/r/movingout
Welcome to r/movingout! This is your go-to community for all things related to moving out. Whether you're giving or asking for advice, sharing success stories, or discussing budgeting and planning, we're here to support each other. Join us to make your move smoother and connect with others on the same journey!
A space for people who have recently moved out, or are preparing to move out for the first time.
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I’m planning to move out from Siargao to Another Place just here in PH. where it has a cheap cost of living, pet friendly and good for making a food industry business.
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My partner and I are looking to move out of our parents' houses as soon as financially possible. We're both pretty young, we both have okay jobs, not the best hours or pay, but far from the worst. He's much better at saving than I am, although I'm definitely doing better than before and continuing to try better. I don't have a good home life, so while staying home to save for as long as possible seems ideal, we want to cut that as short as possible while still being smart about it.
We already have some basic responsibilities down (cooking, cleaning, budgeting, getting ourselves around and such.) Right now we're focusing on saving as much as possible and trying to get a good estimate of what it will cost us to live on our own. These are the expenses we've factored in so far:
What are some expenses we might not be thinking of that we should consider before moving forward?
We've also been collecting some stuff we’ve found for a good deal that we'll need when we move out, and listing down other items we'll need to buy when we do have our own place. So far we have:
We've also jotted down (in no particular order of importance) the following items which we will need to buy:
Anything important we're missing?
As far as adult tasks/responsibilities go, we're either totally there or totally clueless. As stated above, we're both able to cook really well, we're able to clean/keep a house clean, do our own laundry, budgeting (at least the groceries) as I do that currently for my family and have a pretty good idea at how to save money by meal planning and prepping, shopping sales/what's in season, not using unnecessary expensive ingredients, and using up stuff you already have. Same goes for clothing/home appliances and such, don't impulse buy, plan, and buy only when needed/can't be fixed, and ideally for a good price/while it's on sale. I also have a credit card that I'm using to try and build good credit, I buy everything with it and always pay it off in time. I'm sure there's more I'm not thinking of, but we're pretty hopeless in terms of:
I'm not even sure what else there is to know before moving out because I never had anyone to teach me these things. Despite always being told by my parents that they're always there to teach me things, if I ever ask about “adulting” things like the above mentioned, I'm told that “I’m an adult and I need to figure that out on my own.” So, where can one learn these basic adult responsibilities? And what else should I know before living on my own?
I see now that this is a long post, most of you may not read it, but any and all help is greatly appreciated! We know moving out now may not be our best bet (and we won't if it's really not going to work well) but this is something we're trying to work towards and we want to be as prepared as possible when it does happen. We'll take any suggestions, advice, tips, and knowledge you're willing to share! Thanks in advance.
If it matters, we live in southern Ontario, Canada.
I will be moving into a partially renovated apartment and finishing the reno while I'm living there..so obviously it wouldn't be 100% cleared yet by inspectors at that point. Are professional movers required to report potentially 'illegal' apartments when they see them?
I put 'illegal' in quotes because this one will be legal, it's just the timing means I'm going to be there before it's 100% finished and would like to avoid unnecessary complications.
I (18 yrs old) and my friend have been friends for years and even dated at one point. Recently she offered to see about me moving in with her and her future roommate a few states away in the spring. Normally I would jump at the opportunity, but I can't help hesitating.
My parents have refused to teach me to drive, so I have to rely on them to get back and forth to work. I barely convinced them to let me get my legal ID when I turned 18 and they rely on me to pay the phone and internet bills. I'm afraid to bring it up to them since
I will need a plane ticket since I can't drive, and
I cannot quit my job because of bills.
I have next to no knowledge about how to be on my own since my parents have refused to help me learn how to be a functioning adult, even less idea how to tell them I have a potential place to go.
I need advice. I need out of this house desperately but I have no way of getting anywhere. I don't know what to do or how to tell them.
Going to be making my VERY FIRST long-distance move from Texas to North Carolina the last week of November. It’s going to quite literally be just myself and my mom during the drive, and unpacking in NC. I don’t really have a whole lot of stuff, and don’t have a bunch of hefty/big furniture, so I know I’ll need probably a medium-ish sized truck to load everything in.
