Hey everyone! I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how people who identify as "geeky" — whether through fandoms, hobbies, or interests — approach general acceptance, including in kink and alternative lifestyles. Specifically, I’m curious whether people who embrace a “geek” identity tend to be more open-minded and inclusive compared to those who don’t identify as geeky.

In my experience, those who identify with geek culture often seem to have a greater sense of openness and acceptance when it comes to embracing differences, whether that’s in terms of interests, identity, or sexuality. The geek communities I’ve been part of tend to foster a culture where unconventional ideas are more readily accepted, and people are often more comfortable exploring or discussing things that fall outside the mainstream, including kink.

Do you think there’s something to this? Do people who identify as geeky or belong to subcultures like gaming, fandoms, or tech communities tend to be more accepting and open-minded in general? Or is that just a stereotype? I’d love to hear others’ experiences and thoughts on why (or why not) this might be the case, especially in the context of kink and sexual exploration.

Looking forward to your insights!

While this sounds kind of silly, it's not meant to be: I remember it mentioned somewhere that if a person had an excessively large penis, that there would be various medical complications that would come with it.

What would these be?

Sex without envy?

I recently realized my entire sex life from the moment I begin masturbating, has been based in envy. To give context: I'm asexual, so I've never been able to experience sexual attraction and I don't seem to have that natural urge to have sex. I can honestly do without it. Since day one I've deeply envied people who feel sexual attraction and all the motions that come with it, people who have that natural undeniable need for sex, and people with high libidos. I pretty much envied "normal" people and so badly wanted to feel what they felt and have their sexual experiences, so my entire sex life revolved around trying to be this ideal version of myself.

After many failed and frustating attempts to create an interest in sex that I just never had, many failed attempts to give myself the urge to need sex, many failed attempts to turn myself into some horny slutty person, I finally realized that all of it was envy. My kinks and other sexual interests came from a profound and resentful sense of envy and frustration for what I coudn't have and couldn't be.

Now I'm stuck. I asked myself what a sex life without envy looks like and I can't figure it out. My entire sexual persona was tied so deeply to the desire of experiencing what others did, now I feel lost trying to define it in a healthy way. I ask myself what it is that I actually want from sex and I just don't know.

What does sex without envy look like for y'all? I need some perspective.

Hello normally I don't post about my sex life so this is new for me. I'm a 28(F) and lately for the last two weeks ill masturbate before bed. But here's the thing. Normally it takes me awhile longer to work up into fantasy and climaxing. The last 2 weeks I could literally just start up picture a very fast scene within a 10 second time-frame and around that 10 second time-frame I'm climaxing...they feel pretty strong too...I don't get it. I'm married and am not used to having a libido at all because of my PCOS I have...so sexual intercourse has always been a long period to even work hard and into...But sometimes even married my husband will go to bed before me and I do myself to help fall asleep...but never until recently have they been finishing me that stupid fast...Is this even normal for a girl?

Girls I've known have been pretty split on this issue. Some of them adore being stared at (clothed or otherwise) and some get super flustered or uncomfortable.

If you fall in the former category, I'm curious what's enjoyable about it? Is it the sense of being desired? And does it actually turn you on, or is it just flattering?

Girls who fall in the latter usually tell me it feels like being scrutinized, but I've only heard that from girls that were already sort of insecure. In my experience, the best way to make her comfortable during intimate moments was to keep her distracted, so she didn't have time to worry about how she looked.

If you're also prone to feeling that way, I'd be curious if that explanation makes sense, and if there's anything in particular guys can do to help pull you out of that headspace.

So I'm posting again. I swear I've had sex plenty of times 😂, but with this new relationship, I'm really trying to get a handle on a couple things. She's very shy in talkng about the sex at the moment, but will open up in time. So here it goes. Orally when I go down on her, I take my time. Eventually I can feel it build up to a point where she tenses up to a point where she brings my body up close to her and wants intercourse. Understanding that all women are different but could this mean that she has orgasmed or that its just to intense? Maybe both. It's just extremely important to me that she feels pleasure and I asked her tonight in a subtle way if I was pleasing her. She's just kind of shy right now in talking about it. I'm not entirely sure why I feel insecure about this. Maybe because I feel such a connection with her and we are always so affectionate together. Maybe it's because it has been a while that I've felt this way about someone other than a fwb situation.

