Most Western-born brown men I know did well in school and went to an elite uni studying Law/STEM/Medicine, I am one of them. However, there is a fun side of us too and there is way more to life than academics. Without revealing too much about me, I am involved in the nightclub/event business, been seeing a HUGE surge in desi DJs and event MCs these days. I've met brown guys who dropped out of law/engineering/med school to successfully pursue their passion such as modelling, DJing or wherever life takes them. Some of them with $80K degrees from elite Ivy-equivalent institutions just to not use their degree because they've made it in other areas. Sydney & Melbourne are like 7-8% Desi these days (each city has like 5.2M people), some clubs around here are completely desi owned, desi DJs are making it big and I'm here for it. I'm also involved in the luxury car rental business, I know desi-businesses with a fleet of blacked out AMGs, BMWs and Audis, this is probably the coolest business model I have encountered. We have become such a powerful group represented in politics, lobbying groups and in numbers. A lake in Australia was recently renamed to something about Sikhism because of the Sikh lobby. I don't even care about the lake but I love seeing what we are capable of. There is so many of us businesses can basically advertise in Hindi/Punjabi/Tamil only and thrive based on this demographic alone (I've seen it). Contrary to your parents opinion, there are other ways to make money or a living rather than being a Doctor or Engineer. Not to brag (most of you here are in the same position here anyway so if I wanted to I would go somewhere else) I attend an top ranked uni, I usually enjoy what I study but I'm not sure if I will even use my degrees, I have other endeavours going on in my life.

I see a lot of discussions on women from various backgrounds, but not so much on East African women specifically. From my experience it seems like such a rare pairing here in England. I’ve only known one person who has EA and SA parents (not sure if her mum or dad is EA)

I guess I want to ask: What’s your experience with East African women? When you talk to your SA male friends are they favourable of EA women? Where you are is it a rare pairing?

I have autism and adhd and am struggling to build my career. I feel like I am behind in life compared to many of my Indian friends, relatives, and family friends who are killing it in shit like pre med, law, CS, or consulting. I feel like they see me as a loser due to not being as successful as them and appearing somewhat neurodivergent when I am around.

Can anyone relate?

To those in a similar situation how did it go? South Asian expectations are hard enough for NTs to meet.

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This one is probably one of the most important posts that I will make. I have came across many videos of hordes of dudes in India that whenever a white female tourist goes to India, they surround her and try to take pictures with her like she's some kind of celebrity or something. Honestly, it makes me ashamed, and it also brings a bad reputation to our people worldwide. As a result, nobody, I mean NOBODY will ever wanna go there, and not to mention, the culture is also sexually repressed so dudes are just horny all the time and don't know how to act. Lust is a very big sin, and it will make you do bad things, like simping(it might seem innocent, but it can be extreme depending on the individual), sexual assault, ogling, and God forbid, Gra*e, and this perpetuates the whole Creepy Indian guy stereotype, and it doesn't just affect the Indians in India, but the Diaspora everywhere, particularly the western world, like dudes see a pretty woman and don't know how to act, and I want you to imagine this, Imagine if you had a sister, or cousin, or daughter, and a whole bunch of motherfuckers surround her trying to take selfies with her and hovering over her like flies attracted to Scheiße, how would that make you feel, like honestly, get it together, this is kind of a vent, but I know we can do better than this, we have potential, we landed a rocket in the moon, we created plastic surgery, chess, the number 0, shampoo, YES, SHAMPOO, the word "Loot" which the Crooked teeth having bland food eating tea drinking shitty weather dwelling Brits have done for 200 years, its up to us to make sure our bretheren act like civilized human beings. Don't stare, don't grope, don't do any of that, don't invade personal space of foreigners, shower and wear deodorant, clean up your trash, keep your places clean, start small, I know its not gonna happen overnight, but take some small steps.

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So, for starters I am 23 years old Sri Lankan Tamil born and raised here. So, no accent, even got a Anglo first name, 5ft9 (175) height and am medium dark skinned. I got friends here and obviously have assimiliated myself entirely. Yet, I still struggle heavily with dating. Now, I already know certain things I need to work on (mostly my physiqe) but the things I DON'T know how to improve is what to dress like, my Tinder profiles here in Sweden and how to actually talk to them, aka game.

The reason for this is that for a very long time I didn't really have any interest in women at all. Because I was waiting for the "one". I know this is cringe asf but I really believed in finding your soulmate and getting married. Recently I kind of realized that it doesn't exist but also my priorities have now changed. So for the last 1-2 years I've mostly been talking to women outside of Sweden on apps like Discord and Yubo. I've been successful in getting nudes and such and having dirty talk but obviously nothing more then that.

But when I talk to women from my town here, either on IG or Snap or Disc, it almost never goes anywhere.

For the most part I have streetwear on with flashy jewellry. But that's all I've known but I'm willing to expand my horizons now if that is what it takes for me to change things. I feel like this urbanwear style is either a hit or miss and it doesn't have a constant "success rate".

