Hey guys. I think the title says it. I'm just looking for a no fap commitment buddy, would rather avoid the costs of the proposals on nofap . com + the nofap reddit seems like it's been inactive for years. I'm just looking for a nofap accountability partner, someone with whom I can share my objectives, reasons to withold, tell about my progress, potentially discuss how I feel with the whole thing etc. I saw the nofap website and the prices for this kind of thing and I thought they seemed unreasonable for the service, since I'm basically just looking for a single other person like me for a strictly web text exchange, no photos etc. DM me if anyone's interested or knows of another way to find such partner. Thanks.

These questions have been stuck in my head since quite a while. So I wanted to open up and get some new perspectives on it.

All my life I've been taught by family/friends but also by society that success and pursuing a career is (one of) the most important thing(s) in life. I came to a turning point in my life where I decided to quit my studies for several reasons. Everything I based my self worth on suddenly fell apart.

I used to base my value on:

• never giving up, accomplishing what I aim for
• being genuinely focused on my career and even putting my ambition first (even before my health), measuring my value in my achievements
• becoming successful in my job, being above-average, and therefore being proud of myself

So as you can imagine the conclusion would be:

• for quitting my studies I label myself as weak person with low endurance
• I question the importance of professional success, and started to put my mental & physical health and my personal happiness first
• I feel like a failure because of not achieving this academic degree and see my career opportunities as limited

That leaves me thinking: What do you base your self-worth on? Is it even possible to detach your values from your success or any achievements on the outside?

This is my second post here, and well, things have took a turn for the worse ever since…

(Quick recap of my life)

(This is a long one, go to the questions if it’s too long)

I live in a third world country, I had a privileged upbringing in a dysfunctional home, I really did not learn basic human skills until there was no one to do them for me, to give you an idea, I didn’t know how to clean my room until I turned 16 and only because my family went bankrupt, after that my father left leaving us with nothing but a paid off roof under our heads (which I know is a privilege nowadays) my relationship with my parents was never strong, it was really troubled actually, my dad (from my point of view) was a narcissist manipulative person who did not love my mother and hated me because he saw me as a liability and my mother was left traumatized after spending over 20 years of her life with who she thought was the love of her life only to be left in a shithole so deep she will probably never be able to have anything under her name again.

Learning about “normal” life after being used to something completely different while growing up was a whole “experience”

I think that remainders of this past lifestyle are what got me to this point, and I honestly don’t know what to do…

(Now this is the actual part)

When I turned 18, the first thing I did was apply for a job at at a call center, a really popular amongst english speaking persons in latin america

(Thanks mom and dad for making me go to English classes for 5 years)

This job lets you earn a salary above the minimum wage, which allows you to do a lot here

As soon as I saw myself with a little money I started to hang out with people from my past life, and I soon got hooked again, I missed the parties, the girls, the lifestyle. What I could’ve had if my family didn’t went bankrupt, this completely made me forget about how much we had to struggle for some time, I completely forgot about when it got so bad we did not had a penny to buy food

After working for some time, I found out about credit, and how easy is for banks to give it to you, and I am now learning the hard way that it can completely destroy your life

Credit qllowed me to go on vacations, party like I was still one of them, live a life that is not mine anymore (Keep in mind that my monthly salary was these kids weekend allowance, sometimes their daily allowance

I just kept swiping, buying and doing idiotic stuff that I’m now paying off

My debt is over 14 times the minimum wage here To put things in perspective, imagine someone in the US making 7.25 per hour being roughly over 16K in debt

My debt ofc is way lower that 16K, and I’m almost out of it, it’s just a matter of months before I finish paying it off and I don’t think I’ll be using credit anytime soon

I am putting myself through law school but I’m not able to go consistently, even though I love studying law, I don’t know why I’m not able to consistently go to school, I have now missed 2 semesters (I spent one of them hospitalized because of how poorly I was taking my health)

I am not able to keep a romantic relationship for long, and I’ve asked my friends about their opinion, they’re very blunt and that’s something I love about them, they told me I have narcissistic tendencies and that I’m really manipulative with my partners, that I like being liked by them but the second my girlfriends don’t act like I say so I will start to do thing no sane person could do to someone they love

They say I cheqt, lie and deceive without any remose whatsoever and this has me really worried, they tell me that I lack self awareness to a concerning level.

