/r/trichotillomania

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This subreddit is dedicated to all those brave and beautiful people who also happen to pull their hair.

A subreddit for those with trichotillomania to share experiences or give helpful advice.

/r/trichotillomania

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why does scalp hair take significantly longer to grow than other hair? like armpit, chest, pubic, etc.

i’m getting soooo impatient. 77 days of regrowth and barely anything.

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2024/05/19
23:03 UTC

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Do I need to cut my hair off?

I have a big spot in the middle of my head so I always wear a hat. It's noticeably shorter than the rest of my hair. I know my hair will never be even again unless I got it off to that length which I don't want to. I had a nice long fro before I started picking again. I feel like shit. It looks like someone took a razor and shaved the middle of my head and left the rest of my hair

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2024/05/19
22:08 UTC

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CNCs

Hey there! I’ve had trichotillomania my whole life. I’ve been very fortunate to have 4 CNCs. I thought I’d hop on here to answer any questions someone might have about them. Hope I can help 😊

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2024/05/19
21:28 UTC

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Fidgets?

Does anyone have any Amazon links for fidgets to keep my fingers busy so I'm not pulling so much.

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2024/05/19
14:52 UTC

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Grrr

I'm so frustrated. Sitting down with my Sunday morning coffee and a book and within 2 minutes I'm pulling hairs on my chin. I'm just coming to the realization how debilitating this stupid trich is.

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2024/05/19
14:44 UTC

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trying to quit again

my self esteem is so low. I isolate myself all the time. my head hurts where I pull. I’m so worried my hair will never grow back in some places, because I’ve pulled there so much for years.

I think (I hope) that I hit my breaking point today. when I touch my scalp, any issues that exist just get worse. it’s not helpful to touch acne. I know that. but sometimes my hands don’t.

I’m gonna try more accountability and thoughtfulness. I’ve already tried gloves, nails, and ointments to make it harder to pull. I think I’ve been hoping for a cheat code when I need to have resolve. this is just as hard to quit as nicotine, at least for me.

I think maybe typing this out and posting will help. i’m also starting one of those “clean” timers today. I want to be able to track my progress and encourage myself that way. I may start crocheting again to keep my hands busy when I’m alone.

I appreciate where all of us are on our journeys, and i’m hopeful we can all find some peace from this debilitating disorder ❤️

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2024/05/19
07:13 UTC

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Do I just have adhd? Or do I have trichotillomania? Help

I started touching my hair in 7th grade constantly, just by putting my finger on my middle part to feel the texture. I got bullied for it almost daily. I gradually began playing with it by twisting it with my fingers over time. Then some time later I began twisting it untill it became knotted and then pulling it out all at once. Then I began putting it in my mouth and all over my face because it felt nice. Then I began chewing the roots of my hair and somtimes eating it. Then I began putting my hair into my ear because it feels nice. I now have to go to school bathrooms to eat and pull my hair for a couple minutes. I just have to sleep with my hair in my mouth somtimes. So idk what is going on right now.

Idk if This is my adhd or somthing deeper is going on here

A little context:

I’m diagnosed with adhd but my parents always get mad and disappointed at me for eating through my shirts, my pens, bottle caps, pieces of plastic, my blankets, etc.And when I was little my dad would yell at me for hours because I would eat and chew my pencils and eat the lead. I’ve suffered for a lot of years because of this and was so ashamed of it since it’s been happening since I was a little girl. It’s so gross to do in public and I’ve been publicly shamed by teachers for chewing pencils. all of my school supplies look like trash, and it’s so tiring to be eating my hair while doing homework every day.

It just helps calm me down, and I’m on anziety and adhd meds, and my chewing will not go away, it’s always been a thing but gradually it’s just moved to more harmful things like my hair this year which I’m destroying. I’m worried my chewing habit will just continue to get worse. I value my hair and I have had to cut it so many times now, and I use to have such soft and long hair. It was somthing I loved dearly and seeing it lost breaks my heart, and it breaks my moms heart too. Not sure if this is just stimming or somthing else?

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2024/05/19
06:42 UTC

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Encouragement??

Hi everyone~ I have had approximately no eyebrows or eyelashes for most of this past year, but I recently have regrown a little bit of both and it’s really exciting! However I just “relapsed” a bit, and I usually have a hard time coming back from “relapses” because of unhelpful all-or-nothing thinking. So any tips or encouragement would be much appreciated!!

