/r/KindVoice
Feeling low, alone, tired of it all, or simply bored? Whatever the cause, you can come and find someone to talk to. You can also offer your time to talk to someone else. We help people find support by matching people looking for help and people who are here to help. So, whether you are looking for support or willing to support others, pop-in and be a part of a community that cares.
Post whenever you have time to lend someone your kind voice, or when you need a kind voice.
This subreddit is for people that feel depressed, alone, or just want someone kind to talk to.
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Don’t think I’ll be able to sleep tonight so I’d really appreciate if someone were willing to keep me company on discord. I’m kinda struggling today so tears aren’t an impossibility… sorry ahead of time.
My work crush who’s older looked at me and we waved at each other. He had to turn his head to look at me so that means he probably was looking for me to notice him. What does that mean? He’s hit on me before months ago when I changed my hairdo?
I have been having problems sleeping since my filing broke a few weeks ago. I tried to make an appointment but i have to bring my daughter to doctor appointments it’s just too much so I don’t go. It’s been just her and I since 6 months old and she’s only 3.
Well this one I called I was in so much pain and her father happened to be taking her and they took my pain away. I started crying in the chair because someone was taking some of my pain away. The dentist hugged me after. Thank you. I don’t feel the pain anymore and I can tell you’re good at what you do. Yes they discussed how good my insurance was but maybe it worked in my favor. I don’t care I think I just needed a kind soul.
I know putting yourself out there can be daunting. Feel free to message me and let’s get you squared away.
I need someone to talk to ASAP.
I've isolated myself most of my life. I've never really had close friends. I've been depressed the entirety of my life basically. anybody who wants to hear me out, I'd really appreciate it.
I can't really offer anything in return, but I'll hear you out, too, if you'd like. I'll listen to your problems and give you my input to the best of my abilities.
I've just been frustrated with the direction of my life in general, and I could really use a second opinion on where I should go from here. With love, thanks.
okay so my girlfiend and i have been together for 11 month (1 year in 3 weeks) we've been together since december 14 2023 well i discovered today that she has been talking to someone, like flirting etc joking that the boy would beat me in a fight or that she wanted him to take her on a date) and she was talking with him in july we were together for 8 month in july and it's not the only one, there is another man who she offered to see in vacation but apparently it was a joke with a friend of her to make fun of him like passing time but the guy was saying oh i would kiss your lips and she would be like loool so i confronted her but she told me that it was just for fun, there was no interest and it was also for validation because she wanted ppl to say she's hot etc... i am so disgusted i thought she was a perfect woman and now she tells me she's sorry and she only wants me and that guy was no one compared to me etc but idk if i can continue the relationship
She was litteraly the perfect girl. Not many followers, always lovely, always wanted me, we both made sacrifice for each others and had trouble regarding our relationship but we always made it trought. She always talked about marriage for the future, all the things we could do etc and she was even planning to see me by surprise for our 1yr anniversary.
I know in her head it’s not cheating, she’s been crying all day because of my confrontation, but that shit i just so disgusting like she was openly flirting but apparently she told him it was for fun, lmao like a guy would take flirting with a girl funny, AND HE’S UGLY AS FUCK. Damn ik im a good looking dude why tf would she talk to him for validation and not think it would hurt me ?
My wife is the light of my life. People have always exhausted me. Dating before her was a nightmare. I would go on dates and just count down the time until I could be alone again. I have yet to meet someone that I can spend as much time around as I can my wife and not feel exhausted. Since day one we have been attached at the hip, and everything seemed okay. She liked going everywhere with me, and I loved being with her. That's how it's been for the majority of the eight years we've been together. Suddenly, being attached at the hip isn't okay anymore. She wants space, friendships, freedom. I want all of these things for her. These are all changes I want to make for her, but I'm autistic, so change is hard and things aren't changing overnight.
A couple years ago, we made friends with another couple (man and woman). I felt that we made these friends together. After a while, she started talking to the guy a lot and made plans to hang out with woman by herself. After therapy one week, she was very distraught. When we finally talked, she admitted to having a crush on both of them, and multiple other crushes in the past. I, being an adult with feelings, admitted that I have crushed on people, too, and that it's okay. A while later, and after another therapy session or two, she comes to me and tells me that she's extremely sexual, and wants to have sex constantly and has been talking to our guy friend about her sexual desires, fantasies and issues with our sex life. Up until this point, we did not have a wild sex life. We actually rarely had sex. This was a shock, as I feel like I'm mostly asexual, but I was willing to adjust course. I did some therapy deep diving of my own and found out that I enjoy sex with her. So we started having more sex. She continued to talk to the guy, and hang out with the woman.
