My LO is 4 weeks and has recently started spitting up more frequently. It’s worse at night when she is laying in the bassinet. It feels like she’s constantly spitting up from the moment I lay her down. What scares me is the sounds she makes. It’s almost as if she’s choking or gasping for air. Tonight, she started spitting up and it was shooting out her nose which intensified the choking sound. We keep her upright after feeding, burp, and she’s always on her back in the bassinet which I know is safest and helps prevent choking but the sounds she makes terrify me and I’m not sure what to do. Is there anything I can do to ease the reflux?

How much eye gunk is too much and becomes worrisome? At his 2 day and 2 week visits he had moderate whitish yellow crusties in his eye and the pediatrician said that was fairly common and they just let them correct themselves (unless it takes over a year to unblock on its own). They did tell me not to use my finger to clean it (and i have on accident a couple of times). Well he's 3 weeks now and for the last day and at half his eye has been a lot gunkier. I'm hoping I didn't inflame the area by stupidly using my finger to clean it. Is it normal for the gunk to get worse before it gets better? Eye isn't red or inflamed but the gunk is a bit thicker and more yellow than white right now.

My 3m sleeps from 7 PM to around 8:30 or 9, he wakes up usually 2 times during the night to nurse (sometimes more but this is the average) i usually nurse then change his diapers, i do that for 2 reasons, one is that when he had a dry diaper he sleeps better and longer and the second, is that he usually sleeps while being nursed and I dont want that to be the way he sleeps so changing him will wake him up so i can put him in the crib awake and he can sleep. I dont usually note the times of changes and how they are i only note feeding and pumping sessions.

Sorry for the long intro 😅 to my question, last night the first time he woke up was 12 and i changed for him as usual the second time was 4:20 and the diaper was completely dry, i felt it was a long time for it to be like that but again i have never noticed or timed these things but usually during my night changes they tend to be full, so is this normal or not? 🙈

Thank you.

Before my LO (2mo), I was told I would never have kids. So I ended up with a herd of pets, 5 cats and 2 dogs. The dogs themselves are a chore, with a poodle with a neurological issue, and a border collie/pyranese cross that was traumatized before we got her. Out of the cats, all three males go outside when things get too much for me, but they still torture our 16 year old cat who then, in defense because she was declawed, she pees or poops to get them to leave her alone, which always happens to be on MY stuff.

I lost it today. Between the dogs, the old bitty cat, and my inconsolable LO, I was overstimulated to the point I could feel my skin crawling and my patience snap.

I am alone Monday to Friday every other week, because my SO travels during the week for work, and my bonus daughter (15) does a week on week off between us and her mother.

I am so thankful that this week was my week with my bonus daughter, because I would not have survived without her watching LO for an hour so I could sit in silence without being touched.

But I feel so guilty that I got to the point where I was ready to just ignore everything and everyone in my house so I could have some peace. This is the closest to PPD that I’ve ever been, and I just feel so ashamed of myself.

Recently LO has found his hands and they must have been seasoned by the hands of a thousand ancestors, because he gnaws on them like a death row inmate’s last meal. When it comes to bedtime he gets super angry getting swaddled so he can’t go full Kirby on himself. Now I would just leave his arms out and let him go to town, however he will push his fists so hard in his mouth that he gags himself 😐 getting him down to sleep has been tricky to say the least. Has anyone else experienced this with your LO and what do you do?

Hi parents looking for recommendations on a probiotic for my 4-week-old—preferably one that doesn’t contain seed oils. Also, curious about your experiences with probiotics for colicky babies or anything else that might have helped ease the fussiness and gas.

My husband and I have pretty much tried everything we can think of and read but we’re still struggling to soothe our little one. Open to any suggestions that worked for you and your baby.

We’re feeling a bit overwhelmed and would love to hear any positive stories. Thanks in advance!

What's your LO's bedtime? Particularly for 3-ish month olds? We kinda just go with the flow of the day/night as long as we know she's gotten enough milk for the day...sometimes she goes to sleep around 8/8:30 sometimes 10...should we be nailing down a specific bedtime at this point?

