I just can’t deal with my face and skull structure. How do people cope with being ugly??? My head is so big that people comment on it. My eyes are close set and my big head gives me a wide upper face and I have a small chin so it’s even more exaggerated. I used the eye distance filter on TikTok to make my eyes further apart and I genuinely looked better… I just don’t know how people can talk to me and want to be around me with how f’ed up I look.

I found out the my gf F36 has only slept with 3 people including myself M33 in the house we live in.. and both other guys were allot bigger than me in the penis department. I can't let this go for some reason and it bothers me allot. We been in a relationship for 3 years now. She didn't tell me to be mean or throw off on me or anything it just came up and we laughed about it at the time.. but in my mine I'm in 3rd place of 3 people and im 5.5-5.8 inches long and 6.4in girth.. is it that easy to find bigger im just kinda lost at this point haha. Can Yall help me out??

We had gone out for dinner and were sitting at the bar. While we were waiting for our food he was telling me about his seasonal job and why he left. The reason he left was because he had a crush on this girl and the feelings weren’t mutual there was also drama amongst his friend group and she ended up with his roommate and yada yada. What got to me was how he described the girl. She told me that “I liked her because she was really beautiful. She didn’t say much and was more of a listener. She was just so self assertive and confident and honestly WAY out of my league.. she’s married now which isn’t surprising because she’s the type of person to get proposals each month.” As he tells his girlfriend (me)… I was baffled and more so hurt and confused. I know I struggle with confidence issues and have my own insecurities but when you describe this woman while you’re in a relationship with ME, I can’t help but wonder if I’m “ugly enough for him. Insecure enough for him. Oh, and not marriage material”.. also why was he relaying this story to me like I’m one of his “bros”? I felt offended. I still kind of am. We’ve been together for 10 months. What do you think? Was it appropriate for him to say that? Am I insecure and crazy?

Been struggling with confidence for a while. I play badminton in my area, but I usually perform poorly. The so-called "good players" would always blame me for their mistakes (and yeah, I made plenty too), but it got to a point where every game they lost felt like it was pinned on me. I was this naive guy carrying all the guilt, constantly thinking, What if I mess up again?

But yesterday, I decided I wanted to change things. I told myself, Win or lose, I’ll keep playing. If I make mistakes, so be it. I’m gonna take risks, even if it costs points. And you know what? I surprised myself. I never realized I could play badminton that well. Before, I was always worrying about what others would think if I screwed up, but this time, I played for myself.

Confidence really is a miracle, man. And here’s the kicker: I realized the main reason I wasn’t great before was because I didn’t get enough chances to practice. Those “pro players” on the court? They get to play multiple games in a row, while the rest of us wait. Of course, they’re better—they’re practicing way more.

So now, I’m gonna push myself into more matches, no matter what others think. I’ll grab as much time as I can to perfect my skills. Confidence isn’t just about badminton; I’m applying this to other areas of my life too—career, communication, you name it.

Oh, and one more thing: I started speaking up. When they pointed out my mistakes, I owned them. But when they messed up, I called it out too. Felt good not being a people-pleaser for once.

Anyway, that’s my story. Confidence really changes everything. Would love to hear your stories—let’s lift each other up!

I've noticed a toxic pattern in myself, and it's been eating away at my confidence and ability to connect with others. Whenever I see the partners of female friends, acquaintances, or colleagues, I immediately compare myself to them. My first thought is always, "I must be terrible if I don't deserve the same kind of love, attention, or dedication." This happens even with women I have no romantic interest in—it's like I’m always searching for reasons to feel inadequate.

On the flip side, when a woman shows interest in me, I go out of my way to sabotage any potential relationship. I focus on finding every possible flaw or weakness in her and convince myself she's not a good match. It’s as if I need to prove to myself that she’s not worth the effort, even though deep down I know I’m the one creating the problem.

