I have been in the closet for 2 years. I'm terrified to come out to my parents because I'm afraid that I won't be accepted.

Well, my mom has a pretty long history of being homophobic. I came out to my friends and my sister and I got accepted pretty well. I thought that I would have been shoved back into the closet.

My dad doesn't know that the LGBTQ+ community exist. Pls help .

I just wanna be myself.

I was showing my mom some pictures from this semester. Then she started scrolling backward, toward some photos that would out me.

As she got closer and closer I got more and more stressed. Eventually I took the phone.

I wish I hadn't. I could have just let it play out. Life in the closet sucks. I just want to be me...

I came out my mom last year, to tell her I was bisexual. She then lectured me that “it’s a phase, my daughter is not like that etc.” She kept telling me how the family wouldn’t trust me around the younger kids and how my dad would kick me out. She also think bi people are troubled and confused because they can’t “choose”, and can’t be trusted to not cheat in relationships.

After trying to explain it with no avail, I realized I made a mistake trying to tell her. I just started agreeing with her, telling her exactly what she wanted to hear. Then I told her to just forget this conversation ever happened and that was it. We pretend it never happened. She claims she’s no homophobic and supports the lgbtq+ community, but she’s obviously not when it comes to her own family.

I can’t get over resenting her since, I don’t like her at all and the resentment is not going anywhere. How do I forgive and forget? Any tips?

Edit: Just want to say thank you to everyone’s advice and well wishes. I wish she’d accept me but i think real change would happen when I move out. For now I’ll keep my distance and even though the resentment I feel may be justified I’ll try to not it affect me too much. <3

I'm a middle aged transwoman still in a man's body. I know I'm living a lie, but I'm also functional. I have a career, keep the pantry stocked and pay my bills.

I don't know if I'll ever come out and transition. I yearn to be me. To be whole. But I always hesitate. I worry about the complication, the hassle, and giving up the social privilege.

That's my story.

And I (female) don’t know how to tell my husband that

Edit: I told him and he was totally cool about it!

…..I don’t make many of these posts but..as someone who just came out the closet recently and is experiencing dating a woman as a woman, its very hard to not act like a friend when that’s the role you’re use to playing when it comes to women. I like this girl though, shes so interesting and sweet but everytime we hangout I can’t seem to make a move to kiss her. It’s going on date 3 and I haven’t done anything at all. I’m a god damn clown, and I can see she thinks i’m not interested at all in her. No one ever talks about how when you pretended to be straight for 22 god damn years, it gets difficult to do certain things because i’m still in my head about it. Any tips to help me get comfortable?

I have realized that I have some latent homosexual that I have for a long time suppressed due to upbringing I had and due to me being a Catholic. I had few experiences which I seemed to be able to push to the surface this was mainly with male companions that close with. I was raised by Father who is a on-off Muslim/atheist who told LGBT were unnatural and wrong, I think that this influence meet into hating & fearing LGBT people for a long time. Was told that it was unnatural to be LGBT . It took a long time for me to overcome the brainwashing he and Catholic Church gave me. I was never educated about LGBT issues in School or at home, it took a long time for me to get rid of my fear of LGBT, it was mainly via education via YouTube and reading about it.

Now I feel I that it was terrible stain on my honor and shame that I have yet to forgive myself. I guess that life has its ironic sense of being. I been slowly accepting that I do have part of me that like same sex as myself. In my family (which very large) there are no LGBT member's at all that I know of , I think they are in the closet[ as they live some of them in countries where being LGBT is a crime or very dangerous]. I have yet to leave the closet and tell My family. I think that I will once I have solid independent foundation tell my family the truth.

I do feel I great deal of pain not being able to actively have boyfriend even though I would like one. One who could understand me and not be in it just for sex or shallow reasons. I really want a companion to explore life with. Reddit allows me to be my pure and unadulterated and closeted self which I hide in public. This also the reason I will never on this profile give any type of photo for the time being.

but im not really sure im scared and i cant face that my truth might destroy my life kind of what should i do? i need advice from trans people thanks!