I’ve never made the drive from TX to NC, so to say I’m super nervous is an understatement! Can anyone recommend me a rental truck company? And advice or tips on making this change easier/less stressful?! Any and all tips would be so greatly appreciated!
hello! i am moving out soon, and i am wondering how i can get a job and a paystub in a city 45 mins away before moving out? i have no one to take me to work in a seperate city, i cannot get my license first
im not worried about money or anything as ive already worked out CoL with my roommates and whatnot, just how does this process work?
How do I get someone out your home if they receive mail here? I no longer want to live with them. Please help!! 😩😩
I am currently 24 yo and plan on moving out of my parents house in December with $10k saved. I am looking at apartment complexes and all of them have awful reviews and that terrifies me. My parents are middle class and we always lived in a clean house and nice neighborhood where I felt safe to walk around and my neighbors were nice. I never had to worry about weird neighbors, rat, or roaches. I've visited several apartment complexes and even the show houses had spider webs, the rooms were tiny, and you could tell poeple were smoking. Based on my salary it is the smartest to spend $1400 in rent, but the places seem unsettling and not worth the money not including they are 45 minutes to an hour from the city. Am I just thinking too much?
I am currently a teenager (F17) in high school and I've decided that I want to move out as soon as I graduate. I currently live in Louisiana and would like to relocate to Georgia to be with my long-term boyfriend (m17) but I would like advice on how to go about this. I currently live with my parents and as I've gotten older our morals have grown to differ and our relationship is at strain. I want to be respectful about it but im not waiting for their approval. I just started a job and I've been putting up 50% of everything I earn towards me moving out. I have a plan laid out of how I would like it to go but it will take time as I still have year left before I graduate to get everything in order. I already have a car paid off, I know I will need some kind of housing, a temporary apartment that allows pets as I do have a leopard gecko I would like to bring with me, I also know I will need some form of income as I won't be able to continue with my current job after moving, I know I will need a form of transportation to get there, I have my car but I would prefer not to drive the entire way by myself in case of emergency as I am still young. I could take a plane but I would need an airplane that transports pets however if I did fly I would have to hire some service to bring my car to me. I know I have time and want everything to be prepared for when I graduate so I can leave right away, I would please love any advice on on this subject, anything relating to moving out or any tips that may help me through this?
I'm m21 classical autistic Been going all slrts of abuse lately I'm in my first year of college My friends kindly give me money for help and I have enough money to rent now but I need a remote job as soon as possible so I can move out comfortably I'm also thinking to move out to another city but I'm worried that I should move my college especially mt family members work in campus so I have to hide it
Also planning things was overwhelming me and I feel my brain is empty sometimes I need help in my situation
Hello there people of this subreddit. I, currently 24F but will be 25 when I plan on moving out if things work well if I get this 2nd job but I'm really nervous about it.
My reasons for moving out is common among stories I've heard: parents. My mother is a bit emotionally demanding like she's emotionally dependent on me and my siblings where she constantly needs someone with her & to have someone do something for her and it's wearing down me and my siblings, 18F & 15M and my sister's girlfriend. My mother has some mental health issues, that can be resolved but she's not able to continue her medicine thanks to the county messing up. To sum it up, it's difficult to be around her for many reasons and I'm looking to moving out by next summer if I get this 2nd job.
So my main question is: how was it when you guys first moved out?
I'm asking because the only other time I "moved out" was when I was away at college. I'm just nervous about being on my own for good since I was emotionally attached to where I grew up because I've been familiar with it so I'm looking for advice on how to handle being on my own when I reach that point.
