Hey guys, I am wondering if you have ever been here... I finished writing the manuscript for a book idea I had where the main lead is based off of me, doing and choosing what i would and i ended up getting her killed due to her choices and when asking chat gpt to analyze the story and tell me what went wrong and why did she die, it was because she apparently was too empathic and selfless... She shouldn't have put her needs second. I feel like crap. I killed her and I feel like a fool and an idiot cuz if i were to think again what i would do in those situations, i would do it all over again like that and thus get myself killed again.

I dont even know how to express what i feel... I am just wondering if you also has stories in your head where the protagonist was based off of you and it didnt end well. Did you ever manage to create stories where it would end well for a change? 🥺 How? What did you do?

Book Summary:

What is the origin of Consciousness? In this book, I tackle this idea with an imagination experiment between first person and third person. This experiment results in both a weak and strong argument. The results from the strong argument of the experiment provide supportive evidence for an all stimuli conscious world. I coin this the Condition. The Condition being the infinite set of stimuli you can experience. This experiment supports that the Condition is conscious, all stimuli are conscious. The Condition is special because it bears witness to our reality. The Condition explains the truncation of stimuli from infinite set to finite set. This is important as it argues for a non FOMO (Fallacy of Misplaced Objectivity) theory of consciousness. By reading this book, you will gain insight into a theory of consciousness beyond imagination and intuition. The Condition is one throughout. The Condition has pushed forward panpsychism as a legitimate theory. The imagination experiment supports this. Our intuitive theories support this.

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1rzE02gLlThRtpSGqvbLjCkxG9OfVTbdv/view?usp=sharing

enjoy,

any INFJs looking for self-help mixed with poetry, the sublime, & creative nonfiction, my friend just self-published this A-Z guide to life and it's awe-inspiring.

https://www.enablingpotential.ca/shop/p/canoeing-with-the-seasons-pdf-download

Hey, INFJ people,

Can you comment this post by telling what is your book of the moment?

Mine is: the queen's thief

"Why?" This is why:

Firstly, it speaks in our language. I believe we all at some point, maybe still are, have experienced when we know something, trying to articulate it, yet can't and are struggling to do so. I believe this book (the inner story) hits this nail one head. It, very concisely, says that which are feeling in short words of wisdom, if you will.

Secondly, (bit of a spoiler) talks about an issue that is very close to our hearts. Feeling like youre missing "something". Missing something you once had yet are unsure what it is. Longing for "it" yet not really being sure what it is. Etc.

And finally, although I disagree with something's in the book, it is a message that I firmly believe in and have lived all throughout.

And one more thing, it really revolves around the essence of all things that we try to formulate an idea of throughout our lives. I personally, definitely went through/ am going through that, and I've read/heard/watched (not sure that thats something that INFJs share (formulating an all encompassing idea/story that perfectly explains, guides (us through), and maybe even predicts, the great deal of chaos.

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Studies have shown that having a set routine (a series of tasks that you follow as a tradition) is generally beneficial to one’s mental health, especially for young people. [1]

Many of us noticed this during (one of) the many lockdowns when most days flushed together, and the lack of outdoors activity messed with everything - from your sleep quality to your general mood. And yes, this could be attributed to a number of factors such as the global anxiety related to the pandemic or the lack of social contact with others during this time of crisis. I would argue, however, that it was the lack of routine in my day-to-day life that contributed most to my lack of motivation and low productivity.

Whenever I chose to neglect my sleep routine, for example, and wake up whenever I felt like it, it would ultimately lead to a sense of disappointment with myself, and I would further procrastinate tasks that were designated for the early morning. I was losing my most productive hours to oversleeping, and this led to a domino effect throughout my other habits.

In this article, I will go into the details of my new and upgraded morning routine, which has helped me stay on top of all my projects (as a 3rd-year student, freelancer, and content creator), get mental clarity and allow me to focus on my most important tasks.

For me, the key to a successful morning routine is the level of customization it allows. If I provide every single person in the world with the identical set of tools to craft their “ideal” morning routine, it still wouldn’t work. People’s morning routines are as unique as they are themselves. For example, I personally don’t enjoy working out early in the morning, while other people find it to be their most productive thing to start their day with.

