/r/ChildfreeFriendships
This subreddit is for those who are looking to make some new childfree friends on Reddit.
Welcome to ChildfreeFriendships sub!\ (•◡•) /
I created ChildfreeFriendships because as a childfree person I couldn't find a subreddit that focused solely on building both ONLINE and/or IRL friendships with other childfree people. Its not focused on dating at all.
Thanks to /r/childfree for being a sister site for us!
It doesnt matter where you are from, what race, how old you are, your status (single or in a relationship), etc.
In this sub you can look for chat buddies, skype buddies, long distance friends, talk to CF people far away or close by, ask advice on been cf and lonely, you can reach out to other CF people on here who have common interests, start conversations to get to know each other better!
Don't be shy if you want CF buddies make a post.
/r/ChildfreeFriendships
I live in north Broward County, Florida, and am looking for other like-minded, childfree people to hang out with.
I'm a 39-year-old, dude who doesn't smoke/vape and rarely drinks (by choice).
Some of my hobbies include running, hiking, scuba diving, snorkeling, cycling (I'm getting back into it), reading and cooking. I love live music and listen to mostly rock.
If you're local and have the same hobbies, drop me a line!
Some cities near me are:
561 954 Boca Raton BocaRaton Boynton Beach BoyntonBeach Broward County BrowardCounty Coconut Creek CoconutCreek Coral Springs CoralSprings Deerfield Beach DeerfieldBeach Delray Beach DelrayBeach Fort Lauderdale FortLauderdale Ft. Lauderdale FtLauderdale Highland Beach HighlandBeach Hillsboro Beach HillsboroBeach Lantana Lighthouse Point LighthousePoint Margate Parkland Plantation Pompano Beach PompanoBeach South Florida SouthFlorida SFL SFLA SOFLO Sunrise Tamarac Weston Wilton Manors WiltonManors
Hi y'all! My husband and I (both 27) have been on the search for CF friends in Virginia. We live in the Shenandoah Valley area. I am sterilized and we both have known we don't want kids for a long time. Yay, DINKs for life!
We're both pretty nerdy and into tabletop gaming like dungeons and dragons. We love to travel and explore new places and cultures.
My husband is into Pokemon, football, anime, gaming, hiking, cooking, and relaxing with a cold beer or good whiskey at the end of the day.
A lot of my hobbies overlap with his, but I also enjoy reading (especially fantasy), baking, and knitting. I really enjoy self expression through tattoos.
We're both LGBTQIA+ friendly and 420-friendly. We'd love to meet some folks with similar interests who also don't want kids. We're down for anything -- games, movies, hiking, etc. Feel free to DM me!
I hate the fear of pregnancy. My husband had a vasectomy like 6 years ago. Up until 3 months ago I had been on birth control for 13 years. My gyno switched my meds due to my age (36) but then after the samples she sent me home with, I couldn’t get it refilled in time and ended up going off birth control. I don’t want to go back on bc as it gave me horrible migraines. But I got my period twice after coming off but now I’m two weeks late. I know the chances are small and I’m probably overthinking this. I am getting a test from the store today. And I know it can take 6 months for my hormones to balance but anyone else had this experience?? I DO NOT want kids !
Hi everyone, I've been struggling to find like-minded CF friends. I've tried several social platforms, but they all seem to fizzle out or focus too much on venting. It feels like there's a better way out there.
What I've Tried:
My Solution: A dedicated platform focusing on:
Questions:
I'm building this because I need it - would love to hear if others face similar challenges!
I feel very bad right now. I don't know how to answer that. I love my dad and I understand that he come from an old very conservative generation but I told him that his words hurt.
Despite not wanted to have kids, sometimes I find myself comparing with women with kids and well stablish families and I feel less, despite having having a PhD, MBA, living abroad and being in a beautiful relationship of 2 years.. I know that is not the case, but the words of my dad are in my mind.
Childfree as in doesn’t have kids and has no desire to have kids/adopt/become a step parent. Women as in trans women, fem non-binary, and women. 25 as in 25 or older.
We discuss and play all kinds of games including otome games such as Taisho x Alice, Collar x Malice, Even if Tempest, etc. Currently we recently have started Slow Damage. We also play Stardew Valley (8 player farms), Among Us, King of the Castle, Placid Plastic Ducks, Fashion Dreamer, Jackbox games, etc.
