Currently in my room, my excuse is that i need to study. Well I am but in reality i just need to be alone rn

Idk why but I keep looking back at random memories of my past (anything between 2016-2022) and it’s mostly situations that hurt me emotionally. Like last night I had a random dream about a girl that I had a situationship with in 2020 (I had already forgot about her until now) and now I can’t stop thinking about her and the few times we spent together, which hurts because it didn’t work out. And because of that dream that I had, it unlocked even more previous memories of failed situationships that I had before that one so now my mind is flooded with a mix of those past moments that shouldn’t matter to me anymore. Idk this is probably just some random rant but I felt like I wanted to share my thoughts on here. I do consider myself as a healed person but damn man, sometimes these past hurtful events randomly crawl into my mind at any given moment.

There’s not many things worse I can think of as an introvert. Forcing a smile, forcing conversation, faking enjoyment. Actually looking forward to the bathroom breaks so I can spend a few, dragged out minutes in isolation. Pray for me! 🙏

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Were you ever at an average level of sociability, or even extroverted?

For me it's been very situational and my levels of sociability have fluctuated a lot at different stages of my life, but then I'm probably a lot older than most people here.

I don't think that I will ever understand it. The people I live with are very extroverted. Everything they do is LOUD. Yawning, sneezing, singing, whistling, talking, walking, etc. It's like they're fighting over each other to be louder than the other. Now not every extrovert does this but some do. Sometimes I just have to get out of the house to get away from it. It drives me crazy. It's maddening to be in my room and just hear people being very LOUD all around me. Outside my window, in the kitchen, in the hallways, etc. Not a care in the world just la de dah de dah, STOMP STOMP STOMP *whistle whistle whistle* *YAAAWWNNNN*.

Most of the time it just feels like im simply invisible. I see other people in University connect in such a seamless way, its just second nature and i feel like thats how it should be. But its not the case for me. I'm not blaming anyone but myself, i just cant help but think, what makes me seem so unapproachable, unpleasant or unfriendly? This is the case anywhere i go, i usually only connect with people who have the same struggles as me(mental health etc.) and the bonding usually is very intense, we talk for hours and hours. This would be fine, but all these people end up leaving, usually drop out of uni or change courses to a different place and then the contact just stops. This keeps happening over and over again, so when im left with neurotypical people it just feels like im inside a Bubble and i cant get out of it.

I woke up on a normal Algerian day on a normal Algerian weekend. Went out of the dormitory to get something to eat then went outside to the city center (by the way I don't live in Algiers) and I found it on one of the stores, the freaking legend, THE FREAKING LEGEND... A sealed TES V Skyrim OG disc, yes I played it so many times before but I can't get enough of this game, I bought it without even asking for the price or getting back the change and rushed back toooo the dormitory powered my pc and there we go again, another 12 hours of nothing but Skyrim

I don't know if you have the same thing in your current country but here in Algeria you can bring whatever you want into your dormitory so I brought my PC, and I guess I'll have to explain to the professors now why I didn't write the 4 essays

Do I regret it? No Will I spend another 12 hours mastering skills? Definitely

For context, I’m updating my resume/cover letter and fully realized that I don’t know how to talk about myself. To a certain extent I’ve noticed that I don’t know how to talk about myself when talking to people. This really hit me when dealing with my current situation and am curious on what you all think.

For me, honestly the simpler answer is that other people just suck. Examples being two guys I thought I would be best friends with and then never talking to them again. But again, just examples of an overall trend of being done with people's bullshit. Maybe it's just normal perception from being more of an adult (even though plenty of teens and college students will say the same thing, and plenty of older adults are plenty extroverted) but it's gotten to the point where even just asking people to hang out is tiresome. Now energy is being drained out of me instead of the other way when I'm interacting with them.

Edit: It is possible to change......you know, just like any part of your personality and desires.

So basically I was chilling in my dorm room, listening to some music in my earbuds when one of my friends came and told me we need your help with something related to English

At this point I'm fed up with this crap, if they hear anything that is not Algerian and sounds like English they immediately go like "ZAKI WE NEED YOUR HELP" I'm good when it comes to English to the point that sometimes they make fun of me in a harmless way, like saying "you should have been born in the US"

and I live in a province where we have some non-algerians studying with us, and no it's not Algiers nor one of the famous provinces it's a calm and quiet province in the mid East

Turns out she was a girl fron the uk and one of her Algerian female friends told one of the friends of my friend to ask me for help with translation and stuff, at this point I was only thinking about one thing (why move from the UK to Algeria)

