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For those who have a hobby, passion, or passing whim that they want to make a living out of, but don't know how they can get there. Wanderers and contributors alike are welcome. Be kind and supportive - no hate allowed here.

The thing that is really hard, and really

amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.

--Anna Quindlen

A place for figuring out what you want to do and helping others find it.

If you have something you like to do, there is almost definitely a job out there that will pay you for it. A google search won't always be enough to find it, so get advice, relevant majors, and job suggestions from other redditors here.

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What are the first steps in taking up career in Finance

Hi everyone! I'm hoping for some guidance in pursuing the career I'm passionate about. I'm a 21-year-old guy who just finished university studying construction management, not finance. Alongside, I run an Airbnb hosting staycations, and dabble in buying and selling vintage cameras and shoes. I'm also into sticker printing and clothing businesses. Notably, I've been trading forex and crypto for nearly 2 years and now I'm keen to dive deeper into finance. How do I kickstart this career journey? What certifications should I aim for given my unrelated degree? What are my initial steps?

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2024/03/26
06:30 UTC

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I sometimes feel that I won't be able to be independent

Hey

I'm 25M. I have done compulsory military service for 3 years, after wards took a gap year to travel. I was accepted in to Dental school and started studying in 2020. After 2 years of Dental school I decided that I wanted to pursue medicine instead, I felt like I was more interested with the medical side of things and wanted to work in a more broad field. After 2 years in medical school I've realized I've made a mistake, and that shit ain't for me at all. Not that I don't like the work or the type of environment doesn't interest me, cause I do like it, but the workload and the sheer amount of stress are just something that is hard to withstand, and since I'm thinking about marrying my girl and starting a family soon, I don't have any ambition to be away for a lot of years and being over worked and missing out on key family events and my children's childhood. My mind and feelings have changed and so have I, and the work I'm about to do doesn't align with my own world anymore.

I've been thinking about the future, been thinking about going back to dental school (where I live its an undergrad degree) and I'll have an extra 5 years to finish school. I've been thinking maybe of doing Computer Science or Mathematics, or maybe a computational biology masters, All are good options.

But I'm afraid. I'm scared that because of my age, I'll have troubles establishing myself in a new field and graduating in early 30's will leave me with fewer options and a very mediocre career a head of me.

Just to clarify, I don't have any student debt cause I have scholarships.

I'm kind of looking for someone to give me perspective and maybe say that not all is lost and I can still build my own path in life despite the mistakes I've made in the past.

Thank you.

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2024/03/26
06:30 UTC

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23 and lost

The major I currently am is useless unless I go for a master or doctorate. I’m on my last year and don’t even want to pursue it anymore. Applied to Nursing schools got accepted but went over financial planning and it cost to much. I don’t have really the support to co-sign for a loan. Like to mention it’s an accelerated program. I’m willing to work full time and get the minimal grade to pass if meaning able to go. Thinking of just becoming a police officer because pay is good and I don’t have to pay to become one.

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2024/03/26
05:43 UTC

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I(23F) am smart and could be stereotypically successful but a part of me wants to give up and work in the entertainment industry

I'm in Europe. I'm a math student. I honestly could just keep working hard and stay in my field, which I'm already doing. But I do not wish to stay in academia. Actually, I'm kind of tired of working so hard with my brain. I'm genuinely exhausted. I don't want to work a usual 9-5 either.

Ever since I was little, I've always really liked stand-up comedy. And acting. I've thought about getting into either one of those industries, or using my degree to break in somehow then take up acting.

I'd also like to live in the country somewhere, away from city life some day. I'm tired of the modern life. I literally hate everything about my life at the moment. The country I live, work and study in, the lack of friends and the friends I do have are just not right for me. I am poor atm because I am still in uni and my field isn't exactly lucrative even moving forward. I can't have pets in my studio apartment. I am SO busy that I don't have vacation days and I don't have money for such things/I'd rather save my money and spend it on food and necessities.

I genuinely want to completely turn around my life in the next 5 years. I want to leave Europe and go to the US, completely change social circles, careers, locations, lifestyle etc.

I'm fucking tired of my life. I hate this country. I hate almost everything about my current life and I'm surrounded by everything and everyone I don't like...