We have a Japanese language learning night every Saturday where we play Koe 声 too. We also talk about the country Japan in general. We typically have otome game night on Sunday evenings. There is a bot in the server you can use to look up any Japanese word you want to see the definition of it. In addition a Shiritori channel for members to play Shiritori together. (Note: For the month of October we are playing Among Us on Saturdays).
Shoujo/josei anime and manga, manhwa, and manhua is often discussed as well. Members also enjoy talking about art, fashion, food, and fun little activities like string figures (like cat’s cradle, etc).
We also like talking about witchy things like tarot cards, crystals, astrology, etc. This server has a witchy gamer vibe to it. ✨
Please DM me if you’d like the link. ❤️
Link below for those interested in the International Childfree Women 25+ server
I'm a 31 y/o F living in the Netherlands. I have known for as long as I can remember that I don't want kids. But I'm at an age now where everybody around me is starting a family.
I want to be a good friend to the people I love but I'm noticing that I find it hard to relate to their struggles. I've been struggling with this for a while, but today a good friend of mine was rushed to the hospital because of serious complications from a pregnancy. I am ashamed to admit that I find it hard to feel empathetic. Of course, I was worried about her health ( her surgery went well and she is home again) and of course, I wish she had everything she wanted in life. But up till 1,5 years ago we were having conversations about not wanting kids. And in that period she has changed her mind, which is completely fine and allowed of course. But she changed her mind and then had a lot of complications with pregnancies and now she is devastated she can't seem to carry a child. I'm really ashamed to admit this, but I find myself thinking, up till 1,5 years ago you didn't want this, how can this now be the worst thing that has ever happened to you? I feel horrible for having this train of thought, but I just can't understand how somebody can change their mind fully in such a short amount of time and risk their life for that wish. Not something I'm proud of but I was wondering if anybody can relate.
Anyone here from the Memphis suburbs? Germantown/Collierville ish areas?
I am a 26M living in Australia, who has been childfree for roughly a decade. I prefer to have small number of very deep friendships over lots of superficial ones.
I love animals, especially pets hold a special place in my heart. I grew up in a very abusive household which made me develop a lot of empathy for the suffering of others.
Learning gives me the biggest joy in life. The topics I enjoy learning the most are history, philosophy, psychology (mostly around self-improvement) and technology.
If any of this resonates with you, feel free to send me a DM or chat request :)
P.S - I'm always looking for friends. So even if this post gets old don't hesitate to reach out to me!
I live in a very small town with a funny demographic.
I work with dogs. I love going down YouTube rabbit holes. I love my PT cruiser, but she’s dying. I’m very invested in health and self care and would love to exchange routines/workouts etc. I love the beach, old buildings, reading(historic fiction and romance) I have an awesome nail polish collection and I love trashy romance anime.
Let’s chat!:D
Hello everyone! I am an accounting student in my junior year. Unfortunately, I am 5+ years older than most of my classmates. I got a few years behind in life from working as a cook (including being a BBQ pitmaster) and helping my grandparents get their house ready to sell before I ended up going to college. I do not really have any coworkers I click with at my part-time jobs, and a lot of them are also 5+ years younger than me. I'd really like to try to get to know some people my own age that I actually want to talk to.
I lean left and am agnostic. Used to be super interested in theology when I was still a Christian. I come from a religious background and used to be really interested in catholicism and orthodoxy. I am dedicated to striving for freedom without having to worry about kids or pets in my life. I manage the CFPF subreddit's new personals sub.
I like hiking and really anything outdoorsy, old retro media like old movies, and learning about a bunch of different stuff, like history and philosophy. Look through my post history and let me know if you think we'd click. If you love old stuff and are grumpy all the time, we'll probably get along just fine!
I’d love some childfree friends to hang out with. So many of my friends are consumed with their kids and we have to plan months in advance to do any little thing.
Just came here to vent. I’m so tired of my friends with their grandkids and kids and then on social media everyone is popping them out. Do people have better things to do? I mean I just feel like get a life guys. I mean my life isn’t the most exciting but it’s mine and I’m able to do what I want when I want. I have a kitty I love. Perhaps people hate pets and think I make a big deal over her. Idk, I just got back from a bridal shower. I’m so over it and done. I could only smile so much. I didn’t even want my own wedding. Kiss kiss, take a pic. Not my style. Anyway sorry, I guess I’m being a grump. Just gonna unwind. Too much stimulus.