So i went with him and two of my other friends to the cafe where she said she would meet us, and I SUCK AT TALKING WITH GIRLS except if someone gives me a push and my friend Aymen didn't disappoint, so I told her how college works here, told her that there is two types of college classes, TD/TP/course and that she needs to attend td & tp classes even if she lost her leg she has to go crawling because it's obligatory, gave her the Uni's digital services/ help and support email in order to get her Moodle username and pass key reassured her that she doesn't need to be a Muslim nor wear hijab to live here and removed some wrong stereotypes from her brain, but still I sucked badly sometimes like when she asked me if wearing HJB. Is obligatory I felt guilty that she thought it's obligatory why I felt guilty I still don't know, as if it is my fault that she thought that it is obligatory, sometimes I feel guilty for the weirdest reasons, I gave her my number because she said she still needs some help from time to time

I got back to the dormitory still feeling guilty, GUILTY ABOUT WHAAAAAAAAAAAT???????

Sometimes I really don't understand myself

on the bus back from a pub with my friends and i left early because i was there for 2 hours and that’s enough for me haha, but the whole time i feel a bit overlooked and ignored. there were 3 new girls there that i don’t know that well and whenever i spoke (loudly because i wanted to be brave and socialise) no one acknowledged me. i was also the only single one amongst them and when they spoke about their boyfriends i was very quiet. has anyone ever been in this situation? tbh i feel a bit like a loser 😅 hence me leaving early cus i was just ready to go home because they were all going clubbing and i wasn’t and overall i just felt a bit ignored and left out. a bit of a meaningless post i just wanted to rant a bit

I’m pretty introverted at work. Maybe even shy. My boss said I should try to speak to the team more, but I don’t know why I’m getting so anxious. My main focus is to do well at my job and finish everything on time accurately. I don’t know why I’m just so bad at small talk and loosening up. Does anyone else feel this way? Do you have any advice for me?

I can't think of a better way to describe this feeling than "subordination". A feeling that you need to explain everything, always, as if it were to a boss or father/mother. Moments when your posture becomes "square" and the first thing that comes to mind is to maintain order, while at the same time a latent sense of fragility and submission.

Has anyone else ever felt this way? How can I overcome this feeling that I don't simply need to respond to or "serve" anyone?

Hi! I have two classmates who are always by themselves, and I’d really like to become their friend. They don’t look sad, but they seem lonely, like they’re just waiting for the day to end and wishing they had someone. They also look uncomfortable or anxious when there are people talking besides them, and that makes me feel like they feel bad about being "judged" for being alone, and i feel bad for them.
The girl is the loneliest, and she is usually on her phone or sleeping. The guy has one friend in another class who sometimes visits him in the classroom, and he is usually listening to music and is either playing on his phone or drawing, but they both seem like they’d appreciate someone to talk to.

I’m an introvert too and i'm a loner, so I kind of understand how they might feel. The thing is, I’m not shy, but I’m not great at talking either, which makes approaching them tricky. I sit behind the guy, and I did try talking to the guy about a week and a half ago, about some anime (Bocchi) pins he had on his backpack. He answered my questions but kept things short, and I worried I might have overwhelmed him by asking too much. At the end of class, he asked if I was staying in the classroom (i was going to check something with the teacher), which made me think he might want to be friends, but I’m not sure. He seemed like a nice guy, but too shy and maybe... uncomfortable... I felt like he didn't trust me enough to talk openly about his interests and stuff, so he answered briefly and vague, but maybe he liked me talking to him first. I talked to him once again some days later, but i only asked if he was understanding the class and idk what else. Wasn't really important.

I’ve been hesitant to talk to him again because I don’t want to make them uncomfortable, especially since I know introverts can get overwhelmed easily in social interactions. I feel like nobody else will reach out to them, because I understand almost no one looks to lonely people and says "i'd like him/her as my friend" so I want to do it, i want to be nice with them and know how they feel, what they like, what they think, stuff like that... but I want to do it right. I haven't talked to the girl yet because I don't want to make her feel uncomfortable too.

How can I approach introverts in a way that makes them feel at ease? How do I avoid overwhelming them or making them uncomfortable? How can i make them trust/like me? Any tips would be greatly appreciated. :)

Any other introverts that work in a very social field? I work in healthcare and some days I feel like I'm losing my mind. How do you guys avoid burnout?

Hey everyone,

Lately, I’ve been feeling a bit insecure about being an introvert. Sometimes it feels like I’m just not as “social” as others or that I’m missing out on connecting with people because I tend to recharge by being alone. I know it’s just part of who I am, but I can’t help but wonder if I’m not doing enough to build meaningful friendships or keep up with the social expectations of others.

I’ve been focusing a lot on meeting new people and building quality friendships lately, but I still feel tired of the competition, jealousy, and constant complaining I sometimes encounter. It’s hard to be around when others aren’t supportive because I just don’t feel like I’m getting the support I need.

