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Hi, I've been thinking for a while that i might have a chance of having ADHD. I need some help and I'll be asking questions for this, before that I'll tell you guys about myself a little!

So I'm 15 this year, I'm a girl. Thought that might be important for this. I have a ton of interests, currently it's this one specific character in DC and before this was Sonic the hedgehog, kind of mostly because of the new movie hat came out.

So basically i wanted to ask if i might be overreacting. My family all seem to think that, and i do too but i felt that it's better to check anyways since i don't want it, be it IF i have it, to interfere with school because well....i think my mom cares a lot about school yk?

I'm so sorry, I'm actually not entirely sure what to say in this, they just kind of disappeared in my head. My bad! I'll maybe list a couple of things i think could correlate to ADHD itself.

•Forgetful. I think I'm pretty forgetful, even my friends think so. I forget about homeworks, i forget what we learned in class, i forget to bring things, i forget to also log in on a game i play, i forget my simple passwords sometimes too. (This is the i think...3rd day? Since i started texting this out? I both forgot about this and delayed it, again, like i always do)

•Impulsive. I'm not entirely sure on this one but my one of my sister seems to think so. I do recall this one time i accidentally blurted out repeating something someone said mockingly, i genuinely did not mean to do that out loud at all. When it comes to buying things, usually back then i would order so much for whatever reason...no clue.

•Delay. I delay doing a lot of stuff be it homework, studying, brushing my teeth (I'll say, this one is really hard to do when I'm not anticipating going out the next day), doing anything my family asked me to, even my friends sometimes. For homework, if i do remember it, i wouldn't do it at home. Sometimes i do but this year it pretty much got worse than it already was back in form 1, i would do them at school instead. This behaviour didn't come just during form 1, i think it traces back way more, mostly during covid quarantine lockdown. But after the lockdown, it was still kind of there i think, can't tell can't remember. Sorry.

•Attention. I don't think i really pay attention in class, especially if I don't like the subject. I'm not entirely sure on this one either since well, i can't remember but some of my friends seem to think so. I recall that during science i didn't pay attention, if i did I didn't remember or even register what was taught. I know i keep my eye on the teacher 9 times out of 10 but it's just that i don't think i truly did pay attention to what was said. This sucks for science, math and history. I did fine in english and rbt.

•mood swings. Pretty sure I'm very easily irritated, lot of my friends agree because i take it out on them the most. Now, usually i raise my voice yelling but the next second i do indeed regret it but I'm too embarrassed to ecen apologies. Pretty sucky I'll say.

•Disorganized. My desk at school sometimes get pretty messy because i just leave my books there to the last subject if the teacher didn't say to clear the table. My books! Are the absolute worst actually. They're so messy at home. If i were to live alone, my house would most definitely be really messy.

•Loses stuff. This is much much known for at school ha! I just suddenly lose my school supplies somehow, it's like it's there one second then the next it's gone?? This usually happens with my eraser, other stuff go missing too. I borrow my friend's supplies a lot when they do go missing, and i would do so for days because either i would forget to take new ones at home or i would be like ehhh I'll do it tomorrow.

•distractibility. Again, I'm not entirely sure on this one but some of my friends seem to think so, i do too but yk...doubts since i can't remember things. That's the big problem i can't remember things! But if it happened like 5 years ago i can for some reason??? It's so annoying

•talkative. I'll say, I'm pretty talkative, even my friends think so. I talk a lot. I talk in class, when you're supposed to do work. A ton more times. I like talking, which is why school breaks are usually so sucky for me. I can't go out meet my friends, meaning i can't socialise with other people in person so i spend a lot of time on my phone, this usually even gets me to post a ton of status and stories for some reason.

•interest. Personally i think that i would get pretty into things, right now it's Bart Allen (it's kinda bad but manageable) before that it was Sonic, which kind of got amplified becuase of the new movie. It's not too bad, it's manageable, but it is embarrassing because i talk too much on them..in public stories too! I think about them, probably all day. Anything that would relate to it even remotely i would call out on it, shop called Barry? Barry Allen! Red black shirt? Shadow! It's kinda stupid, I'm embarrassed about it.