This cycle has left me stuck—feeling undeserving of love and too critical of those who show interest in me. Has anyone dealt with something similar? How do you break out of this destructive mindset?

my parents were neglectful during my childhood. I think it affected my self-esteem. So now, i genuinely cannot believe I’m worthy of anything. I rethink every-time they neglected me, and i truly cannot say i didn’t deserve that, or that they shouldn’t have neglected me. I feel it was well-deserved. I need help my self-hatred is truly affecting my life.

Hi i hope you guys are okay. I talk about this issue here because i don't trust anybody to this thing. And i think i could use some human responses... Sorry if something is wrong with my writting English is not my Main language and i don't like using Google translate. I'm a 17 years old boy i'm on my last year on high school wich is just about to end. ( I'm from Argentina and school ends on december, summer on the southern hemisphere). I have a girlfriend i have been dating her for like 5 months. I think she knows about how insecure i am. The last month we started getting more intimate and even made love but the thing is i always did it with clothes. I don't think i could take my shirt off in front of her. I'm scared she wouldnt like it and turn her off. I know she is not expecting an Adonis torso since we cuddled and that stuff so she knows how my body feels. But anyways i'm really scared. I'm not even comfortable taking it off in front my family. Ive been facing body shaming and bullying about my fat chest for years. Even now i get it from my "friend group" on school. I don't want her to see me. Even if know she is not expecting anything i don't want her to see it. And the fact that she never asked me to take it off in no one of our encounters doesnt help. One day we were cuddling and she noticed my belly (wich is kinda fat but it's not notorious due to my slender frame and the loose the shirts i use). And she kinda freak out, she was amazed and i think she didnt like it at all. I dont want her to see my chest and finding it anything but masculine. I was thinking of keeping it hidden until i lose body fat but i know that is not in a closet future. What can i do?

Hello, My question will be very simple and straight forward, How to get absolute confidence ? It has been over four years that I am trying to get over this and looking to find the real escence of confidence, but I got no answers. My confidence level is not stable, sometimes it s high sometimes very low, it all depend on too many factors (How I look,what I think of my self, what am I dressing...) = Self esteem One thing I know for sure is that I give too much attention to others opinion, and No matter how much I try to not care, I just can't. Looking for a solution, or your opinion, Thanks!

Hi Guys! I'm a 23 year old F, I'd say I'm a conventionally attractive girl, and have a somewhat nice body. When I was younger, I struggled with anorexia and was severely underweight and behind developmentally. As I recovered, my body developed rapidly in my later teen years and my boobs grew from a AA to a DD seemingly overnight. I have a smaller frame, I'm about 5'3, and have huge boobs that I feel just look awkward and gross on me. Since they grew in so fast, I have stretch marks, they're severely asymmetrical, and they sag sooooo bad. Personally I just think they're gross and have never felt comfortable in any setting whatsoever to show them to anyone. I feel like I avoid all intimate encounters because I'm too humiliated to show any partner I have. My long-term ex boyfriend of 4 years was extremely understanding and never pushed the issue, but as I've been single for the past year and navigating the dating world I've had weird encounters with hookups when I express my discomfort. I feel like I avoid intimate relationships all together due to the shame and embarassment of having to explain to someone why I don't feel comfortable being fully naked or taking off my bra. It's really hard for me to live this way, I feel like I can never be fully vulnurable or intimate with any partner and I feel like it takes a huge toll on my self esteem and overall just makes me sad like im missing out on a huge part of my femininity and something that should make me feel confident. Has anyone dealt with something similar? Anything helps(:<3

