Curious if anyone experiences this

Hi all! I feel really silly asking about this but here goes. I’ve been razor free for about 3 months now and I’m really happy about it! I love not worrying about removing my leg and armpit hair! My only issue is that I miss how soft shaving made my legs feel! My leg hair is fairly course. I’ve started exfoliating my legs more and using a different body lotion and that helps my skin feel soft but the hairs themselves are not softening from it. I’m tempted to just start using conditioner on my legs lol. Can anyone recommend a product that helps out? Or should I actually try using conditioner 😂 TYIA!!

I didn't realize it until this happened, but apparently all the long pants I normally wear are loose around the shins/calves. It's obvious and mostly intentional (just didn't think about it) because I work blue collar and wear work boots all the time so I use wide leg/ flare/ boot cut pants, or otherwise I'm wearing shorts or cargo joggers. I wore skinny jeans for the first time in maybe a year, and my leg hair was so sore/itchy after and I thought it was funny and wanted to share 🤣 I told my friend and he was like yeah it'll get used to it again if you keep wearing skinny jeans

I've gone on a razor free journey since I had my last BF a few years ago. I've grown out my underarm hair. Lately though I've noticed a soreness under my arms now that it's long. I wash once a day, wear loose clothing, wear aluminum free deodorant, use fragrance free detergent, and exfoliate at least like once a month. Is it the length making me sore? I have no lumps or anything or pimples or redness. I really like having the air, it's soft and fluffy and feels natural. Should I trim it a little shorter? Is this shortness a hair follicle thing?

Hi, so my armpit hair is kinda frazzled and i’m wondering if there are grooming tips for it. Do you shampoo it or use soap? Do you blow dry it? Thanks for the help

Hello lovelies 🥰

I've lurked in this community for a while but never posted, and have really gotten a lot out of the supportive comments on other posts!

I'm around 2 months in to being completely razor-free and ny hair is dark, long, and plentiful! I'm still getting used to it myself in private, and things like going to the public pool, wearing short pants or skirts, bearing an armpit etc all still feel quite daunting. I'm pushing through as it's important to me.

I recently handed in my PhD thesis and my lovely partner has booked us a spa day. I am so excited to go, but also feeling nervous about my body hair being on display in what is quite a fancy public environment.

I know my body does not exist to please others, and it's very important to me to keep my hair despite the icky feelings I'm working through.

I want to do this, and to focus on enjoying myself and my body, rather than it's appearance - however, this is easier said than done!

I thought posting here might be a useful thing to do to see if anybody can offer any words of support, wisdom or reassurance - I will then very much try to bear the advice in mind to help me along 🥰

Thank you in advance, lovely people!

Everytime I shave it's completely on a whim, and then I feel sad afterwards for feeling like I need to modify my body to be feminine. Not gonna do it anymore.

I made 1 post asking for advice on getting over the fear or not shaving armpit hair and I’ve gotten more than 7 dms from random men with few posts saying stuff like “Let me see your hairy bush” and “I love hairy armpits… there are men like us out there.” Like. Really? 😭 can’t I just live please why does everything have to be so sexual

My question is more : how do u avoid it??? Is there a way to filter sexual stuff from dms automatically? It pisses me off but also I don’t wanna turn off my dm request feature as a whole because tons of people do send me helpful stuff related to sewing & autism

OHHH! MY GODDD!!!!! just so outrageously happy 😭😭😭 THE HAIRY ARMPITS ON WOMEN!!!!! Omfg!!!! Instantly started tearing up!!

That’s the biggest struggle with me! Getting called names growing up for not shaving my armpits was THE WORST! I unfortunately am not entirely razor free yet, I’ve come to terms with everything apart from my armpits…

I fully believe the preference for shaved women comes from a predatory angle so the whole idea of it makes me so uncomfortable, but it’s EVERYWHERE!!! And it’s been getting me so so so down…

How did you guys get over the whole armpit ordeal??? How did you stop caring?? do you still trim with scissors? Please share!

