

This desire is especially in overdrive around masculine, “straight” acting dudes slightly younger than me. I’m 6’4”, so it’s a huge turn on when a guy is smaller in height, has some muscle from the gym and is fit, acts masculine, deep voice, plays sports, acts tough, one of the “boys”, doesn’t take shit from anyone… but in my bed he is a horny bottom, on his back, knees up to his chest, legs spread, asking me to fuck him and knock him up, moaning and whimpering while I plow him, and cumming all over himself while I fill him up. In my mind, the masculine “dumb jock bros” are perfect to have that passionate, bodies tangled up in missionary, trying for a baby over and over until it happens SEX. Tough, muscular and able to carry/ protect the kids I put inside him, perfect ass to pull all my seed out of my nuts while being a masculine dude outside our bed, with none being the wiser that he is my personal incubator.

I want him waiting at home for me after work, I want him barefoot, naked and knocked up in my kitchen, I want him eagerly waiting in my bed for more, I want him submissive and ready to let me do whatever is necessary to get him knocked up while pleasing us both. I want to plug him too after nutting as deep as possible so none of it comes out. Or stay inside of him for a bit after I’m done. Everyday. I want our friends to be utterly clueless about it too, just thinking we are gym buddies or good friends at most. I wanna lock eyes with this dude at a group event and be able to communicate without speaking: you have my kids inside you, no one knows but us and ima wear you the fuck out when we get home until you are knocked up again.

Telling another dude “I’m gonna fuck you until you’re pregnant” or “we stay in bed until you are full of my babies” or “we do this everyday until it works” (and watching his reaction) is insanely hot for a guy like me. All the more better when he is smaller and submissive and lets you dominate, manhandle and fuck him relentlessly with the goal of getting bred.

I know it’s fucked up thinking. Probably weird that I have this burning desire to knock someone up, especially another dude. But it’s where I am at. Anyone else have the same thoughts/ desires? Bottoms, do you like it when tops talk about knocking you up or treat you like they are going to?

I’m a pretty short bottom (5 foot 4) and the idea of tall tops turns me on so much. Do you like the dynamic and why? Personally I think I psychologically love it because he can protect me since he’s so big, and that makes me want to be subservient and submissive. And of course there’s nothing I can do to overpower him so the power dynamic is definitely in his favor. If they’re decently strong they can also easily pick me up

i tried a hookup on grindr once but it was really disappointing, The Top Couldnt get past the cheeks and he basically busted less than 2 strokes into my cheeks and he wanted to help me finish but i just rushed out cause i was not feeling it but recently ive been curious again to try bottoming, not sure if its worth it

I was back in my hometown for the holidays, and I needed a break from time with my family. I went to the gym.

After my workout and shower, I was changing back into my clothes. I didn't really plan on hooking up, I only had a couple of hours before the next family activity, but I opened Grindr just to see the local talent. Surprisingly, there was a guy 0 feet away.

His faceless profile claimed he was mostly straight and was just looking for a BJ. His message to me was about the same. "UR hot. I'm in the last shower stall. Come suck me off." He had a hot body in his pics, and I liked the no-nonsense attitude, but at the last minute I panicked. I've never done anything in such a public place before.

Now, I regret it. I keep thinking how hot that would be to head back to the showers and quietly gag on his cock.

Do you think I should have done it? Does anyone have a similar experience to share?

Are any other tops really attracted to or maybe even fetishize tall guys?

And I mean like huge guys, beefy, muscular, and the taller the better. Big hands, big feet, big noses. Everything. Like, I'm over 6 ft tall and quite large and all my bfs were taller and bigger than me.

I'm dominant in bed but I love being the little spoon and cuddling giant men. Also I love the feeling of being a power couple. One of my fantasies is also getting a smaller bottom as a third and then both of us dominating him.

Is this rare or weird? Anyone else like this?

Some days I can tell that I have some feces just past my sigmoid bend that douching doesn't reach. It gives me an unsexy feeling of fullness and I know there will be a mess if I'm penetrated really deeply. But a round of full enemas takes me like 45 minutes.

Does anyone have a trick to get feces to move past the second sphincter without having to do a full enema? I've experimented a bit with long toys but they don't seem to work reliably.

I'm bisexual. Finally admitted to myself. But I can't actually penetrate another man. Atleast not the one that I'm comfortable experimenting with. Yet, when I was younger my friend and I had no problem taking and receiving.. advice? Thanks you.

Kinda funny kinda serious question. I personally am finding it more difficult than before I started bottoming.

So... recently my boyfriend bought a small butt plug with remote control and after we used it for fun at home, he said he wants me to use on a date. I don't know if it will be a dinner on a restaurant, or during a night on a club. We do both frequently. Of course he will have control, literally, of the plug for the entire night.

Anyone here already had this experience? I'm a bit nervous of it making me more uncomfortable than horny, because of the long period, but the idea excites me a lot!

I’m not the fittest bottom (I have a belly), but I have to ask (even if it’s stupid), does the body type of your bottom matter?

I’ve met plenty of fit/muscular/athletic tops that say body type does matter, but I’ve met plenty of other tops of all shapes and sizes say they don’t. What do you tops think? If this is a stupid question, you can delete this.