I (23F) have been dating my boyfriend now for over a year. He is absolutely amazing, I know he loves me a lot and I feel the same way about him, but I cannot let myself relax and enjoy it. Due to being hurt in the past I have developed extreme trust issues and am paranoid about everything. He has told me how this makes him feel and how it hurts him and I completely understand that and for a while everything is fine and lovely and then all of a sudden something small like a comment someone makes or maybe him liking a girls tiktok or picture will make me spiral and overthink. I really want to fix this because it’s making me feel absolutely insane. I have decided to delete social media as all I do is compare myself to other girls (did this before I was with him too) and it’s ruining my life. I know objectively I have a lot going for me but I can’t let myself think that for some reason and feel like everyone is above me in looks, personality, career etc. I’m going to start therapy and counselling too as I really want to fix this. Is there anything else I can do or has anyone else figured out how to overcome this while in a relationship? I love him so much and I want to make it work but I can see how draining it is for him to be questioned all the time. Recently, I broke his trust by going through his phone. Looking back on it now, I feel awful and like a complete lunatic, as if it was another person had taken over and it wasn’t me at all. He is so angry at me and I feel like he’s going to end the relationship. I know he’s well within his right to do so but I would be absolutely devastated. Is there any way I can fix this or please just any advice.

TL;DR

Trust issues are turning me into a lunatic and causing me to destroy my relationship with my boyfriend by always questioning him, feel like a crazy person

I didn’t realize I had this pattern until a lady friend of mine pointed it out. Not sure how to stamp it out. I’m dismayed and honestly heartbroken, I genuinely thought I was a much better man.

I was raised well, and always loved my sisters, mom, and lady friends. But, I recently spoke with exes of mine and found other issues that Im not mentioning here because it would be too much. However it’s in a similar vein of professing love and giving affection and then that slowly dying out seemingly out of nowhere.

It’s recent so I’m not sure where this comes from. But I suspect it’s from the fact that I’m a very ugly man. And this is some sick way of seeking validation. Ugly inside and out.

I thought that feelings for someone was something that would grow over time. And if I started dating a girl, then over time I’d develop feelings for her. When it didn’t happen I just thought “well that’s unfortunate I guess she’s not my person”. I didn’t think I was doing something wrong, I thought it’s just how flings flicker off. I just don’t know how to move forward.

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Hi everyone! How can I feel confident being naked around my boyfriend? I’m on a weight loss journey and have lost a good amount of weight but still a little away from my goal weight. I have always been very self conscious about my body and avoid being intimate fully nude or with lights on due to this reason. I have a FUPA and I’m very insecure about it. My boyfriend is always telling me I’m beautiful and to own my body and that he loves it. While I do appreciate him saying that but I don’t like my body. How can I improve my self esteem and feel comfortable being fully nude around him without being self conscious? Any advice is appreciated. Thank you!

Throw away account cus I don't want anyone to see this. I've been having such low esteem (it's something I've struggled with but I thought I got over it a bit these last few years but I guess I haven't.) That mean inner voice seems to have come back full swing (I recently graduated uni) and I have a job I really like.

.but basically there's this girl that came in one day who knows everyone there and she's so beautiful and interesting and I felt so jealous of her (I'm a woman for context) and ever since then for some reason I've been hating myself more than I have in a long time. Like I've been so cruel to myself because I can never be like her, or any pretty girls I know. And now I'm comparing myself to everyone and belittling myself for everything I do. I just feel so useless and ugly. I hate my face so much. All these pretty girls I see with boyfriends and friends and who are so cool and confident, it makes me feel worse. I wish I could be confident but how can I be when I look like this? And am so awkward? I struggle with looking at photos of myself and with looking in the mirror because I just see how ugly I am. My manly, square face shape and big chin, and my wrinkly eyes and my big nose, it's just so hideous. No wonder no one's ever wanted to be with me in my 23 years of life. I feel so alone. I have no best friend, and I recently got stood up by a whole group of people and I waited for an hour, who couldn't bother to even text me.

This is gonna sound dark, but sometimes I hate myself so much I feel like unaliving myself. It's getting overwhelming I don't know what to do.