Feel free to delete this, mods, but I thought this could spark on interesting conversation.

I (21f) am a Baptist Christian... Grew up in a Christian family, but only really converted at age 17. My Faith has impacted my decision slightly (though most of my reasoning for going razor-free is secular), as I believe God created people with hair for a reason, and while we're completely free to remove it, we shouldn't feel obligated to change our natural bodies because of fleeting social norms.

Idk, thoughts?

Adult women groom their bodies to better resemble that of a prepubescent child - yet no one seems to make the connection that such behaviour reinforces pedophilac beauty standards? I don't understand how anyone can see hairless female bodies as more desirable than natural female bodies without some undercurrent of pedophilac desire. I also hate how everyone treats shaving as the default, and not shaving as some radical political stance (and while yes, I know that the personal is political, there should be nothing political about women existing in their natural state).

I've brought this topic up with my female friends before and they all think I'm insane, but the connection seems straightforward to me. Am I crazy?

Floating in the lazy river in Wisconsin with my son in 2006. 😃

I'm not amazingly healthy mentally, and I'm kinda a people-pleaser (I need to work on both, but it'll probably be an ordeal). I really wanna stop shaving for multiple reasons, but I don't want everyone thinking I'm gross or something (I don't consider woman who go razor-free gross, for clarification—I have different standards for myself, I guess).

Thoughts? Advice?

Hey I’ll take the representation 🤷‍♀️

Haha autocorrect made it "my body my voice" which is also accurate

I'm in the United States and have decided that because I don't have bodily autonomy, I'm going to stop shaving

I guess not shaving could become illegal at some point

I still won't do it.

Edit: I've spent too much time shaving and conforming to societal expectations. I'm not trying to trivialize embracing our natural bodies. I'm not trying to make "not shaving" transactional.

But I think that learning that society doesn't care about women no matter how much we suffer to please others... I've decided that I'm done.

Kudos to all of y'all who came to this realization before me! Y'all are beautiful

I haven't shaved for years, for all the reasons we all know.
And I would never ever shave for a man, but last friday I was supposed to go on a date with this amazing girl, and in the process of getting ready I thought it would be fun to make a whole ritual out of it, shave my legs, use body lotion and all of my fancy products and feel all smooth and luxurious. Well, I didn't at all.
Instead of going to my date, I fell sick, and instead of my legs being lovely and smooth they feel all prickly and spiky. So now I'm lying in bed, my whole body hurting, sensory issues turned up to max and every time my legs touch it feels so spiky and uncomfortable I hate it.
Don't be like me. Don't shave. lol

I don't like shaving, and I don't like the idea of shaving my legs, underarms, and personal bits for other people's viewing pleasure or aesthetic, but I still feel a sense of shame when I wear shorts. I feel like im doing something wrong? I don't shave anything, and I don't want to at all, but ig I still feel self conscious? My grandma and my mother think it's gross and un hygienic. I'm very clean and don't lack on hygienic routine. I just wanna not feel self conscious about mostly my legs hair and wearing shorts when I visit my bf in FL and it's hot as balls (no my bf doesn't gaf about body hair, tbh he thinks it's kinda hot).

Edit: thank you everyone for being so supportive, i got way more traction on this post than i thought i would. This made me feel a lot better, and im glad we can all come together to support one another 💗

I still remember the first comment my mom made above me shaving my armpits at 13 & I was confused as to why she felt the need to comment on my body. It carried a heavy weight & I would continue to shave despite the sensitivity my armpits would have. It was only once I moved out and that I felt confident enough to stop shaving. I now have two step daughters - both have made comments about my body hair which led to a talk about how everyone has body hair & people shave for different reasons - it’s not up to you to decide how other need to portray themselves. Body positivity starts at a young age and carries a weight that not a lot of people realize.