TRAUMA(a Halloween fetish party) comes around in October, and she tells me that she wants to go. I was excited. As it got closer, she started to have conversations with me about what was okay and what wasn't okay to do with other people (ex. is kissing, grinding, rubbing genitals, etc. okay?). I told her that I wasn't okay with anything explicitly sexual.
Our guy friend decides he also wants to come to TRAUMA, too. So I have a talk with him before TRAUMA and explain to him that monogamy is very important to me, and I set some boundaries. TRAUMA goes fine, no one touches anyone inappropriately, and we have a good time.
During this time, I haven't really felt like I've had a chance to get to know our friends because it felt to me that my wife had more or less laid claim to them and I wasn't feeling any interest from them to get to know me any better. So I was starting to feel a bit lonely and left out. One night she tells me that the woman invited her out dancing. Instead of being happy for her, all I could see was how I was being left out again. Not the right response, I know, but it's where my brain went after years of failed social relationships and people never calling me back. I tried very hard to get her to see my pain and see where I was coming from. I needed her to feel my pain, and she needed someone to be happy for her.
I realized my mistake and did a U-turn on the friendship issue. I turned around and said I was happy for her and her friendships and I wouldn't stand in the way. I would help her if she needed and I would encourage her to get out. She accepts me apology and is grateful for my about face. She informs me later that she is going to hang out with the guy friend the next week. I'm happy for her and I accepted that.
The day before she goes to hang out with the guy, she cuddles with me in a very intimate way and says, hey, this is how the guy and I were cuddling the day that you and I argued over me having friends. She needed some comfort, and he provided. I was like, okay I was being a jerk and you needed comfort, Makes sense. But her clothes were on and nothing happened further, so I'm okay with this. At no point did she infer that she wanted more to happen or that more could happen. We supposedly had another talk of what's okay and what's not okay, and I guess I was supposed to connect the dots and figure out she was talking about doing things with him and what things were okay. I didn't connect the dots, and literally thought she was just going to hang out with him.
The day of the hangout happens. I'm lonely, because I always miss her, but I'm alright. She comes home happy and touchy and the day concludes nicely, but she's missing an earring. The next morning, the guys partner messages my wife telling her that she had found her earring at their place. My brain went to her and him fooling around and that's why she lost her earring. It was a stretch and a jump to get to that right away, but I'm already feeling vulnerable and depressed, so that's where my brain went. I am not proud of it, but it happened. I worked through my jealousy, and we supposedly got past that point. She remained upset, however. It wasn't until later when we were talking that she wanted to talk about what she and the guy had done while they were hanging out. She said that all they did was cuddle. He said all they did was cuddle. What happened, though, was that they "cuddled" topless and he played with her boobs, and stuck his hand down her pants until she told him to stop (he never touched her vagina, he just "tested the boundaries").
This feels to me like an overtly sexual act. I was hurt and felt misled and betrayed. She claims it was because I didn't establish enough boundaries and was not clear enough about what I was okay with and what I wasn't okay with. So she chalks it up to a miscommunication.
I didn't sleep much that night because I was in a lot of pain, and even woke her up to let her know how much she hurt me by doing what she did. I tried to stay busy the next day and not think about it much, but it was hard and I failed and I cried a lot. She came home from work and was very apologetic and very caring. The next morning, after another rough night of sleep, I woke up and some bullshit idea in my head popped up and told me I should read her messages between herself and our guy friend (since the beginning she has always said I'm free to read messages between her and her friends, which is how I justified it in the moment). I'm not proud of it, but I read them without asking her first, and what I read really hurt. They were convincing each other that they shouldn't feel bad because it was all just miscommunication and I should really chill out and stop being possessive. I broke down again because all of that is a lot to hear when you're hurting. I told her that I violated her trust and read her messages, but they were very hurtful. She got very angry and told me that it was all taken out of context and she wished I hadn't done that. She got ready for work and left. She said she still loves me but she is angry.
So, here I am. I'm hurt, and I managed to piss off the person that hurt me to further complicate things. I don't have therapy for a while still and have no one to talk this through with.
multiple edits for clarity - my brain is faster than my hands
Hi, is anyone available to talk? I just messed up again.
Childhood trauma and some ongoing traumatic experiences are causing so much distress in my life and I moved in with my shitty parents again. I’m quite unwell atm (got the flu and have a bad sore throat ). I’m spiralling into negative patterns and procrastination.
Would love to talk someone who would understand this situation and can be encouraging.
Please don’t bring sexual stuff into the conversation. We can be friends without having any of that.
Thank you.
