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Hey everyone, I’m feeling incredibly frustrated and could use some advice or just a space to vent. I accepted that I like women almost a year ago, and since then, the one thing I’ve desired most is to have a girlfriend. I don’t just want to be in a relationship for the sake of having the experience or to say I’ve been with someone. I want to pour my energy into loving someone wholeheartedly and feeling that love in return.

I’m so happy when I see WLW or lesbian couples out there, and I wish them nothing but the best. But it’s hard not to feel isolated when it seems like everyone else has found their person or is happily in a relationship. I’m not even asking for “the one” right now—just someone I can care for and share my energy with in the moment.

I’m 22, never been in a relationship, and I want to believe that I could just meet someone organically—like bumping into them at a bookstore or café—but I’m starting to think that’s a fantasy. I’ve been to a couple of queer spots in my area (I live in Connecticut), but it’s been tough, and I know I could probably make more of an effort to go to WLW or lesbian-specific spaces.

I really don’t want to rely on dating apps, but I’m starting to feel like that’s my only option. I just hate the idea of it feeling forced or transactional. I want something genuine, but I’m willing to step out of my comfort zone if it means finding someone worth it.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? How do you meet women in real life if you’re not into apps? Or if you’ve had success with apps, how do you make it feel more organic? Any advice or encouragement would be appreciated.

The feeling all started when there was a school event and all the class officers needed to dance. When the selected officers danced, there is this one girl that got me hooked up. Its like her presence got vignetted. She was the center of my attention. She danced so groovily and it was so astonishing. I thought to myself that maybe its just that i find someone attractive when they dance but its usually boys that i find attractive to. So the feeling was new to me. Then after a few hours after the event, to some coincidence the girl joined the same event as me so there was a bit of an interaction. All i really wanted that time was her attention. Striking my best to have a conversation with her. The feelings didn't lasted tho. Just for a few days, but now i feel like i feel a certain way with girls. She was like an awakening to me. But i still dont want to label myself. Maybe my inner loneliness or inner hopeless romantic made me like random people, especially the same sex as i am. So im a little confused.

me and my girlfriend have been together for almost three years, and i love this girl so much. we are each other’s first everything, and i genuinely cant see us breaking up. i dont think she knows how much i love her, and i want to promise to be with her through everything. we have always dreamed of getting married and having 2 kids, and i want to start that dream now. we probably wont actually get married for a while but i want her to know how serious i am about her. she means everything to me and we’ve grown together and been through so much throughout our time together. she is my best friend and i know i can tell her anything. the thing is,, we are both 18. i know a lot of people will think we are too young but i just wanted to get other peoples opinions. i think i rambled a little😓

GUYS I TRULY CANNOT TELL IF SHE WANTS ME AS A FRIEND OR MORE. WE ARE BOTH GIRL KISSERS, WE HAVE PLAYED ROBLOC TGTH FOR LIKE 5 HOURS MORE THAN ONCE, WE HAVE SM IN COMMON, AND WE TEXT EACGOTHER GN WITH HEARTS. OKOK so I rlly rlly like her but idk how to take this further since she also isn’t😭 like idk most of the time I have to text first, I hit her up first, and tbh it seems like I’m the one mostly keeping this going. I don’t wanna force it but I just wanna know whether or not it’s even worth it to keep this going if she doesn’t even have feelings for me.

Like is she texting hearts bcuz she likes me or bcuz I’m also doing it??😰 maybe I’m overthinking it idk but it’s the first time I’ve ever felt this way with anyone and I’ve always dated guys. I just don’t wanna get my hopes up just to get let down yk🙁 she also once told me one time after I said that I thought she was always pretty that she hadn’t seen me since this year, so ! Why is dating girls harder omg pls help

So say you slept with someone out of revenge and you’ve hung out quite a bit after. She’s really cool and I kinda like her 🤷🏻‍♀️ Should I ask her out on a date or is that not a good idea? 👀

How do I get over it, even after saying friends. She has a girl and I’m still here, self confidence tearing away.

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How many aura points do i lose for giving a girl i met on FUCKING WIZZ my all after i haven’t loved someone so hard for so long,treated her the best i could just because i didn’t wanted her to leave me because i became so attached. We talked for so fucking long. She told me she loved me, all that just so she could text me at 3:00am saying we shouldn’t talk anymore and blocks me. I begged for her back on Wizz not giving up on her because i’m ATTACHED ASF. I’ve apologized so many times for something i didn’t do. Next thing you know i’m scrolling on TikTok and her video comes up with her kissing a girl.

Sooo, I've seen a few other people ask for advice here and thought I might give it a go since I'm in a pretty confusing situation with this lady who is (sort-of?) pursuing me. Hope this post doesn't violate rule #7, I apologize if it does. She liked my profile on Boo and we have been sending voice messages back and forth for around a month now. It was obvious to me that she wanted to take things slow and that was and is perfectly fine with me. The trouble started today.

We had moved on from sending messages over the app to sending them to each others' phones a good while ago so it's been a hot minute since I looked at her profile. But I would occasionally - in the rare instances that I actually bother opening the app - look at her profile. Only just recently Boo has started having people list their orientation and today I noticed that she listed her orientation as straight. I asked her about this and her response was, "Yeah, I'm straight but no one has ever really intrigued me the way you do..." The rest of her message then largely consisted of reiterating that she was straight and then immediately undercutting that statement with things like, "straight is such a limiting answer," "I didn't really know what to put on there honestly," and, "I don't really know what I am."

As a contextual note, we're both in our mid-thirties. As a further contextual note, I'm a transwoman so this is extra confusing for me since it's making me feel weird about my gender in addition to all the other weirdness that the situation is making me feel.

Anyway, thoughts? This is my first experience of a girl who insists she's straight while acting very fucking gay towards me (there is no heterosexual explanation for the tone of our conversations). Also, sorry if this is written a bit incoherently, I really needed some red wine after today so this may not be the most well-composed thing I've ever written.

Edit: Thanks to everyone who voted and extra thanks to everyone who commented. After a good day of thinking, talking to friends, and considering what's been said here I've decided I'm going to cool things off and dial things back. I'm not gonna stop talking to her all together but I'm definitely moving on from her as a romantic option since I have a clear idea of what I'm looking for and she very much does not.

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FUBU|Lesbian(19) around Region 1.

How do I move on from her?

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