I feel like the most important people in my life are getting tired of how much of a mess I am, I am also getting tired of how much of a mess everything is right now, I want to do better, but I don’t know why it’s so hard

I am working a dead end job that I hate just to get by and make right about my mistakes I am constantly failing at it (missing shifts) not because I’m not good at it, but because of how much I hate it, I don’t know how much more I can take of this

My questions are

How do I stop trying to live a life that is not mine? Why is it so hard to accept that I’m not rich anyomore?

How do I get on track with my finances?

How do I get to know myself and how do I work through all of these behaviors?

I often feel lonely even when I’m sorrounded by people, I often feel like life is on autopilot, I don’t know what to do about any of this

1. Compromising beyond a limit: We all should clearly know that some things can be compromised however other things like self-esteem and dignity should NEVER be compromised

2. Not being limited editioned: We all know how difficult it can be to get our hands on limited edition items, and even if we manage to do so, we often end up paying a hefty price. However, being a limited edition does not mean that you should be hard to obtain. It simply means that you should shine in your own unique way.

3. Showing helplessness: It is okay to share your problems with others, but constantly displaying helplessness indicates weakness of character.

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You have the power to name your worth.

I have a problem with making choices that are only short sighted. Not considering the various cases, not thinking if back up solutions, and so. I know I am a lazy person, and that’s probably why I am bad at making wise choices. How can I change this? Does it even get changed?

Should i quit and change careers? It will knocked down my income probably 60%

I work at a Oil and Gas Company, high paying job but no personal Growth, and no longterm stability. No life. I am Single, no kids, basically living for free. My rentals pretty much covers my expenses. I can't get myself to quit, because i feel stupid letting this job go. Im good at it and theyre good to me. And i promise myself that if i quit, i wont come back in the field anymore. So i need to be certain with my decision. I love real estate, i would love to own few more and build wealth from there. This job allows me to do that. But i feel stucked and complacent. Am i wasting my time?

Pros:

pays good, around 130k last year gross, (worked 235days ) i was able to get another house as a rental. I got 2 unit rental house and my primary. i have company truck to use they treat me well. Cant complain i can do lots of things while at work, trade stocks, manage my rentals, take online courses, stalk reddit.

Cons:

long hours 14hrs/day no schedule, i can work 36 days straight if needed. Or off work for a month boring job, if everythings good, just purely monitoring. doesnt challenge me anymore. no growth

How to ensure you feel full of energy to take on the day and feel joy inside?

I struggle with being succinct.

My tone is hardly confident enough.

I can't keep the audience engaged.

How can I become a better speaker so that I can manage clients better at work, connect with people during networking & interviews and strengthen connections during social events?

Any recommendation for any course would be great!

Recently, I had the opportunity to engage in an interview with Bold Journey magazine, during which I was prompted to reflect on the development of my confidence. Upon introspection, I realized that it all began with redefining what confidence truly means to me.

I used to equate confidence with a long list of accolades or being the life of the party. However, a pivotal moment occurred when I stumbled upon a speech that offered a different perspective. The speaker vividly illustrated that true confidence isn’t showcased by effortlessly mingling with everyone at a networking event. Rather, it’s exemplified by those who bravely admit their unfamiliarity with the setting, openly acknowledging it’s their first time there, and courageously reaching out to those nearby, asking for help.

Confidence, I’ve come to realize, isn’t about having all the answers; it’s about being comfortable with not having them. It’s about embracing your vulnerabilities, being authentic, and having the courage to navigate through life’s uncertainties while staying true to yourself.

As I’ve dug deeper into the mindset and behaviors of confident people, I’ve noticed four key qualities that set them apart:

1. Living in the Moment: Confident individuals don’t dwell on the past or fret about the future. They’re fully present, immersed in whatever they’re doing. They’re not chasing after external validation or worrying about outcomes; they’re simply enjoying the journey.

2. Taking Bold Action: Confidence isn’t just about thinking; it’s about doing. Confident people don’t wait for the perfect moment or all the answers before taking action. They dive in, even when things are uncertain because they know that’s where growth happens.

3. Seeking Honest Feedback: Confidence isn’t a solo journey; it’s about learning and growing with others. Confident individuals actively seek feedback, knowing that it’s essential for growth. They’re not afraid to ask for help or admit when they’re wrong because they understand that’s how they’ll improve.

4. Bouncing Back from Setbacks: Failure is inevitable, but it doesn’t define you. Confident individuals don’t let setbacks knock them down. They see failure as a chance to learn and grow, and they come back stronger than ever.

So, if you’re on your journey to confidence, remember this: it’s not about having all the answers or never making mistakes. It’s about embracing your imperfections, taking risks, and staying true to yourself along the way. That’s where true confidence lies.