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2024/03/26
04:32 UTC

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I Want to work with wildlife

I’m still in highschool and soon have to go to college and decide what I want to do with my life. Ive always had good grades in school, but am not interested in sacrificing my time in an attempt to slowly gain power through miserable office jobs. I absolutely love animals and have a sort of liberal view on many intelligent species, considering them of equal value as humans. If I were able to work with any intelligent animals I would be happy without any pay whatsoever. My favorite is orangutans and I would do anything to be able to help young struggling orangutans especially do their endangerment and abuse they face in certain countries. Similarly, I would love to work with elephants. This seems like a far stretched idea considering my circumstances and family but it’s what I want to do and don’t know how to. Are there places where I could volunteer in exchange for shelter and food. Because that is all I need but money would be a plus. I will have college fully paid for by my successful grandpa so I will have a backup plan. Help with advice plz

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2024/03/26
03:46 UTC

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23M - Need a new plan

I'm finishing up my computer science degree in the next month, but this semester made me realise that I just can't do it anymore. I'm not sure if it's the constant work, exhaustion, or what, but I have no motivation and I no longer enjoy programming. At this point, I can't stand the idea of doing this for the rest of my life, let alone for these next assignments I have. I just don't want to be in front of a computer anymore.

I'm going to try and stick through the rest of the semester just to get the stupid degree, but after that, I have no idea what I'm going to do. I have zero experience, no portfolio for anything else, and I don't even know where I'd start. I'm also horrible at talking to people and social interaction in general, so that kind of puts a wrench in the cogs when it comes to customer facing jobs.

Other than warehouse work, which I have no idea how I'd even get, I have no idea what I'm going to do. I'm just stuck.

Any advice is appreciated.

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2024/03/26
03:39 UTC

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Would you buy a house in a state you don’t want to live in?

I am currently divorced, and fortunately, my divorce proceedings are going smoothly. Presently residing in Utah, I must admit, I dislike it here. Recently honorably discharged from the military, I am exploring the utilization of my benefits. With an additional $800 monthly, I aim to utilize the VA loan program to purchase a home and establish roots. It’s a zero down loan and I’m trying to save as much I can for closing costs. However, the dilemma lies in deciding which state to relocate to and when, contingent upon securing employment. Do you believe it's wise to settle by purchasing a home in a location you don't envision living in for the long term?

2 Comments
2024/03/26
03:25 UTC

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Finding Work

How the fuck am I supposed to find work when even the most basic warehousing jobs require past experience?
I don't want to go back into Concreting! 23M Melbourne based, haven't worked in months.

2 Comments
2024/03/26
02:57 UTC

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Why am I dumb and failing at everything in life ?

I feel like I'm not trying hard like actually actually trying hard to get clairty in life. I feel that I'm just mindlessly accepting this loser so be it life as it is despite feeling internally so frustrated upset and stressed out. Idk, I just feel small whenever I see someone who is successful and doing well when they're around your age group in their 20s phase.

Sometimes I feel that only if I get clarity on college and find that passion or interest in something. Life would become so easier despite the competition being high. At least you have a clear path to work towards. But feeling lost all the time, I kinda started losing hope with life. Like what is this, I'm having no stability in life. I don't know what I'm doing. I don't know what I want. Nothing in any area of life seems to be going well. From social anxiety, confusion about college academics and low confident. I don't even understand how the adulthood function or the way society works. What type of field, major, industry to look in. That would be finically rewarding career something that pays well.

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2024/03/26
02:46 UTC

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What can I do to increase my wages in order to meet the 3x rent requirement?

So yeah, rent is high and wages are low. How can I meet the 3x rent amount? I’m at about 2.5x the rent with my monthly wages working at the grocery store I’m at now. I can pay the rent no problem, it’s just meeting that requirement that’s killing me.

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2024/03/26
02:17 UTC

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28M - I'm at crossroads in life and I'm not sure what to do.

I've been a lurker on this sub for a while. I honestly wasn't really sure if to post or not, since my problems seems trivial compared to most people that post here. I'm a single guy, and a medical resident (Gotten his MD, but still in training). I'm also an only child.

My path in life has generally been quite linear so far. Things have generally worked out for me. I was a smart kid, did well in high school, aced pre-med/undergrad, and got into medical school without any issues. However I ended up being placed into a specialty that I wasn't particularly enamored with even from the start. Of my 5 year residency, I have stuck through for 3 years so far, hoping things will get better and I would grow into things. However they really haven't. My work is quite easy and relaxed, however there is this deep sense of dissatisfaction. Every morning there is sense of dread going to work. I wanted to see if it got better with time, and unfortunately it has not.

