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Those who listen to motivation speeches, there's this dude 'Jordan Peterson' you ask him a simple straightforward question like 'What fuels motivation' he goes in circles explaining why an isosceles triangle can be used to accurately measure the Bermuda triangle and how it equates to motivation that ancient Egyptians used to build the pyramids and how you can apply that said fuel in your life. . Lol I hate this guy tbh, I prefer the likes of Eddie Pinero

Heh guys. You're not gonna believe this one 😂 So a few months back, I was in shagz. One hot day I was taking a walk with my uncle. He's the history book of our family. When he was growing up he always took an interest in asking the elders in our family about family history before they died, so that we can know who exactly is in our blood line. Thanks to this, we can track our history back to the late 1600s which I think is pretty cool.

So he randomly starts telling me about my grandfather's (his dad's) family tree. He keeps going and going and I'm wondering why he's doing this cause I didn't ask. So he's naming people, telling me their parents names, how they met, and proceeds to go upwards like that. He keeps goinnng and goiiing. After about literally 15 minutes of basically reciting our family tree, he finally stops. In my head I'm like "thank God". Tell me why this man proceeds to say "yeah so that's how we're related to Idi Amin". WHAT. Ati nani?? When I tell you my jaw DROPPED. I said WHOO?

Honestly I miss my life before I learned that information cause honestly what the fuck. The Ugandan ancestry doesn't surprise me because Siaya is quite close to Uganda. But dude I felt so disgusting. Even as I type this out I feel so bad I'm distantly related to such an evil person. So please, to make me feel slightly better though I don't think anyone here will top this, who's that one shady relative in your family? What did they do?😂😂

Alright, I gotta ask—why do so many Kenyan men seem to be obsessed with haga nono? Like, the bigger, the better—fat ass, massive breasts, the whole package. It honestly feels weird to me. Growing up in Asia, being overweight was seen as unattractive. Yeah, being thicc in the right places was fine, but once it crossed into straight-up obesity, it wasn’t considered appealing.

So when I see this obsession here, I wonder—is this actually what most men in Kenya prefer, or is it just a loud minority? Because if you compare the average Kenyan girl’s body to the average Korean or Japanese girl, the difference is insane. Over there, slim and fit is the standard, while here, it’s like size is everything, even when it stops being about curves and just turns into being overweight.

I’m asking this kindly, and I don’t want to offend any natively-born Kenyans—just genuinely curious about this shift in preferences.

I can't be the only chile attracted to mid ugly dudes...they have this thing about them...i can't even explain it..plus they def know how to treat a lady...maybe not all of them buh most of em...What do y'all think??

No right or wrong answers

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I don't post here often but I'd wanted to ask this question: would you snitch on a cheating neighbor to their partner?

I live in a gated community. My neighbors are all good people especially the couple next door. But I think there's something fishy going on.

There is a certain lady who lives in the community who seems awfully close to that couple, especially with the man. They hug and get all touchy touchy. Even the security guards at the gate think it's wierd.

When the wife isn't around I noticed the lady spends a lot of time in their apartment; even in the late hours of the night.

It's just a hunch but I was wondering; if they were really having an affair would it be prudent for me to inform the wife? Because this, infact, is none of my business.

Edit: it's none of my business, I know.I'm not snitching and I'd never do it, just wondering if others would.

If it was a weekday, prolly attending lectures, if it was a weekday then definitely in my small single room watching anime. Was I in a relationship? Definitely No. Was I happy? Maybe Yes. Was I ambitious? Most likely no. What was I looking foward to? Maybe nothing

Years down the line, still single, solo in my room, watching anime or sleeping the whole day. I don't cook well for myself. I just eat for the sake of surviving. Gave up on love. Never been to valentines, never received any gifts or even a goodmorning text.

How do I feel about it? Some days I'm jealous. Some I'm lonely but most of the Time, na exist tu. Niko tu. Nikubreathe tu na kunyamba. Do I have ambitions? I don't think so. Do I crave something? Definitely yes. I just want to know how people feel when they are hugged from behind. How one feels when they cuddle at night, how it feels to hold hands. How sexual tension feels. How it feels to quarrel and then kiss and make up. Moyo hunichuna nikiona watu wakisema out with my love bla bla bla especially wale wa WhatsApp status posting their cutesy moments.

How it feels to cherish life, be happy about something and look foward to anything.

7 years ago, where were you?

I just want to know if you have ever struggled with insecurity.. So I think i'm pretty (people tell me I even get random compliments from strangers ) not necessary a 10 maybe a 7 or 6 depends but I don't like myself infact part of the reason I decided to stay off the dating scene is because I'm so insecure and I know I will constantly need validation which is not fair to the other person Anyway girl to girl any tips on dealing with insecurity?

Looking to get a graphic design tablet for logo design, posters, and general digital art. I don’t need the most expensive one, but I also don’t want something that’ll break in a few months.

Should I go for XP-Pen, Huion, or is Wacom really worth the extra cash? Also, where’s the best place to buy—Jumia, Kilimall, or would it be better to order from abroad?

Would appreciate any recommendations from people who’ve used them!

