My whole life I haven't understood other people and how they can live within this structure. I don't hold the same values as others and for the most part I'm a nihilist. I don't know how to pretend anymore. Human relationships are just disappointment or tragedy waiting to happen. Jobs are torture no matter what I do because they destroy my freedom. I hate college because it's full of useless information and it's a pointless struggle. I hate the government and current society so much it makes me want to crawl into a hole and never return. How can I keep living if I have nothing I truly care about or want to do or any hope things will get better for me or for the world.

My folks used to be the type that just wanted to get there on a long road trip, especially if it was a multi-day trip with hotels each night along the way, so they tried to keep pit stops for the restroom and such to a minimum, aside from stopping for lunch.

Nowadays, they stop every couple hours for a stretch/restroom break. My mom keeps attributing it to “getting old, can’t do what we used to anymore”.

Is this common for everyone? Or does it vary by the person when it comes to long road trips?

For me (39m), I can usually go a good 9 hours with only a lunch stop and a single stop for gas (my car does pretty well on fuel efficiency). But I’m curious if that’ll change over time as I get into my 60s later on.

I’m the idiot that tried the local date site. Very attractive (mostly) women reach out seductively (mostly) and flirt with you. Catch is you need credits (that you buy) to answer. So, I tried it! And you get a ton of messages. Problem is, I don’t believe any of them are real. Can anyone attest to the fact that they actually met someone, in person? Truth is I’m jealous I didn’t think of this AI money grab.

I hear people complaining all of the time about how egg prices are high.

I haven't eaten eggs in decades.

What did a dozen eggs cost before the pandemic and what do they cost now?

27m here. I wasn’t able to finish my bachelors in my early 20’s due to financial reasons and since then I’ve paid off a lot of my remaining loans. (I have 10k remaining)

Anyways, I have a decent job these days working at my wife’s family business. They treat me well, I do a good job, and I have a decent amount of down time when we are a bit slow. I just have a feeling that I’ll regret not getting a bachelors degree and would like to do it sooner rather than later. I really want to have a career that I feel suits me well. I just have no clue where to even start?

I’m great with numbers, math, and general problem solving. I think something like engineering or accounting would really suit me but the cost of a degree scares the shit out of me. We don’t have a lot of bills outside of our mortgage. We aren’t stupid with money but my wife is a teacher so I can’t take years off of work or switch to a part time job.

I would love any advice from people who did something similar and how they did it in the most cost effective way. I assume getting an associate degree at a community college and then a bachelors is the way to go?

Edit for more context; kinda sucks because I did three years worth of a computer science degree and I think I’ll have to retake a lot of the same classes again. 2 years of prerequisite and elective classes again sounds not fun

I have a ton of professional experience and academic creds, but have only worked for companies - not for myself besides some random tutoring here and there.

I am completely ignorant of where to start, is this an LLC? What how and where do I register?

If you have done this, what is your best advice for a complete newbie?

Seeing all of these "prices of eggs" posts lately it hit me that I've never bought a carton, ever.

I just really hate eggs. I don't mind some stuff with eggs in them, like pancakes, but cooked eggs on their own are just vile to me. Even the few cakes I've baked I've used soda in the mix instead of eggs.

I have an older male coworker and we’ve been friends for a few years, or so I thought but recently I just always feel bad around him. We have other mutual work friends too. I always felt he liked me as a person and was always happy to see me, and we have the same sense of humour. We used to really have fun together, like having your “person” at work. Another male coworker even told me once that I’m his favourite person and he talks very highly of me.

The past month or so I feel he’s been acting different but it’s not in an obvious way that I feel comfortable confronting him about. Whereas he used to be happy to see me, I feel like now he doesn’t even greet me with hi if I walk by. I arrived at work and he was standing talking to someone and didn’t look when I rounded the corner. The other person said hi to me and he only looked at me when I wasn’t looking at him. He does that all the time

If another coworker is at my desk he’ll come over and talk but not really include me in the conversation. He listens to everyone else but doesn’t show the same care for me. Today someone asked me about myself and he gets this weird look on his face when I start talking, like distant and assessing me. It makes me uneasy. But then the next second he turns to someone and says “and how are you doing”. He knew what he was doing because when the two of us were walking together after he begrudgingly asked me about my life. He never does that. I’m really at a loss. I used to feel like he really liked me. I didn’t do anything. A month ago we saw a movie together and we both had a good time. Since then it’s been downhill. I tried making conversation today and he just doesn’t care about what I say. Yet outside of work he texts me and things like that. I think I’m done with him. He makes a big show about caring about everyone else but I feel like he deliberately tries to make me seem like I’m not as important to him

Do you have any idea of what is going on?

Hi all! I'm in a bit of a dilemma. I'm working in operations. I really enjoy the job (been here for about a year; great benefits, work is easy, awesome team, I get my own office), but my commute is wearing me down. It takes about 50 minutes by car in stop-and-go traffic, or a little over an hour by train each way with delays nearly every day. I also get motion sick very easily, which makes it far less enjoyable. I feel like I don't have time for myself anymore because I come home every day feeling burnt out just from the commute. I work in person full-time -- my boss is flexible with occasional remote work, but I do need to be on-site most of the time. Even if I work remotely one day a week, the commute still exhausts me.