Time zone: I live in Europe, so preferably Europe
Need help and advice. NSFW a little. Thanks
I'm gonna talk about some personal things that happened when I was younger and hope someone will listen. I should also clarify I have OCD which can make things exaggerated and makes it hard for me to just stop thinking. I also mention it so those can understand if they have it.
So this is the part where I open up, ramble and hope I make sense: I remember back when I was younger. If I remember I was like 14 - 15 or something and I think I cheated on my then girlfriend [real person] (as in I bought like some proto-onlyfans to talk to a model, nothing really happened except it was stupid and teenager horomones.). Maybe it wasn't cheating per say, but it was morally wrong looking back.
She was my first and things were bad even after, and she basically became very toxic toward me. I feel like I deserve it, but even then she'd accuse me of stalking and other things I didn’t do. The only thing I did was what I mentioned. My ex never knew, but she became extremely aggressive and, if I can be honest, dismissive of myself and my feelings and had people gain up on me. I used to think this was toxic, but now, I think I deserved it all.
This was like 2018 maybe? I am now 20, soon to be 21, and I'm worried that my future partner would hate me, they'll hate me for what happened when I was young. And it feels like my ex was justified in being toxic toward me in many ways than one. I deserved it.
Even when I was 16 and with someone, I could very much remember the unbeknownst OCD and confessing - worried on if I cheated on them. I'd hope that shows I don't want to be a horrible partner, I worry 24/7 about everything.
Let me make it clear: I hate cheaters. So to feel like you're doing it, or with someone and worrying on if they are, it's just so horrible. I'm just very triggered by cheating so it's hard I'm sure to feel scared on if you're being unfaithful or if your partner is. I just want someone in my life, and what I just mentioned is to me the worst thing to feel or go through.
I feel disconnected from the world. Like I’m not supposed to be here. I don’t know how to be a person. I don’t know how to belong.
I m 27 looking for friendship
For a year almost, I've been in a manic episode. ive since gone 10k in cc debt, I rely on my elderly mother for money and I live in a completely different state. I'm currently looking for jobs, but I've always hopped around jobs my whole life. I have a graphic design degree that is useless since it's been 6 years since I've tried designing anything.
The worst part is the Mania is self inflicted - I believe because I was taking mushrooms weekly. I was overly giving, felt invincible, extremely trusting, all to my downfall.
Idk I just would like someone to know the gravity of this situation I'm in. I tell my friends a bit but I don't want them to all worry. I've been undisciplined all my life and getting out of bed is tough sometimes. I've been a lot worse as far as discipline - I have a good physique and go to the gym often. It's hard for me to admit that all of this is my own fault, from not trying hard enough in life and everything leading up to this insanity.
I thought I found my passion and it was an illusion
I would like to listen to someone and feel like I matter i guess I dont really want to continue feeling inferior and worthless. Hell I’ll listen to a story, you vent or anything. I am a complete mess and in desperate need of attention lol
I've heard the term 'intrusive thoughts' before but I'd never thought anything of it until recently. Today I looked up the definition and think I may be suffering from them. They've gotten worse lately because of what's been happening around me lately. I'd like to talk more about it over reddit chat if someone's willing to help.
I would enjoy just chatting with people about this or whatever else comes up
M22 looking for friends either here or on discord, I'm tired of being alone and have been trying to make an effort lately to find friends and it has not been working but yeah, my dms are open
This wasn’t something I expected do, but I’ve been suffering in silence for so long and it’s time I tell my story. My husband and I are immigrants from Poland and we live in the UK. We came to this country with aspirations of starting a new life, but now it seems all of that is going away.
My husband has been working double shifts for months, sometimes coming home from a painting job so tired that he can’t even change his clothes, only to leave for a warehouse night shift. We are doing everything within our power to send funds back to Poland for the treatment of his mother who has cancer. We can’t even think of not helping her, even if that means suffering ourselves.
Cancer treatment in Poland is free through public healthcare but my husband's mother’s condition was worsening, and the public system wasn't providing the care she needed. We made the difficult decision to switch to private healthcare to get her the treatment she requires, and it has made a significant difference in her health. But, the costs of private care have been overwhelming for us, especially as we continue to support her.
But now we are two months rent owing. Our landlord has waited patiently up until now but he has also warned us that the time has run out and that we might be thrown out by the end of this month. We are not just behind on rent; we are also in the negative because of debts still clearing his mother’s treatment and paying for money that he borrowed to assist his mother along with other expenses.
It’s not just the financial struggles that have been hard it’s being so far from home, in a place where we sometimes struggle with the language and feel like outsiders. The anxiety of not knowing what happens next keeps you up at night. My husband feels like he’s failed us, but he’s the hardest working person I’ve ever known. It breaks my heart to see the weight he’s carrying, especially knowing all he’s done for his mother.