So I'm stuck between the decision between switching, or sticking with this. This of course has been hard for me to do. If I switch, I'm essentially throwing 3 years of schooling down the drain. And there is this feeling of dread that "What is the grass is not greener on the other side". If I switch I would be 35-36 when I even have my first job vs 31-32. My original plan was to have kids in my 30s, but with this new direction I don't even know when or if that would happen. And my parent's aren't getting any younger - I notice that everyday they start to need more help with things, and I feel immensely guilty for not being able to be there for them.

I just wanted to see what everyone thought. Sorry for my rant.

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2024/03/26
02:11 UTC

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Put in my resignation

39 M, have spent the past 15 years working in the corporate world, hating it nearly everyday yet doing it because I felt that’s what being successful meant - money and job titles - and scared to do anything else. Have been mulling this decision seriously for the past year, but terrified to pull the trigger. Ended up doing it a couple weeks ago and had a huge sense of relief, but now that’s slowly turning to dread as I come to the realization of what I’ve done. Fortunately, my company is allowing a long transition, my last day isn’t for a couple months, so will be able to keep saving up. The plan is to go on a roadtrip to visit national parks with the family once the kids get out of school. We plan on traveling for a month or so and then I’ll reevaluate what I want to do with my life. Not sure where this will go or if I’ll be closer to finding what I’m looking for when we’re done, but if not now, when? We’ll see how it goes. Sorry just needed to put this on paper, thx for taking the time to read!

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2024/03/26
00:58 UTC

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Would this be a bad starting point for someone who's pursuing work but knows very little about computers?

I'm currently in a situation where my current qualifications are now a dead end. I've spent my entire life in customer service, sales, and labor jobs, and my mental and physical health are acting up to a point where those jobs are extremely damaging to me. I'm trying to find a way forward that allows me the possibility of working alone and actually being paid enough to support myself for once. I'd also like to find something relatively low stress, because on top of finding a way to support myself I'm also caretaking some family and I need to be available for them a reasonable amount of time, without my job running me into the ground. I've had programming, cyber security, and data analytics suggested to me a few times, but there are so many options and my baseline of knowlege is so small that those suggestions can't really help me yet.

I'm someone who knows next to nothing about computers, and I've always wanted to learn. I'm not intuitive with them, though; I can't just hop on and tool around and figure shit out on my own, because I know how expensive the equipment is and I don't want to mess anything up. Even if my career wouldn't be in tech, I'd still like to learn how to do some maintenance on my own computer and learn some programming, just to see if I can.

So, the main question I guess: Would it be a bad idea to pursue an IT training/certificate or anything like that for the purposes of being more knowledgeable about what I'm working with, and then I'd go from there? In a perfect world I'd like to fix some of my own computer issues, or understand how things work a little bit more. If I had more confidence with this kind of thing I feel like I'd have at least a few more options.

Sorry if this is a dumb question, or if it's not worded right...I'm kind of grasping a little bit because I'm pretty much in the dark here. I have no idea what to do. I need skills, I need to get out of customer service, but that's all I've ever known.

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2024/03/26
00:47 UTC

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22 would this be a smart move?

I am 22 and am currently a dental assistant and have been doing this for about a year now. I do enjoy my job but since I have started I have have always know I wanted a little bit more in the sense that I would like more financial stability, as well as work flexibility something that would allow me to pick up and go if needed, I also know that I want to go back to school but this is where I find myself in a bind.

I want to go back to school this is where I need you to be honest with me.....

I was set on becoming a dental hygienist but after struggling in an anatomy class and then now really struggling in a physiology class it really makes me think twice about what it is i really want to do. Not only that but the Dental Hygiene program near me has a 5 year waitlist and well based off of how I am doing I'll probably never make it on that waitlist. I have also noticed that lately my work/life/school balance has been really unhealthy.

I have been looking at other programs and I currently looking at and Information system (IS) program on other tech programs and It makes me feel a little uneasy for many reason.

  1. What if I am not cut out for that? I feel like I am going to go into a program like this and basically be a dumbass that knows nothing .

  2. Ever since I have been doing all this extra research the whole AI thing freaks me out and it makes me worry that if I go into this I won't even make it into getting a job by the time I would graduate

  3. What if i don't make what I was hoping for financially? I don't expect to be making bank right out of the gate but I would like a degree that could help me push for something more then what I make now.

