/r/LetsGetLaid

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Casual sex, hookup discussion and advice. A place to share with other people who are interested. For personal ads, please do not post on this subreddit and instead make your way to r/DirtyR4R

This sub is for those of us who enjoy or would like to enjoy the wonders of casual sex and hookup culture. We welcome advice, discussion, stories, questions, anything having to do with getting laid. We're an inclusive and friendly sub, and this isn't the place for personal attacks or bigotry of any kind.

We created this subreddit because we were unhappy with the terminology and approach that dominates traditional "PUA culture". In this sub, we are kind, respectful, love people of every gender and sexuality, we like feminism, we are humanists, we are the "good ones". If you identify with that, then you are one of us. This community is designed from scratch to be welcoming to all; male, female or otherwise; straight, queer or otherwise; if you're interested in getting laid this is a happy and safe home for you.

"Hey everybody, we're all gonna get laid!"

The Rules

Do not hesitate to click "report" if you want mods to review a comment or submission.

  1. No bigotry. Sexism, racism, homophobia, transphobia, biphobia, polyphobia, etc. etc. is all a bannable offense, don't do it.
  2. Even though we're talking about hookup, please do not creep on people. This includes soliciting nudes, being crude to people, harassing, and sending unwanted PMs. If someone from this sub is pestering you, please report it to us and the admins.
  3. No personal attacks, name calling, or derogatory language. If you get into a disagreement, please keep it cordial, we want to keep this place friendly and light.
  4. No shaming. If someone's lifestyle is different than yours, you are expected to be tolerant and open-minded. Any slut or prude shaming will be dealt with, we don't want to see any words like "disgusting" bandied about.
  5. Keep it on topic.
  6. Don't troll. Duh.
  7. If you post a story, make sure it includes some advice or discussion material. This is not a bragging platform.
  8. No r4r type posts. While this subreddit is about getting laid, it's not a board for advertising one's self. Try /r/r4r or /r/dirtyr4r.
  9. No photos for rating. If you want to be rated, go to r/amiugly.

Lastly, this isn't quite a rule, but please stay away from PUA language and terminology. Our vision is to build a healthy new sex-positive culture and terminology as an alternative to that one!

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What’s Your Most Unforgettable Hookup Story? Let’s Hear It!

So, what’s been your most memorable hookup? I’m 19 and just starting to explore the casual scene, and I want to know—what made it unforgettable for you? Was it a wild night, a funny twist, or an unexpected connection? Share your best stories and let’s swap some inspo!

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2024/10/30
04:16 UTC

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What’s your wildest hookup story?

Alright, spill it! What’s ur craziest hookup story? I’m 19 and diving into the casual scene, so I want to know what made it unforgettable for you! Did you have a wild night, a funny mishap, or an unexpected connection??? (trigger to know it lol) Share your wildest moments, and let’s inspire each other to make some epic memories

4 Comments
2024/10/30
00:55 UTC

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Looking for a woman in Upper, CT or MA who peggs.

I'd like to get pegged by a woman with experience. 😍 My girlfriend used to do it to me a lot and I loved it.

0 Comments
2024/10/29
04:33 UTC

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I had the most intimate sex of my life from a hookup

I (F,22) and a guy I met that goes to another college (M, 22) had the most intimate sex last night. We both made it clear before hand that it was a hookup as I live in another town and was visiting a friend for the weekend. We had met early on during the day and ended up chatting non stop for several hours. We went to a party and ended up hooking up. This sex lasted several hours (it ended up being like three hours long) of stopping and starting again.