I feel like I’m not bonding or forming an attachment with my baby (7 weeks) anymore. She was fairly “easy” and predictable the first 4 weeks, but around weeks 5/6 she started having gas/poop trouble and it turned everything around. I have a supportive village (mainly my parents), but I feel like I’m putting too much on them. I feel like I can’t make things better for my baby when she cries. I feel so overwhelmed and inadequate, so I end up letting my mom take over. She’s so good with her and can get her settled no problem. I consider myself to be a patient person, but for some reason I can’t quite cope with the intense cries. Will this pass?

I’m feeling guilty for using pacifiers with my baby. Lots of doctors have told me that they are not good for the baby. It’s not even something I ask them. They just see her with the pacifier and they start talking about it as if I asked them to. LO is 1 month old and she is used to the pacifier. I have tried to remove it but sometimes when I offer the yitties she ends up crying and the only thing that calms her down is the paci. (Or sometimes she doesn’t want it and instead wants to be sleeping with the tittie in her mouth) What should I do? 😞

Anyone else just kind of take things day by day with their baby? My LO is almost 11 weeks old and i feel like we don’t have too much of a routine right now. Besides some what in the morning a and at night. I feel like things are constantly changing and even if i do something the exact same way one day as the other, my baby is pretty unpredictable lol. Wondering how it is for others, especially because moms on social media dicho as IG and TikTok make it look like they have it all figured out with wake windows and their baby sleeping through the night lol

So right now my baby typically has a wake window of 1-1.5 hours. Then she’ll nap from 1 hr-1.5, sometimes two hours. Rinse and repeat. We usually put her to bed around 10 and she’ll sleep 3-4 hour stretches but there are some nights she’s up every 2. My husband thinks we should be keeping her up the hours before bedtime (she’s usually napping by 7-8 pm and we wake her for one more feed around 10 and then she goes back to sleep. Should we be keeping her awake in the hours before bedtime to make the night sleep longer or is it too early for that? My assumption is if she’s sleeping, she needs to be in that moment.

My LO will be 2 months this week. She is getting very strong with her head and is holding it up already. It’s very wobbly and she’s still figuring it out, but out of curiosity when did your LO begin to be able to fully hold their head up? Did it make holding/feeding easier? Right now I breastfeed so the thought of her being able to hold her own head seems much easier!

Our LO was sleeping in her bassinet and crib the entire night on her own 8-10hrs. Then she went through the 4 month sleep regression and a growth spurt and a week ago also had her rsv vaccine. The combination of the three has changed her sleep completely. She opens her eyes the second we put her in the crib, regardless of the fact that she falls asleep in our arms, we hold her for 30+minutes, then gently place her in her crib while rocking and placing hands on chest, tummy (the usual routine) ... she will however happily sleep the entire night in our arms. I'm exhausted!! Anyone else experiencing this??? How do we go back to her normal routine of sleeping in her crib independently??

First time dad here. Pediatrician says, my 13 day old baby needs to eat 150-200 ml of formula per kilogram of weight. He's a little over 3 kg and he barely crosses 400 ml in 24 hours. His weight gain isn't very steady either. On average he's been gaining 25 grams a day, but last four days he gained a little over 60. He has a TON of wet diapers but sometimes no stools, other times one stool and a big one at that and sometimes 2-3 stools per 24. He just doesn't eat more than this, no matter what I try, I've changed bottles, I've changed formulas, I even gave him some formula with a 5ml syringe only for him to just spit it back out. Right now I'm trying to wake him every hour to give around 30 ml and let him sleep for another hour, but this seems to just circle back to 400 ml per 24. I'm at my wit's end. What are the implications of leaving him alone and letting him feed the way he naturally demands? Thank you.

like really, does this happen usually?

my LO is 5 weeks old and she started to be super active for like 2 or 3 hours before sleeping at 6-7pm, and today she was ONLY breastfeeding during all that time, since 5pm to 7pm, without stopping and super ultra energetic!!

is that normal to happen? I'm afraid that this might become a routine, she left me totally dry 💀