I know that by going back to school I want to make the right choice and not waste my time any more would this be a good career path? Is getting into the tech industry hard? Is getting and bachelors worth it?

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2024/03/26
00:18 UTC

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I want to drop out so badly but I have no plan B

I never wanted to for a Master's degree in the first place, I was just told that a BA alone is useless, especially in English studies.. I live away from my city in a shared apartment for the first time in my life and I'm miserable. The neighbors are noisy 24/7 with crying children, loud talking, music, and blasted TV and I have a headache all day long because of this. I don't eat well because I either can't get myself to get out of bed or straight up forget to eat. I hate most my collegemates because of their snobby attitudes and way of talking, you know the ones who use unnecessarily complex words just to sound smart. I'm struggling with unmedicated ADHD and our universities have no disability resources offices so there's nothing I can do about it. God knows I try but my "best" that got me a Bachelor isn't enough to get me through a Master's.

The professors keep telling us how are efforts are never enough and that we won't get a PhD at this rate. P-fucking-hD?? Just let me pass this program first and you'll never see my damn face again. Not to mention, some inform us of the exam dates 3 DAYS PRIOR TO IT, I'm not even exaggerating. Same thing for the catch-up sessions. And they dare tell us how "prestigious universities in England count every absence and tardiness" give me a fucking break.

I'm tired. I have a useless BA and I only wanted a MA because some government positions require it no matter your field. I don't see myself in any "normal" corporate job and now just want to rot away in my parents' house, expectations be damned. Academia isn't for me, and I'm scared because I have no other project, no idea of what apprenticeships I can do, or manual labor, or craft, or hobby. Nothing.

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2024/03/26
00:18 UTC

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I quit my job to go full time in content creation! - AMA

Hi Guys! I recently quit my job and have gone full time with content creation, I currently earn double my salary from my previous job.

I started the journey back in october, and started earning a sustainable income from the beginning of january. Now I currently have 3 different accounts that I earn from.

So I thought I would give a little introduction to any who might have any hobbies or interests they think they could monetise.

Currently with TikTok you can earn upwards of $1 per thousand views depending on your niche from the creator program.

To enter the program you need 10K followers, and 100k views within the past 30 days. All the content you post has to be original, but you can earn without showing your face.

I target different niches, from motivation to satisying simulations I code myself.

This is a fantastic way to either earn a bit of money on the side or becoming a digital nomad.

I have attached some of my earnings and analytics, I also have a community within discord. We have 400 active members who are more than happy to help out. There's no premium channels or anything like that.

https://discord.gg/gD8wuNjDqw

If you have any questions please don't hesitate to ask!

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2024/03/25
23:53 UTC

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28F Self Employed Girlie With Agoraphobia That Needs A Better Income Source

Like the title says I make a little bit of money being a content creator. I get about 65K views a month. Which seems like a lot, but it's not a lot of money. I think I'm pretty good at this kind of thing, but I just got a medical bill that really hurt. I need to get more money. I've applied to some marking jobs in my area, but I'm so scared. And I'm not sure they will hire me.

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2024/03/25
23:24 UTC

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I’m 19 and I’m lost…

So I am going to say everything on my mind I hope someone listens and tries to understand me. I’m currently a Syrian student living in Germany and I came to Germany with a student visa hoping to study information technology, I switched my mind up and I don’t think I can make it happen and to be honest I really wanted to do dentistry or medicine and I built a lot of hopes on it saying if I don’t continue with my information technology I will probably switch to it. Now I’m lost and I can’t study anything from those since my high school graduation grade doesn’t meet the required. I feel like a failure and I feel like my whole life is ruined, I can’t go back to my country it’s the last thing I would do especially that I am wanted to serve in the army which means death there. What can I do , what should I become if I like anatomy, science, biology and chemistry those type of subjects? I would appreciate any advice and apologies for this messy post.

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2024/03/25
23:10 UTC

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17 And Struggling to Figure out Where to go from Here.

So for some context I'm 17(f) and I'm a chubby, emotional person from a low income family and a house that has a lot of problems with emotional regulation.

School is one of my favorite places to be, but soon I'm going to lose all of it. I'm not gonna be a senior for much longer. I'm so scared.