I had the most intense orgasms of my life and had several back to back, and several that lasted long periods of time. He was pretty much entirely focused on me. I focused on him for a while with some very dedicated head, (he had never really had before I guess) which he said is a very vulnerable thing. I ended up being unable to ride him because I just kept coming and it made my legs literally stop working. He was more than understanding and reassured me that he was more very fulfilled because I was taken care of. The aftercare was wonderful, full of intimate making out and cuddling. We had some very vulnerable conversations, asked a lot of deep questions about each other, did a bit of trauma dumping. I have never had such amazing sex or amazing aftercare. I’ve had great sex and great aftercare, but nothing to this extent. It felt incredibly intimate and the chemistry with this person was amazing. I’ve never been able to just pick a person from a crowd, tell myself I want to get to know them, have amazing conversation, and seal the deal. All of my relationships have just kinda fallen into place. I’ve had intimate sex, done hookups, done fwb. They were all great partners and prioritized my pleasure. But nothing felt like this one though.

A small part of me is sad because I know that we would never work. He lives four hours away and both of us discussed the fact that we are emotionally not ready for a relationship and are getting over our exes. I’ve hooked up with other people since that ex and he has too. However, his hookup count is low (like mine) and this doesn’t seem to be a normal occurrence for him.

I’ve never had that level of chemistry. Never had that level of intimacy. I feel like a standard was truly set for me with how sex should be, what true spark attraction and chemistry should feel like I am returning to his town in a few weeks for another event, and have considered reaching out again so we can share another evening. Can anyone talk to me about their experiences with intimate hookups like that? Is it possible he felt something there? I just need to talk to people about the situation. I don’t understand men and need to know if this is something that is normal.

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2024/10/28
03:05 UTC

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Could really use some advice

I'm a college student studying accounting. I’m half German and half Asian, and I grew up in a strict Catholic household, which has made me curious about exploring my sexuality.

I haven't had many opportunities to date due to my conservative upbringing, but I’m eager to learn and connect with new people. What advice do you have for someone looking to explore their sexuality while navigating a more restrictive background?

If u have any tips on approaching dating or finding the right connections would be greatly appreciated!

3 Comments
2024/10/27
22:43 UTC

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What’s a good place to find sex

What’s a good place to lose my virginity, I’m looking to finally experience sex I’m stressed been working a lot lately I’m young I’m pretty much in my prime just looking for a place or woman to sleep with.

10 Comments
2024/10/25
22:10 UTC

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50 and needing a little something

Throw-away for obvious reasons. 50F, left my bf of 4 years because he didn't treat me right, that was about 2 months ago. I just want one night to get my hormones straight again. I've never had an std and don't want one, so how to go about this safely??

15 Comments
2024/10/24
01:23 UTC

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I wanna hook up with one of my student’s dads

I dont know how to do that, but I cant take this anymore! Any advice?

Obs: He is in this subreddit! lol

4 Comments
2024/10/15
13:40 UTC

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Been over a year

I split with my GF over a year ago and needed time to heal, but I've gotten to the point where I feel an overwhelming need to get off. I've never really been into casual sex, but it might be time to try. I'm just venting I guess.

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2024/10/15
12:56 UTC

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I don't know how it happened, but I fell for a married man

I'm such a mess. I'm 28, single mom, and I've fallen for this guy...hard. He's amazing, everything I've ever wanted. Funny, smart, successful, and he makes me feel like I'm the only woman in the world. Except, there's one HUGE problem. He's married. I know, I know. Totally cliché, and I should know better. My ex cheated on me, and I swore I'd never be "that woman." But here I am, totally head over heels for someone who's already taken. Part of me just wants to walk away, forget he exists. But there's this other part, this stupid, hopeful part, that thinks maybe, just maybe, he feels something for me too. I catch him looking at me sometimes, and there's this undeniable chemistry between us. I hate feeling like this. The guilt is eating me alive. I don't want to break up a marriage, but I also can't deny how I feel. I don't even know what I'm looking for here, maybe just to vent. Anyone else been in this situation? Any advice? Or am I just destined to screw things up again?

10 Comments
2024/10/10
13:49 UTC

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I created a tool which helps folks find friends and romantic interest on Insta.

I know lots of people who hate dating apps and prefer to stay off them (mostly women), but then are also open to meeting people spontaneously. I often get suggested profiles on insta of people I might know or are in my city and I wanted more of this.