So, I guess I'm asking a question that I've never even thought to ask. I guess because in my 30 years of sexual activity, I don't remember this being a thing. I met this women, she is beautifully imperfect, I feel so close to her in a short amount of time. It's territory I'm not entirely used to. We had sex for the first time tonight. There was a lot of chemistry,and I'm usually very sensual with touch and kisses on the neck and ear during sex. Admittedly I was nervous because I'm more concerned with pleasing her than myself. She let me go down on her which was a big deal for me because it really turns me on. But I had some struggles maintaining, but it worked eventually and we even talked about it. I'm 51, so it's not entirely unusual. I gave her a very sensual back rub after cuddling for at least an hour. I then got turned on again and started kissing her from her feet to the back of her neck. So i know at this point, I may be giving to much information, but in order to understand what is going on, I need to be descriptive. I'm in no means a Rockstar. But I'm very sensual and experimental. Anyways, this is the actual question. When we finished the second time, she stopped after I came and said to sit still and stay inside her. She just rapped her legs around me and held her arms around my neck. We laid that way for a while. Is there anything I can gather from this, positively or negativity? I know this is super long, and I thank you for sticking around. I already care a lot about her. I just don't know what to make of that.

I don't know what to think of what I've read, especially as someone who is unsure if they have ever orgasmed before (I am 26). Should I be happy that I havent orgasmed before, since that is what the book is pushing, that orgasms are not good for you?(at least in excess, from what I can recall).

Has anyone here tried the karezza technique? Solo or with a partner? Can sexuality really be just as enjoyable or more enjoyable than orgasmic sex? If you think so, any advice on how to deal with partners and general society wanting me to orgasm?

I'm 40 years old and around a month or so before my 40th birthday I suddenly developed the ability to ejaculate a few times back to back (at least under some circumstances).

Why would it have started at 39-40 and not when puberty started?

Hi, I'm doing my final year psychology project on the correlation between interoception, mindfulness and the female orgasm. I am hoping to recruit, the only requirement is that you are a sexually active female or AFAB over the age of 18. Thank You. :)

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Hi, I’m 24 and I want to know which are the best positions for an average dick, that is, approximately 13 cm.

I’ve noticed in sex scenes (particularly in books) during p in v penetrative sex, the penis often goes from fully outside to inside.

I haven’t had this type of sex with many folks, but, my body doesn’t do that. There needs to be hand guidance inside.

I know there is no “normal” and “all bodies are different” blah blah. But in your experience, do penises go in hands free?

I have a question that no amount of searching has answered. I am interested in lived experience and scientific articles/explanations.

I don't understand what people are talking about when they say a woman has reached orgasm a specific number of times during sex with a partner.

This is my experience:

• If it refers to contractions, it's very fluid for me. I can experience that continuously during sex. From lower (ooh, nice☺️) to higher (oh, yeah, f***me, sexgod🥵) intensity. But it's impossible to count.

• Or, with a vibrator and a lot of skill, effort and dedication, I can achieve a mind-blowing, transcendental climax (I feel like my prefrontal cortex is being wiped out🤯). Those I can count, but there is no way that will happen with a partner, because it requires focus and precision. I can't always get there.

I would like to know:

1. Can you count discrete orgasms from playing with a partner? What intensity are we talking about?
2. Are there folks out there reaching transcendental climaxes without laser surgical precision?
3. Is there a term to describe the mind leaving the body vs other yummy orgasms? I can't find scientific references to orgasm intensity.
4. Is continuous overlapping orgasm a thing?

Please help. I am befuddled. 🌷🙏❤️

https://www.psychguides.com/interact/love-and-mental-illness/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kYAT2INFlGg

Hi friends! I am conducting an anonymous research survey that asks people why they may fake an orgasm during a sexual encounter! I am collecting data on this through participant responses and thus wanted to send out this form! It is completely anonymous and no personal information will be shared as this does not ask you for your name, email address, etc. Only information relevant to the study and feel free to skip on by this! I would appreciate it if you would take the time to complete it and thanks in advance!!!! Research Form

https://integrallife.com/the-psychology-of-kink-transforming-sexual-drives-into-art/

https://www.latimes.com/archives/la-xpm-2008-feb-11-he-orgasm11-story.html

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RC5Lbg8JLsE

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=kzQsnTEJEws&pp=ygUbUHN5Y2hvbG9neSBiZWhpbmQgc3F1aXJ0aW5n

https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/prone-masturbation

https://markmanson.net/toxic-relationship-signs

https://www.forbes.com/sites/marijabutkovic/2021/06/10/next-generation-of-sextech-entrepreneurs-is-here-disrupting-the-37-billion-sexual-wellness-market/?sh=63dae1d373d2

https://www.mic.com/life/sex-in-space-research-space-sexology

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fhuA00taa20