I (31F) never shave my legs and only intermittently do my armpits if the hair annoys me. It's not really a Statement for me- I just don't care that much. I'm single right now, but I'm also gay, so it's unlikely that a partner would mind very much. And the biggest thing is that I wear Victorian-style clothing as my everyday attire (mostly homemade). So nobody actually sees my body hair; even in the summer, I prefer to wear lightweight, long-sleeved blouses/bodices so I don't have to apply arm sunscreen. And long skirts are my year-round preference, of course.

Sometimes I feel like a bit of a coward or like it doesn't count as bucking beauty standards if nobody ever sees the hair. I've never had to deal with stares or rude comments like other unshaven women do, or felt "going to the beach with pit hair" anxiety. I don't cover up to hide the hair, but nonetheless, it still gets hidden.

Any other unseen razor-free ladies out there? Do you ever feel guilty for not getting your share of the public reactions?

Hey everyone! I'm very new to my razor free journey, and figured winter would be a good time to start growing out my leg hair.

I've enjoyed not shaving lately, but I can't help but feel anxious about summer even though it's so far away.

I'm just worried about what people might say, or if people will make fun of me.

Any tips would be appreciated ❤️

Hello! I (25F) need your help about my relationship...

I always felt comfortable with my body hair but where I am from, women can't show that they have body hair.

I am someone with a lot of body hair, especially on my legs. So from a young age I was always waxing my legs whenever i had to (going to the pool, weddings etc.) but then I would just keep it long the rest of the time in private. I would get bullied in school for my arm hair and would get comments from my family. I always felt comfortable with my body hair though so I never wanted to remove it if there wasn't a "good enough reason".

When i first met my current boyfriend (24M) a year ago, he saw my leg hair from week 1. He made jokes about it which i hated but he stopped after i told him that I was uncomfortable since I got bullied growing up. He sometimes told me that he wanted to see me without body hair and he did, because i had to wax during the summer for a wedding. I really want to be razor free and to deconstruct my internalized sexism eventually but i am slowly working on it. I kinda knew it was his preference but he never forced me to do anything, even though he would ask me sometimes to remove it. He even told me that it was growing on him.

However, a year later, he told me that he clearly has a sexual preference for women with no body hair and that he was trying to convince himself during the year but it didn't work out. He told me that what is bothering him is not the hair itself but the fact that I would remove my body hair "for society" (other people), but not for him. And that made him jealous. Even though i keep telling him that the reason I am doing it is because I am not ready yet to be razor free and that I am still scared about being judged. I think he would be okay with my body hair if I would also be razor free in public. He still has his preference though and I don't mind waxing from time to time for him but it needs to come from me and if I want to. However, I don't often feel the need to wax so this might only be rare.

He thinks that in a relationship both parties should try to make themselves more appealing to the other no matter what, but i think that there are boundaries that can't be crossed and asking me to shave is one of mine. I just want to have control over my body.

Am I wrong for not wanting to remove my body hair if he asks me to but would do it when going to social events that would require me to show my legs? I am still trying to learn how to be razor free in public, it can't happen overtime. Have you ever been in a situation like this? What happened if you stayed despite them having a preference for no body hair?

Before the appointment I was rehearsing to myself what I would do if they refused me service.

But actually, it was WONDERFUL- pleasant and respectful. My body hair was visible but not an issue and not mentioned by the person doing the fitting. And also, I found a bra I really like. So, double win!

I apologize as this is my first post… I like my body hair but I have to get a diagnostic mammogram (37F) in a small southern state town… I want to not shave but I have social anxiety and etc, so I’m worried that they’ll be ugly to me during the process. Am I overthinking? Also I think I might be focusing on that now instead of worrying about the results.

As soon as summer ended i stopped shaving

When I stopped shaving, I noticed something unusual… my legs are actually going bald!

The backs and insides of my calf have no hair on them at all, not even peach fuzz and it is the strangest thing! I was wondering, does anyone else have bald spots on their legs they didn’t expect?

I usually wear a tshirt. My first yoga class in a singlet this morning!

I’ve always felt embarrassed about feeling “hairer” than women around me but now I feel free