I want to be strong for him, but I can clearly see that his worries are deep the very first minute I take a glance at him. We haven’t even told his mother about our situation. because we don’t want her to feel guilty while she’s fighting for her life.
I do understand that we all have our burdens to carry, and I apologize even for writing this, but I don’t know what else to do. If anyone has advice, kind words, or has been through something similar, it would mean the world to me. Right now, I just feel so alone.
It's me again. I came here a few times in the past and it's helped to talk to someone, anyone. I've now been unemployed for a year. Since then over 500 applications and only 2 interviews.
I had to do something different. Last week I finished an application to pursue graduate studies at a university. Today I got a rejection email.
I always thought I couldn't go any lower. That I would always bounce back or I'd already been at my lowest.
I think as I write this, this is the closest I've ever been to truly considering taking my life.
I'm falling apart. I don't know what to do.
Can someone please help
So im 24 and les i have this thing im into wich makes me feel like a freak.
( nothing illegal and i dont want any sort of sexchat or i just want to hear another womans perspective on it)
Its a very odd thing so just want to hear another girls thoughts on it. elses becaudse it makes me feel like a weirdo,
Hello! I would love to read you a short story. Whether you’re bored, need company or comfort, I’m happy to read you a ~15min story with whatever vibe/mood you choose. Feel free to DM me 🖤
I'm 22 and my time-zone is est, I'm looking for a girl who would like to do sleep calls together either naps or at night, one who's sweet and can comfort me, I've been having a tough time lately and just need some company
My discord tag is: Randomdude07510
everything just suddenly changed when I just couldn't hold it anymore and had the talk with my parents of wanting to leave my school (the best school/my dream school) where I'm from and a major that's "good"
you can imagine how that went but they were somewhat supportive (well trying to be) they didn't understand why I couldn't continue and they think the reason is because it's math and think that me going to major in buisness is just screwing myself over too because of math. But I told them, it's not because of math, it's because I'm bad/lacking in all my classes. If I try to focus on one class, I neglect the others etc. at least in buisness, I might be okay in other classes
my eldest told me in times like this you need to make a plan, so I did. My original plan is to take the interview to the school that I wanna go and try to apply for the scholarship since the tuition is literally double my tuition now and we're already struggling with that. But I'll also take the entrance exam to two other universities (including the one I'm in now) so that I have choices and I'll take a deferment for second semester so while looking for alternatives, they won't have to pay for the tuition.
i made that plan yesterday and finally felt relieved, that I had a plan. Everything went to shit today. I realized that the deferment, if I use mental health as a reason needs medical certification. i thought a written letter from my counselor in school would work since she's literally from the school but ig not. the whole process in booking a psychiatrist and going there then waiting for results will take awhile and I need to give in the deferment next month or Jan. (early jan) and what if I get nothing
then I also realized the school that I wanted to go offer their scholarship on August 2024, which means that this school won't look that great of a choice in my parents eyes since the tuition
I finally got the guts to choose other path and talk to my parents etc but I feel like all my alternatives are getting blocked. am I meant to stay in comp sci and suffer two more years? yes I know, it's two more but i want to study something I can show for during works etc
the admissions and entrance exams are next year, I know ppl myt think it's to early to think it's too late or it's not working out but I need a plan, i need to have a plan
and besides that, finals are in two weeks and I calculated, im failing three out of FIVE classes. idk what im doing anymore, idk why I'm trying
I lost my person. My joy, my strenght, my motivation, my happiness, my future. I'm falling apart. I don't know what to do with all these feelings.
These past few weeks have been rough for me lately and it’s been hard to stay calm and happy because it’s starting to effect my mental health. All I do is sleep and work now and I have no energy to do the things I enjoy anymore. It feels so lonely when you don’t have anyone to talk to. If anyone’s free now, feel free to send a chat. It would help me a lot right now :)
It can be so relaxing to simply listen to someone talk calmly when one is feeling down or is anxious. If anyone wants I would be up for reading you something in a calm tone. You can choose whatever you want and I will try to read 10-15min of it at a time, if you want I am up for even recording one daily for you and send it to you in Dm's. Now if multiple people want I can't guarente a daily recording for all but I will try.
Just let me know here or privately and whatever I can find online or whatever you send me I can read for you. Alright, take care!
I’m just feeling incredibly lost at the moment and I would just really appreciate someone listening to me and maybe get some advice.
I would fall asleep with the tv on at 10pm then wake up 20-30 minutes later. Turn off the tv, but find myself struggling to fall asleep alone. If anyone wants to fall asleep on the phone with me, hi 🙂