Written by Tracey Zhang, a purpose-driven writer, coach, and spiritual healer who helps individuals build a strong inner self through major life transitions.

I would have these thoughts running in my head for most of my life but I guess I have reached that point that I feel I need to just vent out. So the most typical scenario so to say has hit me really hard affecting the way I function and most importantly my work!!!! I am going to be hitting my 30s soon but still don't feel I have grown enough. Like a lot of post that I have been reading here I am also in that boat where I have to make up my mind to get married but here is the catch. I am not feeling very happy with my work and to top it I am also hitting that age that I might soon run out of time to have options to be able to choose to spend my life with. I am too shy or probably too egoistic to have my profile out for long term relationship. I seriously don't feel comfortable and going via my parents route means they seeing me getting married in coming 6 months let alone getting some time for myself. Also I don't know if its the right thing to say but I have started to have feelings for a person at my workplace but I am extremely hesitant to speak about it to that person as I feel I may not be able to work the same way if the person reciprocates negatively. We are kind of competitors at work too. My most career decision in my life has been hinged on this marriage thing. I have always been a realistic person in the sense that I was the one thinking I need to become somebody to be able to mingle with the so-called "achievers circle of people(well accomplished, financially stable, not coming from backgrounds being bothered by the state one belongs too. Basically being part of families that have moved beyond being around a certain community stereotype)". I come from a family whose state is pretty much having a very hostile image across people of my country. Questions that keep haunting me:

1. If I have to get my work sorted should I be even thinking the marriage route?
2. How do I build time for myself to study skills to get better at work and learn to compartmentalize things?
3. How to make more friends to be able to have these conversations with (work/relationship/marriage)?
4. How should I express my feelings to my co-worker or its best to forget the person?
5. If the 4th point is not an option for me, how do I get comfortable to have a profile made on the sites(dating/marriage)? If not profile is there a way to still be able to message one-one?

Hello all. I'm trying to not take life so serious, and lighten up, and have fun and trying to find joy. Has anyone gone thru this process? If so, what worked?

I've been thinking a lot on focusing on controlling the input (my reactions, effort, mindset) and letting go of the output (outcomes, luck, "success"). I think this is a better way of managing my own anxiety and actually focusing on growth, especially when I'm coasting. Thoughts?

I am developing a year long plan for personal growth which I will be documenting on my new instagram page. My main focuses are embracing discomfort and extending kindness. I have these broken up into different themes each month, containing challenges that I will be documenting and encouraging others to participate in.
I want to make sure that this stays more on the side of using self-love to grow and doesn't look like it's just a bunch of dares. Please let me know your thoughts and opinions on how to best achieve this! Please feel free to look at the page (@meadowrambler) and let me know your ideas :)

Hi everyone!

Italian guy here who wants to improve himslef during 2024 under different point of views.

I have written down several goals to achieve over the course of this year.

Do you have any apps/programs that monitor the progress of this year's goals so that they are reached by December 2024?

Thanks in advance

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I've read a few books on personal growth that stress the importance of visualization.

I am making a sincere effort in imagining what I want, but I find myself struggling to see these images clearly.

I can generate the feelings of the achieved goal very easily, but the images I generate when I try to visualize are fuzzy and vague.

Do any members of the sub struggle with this? How have you overcome this? Please share your stories.

Thank you for reading.

I know when I started, and when I saw how much space for improvement is in front of me, that I wanted it all and I wanted it now, as we all do right?

After started digesting books, cognitive exercises, after some time I've felt overwhelmed. Which is completely normal. It takes time to build things that last, the same goes with you. It takes time to build the version of yourself which is going to withstand the test of time.

Take one step at the time, but be consistent! Even the smallest change over day adds up! I go by the rule "do every day a small thing which makes you at least a bit uncomfortable" (but don't overreact). Pick your steps as you feel you can handle it.

Myself personally noticing the power of incremental change, and being there for quite long time, I've decided to share my own journey with other people who work on their personal growth. For the past year I've been building `Inner Lighthouse`. In short it's pretty much "duolingo for self-help". Every day do small cognitive exercises, think about things you normally wouldn't. Day by day, the change shall come. If you'd like to try it out see https://www.innerlighthouseapp.com.

If you prefer other methods, you can simply start by making daily habitual rituals like gratitude jar or morning meditation. Develop a healthy habit, and with time you'll notice significant changes. Consistency is the key.

