In my bloods, I tested positive for HSV1 and negative for HSV2. I had a 1 small ulcer looking lesion on my vagina opening so my doctor took a swab and the PCR results were negative for HSV1 and HSV2. It healed within a few days. How accurate are the results? Could I still have hsv1 (genital) and the test be wrong? What else could of caused an ulcer there?

So I am starting to see this new girl for the first time after my ex gave me HSV-2 in August this year. I am on anti virals atm to help with outbreaks. I just really needs some advice on how to tell this girl I really like that I have HSV. Anything helps thanks guys

I am almost 23 and I got diagnosed 10 months ago. I did grieve after my diagnosis for a week or so, went through the whole my life is over loophole. I am lucky enough to have amazing friends. I am also lucky that I had 3 of my very close friends who also have herpes, so the “i’m so disgusting” feeling was very short lived. However the “my days of causal sex are over” thoughts stayed longer. I was extremely nervous to disclose but I found a script, and adjusted it for each person I talked to 2 make it more fitting. I’m currently at 4-0 in positive disclosures. Confidence is key in disclosing. I started take daily suppressive medicine and have really felt unstoppable since as it eases MY anxiety of passing to anyone 2. I tell myself when I am nervous to have the herpes discussion that anyone who has a negative reaction is simply uneducated and if they’re not willing to learn then they are not someone I want to be with. I have been seeing this guy for two months and when I told him he kissed me on the forehead and kept telling me it was okay. He apologized and when I said if anyone should be apologizing it is me he said “no but that’s really tough to deal with and even tougher to tell someone i’m really proud of you” One guy that I was super nervous about his reaction because of his personality brought up that it’s so common. There is hope I promise 💌💌 I still have excellent sex and I am safe in my endeavors. Cheers to not letting herpes ruin my sex life during my hot sexy 20s phase. 🥂🥂🥂

I remember scrolling through this forum when I got diagnosed and reading the very depressing posts had me ugly sobbing full blown mental breakdown and then I put my phone down and touched grass. It ruins your life if you let it ruin your life. Yes it fucking sucks but there is simply nothing I can do to change it! So I continue and I live with it <3 and I look damn good while i do it :)

I keep seeing on TikTok about herpe reversing tea what does it help with ? And doing these diets do it help heal or cure ? Or is it scam

I'm newly diagnosed and cant figure out when to start taking valtrex for prevention. I have a prescription but its only for a 1 day treatment, not a daily suppressive (though I'd prefer that as I'd rather be preventative than reactive).

As soon as I feel a tingle or burning sensation around my mouth im ready to pop the pills to prevent/minimize any flare-up, but obviously this isnt ideal especially when I feel the tingling/burning kinda sporadically throughout the day and week but not non-stop.

At what point do yall decide to take it? Do you have a time limit for the tingling/burning? For example, if you've been feeling it for 48hrs do you decide to take it? Do you wait until you have a visible flare up?

Thanks in advance

Since my boyfriend(24M) and I (22F)have started having intercourse, I’ve been experiencing A LOT of yeast infections, but did not tested positive for anything before or after our first time having intercourse. I was recently diagnosed with HSV-1 and 2, last years around October. I was not experiencing any symptoms, until I recently gave my boyfriend oral and vaginal intercourse. Two days after intercourse, I started experiencing symptoms such sores on the inside of my mouth, after that healed, I started experiencing vaginal sores/outbreaks.

I’ve only started experiencing these symptoms and only been diagnosed when I started having intercourse with him. However, I’ve never seen any sores or outbreaks on his genital area or even in his mouth.

What should I do? How should I approach this? What do I even say?

I need some help, please help me out.

Remember this virus may be a little harsh and some people do go through some harsh symptoms but whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Wake up, shrug it off and live another day. Work on being better than who you were yesterday. Improve your health, build your character, and try your best to move forward even with this stupid virus. Don't live for people's acceptance or approval live for yourself. Strive for excellence!! I'm writing this for anyone who needs to hear it.

I've been seen or ready stuff about cure for hsv ? What does that do or what does it help with ? Or what is it for ? Please inform me with this. Is it even impossible for this to happen ?