Kitambo, before the internet was invented I think thing were quite easier. An average looking girl would accept her hirachy in the dating pool and would easily fall for an average looking man with an average income na vitu ziflow, same applies to less the ones at the bottom of the hirachy.

With the rise of social media, and the glorification of wealth and a top tier lifestyle. Utapata a below average woman consuming too much of this content, everyday bombarded with stories of other women getting a wealthy man, getting the 'princess treatment' how they were on a fancy date, mwingine girlfriend allowance, expensive gifts... It reaches a point she start believing she is entitled to that, kama siyo hivyo acha nikae single. She rises her bar too high, unrealistic expectations that were instilled in her na social media. Its almost delusional, a below average girl feeling entitled to the top 1% of men.

With the rise of porn, utapata a below average man consuming too much of the content. He becomes delusional how easy it is to see a beautiful woman naked, how easy it is to access sexual gratification from beautiful women (9, 10 rating girls) without putting much of an effort. He doesn't see that he has to work himself to the top percentage of men to access that, he believes he is entitled to that. Rising the bar too high.

We have ended up with a society where people are almost delusional. Someone will not commit to someone who he/she does not meet their standards even though in the dating pool they are ranking the same (average looking woman and an average man). Tukona society where its way easy to get sex than getting a genuine relationship, mtu anakudate just for the reason ushikilie hiyo spot as he/she is busy looking for someone to fit their delusional standards..

What are the biggest tech events and conferences happening this year? Looking for the major ones across different fields like AI, cybersecurity, web dev, startups, and all that good stuff. Also, if you’ve got any tentative dates or locations, that’d be super helpful. Just tryna keep up with what’s hot in tech this year!

Are there any devs here that have gone the indie way and made a decent living?

Millennials what's the best advice you can give to Genz and vice versa!! Anything random you never know your advice might be useful to someone out there. I'll go first ; Be the person you needed in life.

Hey guys,

Does anyone know of a good coworking space in Nairobi cbd, not too pricey and with good internet and ergonomic chairs which won't ruin my back?

Cafes don't work for me, I tried.

Thanks!

Listen up, you lazy, entitled bunch. You think the world owes you something just because you're born in Kenya? Newsflash: the only thing this country owes you is the opportunity to work hard and build something for yourself. Stop blaming everything—your circumstances, your family, your "poverty," your “tribe.” No one’s gonna give you a damn thing for free.
What’s the excuse now? Why are we still out here, 2025, crying about corruption, about being “held back,” about how everything is stacked against us? WAKE UP! The only thing holding you back is YOU. Your mentality is your biggest enemy, not the system. That’s the hardest pill to swallow, huh? You want to blame the system, blame the government, blame your lack of opportunities? Nah. That’s weak, bro. You’re just soft and lazy, and that’s why you’re still stuck. The same dude sitting on his couch, complaining about how life’s unfair, is the same dude scrolling through Instagram wishing he had a better life. Yet, when was the last time you went out and actually worked for what you want? When was the last time you invested in yourself? When was the last time you stopped blaming everyone else and took responsibility for your OWN success?

You know what gets me? The audacity. The audacity to sit there, praise other races like they have everything figured out, while you sit in your own ignorance, wasting your potential. “Oh, but they have more opportunities.” Bullshit. They didn’t wait for opportunities to knock—they went out, created them, and ran with it. They didn’t sit around whining about how bad they have it. They fought for what they wanted. But you’re over here, crying about tribalism, complaining about who’s in power, and acting like some victim because things aren’t handed to you on a silver platter.

It’s honestly pathetic. Some of you have a "poor me" mentality and carry it like a badge of honor. Guess what? No one gives a damn. The world doesn’t care about your sob story. You know who doesn’t have the luxury of whining? People who are out here DOING, building, and living. You think the world’s gonna pause and cater to your complaints? Hell no. While you’re whining, someone’s out there grinding harder than you, taking risks, investing, and putting in the hours you’re too scared to put in.

And don’t even get me started on those who worship other races for doing basic stuff like running businesses or getting richer. You praise these folks, thinking they’re somehow more capable than you, while you’re sitting there not even trying to start anything yourself. It’s the most frustrating thing to watch. Why do you think you’re incapable? Because your mama didn’t hand you a silver spoon? So what? Stop making excuses. You’re not special. No one’s gonna hold your hand and drag you to success. Either you get off your lazy ass and build or you stay broke and bitter. The choice is yours. And let me make this clear: No one is coming to save you.

Kenya is where it is because we as a people are complacent. We accept mediocrity, we accept poverty, and we’ve become okay with being stuck. We’re stuck in cycles of self-pity, stuck in ignorance, and stuck in this “I can’t because” mindset. Well, here’s the reality—NO ONE CARES. If you don’t take responsibility for your life, if you don’t LEARN, if you don’t LEVEL UP, nothing’s going to change. The day you stop blaming everyone else for your failure is the day you start growing. Until then? Don’t expect anyone to feel sorry for you.