Hey everyone, never posted on here before but I think I need some advise from other moms. I'm a first time boy mom and almost 4 weeks postpartum. I love my son so much and he's really a good baby, but my husband went back to work today and I couldn't help but feel overwhelmingly sad and lonely. I feel extremely guilty for feeling this way especially because the first few days were so good for me because I had a miserable pregnancy. I feel like idk how to handle a schedule with a newborn. How am I supposed to accomplish anything? Also everyone says sleep when baby sleeps but sometimes I can't get him down during the day without him wanting to be held, and now I thinks nights will be on me mostly because hubby has to work now. Am I sleep deprived and that's why I'm sad? Or is this a normal part of postpartum? Wish I had someone to help me or talk to

Our 11 day old has been getting hiccups only at night no matter what we do... We feed and burp her exactly the same way throughout the day and she seems to be fine until 6 pm hits and then it goes down from there. As soon as we burp her and finish swaddling her after her 6 pm feeding, she starts to hiccup which makes herself mad and makes us miserable having to spend an extra 45 minute putting her to sleep. Then she might get another bout of hiccups or two later at night. Anyone having the same situation?? How do you prevent it? How do you stop it?!

My 9 week old has become soooo into sucking on his hands/fingers/arms since last week. Any one else?? I assume it’s self soothing or he’s discovering his hands?? He doesn’t take a pacifier though.

Thinking ahead a little to when we transition baby from sleeping in our room to the nursery. Probably a couple months away still, but I have been having some anxiety when thinking about our situation. Our master is on the main level of our home and his nursery is one the second level. Anyone else have a set up like this? I know stairs in the middle of the night will probably be annoying. Is this an ok arrangement? I know lots of homes now are set up like ours with the master bedroom on the main level and other bedrooms upstairs.

I started getting muscle aches fatigue and chills today. Took my temperature and it’s 101.2 I have no idea how I get sick bc I barely leave the house. We only had my parents and MIL on Thanksgiving. I’m so worried my baby is gonna catch whatever I have.

Please send me positive stories of when you got sick with a newborn and they were ok/didn’t catch it. Calling my doctor and her doctor tomorrow morning.

Hi all -

I gave birth to a 10 lb baby boy 2.5 weeks ago. We had an interesting start as he had retained some fetal fluid in his lungs and had to be kept in the special care nursery for about a week after he was born. He was on high flow oxygen for most of that time and so was fed through a feeding tube (donor milk at first while mine came in, then mine once I started pumping and producing).

Now that we are home, I’m still pumping 1-2 times a day to have some on hand for bottles as needed, but I’m mostly breastfeeding him. He has been cluster feeding quite a bit with almost constant feeds between 6:00 and 9:00 pm, but has gained a lot of weight so I know my milk is transferring. (He was 9 lbs 12.5 oz last Wednesday and today at his 2 week appointment he was 10 lbs 11 oz.)

However, whenever we give him a bottle lately, he always seems to need to nurse right after and will usually do a full nursing session. We give him 15-20 minutes before we give in to make sure he registers he’s eaten, but he’s still fussy until I nurse him.

We had been feeding him 4 oz but the lactation consultant we saw said that’s way too much and bottle fed babies typically don’t know when they’re full while they’re drinking. We moved it down to 3, but have still given him an extra ounce when he gets fussy and he still wants to nurse after.

Any idea why this happening? Thanks!

I know what the recommendations are, but when did you all transition your baby from sleeping in your room in the bassinet to sleeping in their own room in a crib? We are still awhile away from transitioning, but just curious.

I think we are on the road to switching our baby from breast milk to formula. For anyone else that has done this, did your baby experience any stomach issues when you made the switch? How gradually did you introduce the formula?

My baby has decided 2am is his bedtime.

Our LO is 7 weeks old and when he was born he was a bit jaundiced and slept almost around the clock and would just wake up for feeds. This started a bit of a routine for him where he would like to sleep in until noon. Eventually his wake windows got longer and his bedtime got pushed back more and more as he was likely still not tired enough having woken up so late in the day.