Hi, I am 19F and I need some advice. I have been wanting to move out since I have turned 18 but a lot has come up. I am finally saving and hoping to move out next April or May. There is are two units available in this complex that would be more than perfect but I am not sure if it's even a possiblity to hold them unitl then. I have contacted the complex but no response. I am also struggling to save, I racked up a large credit card bill and most of my paycheck will be going towards that. I need some tips and tricks to saving money. I would also like some advice about moving across the country away from a loving, supportive family. How was it and how did you do it? Thank you <3
any advice im 17F and have no idea where to start and my mom keeps talking about kicking me out as soon. as i turn 18 next year i have a part time very partime business with lash extensions but i dont have a car etc where do i start i really just be wanting to kms tbh idk where to start and my mom doenst wanna help drive me to work even if i got a regular job i was thinking of just to get a job and walk to work take uvers etc untill im ready but like idk pls help i have no one
I (18F) have finally managed to leave my shitty household. I am so excited, and I've signed the lease, and paid the security deposit. I am getting my renter’s insurance sometime next week, and will be moving in on November 1st! I am especially proud because I'm not breaking the bank to do it. I'm just posting here because I want everyone to know that it is possible, and it does get better!
I've been given the opportunity to move out next month and live with my boyfriend's grandma while I look for a rental. Getting to the point where that might be possible has been hard so I don't want to pass the opportunity up!
I had to quit my studies and take on full time work so that I can afford to support myself. I also passed my driver's test and saved up for a car so I can drive alone. I'm so glad I am in this position now but I'm also very nervous.
My family is overly protective, very very very much. I'm 18 but they use life360 to track me and I need explicit permission to do anything or go anywhere. They won't let me date my boyfriend because he got the covid vaccine and they believe it will end up hurting me (they are antivax). Because I wouldn't stop texting him they even made us change churches to one that's 2 hours away (that's where I'd get to see him). I was making friends with the other young people at the church and loved going to youth group but my parents think I'm lying and I ONLY cared about seeing him. It's even worse because I have no other friends, being homeschooled made it hard so the opportunity to FINALLY start building friendships meant so very much to me.
My parents made it clear that if I were to ever chose to date my boyfriend or move out that they would no longer support me. They would disown and disinherit me and no longer consider me their daughter. My Nana is if the same mind as them. I value family so much and I really do love them so it just breaks my heart!
They've said it will tear apart our family which my younger brother A is very stressed about. He's the only one so far who I've told and he wants to work towards moving out of home eventually too (he's 15). I feel very bad for leaving him behind with our family especially in the aftermath of it all but there's not much that I can do.
Our youngest brother B (12 yo) is really just very nasty so I'm not too worried about him. He lies a lot and perpetuates the issue my parents have with my bf, bringing it up all the time for no reason. He also says disgusting things about brother A, wishing he'd die all the time or threating things. He broke A's glasses yesterday just because he wanted to be nasty and he was bored. He drew all over A's face with permanent marker for no reason too and went all over the house gloating about it. He says disgusting things about mum and myself too, very sexist things making jokes that I'm a whore or selling myself to a pimp. He makes fun of mum's weight a lot which I know our mum is very insecure about and he calls her old or dumb in very gross ways. He makes jokes about dad sometimes too they're not quite as bad though.
ANYWAY, I'm moving out in November but because I bought my car and had some other expenses recently... I'm kinda broke. I have 2k AUD saved but should have closer to 3 or 4k by the time I leave. This is no where near what I was hoping for. Originally my plan was to move out in January so I'd have 10k saved but at this point I'm not sure how that will go.
What can I do to make that money stretch what are any general moving out tips for such a tight budget? I'm paid $1800 per fortnight. The cheapest rent in my area or surrounding areas in $450 per week.
I don't know what to do! I think the longest I can stay with his grandparents is 9 weeks~. They're very kind Christians so if I was really in need I'm sure I could stay a bit longer. My boyfriend wouldn't let me sleep on the streets or anything so we'd figure something out.
NOTE: I will be renting INDEPENDENTLY my boyfriend is going to continue living with his parents until we are engaged or married both of which will not be happening any time soon
I'm based in London and I absolutely hate it here so much it's expensive, loud, people are so rude and I just want to get away from here. I never moved out for uni, I'm currently in my first year and I already have plans of wanting to move out to pursue a masters degree at a different university.
The main reason for me wanting to move out is to get away from my family, I find it so exhausting coming home to arguments and overall a bad/tense atmosphere in the house :( this is mainly because of my brother(21) and dad(48) who argue a lot. I never got the chance to move out as my parents basically made me feel bad and talked me out of the idea because i wouldn't be able to 'survive on my own'. Another reason is that I'd like to study closer to my boyfriend's current uni for my masters, we will probably end up living together if I could move out.
