I am feeling stuck. Please don't judge I am 32 years old living with my mom sister and stepdad. I'm wanting to move out cause I'm tired of living with my parents at this point. I can't stand it here. I'm longing for some kind of freedom at this point. My kids are very young and we can't afford daycare so I can go to work. I've decided to do online classes but once I get the degree, I won't be able to work asap. I'll have to wait to long cause there's no where to put them while I'm at work every day. I've probably had 3 jobs in my life time. I'm wanting to be on my own so badly but don't have much money saved up. I'm wanting to do something about that but feel stuck at home with the kids. I hate to say "stuck" but that's honestly how I'm feeling. If you're wondering about my husband we just divorced due to him being abusive.

I need advice I am planning to work and save my money so I can move far away when I’m 18

My goal is to move to a different country when I’m 18.

Im planning on moving out with my boyfriend by the end of feb he already moved into our new place , I've been living with my mom the past 4 months helping her out with my 10 yr old sister, while living here she doesn't allow me to get a job but holds it over my head that im living here rent free,i do all the house work to make up for it i do all the cooking exc... but i just get the short end of the stick with her. i have savings and really want to get a job when i move out im focusing on my college rn, my situation here is just very controlling and i want to be nice enough to give my mom a heads up about mw moving but i dont want to have things end badly where we have a falling out,like it happened when i moved out the first time, what do i do....

I make $32 an hour doing remote IT work in California. I have doubled my salary over 4 years and still find it impossible to leave home. I’m 32, I almost moved out with my ex 4 years ago when I was making $17 an hour. Even that felt impossible sharing a one bedroom. I’ve done the math and if I moved out paying the average for a one bedroom I’d only have around $300 left over after bills and pinching Pennies for food. The average one bedroom is $2400 in my area, I take home $3200 a month after taxes.

I’ve gone through studying phases for IT and have grinded my way up to where I’m at now. I work for a great company and I don’t want to leave, there are no open positions that pay higher. I’m going to be studying for my real estate license to see if I can make an extra $20,000-$40000 or so a year.

I’m just frustrated and feel like California isn’t possible without working two jobs. I don’t want to leave and my job isn’t a low skilled job I don’t understand how I cannot support myself with one job here. I’ve been pondering moving to Texas where a one bedroom is $1200, that alone scares me given I do not know anybody there and all my family is here.

Edit: I also day trade while I work and I’ve been trying to make that work for 3 years now. This month will be my first profitable month in half a year.

Hello,

I know that I am little older than most people moving out for the first time. I am currently in Miami, FL and working mostly from home with the exception of 1 day in the office. I live at home right now but we recently sold our townhome and now I am living in a one bedroom apartment but I am in the living room. I have money saved up and looking to find an apartment but the Cost of Living in South Florida has gone up dramatically in the past 5 years. I believe I read something that has South Florida has the highest rental cost in the US based off income. I make about 50k a year but I don't think that's enough to make it work on my own.

As of right now, I have about $12,000 saved and looking to move out by April 1st, just to have some extra funds for emergency purposes and what not. I am at a point in my life where I just need peace and tranquility, I really don't want to entertain the idea of rooming with someone else as I have lived at home my life and I just want to be peaceful in my own space without anyone else's energy involved.

I have an idea to ask my job if I can WFH all 5 days and live in a different state, not sure where yet but nothing with crazy rental prices. My 2nd option if that does not pan out would be to find something in Fort Lauderdale but I wouldn't be too thrilled about it since I am kind of tired of Florida and how it has become. This place does not feel like home anymore, it's become New York 2.0

I just wanted to know if anyone has some insight or thoughts about this.

I’m really struggling mentally due to work.

Every job I’ve had, whether easy or difficult, has completely drained me and taken a serious toll on my mental health. I find working an eight-hour shift incredibly challenging. All my jobs have been on zero-hour contracts, and while I tried to take on as many shifts as possible, I often had to cancel because my mental health made it impossible. It also affects me physically—everything feels overwhelmingly heavy.

I’m in a situation where I have to move out of my family home due to a lack of space. My original plan was to get a mortgage while I’m young so I could pay it off over time, but I’ve heard that mortgages usually require a full-time job. The problem is, I don’t think I can handle full-time work.

I struggle with anxiety, depression, panic attacks, and a weak immune system that causes me to get sick frequently. If I were to get a full-time job, I fear I’d lose it quickly. I also have difficulty understanding social cues and often feel misunderstood, which sometimes leads to people disliking me. My anxiety further limits the types of jobs I feel capable of handling, ruling out most retail and customer service roles.