Fast forward to today, it feels like no matter what time we start his bedtime routine (bath, nappy, pajamas, white noise, feed), he doesn’t show any remote desire to sleep until 1:30-2am. He REALLY fights sleep, and it doesn’t matter if we start the routine at 8pm, 10pm or 12am. He does not sleep. Often he is overtired and starts fussing nonstop. Other times he just looks alert and ready to play. We do everything we do to settle him that works for when he takes naps (swaddle, sway, shush, pacifier), which totally works for naps during the day but has literally no bearing at night. In fact he’ll often wriggle to try to get out of arms and cry nonstop.

I feel horrible that we’re letting him stay away for this long but it’s been weeks now and we’re worried he’s just decided that 2am is his bedtime. What can I do to slowly start bringing this down without waking him up early cold turkey? He’s extremely sleepy before 11am and will often fall asleep nursing. Also NAPS - his last nap of the day I think is resetting him. I try not to let him sleep past 8pm (yes that’s late, but again - kiddo sleeps in until noon), but should I just cut it out entirely?

My son just turned 4 months old TODAY! For the past week he’s been staring at me while I eat, I hold him while i eat because he just can’t get enough of being held and he watches the fork/spoon while I eat and sometimes tries reaching for it! Today I was eating a handheld burrito and he smashed his hand into it while I was putting it away from my mouth!! I wonder if he’s thinking what the heck I’m doing!!

Please tell me anything. Encouragement, motivation, advice I just need to hear something. I am so exhausted and I am alone because my husband is gone for like five more months.

My baby is 3 weeks old today. It’s 5pm. She’s been nursing almost the entire time since 12pm.

And last night, I only got 3 hours sleep because I accidentally fell asleep holding her and have been unable to nap all day.

Anyway, I usually pump between feeds but I haven’t today because there has been no in-between feeds. I’m just switching boobs every 15-20 minutes.

She was wide awake from 12-3 so it was impossible to sneak away

But for the last 2 hours she’s dozed off. She continues to actively feed at each switch for a little before sleeping again.

Anytime I try to end the cycle by unlatching her or moving her, she gets upset so I have to keep going.

Even if she pulled off herself, it’s not long before she realizes what she did.

I can’t move at all. I can’t lay down to nap because the sooner I cause her to wake up, the sooner she will go back to the breast.

Edit: Thanks a lot everybody! I didn’t know how much I needed to be reassured this is normal. I guess I was in a bit of distress also because I wasn’t sure if I should be doing something differently or if something was wrong.

Does anyone know the best things I can do to be proactive to set up my 1 week old newborn son up for success in life?

What are some great reading material? YouTube videos or YouTubers geared towards new fathers? I love being as prepared as possible. Any tips or tricks that you found best to assist in raising a little one ? I’m a first time parent and my wife is too.

Thank you in advance and I am grateful for this little baby blessing in my life haha it’s been life changing.

Hi all! I'm a soon to be parent.. well... I'm early in my pregnancy, but I'm a big planner haha. One thing I think about a lot is, what are we going to do for childcare?

What we get: I get 3-4 months PTO from work. My job has an open PTO policy so I need to figure out exactly what that will be, but that's based on what other people have gotten. My partner gets, I believe... 6 weeks off work? For paternity. I think. We need to confirm. lol.

But then what? I'm trying to decide what is the best thing to do here. We have money in savings, we've been stashing it away for... whatever. It's unlikely we'll buy anytime soon as the average home near us costs around a million dollars (💀 sadly we love where we live, city living is wonderful, but owning is just unlikely) so we're trying to decide if we should use that money to support me taking a part-time schedule from work, or taking more time off with my LO.

Some more context - I'm older, at 36 years old, and we only want one child. I want this to be really special and I want to spend as much time as makes sense with my baby during the most formative, important ages of their life! I do want to do daycare because socialization with other children, learning how to be in school, get along, etc is very important to me... but I'm trying to find the right balance of what makes sense for us. We also don't know like... any parents, so we have nobody to model off of. Thus why I am on reddit. Lmao.

So anyway, what do you do? Any advice is welcome!

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Hey first time mom, can i add mylicon drops to the formula bottle? I am afraid to give it directly to my son