Hello CF community, please help. I suddenly disgusted by children. Everytime i see them i can't stop thinking that they are Barbaric Tarzan who dont know how to behave. Scream her lungs out at 12midnight. Tantrum all the time. bad behaviour. Try to gauge her father eyes out. Beat her mother to pulp as 3 year old. is it just some kids or all the kids are like that? i remember thinking that children is an angel. innocent. And now i see them as a goblin. is there any way my feelings back? or is this because the child i've encounter this lately just really naughty? i spend last 10 years really want kids. spend all my effort to have one. But now, its poof that feeling gone. can someone enlighten me what is going on with me?
Hey, all! I'm a 38f from West Virginia, and I am happily childfree. My best friend just found out she's pregnant and, although I love her, she's been distancing herself and I realize that I need childfree friends. I have two cats who are my babies, and I love them. I love to read. Anyone interested in being friends?
Hey all! I run the Childfree Gamer Women 25+ US only discord helping childfree gamer women find local friends within the US. There is a friendship epidemic as I see childfree women worldwide looking for childfree women friends locally all the time.
The US Gamer server I run takes quite a bit of my time so I can’t actively run a worldwide server as I’m only one person, so I thought I’d make this post to see if there are any Childfree Women 25+ internationally (outside of the US) and Childfree Women 25+ within the US (who aren’t gamers) that would be interested in a staff position on an international discord server.
For example if a Childfree Woman 25+ from France became a staff member they would be tasked with bringing in other childfree women 25+ from France and helping Childfree Women finding friends within the regions of France. And just in general running events (whatever you want like book clubs, movie nights, etc)
I can’t actively run the International Server, but I can oversee it, I can teach you what I know/learned if need be once you’re a staff member, etc.
(Childfree as in doesn’t have kids, no desire to have kids/adopt/not a step parent.)
Comment or DM me if interested. ❤️
Edit: International Childfree Women 25+ is for all childfree women worldwide. This is NOT a gamer only group. For this group to become a reality it needs childfree women staff members. Please message me if interested.
Hello i am currently searching for friends that are also child free. Its crazy everyone is having children and thats great and all that but thats not what in life. Anyone understand? Update :
Thank you to everyone who commented. Genuinely very helpful. If you would like to follow along feel free to reach me on instagram bearcatbetch27.
Hey! So I have nieces and nephews and I love to hang out with them, but I always knew I didn’t wanna be a mother (since I was a kid) you guys deal with people that cannot understand that? So, I need to HATE kids in order to not wanting them? I don’t hate kids, and I don’t wanna look for excuses to make people happy and satisfied with my decision. To me it feels like it has to be always black or white, you cannot like them and not wanting them 🤷🏻♀️ dude! Im tired of that 🤣 sorry if my English sucks, im from Chile and I live in CA
I am a 47 year old childfree woman by choice (and married).
I have had parent friends over the years who were pretty chill. Most, not so much. However, when I moved to a new area a few years ago, one of my goals in meeting new friends was trying to connect with people around my own age (35-55) without kids. Tall order. I know. It’s difficult to meet friends as an adult, as is. Placing limitations just makes it more difficult. Anyway, I also told myself I would also just be open to people, whatever their life circumstances were. Well, I met a friend from an online class I took and we’ve been sporadically hanging out for a couple of years. She’s nice, also an introvert, and we have some of the same interests. Those are the pluses. The difficulties are the same as every other parent friendship I’ve had.
Talks about children a lot. I don’t mind a bit of child talk, but it’s hard to be friends with people whose life completely revolves around their kids. Again, I love my chill parent friends who have their own interests, but they don’t live near me. Her kids are also teenagers. I’d think it would ease up. I would be wrong.
Hang out time is around her daughter’s schedule. Only.
Brings daughter along, but doesn’t mention it at all beforehand. I’m mostly fine with it. Her daughter is sweet, but I don’t know her and it feels like she is sort of forcing interaction between us, which feels weird to both me and the daughter (who is very shy and I can tell it bothers her).
