/r/askadyke
Welcome to r/AskADyke. This space is for casual conversation and creating an opportunity for lesbians to share their lives, experiences, and thoughts.
Who are dykes? Dyke is a slang term, used as a noun meaning lesbian. It originated as a homophobic slur for masculine, butch, or androgynous girls or women. Pejorative use of the word still exists, but the term dyke has been reappropriated by many lesbians to imply assertiveness and toughness.
Welcome to r/AskaDyke. This space is for casual conversation and creating an opportunity for dykes/lesbians to share their lives, stories, experiences, and thoughts.
FAQ:
Dyke is a slang term, used as a noun meaning lesbian. It originated as a homophobic slur for masculine, butch, or androgynous girls or women. Pejorative use of the word still exists, but the term dyke has been reappropriated by many lesbians to imply assertiveness and toughness.
Who can use the word "dyke"? Slurs can only be reclaimed by members of the minority group that the slur is/was used against.
/r/askadyke
I love the dark chocolate twix.
I want to get out of the talking stage within the next month or two, and I need help with date ideas. She masc, introverted/a bit reserved, and she likes knives and fishing. I like nature, animals, and spiritual stuff, and I’m drawing blank on date ideas outside of a hike. It’s getting too cold for that, plus I’d like to make her as comfortable as possible. She doesn’t like coffee so a coffee date is out the window, and she’s also not a big fan of tea like I am
Update: thank you all for the ideas so far! I really appreciate them, and I’ll make sure to casually slip in the ideas in our conversations 💕
I may not look like like it but I enjoy going to the gym 3 - 4 times a week and I sometimes go for a run or two as well. These are things I usually do before even going to work lol so after work or on the weekends I usually enjoy gaming, hanging out with friends or watching hour long videos about media I enjoy.
Married, relationship, situationship, etc; tell me your favorite “silly” or “small” thing your girl does that’s your favorite?
One of many, but my wife loves to learn current TikTok gossip and then tell me all about it as she knows I’m never in the loop. She does this with work drama too and it never gets old! Tell me tell me tell me yours!
Hey I made a post on another subreddit about something similar to this but I thought I might as well ask one of the overarching questions here: how do I stop centering my life around men?
I have a few but am always looking for more. I like Dyking Out with Carolyn Bergier and Melody Kamali. I also enjoy Lez Hang Out by Leigh Holmes Foster and Ellie Brigida
I (37F) had the fortune of traveling a lot this year - Amsterdam, Bermuda, and Lake Louise in Canada. Also attended a wedding or two.
Last week at the office, a colleague (who is an acquaintance, not a friend) asked for my social media to view my experiences (pictures, what I wore to these weddings, etc). I don’t have social media - Instagram, Snapchat, etc. I had Facebook until I was 28, but then deleted it when I realized how much time I spent gossiping and obsessing over people I don’t even talk to. I’m so much happier disconnected!
My colleague then asked me to text her the pictures on my phone, which I also don’t have because I don’t take photos. My wife takes a lot of photos, and will text them to me at my request if I really like something.
My colleague kind of made a scene about how “weird” this is. She essentially accused me of hiding something or lying about my personal time.
Do people in the larger population really feel this way? I felt a little awkward and embarrassed as it was in front of others.
Mine are
Amanita Caplan in Sense8
Waverly Earp in Wynonna Earp
Carol Aird in Carol
Elena Alvarez from One Day at a Time
Cosima Niehaus from Orphan Black
What is your view on friendly sex?
Not a one night stand, nor hook-up - but an organic sexual friendship. No attachments, ownership, or commitment. Would you have these sexual friendships? Why or why not?
Hey all, I’m in a bit of a predicament and could use some help. I’m 25 and a masc presenting lesbian. Recently (meaning the last year or so) I’ve put on a bit of extra weight. I have a job that doesn’t require a lot of exceeding besides walking to the bus before and afterwards, on a 7-days on 7-days off schedule. I find it really hard to stick to any workouts (along with not being able to afford the memberships to the gym) and diets have proved to be useless as my way habits are quite normal. My real issue is I want to be comfortable with my little bit of pudge and be confident as well, my partner really likes that I have a little bit of pudge on my stomach but I can never seem to get it out of my head that it’s bad. So I could use some advice on what I could wear to perhaps be more confident, I don’t really know a lot about style and mostly wear blue jeans, a t-shirt from the men’s section of a Marks work warehouse (clothing store in Canada) or a long sleeve and the occasional plaid button up over top. I could really use some advice.
Thanks for any advice or recommendations in advance!
So I'm into this girl. And I want to find out if she's into girls. BUT i really need plausible deniability in case she's not. So how do i ask her without anyone catching on?
I figured this would be a good question to ask, because for me they are very important, they dictate whether or not I leave the house. I do not feel confident at all in women’s clothes and will actually work myself into a panic. I wear men’s clothes almost exclusively. Also the pockets are to die for I can fit my whole arm into my pockets lol
I saw the late bloomers do this one and wanted to other perspectives
Are they something I could do at home with no experience or is it better to find a salon?
Not asking for a friend 🫣
She has agreed to come for dinner next weekend. I want to put together a Playlist to help the mood along....nothing lovey lovey or mushy. I have 'Lipstick Lover' & 'Pussy Edible' ...I prefer lesser known musicians/ bands
Recommendations? Suggestions?
I'm 25 and I've recently come out as a lesbian (so far I only dated guys). For the last year I started dating women exclusively and also found one that I want to build a relationship with now. I'm just so scared it won't work out, since I have no experience in that regard. Also if it doesn't work out I'm scared that my sexuality will be questioned by my family rather than just the relationship itself. Does anyone else feel that way? Any advice?