Hi guys I need help. I have a trauma, I have had a trauma when I was a teen, I had this girl I was in a relation with, not gf, but I was so deeply in love with this girl that I felt bad for every time She replied late or gave me the cold shoulder, One time I called her because I missed her because she was in vacation, she replied leave me alone, I know it's my fault to having accepted that.I could not live well because of the anxiety and I know that this is a problem of mine, I know and that is the reason Im asking help, eventually she was the first and only girl I even told "I love" to, a few days after saying that she broke up with me. I was heartbroken. Eventually years after I ended up in a bottomless depression which with help and hard work and will to live I managed to "ease it". The question is, now Im afraid to seek love because Im afraid to feel again those anxiety and live love in a constant pain and anxiety. How can I overcome this? Im afraid of love also because I see the majority of couples end up getting divorced and I see men's lives destroyed by the court and their children being use as a blackmailing ATM. You are probably wondering what this has to do with the story abovementioned, It adds up to my fear of seeking girls, seeking love, not sex. Sorry for the grammar, Im not native english. TIA

I’m 17. And I very much look younger than that. I’m 5 foot. And it hasn’t really bothered me despite it contributing to my young appearance.. I’m more worried About my face. I have a baby face, softer features and a round. I’ve honestly looked the same for the past few years. With little difference. And I’m wondering maybe when I’ll look a bit older?? My face overall feels very short in length and some call me cute but I’m belittled to a kid. I just don’t wanna stay like this forever I just wanna feel a bit hot.. it’s bothered me for some time and maybe it’s early to judge but it’s cause I’ve seen others my age or less look more mature :(

I am not an insecure person. I do not bash myself ever for my weight, looks, appearance. Mostly because those are all things I am always in control of. The past couple of years I have trained myself to not fear my body and am very proud of the athlete I am, and the character + mindset I’ve adopted . That being said I am tall. And not freakishly tall either but I am 5’8 as a woman. I completely realize that there are so many women who are taller than me and so beautiful and confident. In fact I love tall women, but I just don’t think it’s a good look on myself. I cannot always help but wish I was shorter and more petite. Yesterday I was having a conversation with my bf and he was telling my the shortest woman he’s ever dated was 4’11. Then his next girlfriend after that was 5’0. I realize this is now a comparative insecurity but I still cannot help but think I’m some black sheep for being an odd one out. How do I get over this.

Hi! To start with my dad was never around growing up, which gave me pretty bad daddy issues. Along with my mom not really giving me much attention growing up and being more of a friend than a mom.

Growing up I looked for love in basically anyone that would give it. Once I became a teenager that got really bad and I would date literally anyone that would give me attention. I have horrible self esteem and I look for validation in everyone. I want everyone to like me and think I’m pretty.

I just want to know where to start on working on my daddy issues?

So…I am extremely self conscious and this is the first time posting a pic of myself and I’m extremely nervous about it. 😥 but better late than never to face my fears. I’m also 21 years old btw as I KNOW I look extremely young which is another thing i hate about myself

Hi everyone,
I find myself constantly comparing myself to beautiful, famous women. I always find myself feeling disgustingly ugly. I am a 33 year-old woman and I am overweight. I don't know how to feel comfortable in my own skin, I always feel so hideous. If anyone has any advice, I'd appreciate it. Thanks.

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So I (24M) have noticed recently that something I do a lot when I find someone attractive is I start to hyper focus on them and then overthink some interactions between the crush and people I see around them. Is this wrong and just personal insecurity? Should I stop worrying about others and potential advances they may make towards my crush?

Hi all, I'm 38 M and I have no self esteem. Never been confident about anything. Well, im confident I'm going to fail. I have the worst self talk and it's getting worse. I've been going to bed almost right when I get home from work just so I don't have to be awake with myself longer. I've felt like this for over 25 years at least. I'm not sure what I'm asking for here, maybe someone has beat this before and has some tips. Thanks

For context, I'm 165cm tall, My legs are 77cm and my torso is 48cm.

I wish my legs were just a few cm taller to get to 50%, im so weirdly proportioned