These are just a couple of things i could think of at the moment and it's been 3 days since i started this thing anyways. I'm finishing it off like this because turns out, tomorrow I'm going to a clinic? I think? Maybe HTAR because i sent my dad something on it. It's sort of too much to get into because i would most definitely get sidetracked so, i won't mention much on that. But I'm pretty panicky right now, what am i supposed to do? Tomorrow is supposed to only be for you know, scheduling an appointment but I'm actually pretty scared for even that. Am i overracting? There's much more stuff but like i said, i don't remember what I'm supposed to talk about so i can't say everything here, not right now atleast. I'm scared that I'm just secretly trying to find an excuse for being an idiot at school and lazy. I want to DO things, I'm even interested but I just can't for some reason and that's frustrating, but could it simply just be because I'm lazy? I'm sorry if that list isn't helpful on making an opinion, i don't think I'm good at remembering things abotu myself and observing myself. I'm also sorry if it's so messy looking and hard to read. Thank you for reading this though! To whoever did so!

Currently on med but i dont think it really helps. Sometimes i just want to langgar something on my way to work so i can escape all these things. (I laughed about this in front of my dr so maybe she thought i was joking). I really dont know if i can control myself anymore. I dont want to end up in hell though (am quite religous). I cannot do this anymore. I cant.

Hi, I'm just going to ramble here that hopefully someone can listen and comment (or not) on what I should do with my life.

I (29f) have been working in a great game company and I work as a game programmer there for three years that now I may have shot myself in the foot because I thought the work I do was understandable until now. I couldn't grasp what needed to be solve with this project and I had a mental breakdown. I told my bosses I couldn't do programming anymore and that I felt incompetent and they instead will put me in graphic design department since I told them way back that I do art as a hobby and that I should give a try after this holiday. Now that sounds fine and dandy but my head still filled with anxiety and depression, thinking I should resign, take a break, go to therapy and career switch to something else that accommodate my depression and anxiety. I still love to code but I want to find a career related that doesn't bring me to a mental breakdown. Otherwise, I'm thinking of going to therapy while working but I want to take in weekends. If so where can I find one that's near to the train station?

Sorry for the ramble, I'm just tired and I want to live normally but my incompetence and the depression and anxiety is ruining my life.

Hi everyone, posted a few times on here before. Just wanted to talk about the current state of my agoraphobia + anxiety and experiences with local clinics.

To start off, been going to PPUM Psychiatry for almost 3 years now for my condition. First was prescribed Cymbalta 30, 60, 90mg then prescribed Vortioxetine 10mg then 20mg currently. Switch in medication was due to the pharmacy not having 90mg tablets so they were giving out 60mg + 30mg which is basically charging me twice for a single dose supposedly. Other than that, the price of subsequent visits to see doctors are increasing to RM50 starting this year.

Meeting doctors does take a bit of time as there are a lot of psychiatric patients surprisingly. But the meeting doesn’t usually last long, they would ask how I feel on x amount of drug and they would ask how much difference does it make. Other than that it’s just a quick chat basically to up my dose to prescribe me more medicine.

The main point of this is, for three years I’ve been doing what I’m supposed to do to cure or at least get better. But, the result is the same. It would be easier to name what I have not tried than what I have tried, because there is nothing that I’ve not tried. Exercising, sleeping early, meeting friends, going out, facing the fear, reading books about panic, I go as far as prepping my own meals to ensure I’m not eating junk food etc.

With all that done and fast forward to today, I still can’t live, not enjoy but simply live my life. My anxiety/panic/flight or flight mode skyrockets every time I just get asked to sit in someone else’s car. Same goes to social activities such as eating at a restaurant or even going to the grocery store where I would start feeling light headed. Additionally, in places where it’s crowded and I have to be there for a function or so, I will physically have the urge to immediately leave with my heart pounding out of my chest and nausea kicking in while my legs start to shake and head gets dizzy.

After following strict medications, timely doctor visits, bunch of reading and practicing to let the panic wash over me I could confidently say without a doubt nothing works. The only silver bullet to this problem is a benzodiazepine which would knock me out in half an hour or so and make me forget what happened. It doesn’t even help me not get anxious or panicky. I just get extremely sleepy and fall asleep.

I want to live life and face normal problems, getting shouted at by superiors, see the office view from 50 levels up, have a quick dinner with friends in which they could pick me up and we could have a laugh together on the way there, make new memories, do boring life stuff etc.

For these few years I’ve accepted that I have this condition and I tirelessly without giving up, have researched and practiced what others have said helped cure themselves. But for me, my brain just has its own way. It’s sorrowful that me as a person have reached this stage due to an invisible prison from within. I will never be able to contribute to society or life in meaningful ways or even try to. I’m just a person that stagnant and will stay stagnant for my entire lifespan I guess.

TLDR: I’ve accepted as a mid 20’s human being that my potential in life and all the experience I will ever have has passed me due to agoraphobia which took my life to a something that could’ve been.