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2024/05/19
06:09 UTC

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Wake up call :\

I feel like I had a wakeup call today. I was in a dressing room with 360 mirrors and noticed I am developing a bald spot. I'm so disappointed in myself, and stressed about my hairstylist noticing it next week. It sucks because I actually thought I was making progress. Guess I have to step up my coping mechanisms: bonnets, keeping my hair in up-dos, fidget toys.

We're in this together guys ♥️ Every day, hour, minute is a decision, we have the power to change the outcome.

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2024/05/19
02:18 UTC

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Embarrassing/Weird moment today

If this happened a year ago, I would’ve been sobbing. Now, I’m more kind of like “huh…”

I was in Walmart today buying more eyeliner pencils, and was having a hard time since they’re hard to find the right color and brand. So I was on my knees searching through the racks when a woman walks up to me and asked if I was looking for xyz, which I was so I said yes. That was when she showed me where some were since they moved them.

She then gets to looking at me strangely and is like “oh are you wearing the same eyeliner right now?” Which I said yes, I was, and then she got another weird look on her face.

And then she straight up asks why I don’t have eyelashes. I’m the type of person to get extremely embarrassed, but for some reason today, I didn’t feel that way. I shouldn’t have, but I got an attitude with her.

Then she asks what happened to my eyebrows…I said I was sick, implying I had a disease or something relating to hair loss. She then got super red in the face and immediately assumed I had cancer before quickly walking away and saying sorry.

Why do people even…

💀

10 Comments
2024/05/18
23:40 UTC

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It’s getting bad again

I thought I was getting closer and closer to going one. Just one full day without picking at my hair. It it’s been bad lately and I’m so frustrated with it all.

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2024/05/18
23:24 UTC

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Ideas for covering bald spot?

I've recently found a good hairstyle that covers my spots pretty welll (especially since the entire top of my scalp is nearly bald). However, one little strip is left when I pull my hair back and you can see my bare scalp still in there.

I currently use Caboki fibers to cover it up, and they work well, but I hate having to remove it at night, how it gets on everything, etc. I'm looking for a better solution in the idea of something to color my scalp darker (my hair is dark brown, nearly black, so my very light scalp shows easily).

I don't want a permanent tattoo cover in case I ever want to dye my hair lighter in the future, but does anyone have ideas for covering a little more short-term, but lasts longer than just one day?

Would henna work (does it come in black, or just orangey-red?) or has anyone tried any of those 'semi-permanent' tattoo markers? Anything like that? I'd love something that lasts anywhere between several days to several months. I'm also not sure if microblading would work because it's such a large area to cover (and it's a bit out of my price range right now anyway.)

Thanks!

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2024/05/18
21:56 UTC

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this is easily the worst i have ever felt. how do you guys cope?

i’ll be honest, my trich from my scalp definitely isn’t serious, however - when i pulled a good bit of hair from it (see post history for photo for reference), it has made me so depressed. i haven’t pulled at all since then as i love my hair and wanted to break the habit while it was still mild. (if that makes sense) i still pull from other areas, but not from my scalp or eyebrows or anything that’s visible really.

however, i can’t seem to do anything anymore. even watching a stupid instagram reel makes me depressed, as the whole time im thinking “damn, i wish i just hadn’t done what i done and just was able to live my life normally as it once was”

if im not working, i spend pretty much every minute on my bed all depressed, because: a) the shame/regret/guilt of it even happening. b) the fact that it even happened and c) the fear that it is not going to grow back the same even though it was a one day thing (maybe 2, the previous day i may have picked maybe a few hairs but not nearly as much as the second day)

my question is, how do you guys cope? granted my trich from my scalp isn’t as serious as most i’ve seen on here, i need advice on how to mentally get better and to get out of this depression hole im in, as this is by far the worst i’ve felt about ANYTHING in my whole life, and i have had horrible moments before.

any bit of advice can help, and id love to maybe make a group chat so we can support and talk to each other everyday. please, reach out, im really struggling.

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2024/05/18
19:43 UTC

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Started a few months back

Hello everyone ! I'm happy I found a subreddit fot this since i feel so alone in this... I don't know if I qualify to fit habing trichotillomania but here is my story so far !