Every time I get upset I start crying. It was a habit I had since I was a kid and now I can't shake it. Its like a problem I can't get rid of no matter how many times I bite my tongue and swear that it isn't gonna happen.

I wanted to a computer engineer, but so many schools REQUIRE a trigonometry credit, something I wasn't able to get my hands on during my time in school because I was under the impression thst my field only required up to geometry. I also wanted to get scholarships, but then again most scholarships REQUIRE community service hours, something I couldn't get because we couldn't afford to take me back and forth or to get me a ride or anything else to get my hands on those. I'm a consistent A student, but every turn I take I feel like I'm backed more and more into a corner and I'm flailing and drowning in it.

And then there's my final option, the space force. I think I'm intelligent enough to pass the ASVAB based on what a bunch of my military friends have told me along with my father who was an ex-green berete, but I'm so chubby and emotional that I feel like despite my will to learn and grow, I won't be able to do well enough to stay. Not to mention that I have a LOVE for the little things, like gaming and plushies, and I won't be able to have those in the military, so while it satiates one love, it ruins another for me. I also hate loud noises and might be autistic, and military training doesn't seem like something I'd be able to do.

I don't know what to do anymore. I feel trapped in rural Florida, and every turn I try there's a bazillion reasons why it won't work. Please help me, is there any advice that ANY of you could give me on trying to work this out?

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2024/03/25
23:06 UTC

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Fucked up my life, 20f

I left school with average/high grades. I didn’t peruse HE because it would have been a financial burden on my parents + I wanted to do Sociology/IR which doesn’t really offer a solid route anywhere. I wanted to find an apprenticeship in a company but couldn’t find one that suited me. I thought i’d get some work experience first so I worked in retail for a while and did not gain a lot of experience. My contract ended and im still stuck in the same type of job but more hrs & pay. I really want to progress in a field like digital marketing, or something in IT but i cant find anything because it all requires experience/qualification. I do quite like the fast paced retail life and ik it can lead to management positions but i just feel that i worked harder in school to get a good job in a company where im not overworked and im able to progress. Im not sure what to do :(

52 Comments
2024/03/25
23:00 UTC

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Love my job but need to make more money

28f, undergrad degree in English and a master’s in Religion and Literature from a prestigious university. The pandemic happened right as I was graduating from my MA and I took the path of least resistance — which, funnily enough, has led me to be a environmental education programs manager. I adore my job and make a respectable amount of money as a nonprofit worker ($63k).

Thing is, though, I know I could take on more challenging work and have a more lucrative career. I really never cared about this until I met my partner (in 2021) who is very passionate about acting but has to work in communications to make ends meet. Together we make $120k and, in our part of the country, it took us a year to find a 1-bedroom apartment we could afford. We want kids and a home, and our parents are beginning to age, so I want to know I can support them too. I also want my partner to be able to pursue his passion someday. But my current career path is probably not going to support all of that. And as I’ve gotten older I’ve realized that volunteering is just as good as working in a nonprofit a lot of the time. I’d be fine moving on from this job I love to support having a house and a better lifestyle. Any ideas?

And no, my partner has not asked me to give up a job I love so he can be an actor. I just think it would make us both happy if he could have the option. I’m less attached to my job than he is to his passion.

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2024/03/25
22:28 UTC

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All I really want to do is live out of my car and be nomadic.

I’ve more or less been doing this the last couple years by doing seasonal jobs, but money, work and housing can be really hit or miss. I’m at the point where I’d be ok putting in a few years (1-3) work in up front to be able to do this, and the most fitting option I know of is finding a remote job. I’m horrible at school so going back to college isn’t at the top of my list, but I would love to find another way to get a remote job, or a job that I could do anywhere. I know it’s probably not likely to actually happen but I’d like to explore my options. I don’t even need a ton of money, just enough to live a basic life and put some aside for retirement.

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2024/03/25
21:23 UTC

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Achieved my dreams just to give it all up

It's so strange. I got the high paying job I wanted. I moved to LA. I defied all odds and found success. I traveled the world, became the "it girl" in the party scene. Made friends with everyone I met—truly magnetic, even my friends would comment how magnetic I am. I've been living the high life, maybe not a millionaire or 1%er but certainly wealthy.

And now?

That craving I've always had has become louder than before. That whisper telling me to seek a simpler life has grown into a shout.