So, my question is: How have others in a similar situation managed to move out or even get a mortgage without full-time work (if that’s possible)? And what kinds of jobs have people found that don’t cause this level of struggle?

how do you get over the idea of not being able to see ur parents for long periods of time? everytime i think about it i get really sad and just miss them. i know it sounds childish but its my first time truly being apart from them. idk how to just grow up without always running to them for love and support. and i don’t want to see them age as our time apart lengthens. its really just been bothering me a lot lately.

Hey y’all! I am in my last semester of college and was curious if anyone had any big city recommendations to move to. Currently, I reside in the Midwest. My current thought was to look for jobs in Chicago and or Denver. I got to enjoy Chicago through my brother living there. But, I don’t want to entirely follow in his footsteps. Denver is another place I was looking at. I visited there over 7 years ago but loved the city.

My preferences: I love the outdoors and nature. I love sightseeing and being able to hike with others. I also do prefer bigger cities.

Overall, I want a new city I can start fresh in. Make new friends and meet exciting and likeminded people as me.

Any recs would be greatly appreciated!

I've been stuck with either mom or dad for too long lol. Dealing with constant cigarette smoke, rowdy drinkers, a crazy dysfunctional upbringing, having to financially support my father and I (although I'm more than happy to help him after he's raised me), no more doing things on everyone else's time and schedule, listening to everyone else's music and doing what everyone else except me wants to do. Nope no more of that. WE'RE OUTTA HERE! Lol.

I may only make 20,000 a year as a teller and I may have a relatively empty apartment in the beginning, but I'm excited and ready. Will be without a vehicle for the first year as well but will make do. I move in here in a few days. I would've got a vehicle first but I couldn't afford to keep paying all my dad's bills and he may have to move in with other family until he can get on his feet again. As for me I'm extremely more than grateful I have this opportunity.

Any advice is welcome and much appreciated thanks for reading 😎🤘

Hi, 26 yo here. I am a resident doctor in a hard specialty. I dedicated almost my entire life to study. I took the residency exam last year and I want to make the big step to move out from my parents' house. I didn't make this move yet since I want to be more or less financially stable so I could be independent since I don't want to ask my parents for money.

I approach this subject almost daily around my mother (she is married to a man who isn't my father, but he lives in the same house with us), since I want to move out from my parents' house, because that would be closer to my points of interest in the city. We have an apartment (left by my grandparents) which is plenty of old stuff, but definitely ok to live in. I just need to clean it and make some renovation.

She keeps telling me all sort of bullshit (that sounds to me like avoiding behavior, like she comes up with excuses). For example, she keeps speaking about how she wants to renovate the attic in our house that we currently live in (so I would have my place), that there is old stuff that would make me embarrassed (in the old apartment), that she would buy me a studio/little apartment that is new (let's be honest, these are very bad times to rent or make any sort of such an investment).

Moreover, my current income isn't enough to rent an apartment. On the other hand, she started asking me whenever I buy something if I'll give her money back (I always give her the money back). And she keeps saying that I should move out.

What is your honest opinion on this? I must mention that otherwise we behave good and have a close relationship but I feel left out.

i’m about to get my first apartment with my partner and i’ve made a list of things i need for when i move but i was wondering if anyone can also give me a list incase ive missed anything? im so paranoid i’ll forget the most important thing and i want this move to be as smooth as possible lol. thanks in advance!

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I’m soon to be medically retired from the military and set to move to the Savannah, GA area. My wife and I had to make certain financial sacrifices to provide for our kid and it doesn’t help that base housing take all your BAH.

The problem is our credit is complete crap and have no idea what to do for housing. Everyone does credit checks and given our current credit no one will likely accept us. I have a guaranteed job upon my retirement and have 100% from the VA. And yes we are working on building our credit back up, but it likely won’t be high enough come the time we need to move.

I guess my question is, what options do we have?

i, F21, was wondering what can i expect to be responsible for when i do move out? i dont wanna go into it blindly but im just worried im forgetting certain responsibilities that come with being financially independent. what is something that you realized was a huge part of moving out that you never thought of before? i feel like i could live semi-comfortably with the savings i have but what if i get sick? i wouldn’t be able to even afford rent anymore if i got a hospital bill for a couple thousand. i’m afraid to break free from my parents and carry this responsibility knowing if anything goes wrong it’s on me. but i can feel the burden of being financially dependent on them at my grown age. adulting is hard and feels so overwhelming. any advice on this would be much appreciated.