For me, since I work in front of a screen the majority of the time, I prefer to set the tone of the day in a similar manner. I use my favourite productivity app, Notion, to keep track of my morning routine. It can be used as a habit tracker

1. Turn your tasks into events

As I have argued before in another article, I believe that there is a big distinction between what we consider tasks in our to-do lists and the events in our calendar.

We may have an endless list of tasks - big and small, which we keep track of. But there is usually this feeling of uncertainty connected to managing a to-do list. It’s usually a direct consequence of the lack of detail in the task. Most likely you haven’t specified the time at which you will do the task, the duration, its priority, etc.

And if you are feeling particularly low-energy during the day, you may find it hard to engage in several tasks. Which one do I start with? Should I multitask? Which one has the highest priority? Those are all questions we ask ourselves in a loop until we get tired and do just the bare minimum. The sooner we set our tasks into our calendar, the less we need to overthink - when the time comes, you just sit down and do the task at hand.

This is why this is the first step of our morning routine I propose. I personally keep a list of all the things I need to do in more or less chronological order in Notion, which looks like this:

https://preview.redd.it/ne7vore0rov81.jpg?width=500&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2e5663bc1b175e370d080e8088fcc173b28b9bb1

The tasks may not be assigned a precise “do-time”, but they always have a “do-date”. This means that there are no tasks left for the far future, only actively managed tasks to be done when I reach a specific point in time.

My first task in the morning, after I have washed my face and brushed my teeth, is to hop on Notion and transform my Notion tasks into Google Calendar events. I used to do this manually, but I have been using my own Python script to automate this process lately, which you can find over here on GitHub.

2. Decide on the daily highlight

This is a piece of advice I have been implementing in my own life ever since I read the book “Make Time” by Jake Knapp and John Zeratsky. The book provides a long list of different techniques to maximise your performance in time and task management. Most of them, however, boil down to getting rid of distractions and remaining focused on a singular task at hand.

The daily highlight, as bolded in the book, is the most important thing you will be doing this day. It could sometimes be as simple as doing your homework, or the dishes. The thing is, the daily highlight is the one task that you should make sure you complete no matter the distractions. You’re free to choose the methods to get it done - it just has to be done. This is shown to contribute positively to a person’s motivation. Once you know you have done your first priority for the day, you have the motivation to complete your other tasks as well.

It is a much healthier mindset than constantly feeling behind in everything, and I assure you it makes a positive change.

3. Choose your environment

As James Clear advises multiple times in his book “Atomic Habits”, you should always be making sure your environment is there to help you, not misguide you and distract you.

Starting off this semester of university, I made the decision to spend as little time possible working in my room. So far, I have been trying to move myself to places that allow for more concentrated work, where I am away from major sources of distraction. Also, my room is pretty small, so it is the same place at which I usually study, sleep, rest, eat, and so on. It’s nigh impossible to make it a designated study space. This is the reason why the library is such a good study spot - it’s not because of the books or the building itself, but it has more to do with the fact that there are so few distractions all around. Also, the people around you are also busy working so the general atmosphere is that you should be studying.

This is why I suggest this as a good part of your morning routine - choose the places that will serve as a work environment for you throughout the day. Look at your task list. Do you have a block of time dedicated to studying? Consider hopping over to the library. Do you need to go to the gym, and also do shopping? Try to shuffle your activities in such a way that it doesn’t bring too much commute into your routine. The point is to lower the friction between you and the completion of a certain task.

Also, by having a proper “map” of what you will be doing and where you’ll be going throughout the day, you can better visualise your time horizon and get a better idea of the experience you’ll be having.

This is a task very much achievable in Notion, by tagging your items with the place you will be going to. When you do transition them into Google Calendar, it will look like a proper map of the time and space of your day.

With all that said, I hope you found this article useful, under the references you will find some other companion essays to this one.

References

[1] Arlinghaus, K. R., & Johnston, C. A. (2018). The Importance of Creating Habits and Routine. American journal of lifestyle medicine, 13(2), 142–144. https://doi.org/10.1177/1559827618818044

Hope you found this article useful, here is some more reading material to check out. 👇️

• Excelling at university the proven and easy way - with Notion 🎒
• How to spend less time on Social media as a Content Creator 📵
• How to generate income as a Freelance Content creator 🪙

Peace ✌!

