i think i might be either isfj or infj, but i can’t figure out which one. can someone help me ?

I sorta thought I was an INTP, but recently someone said that my answers to a questionnaire made me sound like an INTJ. The reasons were because I mentioned that when I do research I tend to go after answers, and prefer to have an answer than none at all. I guess about that, I don’t feel the rush to have an answer at any particular time (ofc the sooner the better), but I do prefer having an answer than being confused 24/7. Despite this, I currently have so many things on hold that I started learning about and never finished because I decided to move to another thing. I keep telling myself I’ll get it done but here we are. Another thing I mentioned was the fact that I have a problem (I’m working on it, I think 💀) of never reaching out and feeling like a burden. When I was younger, I never liked telling people how I felt about things because the other person might not be interested or might disagree with me. I kept my mouth shut because it’s easier to go along with what other people want. If my brother wanted something and my dad wanted to go somewhere I was always like “sure I’ll go with what you want and figure out what I can have there.” Idk. It’s also easier to be motivated to help others actually do things than for myself. I’ll do someone else’s homework and just drop my own stuff and not even care about it. It’s easier to be motivated that way. For myself, I’d rather do things that I want rather than worrying about how my life will end up. Also mentioned how I like to find ways to do things faster for the hell of it. For that, I mean it’s fun to challenge myself on trying to get to somewhere faster. I don’t necessarily do anything with it, and when I do, it’s rarely something that will benefit my life in the future. But it is fun to do that stuff. It’s really to see how well I understand something. It’s also fun to try stuff out to test the limits of something.

Idk what I am help

**I need to add that there was one thing that has always confused me. I mentioned that I have a tendency to not give answers outright because I probably don’t know the absolute truth and every detail ever. I mentioned how I tend to prefer to stay back and think about something before I make my mind up, and that’s usually never, because if I say the wrong thing I will feel negatively about it. I can be a perfectionist about my thinking and I’ll just feel dumb if I don’t get it right. It’s not good to think like that, but that’s just how it happens. If I don’t get something, I will drop it entirely and move on to something else. It’s like giving up before you even start based on what you think will happen.

She was my childhood best friend (elementary school best friend.) We were never truly on good terms after fifth grade, though, because in fifth grade some of the girls in our grade were against her, and I failed to take her side. I always knew that my failure to do so/decision to led to her having negative feelings towards me. It wasn’t that I was “against” her, it’s moreso that I tried to mediate and wouldn’t explicitly go with her in spite of the fact that we had been friends for years. I think it made her believe that I was fake. I suppose that I was.

When I think back to our childhood, I now actually remember her as having been somewhat sensitive.

In middle school, she angered a lot of our classmates, including our friend group. I recall that she tended to be kind of argumentative and abrasive. She wasn’t “nice.” Our classmates weren’t nice either, however, if I’m being honest. The majority of them made fun of her for being fat behind her back. In hindsight it makes sense to me that she was toxic, though, even though I don’t think it was okay, because I’ve always remembered that when we were kids, I never felt that her parents treated her very well. I always perceived that her little sister was her mother’s favorite child, and her father started struggling with drug addiction when we were in elementary school. I remember her as having been sensitive and fun to be around when we were children. I was very introverted, and she brought me out of my shell. She was the one between the two of us who I knew was better at making friends, and I never felt disrespected by her until 4th grade, when I started to perceive that she was bossy. It’s been so many years now that I can’t tell you whether or not I think she just changed, though.

Interestingly enough, in spite of the fact that she was rather disliked at the first middle school she attended (to a point wherein after her other best friend kicked her out of our friend group there was quite literally almost no one in our grade who wanted to hangout with her) she became quite popular very quickly after switching to a new school in either 7th or 8th grade (it’s been so long that I can’t quite remember which year it was anymore.) She switched to the middle school that had a joint high school. I remember that, when I mentioned her in 10th grade, two of the people I was then working with in an organization didn’t seem to “know” that she was so disliked at our old school nor immediately understand why (I may be misremembering, but I swear that one of them mentioned that in regards to her becoming popular as quickly as she did at the new school, they had “never seen anything like that.”) I know that she is a big fan of Lana Del Rey. She hasn’t posted to her Instagram in a little over three years, but I seem to remember that one of her last reels featured the song “Brooklyn Baby.”

She was no longer, I don’t think, really on the average person’s radar by the time we were upperclassmen in high school. I actually remember that she had to switch to a different high school (the one people in my area attend to make up credits) because her grades weren’t ideal. She switched over quarantine, I think.

She started smoking weed early on, in either 8th or 9th grade. She had a boyfriend in 8th or 9th grade as well who was two-three years older, I believe, who I never thought was attractive. I know that they fell out badly. I actually think I had anxiety group with him. I don’t remember him very well, but I didn’t necessarily think that he seemed like a super kind person.

She had stopped attending our old middle school in the first place because her other childhood best friend (their moms had always been close) told her directly one day that no one in our friend group liked her. It was true. I remember that in 8th grade, people in that friend group (who I ended up falling out with myself) found out that she had become popular at the new school through gossip, and unsurprisingly a few of them decided they wanted to be on good terms with her in high school so they could gain the same kind of popularity. When high school started, she actually began hanging around the people in that friend group again, including the girl who had told her off. I know she had always wanted to reconcile with that girl - I also knew that that girl sincerely didn’t like her and probably continued to talk about her behind her back after they reconciled, but I don’t think she ever caught onto it herself. I notice that they mutually stopped following each other on Instagram sometime around or after high school graduation, so I think she knows it now, and has probably moved on.

I also seem to remember that in middle school, before switching schools, she tended to make racist and homophobic comments (a lot of our classmates were like that though, actually. Middle school seems to be a time wherein people are at their worst.) She and her other best friend tended to use the slur for lesbian (the one that starts with a d) in casual conversation.

It seems that she grew up to be a Trump supporter, though she never posts about it. I noticed months ago that she follows him on Instagram.

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