I live in a 2 bed, 2 bath apartment with my boyfriend in the suburbs for $2,050 a month (we were lucky to find a great deal!), but moving closer to work would mean paying $2,300-2,700 for less space and fewer amenities.

I’m torn between:

1. Moving closer and paying more for less space/amenities, or
2. Staying where we are and finding a new job closer to home (I’ve also seen higher-paying options closer to me).

I’m hesitant to job hunt since my last job was not so great (my boss treated me horribly and basically ran me out of the company), and I don't want to risk going through that experience again, but I do enjoy where we've living now. Anyone who's been through a similar experience and has any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!!

Grampy,

I remember hearing your stories—the draft, the European theatre, and, my lord, the French women. I remember how your tone would shift when you spoke about the battles, the friends you lost, and the Nazis. I didn’t understand then- and maybe never will- why it was so easy for you to talk about the little things during the war. You could talk about the wine you drank, how good the chocolate was, and the time you piloted the Queen Elizabeth homeward across the Atlantic because everyone else was hungover (please don’t fact-check my poor Gramps).

But you couldn’t talk about D-Day. You couldn’t talk about the Battle of the Bulge. You only once spoke of your best friend in Europe- because he was shot in the head right beside you and you watched him bleed out. I never asked about that again. I'm sorry I asked about it, even then.

Because you lived it. So that I wouldn't have to.

I understand a little more now, though I hope to God our people never have to go through the same trials and tribulations.

My Grampy was a blue-collar mill worker from New England- a hardworking man who earned a living with his hands for more than 40 years after he returned from Europe. Make no mistake about it, he was a conservative.

But he was no god-damned Nazi, and he knew exactly who and what the Nazis were.

My great-grandfather- and your grandfathers and grandmothers- paid a bill almost 100 years ago.

They fought, bled, lost, and won for nearly a decade to secure democracy and the rights of common people across the globe. We have benefited from their sacrifice for almost a century.

Now, because we have neglected to uphold the promise the Greatest Generation made, another bill has come due. They warned us over and over. They told us that evil people would raise their heads again. They knew another group of weak men would try to take advantage of our goodwill.

America was the first constitutional democracy. While we have certainly made egregious mistakes as a country, we have always been the greatest place for ordinary men and women to live. We forget it was once called the Great Experiment because the melting pot seemed so natural to us growing up. We grew up basking in the glow of optimism in a “post-history” world—how could we ever go backwards? A nation, built by immigrants, that could only prosper and shine as the City upon the Hill.

These people aren't Americans. They aren't like us. They would sell their mothers for 15 minutes of fame.

It would be easy now- as it would have been easy then- to roll over and allow the vultures to ravage our people and the country our forefathers built. It would be just as easy now as it would have been then to let them rob our mothers of a dignified retirement, rob our fathers of their rationality, and rob our now-dead grandfathers of their sacrifice. We cannot allow them to win so easily. Our people have fought too hard, for too long, for our inalienable rights as individuals.

Our inheritance is an obligation—an obligation to our children, our children’s children, and their children. We must uphold true American values: hard work, ingenuity, and a fighting spirit.

It will be hard, it will be dangerous, and it will certainly be grim. But it has been hard before. It has been dangerous before. It has been grim before.

We won then, and come hell or high water, we will win again. We have no choice.

You weren't much a fan of Eisenhower. I remember that he was late with your tank fuel and chocolate on several occasions, though I'm fairly sure which one meant more to you. It took years before you would admit you drove on the Eisenhower Interstate system every day.

You did, however, idolize Churchill after seeing him rouse the troops on a single occasion. There, you said, was a Real Man.

“We shall fight on the seas and oceans, we shall fight on the beaches, we shall fight on the landing grounds… We shall never surrender.”

We will rout them from the field. We will drive them back into their holes. We will embarrass them.

We will beat them so god-damned thoroughly that they will never show their weak, pudgy, pink little faces again.

Grampy, I promise.

Because everything went so good in retrospect.

Health wise family, financial, romantic, career, friendship all an inside straight.

Elon Musk’s X takes one step closer to his final goal https://www.independent.co.uk/tech/elon-musk-x-app-visa-everything-b2688202.html What's stopping him from emtying them all and saying oops the Chinese hacked them? Seems scetchy af. Time to ditch twitter/X?

How can people be expected to abandon the only community they have in the event of leaving the state for work? I mean how does the Forcing part happen in literal terms. What mechanisms are in place to support it? I would genuinely like to understand bc it always seems idealistic or hypothetical at-best. What am I missing?

The person in the cube at work next to me is never there. But she moved some stuff around at some point and now I have a panda staring at me all day. Best. Coworker. Ever.

I hope everyone has a great day!

I just lost my exciting, new, well-paid job because I posted the title of my projects on LinkedIn under my job description, and I did not realize this was a violation of confidentiality. My colleague reported me, and really it’s been a terrible past 6 months there with the team and I feel like they waited until my projects were over to report me.