My cold sore is very small and almost gone . What can I do prevent or know I'm have outbreak, I just wanna hug my kids already . I just got diagnosed so I'm new to all this please help me on stuff I can start to take or what

I’ve been seeing a guy for a month now and he’s really lovely and has even introduced me to his friends. I disclosed after our second date and he said he wasn’t worried, liked me for me, etc. We’ve had penetrative sex once (with a condom). We are set for a date in 4 days but I have some tingling happening (maybe from lowered immune system because I have a cold - I also take AV every day). Anyways… I’m now feeling crappy that I might have to say we can’t have sex on Friday. It feels like even when you get past the initial convo of “I have this”, you still have to set yourself up for more potential rejection. It feels so disheartening :(

I have HSV-1 which manifests in cold sores around my mouth only and my last outbreak was in 2015. I am considering having sex with someone who also has HSV-1 but when he has an outbreak he experiences genital sores as well. Since I already have HSV-1, if we were to have sex, would I be at risk of acquiring lesions on my genitals or is that not possible because I already have it on my mouth only?

I have a friend who contracted herpes from her partner, HSV1 I believe both genital and oral as far as in aware. I have ocd and so whenever I suddenly get sick I freak out. She did my make-up the other day and I woke up with a really sore eye, the next day I woke up with conjunctivitis symptoms and a sore throat, when I got home, one of my Lymph nodes were swollen and I had bumps at the back of my throat, I also noticed that the surface of my tongue had turned white. Today is the third day since and the corner of my lip is stinging and I'm panicking it's the beginning of a cold sore.

A couple days before that I did sleep with someone however so I'm not sure if it's a yeast infection, he didn't have any cold sores that I was aware of, but I'm terrified of what this could all mean. I know what I'm like and I fear that if I do end up with a HSV diagnosis that I will recluse from everyone and never put myself back out there. I also don't know how I will treat my friend if I do have it and that scares me.

I'm terrified and I'm upset. Does anyone have any advice or encouraging words?

I'm so heartbroken I got sick over flu and couple days little I get very small blister first thing came Up was hsv I booked my appointment got blood test done the same day . I have three girls my youngest is 1 does this I can hold my baby or play or what I'm so new to this and confused

Here’s the run down.. last December, I had noticed just one single blister on my genitals (M) in which I popped - scabbed over and healed definitely within a week. I forgot the timeline, but around a few days after, I had a fever for about 3 days with zero accompanying symptoms. Immediately self-diagnosed with HSV2. Nothing concerning before this, and nothing recurring after. I’ve had fevers before, at least a few times, without any other accompanying symptoms, so I’m banking on the chance that it might’ve been a coincidence.

The most important thing - I feel as if my risk is low due to my sexual history. I’ve only slept with two people in the past three years, and if I were to have contracted it, it would’ve been from my most recent (due to her “more” extensive sexual past, which is still pretty low, like five partners).

She’s never had any symptoms or concern regarding HSV, and claims to have used protection with the few people she slept with over summer break (college). Furthermore, i was the only person she slept with from September-December - and my “symptoms” appeared in December. I know herpes can lay dormant, but thought I’d add that.

I mean fuck. Do I test? Is it likely that I have it? I’m reading horror stories of people who wish they never got a blood test. And how the blood tests are inaccurate without an outbreak. However, I’m talking to a few girls that I might want to sexually pursue. What the fuck do I do? I can’t disclose that “hey this happened a few months ago but i have no idea if it has any significance!” Ya know?? Freaking out, any insight would help me so much.

So I have been having mild pain in my penis shaft and perineum area, it weens and wanes throughout the day. this has been going on for close to 4 months now. Is this a common symptom? Has anybody else have this? Does it get better or is just now my life now.

I tested negative for all other STDs so I am lost what could be causing this. Only other things I can think of is Non-gonococcal prostatitis or Chronic pelvic pain syndrome but a mild case. I am just so mentally exhausted from the symptoms…..

…..and it was GREAT!! That’s it! That’s pretty much all I wanted to say to you.