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2. “It’s not always about you.” Focus on the bigger picture.
3. “Find your chill.” Discover a relaxation method that suits you.
4. “Cut yourself some slack.” Give yourself room to breathe.
5. “Show yourself some love.” Prioritize self-care for a happier you.
6. “Believe people when they show you who they are.” Trust your instincts.
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Hey guys I have some ideas below on focusing on all the times that we have done really well, instead of really badly. Would be great to hear your thoughts!

There are times in all of our lives where we have really blown the lights out. Holy shit, we nailed it. Things seemed to just align and come together all at the right time. We felt really good and were able to do something truly amazing.

Even those of us who view our lives as being rather quiet and reserved, without much going on, have had moments where we were truly on fire. These moments don’t need to have happened for long periods of time, or have taken place on a grand scale. They could be brief and seemingly small. They could be simple.

Maybe, for example, you walked into a foyer and greeted the receptionist while another person also entered the room. Perhaps they said something to the receptionist in passing which led you to make an acutely deft comedic observation out loud, which caused all three of you to burst out in laughter. And I mean, really burst out in laughter. I mean one moment things were normal and the next, the three of you were rolling around on the floor laughing. Maybe you all shared a moment between gasps of air through the laughter, while smiling and looking at each other, that left everyone marvelling at just how funny your observation had been. Maybe this moment, however fleeting, was an acknowledgement from the other two that, “Hey, you are extremely witty and smart.” Even if just for a few brief moments, it is likely that there are times where you and I have been absolutely on fire.

These moments of course do not have to be grounded in comedy. They can be anything where a real connection was made, or real honour was defended, or we were really bold and confident, or where we felt most alive.

In a never ending effort to fix or improve things, most of us watch the channel of our lives that displays all of the things that we have done wrong in the past. Yes of course we need to know these things in order to improve, but what if we changed the channel for a little bit?

What if we switched over to the other channel which shows all of the things that we have actually done quite well? It happens to also be on all the time, even if we don’t choose to view it as much.

What if after watching this channel we decided to create a list of things that we have already done well in the past?

If you or I were a successful band, eventually we’d create a greatest hits album with all of our top songs on it. What we are going to do now is create a list of our greatest hits. But instead of songs the list will contain examples of times where we have really succeeded.

OK fine, I’ll go first:

1. I once delivered a best man speech at a wedding that brought the house down. People were laughing so much that we actually had to stop for a few minutes before I could continue. Years later, acquaintances in the small town where the wedding took place would bring it up when they would run into each other in the meat aisle and run out of conversation: “Hey remember the time we heard that speech at that wedding.”

2. I helped a friend to find a job after they were retrenched and could no longer support their family.

3. I once went to a wedding alone and did not drink at all. What was I thinking? I know. However, at this wedding I did really well from a social standpoint. I made conversation with most of the people there, I mean I really circulated the room. I managed to make a few new friends. I cracked a few jokes. I danced on the dance floor to Taylor Swift like nobody was watching. I even gave an elderly couple a lift home after they conceded that they were in fact too drunk to drive, and that this was not the 1950s where you could just swerve your way home through everyone’s front lawns.

4. After someone bumped my mom one day in a shopping queue, I walked straight up to them in front of everyone and let them have it. I made them apologise to my mom. Justice.

5. I managed to turn a friend’s lame 30th birthday party into a night that our friendship group still remembers to this day. I rocked up with a large speaker, put on some music and got everyone dancing. I set up a game of beer pong with cups that I had brought with. I even supplied 3 cases of cold beer to go with it all. We all had a wild, amazing night that would not have happened if I was not there.

As an example, let’s pick apart the first item on my list. What the hell happened? What really happened on a detailed level? What was the sequence of events that led up to my success? What were the conditions that made it all possible? Here we are trying to identify things that we can re-create in order to have the same success again, and hopefully over and over after that.

OK, so for my best man speech that brought the house down. First of all, I wrote the speech many weeks in advance. I mean, people hadn’t even booked their accommodation for the wedding yet. I learnt it off by heart. I could have said it back to you if you woke me suddenly in the dead of the night. I tested it first on friends and family members. I was genuine as fuck and wrote from the heart. For weeks I whittled the speech down to only the good parts. I removed and removed, and took out and took out again. I stripped out anything that was lame or boring. On the night of the wedding I chose not to drink before the speech. While delivering the speech I spoke loudly. I read the crowd so that I could freestyle and go “off script” at times to make things even funnier. I paused for laughter. My timing of when to resume speaking was clinical. I sped up at the right times to maintain the entertainment factor of it all, and slowed down at certain points to let punchlines really land.