So I put together a little tool to help people discover potential friends or romantic interests on insta within their own city, with plans to implement many features to assist them along the way in the future. A little while ago I made a post to get some interest and I got hundreds of signups, currently it only works for melbourne (australia) but planning to expand to every city automatically.

https://app.useinstamap.com

If you’re interested, there’s a button to put your email down for a limited group of testers. Or add me on discord and I'll invite you to a group of early access: agentmoney

1 Comment
2024/10/08
10:31 UTC

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She won’t fuck me

I have been in a relationship with my gf for over 5 years now and for the past two years our sex life has taken a dive. We literally have sex every two weeks. I hate that my sex drive doesn’t match hers. So with that being said I am looking for something in the side to help me out. Most days I feel like I’m going to pop and honestly my hand is getting tired. I don’t want to cheat but damn I want to have more sex then she is willing to give.

13 Comments
2024/10/03
21:52 UTC

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2 Comments
2024/09/10
20:09 UTC

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Break me!

I sometimes think the title of this post to myself. Often it's an internal wish about something I wish someone hot would do to me in bed. Any advice on how to acquire this without A: coming off as desperate or B: putting myself in an unreasonable amount of mortal danger?

7 Comments
2024/09/07
00:35 UTC

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F 19 UK … Would a man want to have sex with a girl with self harm raised scars? (thighs/arms) i feel really insecure about my body and feel that that no man wants me because of it

32 Comments
2024/08/20
15:50 UTC

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How is casual sex? Is it easy?

I've wanted to explore stuff like it but unsure how or even where to go to try it.

7 Comments
2024/08/15
15:01 UTC

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Ever wonder How many women would have a 3 some

3 Comments
2024/08/15
01:39 UTC

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Is CasualSexOnly a legit hookup site with barely any scammers?

I am trying to find a good hookup site.

11 Comments
2024/07/20
21:40 UTC

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[NSFW] A good looking, dominant man's social experiment on Tinder this last week

https://imgur.com/a/RHV2Adn

Throwaway.

I'm about an 8, or an 8.5 if I've been working out lately + a fresh hair cut and clothes. As I've come into my own in my mid 30's, I've become more confident and dominant when it comes to women and sex, like I've always wanted to be.

Each separate picture in the link is a different woman that I talked to this week. I've noticed a pattern in the type of woman I like to pull. Submissive woman who need daddies to make them feel fulfilled sexually and mentally. They want to feel sexy, wanted, dominated and yes... used for their bodies. It turns then on and makes them feel good. I know this because I had direct conversations with them about it. Some of them even said they want to date skinny guys because they feel like they can control and "break" them. Power dynamics are real.

The first picture is the very beginning of each conversation. You can tell how willing they are if you approach them in a way that isn't too aggressive, but allows them to hint back at what they want. I also try to get right to the point and send something that tells them that I'm dominate and can handle them (weight on them, arms held down, etc). This combo immediately filters out who I'm looking for without getting reported. You'll also want at least one sexy pic on your profile, showing skin and clear intentions in your profile. If someone starts getting angry, you simply ask them "did you read my profile" and it deescalates the situation immediately.

I've also noticed that many of these women were right before there periods. This is the time frame I've noticed most women are the horniest, due to experience over my lifetime. How do I know for sure? Because a few days after talking to some, they had to wait to meet because they started their periods. A subset of them I believe get grossed out at their behavior after that and unmatched, but it's not most of them.

I met with four of this week and had amazing sex each time. It wasn't slut shaming sessions. It was liberating for both parties to behave in a way that felt amazing to them. They wanted their holes filled and stretched. They wanted cum dripping from them. They begged for it. I made them beg for what they wanted and I gave it to them. We both loved it.

I've learned that a large part of the population is freaks, and that most people don't talk about this openly. I've always heard that, but it was different to experience it.

Women - please don't be ashamed of your desires. There are good people out there who feel the same!

4 Comments
2024/07/10
16:57 UTC

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First time help

So if all goes well I’m going to be hooking up with a chick I started talking with on here (a bit sketchy I guess maybe?) tonight, but I’ve never gone farther than 2nd base before. Yes that’s right, first time for sex ever and first time hooking up.