I identify as non binary, and I think I might be genderfluid. Im attracted to all genders and sexually attracted to women. My mom, however, doesn't know what half of the words I just typed mean. She is barely accepting of the fact that I have liked girls in the past (she said I was too young to know but that she was fine with it) and thinks gender neutral pronouns are crazy people stuff. I use all pronouns, so the dysphoria isn't as bad sometimes, but other times it can really suck to have people see you only as a girl. She isn't hardcore transphobic, like "all trans people suck" kind of transphobic, but she has transphobic beliefs. I want to try and find a way to deconstruct them, so it will be safer for me to come out. However, she gets mad at me whenever I try to talk to her directly about trans and LGBTQ+ issues. Anyone know what I can do?

If anyone is non binary here, I also wanted to know if there is a way I can deal with the dysphoria without having to come out to my school (some people there is transphobic, especially against non binary people).

Hello, im 25 and just noticed im bi-gender, i might be trans-man as well but im still not sure about it (maybe im just afraid) anyhow i didnt tell my mom yet and i may not tell her at all (no one knows anyways except for my sisters and some friends) she is religious and i dont know how she will react or feel about it i made jokes about cutting off my boobs and about being a guy inside she laughed but i can feel that she didnt like it i dont know what to do and i dont want to live a lie or hide myself from her and if im a trans boy i will suffer cuz i cant change anything. anyways even if i told her (cuz of the family and society) any ideas or suggestions? you can dm me

As pansexual

Hey I identify as all genders and am attracted to all genders but I'm only sexually attracted to people who identify as female

I go to a conservative university with a lot of people who have ties back to my hometown, and, by extension, my parents, but I've been recently thinking I might be bi. However, I know that porn and everything doesn't always get the same reactions as reality, and I've been thinking lately of something real to... make sure, I guess. But how do I do that without accidentally coming out? Wouldn't apps run the risk of running into someone that might recognize me, or a friend of a friend that might?

I'm a queer college student, set to graduate next spring. I've got no direction in life, I'm deep in the closet with no way out. The only people I've been close to (my sisters) feel like they're only using me as a chauffeur, or my few friends that I'm not really close to. They vent out all their problems daily but never give me time to do the same. I can't talk about myself or my problems with anyone, my sisters are weird about my being queer, none of my friends know, and it wouldn't go over well if they did. I've been pouring myself into schoolwork but with the semester just ending it feels pointless. It's just so exhausting trying to hide myself, even this small part of myself. Somethings gotta change cuz this isn't it. I can't keep this up but I've got no idea on how to get better. I used to vent to this woman I was close with, a family friend, and she would give me advice or a shoulder to lean on. My sister outed me by accident and she hit me with the "whatever you choose to be"; I can't be around someone who wants to debate the morality of my existence. Having no support net is just so exhausting, I feel like I'm all alone out here.

Are anyone kind enough to share your thoughts and experience as a bisexual? I’m confused.

I'm a man who first had sex with man and thought I might be gay. I also found myself attracted to girls romantically but not sexually so that makes be bisexual. recently, I'm not sure why I am attracted to trans man. I have never seen one or met one in real life. I feel that my mind is going crazy. Guess I had lost control of myself after staying in the closet for almost 2 decades. Please kindly enlighten me. Thank you.

ok so think im kinda into dudes and dont want anyone to know but also wna talk to other dudes like me who are secretly into dudes, is anyone there?

I'm a girl from Canada and I'm living with my parents and younger brother. I have a mom and dad. My parents are extremely religious and they seem to be homophobic.

I could tell by their reactions when I showed them a thumbnail of an LGBTQ+ show. There were two guys kissing in the thumbnail and my dad immediately started making a disgusted face and said it grossed him out. Don't get me wrong, I love my dad and all, but this was too far. I got really angry at him and told him he was being homophobic.