What I’ve just done here, as an example, is create a list of exactly what I did step by step in order to achieve success at a certain moment in the past. In theory, this would be a great starting point for me to come back to when trying to achieve similar success again in the future. Kind of like a recipe. We made great brownies once. We have the recipe for how we did it. So let’s make great brownies again. Of course the same success is never really guaranteed again in the future, but it is a far greater place for me to start than looking at a list of my previous failures. And you can be sure, my list of failures is long.

Continuing to look at our successes in detail can remind us of what we are actually capable of. In doing this we’d be trying to switch over from a cycle of failure that repeats, to a cycle of success that repeats.

What would you say are your greatest hits? We are not really looking for things like, “I finished my accounting degree”. We are looking more for things where you have done well in terms of strength of character. Things that made you feel amazing. We are trying to identify what it is that you like about the success you are writing down. For example, standing up for your mom would indicate that you are able to show a lot of backbone and fight for what is right. Identifying the principles that are within your successes can allow you to hone in on what it is that you like about yourself when you execute something successfully.

After writing down your greatest hits that you can remember from your life to date, the best time for writing down your list of greatest hits thereafter, is often at the end of each year. It is the perfect time to look back on your year, starting in January and ending in December. Going month by month can be easier in terms of remembering what happened. This can make it easier to pick out things that you are really proud of.

I've put together some questions which might help with this process:

1. Yes, you guessed it, what would you say is your list of greatest hits that have taken place in your life to date? If you had to list about 20, what would they be?

If you are wondering what should and shouldn’t be on your list, for example these are the times where you have: felt the most alive, been the proudest, made people laugh, stood up for what was right, taken hard decisions, been brave, been confrontational, been passionate, not backed down, shown strength of character, done something you thought you couldn’t do, come through when everyone was doubting you.

First and foremost they are times where you’ve said, “Hey world, this is the real me, so watch out, because I’m pretty damn amazing.”

2. Which one of your greatest hits are you most proud of? What would you say is the reason for this?

3. For each item on your list, what are the set of qualities that you are proud of displaying? For example when you told your boss to go fuck themselves it showed that you: are confident, have guts, have self-respect, back yourself when the time is right, won’t back down due to fear, are the leading character in the story of your life.

What we are going for is: what is it that you really enjoy and admire about the characteristics that you displayed for each item on your greatest hits list?

4. Now let’s identify the set of circumstances that accompanied each of the items on your list. The same as what I identified above as having led up to my best man speech. For example, on the day you told your boss to fuck off, what happened leading up to and during that moment? Maybe that morning you went for a soul searching run on the beach before work. Maybe weeks before you started to interact a lot more with your colleagues at work so that you felt more confident, surrounded by people that you were getting along with. What was in place that allowed you to do what you did?

5. Now that you have your list of things that accompanied each of your greatest hits, allowing them to take place, how can you create the same set of circumstances again in order to achieve similar results in the future?

6. From your list of things identified in question 5, do any patterns emerge? For example, when I talk more and engage more socially I feel more confident and ready to do what is needed. For example, when I really prepare for things way in advance I completely knock them out of the park.

7. Which of the items from your list of greatest hits would you say are ones that you would most likely try to remember when you are feeling down or doubting yourself? For example, if you are ever nervous about speaking in front of an audience you could remind yourself of the time on your list where you made an announcement in front of a whole lot of people, during an emergency at an airport. Which of your items can serve as strong reminders of everything that you are actually capable of?

8. Are there any things on your list that surprise you? For example, maybe you thought you weren’t that confident but there are about 10 examples of times where you really made a stand and stood up for what was right at the time.

9. After reading your greatest hits list, how does it make you feel about yourself overall?

10. When will you next write down another list of your greatest hits? Will you do this at the end of the year looking back? Or would it be easier to update your list at the end of each month while things are still fresh in your memory?

