Hi , has anyone evr felt like that maybe being sad makes them happy?

A few years ago I linked to r/sadlads as a joke in a madlads comment thread, my comment got a lot of upvotes and a few hours later someone made the sub.

I'm kinda sad that I didn't make a note of my historic comment for posterity's sake. Now I can't find it. :/

What's up, sadlads. The past week, my mood has gone down the shitter and it's just one of those days where I don't appreciate myself as much as the other days. Some days, I don't even do anything except just lay in bed and do bare minimum effort to survive. That being said, I want to share some of the ways to cope with it. I don't go to doctors or psychiatrists (even though I probably should), so this have helped me, and maybe you find some use to it.

I write down my thoughts on a document. You'd think this is something your doctor would say, but this serves 3 purposes:

1. Organising my thoughts in hope I can find out what makes me sad.
2. Help me vent out because I don't have anyone to talk to.
3. Paper trail in case anything happens to me.

If you're not a writer, I get it. I am too. My writing often devolved to just me mocking myself to death, calling myself useless, cursing, etc. But I try to include why I am feeling sad (not always) and end it up with what I'm going to do next right after I finish writing.

Another is to set small goals to achieve. Things like cleaning up, or doing laundry. Even self care things like getting some food and showering are valid goals. It helps me move forward and keeps dark thoughts away, even for a moment. I organised my receipts to a spreadsheet the other day, felt better after doing it. Three goals or one goal, doesn't matter. Don't set the bar too high either. Just whatever you think is achievable.

Here is a self-care quiz. On the worst days when you feel you can't do anything, this will probably help smoothen things out. Just step by step reminder if you have eaten anything, taken medicine, drank liquids, etc.

Tell me what you think in the comments. Maybe you want to share your methods of getting by. It could help me and the others on this sub.

I'm sad, you're sad, we're all sad. Sometimes there's nothing we can do about it except learning to live with it. Who knows, maybe one day we won't be sad.

I really liked him

i keep fuccing up my lyfe. i assume im gonna kill myself, despite the fact that im 2o much of a b i t c h to actually do it. The assumption that it will all end soon means it makes no sense to try at anything, so i don't

I sit here alone at my PC on New years eve... In a couple of hours people all over the country / world will be celebrating the dawn of another year, the dawn of hope. They'll exchange kisses as the fireworks go off and the party horns blair, yet here I'll be alone at my computer, wishing and wondering if there is a person out there as well sitting alone longing to be kissed. Lets raise a glass to our fellow sad lads in appreciation to the everyday struggles that are OH SO MUCH worse on a holiday. Especially a holiday of partying and community, such a hard time to be so alone.

daldam a hcus m'I

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Got dumped yesterday by the love of my life for a guy she just met, after she had a miscarriage the same day. Also found out my favorite cousin has stage 4 pancreatic cancer and only 3 months to live at best.

Confessed to a friend and she rejected me. She says she only like me as a friend, and she still wants to be friends with me. But when I see her every time I still have those butterflies in my stomach. I really love her and it hurts every time I see her lads. Is it even possible she would change her mind?

I’m scared to tell my girlfriend about any of my underlying depression and insecurities, because I feel like it’ll just push her away