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Mature enough to admit that l've had some toxic traits myself, I treated people bad when I wasn't happy, l've hurt people because I was hurting, owning up to being the bad guy is one of the hardest things l've ever had to do I hate being wrong but I'm working on me & being better

How do you guys feel after ghosting someone.

Idek why I’m feeling awful about ghosting them

Have you ever seen these men sitting somewhere around a spot in your area of residence more so if you are in an urban area? They usually look so weak and frustrated as if something is bothering them? Or maybe waiting for hope that never comes?

Leo nimeanguka na wa area yangu. I decided to used 4k our of 30k I earned easily on something positive to a man, men get the least appreciation.

So I left the house after a short torrent that didn't wet much of the road niakenda kwa joint. I blended easily with them in stories nikiskia vile wanafikiria in life. Our stories went from sports to politics to religion to money and family. When I was sure of the social acceptance, I left kidogo tu to order choma ya lunch. Enough beef for 6 was 1500 na ugali nzuri ya western.

I came back, nakawaambia tuende lunch. They didn't hesitate. Huko tukakula vizuri na Delmonte juu . After that nikawapea kila mtu 400 each. They were just happy and I feel good about myself too.

I have a product that I need to get on Jumia, the process is complicated and tedious so if you have any experience I’d like to hire you to help facilitate the process.

Please DM me if you’re interested and capable, thanks!

I just recently graduated with a degree that will allow me to work in the aviation industry but I've noticed that there are hardly any jobs advertised online unlike other careers/positions. I'm guessing it's because there aren't many companies to work with in Kenya.

Anyways, for guys in careers that are quite limited in Kenya, how do you go about looking for work? I'm looking for smart strategies I can leverage.

Also, if you have connections with people in higher positions in companies based at Wilson and JKIA, please DM and help a girl out - thank you.

I'm sure we all have these moments and many ignore them while others reflect on these moments right before they break up. Lets hear them.

Is God A man?

Check out NairoBopFiesta community while at it.

Jambo jambo, looking for a professional German teacher who can help me prep for my German A2 exam.

I don’t want to attend German classes since my work shifts might correlate to the classes times. I want someone who will be available at my convenient. Please DM me and mention everything I need to know. Thanks.

USIU - United States International University Africa

Looking to connect with someone who’s attending USIU currently or in the past.

Thank you.

I'm looking to find where I can get a collection of books,photos,articles,etc about kenyan history from time immemorial. Any leads especially online would be greatly appreciated.

Leo I met the kindest soul and my heart was full. Was in Nakuru earlier today,nilikuwa stage ya mat za Prestige Shuttle za kuja Nairobi,so after I get all comfortable nikingoja mat ijae, I start to feel like I need to pee.Nikaanza kugoogle "public toilets near me", juu I haven't been to Nakuru before, sijui ziko wapi.

I get no results,so I cross over and asked a lady ako hapo kwa Mpesa where the washrooms are around hiyo area,she points me to the direction cheerfully, like ushaiona mtu tu anataka usaidike,she was that person. So I try opening my bags zipper nione kama I have coins,my zipper gets stuck.She sees me struggling and gives me 10bob akasema "enda tu kwanza,ukirudi unipatie".

For me that was beautiful.Juu she just trusted me with her 10bob. God bless her heart aki.

PS:Nilimrudishia 10bob yake nikisema asante mingi sana.

Talking stage

What do you people talk about during the talking stage, I met someone here last month and so far so. She's someone I'd love to grow old with hopefully. Problem is I'm an ambivert who leans mostly on the introverted side. As an introvert, I have the JOMO but with this person it's different.

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As much as the dreams and aspirations of our president are sound some of them are not feasible in the long run. Rigathi on Sunday told NTV that building a house is a personal thing the government should not force it on us. I agree with him.

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I dont need to smoke kishash to know it bad. People did not reject the building of an airport. People rejected the use of that money because we saw that IT MAY NOT BE THE BEST USE of money at that particular time. This semester students lost up to 21 days of study in some universities because of the lecturers strike.