On top of all that, she has a breeding kink which on the one hand is a big turn on, but I’m also a little old fashioned I guess (family definitely is), and so part of me is a bit worried I guess if I do manage to knock her up. She doesn’t need me to support the kid financially, but I still feel like I should be a part of the kid’s life (hence the trouble with having an old fashioned family, I don’t know what judgements I’ll get for having a kid way before getting married).

Sorry, I know this is a lot to dump here, so any advice or help is appreciated. It’s essentially 12 hours away from hookup time with her now.

UPDATE: Ended up not happening, she ghosted me ironically enough

6 Comments
2024/07/04
12:49 UTC

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Idk where else to ask

Is there any site, app or anything to meet cougars/milfs whatever term, for sex? It’s kind of been a fantasy I guess and I just want to get it out of my system

8 Comments
2024/06/29
19:34 UTC

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How do I find a lot of casual sex to get this out of my system?

I am a single guy in his 30s. I had one serious relationship my entire life. In school/university I never had my "party" phase. It was always focus on your career now and worry about sex later.

I think I am missing this in my life. And I know many of you will say its not worth it but I just want to go through this phase once.

I havent had much success on dating apps to find hookups. Tinder doesnt work for me at all. Maybe its just my area ?(Netherlands)

I met one woman last year on okcupid. Thats all. I think I was just lucky.

Any advice on how to find lots of casual sex partners? I want to find partners(women) where we are clear from the start what is the expectation of our connection.

33 Comments
2024/06/29
08:12 UTC

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Curious males, using "hook-up" adds, how often do you actually meet with a woman?

Being honest, how hard or easy do you find it? If you are on a hook-up site right now, could you easily find a female to meet with?

10 Comments
2024/06/25
10:51 UTC

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Cheating

How do you all feel about having sex with a married or attached person without their partner knowing?

On the one hand I feel like it’s not my business, and I’m not responsible for their faithfulness. On the other hand it is participating in someone’s betrayal. I guess for me, if my partner cheats on me it’s 100% on them. The other party doesn’t really matter. Unless I know them.

19 Comments
2024/06/17
09:34 UTC

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Buffalo NY53 male

7 years ago or so I have a very easy time meeting alike myself married woman for long term flings seems my luck has ran out any advice on finding the same situation i am not big on having multiple partners just one in the same situation

4 Comments
2024/06/15
13:59 UTC

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Help for Italy / Spain / Portugal

Hi all, we are a couple from austria (both 23) and we are planning a week long vacation in italy. Our question is if there are hookup sites in italy like we have them in austria where we can just make a post that we would like to blow an other man in our hotel or even for shemale hookups?

Any help would be highly apprecciated <3

We also plan trips to spain and portugal in case someone has info for those countrys, or wants to meet with us^^

5 Comments
2024/05/31
21:27 UTC

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37male / libido has torpedoed

I'm 37, active, but I'd say skinny-fat. I could work out more.
I miss the days of being able to jerk off 3 times in a row.

But for the past few month, my libido has dropped.
I literally haven't felt the need to jerk off in months.

2 years ago, I would have sex or jerk off a few times a week.

Now, nothing.

I talked to my doctor and got my blood tested. I have fairly low testosterone and my doctor prescribed Clomid.

The endocrinologist said everything was fine.

Is there anything else I should do???

8 Comments
2024/05/26
19:31 UTC

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Hard to find actually good men nowadays

24 Comments
2024/05/22
03:30 UTC

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Should I abstain from kissing and/or sex after protected sex with massage parlor worker?

2 Comments
2024/05/17
01:49 UTC

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A family members friend

Every year my cousin has this memorial day barbecue her husband’s sister is always there and shes soo sexy she knows i find her attractive but she’s never been available until now! We live a few hours apart from each other this is the only occasion we see each other is there something special i can do to make this happen?

3 Comments
2024/05/16
08:27 UTC

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