I see a lot of these dudes around, got a big beard, trucker hat, America flag, some kind of shirt about the thin blue line, guns, etc. Trump voters, really into military stuff (ironic cause so much American military behavior has been about invading other non white countries)

Like I get you want to look like a real American really bad but why are you so insecure (especially about being Asian)? Mother and father really weighing on you huh

99% of the people I know who look dress and talk this way are closeted or open racists who love badmouthing on dark skinned people (who they believe are just more sexually liberated, wild, crazy, violent) etc. So it's like actively just embracing a unique form of lame culture

Hey everyone, my name is Saki and I'm mixed Japanese (my father) and American (white, southern mother). I grew up in Long Island (USA) in a predominately white suburb and never really wanted to get in touch with my Japanese side until I was older. I started learning Japanese, and even lived there for 6 months, trying to "catch up" and finally feel like I fit in. But it really wasn't until 2021 when Asian hate crimes were happening that I started feeling really confused and unsure of whether I had the right to feel sad about them. Was I Asian enough to be feeling unsafe? It was a really strange time and I started talking to some other Asian/white friends and that really helped.

Those conversations were so healing for us that me and my friend, Kirby (Chinese/Jewish), decided we wanted to keep talking to people about their hybrid experiences. We created our podcast, Hybridia, and started interviewing people. To us, hybrid identities are not just mixed people, but really anyone who has experienced the intersection of cultures in their identities– second-generation immigrants, people adopted into other cultures, people unsure of their backgrounds etc. Any hybrid experience encourages a specific and really special mindset, where you grow up never quite one thing or the other, but gain skills to navigate and move in and out of many identities.

So far, we've interviewed a Vietnamese-American poet whose Vietnamese dad never talked about the war, a Salvadoran-Irish writer who only recently reconnected with her Salvadoran father, a Columbian and ?? comedian who doesn't know her father or his heritage, a Pakistani-Canadian author who moved to the US during post-9-11 Islamophobia, a Nigerian filmmaker based in London who has shot several films in Lagos, and a Columbian-American filmmaker who is teaching her child Spanish.

We're looking for more people to interview and I've seen so many interesting and moving stories shared on this subreddit, I thought I'd reach out and see if anyone is interested. So far most of the people we've interviewed all have some kind of creative practice, but we're interested in all kinds of people and how a hybrid identity shapes their life. You can DM me here or email us at hello@hybridia.net

We haven't released any full episodes yet but you can check out some preview clips to get an idea of what our interviews are like in this playlist.

We're currently raising funds to finish editing our first season of interviews and also record more for a second season. We have one week left in our crowdfunding campaign and are planning to release our episodes in Spring 2025. Here's a link to our campaign page if you're interested to support.

There are not many spaces where mixed people can gather, compared to how single ethnicities can gather in neighborhoods and communities. We're hoping, like this subreddit, Hybridia can be one of these spaces. Keep a look out for our upcoming episodes, we'll post updates on Instagram <3 Saki

If by hapa you mean half Hawaiian (the original definition), then yes, Hawaii is for you.

But if you’re half Asian and you have no Hawaiian blood, then no, Hawaii is not for you. Stop encouraging people to move onto land that is not theirs. Hawaii belongs to Hawaiians.

Hi all, my partner and I are both academics and we recently had a gorgeous baby girl. Husband is Italian, I'm Korean, and we live in a third country in Europe.

We work at two different universities in two different regions. In the long term, we'd like to settle as a family in one location, and I'd love your input on which location might better for raising a half-Asian girl

Location 1:

• Pros: Southern California-like environment, amazing weather and nature, sea and mountains (great for summer and winter sports), housing, easy to get around by car, potentially better international schools, close to my partner's family and hometown
• Cons: very white and rather conservative population, few Asians (minorities are mostly black or arab), no Koreans, no Korean weekend language schools
• + I (mother) will have to commute long distances for work (being away 2-3 days a week, for example, for teaching or academic events, which is quite common among academics)

Location 2:

• Pros: Famous metropolitan city, relatively more multi-ethnic, more Asians, Korean communities and weekend language schools, my partner (father) can relocate to a branch campus here making it easier to settle work-wise, potentially better career opportunities for parents

• Cons: Terrible traffic and commute (for both work and kid's stuff), living in a small apartment, bad weather, everything more expensive

So the question is... whether having access to big Asian and Korean communities is worth sacrificing our quality of life as parents?

If it's ever relevant, our baby girl looks very Asian, and I'm worried she might feel different if she grows up in a predominantly white area.

I'd love to know what's best for her, so any thoughts will be appreciated!

I'm Chinese, and I have a male cousin living in the US. In 2021, he married a white woman, and now his wife is pregnant.

He mentioned that he wants their child to take the mother's last name, reasoning that in the US, white people have better chances of success compared to Asians.

He even cited studies to support his point:

Minorities Who 'Whiten' Job Resumes Get More Interviews

Asian Last Names Lead To Fewer Job Interviews, Still

Do you think this is appropriate? What potential negative impacts could this decision have?