I saw this post on Facebook; the last part after the emoji is Luo, directly translated to "I am sad for them" If your family treats you this way, should you attend these December family gatherings?

So, last week i was on my way to town from lavington, and this guy who was a class ahead of me in high school comes aboard and I instantly recognize him (like 9yrs later). So we have the usual chit chat, and turns out he runs some agency. He asks me what i do and if my line of work could apply at his agency.

So after the discussion, before we exchange contacts, he hits me with "btw unaezanitext your number kwa any of my SM pages, nakuaga ever active, my number is all over." Then I'm like nigga! you're literally here, I'm not trynna eat into your company time, tf! 😂😂😂.

To start off, this mostly happens to men and I wanted to create awareness. I call it THE RESURRECTION OF MEN.

It'll be a bit long so bear with me😂

My friend recently told me he's addicted to porn and masturbation. Now, having done some few milkings in the past, I told him to just quit. Mzee akasema anajaribu hawachi. He was a one round specialist but akaongeza gear ikaenda hadi 8 or even 15. It even escalated to a point where anaeza nyonga publicly jameni. Kuuliza publicly aje unaskia kwa mat, public toilets or even in the office. He knew he had an issue saazile mrija iliturn colour blue (at first ata nlishangaa kwani rada ni gani but after research I realised that it's because alinyonga akapata bruises)

I did not have difficulties stopping but this raised concerns. Now, being a good friend, I went and researched about porn, related addictions and from what I found out I just wanted to openly talk about this to whom that may be concerned. (i'll make it as short as I can)

Now, porn addiction is REAL, mostly happens to men and has devastating consequences such as inability to focus, lack of ambition, loss of memory, hair loss and if that isn't enough, you'll get Erectile Dysfunction and also Anorgasmia(In short njoti inapotea), just to name a few.

How can you know you're addicted??

1. You are compulsed to see or do it

2. You can't control yourself to stop it

3. You know it has these kinds of consequences but unajiguza guza bado wewe mzee😂😂

4. Cravings(mental or physical)

I'll start off by saying the society nowadays has normalised this from online leaks, onlyfans models and even guys openly talking about kunyonga adi uangukie vyombo, ati lazima ujue uko on😂😂, which is nonsense but anyway hivo ndio unajua wakenya tunaelekea kubaya really really fast.

Now, let me get you into the game: Porn addiction has serious effects on the brain and can be categorized into 3(nitaongea in layman's terms mostly)

1. Sensitization. Normally, when you achieve things, you normally feel good, especially after hard work. If you like what you are doing, you'll probably do it again. The brain iko systemized in a way that you'll always want more than feeling satisfied. In porn or masturbation, Orgasm feels really good, and is easy to achieve. So if you do this continously you'll find that the brain forms a pathway to use porn or masturbation as a getway to relief, and you can't get enough of it.

2. De-sensitization. When you do masturbate or see porn, you'll find out that one round isn't enough or one video isn't enough. so you'll end up adding more rounds to feel "good" or in porn you'll find that you'll start watching other categories of porn to find the "perfect" video to end up with. In short, utaongeza more rounds or videos to get the same pleasure as before. This leads to the brain building up a tolerance system and this now has some effects like Kunyonga hizo rounds kumi, watching more porn(even escalating to extreme porn), masturbating without porn, developing some weird kinks and fetishes and other really bad stuff.

3.Hypofrontality. Now this is the reasoning part of the brain. This is the part responsible for making you second-guess things when the deal is too good, helps you set disciplines, gives you ambition, etc. Now porn/masturbation makes one to be sensitized to a point where you honestly know this is bad, but you can't stop. Unajaribu kuacha for a week, then something happens and you're back again.

A quick side note. Ukiamua kuacha, acha completely. intermittent use really hurts the brain. And this now mostly shows that even if you only watched porn twice or once or even masturbated, if you do it ati once per week ama per month ama per year. You really are addicted and to prove this right, you'll know how hard it is to stop.