And here is the kicker behavior that bothers me so much and is very common among my mom friends I have had: Controlling and condescension. She has a way of sometimes trying to control the situation. In text. One on one. Not that she wants her way, but there are subtle passive aggressive “motherly” things she does. I could give lots of examples, but I’d be here all day. There is a tendency for her to try to “mother” at times and I can set boundaries with that. I am not looking for advice on how to deal with her. I am a direct person, but it’s something I have noticed with moms who tend to feel that their own lives aren’t their own. They spread those passive aggression and controlling behaviors to their friends. It gets very old and tiresome.
Have any of you noticed this? I am in a rural area with very little options. My therapist says if childfree friends are what I want, it might be good to limit time with parent friends and open up time for the childfree ones who come along. I think she is right, but it gets pretty lonely waiting, especially at my age. Especially being the homebody I am.
Recently decided to create a discord community for **25+ Japanese learners who are learning Japanese in order to watch/read shoujo/josei anime/manga and play otome games in Japanese.**
Example of Shoujo/Josei Titles Discussion
QQ Sweeper/Queen’s Quality
Nina the Starry Bride
Yona of the Dawn
Tamon’s B-Side
Sacrificial Princess and the King of Beasts
In the Name of the Mermaid Princess
I’m in Love with the Villainess
Life Lessons with Uramichi Oniisan
Love of Kill
Not Your Idol
Firefly Wedding
Usotoki Rhetoric
Examples of Otome Games Discussed
Taisho x Alice
Collar x Malice
Even if Tempest
9 R.I.P.
Piofiore
Only restriction on this server is age restriction. This isn’t a childfree server, however, I did create a childfree role and that role allows access to a childfree only channel section.
Childfree as in doesn’t have kids, has no desire to have kids/adopt/become a step parent.
Server is worldwide for Japanese learners who are 25+ that wish to learn Japanese to in order to watch/read shoujo/josei anime and manga and for those who wish to play otome games in Japanese.
I'm AFAB, Non-Binary, a Lesbian, and Emo. Course I'm also CF, and sterilized. I'm turning 30 this month and wished I had more friends. I have a wife, and we have 3 furkids (cats). I'd also love more queer friends especially, also since my wife is trans! Anyway, I do digital art! I draw fanart, furries, and can draw chibis/humans. I'm best at drawing animals though! I enjoy being out in nature, museums, antique stores, amusement parks, and malls. My wife and I are car enthusiasts and we have cool cars of our own! We'd love more car friends too!
Otherwise we like to go out and do things but we don't always find much to do, so we end up playing PC games at home. My wife has friends but they never reach out to hangout 😕. We're both introverts but we are decent nice people! If anyone is nearby, feel free to reach out! I'm even open to having more online friends if you aren't close by! ❤
Hello,
I need some advice and I hope you won’t judge me. I’m feeling overwhelmed and confused. I have an appointment with my therapist tomorrow, but I just can’t wait.
I’ve been with my partner for almost four years. Ever since I was a child, I’ve known that I never wanted to have kids. When we started dating, I mentioned this to him, and he said he didn’t know how he felt about it. Two years later, I brought it up again, and it led to a huge argument. He wanted to end things, but I didn’t want to, so I said I might consider having one child.
Now, two more years have passed, and all his siblings have lots of kids and are trying for more. I’ve seen him interact with their kids, and it’s hard for me to imagine him giving up the idea of having children to stay with me. A few days ago, I broke down in tears and told him I cannot conceive the idea of having a child, ever. He admitted he felt guilty for pressuring me and said he always knew I wasn’t the “mother type.”
Now he says he’s debating the idea of having kids because he doesn’t want to lose me. He’s trying to decide what’s more important to him. I’m struggling to believe this because, for his siblings, having kids is their number one priority.
Should I believe him if he says he will give up the idea of having kids to stay with me? I’m worried that one day he’ll realize he does want kids and will either leave or push me to have one, making me very unhappy. My reasons for not wanting kids go beyond just not liking them. I have two health conditions that are highly heritable, and I think it’s selfish to bring more people into a world that might become uninhabitable. Nothing about pregnancy, delivery, or raising a child appeals to me. I just don’t have the instinct to have kids.
What should I do?
Hey everyone! Looking for childfree women in my area to make new friends. DMs are open if you're local!