Ok, a bit more…I had no idea this sub existed before we broke up (other reasons) and as I stumbled on it the other day, I was shocked to read all the stories of people really struggling with this diagnosis. I thought it was terrible and decided I would share a positive story. Or at least a no-drama story.

We met online and I knew pretty much right away that I needed to get on that ride (so hot!!!). He disclosed beforehand, I didn’t know much about it and I told him so. He explained it to me, said it was fine if I didn’t want to see him and I basically just texted: “so, condoms 4ever? I mean, that’s the responsible way to go anyway, isn’t it?”…and the rest is history (and so so much pleasure, omg).

We never talked about it again. We always used protection and I was never afraid of getting it. I don’t even feel the need to get tested now that it’s over tbh, since we were so careful and he never had any symptoms.

People post a lot in the comments that it gets better, that not everyone is a uneducated jerk and that someday you’ll find someone great who won’t make a big deal of it, etc…well, they are right!

We exist and we’re out there! With fire in our pants and condoms in our pockets, just waiting for you, lol!

Happy Monday!

Almost 2 years ago I had a few hook ups with someone and one day they told me they thought something was wrong and went to get tested. They ended up having a herpes outbreak. As far as i'm told this person believes they never had it before me and I just know they blame me for it.

Now I know it is entirely possible I have it and just never knew or had an outbreak BUT is it not the same case for them? They could have also had it and never had an out break until they did right?

I never had any symptoms in my life and I also always used protection with anyone that wasn't my long term partner.

I went to get tested once they informed me of their diagnosis and since l had no symptoms all I could do was a blood test which I know can be inaccurate. Test came back negative and the person just could not believe it. I mean what more could I have done with no symptoms?

I still speak to the person but only as friends. However my point is l hate the feeling that this person still blames me deep down for them having it and just want to hear other peoples thoughts on this.

I got tested it came back negative and I never had any symptoms before or after still to this day so what more could I do?!

It feels almost impossible to get around the idea of having this awkward conversation with someone you really like, and being shut down over this lingering condition. Ever since I found out, I can’t grasp the concept of reintroducing myself to this harsh world out there, and starting over pretending like everything is fine. How do you even begin to talk about this? Could you even get past the attraction and chemistry after telling someone you have Herpes?

I got diagnosed with herpes some years ago and It just doesn’t get better. As a man with this I feel so ashamed and disappointed in myself and have no motivation to get anything done. I wanna isolate my self all the time and I every time I get close to telling a girl I have it I cut her off and just suffer in silence again. I can’t do this and am literally hanging on by a thread to survive. I don’t know what to do and would like some advice on how to navigate living with this as a young man. I pray and I cry everyday and nobody knows I deal with this except a friend or two and they kind of just figured I got over it and I don’t talk to them about it much anymore at all.

I have ghsv1. My partner and I just had sex yesterday, I wasn't having any symptoms of an outbreak...but today I have 2 bumps that have popped up. They aren't blisters (yet) just bumps. I've only had 2 outbreaks and they were both pretty bad to the point I KNEW it was an outbreak. But this, it's not like the last 2 times. If it is an outbreak, how likely is it that I transmitted it to him when we had sex yesterday?

My throat hurts after sharing utensils with someone who has oral herpes. It’s more of so in the middle of my throat and I have some ear pain and under the tounge pain. I also have bouts of nausea. It has felt like this has been coming on for days and my body was fighting it since my throat felt weird but more so scratchy. Should I get tested or do you guys think I’m in the clear ? I’m looking for respectful answers only please. Google is misleading.

Oie, senti uma forte dor na orelha nao foi no ouvido e sim na cartilagem. Apareceu 2 manchas vermelhas, ignorei e segui a vida . No dia seguinte a dor se confundia, umas pontadas na orelha que entrava no ouvido e na garganta e no dente, e tudo lado esquerdo, cabeca lado esquerdo latejando. Fui hospital e estou na uti a 2 dias tomando zovirax na veia e morfina subcutaneo, nao sei age quando ficarei aqui

I’m sure I’ll feel better once this heals up. But it’s my first outbreak and I think the scariest part is the unknown. Reading Reddit horror stories obviously isn’t helping at all. I’m aware that other people have gone on to live normal lives again and aren’t going to spend much time in this subreddit because it’s not something they’re concerned with. But damn right now I feel like I’ve been given a life sentence.

