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. . My youngest cousin, has always been very moody and random outbursts or tantrums from a young age 4 . I noticed when I visited them for vacation that when the kids acted out even the smallest thing would upset my uncle and he usually he would lash out or react with anger and verbal abuse, the way he treated them always upset me and a reason I stopped wanting to visit him. She expressed to me a few times that he has hit her as well . Is it possible that she developed BPB from abuse ? She is almost 17 now and I once in a while chat with her about her home life and how she wants to leave She has been suicidal in the past and they have put her in 72 hour psychiatric hold, during that time she was Put on Ativan . They expressed to me recently that my uncle and their mom hasn’t listened to her at all and refuses to take responsibility for the way they treated them growing up as kid and said it’s not their fault the way they behaved and act and that it’s all just BPD . In the past I tried to say to the mom that she needs help and is basically crying out for help from her actions and right away was shot down saying “ oh it’s just a act for attention. “ I suggested therapy that it could help . They got her a counselling but my uncle believes it’s a waste of time and is doing nothing . They currently on Fluoxetine clonidine and 2 others. During the hold she had they gave her Ativan and ( said it was the best she felt with anxiety ever) and suggested that to him and he refused and said I don’t want you to get addicted . Also has stated “ oh it’s just anxiety it will go away . Instead said a treatment centre would be better for her . All she has expressed is how she wants to leave the house or has had suicidal thoughts .

Over the last summer she started smoking weed to help her and they recently told her that the weed is addictive and made her stop . I really feel bad for her as she is the baby cousin and going thru all at home . I just really want to help and do something. Who is to blame the parents or the BPD . There is only so much I can do from a different place but it hurts my heart seeing someone go through so much . Would therapy fix this would the medication she wants work . Any advice helps . Sorry for the long message.

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Hi guys,

To put a long story short i'm becoming desperate. I'm aware that BPD is untreatable but I can't afford therapy at the minute and it's always been something i've been too scared to go back to due to negative past experiences.

I feel like my BPD is taking over me. Mainly my relationship - in every day life i cope with it really well (really well being either stopping caring pretty quickly or turning my anger/upset inward) but in my relationship - i take it out on my partner. I think this is mainly due to my rejection sensitivity, fear of abandonment, insecurity etc. It can be something as small as seeing he's accepted a girls follow request, mention of another girl, tone of voice and i'm arguing with him or just disassociated/moody. He's amazingly supportive but one thing he says that triggers me as i've heard it in all my relationships is "I feel like I can't do anything right." it's hard to explain that it's not him, not his fault it's just my overthinking and personal insecurities. I'm scared he'll leave or is insulting me, leading to me thinking he'll cheat, i'm unattractive etc.

I just struggle more so in relationships and i need some genuine coping mechanisms to try and help me - what's worked for you? I hear things like well if he cheats you can't control it and you have to accept that but anyone with BPD knows that's near impossible. I just need some help controlling these irrational thoughts and outbursts

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Hey guys, I'm looking for some advice on how to ease my insecurity. I know what the majority of comments will be - talks about therapy and things being "out of my control" etc but i'm just hoping for one comment to resonate and help me because i'm really struggling at the moment.

I'm diagnosed BPD and over time, i'd like to say i've seen a lot of improvement in myself even if it is slow. I'm aware of the stigma that we have but i'm truly trying to get better for myself, my family, friends and my partner. It's so difficult having to live with such intense insecurity and instability so please be sensitive to that in the comments before calling me a liar or a narcissist. I love and feel things deeply which although puts me at detriment some times, I have come to see as a blessing.

My father was abusive growing up, emotionally and physically. This reflected in alot of my past relationships, i've been hyper sexual, have dealt with drug problems ( I'm now 2 years clean ), i've dealt with extreme anger and intense emotions, relationships and breakdowns yet i've finally met the one. He makes me feel safe, loved, secure, understood and meets every single one of my needs without hesitation. Even with my BPD i fail to fault him and encourage myself to be a better person and reach out for help - even resorting to reddit - just so i can be better for myself and our relationship.

He's going to LA for 2 weeks with his friends. Now this is difficult as it is for someone who's incredibly insecure but also his friends being people who have cheated in the past. E.g. one friend went round a bar hitting on as many girls as possible with his girlfriends name tattooed on his hand and told the girls it was his "dead dog". Although this friend is not going with him, it worries me that these are the people he surrounds himself with. He had to iced me with tonnes of reassurance and out communication is so healthy - in our whole 7 months of being together i've never heard him raise his voice at me. He is beyond patient, he gives me gifts, time, love and energy. I'm just so scared that when he goes away he'll cheat on me because he knows i won't find out seen as he's abroad. Whether it's out of my control or not i cannot help worrying, if i voice it to him he'll complain that i'm giving him an earful for something he's not done but if i don't it'll eat me up inside for weeks.

We've had problems sexually the last few weeks aswell - he struggles to stay hard 20% of the time i'd say. This makes me feel super insecure and i believe he's not attracted to me. I know all these thoughts are irrational but they all contribute to the fear that hell cheat on me and it's eating me up inside. I've improved on my communication, we rarely argue, i've accepted that he's going away, i don't check his phone, i'm clean from drugs. All of this may sound like the expected to "normal" people but anyone with BPD will know this is a big acheivment.

I don't want to lose him and i'm still trying to better myself not only for my sake but also for our relationships. I just need some genuine advice from people on how to get over personal insecurities (looks) and relationship insecurities. I hope you all have a blessed day <3

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Idk why it always happens and i hate it and wish we could just get along because whenever he says something to me that hurts my feelings I take things too far and say something hurtful back. I wish I could take away what I said but I can't. I hate knowing he wouldn't take back the hurtful things about me but I still love him.

Currently going through a really bad breakup with my fp and trying not to spiral. It is the only thing on my mind and I don’t know how to deal with it. Usually when I go through these I try to cope with self harming or just rebounding. Does anyone have advice on how to heal/distract myself in a healthy way.

Tbh I be trying my hardest not to let the people around me and especially someone I romantically confide in about my condition feel they need to walk on eggshells when they talk to me. But inevitably it’s true. Any little thing they text or don’t text can set me off. Now im in an attitude or setting up a shit test to see if you’ll abandon me. Even reading replies on Reddit sometimes I feel like they be directed at me and it fr has like nothing to do with nothing I just be tryna tell myself chill outt ❗️

I feel very lonely, which I'm aware is my own doing. However, I remember when I was nice, quiet and just kept to myself. I feel like I've lost so many things so early... my youth just came and went. I wanted to be good. I don't know how. I really don't.

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the guy i've been talking to/seeing for the last 4 years ignored me all day yesterday not ONLY on my birthday, but the night before i was supposed to travel over 100 miles to go see him. anyone have advice? 😕 i'm heartbroken.

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