I've been going to a government hospital for psychiatry appointment, but the appointments take forever between visits. On top of that, they seem more inclined to prescribe me anxiety meds . When I ask the possibility of ADHD meds all they said was let's fix the anxiety first and then they just continue my anxiety meds. But the appointments just take so long between visits and my ADHD symptoms just kept getting worse.

I'm wondering if it would be a good idea to get diagnosed and start ADHD meds at a private clinic first, then later continue the treatment through the government hospital. Has anyone done this before? How easy is it to switch over? Would it even help with the long wait times?

Any advice or personal experiences would be really appreciated!

Hi.

I have bone to pick.

ADHD ni...betul really disease anot? I'm on the fence. I was diagnosed. I memang all over the place, just cannot concentrate in fact 100% stopped performing in school at standard 4 ke 5 somewhere there.

All this while I called myself stupid k.

Long story short, struggled a lot. Mentally not stable, depression for a long time also. Attempted suicide, started seeing psychiatrist at HKL post suicide after discharge (was seeing one private before attempt but I guess I sought help too late) bottled up too much for decades.

Aaaanyways...Was on Ritalin for a few months. Went from 1 pill 3x a day every 3-4 hours a day to 1.5/1.5/1 pill for the same 3-4 hours a day (half pill increase for first two doses) because apparently I needed more.

I don't feel much different but others notice that I'm much less irritable and more calm, far less cranky and can wake up better (so not a morning person!) but the morning thing only lasted a while then back to zombie mode.

Question being, How can you really gage between plain lazy/dysfunctional and ADHD? Honest question tho? Don't marah k. I cry! I could just be asking it in a wrong way. It's 2.36AM I'm supposed to be sleeping but I'm here with an active brain wondering why lately this thread so many ADHD posts.

Ok brain spiraling. I await your nice reply. Yawns

Goonait!

1 sheep, 2 sheep, cow turtle duck...

HEY MACARENA!

(I take no credit, some might already recognize this meme from ADHD threads)

I am the type of daughter who is rarely at home because I worked and studied far away from home since I was 10 years old. Now, this is the longest time I’ve been staying at home because I am currently jobless. My dad compared me to my sister, saying that when she’s at home, she likes to cook and tidy up. I agree with him, but it still hurts to feel compared. I admit there are moments when I wake up late or don’t cook, though I do cook sometimes and have even been learning to improve.

I feel quite sad and hope to get a job far away from here soon. Am I really a bad daughter? It has only been two months since I’ve been home, and I feel guilty for not being more helpful. If anyone has experienced something like this before, how did you cope with it?

Im at a state where im anxiety and that i wanna try and make friends who i cna relate with you know?

When your in this state, you are really in need of friends,

Like people who i can chat with

Recently I've been wanting to change my behaviours and attitude towards my friend and family. I've been battling with anger issues and manic episodes and it's effecting everyone I love. I want to change for the better. I'm coming here to ask for recommendations for any good clinics in Subang area, and something that is cheap/aforable within student pricing. All help is welcomed!!!

just venting so it’s ok if no one replies ! !

im 17, turning 18 in less than 2 weeks. i dont know what to do, i know nothing is going to change bc it’s just another number, it’s just i’ll be ‘officially a legal adult’. That’s all to it. But i really didnt expect to go on this long. And i have no idea what to do, i turn 18, then what? it feels like i should know where my life would lead at this age. but i dont. i am engaging more and more into self destructive behaviours, im a dropout, im unemployed, i dont have a license, i dont know anything. But im expected to know what to do? By myself? With no one?

Ive tried to be matured, more independent. all my entire life. but now that im faced with total freedom. i dont know what to do ? i feel like a child ? while everyone is moving forward ive been moving backwards? and ive been chasing after temporary goals that’ll give temporary satisfaction. bc i honestly cannot envision my future, i cant think, about it. turning 19? 20? it all seems so hard to reach but i know another year is going to pass by in a blink of an eye just like the past 4 years and i’ll still be wasting away and stuck in the past.

where do i move on from here? how do i even get ny life back together. and how do i do it by myself. no one will come to save me and i need to accept that reality, i need to accept a lot of things. im trying, but yet i dont know how im ever going to manage or move on. everyone is telling me their plans for the future, and i know theyre struggling as well but they have a path to move to. they have an idea. but what about me? i feel like ive already died and im just a ghost on earth. i know now is not forever, but i cant expect things to suddenly change when im not doing anything. bc i AM doing nothing. except wallowing in my own misery and escaping from the realities.

Hi all, so I've recently gotten diagnosed with both Austim and ADHD.

My question would be of it's worth applying for an OKU card? I've read the past threads here, but I'm still unsure, especially since one comment said that people can find your OKU status using your IC??

