/r/ABCDesis

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ABCDesis (Abroad-Born Confused Desis) is a place for members of the South Asian diaspora who were raised outside of South Asia to share their experiences and be a part of the collective global Desi diaspora community.

South Asian Diaspora

Our purpose at /r/ABCDesis is to foster a sense of community among the South Asian diaspora.

While this subreddit has been named 'ABCDesis', commonly used as an abbreviation for American Born Confused Desi, this subreddit is for ALL people of South Asian heritage who have migrated away from South Asia, no matter how many generations ago.

This subreddit is also for anyone who is not of South Asian heritage and those that still reside in South Asia to gain a perspective into the lives of South Asians who have migrated abroad. We just ask that you respect the community it is intended for in how you discuss and interact.

Thank you and please enjoy your visit!

SCHEDULED THREADS:
  • Sunday: Dating
  • Monday: Entertainment
  • Tuesday: Career & Academic advice [1]
  • Wednesday: Banter
  • Thursday: Tiffin Thursday
  • Friday: Eff Yeah Friday!
  • Saturday: Fashion & Fitness

[1] — posted every 1st and 3rd Tuesday

[2] — an ‘introduce yourself’ thread will be posted during the first week of each month

Click here to see our wiki for more detailed info about /r/ABCDesis, including our Crisis Resources list and other original material, community-sourced info, and related subreddits.


[C]

While the origin of ABCD has the "C" standing in for "confused", we've chosen to leave its interpretation up to our members. Confused or Confident. Charismatic, Creative, or Cunning, we are what we make of ourselves and every experience is different.


Rules

1. No Bigotry

No racism, casteism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, etc. This also extends to toxic nationalism and/or clan/tribe as well as discrimination against religion. If in doubt, remember to always be civil, even in your disagreements.

2. Keep It Civil

No matter how correct you may (or may not) be in your discussion or argument, if the post is insulting, it will be removed with potential further penalties. Remember to keep civil at all times. We also have zero tolerance for doxxing.

3. No Trolling/Brigading

This includes topics such as toxic masculinity, white worshiping discussions, religious slander, 'FOBs' vs 'ABCDs' topics. Brigading from hate subs will also result in bans.

4. No Low Effort/Repetitive Posts

Posts that require little effort such as a simple meme or posts where the discussion has already been posted recently and has garnered attention will be removed.

5. Relationship or Family Related Posts On Weekly Thread

Any dating/relationship/family related questions should be on the weekly threads in order to prevent clutter. Threads that are created outside of these will be removed without a valid explanation to the mod team beforehand.

6. No Misleading Submission Titles

Submission titles of web pieces must be comprised only of the copied and pasted headline of the piece, a continuous quote taken from the piece, or both the headline and a continuous quote taken from the piece. Submission titles should provide clarity.

7. No Discussion of South Asian Politics

No discussion of South Asian politics. Topics or comments that fall into political discussions of issues current/past in South Asian countries will be removed as they are not relevant to the primary demographic of this community. Discussion of diaspora politics that are relevant to the Desi community are permitted. Topics that may be based in South Asia but deal or can be linked with the South Asian diaspora directly are allowed provided it does not break any of the other rules.

8. No Advertising Without Mod Approval

If you would like to advertise a survey, your own media creation, or anything else, please seek approval from the Mod team before posting. Submissions without prior approval will be removed. If your submission comes through the Modqueue, it will be assessed there.

9. Reddit Content Policy

Violations of Reddit's Content Policy are not allowed, and may result in a ban from both this sub and Reddit. Reddit Content Policy rules include (but are not limited to): no spamming or ban evasion; no revealing personal or confidential information; no sexual or suggestive content involving minors; and no linking or sharing of illegal content.

Submission guidelines and content restrictions

1. Don’t link to porn.

2. Use link flairs when possible. They help draw wanted attention to your posts.

3. Use the No Participation domain when directing to other comment threads on reddit.

**4. Only post about dating, relationship, and family issues in the weekly threads. However, moderators will make exceptions for time-sensitive situations if communicated prior.


Credit to user /u/ck2875 for the subreddit design; Sidebar images from instagram users: hatecopy, RajPattanam, cheekybillo, mari_young_park and parvati_pillai.

/r/ABCDesis

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If you could pursue any career choice (and money was not an issue at all) what would you pursue?

I recently started watching Never Have I Ever

I also recently came across the actress Poorna ji’s website (Poornagraphy.com - great name lol definitely not what it sounds like, so it’s safe to click).

I remember reading about how she picked up and pursued acting at 30 so I was wondering whether others have felt inspired by some more recent examples of brown representation in industries/ places other than Bollywood.

Or if anyone is currently pursuing a career path that they want to share or talk about, I’m all ears!

1 Comment
2023/06/18
13:04 UTC

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My (open and transparent) chat with ChatGPT 4.0

Hey there everyone,

I’m an extremely transparent person. Being super transparent has helped me a lot and is slowly (I’m realising) shaping to be the closest thing I have to an empathy-based super power lol.

And so keeping in spirit with this mindset, I thought if others resonate with this (given we want to ensure we ‘find our tribe’, while creating a community focused on psychological safety and positive discussions) I’d be super happy I shared so,

Here’s my chat below ☺️

https://chat.openai.com/share/ce6a9ef7-540c-4c72-86f7-15a205e8aa4e

0 Comments
2023/06/18
10:06 UTC

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Fusion food combining desi cusine and other intl cusine?

5 Comments
2023/06/18
03:24 UTC

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Random Discussion Thread - June 2023

RDT: A space where you can afford having a low filter on your thoughts and express whatever goes in your mind, life or just simply have illogical banter (or logical if you prefer it that way). Come, join and see if you can contribute. And keep the shitposting to a maximum.

7 Comments
2023/06/15
01:17 UTC

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Late Night Random Discussion Thread - June, 2023

A place for Random Thoughts. Tell us about your life, culture, city, day, hobbies, favorite food, movies or anything general in life.

Share away anything you want, and make some new friends along the way :)

Note: Please keep all comments Civil and Non-Political.

9 Comments
2023/06/15
01:11 UTC

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