On top of that, I’m balancing being a single parent, trying to grow in my career, and figuring out how to manage my finances and home life. Sometimes, I wonder if I’m doing enough, or if I’m even on the right track. It can feel like a lot to juggle, especially when I feel like I’m not connecting with others the way I’d like to.

Anyone else ever feel this way? How do you deal with being an introvert while still building meaningful connections? Or just balancing all the things that come with adulting and personal growth?

Thanks for reading, I appreciate any advice!

Does anyone have any job suggestions for introverts that are not customer service related. It’s all I’ve ever done and I’m so ready to get out of it. I have 6+ years experience in retail and an associates degree. I’m looking for something administrative but I’m open to suggestions if anyone has them.

Im really shy quiet introvert and have social anxiety I’m working and a coworker comes to me and say turtle you’ve been here long enough speak and then another person come your so quiet you need to be more loud don’t be shy

Hello introvs, I was wondering how you met your spouse or partner. I am asking because I have trouble meeting people. I have seen videos of introverts saying they have trouble making friends, yet they are married. So how did you meet your significant other? Through work? Friends? Online? Curious.

Need advice 25M, Pakistan I found after being engaged to 2 months that my partner is very introverted she is unable to start a conversation or express any feelings, I am also the same type of person but we both want some extrovert type of person, what should we do, do we end our Releashiip or how to make things better?

I am 20F, Looking for a long term friendship in London UK, into kdramas, k hip hop

I listen to flowsik, kitti b, yezi, Ash b, sistar, exid, girls day, jessi,

Preferably close in age, same gender, ALSO IN LONDON UK

I actually love my job. At first, we worked from home except one day a week, but we have been back in the office 3 days a week for some months now.

Everyday I dread going in the office. The work is a lot & very independent, however I’m surrounded by attention seekers and people who are all around weird. I also don’t think I should be forced to communicate with anyone at all (as our job doesn’t require it).

I stay to myself mostly, but I get extremely annoyed when someone says I’m quiet (imo, we are at work for a reason, I really don’t want to talk to you or care to talk to you, I’m here to do a job). Most people who work here whisper all day to eachother and I’m just not here for the drama.

Anyone else who feels the same, how do you cope each day?

You know that you are fucked up when you spend more time chatting with an AI than with real people.

I'm(19F) in college I feel like I'm so surrounded by people all the time even after coming from classes. I have to consider my roommates' issues while taking decisions for my life and day. I just absolutely hate it. I feel heavy in my brain constantly. I can't even study properly. I just hate it so much. I get brain fogged really easily and I want to sleep all the time. But I gotta study.

when i was much younger and hadn’t really accepted my introvert personality and was in denial that i just don’t enjoy social gatherings as much, i would have a constant feeling of FOMO when my extroverted friends did things and i was home. But now, years later i’ve developed an indifference to it all and could not care less is if i missed out on something. My two friends have just posted pics of them shopping, they did not invite me nor did they mention anything. teenage me would’ve been so upset and confused and have FOMO, but i simply saw the pics and did not feel a single emotion, in fact the only thing i thought was “at least it saved me from spending money” . and i can’t help but feel proud of myself for how far i have come and how ok i am with being alone now. i will see them eventually, but for now they can have their fun and ill be here in my room with a good book :)

I'm a talkative, extroverted, "people person" in a large nonprofit. A year ago, I got promoted and got to hire my own team for a long-term regional project. I hired a great team, but they are all - except one - introverted and very quiet in meetings. This is hard for me. I will ask a question and they all just stare. I'd like to build camaraderie and excitement about the work by getting input from them and planning together, but it's very hard to lead brainstorming sessions when no one is talking. One on one meetings are better. But it's hard not to feel disappointed and frustrated at how team meetings go. Even when I share an email update with positive news, I often get no reply. Any ideas on what I'm doing wrong? What should I do differently?

Happy Saturday ✨✨

How do you all cope being introverted around people who are extraverted? I feel like I’m always on the outside looking in, I know everyone is different and world would be difficult if we were all the same. I went to a wedding last night and was often stood by myself (even though I was a bridesmaid. I only knew a few people there and felt I annoyed them as I was often just following them around).

I often don’t mind being introverted but at events like this I feel like I’m missing out.

But I'm most content with the fewest obligations and commitments possible. Maybe I've reached the point where life is on the EZ road and I don't want to add anything else to it right now, like more people, or higher responsibilities.

The truth is that I don't like to socialize. I am not a social butterfly. I have social interactions but I don't enjoy social life but I understand I will have to do it in order to get what I am longing for. But once I get what I want, I'll get back to my previous life. I don't want to have wide circles of friends and acquaintances. I am not into it. I am not gifted with the ability or the desire of making friends.