Hi, my wife (Canary islands) and I (Chinese Malaysian) live in Melbourne, Australia and will be having our first baby and it's gonna be a girl. Looking for good solid advice about raising our little one. I see a lot of posts about WMAFs, would this apply to us? Any insights or advice from us would be helpful. Thank you kindly.

are most mixed Asians non Asian dad and Asian mom and raised the western way? that’s something I noticed a lot also many times I hear that the Asian mom and mixed child hate Asian guys and think non Asians are superior

This is my experience as a mixed teen in Asia, specifically the Philippines which is still ongoing. growing up I didn't really exactly look the part throughout elementary school days so I didn't really get the experience of what other people saw me as until puberty hit. I had always been one of the tallest kids in class growing up, among the three girls who were at the end of every line due to our height, but by the time I entered High school I was the tallest after a huge growth spurt, taller than most boys and by Asian standards looked older than my actual age.

I've been approached by older men, mainly college students who innocently mistook me for being of legal age because of my height, body, and a less fleshy face. There were also men on the internet, mainly Asian, but there would also be the occasional guy from overseas who had a thing for mixed woman or had yellow fever. I'd tell them to fuck off if they didn't get off my back after I said I was a minor, then promptly block them immediately. I'd sometimes get unsolicited nudes as well, I'm just lucky that I'm not affected by nudity due to being raised by a family which had a lot of medical practitioners, nurses, and doctors, so I'd only recoil in disgust due to the fact that these grown men were attracted to me. It's almost always accompanied by a side note of how exotic I looked or some weird ass breeding k#nk for how they like their women mixed. These days all of my profiles are private and I'm very hesitant of who I choose to share photos with. So far it's surprisingly been very peaceful for me on apps such as Reddit for whatever reason so I feel a bit safer here?

I still get sexualized simply for being mixed and lookin older than my age even by people in the same age group, I have no idea what's wrong with teen boys and what gives them the right to just walk up to me and say the most lewd shit just because they saw a photo of me with a female friend or family of theirs.

It's nice that I found this subreddit, its great because I now have more people to relate to as well as see as older role models because growing up I didn't really have much people who could give me advice.

Growing up as an Asian guy in the West, many of us had no one to guide us through life’s challenges. We lacked role models who truly understood our struggles—people who looked like us and could inspire us to rise above the stereotypes and expectations forced on us. And maybe if you're a mixed Asian guy who's white passing it may not be that big of a struggle, but for young men who can only pass as Asian, the caught between two worlds struggle is real.

Bruce Lee was the symbol of what was possible, but he’s been gone for over 50 years. Since then, we’ve been left to figure things out in a world that often refuses to see us. Sure there's been the rising tide of Kpop/Bollywood, but it's still not all that popular in the West. And yeah, we got Simu Liu in MCU's Shang Chi, both their first Asian superhero but also the very first male lead superhero that did NOT get a romantic interest in all of the MCU.

So two steps forward, one step back. This absence of representation has real consequences. It chips away at our confidence, our self-image, and our ability to connect with others, especially in relationships, self-esteem and mental wellness.

That’s why I created this video, "Generation Lost: Why Role Models Are Important for Young Asian Men." It’s not just about recognizing the problem—it’s about starting the solution. Asian men can and should step up as leaders, as role models, and as examples of strength and success.

It’s time to fill the vacuum ourselves. Watch the video and see how we’re breaking down barriers and building the foundation

(SORRY FOR THE LONG POST IN ADVANCE AND ALSO IM NOT SURE IF IM USING THE CORRECT FLAIR)

Ok for context I am half Chinese half White but I was born in Indonesia and moved to the US when I was in 5th grade (so old enough to still have memories of when I was living in Asia) but even after moving to the States my mom (the Chinese parent) did her absolute best to raise me with as much Asian culture and as much of an Asian upbringing as possible.

This led me identify much more strongly with my Asian heritage and led me to find interest in learning more about different Asian cultures/food/languages (different as in cultures that weren't my birth country or Chinese culture). While interested in my Asian Heritage this led me to find hobbies and activities that related to culture as well (Chinese Lion Dance, learning how to play multiple styles of mahjong, learning how to better cook cultural dishes, working on improving my Mandarin and Indonesian, etc).

This also led me to find more Asian Americans in media (this has mostly translated into music artists). While at a fancy team dinner the other day my coworkers and I were chatting as we were eating our food and I realized that I knew very very little of their pop culture references, musical artists, television shows and even some of the movies they had brought up. (For context my social circle is mostly non white people with an Asian/Asian American lean and my team is all white people except for one black guy and he was born and raised in the states and is great friends with our manager) It felt isolating not being able to substantially contribute to the conversation. My coworkers are very nice so I do want to connect with them on a personal level to make friends but I also know that if your manager and people you're working with can relate with you better then sometimes the deciding factor in promotions is the social aspect as well. So if anyone has any advice on how to better relate to my coworkers then I'd really appreciate it.

Would love to share experiences. My white dad became more hostile than usual towards my Chinese mother.