So hi my name is Alex I'm 18 and I have had a skun condition called folliculitis which started a few months back which then gre into a worstened ( again ) mental and physical state. My hair has been worst since then, thinner and easier to pull out which is how my hair pulling habits begun.... i mostly pull for the short hair on thecsides of my head ( for some reason they haven't grown back in a really long time ) and my eyebrows. Luckily for me it's not too noticeable but enough to make me hate how I look. I feel embarassed to go outside and it's just really hard... when I get nervous I inconspicuously start pulling out pinches of hair ( which my hair pullings are more spaces out than little sections of hair if that makes sense ) everywhere i go my hair is everywhere because of how bad my hair itself is + my hair pulling habits. I never really spoke about this because it felt embarassing but here ! I hope I'm welcomed on this subreddit ♡

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2024/05/18
15:00 UTC

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Pulling consistency for 2 years

Hi! I'm 33 years old and I've been pulling my eyelashes pretty consistently for 2 years. I see a BFRB therapist and we're working on coping mechanisms, etc. I have a few days where I'm good and then days where I pull a lot. Tonight I pulled a lot out and I'm bald on both eyes except the inner corners.

Does anyone have experience with eyelashes growing back after consistently pulling for approx 2 years? It's hard to imagine I haven't done some damage and can possibly have a full set of lashes again.

Thanks!!

7 Comments
2024/05/18
05:11 UTC

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How to improve lifestyle with trich ?

I have been trying to get my life back to normal and have not pulled any hair for while . However given my hair volume is less i feel very skeptic to put myself out to date ... ..is there a solution to overcome this anxeity. I am 32M

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2024/05/18
04:46 UTC

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Trying to grow bangs long enough to tie back, but my trich keeps them too short.

This is my first post. I am grateful there is a subreddit for us pullers! M/37/wanting long healthy hair. I have not gotten to the point of bald spots, but I’m pretty sure I have thinned parts of my hair out a not-insignificant amount. My main trigger/method is taking the hair that I tuck behind my ears and slightly pinching and pulling a small section until one hair remains between my fingers then I pull that one out. Then I look at it, and am especially satisfied if it kinky looking or what I assume is a split end. I have wavy/curly brown hair, so I don’t know if kinks in it are natural or if there’s something I am missing in hair care. I shampoo 2-3 times a week and condition almost every day. I can tie all of my hair but the bangs slip out pretty easily. I’m not sure if tying them back tightly is damaging them? Maybe the kinky hairs are caused by tying back incorrectly? I feel like the hairs that I am pulling are the weaker hairs and delusionally think I am helping in the moment by “culling the weak”. I have grown to enjoy the feeling, and once I start, especially if I’m extra anxious, it will snowball until my bed looks like I am shedding more than my longhair cat! Any advice or encouragement or even an “I relate to that” would be appreciated! ❤️

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2024/05/18
04:01 UTC

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Why I had a crisis the whole day ? I was not stressed out

First, sorry for my english, there could be some mistakes. I'm going to sleep soon, I will feel better tomorrow normally. Today, I don't know why, my trichotillomania as well as my dermatillomania were especially strong. I had a long week, a bit tiring BUT I was not stressed out today. I was a bit anxious yesterday and the day before that for an exam but nothing extraordinary. I was not betting my life on it and since the exam was anonymous I was not even worried about any judgment or backlash If I failed it....

So, anyway, I don't understand why my ocd was soooo strong today. I did not slept very well for a few night (as I slept at a friend) but, once more, I did not felt BAD. And I took some NAC supplements + glutathion for 2 month (I ended up this 3 weeks ago) and I will not continue it since I haven't noticed any noticeable change....

I'm a bit sad I'm not getting better... I have to see a psy next week but I'm really afraid he will judge me as I really don't want to take anti-depressant medication for a few very good and very real reasons....I just hope it's not the only way. I have more and more the feeling there is no way out of my situation:(

Sorry for the depressing text, I'm not in my best condition today ><

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2024/05/17
23:12 UTC

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Feeling down about my pulling

Hi all I'm M33 and been pulling for over 20 years. I pull for stress release as well as to play with hairs. This week has been rough and I'm looking for some support. I mainly pull my beard and mustache but do pull other facial hair as well (ear, nose). I don't shave every day but even when I shave I still manage to pull.

TIA

1 Comment
2024/05/17
03:36 UTC

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DAE have trichotillomania and got abused for it? Or are you normal?

11 Comments
2024/05/17
06:04 UTC

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when can i expect to see some actual regrowth?

so basically, when i was studying for a test 2 months ago (march 3rd to be exact) i started subconsciously pulling from my scalp. twisting the hairs, then pulling them out. later in the day i saw a pile of hair then noticed i had a bald spot. since that day, i have not pulled out hair from my scalp once.

i have barely seen any regrowth, and its been 73 days. for those who experienced something similar, when exactly can i expect to see some actual regrowth and not just some baby hairs?? people please respond as im starting to get very discouraged.

4 Comments
2024/05/16
16:48 UTC

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