Maybe I just needed to prove to myself that I could do it, after having a lifetime of doubters and naysayers and bullies trying to keep me small. I proved to everyone, who's really in control.

And now I want nothing more than to just move to some small cottage in the woods somewhere, have an herb garden, run an apothecary or animal rescue from my home, or maybe just work at a local bakery. Wake up with the sun and enjoy slow mornings. Read books in the grass. Just have peace and quiet.

The thought of going to parties or traveling to exotic locations just doesn't have the same appeal it used to. The thought of being surrounded by people in any capacity almost gives me hives. The thought of having one more year living in a city with constant noise or work one more year in the corporate world pretending to care about KPIs and ROIs makes me want to gauge my eyes out and jump off a cliff.

Funny how life works out sometimes.

21 Comments
2024/03/25
21:00 UTC

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22 and miserable in office job

I got my first tech job out of college almost a year ago. It pays decent, nothing special, and it’s at a small company with about 10 people. I started remote, which I enjoyed and I was very productive. A few months into being hired they forced us to come into the office, which is a 1.5 hour drive each way for me. Since the company is so small, every day is just driving to the office, sitting silently for hours and staring at my screen. Nobody talks, you could hear a pin drop, but the occasional few words exchanged in the break room are only about their kids. Everybody eats at their desk every day, it’s like nobody moves from their desk ever. Then I make the grueling drive back home just to cook, sleep, and repeat the next day. I live with roommates who work in retail/food, and though that’s not my end goal, they love their jobs due to the interaction and friends, and they still have enough money to do the exact same things and trips that I do, if not more because I have to wait to accrue PTO while they can just request days off. I’m extremely depressed and the sense of dread from waking up every day to work is almost unbearable. Every day blends into the next, and I feel like I’m wasting away which is sad because I’m so young and none of my friends are in this position. I don’t know what I’m doing this for, I don’t want a house and kids anyway. Should I just quit and disappoint my parents or find another way to make money? I’ve never felt this lost and purposeless

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2024/03/25
20:58 UTC

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24F, grad school burnout made me quit, other parts of my life unraveled.

I'll try to be super brief: I grew up with narcissistic, overly critical religious parents. That is a hell unto itself. I went away to college and got a BA in Psychology, was debating several different Master's degrees but settled on an MBA in IT (long story, but I realized I prefer working in sales/finance).

I basically had a crippling medical event that completely disrupted my plans and put a giant pause on my life. I had a great well-paying remote job, and once I finished the degree, I'd look for an even higher paying job so I could move out.

But because of the event, I could barely move and was in a state of heavy dissociation for months. I abused substances to cope. I lost my job and couldn't keep up with school. I think because I felt (feel?) so hopeless about escaping my environment, I completely gave up. I'm in tears as I write this, because I messed up something absolutely perfect for no reason.

I don't know what to do from here. I'm typically a very responsible Type A. I didn't do work at my job for an embarrassingly long time so they just sent me a box to pack my stuff in. I don't know how to repair my professional relationships.

It is so hard to succeed when you have no one to support you. I don't even have friends that live close anymore. I just don't have it in me to continue fighting anymore.

2 Comments
2024/03/25
20:54 UTC

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Never challenge a person who just keeps showing up

Success isn't just luck...

It's about the trip, not the endpoint. It’s about having the guts to keep going. It’s about reaching what you’re truly capable of. It’s about uncovering what you're meant to do. It’s about sticking to it, no matter what.

1️⃣ Get the hang of doing it with ease:

Show up every single day, especially when it’s tough. Find activities that make time fly for you. These are what fuel you. Staying the course beats being naturally gifted. Little steps lead to big changes.

2️⃣ Create a circle that raises you higher:

Grow real friendships, not just contacts. Be there for others, offer real advice. The value of your circle is your true wealth. The energy you share is important. What you put out comes back to you.

3️⃣ Soak up learning like it’s your job:

Stay curious, dive into new ideas, push the usual boundaries. Strive to know more, never become obsolete. Learning doesn’t stop unless you do. Keep an eye on what’s coming next. Make learning a regular thing.

I am just sharing my thoughts with you, and I also can share what I study and where I get my inspiration from like books or websites like www.theinformation.com or www.scalenuggets.com to irigate my imagination and keeping connected with the market and its direction

➡️ Keep this in mind:

Believe in yourself, even when no one else does.

Luck?

It’s when preparation meets the perfect moment.