I went to Hawaii this year for the first time and I was so surprised to find that so many people are hapa there. Does anyone know which country/place has the most amount of hapas?

It's interesting that I've always felt that my people are in hawaii, I've always felt more similar to the people of hawaii than UK or Japan, where I'm ethnically from. I've just felt this draw to the place and I wasn't sure why.

Edit: ooh and just to add, I was wondering specifically about half Japanese people. I hadn't realised the hapa term covered a greater mix of halfies :).

Just a quick one, my mom's Filipino-Chinese while my dads part indian-italian. Growing up I was raised by my mother and her side since my parents were split, they fit right into the entire oriental asian look which I only vaguely resembled because of the bangs and eyes. On Christmas and birthdays, I'd be sent over to my fathers side, he and I stuck out like a sore thumb in family pics as well, and now that he's passed away it's just awkward to look at family photos cause I look like I'm just some random person they invited 😭

So is the Hapa label somewhat of a label for those of a genetically defined "Papua/Southeast Asia-sphere"?

"Hapas" is a term that encompasses all those linked by the characteristic of each having at least a sufficient amount of Southeast Asian/Papuan DNA. As such, Malagasy people are Hapas. Also, Madagascar is on the western shore of a large ocean, just like East and Southeast Asia.

https://youtu.be/d8gsZ0lNFr8?si=uWG2M0VEre8ft7VA

she talks about some mixed-race media representation and what it means to be casted in hollywood as someone who is hapa….beginning is about history of asian americans in general then goes into nuances/discourse around the asian-american or wasian experience

I see a lot of hapas here complaining their dad's never supported their children's asian culture.

I have mixed kids. I started studying Chinese since before I met my Chinese wife.

I'm always telling my kids to speak in mandarin. Write Chinese characters. Do Chinese things. Fly to China on yearly vacations but they just want to be like their white friends at school and think I'm a big dork for being a tall white guy talking in Mandarin at Walmart.

I kinda feel like yall are being to hard on your red neck shell shocked dad's.

Just how I feel about it.

Cringed at the AF recording on her phone.

She looked like his lapdog.

I am a child from a relationship with this dynamic and it was hell to live through As soon as I was 18 I got away to college and never set foot in the house again and never will.

https://x.com/StrictlyChristo/status/1854650595707433447

Context: I am in a biracial (Asian-white) relationship and my partner wants to get married and have a baby.

I have quite some biracial friends (usually mother is Asian and father is white) and friends who have biracial kids (usually mother is white and father is Asian in this case) around me.

Interestingly, I noticed that the biracial kids usually resemble the white parent more in terms of facial features, regardless of the parent being the mom or dad. Looks like often they only got hair & eye colors from the Asian parent, but eyes and nose look like the white parent’s.

I am a little concerned that my future child might only resemble my partner lol. What is your case?

If you could only be classified as Caucasian or East Asian, which one would you choose? You do not need to state your reasons for why, just giving a simple answer such as "I would choose Caucasian" is good enough. What do you see yourself as?

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I have noticed that some view r/hapas  as relating to a very broad group that may not share much in common. As such, I encourage others here to make related communities that are a little more specific to them, while r/hapas could be more of a broader meeting place, and r/mixedrace could be the broadest. I have noticed "blasians" and "wasians" of partial East Asian/Southeast Asian descent are quite common. Also, there is likely a significant difference between someone who is half Northeast Asian and half Sub-Saharan African when compared to someone who is half Pakistani and half Western European etc. (I am not half Pakistani).

Hello, I have created the following inclusive community relating to people of partial South Asian and partial West European descent: r/Westeuindids. Perhaps such people may be inclusively referred to as Westeuindids from now on, much like how Anglo-Indian often is used for the biracial group of people often descending from British soldiers etc. who married Indian women during the early days of British imperialism in India. I feel that while there are terms such as Mulatto and Mestizo, there is not one for people who are partially South Asian and partially West European ethnically (as distinguished from East European which is very common).

I have noticed that some view r/hapas as relating to a very broad group that may not share much in common. As such, I encourage others here to make communities that are a little more specific to them, while r/hapas could be more of a broader meeting place, and r/mixedrace could be the broadest. I have noticed "blasians" and "wasians" of partial East Asian/Southeast Asian descent are quite common. Also, there is likely a significant difference between someone who is half Northeast Asian and half Sub-Saharan African when compared to someone who is half Pakistani and half Western European etc. (I am not half Pakistani).

Hello!

My undergraduate Honors thesis is focused on studying the relationship between a teenager’s (ages 15-17) multiracial identity and its effect on their self-esteem and mental well-being. I would greatly appreciate parents/guardians of potentially interested participants to review the study’s information and consider allowing their multiracial teen to participate in a one-time survey. Since I’m looking for participants who are under the consenting age of 18, I would need parents/guardians to review the study and sign off on it before being able to work with the child. I'm still needing more participants, so please help a future researcher get their participants!

This initial survey shouldn’t take more than 15 minutes to review and complete!

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