I love the immediacy of reddit, and I definitely want to re-enable posts without moderation in advance here. However, 9 out of 10 posts lately are hookup searching or onlyfans advertising, and I would rather lose the immediacy than have this reddit degrade into low-quality content until I catch up to posts.

If you are available to help, especially if you are available to help during my sleeping hours (roughly 4am - noon GMT), that would be amazing. Just write me a note and tell me about why you'd like to volunteer.

Had been considering posting on RAOBJ (giving head is a huge fetish for me, overall), but I haven't really just put myself out there so directly. I'd guess there's more pitfalls to remember than I could ever forget.

If anyone has ever gone through with even making a post like that, and you had unexpected things happen? Please tell me about those things here. I'd like an idea of what I might be setting myself up for if things were to go sideways to make an informed choice.

It's hard to be safe and smart when you're horny as hell, right?

So I am supposed to have my first sexual encounter in 5 months (a hook up) later tonight with a guy I am sorta friends with. Now the pickle I am in is that I have a mom bod. I have a little bit of an apron belly, arm fat, and my boobs sag a bit. And this guy is SO SO hot (I mean way out of my league). How do I boost my confidence prior? I am starting to get the urge to bail.

Unless you're Gay of course! Sniffles, Jack'd and Grinder got you cover but I wanna meet woman and there's really nothing.

Not even fetlife is any good it especially sucks when your in a state that doesn't have that many ppl to meet up with.

Doublelist is still the only site I kno that's kinda good but it also has alot of scammers and bots so good luck with that .

At this point u better off just going to a grocery store and trying your best to flirt with a women without looking like a weirdo lol

Hi all,

I’m having a curious moment. I have been hooking up with a 21M and he has a huge fixation on oral things. We have both entered territory that has crossed the feelings boundary. But, I’ve never had a man be so obsessed with HEAVY tongue action in making out, and exploring every inch of my mouth with his tongue. He is OBSESSED with giving me head and loves to have me suck his fingers. Recently we started face fucking and he loved all of it. He also physically used his dick to feel around in my mouth which I’ve never had?

I’ve never had anyone be so fixed on anything oral related. What does this mean? We both are in agreement that the sex we have had has been the best we’ve ever had, but I’m curious if this is an oral fixation or if it’s something that is common with men? He’s an amazing partner and really prioritizes me each time. I would love some advice about how to please him more with these things and make it even better.

41/M living in a small city Erie,PA.... getting back on the dating scene and was wondering if I could get an introduction into the best techniques, books, etc.... nothing extensive but I'm looking for a solid base of universal "rules" really anything that genuinely helps. I'm looking to break an embarrassingly long dry spell but not with just some sloppy bottom of the barrel type, thanks ahead of time for the great advice!

Im a man (28). I want to get my body count up, it's for a reason. I'm trying to get 30 +. Can anyone achieve this in 3 months? Im not talking about one night stands, I'm have skills in flirting but many girls will know i want a fling. Does lot of compliment do the trick cuz i dont give out compliments like that. Anyone know any ways ? How much did ya'll get your body count up in 3 months time ?

So, what’s been your most memorable hookup? I’m 19 and just starting to explore the casual scene, and I want to know—what made it unforgettable for you? Was it a wild night, a funny twist, or an unexpected connection? Share your best stories and let’s swap some inspo!

I (F,22) and a guy I met that goes to another college (M, 22) had the most intimate sex last night. We both made it clear before hand that it was a hookup as I live in another town and was visiting a friend for the weekend. We had met early on during the day and ended up chatting non stop for several hours. We went to a party and ended up hooking up. This sex lasted several hours (it ended up being like three hours long) of stopping and starting again.

I had the most intense orgasms of my life and had several back to back, and several that lasted long periods of time. He was pretty much entirely focused on me. I focused on him for a while with some very dedicated head, (he had never really had before I guess) which he said is a very vulnerable thing. I ended up being unable to ride him because I just kept coming and it made my legs literally stop working. He was more than understanding and reassured me that he was more very fulfilled because I was taken care of. The aftercare was wonderful, full of intimate making out and cuddling. We had some very vulnerable conversations, asked a lot of deep questions about each other, did a bit of trauma dumping. I have never had such amazing sex or amazing aftercare. I’ve had great sex and great aftercare, but nothing to this extent. It felt incredibly intimate and the chemistry with this person was amazing. I’ve never been able to just pick a person from a crowd, tell myself I want to get to know them, have amazing conversation, and seal the deal. All of my relationships have just kinda fallen into place. I’ve had intimate sex, done hookups, done fwb. They were all great partners and prioritized my pleasure. But nothing felt like this one though.

A small part of me is sad because I know that we would never work. He lives four hours away and both of us discussed the fact that we are emotionally not ready for a relationship and are getting over our exes. I’ve hooked up with other people since that ex and he has too. However, his hookup count is low (like mine) and this doesn’t seem to be a normal occurrence for him.

I’ve never had that level of chemistry. Never had that level of intimacy. I feel like a standard was truly set for me with how sex should be, what true spark attraction and chemistry should feel like I am returning to his town in a few weeks for another event, and have considered reaching out again so we can share another evening. Can anyone talk to me about their experiences with intimate hookups like that? Is it possible he felt something there? I just need to talk to people about the situation. I don’t understand men and need to know if this is something that is normal.

Throw-away for obvious reasons. 50F, left my bf of 4 years because he didn't treat me right, that was about 2 months ago. I just want one night to get my hormones straight again. I've never had an std and don't want one, so how to go about this safely??

I split with my GF over a year ago and needed time to heal, but I've gotten to the point where I feel an overwhelming need to get off. I've never really been into casual sex, but it might be time to try. I'm just venting I guess.