Main reason for applying would be to hopefully get subsidised ADHD meds as I'm under AKPK and I haven't gone to get my meds tho I have a referral letter already.

hi everyone, i'm just wondering if anyone have gone through ugly withdrawal symptoms? like i noticed that i feel feverish (without high temperature), constant fatigue, major sadness/depressive episodes, anger, suicidal, and confused... it is affecting my work and i am so tired of all of these. i feel like giving up ☹️

note: i told my doctor that i wanted to stop taking effexor because i feel like i have reached a plateau state, macam tak boleh nak go anywhere dah

have mdd. been like this for months. recently went to the gov assigned dr and she made no changes to my medication despite no improvements, basically just shamed me for my increased sh the whole time. my next appointment is 3 months away and my suicidal thoughts are getting more prevalent. idk if i should go there and ask for a dr before my appointment or stick it out until april.

therapy was suggested, and im thinking abt it. she suggested jiwa damai but im worried cus i mainly speak eng. ive tried my college counselling, didnt work. priv therapy is too exp imo.

i have a prescription from HKL to purchase Ritalin at any private pharmacy, and I'm wondering if people who are not patients of a hospital can buy ritalin from that hospital's pharmacy? if so, which hospitals?

reason i want to know is because my company's medical benefits allows me to claim expenses on my medication, but only if it's from a clinic or hospital.

i have called to enquire thomson hospital and assunta hospital, both require me to see a doctor from their hospital to get their prescription, i don't want to pay that fee, just want to get my prescription filled.

First, I just want to apologize for the long post. I want to share my background before going into my concerns, mostly because I feel like no one ever talks about Trichotillomania. If it is too much to read, you may skip to the bottom “Here’s the thing:” part.

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I have had Trichotillomania (trich) ever since I was 8. I just suddenly enjoyed pulling the hair on my head until I would “snap out” of it and realize there a collection of hair on the ground.

There was no symptoms, no signs, I just suddenly started doing it. My parents took me to a child psychologist and it didn’t work. They couldn’t understand why I am doing this and berated me every time they caught me pulling ever since, even tried to discipline me out of it with rules and punishment as if I did it on purpose. This kept up all the way until I started university, where they figured I’m getting too old to be lectured/disciplined. Honestly, it ruined my self-esteem and I think I’ve developed depression throughout those years.

Life got better after meeting some good people in my uni days and I came to accept this isn’t my fault, eventually found out it’s called “Trichotillomania”. Even so, I’ve NEVER felt safe enough to tell anyone outside my family about this. Not my closest friend, not my partner. I think they’ve seen me do it but never wanted to pry unless I’m comfortable enough to tell.

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Here’s the thing:

• It just happened, there was no sign. I don’t know what the root cause is. I came from a happy and well-loved environment especially when I was dumb happy 8yo. It JUST happened and never left
• I’ve always felt something is wrong with me since I was a child, I would have difficulty focusing on a task and is always slow to understand the logic of some “common sense” than other kids. I was branded the "blur kid"
• I also developed procrastination problem and the more I procrastinate the more it stresses me out and then I start pulling. It’s like I am stuck in a zone and it’s hard to snap out of it
• I know I have a certain degree of OCD because my pulling is very particular - I want to rid the odd hair I find that are “different” from the others. I then get locked into pulling trying to find more odd hairs in the mirror and can’t get out of it

I would like to seek proper diagnosis to fix this, or at least help myself understand myself. I want to see a psychiatrist and get medication if it helps. I am done with counseling and psychologist with their wellbeing exercises. I’ve tried it, it doesn’t work. I want to know what is wrong with me or my brain.

Is there anyone in Malaysia also suffering from Trichotillomania? If yes, could you share your experience and recovery (if you are pull free)?
Or anyone who had gotten medically diagnosed for either ADHD/OCD as an adult? If yes, where and who do you recommend seeing that felt like “it worked” for you? I am worried of seeing one who doesn’t take me seriously enough to do an assessment on me.

Thank you in advanced and again, sorry for the long post.

I was diagnosed back in 2022 in Hospital Shah Alam for adult ADHD. Due to several factors, I eventually stopped going in late 2022. So it has been 3 years since I last went there.

My question is, how do I go back to Hospital Shah Alam to get the referral letter? Can I just walk in?

Or do I have to set an appointment with Klinik Kesihatan Shah Alam using MySejahtera first, talk to the doctor and ask them to issue me an appointment with Hospital Shah Alam? Then at Hospital Shah Alam, ask the doctor for my medical record and a referral letter to a closer hospital?