As I turned to walk upstairs to my room, I heard my mom say under her breath, 'Why do you support those kind of people?' I really wanted to scream at her right then and there, 'Because I am one of them!' But I knew she would not take it well, so I didn't say anything.

Recently, I came out to my friends, but I still haven't come out to my parents yet. Does anyone have any tips on how I can come out to them?

Thank you ☺️

So basically I’m out to almost all of my friends I think my mother knows but I don’t really know my dad is homophobic as well as my grandparents I’m only in middle school I have a boyfriend and I feel like instead of coming out I want to just move to a far away place and forget about my problems I am just mentally a mess I talk to my friends to help me with my sadness

So my grandma is very homophobic but I'm very gay. She always talks about how adam and eve, gays go to hell, bla bla bla. The whole routine. And when relationships came up, my dad used gender neutral terms, as to not upset me or let my grandma find out. Should I come out to her? She has no way to "punish" me for being gay. The worst she can do is tell my dad, thinking be will be furious. Or tell her church to do something. But should I come out as a lesbian?

I'm 20, female, and I've been unsure about whether I like girls or not for a few years now. I genuinely honest to God can't tell. sometimes I feel like what if subconsciously I'm trying to convince myself to like girls bc I want to like girls but what if I actually don't!? AHH it's a constant battle and I don't know!!! I feel like I won't know until I try it but that terrifies bc I'm afraid of hurting someone. (currently, that someone is a close friend of mine who has a crush on me and I really wanna go for it and see what happens but what if I don't actually like girls!!!!

I'm sorry this is all over the place but is this normal to genuinely not know!?

I am in my late 20s and in a new relationship with a wonderful lady. This is the first same-sex relationship for both of us. We are both grad school students from the same country but live abroad. I am not out to any of my family members nor do I intend to be (at least for now) -- their homophobic comments ring in my ears and it took me many years to figure out that I am in fact gay. Unfortunately, I am fairly close to my family and keeping this relationship a secret is pretty difficult.

My partner has never been in a long-term relationship but has always been the affair/side-kick for all the men she has dated so far. It hurts her that I don't want to tell my family about her -- it's really bringing up these feelings from her past relationships again. I hate to let her down.

I don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt her feeling but I also don't want to come out to my family, especially not right now during the holidays. I am afraid that she might leave me out of resentment. What should I do?

I thought I was bi. But dicks, semen, or even the though of semen anywhere near me makes me sick.

I often fantasize that he’s a woman with a strap on when we have sex. I fantasize about being with a woman, but I’ve never been with one in real life.

I don’t know if this is 100% though because I was attracted to him in the beginning and maybe it’s just the lack of satisfaction... but I’ve always been attracted to woman, I just don’t know how to go about meeting them.

There’s so much more I want to say but right now this is a big step and I’m still trying to accept myself. I’m glad I found this sub though, I’m hoping my small confession can help me move forward.

Hey reddit,

I'm a senior in high school and I think I like guys. But I want to explore more. I go to a relatively small school where I know everybody and therefore no one really dates one another. I did like some girls but it was rather temporary and I could barely find any guys to experiment with.

But few days ago at the gym, I had my first sexual experience ever with a guy. To be honest, I don't know if this is the just the nature of random hookups but it was going way too fast. It was super hot and I really wanted to continue it, but I guess my brain stopped me. I was so nervous afterward that my stomach hurt.

And the problem is I can't stop thinking about it.

And today it happened again with another dude. I really liked him physically - big and muscular and while we were playing around, I just wanted to kiss him. Something more emotional than hooking up with a random dude that I don't even know the name of and quickly leaving afterwards.

It kind of makes me sad that I still haven't kissed anybody but have done these other things

So where in the world, as a closeted teen, do I look for more than lust. Maybe love? (all while not getting dragged out of the closet?)

Yours Truly,

underpressure24

I have a crush on my best friend’s (a boy) girlfriend... I won’t do anything about it but I do and I need to vent a little.

I know my mum will support me but it’s still scary. I’m scared about what my granny, uncle and aunt will think though!!!