What books would you recommend for an INFJ who is feeling burnt out / broken down?

Anything goes here. Fiction or nonfiction.

I've read an enormous amount of books so bonus points if you can list multiple and increase my odds of finding something new and inspiring. 🥲💗

Hi there INFJ readers. I've had a life-long fascination with the concept of time travel. Can any of you recommend quality classic or contemporary time travel fiction which has held your interest? Even better with a community or dynastic element, or romantic flavour

As an infj, do you dislike fiction books with too many characters ?

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Studies have shown that having a set routine (a series of tasks that you follow as a tradition) is generally beneficial to one’s mental health, especially for young people. [1]

Many of us noticed this during (one of) the many lockdowns when most days flushed together, and the lack of outdoors activity messed with everything - from your sleep quality to your general mood. And yes, this could be attributed to a number of factors such as the global anxiety related to the pandemic or the lack of social contact with others during this time of crisis. I would argue, however, that it was the lack of routine in my day-to-day life that contributed most to my lack of motivation and low productivity.

Whenever I chose to neglect my sleep routine, for example, and wake up whenever I felt like it, it would ultimately lead to a sense of disappointment with myself, and I would further procrastinate tasks that were designated for the early morning. I was losing my most productive hours to oversleeping, and this led to a domino effect throughout my other habits.

In this article, I will go into the details of my new and upgraded morning routine, which has helped me stay on top of all my projects (as a 3rd-year student, freelancer, and content creator), get mental clarity and allow me to focus on my most important tasks.

For me, the key to a successful morning routine is the level of customization it allows. If I provide every single person in the world with the identical set of tools to craft their “ideal” morning routine, it still wouldn’t work. People’s morning routines are as unique as they are themselves. For example, I personally don’t enjoy working out early in the morning, while other people find it to be their most productive thing to start their day with.

For me, since I work in front of a screen the majority of the time, I prefer to set the tone of the day in a similar manner. I use my favourite productivity app, Notion, to keep track of my morning routine. It can be used as a habit tracker

1. Turn your tasks into events

As I have argued before in another article, I believe that there is a big distinction between what we consider tasks in our to-do lists and the events in our calendar.

We may have an endless list of tasks - big and small, which we keep track of. But there is usually this feeling of uncertainty connected to managing a to-do list. It’s usually a direct consequence of the lack of detail in the task. Most likely you haven’t specified the time at which you will do the task, the duration, its priority, etc.

And if you are feeling particularly low-energy during the day, you may find it hard to engage in several tasks. Which one do I start with? Should I multitask? Which one has the highest priority? Those are all questions we ask ourselves in a loop until we get tired and do just the bare minimum. The sooner we set our tasks into our calendar, the less we need to overthink - when the time comes, you just sit down and do the task at hand.

This is why this is the first step of our morning routine I propose. I personally keep a list of all the things I need to do in more or less chronological order in Notion, which looks like this:

​

https://preview.redd.it/vob11ko1azi81.jpg?width=500&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=587bc91c9716d9887e10332fe63c5a31d2c3ecd8

The tasks may not be assigned a precise “do-time”, but they always have a “do-date”. This means that there are no tasks left for the far future, only actively managed tasks to be done when I reach a specific point in time.

My first task in the morning, after I have washed my face and brushed my teeth, is to hop on Notion and transform my Notion tasks into Google Calendar events. I used to do this manually, but I have been using my own Python script to automate this process lately, which you can find over here on GitHub.

2. Decide on the daily highlight

This is a piece of advice I have been implementing in my own life ever since I read the book “Make Time” by Jake Knapp and John Zeratsky. The book provides a long list of different techniques to maximise your performance in time and task management. Most of them, however, boil down to getting rid of distractions and remaining focused on a singular task at hand.

The daily highlight, as bolded in the book, is the most important thing you will be doing this day. It could sometimes be as simple as doing your homework, or the dishes. The thing is, the daily highlight is the one task that you should make sure you complete no matter the distractions. You’re free to choose the methods to get it done - it just has to be done. This is shown to contribute positively to a person’s motivation. Once you know you have done your first priority for the day, you have the motivation to complete your other tasks as well.