Hi everyone. I am 20 years old. I am renting an apartment with my dad and sister (All on lease). To make a long story short, my family is toxic and I need to get away from themI don't wanna get into the details). The cheapest thing I can find for rent around here is $800 for a studio. I work about 30 hours a week at a job for $20 an hour. So in order for all of this to make sense I do need to explain a little. I do not own a car. My father has let me use his to go to work and back and has never allowed me to buy my own. I also go to college online and my father takes out loans to pay for my college. (he won't let me take out my own). And I know at first glance this probably all sounds like I'm being crazy but my father is insanely controlling and does not allow me to start taking the steps to be out on my own but then shames me for "not being an adult". I can explain more about that if you'd like but this is beside the point. My credit score is around 600/610. I am paying off my phone and a washer and dryer for everyone to use. My question is what can I do to be able to move out by the end of this lease? It ends in September. TDLR: Family has ties in everything somewhat preventing me from moving on. Need a game plan on how to get out on my own by September.

Is Florida worth it to be homeless?

So I’m thinking of relocating to Florida this April or June!!

I will be homeless, Though. So is it worth it?? I just need one person to tell me that it is and I will do it.

I’m looking into Tampa, Florida right now. I was settled on Jacksonville for the beaches but Tampa does have one small beach + Clearwater beach which I love. I plan to look for a new job while I’m there as I’m losing this one soon.

So should I leave where I am? I feel like I would be 100% happier in Florida as well, Just watching videos on Florida makes me so happy & also makes me want to cry because I just want to be there so badly.

I just want to be in Florida. I need to be. Even if I’m homeless for a while. I miss it there so much. I grew up in Fort Lauderdale.

Wish me luck & Please tell me to do it.

Just a rant but my storage unit I had that held my furniture for my first apartment was broken into...Im worried I won't be able to move out when I wanted to and I need to move soon😩😩

I'm 31F. I live with and have lived with my sister for the past 12 years. It's equal; we split everything. 5 years ago my dad encouraged/pushed "us", my sister, to buy a house. So I technically live in her house, but we split everything. I feel like I'm shooting myself in the foot because for the past 5 years there's no record, truly, of me making housing payments.(we put money in a joint account to pay bills)

I have been itching to move out. I haven't lived on my own as an adult. Except for a few months in college.

I'm on a teacher's salary so around 3k per month, I feel broke.

We both have dogs and I don't want to split them up and she won't keep them. I don't think she'll let me take her dog either.

I'm also a little concerned about how my sister will keep her house if I'm not there to help. She tells me not to worry about it, but I can’t help it.

Financials & fur babies.

This is my situation. Should I stay or should I go?

Is it normal for a Narcissistic mother to sometimes act nicely and the other time like completely different person, the most evil person I ever known? This personality shift of her that it puts me into a delima wheather to leave her or not? Few days ago she was acting maliciously and I wanted to leave home seeing my situation my partner decided to take me in with him within a month now after that day suddenly she is sometimes acting nicely and other time rudely it's a very common routine but every time she at nicely I feel like I could stay a bit longer in this house but the very moment she starts doing the same harassment and mental torture to me I again decide to leave as soon as possible. So people, I want to ask you for giving me a proper solution whether to leave her or not ..Please do reply because your yes leave her or no don't would matter a lot I am in constant dilema to figure out what to do? As my partner is preparing for me to move in with him but my mind if still like how should I leave if she sometimes pretends to be normal.

I moved in with a family friend alongside my dad and I hate it. We only moved in yesterday but I was awoken at 12:30 to them stomping up the stairs and then to them and their girlfriend being quite loud. I have two dogs with me and I have been made responsible for them wherever I go (who also keep barking at the friend because they don’t recognize his voice). Thinking about moving out of state as it would be much cheaper than in state but living in my current state would obviously save me more. I’m only meant to live with my dad for another 7 months before I move out for college but I can’t imagine another 7 months of this. I can take the remaining classes I need online and get a job wherever I go but I’m just wondering if anyone has any tips it advice before I really try anything.

So I decided to wait it out!! I really almost left yesterday, Though. I had the money to book the flight and everything. I ended up making a grocery order to make myself feel better.

Anyway, I decided to wait for April or maybe in August at the latest!! I might just book the flight for June so I can enjoy the summer there even if I’m homeless. I’m torn between Jacksonville & Tampa, But Jacksonville does have the beach. So I’d rather live there you know? Even though Tampa is a little nicer. Just thought I would update you guys.

I’m so ready to leave though. So I will definitely be booking the one way flight SOON. I’m so exited & so ready!!

I will keep you guys updated as it gets closer to June. I really want to be there in the summer when it’s a lot warmer anyway. Since I will possibly be homeless. & I heard it’s a lot colder in Florida right now, Anyways. I plan to look for a job when I’m there as I will be losing this one soon. I will also look for a temporary job while I’m here so I can have a little bit more savings for when I’m ready to leave, Hopefully!!!