I keep reminding myself that it’s not a deadly disease. And if anything, I’m praying it will make me take better care of myself to avoid outbreaks. The past few years my life has just been a downward spiral and when I think shit can’t get any worse…. Herpes. FML.

I had a one-time (new) partner who is VERY questionable about a month ago, my thighs and around my groin is itchy as hell, no blisters or sores. (been over a month now) Tried jock itch cream etcc doesn't work. WHEN SHOULD I GET TESTED? This is insane. I know I have it 99%. Never had anything like this before. This crazy!

For reference I am a 20 year old female. I just wanted to make a post here to get some advice because I’ve been having some funky symptoms the last few weeks. I have never had HSV before (that I’ve ever been aware of). I had sex with a guy a few weeks ago, we used a condom of course but he did give me oral sex. This guy informed me he’s never had a cold sore or anything like that on his mouth before, but I know people can still have it without ever knowing. 3 weeks after that encounter, I started having some itching down there. Nothing crazy, and it was the type of thing that would come and go throughout the day. My brain immediately went into panic mode and booked an appointment. I got tested for yeast, BV, trichomoniasis, chlamydia, and gonorrhea- all came back negative. The only notable thing was that I had some white blood cells and a pH of 5. The doctor told me by looking that I certainly didn’t have HSV because it had been a week of symptoms and I still had no sores or lesions. It’s been almost 3 weeks of this itch that comes and goes throughout the day (it only really becomes noticeable after washing in the shower) but everything continues to look perfectly normal. I have an IUD, so I credit that for any inflammation or white blood cells. Since my first appointment, I’ve gone back two more times with the same results of nothing. I never got tested for HSV because the doctor assured me at all 3 appointments that herpes wouldn’t act like this. It’s been three weeks and my only symptom is some mild itching that comes and goes throughout the day, and constant assurance from doctors that what I have isn’t HSV. Do you think I should be concerned still?

Idk I don’t think I’ll disclose.. I really just kinda gave up but I’m not super depressed nomore. I don’t feel like I deserve a relationship either.. Some days are harder than others. But I feel like I’m moving out of survival rn & I’d rather just reject myself first ik that sounds soo sad and pathetic but it’s true. I’ve been 265lbs before so trust me ik rejection but. This.. this is different. Ik I’ll be okay other than the shame, guilt, anger & outbreaks herpes doesn’t affect the other aspects of life. I’m just trying to enjoy it alone.

Hi, I have a question. When I shave and about 4 days pass, I get red spots on my skin. I usually shave without water or any cream or gel. Also, I have herpes, and I’m not sure if it could be related to the red spots. I’ve also noticed a rash that comes and goes within a few hours. The rash gets worse when I sweat, but it disappears after a couple of days. Has anyone else experienced something similar when shaving? I don’t have blisters or sore

I wanted some second opinions about this! I (27M) have recently been talking with my friend (27F) and things have been becoming flirty. We met through a dating app and from our first meeting she disclosed very transparently that she’s HSV-2 positive. I’m very interested in her and pursuing things further but I’m a hypochondriac and so I’ve been doing a lot of research regarding the possibility of transmission.

She’s had HSV2 for a couple of years now and has been on antivirals for the majority of that time. She rarely has outbreaks, said her last one was a year ago. From the research I’ve been doing I’m to understand that her transmission rate is likely incredibly low, like 1-2% especially given female to male is even lower of a chance? I also had a few cold sore outbreaks when I was a kid, meaning I’m HSV-1 positive and that means we have an even LOWER risk of transmission?

She’s been extremely transparent and open to any questions I’ve had and I trust her a lot. She said she’s had unprotected sex with partners in the past and has never transmitted it to anyone. I understand the risk will never be zero but I want to know from people with experience if there’s anything I’m missing or advice I should heed. Thank you!

(cross posting with r/HSVpositive)