It may not exactly be the most ideal way of going around things, but I noticed during dark times this helped me. Alright, so pick a person that you think would NOT like seeing you succeed in anything/life! Add this person to your social media accounts and try to ‘prove’ to them through positive posts how amazing your life is and how much you’re thriving; you could do this by posting progress like going to the gym, being at school or being at a social event. Even just taking a picture during a nice walk outside will do; anything that has a positive vibe to it is sufficient! Every time you get a ‘view’ from them, imagine them sitting behind their phone being frustrated and jealous. This way you may be directly trying to prove your happiness to some ‘enemy’, but in fact you’re also slowly proving your happiness to your inner critic/saboteur! I don’t recommend doing this long-term, because you don’t want to let the person you chose influence your feelings in such way that they become negative again 🤍

Just a quick backstory. I have a very ethnic sounding name that people have always butchered over the years. In my 20s I decided I had enough of always correcting people so I started using a nickname which I carried throughout university. It largely helped me assimilate but I still felt slightly disconnected from it and as if people could not take me seriously with it (Think ‘Barbie’ for Barbara!) . When I started working I decided it would be easier to use my English middle name, figured that’s what middle names are there for and it’s still my name although I have never been called that name all my life! Again I felt relieved at just being able to introduce myself without any explanations. I slowly started to use it socially as well and even when I moved to a new city about a year ago. But lately I feel an insidious loss of identity with my name change. I feel I have abandoned my culture by opting for my English middle name. I wish I would have used the short form of my first name that my family always called me since I was young. It would still sound slighlty different in English but it feels more closely tied to who I am. Is it too late to start going by the short form of my first name or will people think I’ve gone crazy(socially and professionally) And how likely would it be that people would adopt this change. And how would I inform people of such a change, do I just change my name on Whatsapp and social media or tell people I know one by one? I have so many circles, work friends, school mum circles (the ones im mostly worried about) So many questions just a reflection of my anxiety on this situaion.

FROM: OLD SELF (avoidance, fear, procrastination) To NEW SELF (Disciplined, focussed, achievement). What helped you transform? What was your process?

What I realise is my old self has to die for my new self to be born.

I know exactly what I want, how to get it, but stuck in a stop/start endless loop. Willing to go through any pain, do any time, whatever it takes.

Thank you for your kind insight in advance.

Hey reddit, I'm working on a project and am curious everyone's thoughts about the hardest thing when feeling "stuck" or unhappy when it comes to maximizing your potential?

If I were to select the three most significant lessons I've learned during my journey of transitions, I would choose the following: 

Lesson 1: To heal and grow, you must learn to release and let go

To rise above my rock bottom, letting go was the most helpful step I took. One practical way I embraced this process was by adopting minimalism, inspired by Marie Kondo's book, "The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up." Clearing my physical space of unnecessary items brought immense relief, as it reflected an inner transformation. Additionally, I let go of connections that no longer served me, decluttering my social media and reducing its influence in my life. This internal and external de-cluttering created a serene environment that enabled me to focus on my inner journey. I am immensely grateful for the clarity, peace, and relief it brought to my life. 

Lesson 2: Your disappointments can unfold as your biggest blessings in life.

For nearly three years, I mourned the losses I experienced, accompanied by a range of emotions, including sadness, anger, guilt, and most prominently, disappointment. As a driven and goal-oriented person, I found it challenging to accept when life deviated from my desired path. However, delving into spirituality allowed me to release these ego-driven thoughts and desires, leading me to recognize the deeper meaning of life. Consequently, what I once viewed as disappointments turned into a profound sense of gratitude. I learned that sometimes, what we desire may not align with what's truly best for us. The universe has a plan, and it always provides what we need at the right time. Surrendering to life's flow and releasing expectations can lead to magical outcomes. 

Lesson 3: The ultimate key to rising above rock bottom is to persevere and keep moving forward, regardless of the obstacles in your way.

When life throws unexpected curveballs, our natural instinct is to resist and hold on to familiarity, seeking protection from the past. However, resisting only prolongs the challenges we face during transitions. Instead, embracing these changes with acceptance on an emotional level can be the most efficient solution. Simultaneously, on a behavioral level, we must take action and keep following our routines. The temptation to withdraw or avoid responsibilities might be strong, but we must remind ourselves that life continues, and so must we. Even during or after a transition, we should find at least one consistent thing in our lives and keep working on it. This becomes the grounding force that holds us steady amidst uncertainties and upheavals. 

In the darkest period of my life, a spark of hope was ignited when my best friend told me, "Your struggles are preparing you to help others navigate similar challenges in the future." Her belief in me, seeing parts of myself I never recognized, planted the seed for a new path. Now, six years later, her vision has come to fruition—I've become a personal growth coach, guiding aspiring millennials through transitions and aligning their lives with their passions and values. I am overflowing with gratitude for the profound lessons learned during my life transitions, and now, embracing my calling, I am dedicated to sharing these insights with anyone else on a similar transformative journey.