Wish me luck. I am so ready to leave.

As the title says I need advice!

I’m 20 and still living with my parents. I’m in my almost 3rd year of uni and I volunteer at a cancer center. I get money(once a month) from the VA to pay for my tuition along with 4 scholarships every year (I have almost 9k saved). My parents are extremely toxic and mentally draining. I’m the oldest and first gen so my parents have no idea how much stress I feel daily. Constantly arguing and being out down by my step dad. Used to be suicidal because of them and when I told my mom her exact words were “I’m sick of you talking about it, if you’re going to kill yourself then do it and shut up.” I stopped self harming then and started living for me. Met a guy and introduced him to my family. They mistreated him. Called him out his name, made jokes about him in front of him, wouldn’t let us hang out alone together, wasn’t allowed to go to his place but he could come to ours, wasn’t allowed to kiss, had to stay within camera view outside and inside, was told I disappointed my parents because I dated him, wasn’t allowed to stay home alone, couldn’t go in the same room together, he had to sleep downstairs and I slept upstairs, made me and him ride in the middle front so they could see us, etc. I realized then that I couldn’t have a real relationship with them in my life. Mind you we had never ever been caught doing anything inappropriate and my parents had no reason to be so harsh to us. I told them I wanted to move out and they said I’ll get pregnant, I’ll go broke and come back, I’ll be alone, they won’t let me take anything, they’ll take my car, they’ll stop paying for everything for me. I pay for my gas as well as my tuition and small items. I did a pros and cons list and the pros outweigh the cons. Should I move out? If so how do I go about it? Do I just pack and leave? I know they’ll hate me more than they already do.

TLDR; I’m 20. Parents are toxic and mentally, physically drain me. I have $9k saved and I pay for my gas and tuition. I also get money from the VA monthly around $2k. I want to move out but parents are against it and are threatening to take everything if I do. Like my car. My belongings. Taking me off insurance etc. full time student and volunteer at a cancer center. Should I leave and if so how do I go about doing so without making them hate me?

Hey! Its a long story, but as soon as I graduate im moving to the midwest into a family-friends place (im being vauge incase someone i know sees this.)

My question is- im moving Via airplane. How should I go about it? I hardly have anything so I was thinking of storage totes zip tied shut? Or suitcases?

Also im 18. What should I grab before i leave. Im imagining birth certificate, social security card. Anyrhing else? Im going no contact.

Sorry for the vauge post. Many thanks!

Hi all, I’m a 24(f) and have been independent living on my own since 18. I have a dead end job that currently pays about 65k/year and I’m graduating with my first degree this year. I live in a medium/small urban area in the Midwest and am considering the possibilities of moving away from home. I’m hoping to get a job in my field once I graduate. I have a decent savings (about 20k), a nice and safe apartment, an okay/good group of friends and family, a cat, a nice car, and overall a good life.

When I moved out at 18 I had very little. 2024 has been the best year for me, I’m happy, grateful, and proud of who I have become. A part of me has always wished I had moved away and really followed my dreams to move somewhere else.

I would want to live somewhere warm, not in a hurricane warning area, with mixed politics, good racial diversity, somewhere that has affordable housing, and overall, just somewhere new and exciting. I want to move and make a new friend group and start over.

My main concerns are that I would putting back my success by years, as I wouldn’t have connections that I do now. I just really want to do something new. Is right now the right time to do it? Should I just chalk it up to needing a vacation and watching too many influencers?

I’ve always imagined myself doing a cross country road trip to visit my top 5-10 places to live, and just taking time to really understand the culture of those places.

My perfect life would be involve it not being -12 for weeks on end. A place where I could have a garden, I could still own a gun for protection, I could walk to town, and people are happy.

I want all opinions and ideas and facts that you have. I want honesty. I want to know if I’m just living on a dream or if I should do it not.

Im looking for a sign.

We’re moving into an older house with these spaces in the wall for older TVs but we have a flat screen. Has anyone ever seen any good DOY solutions for somthing like this?

i want to move out so bad. im not finding peace anywhere :(

HELP. Should I leave tomorrow??

Help. I’m debating if I should actually leave tomorrow for Florida. I’m almost being kicked out anyways for having a full time job. If I leave now, I will lose the job tho. Until they post for that area. Should I wait it out until April or leave tomorrow?? I really need suggestions. I really don’t feel happy here though, and Florida is my happy place. No matter which city it is. I’m looking at Tallahassee, Even though Jacksonville & Miami have the beaches. Or should I just stay on the beach instead?? Please help. By the way, I am over 21.

Also, I can always apply for more jobs.