Sad story ahead but my mom died when I was 15 & she was 32. Today’s her death anniversary. My grandma stepped up & became not only a second mom to me, but also my best friend. November/december are always the hardest for both of us because she obviously missed her child for Thanksgiving & Christmas, & while it’s been 20 years, this year not having either has brought back a lot of grief I haven’t felt in a long time. It’s like grieving moms lost. While I forgot what my mom’s voice & laugh sounded like, I’m thankful I have voice messages from my grandma I get to replay. One of our last phone calls she told me she understands why I can’t be there (it was the second time going back to the ICU so we knew what was coming), to remember how proud of me she is, & that I’m her star & to always reach for them.

Idk why I’m sharing this with strangers lol. The first holidays with now neither of them, I’m okay today but also not & that’s okay! In a way, I’m lucky I ended up having two mothers that loved me & was their world. Guess I’m just also feeling sentimental & can’t share these days with my sister anymore. My mom was a firecracker & the bar fights she ended up was always a fun to hear bc you’d never think someone so sweet wasn’t afraid to throw hands haha.

So the first half is just pleasantries of hello. Names. Where we live. Comment about the weather. Then left turn into this. Bullet dodged for sure, but I am still laughing at the absurdity and left fieldness.

Context: some douche bag redditors was shit talking me and my wife's relationship not being up to par or perfect so naturally we both ganged up and started talking shit about him over text.

My man giving zero fxxcks for healthcare CEOs

This is a text between my daughter and I. I had to cancel the weekend because my car suddenly had issues that made it unsafe to drive. My ex-wife wasn't happy because she had plans. She didn't offer to drive her the extra 20 miles to my house, instead she got into my daughter's chat with me and did this. Unfortunately I am a weekend father. Not by choice, I left my marriage out of fear. Randoms on the internet will claim to know this or that, but I know the real context. Some men are s***, some women are s***. Some men are amazing, some women are amazing. It goes both ways. Sadly for me, I got a crazy ex-wife. The divorce wasn't completely one-sided, I would put 70% blame on her 30% blame on me. Nonetheless, what can I do? I pay child support. I'm about $600 behind, but I have to eat. And I certainly understand how frustrating it is to be a mother with full-time custody. It isn't lost on me. I wish the world and my dreams were the same...

I’m posting this as well because I didn’t think you guys would be calling my boyfriend a red flag regarding my last post. I swear our relationship isn’t bad. He’s a really good guy 😭

Met this guy while volunteering at an event a couple of days ago. Before my shift ended, he said he wanted to offer me his number if I ever want to chat and then said looking forward to hearing from me so I sent him a text (green) and he said the below (in gray) I just wanted to get your guys thoughts- he’s not into me romantically or anything like that, right?

i rode a bike for 1.5hrs to make it to work, she gave herself closing shifts the 2 days after the holiday

For the record I am a man.

I'm done with this sub. Calling my partner a shit dad for know reason.