So anyways, I currently have a part time job that gets me £250-£280 a month. I also have a savings account with around £4000 so money wise I think I should be fine as I'm constantly putting my earnings into my savings and ideally, I'd want to find a small place to rent.
Unfortunately it'll take me 4 years to finish my degree (2028), but that gives me an advantage to try and save as much as I can.
A big problem is that my parents will NEVER let me move out somewhere far by myself they'll try to talk me out of it again saying how hard it is bla bla bla... They'll also guilttrip me saying how much they do for me such as paying bills for my car and my phone etc. (which does actually make me feel bad for wanting to go somewhere far) but I want to prove them wrong, it sounds stupid but I actually want to experience paying bills, having budgets each month etc not to mention I'll have SO much more freedom if I lived by myself. 🥲
I guess my main questions are:
Exactly what the title says. I know many young adults are deciding to stay with their family or move back home in order to survive financially in this economy. I am just another person struggling to find a place to live on my own so I'm currently staying with my parents. To be honest I am 34, and being in this situation is drowning me mentally and emotionally. My peace is so important to me and I'm finding it hard to figure out what to do. Right now I need to just stay at my job so does anyone know of any safe sites to meet people who need a roommate? I don't even want a roommate but I have to start slow because rent in this area is out of control. Any feedback is appreciated.
My bf's share of rent got increased to 850 from 650 because land lady threw trash at bf and he got mad and yelled at her. mine is getting increased to 600 from 400 because I got a storage unit and our no lease landlady thinks my storage unit is stupid and that im making too much money. Shes also my boss at a pet store and she only pays me 15.75/hour 2 hours a day 6 days a week and the rest comes from ssi, otc, and snap and even that isn't enough to get us out of poverty (if i work longer than 2 hours even by 30 minutes she starts to berate me and sometimes i feel guilty and cut my work time down on the time sheet. I'm disabled so some days are slower than others) you know of any pet friendly places in northwest Washington? We have 5 small birds 2 tarantulas and a 25 gallon leopard gecko habitat. We both struggle to find high paying jobs because we're both disabled and bf wasn't able to get approved for disability. We also don't have enough money or time for college and nether of us eats avocado toast or Starbucks. It's kinda impossible to save any money when our landlady wants every bit of it and I think she's trying to get rid of us.
I am moving across the country to move in with my long distance girlfriend and still haven't told my family. I have tried twice now but chickened out. I know they will be very nasty and aggressive the last days of me living here once I tell them and my mom will try to guilt trip me. Plane ticket is already payed for and I secretly shipped out the belongings I am taking with me. I want my last days here to not be full of hate stress and hostility but once I tell them I know it will be. I am 21 and unfortunately after the plane ticket was bought my mom broke her hip and has relied on me and my dad for help so on top of my stress about telling them I feel incredibly guilty. How do I tell my parents I am leaving and try to keep the house as peaceful as possible?
It’s been a very, very long and bumpy road for me (23F) but I’m finally leaving my toxic household. It’s more than just toxic, it’s abusive, and it’s been abusive for a long time. I won’t go into all the details but I was starting to think this would never be a reality for me. It took one more very explosive argument for me to realize I can just pack my shit and leave. I can go stay with a friend until the time comes for me to afford it all on my own. So, I’m packing a bag in the morning, going to work, and not coming back to this home. I can’t believe it had to come to this, but the silver lining is.. I’ll be free. Idk what I’m looking for here, but just wanted to document this moment of closure for myself.
It is possible to leave - there are people willing to help you. Don’t be like me and wait many years to figure it out.