I know lots of people who hate dating apps and prefer to stay off them (mostly women), but then are also open to meeting people spontaneously. I often get suggested profiles on insta of people I might know or are in my city and I wanted more of this.

So I put together a little tool to help people discover potential friends or romantic interests on insta within their own city, with plans to implement many features to assist them along the way in the future. A little while ago I made a post to get some interest and I got hundreds of signups, currently it only works for melbourne (australia) but planning to expand to every city automatically.

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I have been in a relationship with my gf for over 5 years now and for the past two years our sex life has taken a dive. We literally have sex every two weeks. I hate that my sex drive doesn’t match hers. So with that being said I am looking for something in the side to help me out. Most days I feel like I’m going to pop and honestly my hand is getting tired. I don’t want to cheat but damn I want to have more sex then she is willing to give.

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I sometimes think the title of this post to myself. Often it's an internal wish about something I wish someone hot would do to me in bed. Any advice on how to acquire this without A: coming off as desperate or B: putting myself in an unreasonable amount of mortal danger?

I've wanted to explore stuff like it but unsure how or even where to go to try it.

I am trying to find a good hookup site.

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Throwaway.

I'm about an 8, or an 8.5 if I've been working out lately + a fresh hair cut and clothes. As I've come into my own in my mid 30's, I've become more confident and dominant when it comes to women and sex, like I've always wanted to be.

Each separate picture in the link is a different woman that I talked to this week. I've noticed a pattern in the type of woman I like to pull. Submissive woman who need daddies to make them feel fulfilled sexually and mentally. They want to feel sexy, wanted, dominated and yes... used for their bodies. It turns then on and makes them feel good. I know this because I had direct conversations with them about it. Some of them even said they want to date skinny guys because they feel like they can control and "break" them. Power dynamics are real.

The first picture is the very beginning of each conversation. You can tell how willing they are if you approach them in a way that isn't too aggressive, but allows them to hint back at what they want. I also try to get right to the point and send something that tells them that I'm dominate and can handle them (weight on them, arms held down, etc). This combo immediately filters out who I'm looking for without getting reported. You'll also want at least one sexy pic on your profile, showing skin and clear intentions in your profile. If someone starts getting angry, you simply ask them "did you read my profile" and it deescalates the situation immediately.

I've also noticed that many of these women were right before there periods. This is the time frame I've noticed most women are the horniest, due to experience over my lifetime. How do I know for sure? Because a few days after talking to some, they had to wait to meet because they started their periods. A subset of them I believe get grossed out at their behavior after that and unmatched, but it's not most of them.

I met with four of this week and had amazing sex each time. It wasn't slut shaming sessions. It was liberating for both parties to behave in a way that felt amazing to them. They wanted their holes filled and stretched. They wanted cum dripping from them. They begged for it. I made them beg for what they wanted and I gave it to them. We both loved it.

I've learned that a large part of the population is freaks, and that most people don't talk about this openly. I've always heard that, but it was different to experience it.

Women - please don't be ashamed of your desires. There are good people out there who feel the same!

So if all goes well I’m going to be hooking up with a chick I started talking with on here (a bit sketchy I guess maybe?) tonight, but I’ve never gone farther than 2nd base before. Yes that’s right, first time for sex ever and first time hooking up.

On top of all that, she has a breeding kink which on the one hand is a big turn on, but I’m also a little old fashioned I guess (family definitely is), and so part of me is a bit worried I guess if I do manage to knock her up. She doesn’t need me to support the kid financially, but I still feel like I should be a part of the kid’s life (hence the trouble with having an old fashioned family, I don’t know what judgements I’ll get for having a kid way before getting married).

Sorry, I know this is a lot to dump here, so any advice or help is appreciated. It’s essentially 12 hours away from hookup time with her now.

UPDATE: Ended up not happening, she ghosted me ironically enough

Is there any site, app or anything to meet cougars/milfs whatever term, for sex? It’s kind of been a fantasy I guess and I just want to get it out of my system

I am a single guy in his 30s. I had one serious relationship my entire life. In school/university I never had my "party" phase. It was always focus on your career now and worry about sex later.

I think I am missing this in my life. And I know many of you will say its not worth it but I just want to go through this phase once.

I havent had much success on dating apps to find hookups. Tinder doesnt work for me at all. Maybe its just my area ?(Netherlands)

I met one woman last year on okcupid. Thats all. I think I was just lucky.

Any advice on how to find lots of casual sex partners? I want to find partners(women) where we are clear from the start what is the expectation of our connection.

Being honest, how hard or easy do you find it? If you are on a hook-up site right now, could you easily find a female to meet with?

How do you all feel about having sex with a married or attached person without their partner knowing?

On the one hand I feel like it’s not my business, and I’m not responsible for their faithfulness. On the other hand it is participating in someone’s betrayal. I guess for me, if my partner cheats on me it’s 100% on them. The other party doesn’t really matter. Unless I know them.

Hi all, we are a couple from austria (both 23) and we are planning a week long vacation in italy. Our question is if there are hookup sites in italy like we have them in austria where we can just make a post that we would like to blow an other man in our hotel or even for shemale hookups?

Any help would be highly apprecciated <3

We also plan trips to spain and portugal in case someone has info for those countrys, or wants to meet with us^^

I'm 37, active, but I'd say skinny-fat. I could work out more.
I miss the days of being able to jerk off 3 times in a row.

But for the past few month, my libido has dropped.
I literally haven't felt the need to jerk off in months.

2 years ago, I would have sex or jerk off a few times a week.

Now, nothing.

I talked to my doctor and got my blood tested. I have fairly low testosterone and my doctor prescribed Clomid.

The endocrinologist said everything was fine.

Is there anything else I should do???