And you know what’s even worse? The people who’ll attack this post, calling me arrogant, hating because I’m spitting truth, are the same people who’ll sit back, mope, and complain for the next 10 years while the world keeps moving forward without them. You’re mad now? Fine. But remember: change starts with YOU, not the government, not your family, not your tribe. It starts with you looking in the mirror and deciding that today is the day you LEVEL UP.

Stop pretending like you can’t. Stop waiting for a miracle. This is your life—take control, or stay in the same damn hole you’ve been digging for years. Your call.

Sunday for me is a mix of rest, errands, and catching up with life. I usually wake up a bit later than usual, around 8 or 9 AM, and start the day with a simple breakfast—mostly tea and bread, or sometimes mandazi from the local kibanda.

If I’m feeling productive, I’ll do some cleaning or laundry while listening to Classic 105 or a random playlist. By noon, I might step out for a walk or head to church if I’m in the mood. Sundays are also the best days to run errands—less traffic, and the queues at Naivas or Quickmart are shorter.

Lunch is mostly homemade unless I’m feeling lazy, then I’ll grab a plate of chapo ndengu or rice and beans from a vibanda nearby. Afternoons are for chilling, scrolling through my phone, or catching up with friends over a cheap but decent meal in town. Sometimes, if my budget allows, I’ll go to Uhuru Park or just take a random matatu ride to nowhere.

Evenings are slow, maybe a bit of Netflix (or Telegram movie downloads if bundles allow). Dinner is simple—ugali and sukuma or eggs. Then it’s back to scrolling online, over. How are your Sundays?

Guys, is it me ama these days the minisodes are just getting more mini and mini🤦🏻

I have tried three internet company so far. They all have let me down either unstable internet network or no good customer service. Can someone suggest me a good reliable internet company in Mombasa (Kongowea area)? Thanks in advance

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I ask myself why do we ask for accountability, yet we ourselves behave with impunity. Just walk in any Kenyan street and you will see people openly spitting and littering and we expect those who govern us not to spit on us and litter our country with corruption. Most of us may not accept this, but many of us are also very corrupt, and if given the chance, we would also loot like the Kenyattas, Mois and Rutos. We want accountability but we don't want to be accountable. We cannot say Ruto must go only to replace him with another Ruto like Matiang'i, or Kalonzo, or Gachagua. Hii kitu ya selective morality really pisses me off. Ati,"afadhali msee ambaye si corrupt sana kuliko Ruto. Bro hakuna malaika". Bro, a thief is a thief, a tyrant is a tyrant, someone who disobeys court orders today, will disobey court orders tomorrow. And this selective morality ndio inafanya tuwe very intolerant to groups such as LGBTQ and other minority groups. Someone will say he/she has a problem with a gay person living their life because of his/her religious stand, lakini utampata Friday akikata ama akikulana (not all of them do so, but you get the point). Huko X, Kimuzi amesema he doesn't believe in God, and I'm telling you, people have been very intolerant to his opinion. I think Kenyans are not ready for change. But that doesn't mean we shouldn't try. I say we all try to be better as individuals, and let's hope that individual change will ultimately lead to greater societal change.

Im seated next to this man kwa mat who smell amazing jameni naeza fika na yeye hadi mahali anaenda.

If you take your time to smell good. God bless you aki😭❤️

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For context I am talking about 50yr+ men trying to pick up 20yr old girls.

I know there's been a kind of wababaz epidemic, where early 20s chicks are in some kind arrangement with older men that mostly involves money. And whenever people talk about these dynamics they almost always blame the girl or call her names.

The other day while I was waiting for my manz in a restaurant huko westi, and older dude came to sit across from me unsolicited even though I kept insisting I am waiting for someone. He was talking about how his marriage is terrible and how he just wants to feel alive again. While flexing his financial status. Honestly this guy was pretty charming and I realized why girls are roped in. But I couldn't help but notice the judgemental stares I would get from other women.

And I was wondering, why are we so quick to judge the younger girls. Don't people know that the men are the ones grooming them? Mbona a man is so comfortable flirting with these girls? Why is it never the man's fault?

Alafu, where is the audacity coming from? Yaani ukona pete na bado uta approach dem? I don't understand how comfortable these wababaz are. Ata kwa club, it's assured the first person to hit on you is a man older than your father. It's sickening to think that these men probably have daughters the same age.

This isn't the first time something like that has happened. Kwa mat on my way to town, a significantly older dude paid for my fare without asking and so I felt obligated to talk to him the whole time. Kwa mat🤦. It's insane.

What happened to shame? Or even discretion?

Alafu, ata wewe just be real, mtu akuje akuambie they will pay your rent and send you money monthly if you agree to be in an arrangement with them. How many of you would say no? Expecially kama umetoka TU campus na Bado huna job and going back home is not an option. I mean I get the motivation on the girls part. But I don't understand from the men's perspective. Coz this girl is a child. In most ways that matter. Already ukona watoto why would you want more. It's sick

I have a one bedroom house (SQ) for rent in South C, rent is 15k per month and deposit is 15k. I’m available for viewings from Wednesday. DM for pictures as I cannot attach yet.

Edit: It’s letting me put the pictures as comments.