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I 16F am ready to start considering my future plans for a move out of my parents house as soon as I turn 18. The older I get the higher tensions have become in my house and I'm to the point where I would like to set out on my own. This is something that isn't possible for me to do until I turn 18 (1 and a half years.) as my parents would NEVER agree to let me live on my own. But I want to start on the right track to live on my own and support myself as soon as possible. My parents have made it clear that if I move out earlier then they would like all of their financial support would be leaving as well. No help with rent, car, college etc. and that's overwhelming for me as my parents have always told me those were things they would help me with when I decided to move. So here I am, I need to develop a plan to save enough to purchase a car, support rent for an apartment and just general living expenses. And if I can I would love to go to college for film after I graduate. But I don't even know where to begin. How much money should I be saving? What do I need to start learning in order to live on my own? I need help
Hello Do you guys know a company to do long distance moving? I mean I don’t have furniture only 4 luggage’s and a few boxes probably 7 little boxes.
I would like to hire a truck or something to move my things and be able to travel by plane with nothing.
Must of places charge a fortune even for just 4 pieces of luggage and a few boxes.
im finally moving out of the place ive lived in since i was 8, but i have no clue what to take and what to throw out. My grandmas not the happiest with my decision to leave and plans on throwing away what i leave behind, but i have so much junk.
how much sentimental things should i keep? so far i have my baby blanket, my kittys ashes, a toy my dad won for me, every single Christmas card ive ever been given, and like 25 books that i love😭 but theres still so much i dont wanna lose but dont need.
this room also went thru highschool with me and theres so much knick knacks from my maximalist phase i cant stand to lose, and alot of random decorations i dont need now but might want later. would it be worth it to throw those out and just buy new decorations when i need it?
ontop of all of that i have so much clothes i dont wear anymore but a part of me thinks ill wear it one day.
i know theres plenty of people hear whove had to do this so i just want some advice and tips, my moms a hoarder and its definitely reflected onto me a bit so i always regret and feel alot of emotions when i throw things away☹️
I need advice on the whole moving process. I’m not the most scared on these things, I’ll be honest. I want some kind advice from anyone who has moved. Please be gentle and understanding as I’m not well versed in this area.
So for context, Im on universal credit. I don’t have any savings. Everytime I tried to save, something would come up. Like my laptop broke and I needed money to get a new one, then my phone broke. It’s always something. I am kind of making excuses as I could make better choices to save but it’s a huge struggle of mine. I’m trying to unlearn that as I want to get my savings together. I have a friend who is 29 and has 80k in savings 😭 I just want to get my life together and escape this toxic household.
Additionally, I’m in the middle of paying off a student overdraft. I’m close to paying it off in full.
I graduated from uni in August 2022 and I did really well, I got a first class, but I’m still struggling to find a job due to the terrible job market and also the area I live in. My abusive mother intentionally moved us to an area where there aren’t many opportunities for people my age or for jobs in general. I worked a retail job for a few months but It was only temporary.
I really, desperately want to move out, however I have no savings. I didn’t sign up for council housing here as Im not entirely sure of the process and I just moved here a couple years ago, as I was living in London before and I have my entire life before relocating for uni then moved to our new home. I don’t know if it’s possible to try to relocate back to London with council housing, which would be preferable. There are far more job opportunities in London too! I’ve had a few interviews for jobs in London but I always get rejected because I don’t live there, although many advertised them as remote/hybrid.
For context, I lived in one area in London from 2015 to 2021 (although I was back and forth from uni between 2018-2021). And the previous area I’ve lived there pretty much my entire life. What could my options be in regard to council housing? I filled out a form for both areas and they said I can’t move back.
I wouldn’t mind private renting, especially once I get a job. Even if I could do a house share. I wanted to save some money for the first month then make the steps to moving. Is that realistic or not? The salary I could get is between 25k and 30k, and the locations other than London, the rent is around £700-£900 a month. Especially if I do a house share.
However, I’m worried about that possibility of private renting, due to my overdraft, it kind of messed up my credit. I had a perfect score before but now I’m a a I’m slowly rebuilding it. I’m currently on a 609 credit score which is considered poor. I was going to start using loqbox to build it back up from now.
In addition to all of this, any money I could’ve saved for any rent, will now have to go towards repurchasing everything I had ready to live. A new iron, kettle, toaster, pots and pans, plates, cutlery and utensils, all because my selfish and greedy abusive mother opened my boxes without my permission or knowledge and took my things, gave some away to relatives and even kept some for herself. Things she didn’t even need!!! Especially since my brother and his wife gave her some of their kitchen items too!
