Hey all!
Just looking for some advice as I begin the process of moving in with my partner. We both have a LOT of stuff accumulated over the years, and will be downsizing, so will have to throw things out. Some of my partner's trinkets and displayed items are gifts from exes (some of whom he's still friends/acquaintances with). I've mentioned it would make me feel weird to throw out my own things to make space for these gifts, and although we didn't argue, it's clear he doesn't quite agree with me.

I wonder if I'm being too cruel, but also I don't understand the mentality of wanting to keep all these items, let alone display them. I'm not concerned about emotional cheating or anything like that, it just feels odd to think about tossing books or items I enjoy to make space to display them in our new home together. Has anyone dealt with this before or have any thoughts? Thank you!

Hi everyone,I've been happily living with my girlfriend for about a year now. We've been together for almost two years.I moved in to a house that she was already renting and since then we've been splitting all costs equally (rent, utilities etc.). Now, a house that she owns has been left vacant and we've decided to move to the new house together.

***Some info regarding the new house (that you can skip):***The now house is nearby, is bigger & better, so our life will be improved in general.She wants to renovate it and cover all renovation costs, as regardless of what happens between us,this is going to be her house for the rest of her life. Despite that, she wants my opinion regarding the interior design and furniture choices. We have similar taste and she respects my opinion, but more importantly she wants to include me since I will be living there (hopefully for many years) too. I am excited to help with this project, chip in where I can and provide some furniture that I already own. Additionally, I will be buying some extras that I might keep later on.

We both want to do this and we've maturely discussed what will happen in case we break up, so that we are both happy.

Here is the problem: We are clueless on how to split expenses now!

She owns the house so there will be no rent, but is it ok for me to live there without paying rent? (I don't feel ok with that).

We've talked about options:

A) Me paying some sort of rent.

B) me not paying rent but paying for all utilities.

C) Me paying for some large parts of the renovation (ex. new kitchen)and then paying no rent while still splitting everything else.

Still, we are not sure.

What to you think is the best and most moral option to split expenses given situation?

We want both us to be happy and to be fair against each other, while both of us maintain the sense that "This is my house".
Thank you!

My partner and I are newly married and will soon be living together and we would like to know how other married couples manage their finances, especially when it comes to joint accounts. We are on different salaries and are struggling to balance trying to make it 'fair' with the idea of marriage and being in it together. So, we're interested in if you maintain your own separate accounts and also a joint one or just have one joint account. If you maintain your own accounts do you a) contribute an agreed % of your incomes into the joint account b) contribute a set amount into the joint account or c) put all of your income into a joint account and withdraw from that into your personal account as and when you need to or d) none of the above/some other way? We'd be particularly interested where you both earn quite different amounts and how/if it impacted your decision

She washes and dries her hair in the morning. I don't get up as early as her. Is the noise significantly reduced?

So I have aspergers. I'm not much a "decorations guy", I own a PC, a desk, a book shelf, and books. Oh, and my PS4 and a projector. Not including clothes thats all I own.

My GF is the decorator, and owns 90% of our stuff.

It's so weird seeing all the older posts of people's apartments full of stuff. What do you do with all of it? I'm at a lost here.

Luckily my GF isn't a collector of knock knacks or anything. Everyone else we know has a bunch of junk, or stuff filling their houses up. Are we the weird ones? We're not minimalist or anything, we just don't buy what we don't need.

I started dating my bf in January after 2 months of knowing him. After 5 months of dating I moved back home... miles and miles away (I’m in a different country and he is Canadian) so we are now in a long distance relationship. I’m 19 and he is 23... I want to go back to school next year but I want to live with my boyfriend. I come from a family where it’s traditional to only live with your significant other when you’ve gotten married. Aside from cost I really can’t think of anything else I can tell my parents for them to allow me to live with him. Any suggestions?

I like things to be neat and clean at all times. My partner doesn’t mind things being left out, or stuff not being cleaned up right away. How can I initiate a conversation to compromise our expectations of the home? Also how do I chill the heck out?

Everything was given to my boyfriend and I when we first moved in together. As a result it's just a hodgepodge of things that I'd like to tie together. In the winter we use the burnt orange duvet cover https://imgur.com/5ofWGc1 but during the summer we normally just use this thin light blue duvet https://imgur.com/HviH3Uz I have been looking at a lot of color combinations and so far I like burnt orange with sage green and I also like it with turquoise. I need to do something about the armoire, dresser, and ugly plastic nightstand from college. Please help!