And as for Tinder, I have never used Tinder before. So, I have no idea what types of photos to have nor what vibe and style I should present. I really don't know if the "badboy" "streetwear" "thug" type of look is a hit or miss on Tinder here, nor in real life. As I said, I am looking for any and all input and I am willing to change. Having streetwear is not a must for me.

So for those of you who have either dated Swedish women in Sweden OR you actually live here (regardless if you moved here or were born here like me) and date Swedish women, I'd like y'all opinion and advice on what type of style works best for the girls here, what type of photos and clothing style should I have on Tinder and how should my "game" be when talking to Swedish women?

TL;DR Tell me what type of photos I should have for Tinder in Sweden, what type of style is most appreciated in foreign men (blattar såsom vi säger här lol) both irl and on Tinder, and the best way to actually talk to Swedish women aka game.

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I don’t know how many times I have to go over this, but money will only buy you gold diggers who will leave you when the money is gone, and a lot of you guys tried to argue with me saying that money does buy attraction, like don’t get me wrong, money is important, but you can’t have that being the only thing going for you. Like most brown dudes are not bad looking, they just need better grooming and fashion and hygiene, and the height is relatively average-tall due to many young brown folks getting taller(me being 5’11 myself). I can understand a really facially deformed or grotesque looking or very short guy having to use money, but if you are a brown man who is funny, charismatic, charming, and have good social/flirting skills, you should be good. But if you deliberately or unintentionally use money or flaunt your wealth to attract women, don’t be surprised when she leaves you and wants nothing to do with you, not to mention, flaunting your wealth can make you a target, I don’t ever want you mfs to end up like the guy she’s talking about in the video:

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Whoever This guy is, I just want to let you know, if Being a sucker was an Olympic event, you would win gold medal, Simone Biles has competition now.

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Some of the DMs that I get. Get a few everyday and the underlying issue I can see is the doomscrolling. What's crazy is the amount of mainlanders who have not even left India that suffer with insecurity about their race when they are living in a country full of their own kind! I got dudes from random Indian cities with depression cuz of all the dumb shit out there. On a positive note it's great to connect with you guys over here.

ALSO: I am going to be in Kerala (Kochi) next week so if your there and wanna link up lmk. Going to other Indian states too.

Guys we can't just post bad or self depressing stuff on here we gotta focus on the positives. Even if you feel like having to vent.. remember good things are happening slowly for us but we gotta make it work.

P.S.: also I am new to this sub so I just joined.

Hi all, I am born and bred in NZ, so I m am basically a western Indian guy. The options here have been limited, since the population is small, there are only a few Indian girls and it’s very cliquey. I am looking to study to become a pilot in either Toronto Canada, or in USA. Since the reputation of the school is not majorly important (like a uni) since you just need to end up with the licenses, I was wondering which was the best city to move to, to make the most for dating Indian girls. I have dated quite a few girls here but want to expand and experience a city where there is more opportunity. I can only move for a year or so and hence want to be able to chose the place with the best chances. Thanks.

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I generally don't believe in conversation starters and proactively go with the flow in social situations.

But the most commonly heard phrase nowadays is don't be "boring".

For me all topics are interesting and never made a distinction between boring and interesting conversations (unless I'm forced into the conversation/situation). Neither do I speak in length or ramble.

Let's say I'm a software engineer who is into motorbikes, cars, food, stock market, crypto, travel, writing, stand up comedy.

What are some "interesting" and "non-boring" conversation starters or topics that you would suggest?

Certain mod banned my previous account for some reason, so dm me for a pro desi male server link - heavily vetted to ensure no abcdesi libtards and white nationalists are intruding in our spaces.

I have an idea that might sound farfetched, so I made this other account to post this.

The idea is bold but simple: leverage social media to become influential figures with the absolute best physiques, maximizing sex appeal and confidence. Then, take it a step further—use "spice content" (you know what I mean) to reclaim and repurpose slurs and stereotypes, turning them into empowering branding tools.

Picture this: phrases like "Currypied" "Desi Dominated", "Jeet Owned" and "Property of the West British Company" (a cheeky nod to the East India Company) become not just cheeky catchphrases but symbols of a movement. What was once used to mock becomes a badge of pride, dripping with irony and self-assuredness.

This might sound unconventional (and no, I’m not an addict—just an ideas guy), but there’s massive potential here. By “turning up the spice level, one post at a time,” we could capitalize on cultural stereotypes and flip the script to our advantage. It’s about reclaiming the narrative, owning the space, and benefiting from a wave of confidence, humor, and cultural pride.

And also if you see on social media calling us "street shitters" just say "Lmao we have upgraded to your ______'s mouth."

Idk guys let me know your thoughts.

P.S. Delete this post if it is stupid or brings shame to this subreddit.

Hello everyone, I’m new here, nice to meet you all! I’m British Indian and I’ve joined this subreddit mainly for hearing about others’s dating experiences and most of the dating posts on this subreddit always say something about Eastern European women. I haven’t had much contact with them so I’m just curious, what is it about Eastern European women being open to us? How true is this actually?