She now has 10 wooden spoons, it’s ridiculous! She didn’t need to take any of my things. She did it to spite me because I stupidly mentioned moving out and weeks later she did that! She even took my brand new wok and pot set, again something she didn’t need! And she’s completely destroyed them! The pots are loose, the wok has been scrapped up and the handles are missing. Yet none of her other pots and pans are like that, so even if I wanted to take my stuff back, it’s ruined! She’s even discarded some of my things.
It’s infuriating because I would’ve been ready to go if I had the opportunity to move! Now I have to start again! It’s really set me back. And it’s really sad watching other people with their supportive parents. Their parents actually help and support them. They’re loving and kind. They give them financial support to enable them to move instead of sabotaging them. One of my friends, her mother sold their house then gave her some money on a deposit for her own flat. My control freak abusive mother would never. After she sold her house, she spent £5k on her creepy, weird predatory husband. Not that I want her help because she would hold it over my head to control me and my new place anyways!!!
I also found out that I didn’t even need to take out an overdraft because one of her friends offered to give me money as a gift. She never even told me at the time, she only told me this recently. I would’ve been overdraft free. But she said she turned down the offer (on my behalf without even telling me) because she didn’t want to feel embarrassed.
I’m just so annoyed.. People I’ve graduated with have secured their dream jobs, they’ve moved out, they’re saving money and I feel so stuck. I want to start living my life instead of just surviving. I feel so behind in life at 25. I didn’t imagine still being stuck at home with this monster at my age. I thought after graduating life would finally get better. I’ve been applying for jobs the entire 2 years, everyday! The job centre has helped with my work search too and nothing. I’m just so frustrated. And I also hate living in this town. I don’t know anyone. London is my home town and I miss it. I have no social life here. I just want to live. I’m always scrolling on Rightmove and I’ve even joined those Facebook houseshare groups.
Does anyone have advice on my situation and moving? I just feel so stuck.
Hello, I’m a 24 yo F looking to move to a different state next year after I get my certification in medical coding. I’m open to several states but I’d like some more info that locals may have. ALSO IM BROKE, so like $1,500 rent average would be wonderful for a modest 1 bedroom. I’m used to the hot dry weather, the impending doom earthquake, as well as wildfires all summer so those don’t bother me. Looks like several states have 4-5 months of decent snowfall and harsh cold which I might not be able to adjust to since I’m used to constant sunshine and being able to drive no matter the weather. It would be just me moving alone, so not worried about schools or buying a house. (In this economy like I could) I’m used to big cities 150,000+ but would prefer living in smaller city not really sure about small towns. I have my own car so not stressed about public transportation either. I’d prefer a more liberal state/city as I think it would be easier to me to make friends and form relationships with people who hold similar values or are non religious and generally kind. In my free time I keep it casual but I’d love to be near a body of water as I’ve lived near the coast my whole life and enjoy kayaking and paddleboarding. I also enjoy dirt bikes/street bikes so maybe somewhere with a way lower motorcycle fatality rate, but I’d just assume that from less traffic and a lower population density in general. I’m preparing myself for a state/city with way less food options than the easy access ethnic variation in amazing foods that I have here. But if there’s someplace in the middle of no where with decent Mexican or Vietnamese food please let me know haha. I’m an easygoing omnivore so I don’t need any places focused on veganism or anything. Don’t care for beer either or sports scenes, but I love a good dive bar. Alright that’s all folks, any helpful info or tips are appreciated!!
Okay, I know this may sound stupid but I want to make sure I’ve gone over every option. In my opinion I feel like this won’t be successful but, I’m just wondering if I could transport a mandarin tree that’s been rooted in a 5 gallon pot (so not recently taken out of the ground or anything) in a Uhaul shipping pod successfully without killing it. For more information, the pod wouldn’t arrive to where I’m moving for two weeks and it’s an enclosed container.
I’m extremely limited on options for getting this to where I’ll be moving to (from the west coast to the east😅) and this seems to be my only option (the Uhaul pod) for getting it there.
If this is an available option, what would be the best options in doing this the best way possible? Anything helps :)