Like any other addiction, kuna withdrawal symptoms and you'll mostly realise that:

1. You'll have strong cravings. Literally strong

2. How difficult it is to stop (mostly you try, then relapse, then guilt, then relapse, then detox and the cycle continues)

3. How bad it feels to give it up but you can't.

4. Withdrawal symptoms can worsen for a while before the brain restores balance. It includes Insomnia, depression, anxiety and even mood swings etc.

But there is GOOD NEWS. Every addiction has been learned and it can be unlearned. Now mostly this is the hardest part. You see, older guys (akina boomers and millenials) mostly are not affected by this. Most porn sites started on 2000's nauko and for them, three months is ok and they go back to normal real quick. And hawakua na hii mambo ya 4G internet.

Now for Gen Z's and other current generations, porn is literally everywhere in any social media site, with as low as 10bob ya bundles, unapata high speed 4G internet jameni. To make the matters worse is if you saw porn before puberty, chances of stopping are very minimal. Infact I read that it took one around 3 years to recover from all this. The effect of porn to a young developing brain is massive compared to someone who discovered porn or masturbation after marriage.

But as I said, this can all be unlearned. It will take time but I know whoever is affected in this has some information to keep him/her going.

I successfully helped my friend overcome this and now he is learning new habits, is positive towards life, was an introvert who turned to a pick up artist😂😂, started going to the gym and developed a sense of direction. Life is really worth living ladies and gentlemen. CHANGE OR PERISH!!

I have seen a post about people not having kids unless they are moneyed enough. Well, I think that is not correct and it is very untrue to think that money will solve your parenting problem. We all want what is best for our children but we must be very careful with that so that we do not end up having weak children. As far as it is, if you give your child everything or most of the things, they will not know how to work for shit. Ain't the whole reason of parenting to prepare kids for the world? Kids need to know that some things are given and some are fought for, earned or even taken.

Well, money is important for raising kids, but we have created a culture, where we assume money can buy us out of everything. That is why you will see parents over-compensating things like absence, rude behavior to kids, and even toxicity with money. It is also wrong to believe that the well-being of children is only when the parents have money. A lady like Eve Mungai saying she cannot have kids because she does not have the money, to me is alarming, even for ladies like that. If you cannot be responsible for anything that is not you with the little you have, trust me, even with all the millions you cannot be responsible for anything. Money is never enough guys, lets strive to give our kids something more valuable, whether money will be there or not.

The most important thing you can give your kid, is being present, purposeful and according them a healthy social life. That's it. Money cannot buy that one. If your kid does not have a social life, even with all the money, the kid will likely have anxiety and will skew towards social awkwardness. They will not even want to risk anything. If you are not present, you will have a human you don't know, hence the famous phrase, "mtoto wangu hawezifanya kitu kama hiyo", well "anaweza", na "amefanya". You can have kids the way you want and you can choose not to have, but trust me, if your metric is money, then you have to be prepared for what that comes with.

A student was killed by his girlfriend days before his graduation, allegedly. Earlier this yea there were protests were held in Nairobi against Femicide. How comes at this early stage I do not here much "noise" from our celebs on the same matter. It will be unfortunate to start speaking about it when the cases begin to increase.

Kindly be checking on your health. Constant check ups and exercise is very important. Don't take your current situation for granted. Anything can happen.

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Nigerians discovered boris fx and other generic stock vfx now we can't rest on tiktok and social media. It's the most hilarious thing ever seeing juju content on my fyp. Enyewe we can't compete with Hollywood lakini africans are naturally funny it's like seeing first humans discover fire and play around with it.

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I'm just going to say it. I've been on Reddit for years, lost my previous account and this is one of my favourite apps. I love this sub Reddit but lately most posts huku ni 19-23 yr olds.

I have nothing against the age group but I love reading posts from people 25 and above, recommended some subs which have the same kind of conversations but from a bit more matured audience.