It is a much healthier mindset than constantly feeling behind in everything, and I assure you it makes a positive change.

3. Choose your environment

As James Clear advises multiple times in his book “Atomic Habits”, you should always be making sure your environment is there to help you, not misguide you and distract you.

Starting off this semester of university, I made the decision to spend as little time possible working in my room. So far, I have been trying to move myself to places that allow for more concentrated work, where I am away from major sources of distraction. Also, my room is pretty small, so it is the same place at which I usually study, sleep, rest, eat, and so on. It’s nigh impossible to make it a designated study space. This is the reason why the library is such a good study spot - it’s not because of the books or the building itself, but it has more to do with the fact that there are so few distractions all around. Also, the people around you are also busy working so the general atmosphere is that you should be studying.

This is why I suggest this as a good part of your morning routine - choose the places that will serve as a work environment for you throughout the day. Look at your task list. Do you have a block of time dedicated to studying? Consider hopping over to the library. Do you need to go to the gym, and also do shopping? Try to shuffle your activities in such a way that it doesn’t bring too much commute into your routine. The point is to lower the friction between you and the completion of a certain task.

Also, by having a proper “map” of what you will be doing and where you’ll be going throughout the day, you can better visualise your time horizon and get a better idea of the experience you’ll be having.

This is a task very much achievable in Notion, by tagging your items with the place you will be going to. When you do transition them into Google Calendar, it will look like a proper map of the time and space of your day.

With all that said, I hope you found this article useful, under the references you will find some other companion essays to this one.

References

[1] Arlinghaus, K. R., & Johnston, C. A. (2018). The Importance of Creating Habits and Routine. American journal of lifestyle medicine, 13(2), 142–144. https://doi.org/10.1177/1559827618818044

Hope you found this article useful, here is some more reading material to check out. 👇️

• Excelling at university the proven and easy way - with Notion 🎒
• How to spend less time on Social media as a Content Creator 📵
• How to generate income as a Freelance Content creator 🪙

Peace ✌!

This is my book on consciousness, it has original ideas and experiments. I'm INFJ, now 3rd year at UCSD. At birth I knew my destiny was to crack the code of consciousness.

https://drive.google.com/file/d/19t7TbHiGZ-Vy2T4OQ0sShDdJsi1z56oO/view?usp=sharing

The most important part of the book, is Chapter 4 of portion 2. There are two portions, 1st portion where I argue theres a soul, where portion 2 I argue from no soul. Chapter 4 of portion is the most important because i have developed a novel experiment that shows we as humans cannot imagine our own face in first person perspective or in geons . There are three possible explanations from it. 1. natural monist explanation, 2 Quantum explanation 3 Idealistic explanation. I'll give a brief summary for each, for 1, as my experiment proves we cannot imagine our own face, consciousness must not come from the brain and the brain doesn't understand its own existence. The mind is therefore sth different, an another matter, still yet to be discovered. It could be localized and mathematically calculated. 2, based off my experiment, this happens when neurons fire which results in nothing, we can percieve nothing. You cannot observe consciousness directly, it is not like light. There's always a gap between subjective and objective. Therefore, if it can't be observed but only felt, then it has the possibility of nothing then next I explain how a quantum model can be generated. 3. Based off the mind is nothing, it can be infered further that the mind is not independent , it is dependent. It bridges between brain and objective reality like a mirror. And in this mirror we see objective reality and our “self”. Since I cannot see myself in geons, yet thats how i see objects. And Since only I can understand my own reality because of my singular sense of self, this mind must be between me and reality. The thing that generates "self " and reality are different. I can understand only from how I make sense of it. Which leads to the essence of my thinking : Where is your middle ?

I hope this inspires people to produce more ideas better than mine to reach the grand truth.

https://1lib.us/book/2340920/3cd030

I am pretty fascinatinated by psychopaths.

I just started it and can't put it down!

I'm a lover of books, but am having trouble finding good ones? I always enjoy characters I can relate to, worlds I can get lost in, or just deeply touching stories.

What do you think?

Edit Thank you all for the great suggestions! Can't wait to read them!