This felt like my “big break” after a lot of higher education, and I am in a very small town with few options for me. Everything is about who you know, and everyone knew I got this job… and I already asked everyone for help connecting to jobs before I got this one.

I spoke to a lawyer and they are not sure if I should seek more severance (was only offered a month), and now I am dealing with that and the money is running out with few prospects.

I would leave if it wasn’t for my partner, who is born and raised here and has a happy job and life and never wants to leave. I’m wondering if it is worth breaking up just to have a fresh start, but my partner is a wonderful person and it would be a huge loss. But I have been wondering if it isn’t a kick in the butt to change my career and life to something that actually fits me.

I feel very lost.

Hi friends,

My middle finger hurts at the base, but only when I try to push it back. It's quite painful. I've also noticed that my right forearm, and my arm right up into my neck are tight. I am someone who uses the computer for work (though with a padded keyboard and mouse pad to support my wrist). I also exercise on a Peloton bike around 6 days a week and weight train 3 days a week. I've laid off the weights because of this painful middle finger. I'm also holding my phone in this hand pretty much all day.

While my suspicion is that this is arthritis (my mom has pretty bad arthritis in her fingers and hands), my dad's side of the family does have a neuromuscular condition (it's a cousin of Parkinson's) and I'm just starting to spiral now. Rest assured that I am seeing my primary in 6 days but would love to hear from others who've also experienced this kind of pain. I don't want to die!

In your opinion...what makes teens go astray?

Hi! I want to think of a place to move in the US. I don’t mind small towns, I just want somewhere that is affordable, cold, and has good nature that I can explore. Any ideas? I live in Texas It’s hot, expensive, and it’s getting worse in a lot of ways. I don’t want to move to where family is, cause it’s either Utah, or my childhood town in the Midwest which won’t have nature I can enjoy. (Plus I don’t want to go somewhere that people know me)

Meeting my trainer at 6am tomorrow morning for a hour. It’s early rising, but I’ve had people tell me it’s actually better to get your workout in in the morning to start the day vs ending the day with it. So I’m going to switch it up and see how early mornings work out for my routine.

Anyone else here prefer morning workouts to evenings?

Rank and file individual contributors, not leaders.

"Not a fit" (socially). They are different somehow than their team members.

Somebody has a personal vendetta against them and eventually poisons the well enough.

Company need to trim costs for their investors.

Just as the topic asks, I noticed that my first eye is slightly blurry at a distance, while my second eye can see things at that distance clearly. If the good eye is at 100, I'd say the other eye is, like, at a 90.

It should be said that the eye at 90 had complications with a "heavy pressure spike" that required additional medicines that the other eye didn't.

Any insight would be great, thanks!

edit: Thanks, everyone!

I can’t take anymore 😭

I'm 38, and while I don't think I've achieved much, I've done ok for myself at least. Small apartment in the city, partner, stable career, friends, hobbies.

I guess as I get older, I'm starting to feel... a little left out of things. I still go out a lot and try new things, but people look at me different now. Kind of that "aren't you too old for this?" look. It doesn't stop me, but it hurts a bit and it's harder to connect.

A lot of my friends started having kids or at the very least are heavily involved with their families in some way. I've never been close with my family and realtedly had zero desire for kids. It's another thing that's made me feel distant.

I've always felt like I didn't share a lot of people's beliefs and feelings about everyday things, but it didn't affect my life as much as it does now that I'm actually living differently from my peers.

That and some health issues have started cropping up (yes, I live a healthy lifestyle, I don't need advice on that, thanks).

All the old folks in my family were miserable assholes. Socially isolated, hateful, and physically and mentally falling apart. That and my friends talk about the burden of their elderly relatives.

And I guess... I've never really known a happy older person. And now that I'm starting to get older... I dunno. It feels bad.

Love to hear some perspectives from older folks in the sub. How to you come to terms with aging and how your life is?

I was always shaky at the sight of blood, fainted several times in my life as a result, so I didn’t dare donate blood when I was working. I started,at the urging of a friend, once I retired. No problems, I just don’t watch. I wish I had started sooner. Many people, especially as we age, can’t donate blood due to RX that they take. We will every 8 weeks as long as we can. It doesn’t take much time, they give you free snacks, and it’s a great way to help people with little effort. If you don’t already do it, please consider giving it a try. A single donation can save up to 3 lives!

I'm guessing the answer is "no".

Thought I would ask anyway.

I have a friend who lives in Saint John's Canada.

Her neighbor recently put up a "Trump" flag in the front yard.

I'm assuming that the neighbors in the area where she lives don't really talk to each other that much.

I couldn't really think of any advice to give to my friend that wouldn't antagonize that neighbor or feed him/her the attention s/he is seeking.

Is there a way to communicate something like this?

"Hey, human to human, life would be easier if that flag wasn't there"

-- without having that person getting juiced up and actually getting them to take it down without antagonism?

Edit

To the people replying to this thread using "you", I live in the US. My friend with troubled neighbor is in Canada. :-)

Thanks for the replies

Edit

My friend reported back that her neighbor took down his trump flag.

She does not know why this happened.

All she knows is that the couple who lives there are in their 60s, has 3 children, one of the adult children lives with them, and that the wife has PhD in nursing