-Likes hiking -Foodie -Musician -Great listener and supporter -Reliable -Likes arts and crafts and doing fun classes around town -Married to a wonderful husband
Myself and my close friends are all in our 30s. I've know for a long while I didn't want kids, as I find the whole thing exhausting. My friends are now in the beginning stages of having babies, and I can't stand the group chat anymore. For the last year and a bit, 98% of the topic of conversation has to do with pregnancy, babies, and everything needed for pregnancy. My one friend who is in the beginning stages of trying, has become an absolute lunatic about becoming pregnate. She talks down of drinking, hates all outdoor cats for using her garden, so is litterlly taking all of the soil out of her gardens and replacing them bc of how toxic it is, had a meltdown for using nailpolish remover bc she didn't realize it was a bad chemical to be around, thinks every cramp in her body may be her "becoming pregnante", and I just can't anymore. She's making a rant from a vegan sound like a reasonable conversation at this time, bc of the level of paranoia she's become and how her entire personality now is just about becoming a mom. Ive told her more than once in the groups the reactions shes describing are anxiety, and she needs to take a step back a little and stop thinking everything is going to kill her. I don't even want to imagine what she will become like when she actually has the damn kid. In the group chat, my one friend tries to change the conversation to include me, and somehow in my other friends next response is back to something about becoming pregnate, or babies again. It's been over a year of this and I'm out. I've turned off the notifications to the group chats, because I don't want to read anymore of it. And don't really know how to tell the girls I'm just going to check out from this for a while. I knew being the only friend in this friend group not wanting a child, I would become distant just due to different lifestyles. I never expected to feel this way, where I don't want to be around this journey now. It's been a few weeks and the girls noticed I haven't been in the conversations, and are reaching out on other platforms. I'm on vacation, so it's easy to pretend I'm not around my phone, but I'm not sure how to tell them I don't like this, and the people they have become, because the obsessive necroticness of the conversations has become too much for me. I do have other cfc friends to hang out with, so I'm not alone. But it's like I know this other group just won't be around for a while anymore.
Looking for childfree friends upper 35+.
Im a 38F just looking to chat🙂
Is a person really your “friend” if they never reach out to you first? it’s always YOU that has to reach out to THEM to do anything (even when it comes to just checking in on the other person).. is that a true friend? I’ve known this person for 5+ years, we went to middle school together, high school together, even graduated together. and back then I didn’t notice it but now that we live our own lives. She doesn’t reach out to me ever I’m always the one that has to ignite it. Thoughts?
Hey, I’m new to this city and I was wondering if anyone else is looking for new friends here or somewhere in Europe. I'm 26F, I like things like anime, fanfiction, etc. I don’t really want to raise younger kids, but I love cats and animals haha.
This is a group for childfree gamer women who are 25+ or older living in the US.
Childfree meaning doesn’t have kids and has no desire to have kids/adopt kids. Women as in Trans women, fem non-binary, and women.
Members play and talk about a wide variety of games such as Among Us, King of the Castle, Project Zomboid, Placid Plastic Ducks, Fashion Dreamer, Snacko, Critter Crops, Don’t Starve Together, Animal Crossing, BG3, Honkai, League of Legends, Palia, and otome games like Taisho x Alice, Collar x Malice, etc.
Currently we have 8 player Stardew Farms game nights. Saturday is Koe 声 a Japanese language learning video game and otome game nights on Sunday evening.
If you are a childfree gamer woman interested in studying Japanese because you want to read shoujo/josei manga and/or play otome games in Japanese then this group is for you. There are often post updates on shoujo/josei manga that don’t have English translation.
We also enjoy discussing witchy things like tarot cards, crystals, and astrology
Must be 25 or older and living in the US to join the group. Please DM me❣️
Also any childfree gamer women who are outside of the US please DM me. ⭐️
Hello all,
I moved to London a couple of years ago and have been settling in well. I have a good job and I'm quite happy but I do find it fairly hard to create friendships that are more than just politeness with collegues. Everyone either already has friends or are parents and do not have time to do things outside their kid's sphere. So I'm turning to Reddit to try and find others in the same situation. I like TV shows, reading, heroic fantasy, baking cakes, walking in parks, having drinks and funny witty conversations. I'm very curious and open to new things too so any original/fun suggestions are always welcome. Cheers to anyone interested. I live in North London