Being successful isn't all about the cash.

It’s about making life better, for you and for others.

Make your own breaks!

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2024/03/25
20:43 UTC

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I am unemployable with my bachelor degrees - should I get a masters?

I posted under a different account/name a while ago but I am back, still in the same boat. I have a triple BA in cognitive science, linguistics, and philosophy and a minor in computer science. I am 25 and still living with my parents, doing dataannotation.tech (generating coding AI prompts) and tutoring academic subjects. I've been trying to self-teach myself data analytics skills and programming languages (building off of the skills I developed in my minor) but I always feel underqualified; have never got a callback from a job application; I don't actually enjoy learning or doing it; and I have zero practical experience. I have no career passions or goals, so questions like "what do you wish you could do" are not applicable to me (at least at this time, with this mindset. Maybe this would change after actually working and engaging with the world first). I just really wish I could have a full-time job to fill the void of my meaningless existence, so that I could meet new people (I have no friends), live and provide for myself, and feel as useless to the world. I think that would cure most of my depressive feelings.

I have been resisting the idea of going back to school to get a masters because I am resentful at the thought of spending 20k just to become more employable, when that's what my family's 60k UC Berkeley education was supposed to do for me. Many people recommend not to go back to college (college being the problem of not preparing us for the job market in the first place). But it feels like it's my only option, because I currently have no hireable skills. And even if I do, I've never had an opportunity to demonstrate them at an interview. I apply and have never been accepted to a lot of jobs - analyst roles, administration, office assistant, clerk, sales. Even more full-time tutoring/teaching positions have never accepted me. I can theoretically put in more hours of applications every single day on indeed and LinkedIn, but I start crying every time I start soullessly applying to places that I know I am not qualified for (all of them); looking at the job descriptions is a reminder of how useless I am.

The main problem is that I don't know what would be the best masters for me. My mom thinks I should go into teaching - however, I am under the impression that this is not the best decision, as being a teacher does not pay enough to compensate for the stress such a job induces. A masters in data science would align with what I've been slowly working towards, but I am worried that it will not be enough to land be a job in the field, and that I'll be underqualified and not smart enough for the industry even after a masters. (And even if I am qualified and can get a job, I don't know if the competitive tech environment will ever align with me.) I also worry that I, with my vague interdisciplinary majors, do not have the requirements to get into any good masters program.

I know I should consider more non-traditional things, such as going and living and working on a farm. I would definitely do that, but I would prefer to have a stable "regular person" life at this time, because I need to provide a home for my two cats.

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2024/03/25
20:43 UTC

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Brotherhood, Adventure, Cannabis

What are some jobs that have:

Brotherhood

Adventure

Freedom

and the ability to find/consume cannabis at the end of the day, or even better, during the job?

3 Comments
2024/03/25
20:27 UTC

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What should I do next - IT PATH

Hi guys I’m 23, still in school (part time/online) and seems like I won’t finish for another two years.

My family is very broke and I need to support for everyone, right now I’m in IT Support and it’s been two years. I was also a computer consultant and have done two internships.

What can I do to land any other upgrading IT JOB with no degree? I’m kindve lost and have no one to turn to. I have been on YouTube looking to see what I can do. I’m open to anything IT related. I just don’t want to go backwards but I’m not making enough money at working at my school.

Do I need to get certs? What path should I take? I’ll pay for any of this if it means investing in myself. I really need advice or someone to talk to about this.

Thank you in advance. I’ll also keep researching

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2024/03/25
20:17 UTC

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Working/studying 60 hours a week for 3-4 years?

So I'm a woman of 26 years old. Due to personal circumstances I started studying later. I will graduate with my associate degree in accounting in some months and can start to work at my internship place.

Now I doubt going for the bachelor while working (I had the opportunity to do the associate degree fulltime). Because I will combine this with working, I will have to spread this out over 3-4 years. I will work 32 hours for one year probably and after that fulltime. This means I will work/study (everything combined) around 60 hours a week and this for 4 years. I'm afraid I will burn-out, because my mental health is not really good at the moment. But I'm also afraid I will miss a lot of opportunities if I don't study further.

I'm single and have no kids. I also never had a relationship what makes me very anxious. I'm afraid I will have way less time to date and to start a relationship eventually.

At the moment I still live at home, but I'm looking forward to move out.

Any advice?

2 Comments
2024/03/25
19:50 UTC

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