Maybe it sounds stupid, idk. But I did the online DASS test on the MENTARI website and applied for an appointment. I'm also a fresh grad starting my first job next month and I was just wondering for those of you who are working, how do you go to your appointments if it's on a weekday?

My anxiety is bad and right now, I'm so scared that if I get a call to set an appointment, it's gonna be in the first month of my new job. Then my boss will think that I'm incompetent for already taking an MC on the first month of work. Then I won't pass my probation. Then I will be let go and have to find a job again and cry myself to sleep with the uncertainty and anxiety.

Thank you for replying and being kind and understanding.

hi all, just got my prescription for ritalin from HKL, and they do not have ritalin in their pharmacies since they reserve it for children. i have just called 6 pharmacies within 2km of me and none of them have ritalin, healthlane just informed me that they do not carry specialist medication as they do not have a "safe", so I'm now guessing it's some kind of regulation for pharmacies.

please share where i can get ritalin within PJ area, like SS2, Kelana Jaya, Damansara etc. thanks!

hi everyone! i am diagnosed with anxiety and adhd at alaminda (under selangorku subsidy) and i switched to ppum/ummc since the subsidiy habis already. but a few weeks back i just discovered from here that some of you have been going to mentari/other gov hospital and the total price (consultation + meds price) is waaaay cheaper.

i am thinking about switching to hkl/mentari since the receptionist said that the consultation fee will be increased from rm15 to rm50. and also i have learned that the meds price at ppum is more expensive compared to other gov hosp/mentari, and i have stopped taking concerta since it costs too much :/

so can i know:

1. if hkl or mentari a good place to switch and continue my treatment there?
2. what is the meds price there? a pop of concerta 54mg costs me rm15.20 and brintellix is costing me rm5-ish.

thank you everyone! :)

Hey guys

I believe i have NPD.. My ex told me this, and she left me..

She was right.. i dont deserve to be happy, i dont deserve to be loved..

I always do things for her, all i want was her love.. but it seems, i will never get anything i wish for

I was thinking, to pray to god, to take my life faster..

I dont deserve to live, as i think, NPD will abuse people

feeling like i’m being pushed to the edge and sometimes i feel like ending it all right after i clock in but i don’t want to surprise my boss with a “crime scene” at work

Hi i just got diagnosed with depression and anxiety from klinik kesihatan. I went there alone, but i don’t know how to say this. I want to tell my parents but i don’t want them to think that this is their fault. Meaning to say that i became like this cause of them or something like that.

Im also scared that they might not understand what am i experiencing right now as me myself don’t really understand it well. They’re a bit skeptic too haha but i don’t know if i should tell them or not?

Hello! I'm 23F and for a few years I've been suspecting that I dual-wield ASD and ADHD, need recommendations on where to have both diagnosis done in KL.

I've always considered myself undiagnosed but 'peer-reviewed'. My therapist back in Uni, who helped me get a diagnosis after sending me to a psychiatrist for my GAD, did mention that I potentially have both. My friends around me that do already have a diagnosis are also encouraging me to get one because there's clearly similarities between all of us.

My goal, if it helps, is not getting medication but rather I just want answers and to know what are my options before even considering the druggies. I don't think I'd want to go down the gov route, because I'm not too keen on waiting for weeks or months.

I've heard good things about Pantai Hospital, and my GP recommended Dr. Seed at Kepong but I'd like to hear more options and experiences there if anyone is comfortable to. Thanks in advance!

edit: typo!

If so where i could find it since i may cant go in physically

Hello there! I am new in Malaysia and another r referred me here. Any recommendation where to go to get ADD/ADHD/OCD test in Kuala Lumpur or Malacca? I found AloeMind but it’s expensive.

hi all, im a sgean stuck in jb for the foreseeable future due to some family commitments. not sure when i can go back but my ritalin is running low. does anyone have any idea where in jb i can see a psychiatrist without breaking my bank...... and any pharmacies that stock up on ritalin for a decent price too for foreigners.....

I don't know why, but every day, my mental breakdowns are different, some days I'll just stare onto the ceiling or the wall, some other days I'll ride my motorcycle as if I'm immortal, sometimes I don't even know what I did because I went autopilot mode, and sometimes, which I've noticed started quite recently, I laughed the whole evening uncontrollably, just like yesterday after my practical test at one of my labs. I couldn't cry anymore. Is this normal? What should I do? I've been coping the things I have deal with irl with many ways which unfortunately isn't a healthy of way of coping, including but not limited to hours browsing though Reddit, watching p#rn, and more. What should I do? My time is occupied with my FYP, assignments, tests, and more. I don't know what to do.